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228 - From Dreamer to Doer
In todayâs episode, Iâm getting real about the trap of being a procrastinator and overthinker. I share how I spent years stuck in analysis, planning, and learning â but not actually changing anything. And most importantly, I talk about how I broke out of that cycle through small daily actions.
My Journey from Shelf-Help Scholar to Action Taker:
I open up about my old habit of endlessly gathering advice without doing anything with it â and the moment I realized dreaming wasnât enough.My Favorite Action Strategies:
I break down the simple techniques that helped me shift into action, like the Two-Minute Rule, habit stacking, friction reduction, and life scheduling.Finding My Why:
I explain how connecting tasks to a bigger purpose (like my dream of hiking across Spain) kept me motivated even on the tough days.How I Use the Five Second Rule:
I share how counting down from five helps me smash through hesitation and move toward my goals instantly.Takeaways:
If youâre feeling stuck, youâre not broken â you just need to move. I learned that action, not thinking, is what builds a better life. Even if all you do today is take one small step, youâre already winning. I hope you walk away from this episode with new energy, new hope, and a simple truth ringing in your ears: you already have everything you need to change your life. You just have to start.https://startwithsmallsteps.com/228-from-dreamer-to-doer/
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227 - Rebuild Real Trust
Trust is one of the most powerful forces in human connectionâand also one of the hardest to rebuild when itâs been broken. In this episode, I explore what it means to trust again after growing up in an environment where trust didnât come easily. Through personal reflection and real-world observations, this conversation unpacks how trust is formed, how it's tested, and how to rebuild it one small step at a time.
Understanding Early Lessons in Trust
Childhood experiences have a lasting impact on how we relate to others. When people around us are unreliable, inconsistent, or hurtful, itâs easy to adopt a mindset of self-reliance and emotional distance. That mindset can follow us into adulthood and shape every relationship we form.The Circle of Trust: Not Everyone Gets In
Not all relationships require the same level of openness. Thereâs value in having different levels of closeness with different peopleâfrom casual acquaintances to deeply trusted friends. Being intentional about who enters each level of that circle helps protect emotional well-being while still allowing meaningful connection.The Trust Equation
Credibility, reliability, and intimacy all factor into how much someone can be trusted. But when someone is overly focused on themselves, it weakens that trust. This equation offers a useful framework to assess relationships more clearly and make thoughtful choices about who to invest in.Looks Can Be Deceiving
Charm and appearance often fool people into thinking someone is more trustworthy than they really are. That "halo effect" can be dangerous, especially when it distracts from consistent, trustworthy behavior. Recognizing this pattern can prevent misplaced trust.Building Trust Over Time
Trust doesnât happen overnight. Itâs built through small actions repeated consistentlyâby noticing whether people do what they say, how they respond to conflict, and whether they show genuine care. True trust grows in layers, with each honest moment reinforcing the foundation.Takeaways:
Trust is essential to living a full, connected lifeâbut itâs okay to start small. Real relationships arenât about perfection; theyâre about reliability, mutual respect, and emotional safety. Paying attention to patterns, being mindful of your own history with trust, and gradually opening up to the right people can lead to deeper, healthier connections. Everyone deserves relationships grounded in trustâand itâs never too late to start building them.https://startwithsmallsteps.com/trust-or-distrusst/
Jillâs Links
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100 - Can a Christian Be Stoic?
In this episode, I explore a question that has shaped much of my spiritual journey: can a Christian embrace Stoicism? I share how I discovered Stoicism at a young age and how its principles helped me build resilience during difficult times. Later, when I became a Christian, I had to ask whether those Stoic values still had a place in my lifeâand what I found was both challenging and enlightening.
Virtue and Character in Both Paths
Both Stoicism and Christianity call us to a life of integrityâemphasizing values like courage, wisdom, justice, and self-control. I talk about how these overlapping principles shaped the way I approach daily life, relationships, and spiritual growth. Even though the motivations are differentâStoicism is about inner peace, Christianity is about serving Godâthe virtues themselves resonate in both.Emotions: Controlled or Embraced?
One of the biggest contrasts is how emotions are treated. Stoicism promotes emotional restraint. Christianity invites emotional honesty. I reflect on the emotional lives of Jesus and biblical figures like David and Hannah, and what that says about Godâs design for our emotional nature.Suffering and Resilience
Both philosophies prepare us to face hardship. I talk about how Stoicism taught me to endure, but Christianity taught me that suffering has a purpose. One builds strength through discipline; the other brings hope through surrender. Together, they have helped me become more resilientânot just tough, but spiritually anchored.Where Stoicism Can Fall Short
I also share moments where Stoicism made me overly self-reliant. Sometimes I default to solving problems instead of praying through them. Thatâs where my faith checks me. Christianity invites me to lean on God, not just on grit and planning.đĄ Takeaways:
Stoicism gave me toolsâclarity, discipline, emotional balance. Christianity gave me relationshipâgrace, hope, and divine love. I donât have to abandon one to honor the other. Instead, Iâve learned how to thoughtfully integrate what builds virtue while staying grounded in faith. Itâs not about blending the two into a new belief system, but about recognizing where timeless wisdom can sharpen spiritual truth.
Whether youâve ever wrestled with Stoicism and Christianity or are just curious about how ancient philosophy fits into modern faith, this episode is an invitation to reflect, discern, and grow.
https://startwithsmallsteps.com/226-stoicism-and-christianity/
Jillâs Links
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225 - Ancient Stoics Solve Modern Problems
In this episode, I reflect on how discovering Stoicism as a young girl profoundly changed how I view the world. From the ancient teachings of Zeno and Epictetus to modern-day applications like mindful eating and emotional resilience, Stoicism offers practical wisdom for anyone navigating lifeâs chaos.
