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Welcome to Episode 496 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by David Chambers, who speaks to me about male sexual performance anxiety and creating more connected sexual experiences.
In this episode, David and I talk about the pressure many men feel to perform during sex. We discuss how focusing on erections, penis size, orgasm and technique can disconnect men from their bodies and partners, turning intimacy into something they must successfully deliver.
David Chambers, known as The Authentic Man, is a UK-based dating, relationship and intimacy coach for men. With more than a decade of experience, he helps men build deeper relationships, develop healthier masculinity and create more fulfilling sexual lives. His approach centres on self-awareness, emotional intelligence, authenticity and self-leadership.
In this episode, you will hear:
The Pressure To Perform During SexWhy Sex Is Not A CompetitionAnxiety Around Penis SizeHow Shame Affects Male ConfidenceOvercoming The Fear Of Losing An ErectionCommunicating Sexual Anxiety With A PartnerMoving Beyond PenetrationBuilding Greater Sexual PresenceMaintaining Intimacy As Men AgeCo-Creating More Connected Sexual ExperiencesStress Reduction Toolkit
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Welcome to Episode 495 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Dr. Debra Durst who speaks to me about biohacking sexual health, hormone optimization, and libido after 40.
In this episode, Dr. Durst and I talk about how sexual health can shift during perimenopause, menopause, and midlife, but why that does not mean people have to simply accept a decline in desire, arousal, lubrication, orgasmic strength, or overall sexual satisfaction. We also discuss how hormone changes, low testosterone, stress, burnout, medication, childbirth, and aging tissue can all play a role in sexual concerns, and why many women are often left without enough clear answers from traditional healthcare settings.
Dr. Debra Durst, MD is a nationally recognized physician, entrepreneur, and thought leader in sexual wellness, hormone optimization, regenerative medicine, and longevity care. She is frequently featured across television, podcasts, YouTube, print, and digital media for her bold, science-based approach to modern healthcare. Dr. Durst spent her early career working as a clinical pharmacist. She then utilized her pharmacy foundation to further pursue her Medical degree at Thee Ohio State University.
In this episode, you will hear:
Biohacking Sexual Health After 40Why Libido Can Change With AgeHormones And Sexual DesirePerimenopause, Menopause, And IntimacyAdvocating For Better CareFemale Sexual Health Beyond ReproductionRegenerative Sexual Wellness TreatmentsThe O-Shot And Laser TherapyPeptides And PT-141Finding The Right ProviderA Woman's Guide to Reviving Sex Drive
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Welcome to Episode 494 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Amanda McCracken, who speaks to me about breaking the cycle of infatuation, limerence, perfectionism, and longing for emotionally unavailable love.
In this episode, Amanda shares the deeply personal story behind her book When Longing Becomes Your Lover and how writing the book helped her understand the dating patterns that kept pulling her toward unavailable partners. We speak to the difference between real love and the emotional intensity that often pretends to be love, particularly when anxiety and fear and the chase become familiar aspects of attraction.
Amanda McCracken is an award-winning journalist passionate about experiences that highlight the intersection of wellness, travel, and relationships. Her work has appeared in the New York Times, Washington Post, Guardian, Vogue, National Geographic, NPR, Elle, Outside, Self, Runner's World, ESPN, and many others. She published her first essay about longing in 2013 which led to additional articles featuring anecdotes and deep research and interviews with the BBC and Katie Couric.
In this episode, you will hear:
Understanding Limerence And InfatuationChasing Emotionally Unavailable PartnersMistaking Anxiety For LovePurity Culture And Sexual BoundariesHookup Culture And UncertaintyThe Role Of Social MediaListening To The BodyBuilding Trust Before LoveChoosing Consistency Over IntensityBreaking The Cycle Of LongingA Woman's Guide to Reviving Sex Drive
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Welcome to episode 493 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Rosa Campbell, who speaks to me about Shere Hite, The Hite Report, and the ongoing struggle to centre women’s sexual pleasure.
