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Episode Summary:
In this powerful episode, Rita unpacks the psychological and spiritual threshold we all face in the “messy middle” the in-between phase of desiring change but feeling frozen in fear. Drawing from real-life examples, nervous system science, and transformational coaching, she shares how to move from fear to aligned action using three life-changing tools.
Whether you're standing in the doorway of your next chapter or circling your vision with doubt, this episode gives you the clarity and courage to take the next step forward—messy middle and all.
Top 5 Takeaways:Liminality = The Messy Middle
It’s the transitional space between your old self and your new self
Fight, Flight, or Freeze Isn’t Just for Gazelles
Humans stay frozen in survival mode because our perception keeps our nervous system activated long after the threat is gone.
Tool #1: The 90-Second Rule
Allow yourself to feel fear fully for 90 seconds, then ask: “What would I do if I trusted myself right now?”
Tool #2: Future Self Journaling
Write daily as your future self—what you decide, think, and no longer tolerate
Tool #3: Flip Fear with a New Question
When fear masquerades as logic, ask: “What if it works better than I imagined?” and choose faith over fearTime Stamps:
03:10 The concept of liminality and standing in the threshold
07:20 Nervous system dysregulation and how humans freeze
10:00 Why you can’t “figure it out” from a fear-based mind
12:40 External excuses (economy, market, etc.) and reclaiming agency
21:30 Tool #1 – The 90-Second Rule for emotional release
24:00 Tool #2 – Future Self Journaling + daily prompts
29:10 Tool #3 – Fear masquerading as logic and how to flip it
33:10 How we unconsciously justify playing small
40:30 Reframing “I’m stuck” and rewriting your internal storyResources & Next Steps:
✨ Wealth & Wisdom Coaching Program Starts May 14th!!
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Episode Summary:
In this episode, Rita unpacks why you keep circling the same goals but don’t make real progress—and spoiler alert: it’s not because you’re lazy. It’s because your brain is running old programs designed for survival, not success. Rita explains the psychology behind self-sabotage, introduces her three powerful tools for creating momentum, and invites you to take radical ownership of your focus, identity, and habits—one small step at a time.Top 5 Takeaways:
You're not broken—you're running a "competing intention."The brain is wired for survival, not success.Clarity + Accountability > Hustle.Focus creates evidence; evidence rewires belief.You don’t rise to the level of your goals—you fall to the level of your patterns.Time Stamps:
09:08 The unconscious vs. resourced self—and what both really want
13:47 The problem with past programming and why we stay small
18:51 Personal story: bullying, self-worth, and identity healing
23:40 How we gas-brake our goals (and fool ourselves doing it)
26:01 Tool #1: The Focus Formula – commit to one result this week
32:00 Tool #2: Daily Evidence List – track one momentum action/day
38:54 Tool #3: Habit Stacking – drop the old stackers, build new ones
40:40 Reality vs. expectation: bridge the gap with aligned strategy
Resources & Next Steps:
Free Q&A Call – Wed, May 7, 2025 at 4 PM PST
Wealth & Wisdom Program – Kicks off May 14, 2025
Facebook Community – Real Talk with Rita Marie Mendez
The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks
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Episode 45 – Interview with Jasmyn Jefferson on Around the Block
In this episode, Rita is interviewed on the Around the Block podcast by Jasmine Jefferson, former president of Tacoma Pierce County Association of Realtors. Recorded after Rita's keynote workshop, this candid conversation dives deep into mindset, success in real estate, emotional healing, and showing up authentically—especially for women in male-dominated industries.
Top 5 Takeaways:
Mindset Creates Your Reality—Good or Bad.
Your beliefs become thoughts, your thoughts become actions. Whether you're building a million-dollar business or burning it down, it all starts in the mind.Give Yourself 24 Hours, Then Shift.
Feel the disappointment, the fear, the funk—then choose to move forward. Staying stuck is just familiar, not safe.Success Without Inner Peace Will Still Break You.
Rita’s story of making—and losing—a million proves that mindset and emotional healing matter more than money.Authenticity Over Approval.