The Origins of Stoicism:
I explore the fascinating story of Zeno of Citium, a shipwrecked merchant whose misfortune led him to philosophy. His teachings on virtue, nature, and practical ethics laid the foundation for a timeless way of living.Lessons from Epictetus:
A former slave turned philosopher, Epictetus taught that true freedom lies in mastering your internal world. His views on control, endurance, and serenity still resonate today.Personal Stories of Applying Stoicism:
I share how I used Stoicism to handle tough family dynamics, including confrontations with my father and grandmother. These stories show how ânegative visualizationâ and calm resolve can transform even the hardest situations.Modern-Day Stoicism:
From budgeting to dieting, I explain how I use Stoic principles in everyday life. Whether itâs mindful eating or resisting emotional spending, these ancient tools still work.Virtues in Action:
Stoicism isnât just about readingâit's about doing. I talk about how wisdom, courage, justice, and temperance guide my choices, and how practicing them intentionally can change your life.Takeaways:
This episode is a reminder that lifeâs hardships are inevitable, but our response is within our control. By practicing Stoicism, we gain the tools to live with purpose, resilience, and integrity. The virtues of courage and wisdom arenât just lofty idealsâtheyâre daily habits we can build. Whether youâre facing a tough boss, a diet, or emotional overwhelm, Stoicism gives you the mindset to endure and grow. Donât just read the philosophyâlive it.https://startwithsmallsteps.com/225-ancient-stoics-solve-modern-problems/
Jillâs Links
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224 - Moderation In Everything
In this episode, I talk about a life lesson thatâs stuck with me since childhood: the importance of moderation. From Greek philosophy to personal experiences with family and faith, I unpack how âall things in moderationâ has become a guiding principle in how I view the world and navigate lifeâs ups and downs. We look at why extremes are so prevalent in todayâs cultureâand how finding the middle ground might be the key to more peace, better health, and healthier relationships.
Greek Roots of Moderation
I share how my love for mythology evolved into an interest in philosophy, especially the ancient Greek idea that virtue lies between two extremes. From bravery to self-control, the Greeks saw moderation not as weakness, but as wisdom.The Real-World Impact of Extremes
Through stories about my own family, I reflect on how living in extremesâwhether it's drinking, spending, or judging othersâcan lead to breakdowns in relationships and self-destruction.Moderation in Emotional and Spiritual Life
Drawing on Stoic philosophers like Seneca and Marcus Aurelius, I explain how emotional balance is just as crucial. Itâs not about being emotionless, but being emotionally grounded.Finding the Middle in Modern Life
I touch on examples like food, exercise, and even how we treat others. Itâs not about giving up on enjoyment or disciplineâitâs about avoiding the burnout and blind spots that come with excess.Takeaways:
The key message is simple but powerful: moderation leads to a more peaceful and effective life. We donât have to live in emotional chaos or rigid restraint. Whether itâs how we eat, spend, love, or work, finding a balance helps us be more present and more authentic. This lesson shaped my path, and I hope it helps you think differently about how you approach the choices and rhythms in your own life.Try identifying one area where you might be going to an extreme, and explore what a more balanced path might look like. Itâs not about being perfectâitâs about being intentional.
https://startwithsmallsteps.com/224-moderation-in-everything/.
Jillâs Links
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223 - Advice from Silly Places
This episode explores how surprisingly profound life advice can be found in unexpected placesâlike cartoons, comic strips, movies, TV shows, music, and even bumper stickers. Drawing from a wide range of pop culture references, this episode reveals the timeless truths hidden in the most playful and unconventional sources.
Cartoons with Character and Wisdom
Classic animated characters like Tweety Bird, Bugs Bunny, Road Runner, and Wile E. Coyote arenât just entertainingâthey offer insights about thinking ahead, handling frustration, and staying true to yourself. Even characters like Yosemite Sam and Elmer Fudd show what happens when anger goes unchecked, while Bugs Bunny reminds us that wit often wins over brute force.Philosophy Through Comics: Calvin and Hobbes
This beloved comic strip is full of wisdom disguised as childhood curiosity. From grappling with fairness and creativity to reflecting on friendship, imagination, and lifeâs meaning, Calvin and Hobbes present simple truths with emotional depth.Song Lyrics That Speak to the Soul
From âLet It Beâ to âI Canât Make You Love Me,â the lyrics of popular songs are filled with lessons about love, patience, heartbreak, and resilience. Whether uplifting or sobering, these messages hit home with their honest reflections on the human experience.Wise Words from Television and Film
Iconic lines from shows and movies like Rocky, The Lion King, Parks and Rec, Ferris Buellerâs Day Off, The Mandalorian, and Buffy the Vampire Slayer provide motivation, emotional strength, and perspective. Quotes like âJust keep swimmingâ or âTomorrow is another dayâ remind listeners to push forward, appreciate the present, and keep hope alive.Takeaways:
Lifeâs best advice doesnât always come from books or lecturesâit often comes from the unexpected corners of pop culture. Cartoons teach resilience and wit, comic strips bring philosophical insight, music speaks directly to the heart, and films show how to endure and grow. Whether itâs inspiration from Rockyâs determination, comfort in Doryâs persistence, or humor in Homer Simpsonâs honesty, wisdom is all around. Sometimes, all it takes is listening closely to the world we already enjoy.https://startwithsmallsteps.com/223-advice-from-silly-places/
Jillâs Links
https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com
https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJilldayhttps://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI
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https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod
https://twitter.com/schmern
Email the podcast at [email protected]
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223 - Advice from Silly Places
This episode explores how surprisingly profound life advice can be found in unexpected placesâlike cartoons, comic strips, movies, TV shows, music, and even bumper stickers. Drawing from a wide range of pop culture references, this episode reveals the timeless truths hidden in the most playful and unconventional sources.