In this episode, Rosa introduces us to Shere Hite’s groundbreaking 1976 book, The Hite Report, which gathered women’s honest experiences of sex, orgasm, desire, and dissatisfaction at a time when their voices were rarely included in sexology research. We discuss how Hite challenged the assumption that penetration should define sex, revealing how many women felt trapped inside sexual scripts that prioritised male pleasure over their own.
Rosa Campbell is a writer and historian based in London. She works on the global history of feminism and is a Leverhulme Early Career Fellow at King's College London and holds a PhD from the University of Cambridge. Beyond academia, she writes often for a public audience. She is the author of the The Book that Taught the World to Orgasm and then Disappeared: Shere Hite and The Hite Report out now with Melville House in the US/UK and New South in Australia/NZ.
In this episode, you will hear:
Understanding The Hite ReportShere Hite’s Groundbreaking ResearchListening To Women’s Sexual ExperiencesChallenging Penetration-Centred SexThe Politics Behind Sexual PleasureHow Feminist Work Was SilencedWhy The Orgasm Gap PersistsFaking Orgasm And Emotional SafetyLearning Beyond Sexual ScriptsCreating More Fulfilling Sex LivesMatchmaking Event
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Welcome to episode 492 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Susanna Brisk, who shares with me her insights on reconnecting to desire, the energetic body and sexual intuition.
In this episode, Susanna and I talk about how sexuality is much more than just technique. We discuss the energetic body, the unconscious agreements we bring to our relationships, and how shame, religious guilt, trauma, gender roles and cultural expectations can subtly impact desire.
Susanna Brisk is a Sexual Intuitive® who teaches people how to trust what they feel, even when it contradicts what they believe. Her work centers on restoring self-trust by translating the body’s intuitive signals into clear, actionable insight. Born in Estonia and raised in Australia after emigrating through the U.N. Refugee Program, Susanna has lived a wide-ranging life—from being scouted as a model and booking national TV commercials to working as a writer, stand-up comic, actor, and solo performer.
In this episode, you will hear:
Understanding The Energetic BodyDesire And Body ConnectionShame, Guilt, And SexualityToxic Masculinity And FemininityPower Dynamics In RelationshipsSubmission, Choice, And ConsentAbandoning Yourself SexuallyWants, Needs, And Turn-OnsRethinking Intimacy And PleasureSelf-Intimacy Touch PracticeFree Book: A Woman's Guide To Reviving Sex Drive
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Welcome to Episode 491 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Alexander Giebel, who speaks to me about the history of lubricants, how to choose the right lube, and why quality is important for sexual health.
In this episode, Alexander shares how his interest in sexual health started during the HIV crisis of the 1990s, when condoms became a cornerstone of safer sex education. Working on those, he became fascinated with the silicone lubricant used on condoms, and eventually helped bring silicone-based personal lubricant to the broader market.
Alexander Giebel is the founder and CEO of pjur group, one of the world’s leading manufacturers of premium personal lubricants. As the inventor of the first silicone-based lubricant, he established a completely new category in sexual wellness when he founded pjur in 1995. Today, pjur products are available in over 70 countries across five continents, with the company remaining proudly founder-owned.
In this episode, you will hear:
The History Of LubricantsSilicone-Based LubricantsLubricants And The HIV CrisisMedical-Grade Product StandardsReading Lubricant LabelsWater-Based Vs Silicone LubesAvoiding Irritation And DiscomfortChoosing Lube For Anal PlayLubricant And Toy CompatibilityGenital Skincare And Marketing ClaimsFREE Foreplay Checklist
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Welcome to Episode 490 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I am excited to be joined by Dr. Jordan Barber, who speaks to me about pain during sex.
In this episode, Dr. Barber and I discuss why so many people are told that “everything looks normal” when they are experiencing very real pain during sex. He explains how standard medical testing often misses muscle and nerve function, and why painful sex is rarely caused by one single factor.
Dr. Jordan Barber is a Doctor of Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine (DAOM) specializing in integrative pain care with a focus on pelvic floor dysfunction, chronic pelvic pain, and complex musculoskeletal conditions. His clinical work centers on advanced dry needling and neuromodulation-based acupuncture, targeting both tissue and nervous system drivers of pain. With over two decades of experience, he works at the intersection of traditional Chinese medicine and modern pain science to help patients restore function and break persistent pain patterns.
