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Meet my hubby! Ever wondered what it would be like to be married to a world famous sex and love expert? On today’s episode, I’m sitting down for an interview with my very own hubby to get his take on all things Sex, Love, and Elephants. We talk about how important it is to keep the Thrill alive - and how we do that ourselves.
Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open October 1! Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in early October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today.
“Dr. Cheryl, how can I treat my partner better?
“What are some ways to connect more fully with my spouse?”
“Why is my relationship so boring now vs when we were first dating?”
We’re all human beings with our own issues, our own patterns, childhoods, and previous relationships. Sometimes, those things can ambush us and our partners… and even renowned sex and love professionals aren’t immune to it!
Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
This October is your last chance to join my Become Passion program for an entire year (02:52)
The danger of Marriage Incorporated and boredom (05:19)
Placing your hand over your partner’s heart can activate the parasympathetic nervous system and help them to calm down (06:59)
My hubby and I waited to have sex for the first five weeks of dating—and it made that intimacy all the more exciting (11:37)
Why THRILL is so important and how you and your sweetheart need to make an effort to keep romance, spark, and interest alive (21:02)
Today’s LoveByte (36:39)
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Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open October 1! Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in early October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today.
“Dr. Cheryl, I screwed up my relationship… Please HELP!”
“How can I fix my broken marriage?”
“Is there a way to bring back the intimacy and thrill in my relationship?”
If you and your honey could begin again, how would you do things differently? Maybe you weren’t so attentive when you were dating, maybe last week when you had an ugly repeating argument, or maybe you realized you were neglecting a really important aspect of your relationship…
On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you how my Passion Triangle can allow you and your sweetheart to develop a whole new perspective on your relationship.
Unless somebody out there has a time machine, it’s impossible to go back and redo those earlier phases—but if you could do it over again, would you?
Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
The Become Passion program starts this October and is full of real couples with real problems—just like you and your sweetie (02:25)
My Passion Triangle is made up of sensuality, thrill, and intimacy (04:38)
Intimacy is more than sex, it’s about psychological communication, too (07:15)
Many couples have repeating issues and arguments because most of us were never taught conflict resolution (11:17)
Thrill means making the effort to fall in love again with the one we're already with (17:59)
30-40% of long term couples are in what is clinically defined as a sexless relationship (21:11)
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“Dr. Cheryl, why are relationships so hard?!”
“Is there an easier way to connect with my partner?”
“My spouse and I no longer ‘click’—what’s wrong with us?”
Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is another flashback to my Summer of Love series from a few years ago. In it, I talk about why we struggle so much with the thing we longed for AND why that struggle doesn’t make us a bad person.
Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you.
Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!
Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
We all are with the wrong person if we expect them to make us happy all the time (04:07)
In my Become Passion program, you’ll learn to how to fall back in love with the one you're already with (07:41)
Having a great relationship isn’t easy—it takes real, hard work (10:24)
We’ve all got baggage, and that’s not necessarily a bad thing (21:26)
Love Stinks and it's not your fault (24:03)
This week’s LoveByte (28:06)
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“Dr. Cheryl, our sex life is so boring! How can we bring fun back to our bedroom?”
“Why don’t I ever feel horny toward my partner anymore?”
“How do I know if my relationship is great?”
Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m teaching you my 3 predictors of a great relationship and sharing some really dire stats on the sex lives of average North Americans—that you DON’T have to fall into!
Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you.
Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!
Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
“Nipple, nipple, crotch, good-night” sex is totally common… and totally boring (05:10)
The three keys to a great relationship: intimacy, communication, conflict resolution (07:37)
We all want sex to be spontaneous… but scheduling intimacy is one of the major keys to getting your spark back (10:17)
The majority of long term couples make love from a place of sexual neutrality—and it’s actually very sexy! (15:30)
Waiting around for spontaneous desire is kind of like waiting around for your teenager to spontaneously offer to clean out the garage (18:04)
This week’s LoveByte (28:45)
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“Dr. Cheryl… I feel like my wife and I are more friends and roommates than lovers. How can we bring sexy back?”