Strong women will always trigger someone. Your job isn’t to fit in—it’s to be aligned and unapologetically you.Real Transformation Blends Science & Soul.
From somatic breathwork to nervous system regulation to rewiring limiting beliefs, this isn’t woo—it’s how real change happens.Timestamps:
[02:00] – “I made a million dollars—and then lost it all.”
Rita shares the raw truth behind her entrepreneurial rise and fall.[06:45] – How she became the first non-agent MAPS coach at Keller Williams.
A bold pivot fueled by purpose and persistence.[10:00] – The 'wedding and funeral' reality of real estate.
Why mindset—not strategy—is what determines success.[13:00] – “Give yourself 24 hours. Then choose again.”
A game-changing emotional reset rule for when life hits hard.[17:45] – Why your brain argues for your limitations.
The science behind playing small—and how to stop.[22:00] – Real talk on feminine energy, burnout, and showing up fully.
Why so many women in real estate are exhausted and how to shift out of it.Resources & Next Steps:
Around The Block Podcast with Host, Jasmyn Jefferson
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Summary:
In this powerful episode of Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life for Radical Success, Rita dives deep into the connection between self-abandonment and financial freedom. She challenges listeners to recognize the ways they undervalue themselves, overcommit, and tolerate scarcity—whether in their finances, relationships, or daily lives. Rita shares practical tools to shift from scarcity thinking to abundance, explaining how structural tension plays a key role in breaking cycles of under-earning and over-giving.
If you've ever struggled with undercharging, over-delivering, or feeling stuck in financial struggle, this episode is packed with insights to help you reclaim your worth and step into abundance.
Key Topics & Takeaways:
Self-Abandonment & Scarcity: How self-betrayal leads to financial struggle and lack in other areas of life.The Difference Between Tolerance & Acceptance: Learning to set boundaries instead of tolerating things that drain you.Structural Tension & The Gap: Understanding the space between where you are and where you want to be—and why that discomfort is key to transformation.The Holding Frequency of Money: How unconscious beliefs shape how much money you hold onto or let slip away.Breaking Scarcity Cycles: Shifting from over-giving, undercharging, and fearing rejection to confidently owning your value.Tools for Rewiring Scarcity Thinking:Radical self-honesty: Identifying where you're tolerating lack.Stopping over-giving and learning to receive.Mindfulness in catching scarcity thoughts.Holding frequency: Getting comfortable with wealth.Leaning into tension instead of running from it.Timestamps:
00:32 – Introduction: Self-abandonment and financial freedom03:00 – Episode Affirmation11:45 – Why tolerating something is not the same as accepting it15:20 – Structural tension: The key to shifting from scarcity to abundance20:10 – The holding frequency of money: Why money seems to disappear25:45 – Signs of being stuck in a scarcity cycle31:20 – Five tools to break free from self-abandonment and step into abundance38:55 – Closing thoughts: One action step to shift your financial reality todayResources & Next Steps:
Click Here: Wealth & Wisdom Group – Starting April 16, 2025!
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Summary:
Why do we chase external validation? How does it erode confidence and keep us stuck? In this episode, Rita breaks down the hidden cost of seeking approval and explains how to shift into self-ownership. She shares personal experiences, asks powerful reflection questions, and provides practical tools to stop chasing and start embodying your worth.
Reflection Questions:
Where in your life are you chasing validation?What would change if you gave yourself the approval you’re seeking?How would you walk into a room if you already felt valid?Timestamps:
04:15 – How the “high need to be seen as” keeps you trapped
07:40 – Rita’s personal experience: The pressure to appear like she had it all together
10:10 – The question that changes everything: What if you already felt valid?
13:35 – Chasing vs. standing in confidence: The energy shift that changes everything
14:57 – Childhood programming & the drive for approval
18:16 – Why external approval is fleeting and impossible to control
22:49 – The real impact of over-giving & over-performing
27:39 – How to know when you're seeking validation (& what to do instead)
32:25 – Audit your motives: Are you doing this for you or for approval?