In this episode, you will hear:
Understanding Painful SexMuscle Pain Versus Nerve PainWhy Tests Can Look NormalPelvic Floor Physical TherapyTrauma And Pelvic PainDry Needling ExplainedVagus Nerve StimulationHormones And LubricationBuilding The Right Care TeamA Woman’s Guide to Reviving Sex Drive
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Welcome to Episode 489 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Elana Auerbach, who speaks to me about navigating sexless marriages and reviving physical intimacy.
It is incredibly common for long-term relationships to experience a decline in physical intimacy over time. Often, couples fall into a routine where life gets busy, and cultivating a sexual spark drops to the bottom of the priority list. During our conversation, we explore why this happens and how unspoken frustrations and rejections can build up over time like invisible panes of glass between partners.
Elana Auerbach is a lover, mother, mentor, activator, and priestess. She spent her childhood and young adulthood on what she calls 'the conveyor belt of life,' being the good girl and doing what others expected of her. This looked like graduating Phi Beta Kappa from UCLA, working on Wall Street for a Japanese investment bank, and marrying someone with whom she felt no chemistry.
It all fell apart in 2001 when Elana realized she’d been living a lie and found the courage to leave her marriage. She entered a world of sensuality and sex in a San Francisco pleasure-centered community. This is where she met Bill, who would become her loverman for life.
In this episode, you will hear:
Defining Sexless RelationshipsThe Myth of Spontaneous DesireUnderstanding Responsive DesireNavigating Discrepancies in LibidoThe Impact of Unspoken RejectionIntroducing the Sure Thing PracticeExploring Sensuality Without PressureHonoring Boundaries and Communicating NosOvercoming the Burden of Sexual ShameTaking Accountability for Intimacy GoalsElana's guided journey to deepen with your wild, sensual self and connect with your passion and desire!
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Welcome to Episode 488 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Dr. Arthur Burnett who speaks to me about delayed ejaculation and loss of penile sensitivity.
In this episode Dr. Burnett and I discuss a topic that has been highly requested by many of our listeners and clients. We look at the complicated factors behind delayed ejaculation and the annoying loss of sensitivity some men experience. Dr. Burnett shares his urologic expertise on the role of physical health conditions such as diabetes or sensory neuropathies as well as the much-debated role of testosterone levels.
Arthur L. “Bud” Burnett II, M.D., MBA, FACS, is a trail-blazing and globally recognized urologist, educator, and researcher at Johns Hopkins University, where he has worked for more than 40 years. He serves as the Patrick C. Walsh Professor of Urology, Director of the Male Consultation Clinic.
As a barrier-breaking leader, he is recognized as the first Black person to have achieved milestones in the urology profession as professor of urology at Johns Hopkins University, President of the Sexual Medicine Society of North America (SMSNA), and Board Member of the American Urological Association.
In this episode, you will hear:
Multilayered Causes of Delayed EjaculationImpact of Diabetes and Neuropathy on Sexual HealthThe Role of Testosterone in Ejaculatory FunctionPotential Side Effects of Weight Management DrugsRetraining Sensitivity Altered by Masturbation HabitsHow Alpha Blockers and Antidepressants Affect ClimaxThe Connection Between OCD and Ejaculatory ControlDebunking Myths About Attraction and PerformanceConstructive Ways Partners Can Offer Meaningful SupportSafe Practices for Using Constrictive Devices and ToysForeplay Check List
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Welcome to episode 487 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I am excited to be joined by Courtney Fae Long, who speaks to me about understanding and resolving lost desire in long-term relationships.
In this episode, we talk about a common problem that many couples in long-term relationships have: the natural change and sometimes loss of sexual desire. When a partner's interest seems to fade, it's easy for our minds to jump to the worst possible conclusions. But in reality, it's often because of mismatched expectations, not a lack of attraction. Courtney and I talk about the myth of rushing through physical intimacy and why treating sex like a race often makes people feel disconnected.
