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In this first episode of the “Back to Basics” series, Amanda dives into the core of what drives anxiety and depression: your nervous system. When you better understand how this mind-body system works you can work with it towards healing.
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Ps. This is a re-run of this series. It originally aired in February 2025, and is still the series I hear back about the most. Since there’s been a wave of new listeners joining lately, I wanted to bring it back around.
And for those of you who were here the first time, I invite you to listen again through the lens of where you are right now, it’s likely shifted over the last year and a half, and just see what lands differently.
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In this episode Amanda shares her favorite anxiety equation (Anxiety = an overestimation of threat + underestimation of your ability to manage the threat) through a lens of two personal examples. She also shares a little life update and upcoming plans for the next segment on the podcast.
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In today's episode, Amanda shares something she's never shared publicly before — a little bedtime song she wrote for her kids that's become a nightly staple. What started as a spontaneous attempt to teach her children the things she wished she'd known earlier has turned into a fun family song teaching the fundamentals of mental and physical health. Amanda share the song with you, invites you to make it your own, and then breaks down each line of the song and what it means not just for the littles in our lives, but for the adults who are still doing this healing work themselves.
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Morning sunlight might be the most underutilized free regulation tool available to us — and in this episode, Amanda breaks down exactly why getting outside within the first hour of waking is one of the highest-return things you can do for your nervous system. From circadian rhythm and cortisol to serotonin, sleep quality, and mood regulation, the science is clear — and the practice is simpler than you think.
3 Takeaways:
Your morning sets the stage for your night. Getting outside for 5–15 minutes within the first hour of waking helps set your circadian rhythm, supports healthy energy during the day, and improves your chances of sleeping well at night.Small things matter more than we think. When symptoms are big, we often look for big solutions. But healing is often built through small, consistent actions that support our biology and create a foundation for regulation over time.Modern life often works against our nervous system. Our biology evolved expecting bright light during the day and darkness at night. Morning sunlight is one simple way to reduce that mismatch and give your brain and body the signals they were designed to receive."Happy Light" Recommendations: Verilux® HappyLight w/ Timer ($39)CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!
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In this episode, Amanda gets candid about what regulated living actually looks like when life gets hard — including the sleep deprivation, the skipped workouts, and the very human experience of teaching what you're currently struggling to practice. She walks through the two things that keep her grounded in chaotic seasons: flexibility and context. She also shares her five domains of healing and the Daily Five as a framework for strategic, adaptable healing that meets you where you actually are.
3 Takeaways:
Flexibility is a healing skill. When one foundation slips, pivot to what's accessible. Doing less well is still doing something.Your symptoms make sense given the load. Context isn't an excuse — it's accurate information that guides you back to what you need.Healing is strategic. The six domains of healing give you a map so that when life gets chaotic, you know where to look instead of trying harder at everything at once.CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!
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Today’s episode is a guided practice designed to help your nervous system settle and prepare for quality sleep. We’ll start by moving through a short discharging sequence to process any lingering stress from the day, then move into some gentle breathwork.
This first part of the practice can be done standing beside your bed, sitting on the edge of it, or already lying down — whatever feels right for where you are tonight.
There's nothing you need to do to prepare, just be here as you are, hit play and let's begin.
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In Part 2 of this sleep anxiety series, Amanda gets practical. She breaks down exactly what to do when you can't fall asleep, what to do when you wake up in the middle of the night, and offers a full toolkit of cognitive, environmental, and somatic practices that shift the conditions for sleep over time. If Part 1 was the understanding, this is the application.
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3 Takeaways:
You can't force sleep, but you can build better conditions for it. The middle-of-the-night wake-up needs a different response than lying there fighting it. Sit up, name the state, meet the sensation, reach for breathwork over your phone, and get up if you're still activated after 20-30 minutes. Every regulated response starts to undo the old pattern.Your daytime is the preparation for your nighttime. Morning sunlight, consistent wake time, movement, processing stress before it accumulates — none of this feels like sleep hygiene but all of it is.CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!