37:14 – The moment you stop chasing approval, you reclaim your power
39:30 – Reflection questions & final takeawaysResources & Next Steps:
Click Here: Wealth & Wisdom Group – Starting March 26, 2025!
DM Rita on Instagram (@RitaMarieMendez) with a topic you'd love to hear her coach on.
Private Facebook Group:
Live trainings, challenges, and real-time coaching!
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Join us in Wednesday February 26, 2025!
Vision II Workshop:
Wednesday, February 26, 2025 | 4–6 PM PST
$22 (free for past attendees)
[Link to register]
DM Rita on Instagram for a coupon code if you need support joiningSummary:
In this episode, Rita dives into the power of choice—whether you’re feeding your dreams or recycling old stories that keep you stuck. She shares insights about how triggers are actually signs of growth, not obstacles, and walks you through the exact questions to ask when you feel stuck. Rita gets personal about her own recent breakthrough, emphasizing how saying yes to your next level can transform everything.
This episode is an invitation to step into possibility, challenge the narratives holding you back, and choose expansion over comfort.
Key Takeaways:
The Crossroads Metaphor: Old path vs. new path Why triggers are signs you're uplevelingHow childhood beliefs shape adult fears Reparenting yourself through moments of doubt Choice: Dreams vs. DenialTimestamps:
04:45 – The Math Path Metaphor: How repetition builds new beliefs
07:13 – Triggers as indicators of growth
09:31 – Childhood survival strategies and emotional development
11:56 – How unprocessed experiences resurface in adulthood
14:24 – Rita's personal story: How saying "yes" changed everything
21:24 – Are you working hard or just keeping busy?
23:40 – Reparenting the wounded parts of yourself
28:28 – Emotional mastery and integrating past experiences
35:38 – Fear vs. Love: Which are you choosing?
42:42 – The Coin Meditation: A symbolic "yes" to the unknownResources:
3 Questions to ask yourself when triggered:
What is this really about?What old story is this tied to?Is this actually true?Vision II Workshop:
Wednesday, February 26, 2025 | 4–6 PM PST
$22 (free for past attendees)
[Link to register]
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Private Facebook Group:
Live trainings, challenges, and real-time coaching!
[Link to join]Book Recommendation: Worthy by Jamie Kern Lima
A transformative read on worthiness and stepping into your power
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Summary:
In this episode, Rita dives into the common mental traps that keep us stuck—fear, scarcity, and limiting stories. She breaks down how childhood experiences shape core beliefs that impact everything from our relationships to our bank accounts. Through the lens of different levels of consciousness, she explores how shifting perception can move you from victimhood to empowerment, and ultimately, into abundance. If you've ever struggled with receiving, felt like life was working against you, or wanted to shift your mindset for real success, this is the episode for you.
Key Takeaways:
Your beliefs shape your reality, but most of them come from childhood wounds—not truth.Fear and scarcity limit your ability to receive more money, love, and success.Ask yourself: What is enough? Defining this brings clarity and freedom.There are four levels of awareness: To me (victim mode), For me (growth mode), By me (creator mode), and Through me (receiving mode).Shifting your perception is the key to unlocking more abundance in all areas of life.Breaking out of the Drama Triangle starts with awareness and choosing empowerment.Timestamps:
03:40 – The energy of story, fear, and scarcity: How they shape our reality
06:52 – What is "enough"? How defining this changes everything
14:04 – The 4 Levels of Awareness: From victimhood to empowerment
20:32 – Women and receiving: Why it’s time to open up to abundance
28:05 – How to break free from the Drama Triangle and step into empowerment
33:40 – Final thoughts: How to shift perception and expand your ability to receive
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Resources & Next Steps:Thank you for listening! If this resonated with you, subscribe and leave a review. Let’s raise the consciousness of the planet—one shift at a time. 💫✨
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Summary:
In this episode of Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life for Radical Success, Rita dives deep into the concepts of potential vs. kinetic energy and how these ideas can help you move past limiting beliefs into action. You'll discover practical tools for identifying and reframing the stories that keep you stuck, gain insights into how core beliefs are formed, and learn how to create small steps that build unstoppable momentum toward your dreams.