Courtney Fae Long, MSW, LC, CHt, is the creator of Sex Life Makeover and TEDx speaker whose work has been featured in NBC, Forbes, MSN, and Psychology Today. She specializes in highly sexual women who feel frustrated and unfulfilled. She holds a Master’s Degree in Social Work (MSW) and certificates in Sexuality Education and Sex Therapy from the University of Michigan and has been teaching for 25+ years. Courtney brings a lighthearted, joyful approach to sex.
In this episode, you will hear:
● The Myth of Sex in Football Style
● Physiological Requirements for Extended Warm-ups
● Going from Hustle Culture to Presence
● The Idea of Foreplay All Day
● Changing the Way We Do Date Night
● How Mothering Changes Kill Sexual Desire
● The Risks of Pretending to Enjoy and Have Orgasms
● Talking About Changing Sexual Preferences
● Growing the Parasympathetic Nervous System
● The Twenty-Minute Cuddle and Connect Exercise
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Welcome to Episode 486 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Juliane Maxwald who speaks to me about understanding our sexual symptoms as deeper unconscious communications.
In this episode, we talk about how sexual problems are rarely just about sex. In this day and age, people are always looking for a quick fix or a medical solution to their personal problems. Julianne beautifully explains that symptoms like low desire or trouble getting an erection are often our bodies telling us about deeper emotional needs, unresolved trauma, or hidden worries.
Juliane Maxwald, MA, LP, CST, is a licensed psychoanalyst, couples therapist and AASECT-certified sex therapist based in New York City. She has over fifteen years of experience working with individuals and couples across a wide range of concerns, including sexuality and intimacy, trauma, addiction and compulsive behaviors, mood and anxiety disorders, and relational and family-of-origin dynamics.
Her work is grounded in contemporary psychoanalysis and informed by trauma theory, somatic awareness, and relational, sex-positive frameworks. Juliane specializes in helping people move beyond symptom-focused treatment—whether the symptom shows up as sexual difficulty, burnout, overwork, emotional numbing, or relational conflict—and toward a deeper understanding of the unconscious patterns shaping their lives.
In this episode, you will hear:
· Reconceptualizing Sexual Dysfunction as Emotional Communication
· The Risk of Excessive Medicalization of Personal Issues
· Getting to Know the Unconscious Messages Behind Low Desire
· Anxiety about performance and the need for approval
· Using Relaxation Techniques Such as Beach Showers
· How Repetition Compulsion Relates to Past Trauma
· Examining the Underlying Factors of Compulsive Sexual Behaviors
· Unpacking the Hidden Themes in Pornography Usage
· Sexual Behavior That Is Out of Control as a Way to Control Emotions
· Getting over sexual shame with curiosity and kindness
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Welcome to Episode 485 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Sienna Sinclaire, who speaks to me about the art of oral sex and navigating the mental blocks that often surround it.
In this episode, we talk about real ways to improve your skills and boost your confidence. The goal is to treat sexual encounters like a playground for exploration. You can do this by using your hands as a tool and trying out different temperatures, like ice and warm water. We also talk about common worries about smell and body image, stressing the importance of being able to read and write about health issues and accepting yourself instead of feeling ashamed.
Sienna Sinclaire is an award-winning author, creative director, certified sex coach, and lifestyle entrepreneur redefining modern sensuality through storytelling, design, and immersive brand experiences.
As the visionary behind Sienna Sinclaire Studios, Naughty Girl Shop, and Naughty Girl Motel, she has built a world where fashion, travel, artistry, and empowerment collide. Her work celebrates women who want to live boldly, merging glamour, self-love, and sensual confidence into an unapologetic lifestyle. Through her signature blend of luxury branding, cinematic storytelling, and experiential design, Sienna invites audiences into a universe that blurs fantasy and reality, inspiring others to create a life that turns them on.
