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  • Like many late-identified autistic / AuDHD / ADHD folks,

    a foggy, porous, unstructured sense of self;
    illusions, fantasies, pipe dreams...
    was my predominant experience of myself,
    until I learned to take EFFECTIVE, STRUCTURED ACTION.

    That action has to be structured a certain way
    for it to be effective.
    I couldn't do things the way other people did them
    nor follow their ideals, without losing myself.
    "falling into holes"

    In finding what has worked for me, I've adapted a concept that makes a strength out of my need to go deep; my monotropic tendencies; my need for distinction depth;

    A way of structuring ACTION, called 'skills stacking'.
    And this week's podcast episode is about why this works.

    Focusing on the next skill / system / sensorial groove
    until it is established, STACKING them one by one,
    has given me the material experience
    of my own agency, boundaries, and effectiveness
    (the antidote to a porous self)

    and helped me to build belief, clarity and unconscious competence
    for my big impossible dreams
    at speed.

    I hope it serves you too.

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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self.
    Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems.
    Learn more at solasystems.xyz

  • In this episode, I speak to the importance of knowing and centring in your strengths, to create more energy. And offering a new term as a way to think about some of those strengths, called 'Distinction Depth'. When an environment or activity affords and rewards distinction depth: you excel!

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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self.
    Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems.
    Learn more at solasystems.xyz

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  • In this episode I talk through seven 'C' words;

    CHOICE
    CLARITY
    COMPETENCE
    CAPACITY
    CADENCE
    COACHING

    and I also reference The Social Change Ecosystem Map:
    https://buildingmovement.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/Ecosystem-Guide-April-2022.pdf

    and invite you to consider what 'C' or 'season' are you in?

    I also mention that I am sharing some behind the scenes of the creation of the 'final evolved form' of The SOLA System on my mailing list
    Subscribe HERE

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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self.
    Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems.
    Learn more at solasystems.xyz

  • This episode is an interview with Jem Dobie (they/them). Jem is a 'sensory sibling' who has been through the Unmasking Unschool journey, and you're going to hear them talk in generous and vulnerable detail about what it's been like to transform their experience of their life, their sense of self, their relationships and the work they're doing in the world.

    More about Jem:

    The Feel Good Circus:
    Jem Dobie & Rowan Berry
    [email protected]

    On instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.feel.good.circus/
    On facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thefeelgoodcircus

    Mentioned:
    Access Intimacy, by Mia Mingus:
    https://leavingevidence.wordpress.com/2011/05/05/access-intimacy-the-missing-link/

    Jem's favourite resource on boundaries, by Prentis Hemphill:
    https://open.spotify.com/episode/65HYFdou7s7vR8LDQpjVAV?si=T3NN1_M8QOearLu-O22cPA

    The 'Finding our way' series is also a really important resource for Jem, and this episode, in which Prentis Hemphill interviews Kazu Haga, is where Jem first heard ‘slow is smooth, smooth is fast’:
    https://open.spotify.com/episode/5oPiPY4iB7GbbLSq3oOOEr?si=wNnzzGPqQTy_m537SX-nXw

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    TRANSCRIPT

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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self.
    Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems.
    Learn more at solasystems.xyz

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    Unmasking Unschool, the groundbreaking 6 month coaching program, for ambitious, kind-hearted, visionary #autistic folks seeking to enact the life pivots, self-reinventions and creative innovations to become your boldest, most authentic self. Learn more:
    https://www.solasystems.xyz/

  • In this episode I talk about what comes after the deep dives into all things autistic stop being satisfying; when information stops being transformative, and you need actual change. I introduce another frame for this series: the 'metaskills' of becoming yourself .

    TRANSCRIPT

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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self.
    Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems.
    Learn more at solasystems.xyz

  • This episode introduces the concepts of 'affordances', 'disaffordances', and 'dysaffordances'; concepts from design thinking that have a lot to offer the project of reframing the value and importance of recognising and embracing what our bodyminds afford us to do, experience, understand.