What you’ll learn:
How to recognize limiting beliefs and reframe themThe difference between potential and kinetic energy (and how to apply these ideas to your life)Simple action steps to turn stored energy into real momentumThe power of awareness and present-moment mindfulnessPersonal stories and practical tools to help you shift your mindsetTimestamps:
[02:23] Limiting beliefs [07:04] The concept of potential vs. kinetic energy explained[11:54] The power of awareness: catching yourself in the moment[18:53] Tools for reframing limiting beliefs and taking action [23:41] Building momentum with small actions[28:12] Personal story: how core beliefs are formed and how to overcome them[32:52] Final thoughts and invitation to join Wealth & WisdomResources Mentioned:
Byron Katie’s The Work – thework.com
Click Here: Wealth & Wisdom Group – Starting March 26, 2025
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Summary:
In this powerful first New Year episode, Rita guides listeners through a process of identifying and releasing limiting beliefs, negative thought patterns, and codependent behaviors that no longer serve them. She explores how these patterns are often rooted in childhood experiences and societal programming. Rita shares practical tools for forgiveness, self-reflection, and creating empowering new beliefs. She also recites the beautiful and thought-provoking poem “There’s a Hole in My Sidewalk” by Portia Nelson, offering it as a metaphor for transformation. Tune in to start your 2025 with clarity, courage, and empowered action!
Timestamps:
[02:20] Why We Hold Ourselves Back
Understanding the meaning we assign to events and how it shapes our behaviors (people-pleasing, perfectionism, etc.).[09:30] The Power of Self-Awareness
[14:20] Shifting Limiting Beliefs and Taking Ownership
[26:10] Forgiveness as Freedom
Rita’s unique take on forgiveness & the Ho’oponopono process for releasing resentment.[33:10] Practical Tools for Releasing What No Longer Serves You
[40:20] Poem: “There’s a Hole in My Sidewalk” by Portia Nelson
A beautiful metaphor for personal transformation and self-awareness.[43:00] Closing Thoughts: Start 2025 with Clarity and Courage
Key Takeaways:
Identify limiting beliefs: Many of these beliefs are rooted in childhood experiences and societal conditioning.Awareness is the first step: Recognizing patterns of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and judgment allows you to begin shifting them.Forgiveness is freedom: Forgiving yourself and others releases you from negative energy and limiting beliefs.Resources:
2025 Vision Workshop - Date: Wednesday, January 29, 4-6 PM PST
Registration is open! CLICK HERE TO REGISTERThis live workshop will help you get clear on your goals and create an actionable plan for 2025!
NEW! - Meditation on Manifesting Abundance CLICK HERECLICK HERE: Mastermind Waitlist - A high-vibe group for women entrepreneurs ready to step into their next version emotionally, spiritually, and financially.Portia Nelson’s Poem: “There’s a Hole in My Sidewalk”Louise Hay’s Affirmation - From “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise HayHo’oponopono Forgiveness Process: Ho’oponopono Guided Practice on YouTube A traditional Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness.Please be sure to tag me @RitaMarieMendez on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this episode! I'd love to hear about your experience!
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Summary
In this episode Rita dives deep into the powerful and transformational concept of the Drama Triangle. She explores how unconscious cycles of victimhood, rescuing, and bullying hold us back in relationships, business, and our internal dialogue. Through personal anecdotes, coaching examples, and actionable tools, Rita guides listeners on how to shift from these disempowered roles into the Empowerment Triangle, where we become creators, coaches, and challengers. This episode is a must-listen for anyone ready to release blame, shame, and self-sabotaging patterns to step into radical responsibility and joy.