In this episode, you will hear:
· Unlearning Outdated Sexual Scripts
· Navigating Performance Anxiety Blocks
· Importance Of Active Feedback
· Utilising Hands For Enhanced Pleasure
· Addressing Body Image Insecurity
· Facts About Natural Scent
· Experimenting With Temperature Sensations
· Limitations Of Pornographic Education
· Exploring Diverse Genital Anatomy
· Integrating Pleasure Enhancement Tools
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Welcome to Episode 484 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Genevieve Lejeune, who speaks to me about the evolution of sexual identity and the importance of creating safe spaces for exploration.
In this episode, we discuss the emotional complexities that arise when a partner begins to question or redefine their sexual orientation. This journey can often feel destabilizing for both individuals in a relationship, triggering fears of inadequacy or the worry that the relationship might be coming to an end. Genevieve and I discuss how to navigate these transitions by prioritizing emotional safety and curiosity over panic and control.
Genevieve Lejeune is the founder of Skirt Club, a private members club for bi-curious & bisexual women. With more than 25,000 members globally, women are more interested in each other than ever. She was the first to curate luxurious global events where women can put their own desires first, and gain confidence from the bedroom to the boardroom. A leading figure in the movement for women’s sexual empowerment, Genevieve has been interviewed for high-profile publications such as Marie Claire, Elle Magazine, Cosmo, Bloomberg, Rolling Stone and the Sunday Times.
In this episode, you will hear:
· Understanding Sexual Identity Evolution
· Managing Relationship Fears And Insecurity
· The Origin Of Skirt Club
· Benefits Of Women Only Spaces
· Avoiding Performative Sexual Pressure
· Communication Strategies For Couples
· The Role Of Emotional Safety
· Exploring Physical Desire And Affection
· Navigating Monogamy And Fluidity
· Resources For Bisexual Exploration
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Welcome to Episode 483 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to have Courtney Boyer on the show. In this episode, Courtney talks to me about how she transitioned from living in a strict purity culture to living in a polyamorous lifestyle.
Courtney discusses her childhood in a strict religious setting where her worth and safety were closely linked to her ability to control her sexual urges. We talk about the "myth of the perfect Christian wife" and how many women in these communities feel pressured to keep up the act of sacrifice.
Courtney Boyer, M.Ed., M.S., is a therapist-turned-relationship coach, writer, and speaker whose work centers on love, desire, and authenticity. She has been featured in The New York Post, Cosmopolitan, The Huffington Post, and BBC Radio Live. Drawing on her background in mental health and sex therapy, she brings a unique blend of professional expertise and lived experience to conversations around relationships and identity. When she isn’t writing or coaching, Courtney can be found chasing joy—traveling, reading, or savoring delicious coffee and deep conversation. She is passionate about helping women break free from shame, reclaim their bodies and voices, and create relationships rooted in honesty and autonomy.
In this episode, you will hear:
· How Purity Culture Affects How You Feel About Yourself
· Disputing The Myth Of The Ideal Christian Wife
· Going From Being Monogamous To Being Polyamorous
· How To Handle The Dynamics Of A Mono-poly Relationship
· Setting Limits In Parallel Polyamory
· The Significance Of Representation In Non-monogamy
· Reclaiming Joy Through Bodily Embodiment
· Building Self-trust After Being Controlled By Religion
· Why Women Should Date Men Who Are Older Than Them
· Finding Your Own Reason To Open Up
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Welcome to Episode 482 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Jessica Idoine who speaks to me about the role of the nervous system in erotic connection and how couples can move from the stress of daily life into a state that supports intimacy and foreplay.
Jessica and I talk about why a lot of people find it difficult to shift from the hectic nature of daily obligations to erotic connection. We examine how the nervous system is crucial to sexual responsiveness and why arousal and pleasure depend on a transition from a fight-or-flight response to a more relaxed, present-moment state.
Jessica is a licensed and certified relationship and sex therapist, retreat facilitator, and founder of Expansive Connections Retreats. She helps couples and individuals cultivate deeper intimacy, emotional safety, and honest communication through a trauma-informed, somatic, and evidence-based approach. With specialized experience supporting LGBTQIA+ clients, neurodivergent couples, and non-traditional relationships, Jessica is known for reframing relationship myths, normalizing complex dynamics, and offering practical, accessible tools for navigating intimacy, conflict, and long-term connection.