    TRANSCRIPT

    This episode mentions:

    A designer's approach: how can autistic adults with learning disabilities be involved in the design process?, By Katie Gaudion
    https://core.ac.uk/download/pdf/43099267.pdf

    Activist Affordances: how disabled people improvise more habitable worlds
    By Arseli Dokumaci

    Design Justice: commuity-led practices to build the worlds we need, by Sasha Constranza-Chock

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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self.
    Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems.
    Learn more at solasystems.xyz

  • In this week's episode, I'm sharing with you an interview I did with the gorgeous, generous, visionary soul that is Opal Turner. I featured on their podcast Rebel with a Cause. This was my first time being a guest on someone else's podcast and it's going to be hard to beat! Opal asked some really juicy questions. We cried. We laughed, and I felt truly held and seen. And I believe it was mutual. And my hope is that you also feel seen as you listen in enjoy.

    This is PART TWO.

    The Original podcast was hosted by MediaCat

    Mentioned on the podcast:

    Jem's The Feel Good Circus creates a space that is not about getting it right.

    Visit Laurie’s neuro-queer network.



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    Transcript:
    www.solasystems.xyz/blog/038

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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast (formerly: sensory siblings) is brought to you by Louisa Shaeri, beaming from The SOLA System; the liberatory framework and unmasking unschool for late identified autistic+ folks seeking a new way to see, know and be yourself, beyond the paradigm of pathology, and the fiction of 'normal'.

    Unmask, unravel the false ideas of who you are, build a life that works, and emerge from systemic invisibility into the confidence to realise culture shifting projects in the world:
    Sign up to the mailing list at solasystems.xyz

  • In this week's episode, I'm sharing with you an interview I did with the gorgeous, generous, visionary soul that is Opal Turner. I featured on their podcast Rebel with a Cause. This was my first time being a guest on someone else's podcast and it's going to be hard to beat! Opal asked some really juicy questions. We cried. We laughed, and I felt truly held and seen. And I believe it was mutual. And my hope is that you also feel seen as you listen in enjoy.

    This is PART ONE of two.

    The Original podcast was hosted by MediaCat

    Mentioned on the podcast:

    Jem's The Feel Good Circus

    Laurie’s neuro-queer network.



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    Transcript:
    www.solasystems.xyz/blog/037

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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast (formerly: sensory siblings) is brought to you by Louisa Shaeri, beaming from The SOLA System; the liberatory framework and unmasking unschool for late identified autistic+ folks seeking a new way to see, know and be yourself, beyond the paradigm of pathology, and the fiction of 'normal'.

    Unmask, unravel the false ideas of who you are, build a life that works, and emerge from systemic invisibility into the confidence to realise culture shifting projects in the world:
    Sign up to the mailing list at solasystems.xyz

  • Doors to The SOLA System + Siblings are OPEN for enrolment:
    https://www.solasystems.xyz/summer
    This is the 6 month, online, group program for kind-hearted, ambitious, visionary folks who happen to also be autistic, and are seeking the support system and social context to create culture shifting projects.

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    Episode Summary:

    When what you want to CREATE or BECOME
    isn’t just new or unknown, but ALSO involves being more of the parts of you that have in the past been actively discouraged,

    the fear of being “too much/not good enough” can stop you expanding and moving forward into your most fervently coveted dreams and goals.

    In this episode I share the solution...

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    Transcript:
    www.solasystems.xyz/blog/036

    The next cohort of The SOLA System + Siblings is OPEN!
    https://www.solasystems.xyz/summer

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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast (formerly: sensory siblings) is brought to you by Louisa Shaeri, beaming from The SOLA System; the liberatory framework and unmasking unschool for late identified autistic+ folks seeking a new way to see, know and be yourself, beyond the paradigm of pathology, and the fiction of 'normal'.

    Unmask, unravel the false ideas of who you are, build a life that works, and emerge from systemic invisibility into the light of your full self:
    Sign up to the mailing list at solasystems.xyz

  • Connect with Louisa on Instagram HERE

    Episode Summary:

    In the legacy of Eurocentric forms of knowledge,

    that are about having a self appointed god-like gaze over others

    and naming and labelling and defining meanings

    into splits separations and hierarchies,

    there is an obsession with being right.

    With doing the right thing
    in the right way;
    fitting in with the status quo
    being a good cog
    not rocking the boat.

