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Ever get that feeling that the universe is nudging you to make a change? In this episode, we dive into those pivotal moments when everything points to "yes," and it's time to take the leap.Inspired by the journey from pleasing and perfectionism to purposeful action, I'm sharing a big shift I'm makingâone that involves focusing more on helping business owners navigate their inner world to build confidence and overcome self-doubt. Whether youâre a business owner or not, these insights apply across lifeâs landscape. It's all about tuning in, walking your talk, and creating the life you want.
Key Takeaways:
The "Click" Moment â That feeling when you hear something, and it finally lands. Sometimes, it's the universe telling you it's time for change, and today, we're talking about what it looks like to truly embrace that.
Personal Growth in Business â Going into 2025, I'm shifting focus toward business owners and entrepreneurs who struggle with perfectionism, people-pleasing, and imposter syndrome. While this focus might be business-oriented, the themesâself-awareness, building inner confidence, and working with your nervous systemâare universally relatable.
Lessons from the Journey â Through past episodes, weâve explored everything from confidence and boundaries to tuning into your body and letting go of validation. Iâm walking my talk, and this year has been about stepping into change, learning whatâs working, and letting go of what isnât.
Working with the "8 C's" of Internal Family Systems (IFS) â Revisiting my series on calm, clarity, and confidence, I'll show how these foundational tools help my clientsâespecially business ownersânavigate self-doubt, make clear decisions, and lead from a place of inner calm.
The Power of Inner Work in Outer Success â In life and business, unchecked emotions impact decision-making and self-confidence. When you become aware of whatâs happening inside, youâre empowered to guide yourself through fear and self-doubt, making you feel unstoppable.
Whatâs Next: Iâll be taking November and December off for a creative reset, returning in January with fresh insights focused on helping entrepreneurs align their inner work with outer success. Not a business owner? Keep listeningâthe principles still apply to anyone wanting to live a more intentional, satisfying life.
Quotes Worth Noting:
"Whatâs the point of inner work if you donât give it legs? Itâs time to breathe life into the life you want.""When you calm your nervous system, clarity follows, and that clarity is where confidence begins."Resources Mentioned:
Already Free by Bruce Tift â On navigating anxiety and how it shows up across all areas of life.The 8 Câs of Internal Family Systems â Check out past episodes on the 8 Câs to deepen your understanding of calm, clarity, and confidence.Connect and Share: If you know someone who might benefit from these insights, please share this episode with them. And if youâre here for the journey, make sure youâre subscribed and ready for Januaryâs episodes, packed with fresh insights and practical guidance.
Stay Connected: Follow the podcast to stay in the loop on all upcoming episodes! And in the meantime, enjoy the holidaysâsee yâall in January!
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Episode Summary:
We have a guest today - Liz Wilcox. Survivor contestant, Online Business Entrepreneur and genuinely funny human. The reason Iâm super excited about this conversation is that Liz is one of those rare, real people who isnât afraid to show up as her true self. And being in the online business building world, that is a breath of fresh air - which is why I call her the Fresh Princess of Authenticity - whoo hooo the 90s rule! She lets the people in her world see her exactly as she is, which is something so many of us â especially those of us who lean toward people-pleasing and perfectionism â long to do.
Showing up authentically and building fulfilling connections from that space? Thatâs the dream, right?Enjoy this behind-the-scenes convo with Liz as we learn how early on she embraced being who she is and the ripple effect that has had on her life.
Key Takeaways:
Your Body is wise: Liz was sick as a kid, and she shares how holding on to emotions was causing some of her physical symptoms. We talk about how important the body is as a guide to overall health.Slowing down is necessary: Liz shares how she is learning to rest and step back as a way of moving forward sustainably.Three phases of successful business building: Liz shares what she has learned over the course of building her online business â the phases and stages that have allowed her to focus and stay resourced.Episode Quote:
"Iâve just gotta be myself.â
Additional Resources:
Want more tools to help calm your nervous system? Grab my free guide with over 20 exercises thatâll help bring your anxiety from a 10 to a 4.