“Why do men only care about sex and not romance?”
“What are some great date ideas to reconnect with my partner?”
Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m busting the myth that men don’t care about romance and telling you why dates are one of the most exciting parts of dating.
I also teach you why the thrill of the chase is so important evolutionarily, why we have to learn to make time alone with one another, and why it’s so easy to fall into a pattern of relationship complacency.
Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you.
Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October.
Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
It’s not just women who miss the romance when it leaves a relationship (07:59)
The excitement of dating comes from the chase and the courtship (12:40)
Dates aren’t a place to talk about the kids or the household concerns, they’re a place to connect on a one-on-one level (15:57)
The adventure date, the cooperation date, and the curiosity date are all great ideas for reconnecting with your sweetheart (17:14)
This week’s LoveByte (34:30)
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“Dr. Cheryl, can my honey and I become more compatible?”
“I’m a homebody and my partner is a social butterfly… will our relationship last?”
“How can a couple succeed in love even if they’re very different?”
Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of some of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m talking about introverts, extroverts, and extroverted introverts.
I’m also telling you that YES, it is possible to make things work between two very different people and how compatibility begins in the mind.
Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you.
Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!
Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
An introvert replenishes with quiet and solitude (03:20)
Compatibility with your partner is all in your head (10:08)
You can be rapturously happy, deeply in love, and have an extraordinary relationship—even if you are wildly different people (11:39)
Oftentimes the differences aren’t the problem... The problems come when we fail at our approach (16:40)
If you focus on the ways you’re not compatible—on the big and small irritations—you will fester a growing wound (19:22)
This week’s LoveByte (26:31)
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“Dr. Cheryl… Why am I so turned on by the idea of being sexually dominated?”
“How can I explore my sexual fantasies?”
“Is it healthy to indulge in sexual fantasy?
Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m talking all about the beauty of sexual fantasies, why they’re healthy, and I’m debunking some ideas from that popular erotic book series.
Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you.
Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!
Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
50 Shades of Grey is a dumb book—but there’s a reason it captured so many imaginations (5:04)
The number one heterosexual female fantasy? Ravishment (08:24)
The ravishment fantasy is so pervasive because it gives women a way to justify their raw sexual energy (12:20)
Exploring your sexual fantasies is healthy and empowering as long as it's not hurting anyone and everyone gives consent (20:58)
My new favorite Netflix show features the Mary Poppins of sex and makes couples’ fantasies a reality (24:45)
This week’s LoveByte (27:49)
Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!
Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.
Resources mentioned:
How to Build a Sex Room on Netflix
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“Dr. Cheryl, is it time to break up with my verbally abusive partner?”
“My partner and I fall into verbally abusive patterns, how can we overcome this?”
“How do I know if my spouse is verbally abusing me?”
Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of some of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m sharing my advice for those of you that are wondering if verbal abuse in a relationship can ever be overcome.
Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you.
Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!
Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
How to identify verbal abuse (4:34)
The importance of taking a time out when you’re flooded (11:57)
An example of a non-verbally abusive, highly emotional person (16:39)
That there are countless ways to learn how to fight fair, apologize, and forgive (24:46)
If you should break up with your verbally abusive partner (27:50)
This week’s LoveByte (30:39)
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“ Dr. Cheryl, my honey and I never fight… Is that okay?”
“My partner avoids all conflict with me, what can I do?”
“How can my spouse and I learn to communicate more effectively?”
Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of some of my all-time favorite episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I talk about why a lack of conflict can spell major issues for your relationship—and what you can do to help before it’s too late.
Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!
Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
Zero conflict can spell trouble for your relationship (04:29)
Everyone has a different communication style—which isn’t necessarily a bad thing (05:29)
Your health and happiness in your relationship may be in trouble if you don't learn how to talk about the difficult topics (07:02)
There’s nothing wrong with you if your nature is to avoid conflict, but it isn’t healthy to sweep things under the rug (09:31)
A technique to begin cleaning out all that crap under the rug (14:49)
This week’s LoveByte (21:05)
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“Dr. Cheryl, is it time for me to leave my relationship?”