Cartoons with Character and Wisdom
Classic animated characters like Tweety Bird, Bugs Bunny, Road Runner, and Wile E. Coyote arenât just entertainingâthey offer insights about thinking ahead, handling frustration, and staying true to yourself. Even characters like Yosemite Sam and Elmer Fudd show what happens when anger goes unchecked, while Bugs Bunny reminds us that wit often wins over brute force.Philosophy Through Comics: Calvin and Hobbes
This beloved comic strip is full of wisdom disguised as childhood curiosity. From grappling with fairness and creativity to reflecting on friendship, imagination, and lifeâs meaning, Calvin and Hobbes present simple truths with emotional depth.Song Lyrics That Speak to the Soul
From âLet It Beâ to âI Canât Make You Love Me,â the lyrics of popular songs are filled with lessons about love, patience, heartbreak, and resilience. Whether uplifting or sobering, these messages hit home with their honest reflections on the human experience.Wise Words from Television and Film
Iconic lines from shows and movies like Rocky, The Lion King, Parks and Rec, Ferris Buellerâs Day Off, The Mandalorian, and Buffy the Vampire Slayer provide motivation, emotional strength, and perspective. Quotes like âJust keep swimmingâ or âTomorrow is another dayâ remind listeners to push forward, appreciate the present, and keep hope alive.Takeaways:
Lifeâs best advice doesnât always come from books or lecturesâit often comes from the unexpected corners of pop culture. Cartoons teach resilience and wit, comic strips bring philosophical insight, music speaks directly to the heart, and films show how to endure and grow. Whether itâs inspiration from Rockyâs determination, comfort in Doryâs persistence, or humor in Homer Simpsonâs honesty, wisdom is all around. Sometimes, all it takes is listening closely to the world we already enjoy.https://startwithsmallsteps.com/223-advice-from-silly-places/
Jillâs Links
https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com
https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJilldayhttps://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI
https://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallstepspodcast
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod
https://twitter.com/schmern
Email the podcast at [email protected]
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222 - The Two Buckets: A Simple Way to Solve Lifeâs Problems
Hi everyone, itâs Jill from the North Woods! In this episode, Iâm sharing one of the biggest life lessons I ever learnedâthe concept of putting problems into two buckets: things I can change and things I cannot. This idea, rooted in the Serenity Prayer, has helped me navigate everything from growing up with an alcoholic parent to financial struggles, career changes, and even weight loss.
Iâll take you through the history of this powerful mindset, from ancient Greek philosophers to modern problem-solving techniques, and share real-life examples of how shifting my focus has made all the difference. If youâve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure of how to tackle lifeâs challenges, this episode is for you.
The Serenity Prayer and How It Shaped My Thinking
I first learned the Serenity Prayer in my teens while attending Alateen, a support group for children of alcoholics. This simple yet profound message helped me reframe my struggles, allowing me to focus on what I could change instead of feeling powerless over what I couldnât.The Long History of This Wisdom
The idea of separating problems into whatâs within our control and what isnât has been around for centuries. I share insights from historical figures like Epictetus, Solomon ibn Gabirol, and Shantideva, all of whom recognized the power of focusing on what we can control.Real-Life Applications of the Two Buckets Approach
-Growing Up with an Alcoholic Parent â I couldnât stop my dad from drinking, but I could create a full, active life outside of that challenge.
-Politics & Global Issues â I canât change everything, but I can vote, volunteer, and contribute where I can.
-Financial Stability & Retirement Worries â Social Securityâs future is uncertain, but I can prepare by saving more and making smart financial decisions.
-Weight Loss & Health â I once thought my weight was out of my control until I found new solutions and the right support.Re-Evaluating Whatâs in Your âCanât Changeâ Bucket
Sometimes, we assume a problem is out of our hands when itâs really not. I share examples of creative problem-solvingâlike how a simple change (adding mirrors) made people stop complaining about slow elevators. The key is to step back, get a new perspective, and challenge assumptions.Takeaways:
â Put problems into two buckets: Can you change it or not?
â Focus on action instead of worrying about things beyond your control.
â Re-evaluate your buckets over timeâsomething that seemed unchangeable might have a solution you havenât seen yet.
â Seek outside advice when you feel stuckâsometimes an expert or a fresh perspective can make all the difference.
â If something is in the "can change" bucket, take the first step today.This mindset shift has helped me reduce stress and solve problems more effectively, and I hope it helps you too. Now, I challenge youâthink about a problem in your life right now. Which bucket does it belong in?
Let me know what you think! Email me at [email protected], comment on my channel, or share this episode with someone who might need it. Thanks for listening, and have a great week!
https://startwithsmallsteps.com/the-two-buckets-a-simple-way-to-solve-lifes-problems/
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221 - Don't Let Anyone Push Your Buttons
In this episode, I share one of the most powerful lessons I ever learnedâfrom a book I discovered as a child. Wayne Dyerâs Your Erroneous Zones completely changed how I saw emotions, reactions, and the way people try to manipulate us. This book helped me navigate a tough home life, stand up to bullies, and, most importantly, stop letting others control how I felt.
I explore the emotional traps that keep people stuckâanger, worry, guilt, insecurity, and perfectionismâand how to break free from them. The biggest takeaway? No one can push your buttons unless you let them. Learning this truth gave me the confidence to take charge of my emotions, and in this episode, Iâll share how you can do the same.
The Book That Changed My Perspective
I was a little kid in a chaotic home when I first saw Wayne Dyer on PBS talking about Your Erroneous Zones. Something about his message clicked. Even as a child, I realized that emotions werenât just things that happened to meâI had control over them.The Emotional Traps That Keep Us Stuck
Dyer identifies five major thought patterns that hold us back:Anger â Letting frustration control you instead of responding calmly.
Worry â Stressing over things that are outside your control.
Guilt â Staying stuck in past mistakes instead of making amends and moving on.
Insecurity â Constant self-doubt that keeps you from taking action.
Perfectionism â Thinking you need to be 100% ready before you start something.
I share how I struggled with these emotions and the small steps I took to overcome them.The Most Life-Changing Lesson: No One Can Push Your Buttons
This was the biggest revelation: people only have power over you if you let them. I saw firsthand how my father emotionally manipulated my mother. But when I learned to control my reactions, he stopped targeting me. If someone is making you feel bad, itâs because youâre giving them permission to do so.How to Take Back Control of Your Emotions
If you struggle with reacting emotionally to situations, try these strategies:-Pause Before Reacting â Take five seconds to ask, Is this worth my peace of mind?