    This can complicate the path to identifying, expressing and contributing your gifts.

    And contribute to a sense that - it’s not actually okay for me to express my gifts.

    It's not possible for me to prosper AND be myself.

    It will lead to rejection or harm.


    And yet, you have an inner conviction, right?

    There is some part of you that does know that you have strengths, insights, perspectives, gifts, unique zones of excellence...

    So the solution is to get around people who can amplify that inner knowing.

    And who can reflect that conviction back to you.


    Transcript:
    www.solasystems.xyz/blog/035

    The next cohort of The SOLA System + Siblings will open in July.
    Get on the mailing list here:
    solasystems.xyz


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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast (formerly: sensory siblings) is brought to you by Louisa Shaeri, beaming from The SOLA System; the liberatory framework and unmasking unschool for late identified autistic+ folks seeking a new way to see, know and be yourself, beyond the paradigm of pathology, and the fiction of 'normal'.

    Unmask, unravel the false ideas of who you are, build a life that works, and emerge from systemic invisibility into the light of your full self:
    Sign up to the mailing list at solasystems.xyz

  • Connect with Louisa on Instagram HERE

    Episode Summary:

    Money does not have to equal extraction and exploitation.

    But when we witness corruption that leads to lives being valued below profit,

    AND also hear phrases like "charge your worth",

    it can lead to thinking that our worthiness has something to do with our ability to be productive or fit into pre-existing agendas, values and flow structures.

    In this episode, I make the case that your inherent worth is infinite - and separating the value of what you create from your inherent self worth, means you can consider HOW and to WHOM you communicate the value of what you create, without attachment.


    Transcript:
    www.solasystems.xyz/blog/034

    The next cohort of The SOLA System + Siblings will open in July.
    Get on the mailing list here:
    solasystems.xyz


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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast (formerly: sensory siblings) is brought to you by Louisa Shaeri, beaming from The SOLA System; the liberatory framework and unmasking unschool for late identified autistic+ folks seeking a new way to see, know and be yourself, beyond the paradigm of pathology, and the fiction of 'normal'.

    Unmask, unravel the false ideas of who you are, build a life that works, and emerge from systemic invisibility into the light of your full self:
    Sign up to the mailing list at solasystems.xyz

  • Connect with Louisa on Instagram HERE

    Episode Summary:

    'Autistic burnout'?
    Afraid of reaching and aspiring because of the inevitable crash and burn?
    Overly familiar with over-adapting and recovery cycles?

    This episode is for you... and it's about step one:

    The REFUSAL;
    the "NO";
    the de-consenting;

    This is how healing can begin.

    The decision to put your own needs above the demands to push past your own limits,

    is the first step to increasing those limits. Carving out extreme boundaries so you can come back into connection with your true inner boundaries.

    However, we can sometimes be afraid of the NO, of rest, of stopping, of exiting the approved lifestyles...

    And so sibling, know that before it starts to feel good again, it might have to feel worse... and thats okay.


    Transcript:
    www.solasystems.xyz/blog/033

    The next cohort of The SOLA System + Siblings will open in July.
    Get on the mailing list here:
    solasystems.xyz


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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast (formerly: sensory siblings) is brought to you by Louisa Shaeri, beaming from The SOLA System; the liberatory framework and unmasking unschool for late identified autistic+ folks seeking a new way to see, know and be yourself, beyond the paradigm of pathology, and the fiction of 'normal'.

    Unmask, unravel the false ideas of who you are, build a life that works, and emerge from systemic invisibility into the light of your full self:
    Sign up to the mailing list at solasystems.xyz

  • Connect with Louisa on Instagram HERE

    Episode Summary:

    Are you in a pattern of self sabotage?
    Do you recognise yourself taking steps forward, and then 102,782,629 steps back?

    Sibling, I've got you with this week's podcast episode,
    which is all about what exactly is underlying self sabotage,
    and also - the details on my recent breakthrough!


    Transcript:
    www.solasystems.xyz/blog/032

    The next cohort of The SOLA System + Siblings will open in July.
    Get on the mailing list here:
    solasystems.xyz


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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast (formerly: sensory siblings) is brought to you by Louisa Shaeri, beaming from The SOLA System; the liberatory framework and unmasking unschool for late identified autistic+ folks seeking a new way to see, know and be yourself, beyond the paradigm of pathology, and the fiction of 'normal'.