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Want some of what Liz has? Here is a guide that will point you in that direction! Unleashing Your Authentic Selfhttps://subscribepage.io/pMJWsW
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If you've ever felt like confidence is just out of reach no matter how many self-help books you read or how often you try to "fake it 'til you make it," you're not alone. This episode dives deep into why building real, rooted confidence isn't about just gritting your teeth and forcing yourself through discomfort. Instead, itâs about understanding your bodyâs natural response to fear and learning how to work with itânot against it.
Key Takeaways:
The Comfort Zone Cycle: We all love our comfort zones, but theyâre also what keeps us from growing. When we avoid discomfort, we miss out on building true confidence.Why Pushing Through Isnât the Answer: Sure, you can strong-arm your way through uncomfortable situations, but that often leads to burnout. Real confidence doesnât come from "winning" over fear; it comes from learning to coexist with discomfort.The Role of the Nervous System: You canât will yourself to feel confident. Instead, calm your nervous system and build from there. Iâll explain why getting out of fight-or-flight (or fawn) mode is the essential first step to lasting change.Using Calm to Find Clarity: Calming down gives you the space to see things clearly. Itâs like turning on a flashlight in a dark roomâsuddenly, you see options you didnât notice before.How Your Past Shapes Your Present Reactions: Our brains are wired to protect us, even from perceived threats. Weâll explore how old experiences have created patterns that affect you now.Practical Tips:
Calm First:Before trying to build confidence, focus on calming your nervous system. Iâll share a few techniques for getting out of that reactive state so you can feel more grounded.Break the Domino Effect:When you recognize the triggers from your past, you can stop the automatic reactions they create. This is key to feeling in control and confident in new situations.Learn to Sit with Discomfort:Discomfort is part of the deal. But with a calm body and mind, you can approach uncomfortable feelings without immediately running from them.Episode Quote:
"Confidence isnât about fighting fear; itâs about finding calm in the face of it."
Additional Resources:
Want more tools to help calm your nervous system? Grab my free guide with over 20 exercises thatâll help bring your anxiety from a 10 to a 4. Check the link and get ready to tackle discomfort in a whole new way.
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Have you ever felt like youâre stuck in a cycle of playing it safe? This episode dives deep into that feeling and how we can move through it. We start with a quote that many of us can relate to:
"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." â Anais Nin
If youâre feeling that itch to break out of your comfort zone, especially in your relationships, this one's for you. Whether itâs people-pleasing, perfectionism, or just staying smallâit's time to talk about what it feels like to want to change but be afraid of the uncertainty that comes with it.
Discussed in the episode:
The tension we feel when we want to change but are afraid to act.The natural stages of changeâpre-contemplation, contemplation, action, and maintenance.How to recognize where you are in the process and how to work your way forward.The importance of support and accountability when trying to make lasting changes.Social stuff:
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In this episode, we're diving into something that's truly life-changing: connecting to your truth by tuning into your body.
When you're stuck in the back-and-forth of a tough decisionâespecially when you really want to say "no" but fear, obligation, or guilt are pushing you to say "yes"âknowing what your body is signaling can clear up that confusion in a heartbeat.
Imagine this: What if you could sense in your body whether something is right for you? What if you had the answer inside you all along? What if you could make decisions with almost zero doubt? Sounds amazing, right? Well, it's possible, and it's incredibly empowering.
What makes this worth listening to:
Understanding Your Body's Signals: We'll talk about how your body can give you clear answers, especially when your mind is caught in the whirlwind of decision-making.Starting the Conversation: If you're new to this whole body-awareness thing, don't stress! We'll guide you on how to start noticing your body's signals without overthinking it.Simple Practices: Learn a super easy practiceâjust take a few minutes after an interaction, breathe deeply, and notice the strongest sensation in your body. That's it! We'll also touch on specific areas to check in with, like your jaw, neck, shoulders, and stomach.Curiosity Over Criticism: The key here is curiosity. By being curious about what you're feeling, you can bypass the critical voice in your head and really hear what your body is saying.Taking Action: But we won't stop at just noticing. We'll also chat about what to do once you've heard your body's message.All the ways we can hang out and get to know each other:
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Today, we're diving deep into the people-pleasing trap and how it pulls us away from living in alignment with our true values. If you've ever found yourself saying "yes" when you really wanted to say "no," this episode is for you.