-Reframe the Situation â Most peopleâs negativity is about them, not you.
-Use Humor â Responding with a joke can take the power away from insults.
-Practice Inner Silence â Sometimes, the best response is no response.
-Find Compassion â Understanding why someone acts a certain way can help you detach.Takeaways:
-Your emotions belong to you. No one else can make you feel something unless you allow them to.
-Taking action is the antidote to fear. Perfectionism, insecurity, and doubt all shrink when you start moving forward.
-When life squeezes you, whatâs inside of you comes out. If you donât like how you react under pressure, itâs time to work on whatâs inside.
-The more you control your emotions, the freer you become. People lose their ability to manipulate you when you stop reacting.
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If youâve ever felt like someone else has control over your emotions, itâs time to take that power back. By shifting your mindset and making small changes, you can free yourself from anger, worry, guilt, and insecurity.https://startwithsmallsteps.com/221-take-control-of-your-emotions/
Jillâs Links
https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com
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220 - Stop Playing It Safe
In this episode of Start with Small Steps, Jill from the North Woods shares a powerful lesson learned from playing chess with her father: the best way to improve is to challenge yourself against stronger opponents. This principle extends beyond the chessboard and applies to personal growth, career development, fitness, and creative pursuits. Jill explores how surrounding yourself with skilled people, finding the right level of challenge, and embracing discomfort can lead to transformation. She also discusses the role of AI as a learning tool and the importance of applying what you observe from others.
The Power of Playing Against Stronger Opponents
Jillâs father never let her win at chess, and this tough love approach taught her to embrace challenges rather than seek easy victories. Whether in work, hobbies, or personal goals, true growth comes from learning from those who are ahead of us.The Right Level of Challenge for Improvement
Growth requires finding the right balanceânot too easy, not too difficult. Jill explains how to assess what level of challenge will push you forward without overwhelming you, whether it's in writing, public speaking, or fitness.Using AI as a Learning Tool (Not a Replacement)
Jill shares how she uses AI to refine her writing rather than replace it. She discusses the importance of maintaining personal effort while leveraging AI for insights and efficiency.Learning from "Secret Mentors"
Sometimes, the best mentors arenât the ones we formally ask for help, but those we quietly observe. Jill explains how watching skilled colleagues and analyzing their methods has helped her improve in various areas of life.The Importance of Embracing Discomfort
If something feels uncomfortableâwhether itâs public speaking, learning a new skill, or pushing past fitness limitsâitâs often a sign of growth. Jill encourages listeners to lean into discomfort as a necessary step toward mastery.Applying What You Learn
Itâs not enough to listen, read, or watch othersâyou must put what you learn into action. Jill provides practical steps for tracking progress and continuously improving through observation, reflection, and practice.Takeaways
â Challenge yourself by learning from those ahead of you. Staying in your comfort zone wonât lead to growth. Seek out opportunities to be around people who push you to be better.â Find the right level of difficulty. Growth happens in stagesâtoo easy, and you wonât progress; too hard, and you may give up. Identify challenges that stretch but donât break you.
â Leverage AI and technology as tools for improvement. AI can help refine your skills, but real learning comes from effort and practice.
â Observe and learn from successful people. Whether itâs a mentor, coworker, or expert in your field, analyze their techniques and apply them to your own journey.
â Embrace discomfort as a sign of progress. If something feels difficult, that means you're learning. Stay persistent and celebrate small wins along the way.
â Take action. Donât just consume informationâapply it. Growth only happens when you put knowledge into practice.
Challenge for You
This week, put yourself in a situation where you are the least experienced person in the room. Whether in a meeting, a class, or a fitness session, find someone who is better than you and learn from them. Write down what you observe, practice what you learn, and reflect on your progress.https://startwithsmallsteps.com/220-stop-playing-it-safe/
Jillâs Links
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219 - No Choice Is A Choice
Have you ever avoided making a decision, hoping things would just work themselves out, only to realize later that doing nothing made everything worse? I know I have, and in this episode, Iâm talking about how no decision is still a decisionâjust not one you control. I share personal stories about how my own indecision has impacted my career, relationships, and health, sometimes in ways I deeply regret. I also talk about the hidden cost of avoiding choices and why small, intentional steps can put you back in control of your life.
For a long time, I thought that if I didnât make a choice, I was keeping my options open. But Iâve learned that when I fail to act, life steps in and makes the choice for meâand itâs rarely the one I would have wanted. When I graduated college, I couldnât decide what path to take, and instead of making an intentional choice, I drifted into a job out of necessity. Years later, I realized I had closed doors to other opportunities simply because I hadnât been proactive. The same thing happened in my health. I spent years trying and failing to lose weight, pushing off real action because I wasnât sure what would work. Eventually, my health suffered, and I was forced to take action, but by then, I had fewer choices available to me.
One of the hardest lessons Iâve learned is that inaction has real consequences. Not deciding doesnât protect you from failure; it often makes things worse. When I ignored problems with my house, I ended up with water damage that could have been avoided. When I stayed in a comfortable but stagnant job, I watched my retirement savings fall behind. Itâs easy to think weâll have more time later, but time moves fast, and before we know it, years have passed without progress.
I also understand why people avoid making choices, because Iâve done it too. Sometimes weâre afraid of picking the wrong option, so we convince ourselves that waiting is better. Other times, we donât want to take responsibility in case things go wrong. And then thereâs the belief that we have all the time in the world, but thatâs an illusion. The truth is, the longer we wait, the fewer options we have.