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Sleep anxiety is one of the most common experiences for people living with chronic stress, anxiety, and dysregulation. In Part 1 of this three-part series, Amanda breaks down why the nervous system is at the center of sleep disruption, the difference between not being able to fall asleep and middle-of-the-night wake-ups, and the primary drivers behind nighttime anxiety. This is the understanding episode — Part 2 brings the tools, and Part 3 is a guided wind-down practice.
3 Takeaways:
Sleep requires safety, not effort. Your nervous system won't let you go offline until it believes the coast is clear. Sleep disruption during chronic stress isn't a flaw — it's your system doing its job. The path forward is building safety, not trying harder.There are two distinct flavors of sleep anxiety and they feed each other. Not being able to fall asleep and waking in the night share the same root — a nervous system that hasn't received the signal that it's safe to rest.If the middle-of-the-night wake-up is consistent, it's not random. Four primary drivers are worth understanding: dysregulated cortisol, unprocessed stress, conditioned arousal, and blood sugar instability. Knowing which applies to you is where the work starts.CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!
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Understanding self-harm through a nervous system lens changes everything — and in this episode, Amanda breaks down what's actually happening in the brain and body when this behavior shows up, why it works as a short-term regulation strategy even when it comes at a high cost, and what genuinely helps address the root of the pattern rather than just the behavior itself.
3 Takeaways:
Self-harm is a nervous system regulation attempt. Understanding this is not permission to continue it — it's the foundation for approaching it without shame.The nervous system underneath self-harm is physiologically dysregulated, not just psychologically. Healing has to target the nervous system itself, not just thoughts or behaviors in isolation.Effective alternatives work when they do the same jobs as self-harm — building discharge pathways and widening the window of tolerance. That takes time and often professional support, and healing is genuinely possible.CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!
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Resources:
988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: call or text 988Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741741—
Research referenced in this episode:
Cornell Research Program on Self-Injury and Recovery — The Neurobiology of NSSIPMC/NIH — Self-harm and emotional regulation researchMedlinePlus — Self-harm overviewNature Mental Health (2025) — Electrodermal activity and self-harm—
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Walking for mental health goes deeper than most people realize — and in this episode, Amanda breaks down exactly why increasing your daily step count is one of the highest-return nervous system practices you're probably underutilizing. From bilateral movement and cortisol metabolism to blood sugar stability and sleep, the science behind a simple daily walk is more connected to your emotional wellbeing than you might think.
3 Takeaways:
Walking touches many of the underlying physiological systems that drive how we feel: bilateral movement, cortisol metabolism, blood sugar stabilization, and sleep regulation.The right goal is a stretch from where you actually are, not where you think you should be. If you're already moving consistently and still struggling, something else needs your attention.CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!
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In this listener response episode, Amanda answers three thoughtful follow-up questions from the five-part stress management series. She digs deepest into a question about reorienting to a baseline mindset stressor — using the trigger vs overwhelm distinction to help listeners diagnose what's actually happening before deciding what to do about it. She also honors a listener's real-life editing win in the middle of profound grief, and offers a few grounding thoughts on going it alone, the impulse to flush everything and start over, and what chronic consumption does to your inner knowing.
3 Takeaways:
When something you love starts to feel overwhelming, ask first: is this thing itself the trigger, or is it just the final drop in an already full bucket? Those two scenarios need different responses.Your nervous system learned the associations it's operating from — which means it can unlearn them. But rewiring requires capacity first. Regulation before rewiring, every time.That immediate felt sense of relief when you make the right edit is data. Your nervous system giving you real time feedback that you made a good call. Trust that signal.CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!