In this episode, you will hear:
· The Nervous System’s Role In Sexual Arousal
· Why Stress Blocks Erotic Connection
· Moving From Fight Or Flight To Rest And Digest
· Practical Co-Regulation Rituals For Couples
· The Power Of Non-Demand Touch And Connection
· Navigating Desire Mismatch In Relationships
· How To Communicate A Loving “No” To Sex
· Recognizing Signs Of Nervous System Shutdown
· Using Rituals To Transition Into Intimacy
· Small Shifts That Help Couples Feel Safer And More Connected
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Welcome to Episode 481 of the Sexology Podcast! I'm thrilled to have Gigi Engle join me today as she talks about kink, how it's frequently misinterpreted, and how people can explore their desires with open communication, curiosity, and safety.
Gigi and I discuss what kink actually entails and why it is much more expansive than the preconceived notions that many people have about it. She describes how the term "kink" serves as a catch-all for a variety of relational and sensory experiences, ranging from more symbolic forms of erotic expression to power dynamics and sensation play.
Gigi Engle is a COSRT-registered, MNCIP, ACS, CSE, CSC, GSRD-accredited, award-winning author, certified sex & relationships psychotherapist, and sex educator. She works clinically as an associate clinician at The Therapy Yard, where she specializes in supporting GSRD (Gender, Sexuality, and Relationship Diverse) clients, including members of the LGBTQIA+ community, kinky folx, and people in polyamorous and open relationships.
Gigi is the author of two books: Kink Curious and All The F*cking Mistakes. Kink Curious is available for pre-order and comes out January 21st.
In this episode, you will hear:
· The True Meaning of Kink
· Distinctions Between Fetish and Kink
· Reasons Behind Many People's Unrealized Kinkiness
· The Evolution of Kinks
· Psychology of Symbolic and Sensory Play
· Kink Exploration's Emotional Safety
· The Significance of Safe Words and Consent
· Comprehending the Concept of an Enthusiastic Maybe
· Managing Shame Regarding Sexual Desires
· How Couples Can Respectfully Discuss Kinks
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Welcome to Episode 480 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Dr. Taylor P. Kohn who speaks to me about the impact of GLP-1 receptor agonists on sexual health and erectile function.
In this episode, we discuss the growing curiosity around GLP-1 medications and whether they influence erectile dysfunction, libido, and overall sexual performance. Dr. Kohn shares insights from his large claims database study examining young men without diabetes who initiated GLP-1 treatment. We also talk about reassuring findings, including the low overall rate of new erectile dysfunction diagnoses, while also unpacking the difference between correlation and causation.
Dr. Taylor P. Kohn, MD, M.Phil. is an Assistant Professor in the Scott Department of Urology at Baylor College of Medicine, specializing in Male Infertility and Sexual Dysfunction.
Dr. Kohn began his academic career at Baylor University where he developed a love for biomedical research. In 2013, he was awarded a prestigious Fulbright Scholarship, enabling him to pursue a Master of Philosophy (M.Phil.) in Instrumentation at the University of Manchester in the United Kingdom, studying protein distribution in Alzheimer’s disease using imaging mass spectrometers.
In this episode, you will hear:
· GLP-1 Medications And Erectile Dysfunction Risk
· Libido Changes And Reward System Questions
· Microvascular Health And Cardiovascular Links
· Weight Loss, Muscle Mass, And Hormone Regulation
· Testosterone Optimization Through Lifestyle
· Psychological Contributors To Erectile Challenges
· Treatment Ladder For Erectile Dysfunction
· Shockwave Therapy And Regenerative Options
· Penile Injections And Prosthesis Outcomes
· Stress Reduction And Sexual Confidence Building
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Welcome to Episode 479 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Zach Brittle who speaks to me about negative sentiment override and how relationship dynamics shape our erotic connection.