What makes this worth listening to:
Understanding where our people-pleasing tendencies come from and how they take over our decision-making process.How constantly trying to fit in and make others happy can lead us away from our core values and create a sense of restlessness and dissatisfaction.How using your values as a template can help you make decisions that reflect what truly matters to you, not just what others expect.Ready to stop letting people-pleasing run your life? Start by identifying your core values and using them as your decision-making template.
Mentioned in this episode:
James Clearâs Values Assessment Guide https://jamesclear.com/core-valuesPodcast with Brene https://open.spotify.com/episode/0nwDfromS0ZNJAtqEqmjQE?si=r9kDTq2GQC-AYOQKc8Wj_wLet's get to know each other:
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Website - https://powertothepleasers.com
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In this episode, we explore how Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy provides a step by step approach to connect with our inner selves using eight guiding principles, known as the 8 Cs: Calm, Curiosity, Compassion, Clarity, Creativity, Connection, Courage, and Confidence.What makes this episode worth listening to:
The Importance of a Strong Foundation:
Achieving true calm and confidence involves more than fleeting moments of these feelings. Without a solid foundation built on all the Cs, you might feel calm or confident, but it's not coming from YOU most likely, but the external circumstances lining up in just the right way.
Courage and Confidence in Practice:
Courage is not just about bold actions taken by talking yourself up, but involves setting boundaries and speaking up from a place of inner strength and clarity.
Confidence is about having a steady inner sense of self, knowing one's values, and trusting oneself.
The 8 Cs are more than just concepts; they are tools for creating a life that is rooted in self-awareness and intentionality. By embracing these qualities, we are able to navigate life's challenges with resilience and authenticity.
All the ways we can hang out and get to know each other:
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In this episode, we dive into how the next few C words from the 8 Cs of Internal Family Systems (IFS) can help transform anxiety. Building on our last discussion about the importance of calm, we explore how calm, curiosity, and compassion lead to clarity and creativity in dealing with anxiety.
The following are the aspects of Self Energy we explore:
Clarity and Creativity:
See how maintaining calm, curiosity, and compassion can lead to greater clarity and new perspectives on our emotions.Find out how clarity opens the door to creativity, enabling us to brainstorm and explore new options for addressing our challenges.Connecting with Yourself:
The importance of self-connection and understanding are vital before reaching out to others.Get practical tips on how to connect with yourself through creative problem-solving and self-care.All the ways we can hang out and get to know each other:
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The Pixar movie Inside Out 2 is the inspiration for this episode. And being an Internal Family Systems therapist/coach, I had to use the movie to talk about parts! In the movie, anxiety takes a leading role in the life of the main character. This results in impulsive, reactive, and frenzied behaviors. Even though this is a kid's movie, oh can we relate! We all know anxiety can drive us to people-please, strive for perfection, and act out of fear.
To counteract anxiety, I'm going to introduce you to a part of yourself that you might not usually rely on: Self energy, or what I like to call Heart Wisdom. This concept, inspired by IFS (Internal Family Systems), encourages us to lead with qualities that foster a proactive approach to managing anxiety.
This is the first in a short Power Pod summer series on the qualities of Self Energy. Enjoy!
Nervous System Freebie mentioned in the episode: http://subscribepage.io/KNF3Nq
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What itâs about:
People react to each otherâit's just how things go. Most of us are bumping up against others, unconsciously hoping those bumps won't hurt us or them because we donât like conflict or tension. But hereâs the deal: we are acting like feeling tension warrants going into survival mode. It doesnât. And there is another way to work with the fear of upsetting someone.