“I think my marriage is over… will I regret my decision to split?”
“How do I know if there’s still hope for my sweetheart and me?”
Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is the first in a series of some of my all-time favorite episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I talk about when to give your relationship another shot—and when it’s time to let it go.
This episode is a couples Q&A series with one of my number one most asked questions: “How do I know when it’s time to leave?”
Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you.
Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!
Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
When is it time to leave a relationship? Only you and your partner can answer that—but I can help you decide (03:47)
But…If you are in a dangerous, sexually coercive, physically or otherwise abusive relationship, this episode is not for you. Please seek crisis help immediately (07:05)
Research shows that about 50% of people who leave a committed relationship DO regret it. Maybe it’s not too late to begin again (12:03)
Chances are, if you leave one committed relationship, you’ll recouple. That’s our nature as a species. (13:53)
So much of our relationship misery can be rehabilitated (23:04)
This week’s LoveByte (33:58)
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“Dr. Cheryl, my spouse is driving me crazy! How can I fall in love with them again?”
“I’m constantly annoyed by my partner, is it time to break up?”
“Why is my sweetheart always doing things to piss me off?!”
Think about a negative thought you’ve had about your partner—one that you might not be so eager to share publicly. Maybe they were late for a meaningful dinner, maybe they neglected an important chore, or maybe they even forgot about your anniversary… You were probably pretty irritated, right? But what if I were to tell you that it’s all about the way you react?
On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you how to love what is and how we can be more grateful for the extraordinarily lucky lives that we lead.
The stories you tell yourself can ruin your relationship, ruin your happiness, and even ruin your health. If you’re upset, disgruntled, or put off by your partner’s mundane mistakes or actions, it's your problem, not your sweetie’s.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
87 to 92% of people eventually recouple after a divorce, a break up, or being widowed (01:24)
The misery in your head is in your head (05:27)
Don’t allow a negative story to take up room in your head and ruin your day (08:41)
Changing a behavioral habit is hard and it takes repetition (14:51)
You are the one who makes yourself happy or not (18:12)
Today’s LoveByte (22:34)
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“Dr. Cheryl, my marriage is so boring—HELP!”
“How can I bring back the magic and spark to my relationship?”
“Why was my partner so much more attractive when we were first dating?”
Don't wait for a wake up call. Don't wait for an affair. Don't wait until your husband gets a diagnosis that scares the hell out of you—and don't wait for a sudden death. Don't wait until it's too late to show up and love the one you love.
On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about Marriage Incorporated and how you can best avoid complacency and boredom in your relationship… before it’s too late.
You want to learn how to have a much better, stronger relationship. Today, we’re talking about cultivating more love, more interest, more kindness, more peacefulness, and how to really be more like we were when we were falling in love.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
If you are in Marriage Incorporated, you may be having a really nice life, but you’re roommates, not partners (06:30)
You were a lot nicer to your partner when you were dating (16:20)
If you lose your partner suddenly, you’ll quickly realize that, no matter how fraught the relationship has been, you’ll have regrets if you haven't loved well (17:41)
All too often in this short, wonderful, and precious life, we run out of time (23:06)
Your weekly LoveByte (32:27)
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Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is one of my favorites from the early days of the podcast. In it, I talk about why a sincere vow to do better is one of the most important tools in your relationship arsenal, and why a mindful apology is an art in and of itself.
If I installed a camera in your home and recorded everything you said to your partner for a week—would you be comfortable sharing that footage with your nearest and dearest? The good, the bad, and the ugly? Or would you be ashamed and embarrassed at how you speak and interact with your sweetheart, especially in times of anger or frustration?
Human beings in relationships are going to have disagreements—that’s a fact of life. It sounds harsh, but if most people actually recorded themselves for a week and listened back to the way they spoke to their partner, they would be very disappointed in themselves. The trick is to make sure you and your honey both have the tools to have disagreements that aren’t destructive—disagreements that actually help bring you closer together. I know, right?