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In the final episode of this stress management series, Amanda steps back from frameworks and talks about the gap between understanding what needs to change and actually changing it. She revisits the nervous system ladder as a way to help listeners locate themselves after five episodes of honest reflection, reads from her book Healing Through the Vagus Nerve on the four-phase healing process and her strategic healing philosophy, and closes with a direct look at what personalized, whole-human support actually looks like inside RESTORE.
3 Takeaways:
Know the phase or season of healing you’re in and try to match you expectations and support to your actual capacity.Healing has a general sequence. Education & awareness, regulation, rewiring, and resourcing. Jumping ahead of the foundation, trying to do deep rewiring work before your nervous system has the capacity to hold it, is where people get stuck or sometimes get worse.Knowing different is not the same as living different. The gap between understanding what needs to change and actually changing it is real — and it's not a willpower problem. It's a capacity and support problem. Strategic, personalized, whole-human support is what bridges that gap. And if you’re looking for that kind of support, we’re here.CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!
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In part four of this stress series, Amanda moves from filtering into action — introducing the 3 D's framework for actually editing your stress bucket. She opens by distinguishing between poking holes (reactive regulation) and real editing, then walks through Delete, Delegate, and Do Differently with honest personal examples from her own life. She also introduces Add as the fourth move on the supporter side of the see-saw, and closes with an important reminder that editing isn't just a thinking exercise — letting things go has a felt sense, and that response is normal.
Poking holes — reactive regulation tools — matters, but it's not the same as editing. Editing is about changing what goes in your bucket, not just managing the overflow. That's a fundamentally different kind of work.The 3 D's — delete, delegate, do differently — plus add on the supporter side give you a concrete framework for acting on what your filter revealed. They apply most directly to your daily stressors. Editing baseline stressors often requires deeper, more sustained support.Move slow. Editing is a continuous pruning, not a one-time overhaul. Choose one thing, do it until it's your new normal, then choose one more. And when grief, guilt, or discomfort shows up in the process — that's not a sign you're doing it wrong. It means you're doing something real.
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In part three of this stress series, Amanda introduces the important step that comes before editing your stress bucket — filtering it. She shares two practical filters to help you get clear on what actually belongs in your life: the rubber vs glass ball distinction and your personal core values. This episode is honest about the fact that this process is often countercultural and sometimes relational, and Amanda shares her own experience of what it cost — and ultimately gave — when she first started doing things differently.
3 Takeaways:
Before you edit your stress bucket you need a filter. Random subtraction — just throwing things out — leads to dropping what matters while holding onto what doesn't. Clarity about what belongs comes first.The rubber vs glass filter asks: what in your bucket actually shatters if dropped, and what bounces? Most of us are treating everything like glass — which means your nervous system never gets to rest, even when rest is available.Your core values are the deeper filter underneath rubber vs glass. They reveal what's actually worth carrying and what's been in your bucket out of habit, obligation, or an unconscious contract you never agreed to. Get clear on your values first — the editing gets so much easier from there.Resources mentioned: Brené Brown Core Values Exercise
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In part two of this stress series, Amanda walks you through a practical, honest assessment of your stress by examining both sides of the see-saw—your stressors and your supporters. She breaks stressors into baseline (chronic) and daily (variable) inputs, helping you identify where your load is actually coming from. This episode emphasizes that real change starts with awareness, and gives you a framework to understand whether your reactions are coming from accumulated stress (overflow) or deeper unresolved patterns (triggers).
3 Takeaways:
Your stress bucket is filled by both baseline (ongoing) and daily (fluctuating) stressors, and understanding the difference helps you identify where your leverage for change is. An honest assessment of your supporters—what’s actually present, not what “should” be—reveals the gap that needs to be addressed for your nervous system to feel more supported. Big reactions to small things are either triggers (linked to past experiences) or overflow (a full bucket), and knowing which is which helps guide whether you need deeper healing work or better stress management.CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!
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In this episode, Amanda introduces a new four-part series on stress by reframing what stress actually is, and why stress itself isn't really the problem. She explains how stress is a natural, necessary nervous system response, but becomes harmful when it remains unresolved and accumulates over time. Using the stress bucket and see-saw metaphors, she offers a more honest and actionable way to understand and work with stress in modern life.