It's parts work. In this episode, we'll dive into Internal Family Systems (IFS) to understand not only what is going on under the surface that makes us feel so triggered, but how to help ourselves relax back from relying a little too much on this protective stance in relationships.
Interesting parts of the episode:
Know Your Parts: Learn about the different parts of your personality and how they influence your reactions.
Reduce Fear: Exploring how fear-based reactions, like people-pleasing and perfectionism, stem from a desire to feel safe.
Empathy in Action: Apply your knowledge of parts work to create more genuine and less reactive connections with others.
Links and Resources:
Free Parts Mapping Session: Interested in learning more about IFS? Hereâs the link to get on the calendar! https://calendly.com/vicki-46/free-internal-family-systems-mapping-session
Further IFS exploration: Hereâs a BLOG on the 8 Câs of Self Energy â a big part of IFS work. https://powertothepleasers.com/2022/01/04/the-8-cs-qualities-of-strength-stability-and-resilience/
Also check out No Bad Parts - https://ifs-institute.com/store/419 for Richard Schwartz latest book on IFS.
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Friendship is strange isnât it? You make this unspoken agreement with another person to do what together? You arenât dating. You arenât co-workers. You arenât âcommittedâ like a life partner. What exactly are we agreeing to when we become friends? And how do you know if you are getting out of the lines of the agreement?Someone tells you. And if you are lucky, they are respectful and responsible about sharing their experience of your waning commitment. Today I share with you a recent exchange between myself and a friend that modeled for me the RIGHT way to do friendship. Welcome to a vulnerable share about how I was a bad friend and got called out on it.What makes this episode worth listening to:
Simple questions to help you do a Relationship Audit.3 respectful ways to share hurt feelings with a friendHow doing consistent inner work busts up long standing shame.All the ways we can hang out and get to know each other:
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One of my clients inspired this episode after a few big ah-ha moments in a session.
They finally let their irritation and fatigue guide them to a balanced way of being naturally kind and generous.
And now you get the benefit of their hard work!
What makes this episode worth listening to:
Discover how youâre confusing people by âjust being nice.âGet honest about who you are into and who doesnât make the cut.How to use what you value as a guide to decide how you spend your time and energy.All the ways we can hang out and get to know each other:
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Today I am talking about the main thing that keeps people pleasers and perfectionists from setting boundaries â fear! I am going to walk you through a mindfulness practice to help you feel more relaxed as you can build the courage to confidently set boundaries and say ânoâ when you need to.
Join me in this episode to learn how you can stop letting fear get in the way of not only boundary setting, but pretty much anything that stops you in your tracks.
In this episode:
Debunking a common myth about boundariesHow awareness puts you in a position of powerMindfulness exercise that desensitizes you to discomfortFreebie:From Shaky to Confident â Free guide to calming the F down!
https://subscribepage.io/KNF3Nq
Links:
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One of my pet peeves started this episode topic off â how social media posts about âboundary settingâ are full of shit. Thankfully I have resolved my irritation, and I am sharing how you can as well.
Iâd like to invite you to bring your OUTSIDE voice back into the rotation. Well, actually itâs the INSIDE voice that I am calling OUT.
This is all the things you practice saying in the shower or in the car and you never can imagine saying them IRL out loud.
Iâve got some good ideas about how you can make the IRL thing actually happen. What makes this episode worth listening to:
I ask you some super thought-provoking questions right at the beginningWhy youâve said this more than youâd like to admit - âIâd never say that to their face!âHow to start moving the big boulder of FEAR that keeps you silent and resentful.All the ways we can hang out and get to know each other:
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Schedule a time to talk and see if what I offer matches what you want to feel better about!
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Decisions scramble people pleasers. We want to make sure everyone is happy with what we choose, but that will never happen. Hard to hear, but itâs the truth.