Takeaways
What Iâve learned is that even a bad decision is often better than no decision at all. When I finally started taking control of my career, my health, and my finances, things didnât change overnight, but they started moving in the right direction. The key is to stop waiting for the perfect moment and just take one small step. If youâre stuck in a job you donât like, start by updating your resume. If your health is suffering, make one simple change today. If a relationship isnât working, have that hard conversation.I challenge you to think about one area of your life where you feel stuck. Whatâs one small action you can take today? It doesnât have to be hugeâjust something to move you forward. Iâd love to hear from you about the choices youâre facing. You can email me at jillatstartwithsmallsteps.com or leave a comment on YouTube. Remember, doing nothing is still a choiceâso why not choose to take control?
https://startwithsmallsteps.com/219-no-choice-is-a-choice/
Jillâs Links
https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com
https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJilldayhttps://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI
https://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallstepspodcast
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod
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218 - Solve the Right Problem
In todayâs episode, Iâm sharing something that completely changed my lifeâlearning to solve the right problem. For years, I kept hitting the same roadblocks, whether it was with my weight, finances, or personal goals. No matter how much effort I put in, nothing seemed to work. And then I realizedâI was solving the wrong problem.
Instead of focusing on what really needed fixing, I was throwing solutions at the wrong issues. Buying gym equipment didnât solve my weight loss struggles. Cutting back on small purchases didnât fix my income problem. It wasnât until I stepped back, got clear on what the real issues were, and tackled them head-on that I finally started making progress.
If youâve ever felt stuckâtrying everything but never seeing resultsâthis episode is for you. Iâll walk you through practical steps to help you figure out whatâs really holding you back and how to finally move forward.
1. The Trap of Solving the Wrong Problem
I share my personal experience of spinning my wheels for years, fixing surface-level issues instead of the actual root cause. I use the example of fixing the brakes on a broken-down car when the real issue is the engineâno matter what you do, you wonât get anywhere.2. Defining Your Problem Clearly
One of the biggest mistakes people make is setting vague goals like âI want to lose weightâ or âI need to save money.â Thatâs too broad! I talk about how breaking problems down into specific, actionable pieces leads to real solutions.3. Using the Five Whys to Get to the Root Cause
Ever feel like youâre treating symptoms instead of the real issue? I explain how asking why five times can reveal whatâs actually stopping you from making progress. This method helped me understand that my struggles with exercise werenât about needing gym equipmentâthey were about my habits and motivation.4. Identifying Patterns That Keep You Stuck
I used to think my financial struggles were because of big expenses, but when I started tracking my spending, I realized it was small, recurring purchases that were draining my bank account. I talk about how identifying patternsârather than focusing on one-time mistakesâcan help you see whatâs really going wrong.5. Focusing on What You Can Control
I canât control my genetics or my past financial mistakes, but I can control what I eat, how often I move, and how I budget my money. In this section, I help you shift your focus toward the things you actually can change.6. Testing Small Before Going All In
Before making a big commitment, test a small version first! I share why I should have tried a short-term gym membership before buying expensive equipment. The same logic applies to career changesâif you want to start a business, try freelancing first instead of quitting your job overnight.7. Tracking Data Instead of Relying on Feelings
I used to think I barely spent any money, but my spending journal told a different story. I also thought I wasnât overeatingâuntil I started tracking my food. I explain how keeping a journal or log can reveal the truth behind your habits.8. Imagining Future Consequences
One of the most powerful exercises I use is asking myself, What happens if I donât solve this problem? If I donât start exercising now, will I still be able to hike and travel when I retire? If I donât fix my finances, will I have enough to live on later? Thinking about my future self has helped me prioritize the most important changes.9. Learning from People Who Have Been There
I didnât figure all of this out on my ownâI learned from others. Whether itâs books, podcasts, or mentors, I talk about how studying people who have solved similar problems can help you fast-track your progress.Key Takeaways:
âïž Define the real problem â Get specific instead of setting vague goals.
âïž Use the Five Whys â Dig deep to find the root cause of your struggles.
âïž Look at patterns, not just one-time mistakes â Track your habits to see whatâs really happening.
âïž Focus on what you can control â Stop wasting energy on things outside your influence.
âïž Test before committing â Small experiments can prevent big regrets.
âïž Track data, not feelings â Journaling helps you make smarter decisions.
âïž Think about your future self â Will you regret not fixing this later?
âïž Learn from others â Find mentors, books, or resources that can guide you.
âïž Start small, but start today â You donât have to fix everything at once. Just take the first step.Final Thoughts:
If youâre feeling stuck, I want you to ask yourself: Am I solving the right problem?Once I started focusing on the real obstacles in my life, everything changed. My weight loss journey became more effective, my finances improved, and I stopped wasting time on things that didnât matter.
I hope this episode helps you start thinking differently about the challenges in your life. If you enjoyed it, please share it with a friend who might need it!
https://startwithsmallsteps.com/218-solve-the-right-problem-how-to-break-free-from-repeated-failures/
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217 - Weâre All Walking Contradictions
Hey everyone, itâs Jill from the Northwoods! In this episode, Iâm sharing one of the biggest lessons Iâve learned in life: every strength has a weakness, and every weakness has a hidden strength. Understanding this has helped me navigate relationships, improve my leadership skills, and find more balance in my life.Iâll take you through personal storiesâlike how my ability to build strong teams made me a great leader but held me back in tough negotiations. Iâll also break down common traits like confidence, empathy, ambition, and adaptability, showing how they can either work for us or against us. And, of course, Iâll share practical strategies for self-awareness, personal growth, and embracing our full selves.
1. Weâre All a Coin â Strengths and Weaknesses Are Connected
Iâve learned that no trait is entirely good or badâit all depends on context. Confidence can turn into arrogance, perfectionism can cause procrastination, and empathy can lead to emotional exhaustion. Recognizing this has helped me approach life with more balance and understanding.2. The Hidden Cost of Leaning Too Hard on Strengths
I share a personal experience from my tech career where my leadership style worked wellâuntil I had to handle tough contract negotiations. I was great at team-building but struggled with standing my ground in business. Learning to reframe my perspective helped me find a way to grow in an area that didnât come naturally to me.3. Finding Balance in Our Strengths and Weaknesses
We all tend to overuse certain traits, but self-awareness can help us adjust. Iâll share some of my favorite strategies, like journaling, seeking feedback, and partnering with people who complement our weaknesses.4. Giving Grace to Ourselves and Others
Itâs easy to get frustrated with people who think differently than we do. But when I started seeing people as complex individualsâwith both strengths and flawsâit changed how I approached relationships. Iâll share how we can extend more understanding and patience to ourselves and those around us.5. Practical Steps for Growth
Identify patterns in your own behavior â What strength do you overuse? Where do you struggle?