    Unmask, unravel the false ideas of who you are, build a life that works, and emerge from systemic invisibility into the light of your full self:
    Sign up to the mailing list at solasystems.xyz

  • Are you on my mailing list, sibling?
    Join here solasystems.xyz for email broadcasts from The SOLA System to help you work to cultivate the self-clarity, self-acceptance and pride to BE who you are.

    The SOLA System + Siblings, the 6 month online 'unmasking unschool' guiding you on a journey through The SOLA System, alongside a community of siblings to share the journey with. Learn more: solasystems.xyz/siblings

    Transcript:
    www.solasystems.xyz/blog/031

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    This episode is all about creating safety to take up space; to expand our agency and influence; in the world, in our work, in our relationships.

    I speak to how the internalisation of external harms we experience, can take up space in our bodies and hearts and minds and future outlook. Unpacking it is how we release the weight that holds us back from expanding into more.

    That taking up space in our bodies is HOW we can begin to take up more space in our lives and the world.

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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast (formerly: sensory siblings) is brought to you by Louisa Shaeri, beaming from The SOLA System; the liberatory framework and unmasking unschool for late identified autistic+ folks seeking a new way to see, know and be yourself, beyond the paradigm of pathology, and the fiction of 'normal'.

    Unmask, unravel the false ideas of who you are, build a life that works, and emerge from systemic invisibility into the light of your full self:
    Learn more at solasystems.xyz

  • Doors are OPEN to The SOLA System + Siblings: https://www.solasystems.xyz/spring

    The unmasking unschool for the creative #autistic in you to finally feel SEEN, SUPPORTED, and SELF EXPRESSED
    - Unlearn false selves
    - Immerse in resonant community
    - Invent a life that works

    Create the self-acceptance, worthiness, and energy-supporting structures around your autistic differences

    to realise a felt possibility into a material reality

    and to turn the resilience you've already built over-adapting to what doesn't work, into the future you want.

    INFO HERE: https://www.solasystems.xyz/spring

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    Transcript: processing...coming soon.
    www.solasystems.xyz/blog/030

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    Episode summary:

    If you've been fearful of having a repeat experience of mutual support and peer groups;

    of negotiating the unclear rules and expectations of a semi-social space, of not knowing whether it's your turn, or how much space to take up,

    running the same scripts of tending to others needs instead of your own,

    I want to invite you to something different:

    Connection without obligation

    Feeling SEEN without having to think about anyone else's comfort.

    Clear guidelines, and direct communication with me (the coach).

    Being immersed in an autistic-specific context of self-development,
    where self-acceptance, not group support, is the goal.

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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast (formerly: sensory siblings) is brought to you by Louisa Shaeri, beaming from The SOLA System; the liberatory framework and unmasking unschool for late-identified autistic+ folks seeking a new way to see, know and be yourself, beyond the paradigm of pathology, and the confines of normativity. Unmask, unravel the false ideas of who you are and emerge from systemic invisibility into the light of your full self.
    Learn more at solasystems.xyz

  • Doors are OPEN to The SOLA System + Siblings: https://www.solasystems.xyz/spring

    The unmasking unschool for the creative #autistic in you to finally feel SEEN, SUPPORTED, and SELF EXPRESSED
    - Unlearn false selves
    - Immerse in resonant community
    - Invent a life that works

    Create the self-acceptance, worthiness, and energy-supporting structures around your autistic differences

    to realise a felt possibility into a material reality

    and to turn the resilience you've already built over-adapting to what doesn't work, into the future you want.

    INFO HERE: https://www.solasystems.xyz/spring
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    Transcript:
    www.solasystems.xyz/blog/029

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    Episode summary:

    Are you rushing?

    This episode unpacks a common pattern I see amongst those I work with, and my own patterns too;

    of thinking "I don't have enough time"

    and rushing past your own processing pace, in ways that guarantee that you don't indeed have enough time.

    I unpack 9 reasons why this might be happening...