Harder to hear is the reality that we, as pleasers, do not often consider OURSELVES when it comes to making decisions. We get lost in what other people want or what others are doing. No rocking the boat right? In this episode I share how I got totally lost and made a stupid decision that I still live with today. Not an earth shattering one, but one that got my attention and basically that is the main point of this episode â attention and awareness. Enjoy listening to me completely forget my mindfulness practice and get caught up in belonging with the group.
Highlights and take aways from this episode:
Link to mini course on decision making using Internal Family Systems.https://powertothepleasers.thrivecart.com/no-more-back-and-forth/
A simple 4 word mantra to guide you in decision making.The super power of getting comfortable with discomfort.Links:
Like what you hear and want to take the next step? Set up a time to talk!
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No More Back and Forth â A mini course on Decision Making using Internal Family Systems
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Fear of conflict is on every pleaser and perfectionistâs list of âI-wish-this-wasnât-such-a-big-deal-for-meâ. Itâs time to break this mountain of fear down! Because it is O L D!Iâll share a few reasons this fear has taken over, where it came from and then give you skills to move through fear (really any kind of fear) so you can feel more solid, more capable and more adult like when you need to have a conversation.
Links:
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Cut to the chase episode using mindfulness to work with negative stories that cause us to waste time and energy replaying past events. This is a common sticking point for people pleasers - over analyzing past conversations and worrying x10 that we upset someone or we were selfish and dominated the conversation.
Listen to this short episode to find out how to work with this runaway train of worry thoughts and ease up on yourself. Peace out Pleasers!
Links:
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Itâs so easy to get caught in the decision making dilemma of â do I choose what is best for the other person or do I choose what is best for me?People pleasers live in an inner tug of war with their pleasing side wanting to keep the peace and their fledgling boundaries side wanting to protect their time and energy.
How do we get you off of this back and forth decision making conundrum?
Today I share how you can stop the fighting and start listening to these different parts of your personality.
Things to watch out for in this episode:
How to change your inner critical voice to a guiding consultant voice.How to shift your feelings of shame and fear around anger to being more appreciative of its message.The coupon code for the FREE mini-course on decision making for people pleasers! *Good for 48 hours from recording of show â March 13, 2024*https://powertothepleasers.thrivecart.com/no-more-back-and-forth/?coupon=REEL24
Links:
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Guilt is a killer for people pleasers. We hate feeling it but we feel it all the time. Even when we havenât done anything! And guess what? Most of the stuff we do isnât bad enough TO feel guilty about!!!
The habit of Guilt is messing with your ability to set boundaries plain and simple. It's making you believe you are harming someone when you aren't - you are just setting limits. And everyone has the right to do that.
Today I share how we can lean into guilt and learn from it. Yes, that sounds horrible and no it wonât be half as bad as your mind makes it out to be. Which is my whole point with guilt in the first place! Your mind and your avoidance of conflict are screwing with your perspective.
Can you tell I get fired up about this topic?
Also discussed in this episode:
Two new ways of looking at this dreaded emotion.How empathy makes you feel guilty when you donât have to.Guidelines and mindful questions to help you surf the wave of guilt instead of it pulling you under. *Can be used for any difficult feeling*.Connect with Vicki:Join the email community: https://subscribepage.io/L8inBl
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Itâs pretty easy to lose ourselves in a relationship with an emotionally immature parent. Their need for our emotional soothing trains us to pay close attention to their moods and behaviors instead of stay in tune with our own experiences.
Today we go back to basics and turn our attention towards our own internal experiences. Itâs time to re-learn who we are from the foundational ground up!
Also discussed in this episode:
The connection between not knowing yourself and a lack of self confidence.How self knowledge is vital for clear decision making.Mindfulness practices for the body, mind and heart.Links:
No More Back and Forth
The mini course on how to feel more confident in your decision making. I use Internal Family Systems to walk you through the two parts involved in decision making â the pleaser and the boundaries part. Finally break free from the ultimate people pleaserâs dilemma â âDo I choose what is best for YOU or what works for ME?â
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