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
YOU are responsible for creating a great relationship (04:26)
When you're agitated, your body floods with adrenaline and cortisol, creating temporary aggression and irrationality (06:24)
The opposite of kind speech is ugly speech (09:50)
If you’re in a relationship with a real, live human being, you’re going to have disagreements… and that’s totally fine. (12:45)
Don’t make excuses—apologize like a mofo (14:44)
Your weekly LoveByte (24:29)
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“Dr. Cheryl, why am I so unhappy?”
“I’m always upset—How can I learn to go with the flow?”
“Nothing good ever happens to me, what’s the secret to happiness?”
Why is it that we’re so puzzled about the fundamental ground of what leads to more happiness and less suffering? As it turns out, there is a way to be happy for no reason, a way to have a better, healthier relationship with the person you love, and a way to be a better person.
Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a Dharma Talk that I gave last month on happiness, negativity, and the coping mechanisms we use to deal with it all.
Tune in and hear my teachings about the most universal experiences that none of us get to escape and the fact that we, as humans, don’t get to change reality.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
We’re all going to die—it’s important to make time for wholesome activities (01:40)
Reality sucks sometimes, mortality and loss and suffering is real (10:01)
How we react to big, difficult, painful losses is our choice (18:57)
We cling and try to manipulate reality so it works for us, but it’s a fool's errand (25:48)
Today’s LoveByte (50:54)
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“Dr. Cheryl, why am I always so pessimistic about my relationship?”
“How can my partner and I be more positive about one another?”
“Why can’t my sweetheart do anything right?!”
It may be 2024, but we still have brains that evolved from the cave days. Over the eons, our brains have developed certain survival patterns that have held on in even the most intelligent minds. One of those leftover base instincts that we’re still coping with today is negativity bias and it just might be the biggest issue in your relationship.
On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about negativity bias and the importance of thinking positively about your partner.
Today is all about training your mind to do a better job of defaulting toward a positive point of view. I’m giving you a few short examples and some more elaborate models and exercises that you can do to bolster your relationship with your sweetheart.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
If your partner is consistently rude and condescending—even if it’s not directed toward you—it needs to be addressed (03:40)
Our minds tend to look for what's wrong and not what’s right (08:05)
You do NOT have to say every negative thing that comes to mind (15:32)
Sharing a home and sharing a life demands graceful compromise (17:04)
Today’s LoveByte (26:11)
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“Dr. Cheryl, my partner and I haven’t had sex in months—PLEASE HELP!”
“Why does sexual desire slow down in long term relationship?
“How can I bring back the sex and passion to my relationship?”
You've heard me say it before on this podcast: Sexless relationships are way more common than you think. The definition for a sexless relationship is one where sex is had six or fewer times per year. That means that if you’re making love but it’s only once every two months or so, you and your sweetheart are in what is defined as a “sexless” or “lower sex” relationship.
On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about sexless relationships and the solutions out there that can work for you.
Many of you may have not made love for years… And that’s way more common than you think. One of the biggest problems is that no one talks about it, so we end up having a lot of shame, embarrassment, and confusion around those changes instead of finding a solution that works for our relationship.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
We're so busy running our lives that we often lose each other (03:53)
Make your sensual life a priority—especially if you’re in a long term relationship (10:33)
Sometimes, we get so good at running our lives like a business that we know longer see our partner as a sexual being (11:48)
The idea of scheduled intimacy doesn’t sound romantic but it just may save your sex life (14:41)
Today’s LoveByte (23:06)
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“Dr. Cheryl, how can I shake up my boring relationship?”
“Why does it feel like we’re roommates instead of lovers?”
“How can my sweetheart and I learn to live and love in the moment?”
One of the worst silent killers in relationships is when we find ourselves slowly falling into complacency and boredom overtime. When we lose that loving feeling, it can lead to major disappointment and dissatisfaction in a relationship but all hope is not lost—there are ways you can reconnect.
Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is a short check-in for you and your sweetheart.