-Seek feedback â Ask people you trust to help you see your blind spots.
-Train the opposite skill â If youâre overly cautious, practice small risks. If youâre a perfectionist, challenge yourself to start before you feel âready.â
-Surround yourself with people who balance you out â A team or friendship built on complementary strengths is powerful.Takeaways
-We all have strengths and weaknesses, and they are often two sides of the same coin.
-Self-awareness is the first step to growthâjournaling, reflection, and feedback help us adjust.
-Context mattersâsometimes a strength can be a liability if used in the wrong way.
-Giving grace to ourselves and others makes life and relationships a lot easier.
-Growth is a processâno one is perfect, and thatâs okay.Your Challenge This Week
Take a moment to reflect on your own strengths and weaknesses. Ask yourself:Whatâs a strength I rely on too much?
Whatâs a weakness that actually benefits me in some way?
How can I find better balance in my life?
Iâd love to hear your thoughts! Email me at jillatstartwithsmallsteps.com or leave a comment. And if you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend who might need to hear it!đïž Thanks for listeningâI appreciate you, and Iâll see you next week!
https://startwithsmallsteps.com/217-were-all-walking-contradictions/
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216 - Feeling Overwhelmed? Start Small
Big goals are intimidating. But breaking them into smaller steps makes them achievable. Hereâs how:
Start With the Simplest Action
Instead of thinking about the entire project, focus on the tiniest, easiest step. If your goal is to clean your house, donât aim for perfection. Just throw out the trash. If you want to start exercising, do one push-up. The key is to start so small you canât possibly fail.Use the Snowball Effect
Once you complete a small task, youâll feel motivated to do another. This builds momentum. When I cleaned my childhood home, I started with the bathroom because it was small. That small success encouraged me to keep going.Make It a Habit
Small steps arenât just about getting things doneâtheyâre about forming habits. Productivity expert BJ Fogg recommends starting with "tiny habits" so small they become second nature. For example, if you want to floss daily, just start by flossing one tooth. Once the habit is established, it naturally expands.Adjust Based on Your Life
One of the best things about small steps is that they fit into any schedule. When I was busy with school and caregiving, my steps were extra tiny. During summer, I could do a little more. The key is consistency, not intensity.Stack Small Steps Over Time
Over time, small steps compound into big change. When I started focusing on weight loss, I didnât immediately jump into an intense fitness routine. Instead, I started walking more, eating slightly healthier, and making gradual adjustments. Now, Iâm in a much better placeâbecause I built my success in layers.Why Small Steps Work for Every Part of Life
The beauty of small steps is that they apply to anything:â Health & Fitness: Couch to 5K programs work by gradually increasing running time. Small steps make exercise sustainable.
â Cleaning & Organization: Cleaning one small area at a time prevents burnout and keeps spaces manageable.
â Work & Productivity: Tackling one email, one meeting, or one task at a time creates steady progress.
â Mental Health & Personal Growth: One mindful moment, one journal entry, or one deep breath can make all the difference.Life keeps moving while you take small steps. You donât have to put everything else on holdâyou can still enjoy hobbies, family, and rest while making steady progress toward your goals.
https://startwithsmallsteps.com/216-feeling-overwhelmed-start-small/
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215 - What Not to Do with ADHD
In this episode, we explore what not to do when managing ADHDâwhether itâs your own or that of someone you love. From handling distractions to avoiding harmful self-talk, this conversation is packed with practical strategies and insights. Learn how to set realistic expectations, build ADHD-friendly routines, and foster healthier relationships through understanding and collaboration.
The Scottie Method for Time Management
Inspired by Star Trek, the Scottie Method encourages you to overestimate the time a task might take. This approach helps reframe successes as wins rather than failures, especially when projects take longer than expected.Eat the Frog or Eat the Cake?
We break down the difference between tackling hard tasks first (âeating the frogâ) versus starting with easier wins (âeating the cakeâ). The best strategy depends on your energy levels and when youâre most focused during the day.Managing Distractions
ADHD and distractions go hand in hand. Learn how to block time-wasting websites, create a focused workspace, and find stimulating yet non-distracting ways to stay engaged.Building ADHD-Friendly Routines
Routines may feel stifling, but they reduce decision fatigue and free up mental energy for more important tasks. We discuss how setting small daily habits can lead to greater productivity and stability.Supporting Someone With ADHD
We delve into the importance of understanding and patience when supporting someone with ADHD. Criticism, unrealistic expectations, or piling on tasks often backfires. Instead, focus on collaboration and leveraging strengths.Takeaways
âSet Yourself Up for Success: Use tools like timers, focus apps, and checklists to combat forgetfulness and stay organized.
âAvoid Perfectionism: Aim to complete tasks rather than striving for perfection every timeâitâs about progress, not flawless results.
âAsk for Help: Donât be afraid to lean on others for tasks that donât align with your strengths. Collaboration can improve both productivity and relationships.
âLimit Overcommitment: Learn to say ânoâ when needed to avoid burnout and spread yourself too thin.
âUnderstand ADHD Strengths: ADHD brains bring creativity, problem-solving, and energy. Embrace these qualities while finding systems to manage weaknesses.A Note for Caregivers and Loved Ones
If youâre supporting someone with ADHD, take the time to ask questions, offer help in areas they struggle with, and celebrate their strengths. Building a supportive relationship creates a foundation for growth and mutual understanding.https://startwithsmallsteps.com/adhd-survival-guide-what-not-to-do/
Jillâs Links
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https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJilldayhttps://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI
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214 - Unlocking ADHD Superpowers
In this episode, Iâm sharing how Iâve learned to see my ADHD not as a struggle, but as a set of superpowers that help me succeed in life. Growing up, I faced a lot of misunderstandings about what ADHD really is, but over time, I discovered that the way my brain works gives me unique strengths. From hyperfocus to creativity and resilience, Iâll talk about the positive sides of ADHD and how Iâve learned to lean into them. If you've ever felt like ADHD was holding you back, this episode is for you.