Timestamps
0:00 - Welcome and Introduction
1:30 - Why the Drama Triangle Matters: Breaking Dysfunctional Cycles
3:45 - The Weight of Negative Self-Talk and Stories We Carry
8:30 - Rita’s Journey: From Lack and Scarcity to Abundance
13:10 - The Drama Triangle Explained: Victim, Rescuer, Bully
17:55 - Coaching Example: A Mother and Daughter Dynamic in the Drama Triangle
22:30 - How Victimhood and Rescuing Play Out in Our Relationships
29:30 - Negative Internal Dialogue: Blame, Judgments, and Self-Sabotage
36:40 - Conscious Choice: Shifting from Reacting to Responding
38:00 - The Empowerment Triangle: Co-Creator, Coach, Challenger
41:20 - Using Challenges as Opportunities for Growth
46:00 - Leadership Skills and Emotional Mastery
50:30 - Advancing Consciousness: Healing Your Patterns to Heal the World
53:00 - Final Takeaways and Action StepsKey Takeaways
The Drama Triangle Roles:Victim: Feeling powerless and stuck.Rescuer: Overstepping boundaries to "fix" others.Bully: Judging, shaming, or blaming self or others.The Empowerment Triangle:Shift from victim to creator (ownership and solutions).Move from rescuer to coach (support without enabling).Transform from bully to challenger (seeing challenges as opportunities for growth).The Power of Conscious Choice:Pause, breathe, and reflect when triggered.Respond instead of reacting: E + R = O (Event + Response = Outcome).Self-Awareness Leads to Freedom:Notice where you show up as victim, rescuer, or bully in your relationships and self-talk.Take radical responsibility for your patterns and choices.Growth Heals the World:Every time you shift into empowerment, you heal yourself and contribute to the collective consciousness.Ready to break free from blame and step into your empowered self? I’m now accepting applications for 1:1 coaching! Head over to my website at https://www.ritamarieconsulting.com to book a call and take the first step toward radical transformation.
Let’s grow together, one empowered choice at a time. 🌟
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Episode Summary:
In this episode of The Stop Bending Over Podcast, Rita explores the transformative power of self-awareness, integrity, and radical honesty in leadership and personal growth. She shares personal stories about standing in integrity, taking responsibility, and reframing negative meanings assigned to life experiences. The focus is on how shifting perceptions and embracing accountability can lead to breakthroughs in business and personal life. Practical steps and reflective questions are provided to help listeners embody their highest potential and take quantum leaps toward success.
In This Episode:
The importance of integrity and radical honesty in leadership and life.How blaming and complaining keep you stuck in the Drama Triangle.The role of meaning-making in shaping your reality.Practical steps for reframing negative stories and stepping into accountability.Embodying your highest self to achieve quantum leaps in growth and success.Practical Steps:
Identify where you are assigning negative meaning.Reframe limiting beliefs with empowering perspectives.Take ownership of your results as proof of your commitments.Develop a daily habit of pausing and asking, "What meaning am I giving this, and is it serving me?"Reflection Questions for Listeners:
Where in your life are you blaming or complaining?How can you reclaim your power by taking responsibility for your role in the situation?What old story about yourself or someone else is holding you back?What would it look like to let go of that story?How can you embody the next iteration of your highest self today?Resources:
Journal Prompt: "What meaning am I giving this, and is it serving me?"Journal Prompt: "Where am I holding onto an old story about myself or someone else, and what would it look like to let that story go?"For coaching inquiries: Visit [Rita's Website] or schedule a call.
[00:00] - Opening quote by George Bernard Shaw: The true joy of life.[01:02] - Introduction and personal updates.[03:21] - The significance of radical honesty and taking responsibility.[05:45] - Recognizing triggers and reframing negative experiences.[09:35] - Choosing higher integrity to unlock business and personal growth.[12:39] - Sisyphus metaphor: Breaking free from repetitive cycles.[15:04] - Practical steps to embody integrity and accountability.[19:45] - Bridging differences with compassion and shared values.[24:34] - Visualizing and stepping into your highest self.[29:17] - Shifting from "hard" stories to empowered mindsets.[31:42] - Closing reflections, journal prompts, and coaching opportunities.