So often we get caught up in the mundane and, sadly for a lot of us, many times that means that we’re caught up in irritation with our partner. Whether it’s frustration about a messy house or worries over money, nothing matters as much as valuing and loving your sweetie right now, at this very moment.
Today you’ll learn:
Don’t wait for a major life event to tell your honey how much you love them (03:31)
Love your partner deeply, wholly, and expansively and love them like there's no tomorrow (04:23)
I encourage and challenge each of us to become a great partner and bring more flexibility and more grace because we don't have them forever (08:01)
Today’s LoveByte (08:30)
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“Dr. Cheryl, how can I help my constant negative thoughts?”
“I’m ALWAYS anxious. Is there a way to quiet my constantly running mind?”
“Is it possible to practice kindness?”
Meditation is a traditional Buddhist practice that fits very beautifully into the secular world, into the psychology world, into the mindfulness world, and into the world of us trying to be a kinder, more caring human being to ourselves and others. A metta meditation, or a loving kindness meditation, can be practiced whenever you have a bit of time to yourself.
Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a metta meditation from a live Dharma talk that I gave last month.
This is a special episode of the podcast that sounds a little different from the others. This meditation is under 30 minutes long—just make sure you’re free of distractions while you listen. I invite you to come back and use this meditation whenever you feel the need for more calm and balance in your life.
This episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a metta meditation that begins at (02:19) and ends around (31:00).
Have questions about meditation or about your relationship? Send them to us at [email protected].
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“Dr. Cheryl, how can I overcome my self doubt? It’s ruining my life!”
“How do I break free from the torturous grip that my anxiety has on me?”
“Why has my experience with meditation been unfulfilling?”
We’ve all had that moment of desire and weakness—a good friend buys a fancy new car and we’re overcome with jealousy. Instead of being happy for them and proud of their hard work, all we can focus on is what we’re lacking. But the remedy to this feeling isn’t to go out and buy a new car yourself. Instead, the answer involves practicing generosity for others and focusing on relieving ourselves of that wanting, selfish feeling.
Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a Dharma Talk that I gave last month about the five hindrances that stand between us and happiness.
The five hindrances get in the way of calm, they get in the way of focus, and they make it harder to accept what is with equanimity—that is, they’re stopping us from being able to go with the flow and to recalibrate ourselves… Without the temper tantrum.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
The hindrances can get in the way of concentrating on the important object (03:51)
Even when you're well rested and alert in your physiology, sloth and torpor can come like a shadow over the sun (09:18)
The very last wisp of difficulty to disappear before you become a fully awake Buddha is the last vestige of doubt (11:12)
We don't have to have a gigantic temper tantrum to feel exhausted, even a small little worry can be fatiguing (16:27)
When you slow down in meditation, the mind gets a little more acute, a little more precise, and a little more clear (22:55)
Hindrances are like nasty waves that blind us to the calm ocean (28:15)
Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!
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Join me this Thursday, May 2nd for a very special LIVE Q&A over Zoom - email me at [email protected] and we will send you the link and time
This week on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my Become Passion students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame… Today, I’m joined by six REAL couples who have participated in my Become Passion training.
Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive Become Passion program are open now and close May 3rd! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts May 3rd.
A failing relationship doesn’t always look like explosive fights and shouting matches and slamming doors… it can just as easily look like apathy and boredom and quiet resentment. What matters most is how you chose to bring those issues into the light—and whether or not you’re willing to fight to make things better.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
This Wednesday’s LIVE Q&A on ZOOM is your last chance to join me for a free event before we kick off Become Passion (01:20)
Karen and Steve didn’t have nasty fights, but they were struggling with their sexuality as they aged (03:57)
Between kids, careers, and household responsibility, it’s so easy for a relationship to become Marriage Incorporated (07:30)
Lisa and Cam found themselves in flooded arguments that became destructive to their relationship (18:22)
Howard and Karen were separated for 6 months before they found Become Passion and learned how to fall in love all over again (22:29)
Today’s LoveByte (33:00)
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