Hyperfocus â My Secret Weapon for Productivity
One of the biggest strengths of my ADHD is hyperfocus. When Iâm interested in something, I can tune out the world and get lost in it for hours. Whether it's working on my podcast, organizing my YouTube channel, or diving into a creative project, my hyperfocus allows me to accomplish a ton in a short period of time. But Iâve also learned that itâs important to direct that focus towards the right thingsâsomething I still work on every day.Creativity â Thinking Outside the Box
My ADHD brain is always bursting with ideas. Whether itâs finding new ways to solve problems, coming up with creative content, or brainstorming fresh approaches, I see the world differently. This creativity has helped me stand out in my career and personal life, and Iâve found ways to harness it by writing down my ideas and revisiting them when I need inspiration.Resilience â Bouncing Back from Challenges
Living with ADHD means constantly facing obstacles, from forgetfulness to impulsivity. But over the years, Iâve developed a level of resilience that helps me push through and keep going. Iâve learned how to adapt quickly and find solutions, even when things donât go as planned. This ability to pivot and stay flexible has been one of my greatest assets.High Energy â Embracing Enthusiasm
I have a lot of energy, and when Iâm excited about something, I go all in. My enthusiasm helps me tackle projects, connect with people, and stay motivated. Whether it's work, hobbies, or new challenges, I bring a level of passion and excitement that keeps me moving forward. Of course, Iâve learned to manage this energy by balancing it with rest and mindfulness when needed.Emotional Awareness â Understanding People on a Deeper Level
While ADHD can sometimes make me seem distracted, Iâm actually very intuitive and emotionally aware. I pick up on subtle social cues and care deeply about the people around me. My ability to connect with others and offer support has become one of my strongest qualities, even if I donât always show it in conventional ways.Takeaways:
-ADHD comes with incredible strengths like hyperfocus, creativity, and resilience.
-Learning to work with my ADHD instead of against it has been life-changing.
-Finding the right balance between energy and focus is key to success.
-Support from friends and understanding my own needs has made a big difference in how I manage ADHD in everyday life.Join me in this episode as I celebrate the superpowers of ADHD and share tips on how you can harness yours too!
Jillâs Links
https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com
https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJilldayhttps://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI
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213 - ADHD Roadmap to Victories
In this episode, I share my personal journey of managing ADHD and turning its challenges into strengths. From my chaotic childhood to my organized adult life, I discuss the tools, habits, and strategies that have helped me succeed. Along the way, I highlight the importance of small steps, incremental change, and embracing ADHD as a unique way of thinking. Whether youâre navigating your own ADHD journey or supporting someone who is, this episode is filled with practical insights and encouragement to help you thrive.
Recognizing ADHD Struggles
I talk about how ADHD affected me growing up in a disorganized home with minimal support. From procrastination to time blindness, I highlight the key challenges I faced and how they shaped my early approach to school and life.The Power of Small Steps
Breaking big tasks into smaller, actionable steps changed everything for me. I explain how focusing on one step at a time helped me tackle overwhelming projects like research papers and big deadlines.Tools and Technology That Changed My Life
From Todoist to Notion, I dive into the digital tools that have brought structure and clarity to my life. I share how I use time blocking, color-coded notes, and multiple reminders to stay on track.Managing Emotions and Impulsivity
I explore techniques Iâve used to handle emotional responses and impulsive tendencies. Whether itâs pausing before reacting or waiting before making a purchase, these strategies have helped me gain control over my decisions.Turning ADHD into a Strength
Instead of seeing ADHD as a limitation, Iâve learned to use its unique traits, like hyperfocus and creativity, to my advantage. I discuss how reframing ADHD as a strength has improved my work, relationships, and overall happiness.Takeaways
-Small Changes Make a Big Impact: Start by making one or two small adjustments, like organizing your workspace or adopting a digital task manager.
-Experiment with Tools: Find apps, routines, and strategies that work for your lifestyle, and donât be afraid to tweak them as needed.
-Leverage Your Strengths: ADHD comes with unique advantages, such as creativity and energy. Recognize these and use them to your benefit.
-Embrace Accountability: Tie your goals to others, whether itâs a friend, coworker, or coach. Accountability can keep you motivated and on track.
-Be Kind to Yourself: Managing ADHD is a journey. Progress takes time, but with persistence, itâs possible to thrive.https://startwithsmallsteps.com/213-adhd-roadmap-to-victories/
Jillâs Links
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https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJilldayhttps://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI
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Living with ADHD: My Journey to Understanding
In this episode, I open up about my personal journey with ADHD, a condition thatâs been both a challenge and a unique part of who I am. From my restless childhood to my career as an adult navigating deadlines, relationships, and responsibilities, I share the ups, downs, and surprising discoveries Iâve made along the way. ADHD isnât just about being distracted or hyperâitâs about learning how to manage a brain that works a little differently. Iâll take you through what itâs like to live with ADHD, what Iâve learned about myself, and how Iâve found strategies that actually work.
- What ADHD Feels Like from the Inside:
I describe what it was like growing up with ADHD before I even knew what it was. From constant fidgeting to disappearing into my "happy place," I share how these traits shaped my childhood and how I learned to navigate them.- Hyperfocus, Inattention, and Time Blindness:
ADHD isnât just about being easily distracted. I dive into how hyperfocus and time blindness have impacted my lifeâsometimes helping me achieve big things and other times making me feel stuck.- The Emotional Side of ADHD:
The frustration of being labeled âlazyâ or âunfocusedâ when I was really trying my best weighed heavily on me. I talk about how those feelings affected my self-esteem and how Iâve worked to reframe my relationship with ADHD.- Tools and Strategies That Changed My Life:
I share how tools like planners, apps, and external accountability helped me find structure in the chaos. These strategies didnât just make my life easierâthey helped me embrace my strengths.Takeaways:
1. Youâre Not Alone in This: ADHD looks different for everyone, but the struggles are real and shared. Thereâs no shame in seeking help or finding creative ways to cope.