In this episode, Zach and I discuss how the emotional tone of a relationship deeply influences intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. We look at the concept of Negative Sentiment Override, a term from John Gottman’s research, and discuss how couples can find themselves stuck in patterns where even neutral moments feel charged with criticism or defensiveness.
Zach has been teaching, coaching, mentoring and counseling couples for nearly 20 years. He is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in Washington and a Certified Gottman Therapist (CGT) and Relational Life Therapist. He is the host of Marriage Therapy Radio and the author of the best selling relationship guide The Relationship Alphabet and the Marriage Therapy Journal. His writings and insights have also been featured in Vanity Fair, Men’s Health, Real Simple, The New York Times and the Washington Post. Zach has been happily married to his wife Rebecca for 25 of 28 years. They live in Seattle with their two adulting daughters.
In this episode, you will hear:
· Understanding Negative Sentiment Override
· Positive Versus Negative Emotional Filters
· The Pasta Example And Neutral Events
· Emotional Safety And Sexual Vulnerability
· Gender Socialization And Desire Patterns
· Slowing Down Between Impulse And Response
· Taking Responsibility In Relationship Conflict
· Contempt And The Illusion Of Superiority
· Redefining What Sex Is For
· Scheduling Erotic Play And Expanding Intimacy
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Welcome to Episode 478 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by EJ and Tarah Kerwin who speak to me about sex and parenting, how becoming parents reshaped their intimacy, desire, and how they maintain their emotional connection to each other.
In this episode, EJ and Tarah speak to me about what it was like to go from a playful, spontaneous sex life to feeling completely overwhelmed after the birth of their twins; navigating sleep deprivation, and the resurfacing of past trauma. They also talk openly about the grief that can accompany shifts in identity, libido, and partnership, and how isolating that transition can feel when couples are not talking about it.
EJ and Tarah Kerwin are the founders of Relationship Renovation and hosts of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, where they share raw honesty, humor, and decades of combined experience as relationship coaches to help couples deepen intimacy, build emotional safety, and navigate the complexities of long-term partnership.
Known for their vulnerability and willingness to share their own relationship challenges, EJ and Tarah offer practical tools, research-backed insights, and real-life stories that resonate with couples around the world.
In this episode, you will hear:
· The Impact Of Parenting On Sexual Desire
· Navigating Postpartum And Identity Shifts
· Grief Around Changing Intimacy
· Higher And Lower Desire Dynamics
· Emotional Safety In Long Term Relationships
· Pressure Windows And Sexual Expectations
· Rebuilding Intimacy Through Communication
· Processing Trauma Within Partnership
· Non Sexual Affection And Erotic Connection
· Creating Systems To Prioritize Your Relationship
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Welcome to episode 477 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Laurie Gerber, who speaks to me about how to communicate about sex, sexual preferences, and talking about difficult topics like STIs with more confidence and clarity.
In this episode, Laurie and I discuss why silence is one of the biggest obstacles to fulfilling sexual and romantic relationships. Laurie shares powerful insights from her work with clients, especially around why sex is a key differentiator between friendship and romantic partnership, and why ongoing conversations matter more than crisis-driven ones.
Laurie Gerber is the creator of Master the Art of Love, an online digital course for women over 50 who are ready to date like they mean it. She’s the host of the podcast “Love at Any Age,” through which she coaches the audience, based on the wholehearted belief that everyone deserves healthy, lasting love, and it’s never too late.
For over 20 years, first as President of the Life Coaching division at Handel Group® and then as founder of Laurie Gerber Coaching Inc. she has been life and love coaching thousands of individuals and couples. Laurie is currently licensing The Handel Method® and uses it in her online and one-on-one coaching to help people achieve their dreams, with a focus on love.
In this episode, you will hear:
· Why Silence Is The Biggest Mistake
· Sex As A Learnable Skill
· Making Sex An Ongoing Conversation
· Choosing The Right Time And Setting
· Asking Permission To Talk About Sex
· Practical Hacks To Start Conversations
· Navigating STI Disclosure With Confidence
· Setting Sexual Boundaries Early
· Desire Mismatches And Rejection
· Rituals, Scheduling, And Prioritizing Sex
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