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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast (formerly: sensory siblings) is brought to you by Louisa Shaeri, beaming from The SOLA System; the liberatory framework and unmasking unschool for late-identified autistic+ folks seeking a new way to see, know and be yourself, beyond the paradigm of pathology, and the confines of normativity. Unmask, unravel the false ideas of who you are and emerge from systemic invisibility into the light of your full self.
    Learn more at solasystems.xyz

  • Doors are OPEN to The SOLA System + Siblings: https://www.solasystems.xyz/spring

    The unmasking unschool 
for the creative #autistic in you to finally feel
 SEEN, SUPPORTED, and SELF EXPRESSED


    - Unlearn false selves
    
- Immerse in resonant community
    
- Invent a life that works

    Create the self-acceptance, worthiness, and energy-supporting structures around your autistic differences, to realise a felt possibility into a material reality
    and to turn the resilience you've already built over-adapting to what doesn't work, into the future you want.

    INFO HERE: https://www.solasystems.xyz/spring
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    Transcript:
    www.solasystems.xyz/blog/028

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    Episode summary:

    There are a whole lot of external conditions you didn't choose.

    Those conditions influence the habitual self you became in response.

    When that habitual self no longer fits, or never fit.
    Or you’ve awakened to the desire to BE in a new way;
    When you are being pulled into a next version of self.

    is when that old self will start to feel uncomfortable and stale.

    Maybe you are wanting to create a project or make a vocational leap, or change direction;

    but feel stuck, scared, lost, and like you don't have permission...

    This episode is about how you get unstuck, and start making lasting changes.

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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast (formerly: sensory siblings) is brought to you by Louisa Shaeri, beaming from The SOLA System; the liberatory framework and unmasking unschool for late-identified autistic+ folks seeking a new way to see, know and be yourself, beyond the paradigm of pathology, and the confines of normativity. Unmask, unravel the false ideas of who you are and emerge from systemic invisibility into the light of your full self.
    Learn more at solasystems.xyz

  • Join me for the free online seminar:
    How to get unstuck and unmask, when masking is a systemic issue
    22 March 2023, 1pm GMT
    Register: https://www.solasystems.xyz/workshop

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    Are you on my mailing list, sibling?
    Join here solasystems.xyz for email broadcasts from The SOLA System to help you work to cultivate the self-clarity, self-acceptance and pride to BE who you are.

    The SOLA System + Siblings, the 6 month online 'unmasking unschool' guiding you on a journey through The SOLA System, alongside a community of siblings to share the journey with. Learn more: solasystems.xyz/siblings

    Transcript:
    www.solasystems.xyz/blog/027

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    Episode summary:

    Masking is a systemic issue.

    A learned response to to stigma, inaccessible and oppressive structures and social expectations.

    It also creates a belief that I want to highlight:

    "I can't be myself AND make life work"

    This is an inevitable conclusion of having learned that YOUR natural way of being upsets people.

    Or is wrong.
    Or is not enough.
    Or is too much.

    That being yourself is just not an option that leads to interpersonal, physical, psychological or material safety.

    That you have to put other people’s comfort and good opinion and acceptance and the status quo that maintains that, above yourself.
    And disconnect from yourself in order to maintain.

    Along come the two main narratives to then draw on:

    that “it’s not possible to be myself AND make life work”
    because:
    1) of who YOU are, and what you do/don't do
    or
    2) is because of who THEY are, and what they do/don't do.

    Neither of these are empowering.

    The answer is somewhere in between:

    That yes, there are the external systems and structures, the dominant consensus reality, specific cultural norms and ideologies and harms, the people who are resourced in their natural state

    But there is also:

    the habitual self you’ve been being, that you created in response to all that. That acts in agreement with what doesn't work - because you believe there is no other option.

    The habitual ways of thinking and reacting and acting that over time that became just the way you do things,

    and over longer time, became the only self that you know how to be.

    The only way THIS self knows how to make life work, is by NOT being all of who you are.

    To put your own self connection last.

    The only way we begin that external change, is if we first unravel it's effects in our self-relationship.

    In our: beliefs, thoughts, actions (the parts we can control).

    In this week's podcast episode, I explore how the solution is
    to know deeply that:
    the ONLY way for you to make life work IS to be yourself.