In this episode you'll learn:
What stress actually is and why it’s not the enemyThe difference between acute stress and chronic stress, and why that distinction mattersWhy stress is either processed or stored, and what happens when it accumulatesTwo core metaphors, the stress bucket and the see-saw, that reframe everything about how you approach your own stress loadCLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!
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Amanda shares the nervous system framework behind a real family decision — getting a puppy with three kids under five — and why saying yes to something stressful can still be the regulated choice.
Using the seesaw model (stress bucket on one side, supporter blocks on the other), she introduces a simple filter for everyday decisions:
"Does this give more than it takes?"
She walks through two examples, the puppy she said yes to and the ceramics class she said no to, and names the two hardest directions this question cuts.
If your season doesn't allow you to reduce stressors, the question becomes: where can you add more supporters? Hit play for a simple decision-making filter for anything you're considering adding (or removing) from your life.
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In this episode, I'm breaking down the song "You'd Never Know" by Blu Eyes—a devastatingly honest look at what depression actually feels like from the inside, and why it so often goes unseen from the outside.
We talk about what dorsal vagal shutdown really looks like, why the gap between "you look fine" and "I'm screaming inside" is so dangerous, what happens when a doctor says "everything looks good" and you turn that into self-blame, and why healing isn't a straight line—even when you're functioning again, your body can still be carrying the weight of what you went through.
If you've ever asked yourself "what's wrong with me?" —this episode is for you.
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In this episode, I'm breaking down the song "Dear Anxiety" by Blu Eyes—and why it might be the most accurate description of anxiety and nervous system regulation I've ever heard set to music.
We explore why anxiety isn't a disorder or a malfunction but a protective response, what it actually looks like to be in relationship with your anxiety instead of at war with it, and how this one song captures the entire arc of regulation work—from somatic awareness to sending signals of safety to letting emotions move through.
This is a song that hits you in the feels while providing such deep validation.
Hit play for the full song here:
Spotify: "Dear Anxiety" by Blu EyesYoutube: "Dear Anxiety" by Blu Eyes—
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Do you ever finish a conversation and realize you’ve just given a twenty-minute dissertation to justify a simple "no" or a basic need? In this episode, we’re peeling back the layers on chronic over-explaining. It turns out, this isn't just a quirky personality trait—it’s a sophisticated nervous system response. Whether you’re trying to preemptively defend yourself against being "the bad guy" or you learned early on that your needs weren't valid unless you built a legal case for them, this episode offers a roadmap to reclaiming your voice.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
The "Origin Story" of Over-Explaining: Why we learn to justify our needs to get them met and how misattunement in childhood creates a blueprint for hyper-communication.Over-Explaining as a Survival Tool: The science of how your amygdala flags "emotional risk" and tries to negotiate safety through a flood of information.The High Cost of Justification: How over-explaining leads to emotional exhaustion, self-abandonment, and the weakening of your own self-trust.The "One-Sentence Rule": A practical challenge to state your truth clearly and then—the hardest part—stop talking.Embracing the Pause: Why silence feels like danger to a dysregulated nervous system and how to tolerate the "awkwardness" of letting your words land.3 Takeaways:
Over-explaining is a protective nervous system response that served you at some point. If you had to prove your feelings were valid in the past, your brain adapted by explaining itself into safety. You’re not "too much"; you’re practicing a survival skill that you no longer need.The cost of over-explaining is self-abandonment. When you lead with a defense, you’re inadvertently saying your needs aren't legitimate on their own. Trusting your truth means realizing your "no" doesn't require a dissertation.Practice the "One-Sentence Rule" and embrace the pause. Challenge yourself to say what you need in one clear sentence, then stop. Let the silence be there. People who truly see you don't need an essay to respect your boundaries.—
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