2. Small Steps Lead to Big Changes: Whether itâs setting up a simple to-do list or finding a supportive community, small actions can create meaningful progress.
3. Focus on What Works for You: From embracing technology to leaning into what motivates me, Iâve learned that itâs about finding solutions that fit your lifeânot trying to mold yourself into someone elseâs idea of ânormal.âClosing Thoughts:
I hope my story inspires you to rethink how you approach ADHDâwhether itâs your own or someone elseâs. Itâs not about âfixingâ yourself; itâs about finding what works and creating a life that fits you. If youâd like to share your story or ask me questions, email me at [email protected]. Letâs navigate this journey together!
https://startwithsmallsteps.com/living-with-adhd-my-journey-to-understanding/Jillâs Links
https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com
https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJilldayhttps://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI
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211 - Why Scroogeâs Transformation Resonates Today
In this festive episode, we explore the timeless themes and moral lessons of Charles Dickens' A Christmas Carol. From Ebenezer Scrooge's dramatic transformation to the significance of generosity, community, and self-reflection, this story has much to teach us about living meaningful lives. Join us as we break down the pivotal moments of the tale, reflect on its modern applications, and celebrate the enduring charm of this holiday classic.
The Story of Ebenezer Scrooge
We unpack the journey of a man who transforms from a cold-hearted miser to a generous soul after being visited by three spirits. Scroogeâs path from selfishness to selflessness serves as a powerful reminder that change is always possible.The Three Ghosts and Their Symbolism
Discover the roles of the Ghosts of Christmas Past, Present, and Yet to Come. Each spirit challenges Scrooge to reflect on his life, confront his choices, and consider the legacy he wishes to leave behind.Dickens' Social Commentary
Learn how Charles Dickens used A Christmas Carol to address social issues of Victorian England, from poverty to the plight of factory workers, and how these themes resonate in today's world.Applying the Lessons to Modern Life
Whether itâs embracing generosity, fostering relationships, or reflecting on our own lives, the lessons of A Christmas Carol remain profoundly relevant. We discuss actionable ways to carry the storyâs spirit into our daily routines.Takeaways:
-Redemption is always possible. Scroogeâs transformation shows that with self-reflection and effort, we can change our lives for the better.
-Generosity is a gift that multiplies. Helping others enriches not only their lives but also ours, fostering deeper connections and purpose.
-Time is precious. Whether itâs spending time with loved ones or using our days to make meaningful contributions, A Christmas Carol reminds us to value the present.
-Ignorance and want must be addressed. Dickensâ warning about societal neglect remains crucialâeducation and support for the vulnerable are more important than ever.Closing Thoughts:
This episode highlights why A Christmas Carol continues to inspire readers and viewers after nearly two centuries. Its message of compassion and transformation reminds us that the true spirit of Christmasâand life itselfâlies in kindness, love, and redemption.Let the timeless story of Scrooge encourage you to embrace the joy and generosity of the holiday season, and carry that spirit with you all year long.
https://startwithsmallsteps.com/211-why-scrooges-transformation-resonates-today/
Jillâs Linkshttps://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com
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210 - Turning Lemons into Success
In this episode, we dive into the inspiring ideas presented in Zach Friedmanâs book, The Lemonade Life: How to Create Success, Create Happiness, and Conquer Anything. We explore how self-awareness, resilience, and purposeful action can transform your life. From breaking free of the comparison trap to experimenting with new ideas, Friedmanâs insights provide a fresh perspective on building a fulfilling life. If youâve ever felt stuck or unsure how to achieve your goals, this episode offers practical steps to help you move forward.
Escaping the Joneses Trap
One of the first lessons in The Lemonade Life is breaking free from the cycle of comparison. Trying to "keep up with the Joneses" often leads to dissatisfaction, as we rarely see the full picture of others' lives. Instead of chasing external validation, Friedman urges us to focus inward and align our actions with what truly matters to us.The Importance of Self-Awareness
Friedman emphasizes the critical role of self-awareness in achieving happiness and success. By asking ourselves questions like "What makes me happy?" and "What unique talents can I share with the world?" we can create a life that feels authentic and rewarding. This section of the podcast discusses practical steps to cultivate self-awareness and align it with your goals.Life as an Experiment
Success rarely follows a straight line. Friedman suggests treating life as an experiment, where failures and missteps are opportunities to learn and grow. We explore how trying new approaches, analyzing results, and adjusting your strategies can pave the way for personal and professional breakthroughs.Navigating Life with a Compass
Instead of relying on rigid plans, Friedman advocates for using a compass to guide your direction. This metaphorical compass helps you stay true to your North Starâyour values and long-term goalsâwhile adapting to lifeâs inevitable twists and turns. In this segment, we discuss how a compass-based mindset encourages flexibility and resilience.Committing to Plan A
One of Friedmanâs boldest ideas is abandoning the safety net of Plan B. While this doesnât mean taking reckless risks, it emphasizes the power of fully committing to your primary goal. We discuss how focusing on Plan A allows you to channel your energy and creativity into making your dreams a reality.Key Takeaways:
-Stop comparing your life to others and start focusing on your unique path.
-Self-awareness is the foundation of successâdiscover what truly matters to you.
-Life is a series of experiments; embrace failure as part of the process.
-Use a compass to navigate your journey, focusing on direction rather than a fixed path.
-Commit fully to your primary goal and avoid diluting your efforts with fallback plans.
Final Thoughts:The Lemonade Life isnât about reaching a perfect destinationâitâs about enjoying the journey, learning from challenges, and celebrating small wins along the way. Take a moment to reflect on your personal compass. Whatâs ahead of you? What lessons have you learned from your past? What inspires you, and what holds you back?
If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, share it with friends, and leave a comment. For questions or feedback, reach out to us at [email protected]. Letâs keep turning lifeâs lemons into success and happiness, one step at a time.
https://startwithsmallsteps.com/210-turning-lemons-into-success/
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