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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast (formerly: sensory siblings) is brought to you by Louisa Shaeri, beaming from The SOLA System; the liberatory framework and unmasking unschool for late-identified autistic+ folks seeking a new way to see, know and be yourself, beyond the paradigm of pathology, and the confines of normativity. Unmask, unravel the false ideas of who you are and emerge from systemic invisibility into the light of your full self.
    Learn more at solasystems.xyz

  • Are you on my mailing list, sibling?
    Join here solasystems.xyz for email broadcasts from The SOLA System to help you work to cultivate the self-clarity, self-acceptance and pride to BE who you are.

    The SOLA System + Siblings, the 6 month online 'unmasking unschool' guiding you on a journey through The SOLA System, alongside a community of siblings to share the journey with. Learn more: solasystems.xyz/siblings

    Transcript:
    www.solasystems.xyz/blog/026

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    Episode summary:

    After realising you are autistic
    there is a needs must to deep dive "obsessively".
    To share everything you are learning ("info dump").
    To make a “special interest” of (a.k.a. become a niche specialist in) all things autism.
    And my words to you are: go for it!!

    But I also want to share a word of warning;

    Because the seeking of those glimpses of self revelation
    requires wading through piles and posts and podcasts and publications that are full of misinformation.

    And so this process can come a painful confrontation with ableism
    including that which you've internalised.

    And with that, a desire to advocate against that DEARTH of misinformation.
    To make it wrong, in order for you to feel right.

    That was me.
    I wanted to argue for all the parts of myself that now needed to be seen,
    by focusing on all of the papers, and pathology paradigms and books and blogs…
    that had it wrong.

    In that need to be RIGHT,
    for there to be a ‘right’ way to think,
    I was also reproducing the same oppressive logics that I was seeking to make wrong.

    Unlearning that desire to be RIGHT, by making other people WRONG
    (even when they are!)
    is a crucial component of the journey to
    feeling good
    about who you are
    and creating the inner freedom to BE who you are
    whether or not you have the agreement or understanding or buy-in.

    Especially from the people who have more access to knowledge production and dissemination, to share *about* who they think you are, then you do.

    The underlying questions I ask in this episode are:
    Can you: let them be wrong about you.
    Can you: let "them" become irrelevant.

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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast (formerly: sensory siblings) is brought to you by Louisa Shaeri, beaming from The SOLA System; the liberatory framework and unmasking unschool for late-identified autistic+ folks seeking a new way to see, know and be yourself, beyond the paradigm of pathology, and the confines of normativity. Unmask, unravel the false ideas of who you are and emerge from systemic invisibility into the light of your full self.
    Learn more at solasystems.xyz

  • Are you on my mailing list, sibling?
    Join here solasystems.xyz for email broadcasts from The SOLA System to help you work to cultivate the self-clarity, self-acceptance and pride to BE who you are.

    The SOLA System + Siblings, the 6 month online 'unmasking unschool' guiding you on a journey through The SOLA System, alongside a community of siblings to share the journey with. Learn more: solasystems.xyz/siblings

    Transcript:
    www.solasystems.xyz/blog/025

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    Episode summary:

    Autistic folks,
    have to EXPLAIN themselves too much.

    The gap between the lived experiences of YOU and the lived experience that consensus reality regards as REAL… is a wide canyon.

    Crossing it, too often falls on YOU to explain your way into their reality

    SO it is reasonable to believe that
    BEING YOURSELF
    requires you to change their reality, so to fit you inside it.

    To change their thinking so they understand you.

    This belief holds true across instances where there is a lot at stake in being understood;

    healthcare systems
    legal systems
    workplaces
    social services
    etc.

    But having the permission to also NOT have to be understood is also part of the solution.

    Allowing ourselves to question what is STRUCTURALLY TRUE, and yet unhelpful thinking, allows us to see beyond the REALITY imposed on our bodies without consent.

    To imagine outside of its dictates.

    And to give permission to what can only exist when we allow ourselves to NOT be understood.

    This is the contradiction at the heart of this work;
    to acknowledge what is tangibly real
    while also imagining beyond it.

    In this episode, I invite you to imagine beyond having to make sense and explain yourself to everyone.

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