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Episode Summary:
In this episode of Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life for Radical Success, Rita dives into what it really means to feel stuck, overwhelmed, and disconnected from your dreams. She talks about how patterns of people-pleasing, rescuing, and over-committing keep us from living authentically. Rita outlines three steps—Radical Awareness, Permission to Dream, and Aligned Action—to help listeners break free from survival mode and reconnect with what truly lights them up. This episode is your reminder to slow down, get Selfish with your dreams, and take small, meaningful steps toward the life you deserve.
Notable Quotes:
"Growth and expansion aren’t just our birthright—it’s who we are. When we resist it, life becomes painful."
"The ego loves to keep us running in the same patterns. It will create distractions to keep you from slowing down and dreaming.""Radical awareness means we stop pretending not to know what’s keeping us stuck. You can’t change what you don’t see."
"Dreaming for yourself isn’t selfish—it's necessary. When you give yourself permission to dream, you create space for your highest self to show up."
"Your word is your wand. When you keep your word to yourself, you build self-trust. The biggest betrayal isn’t from others—it’s betraying yourself."
In This Episode:|09:29| – Action step: Take an inventory of your day—Where are you over-committing or blaming?
|19:08| – Permission to dream selfishly with a big S—Why it's essential for entrepreneurs.
|26:20| – Self-honoring choices: Saying no to draining commitments.
|28:45|– Wrap-up: Awareness, acceptance, and aligned action—Permission to dream again.
Resources:
3 Steps to Break Free from Codependent Patterns:
Step 1: Radical Awareness – Stop Pretending Not to Know
* Take inventory of your day: Are you over-helping, complaining, blaming, or feeling resentful? Write down one situation where you feel stuck, and ask yourself: Am I pretending not to know what’s really going on?Step 2: Release the Need to Rescue or People-Please – Get Clear on What You Want
* Take a few minutes to journal: What do I want right now? Not what others need, not what you should do—what do you want? It’s okay if it feels selfish. Give yourself permission to dream.
Step 3: Take Aligned Action – Break the Cycle by Doing One Thing Differently
* Identify one small action that feels aligned with the life you want. It could be saying no, setting a boundary, or letting someone else handle things. Practice it today and notice how it feels.Please be sure to tag me @RitaMarieMendez on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this episode! I'd love to hear about your experience!
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What Does It Take To Call In Your Dream Life?
It's actually much simpler than you think... and I'll show you how in just 3 days!
*Join me Monday 9/23 - 9/25/2024 10:00am PST for a Live FREE 3-Day Intensive!
Over the course of three days, I will guide you through advanced techniques to align your thoughts, emotions, and actions to bring about real, tangible change in your life and business.
Episode Summary:In this episode of Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life for Radical Success, Rita dives into the power of authenticity and the importance of telling the truth, especially to ourselves. Sharing a personal story from her business life, she reflects on how showing up authentically and stepping out of codependent behaviors can lead to profound transformation. This episode is for anyone who feels stuck, frustrated, or unsure about where to start. Rita offers actionable steps for breaking free from rescuing tendencies, embracing self-forgiveness, and living a more fulfilled and authentic life. She also invites listeners to join her upcoming 3-Day Intensive to learn how to manifest their dreams.
Notable Quotes:
"The only way to call in and level up your life is to release the level you’ve been stuck at by telling yourself the truth.""When you enable someone, you’re not helping them—you’re crippling them, and that keeps you stuck too."
"Forgiveness is my superpower. I forgive myself for what I’ve made things mean about me, and it sets me free."
"Your past experiences don't define you. You’re a divine being with gifts, and it’s time to stop hiding them."
In This Episode:
00:00 Unlocking Your Dream Life
03:02 The Power of Authenticity
05:49 Codependency and Its Impact
11:59 The Importance of Telling the Truth
18:11 Releasing Past Patterns
23:57 Self-Forgiveness and Growth
30:02 Manifestation and Action Steps
Resources:
Self-Forgiveness:And so just have a simple practice for self forgiveness. It could just be I forgive myself for believing that I'm not good enough,I release the guilt of hiding my gifts and I choose to show up today with love and grace for myself and everyone else.
Affirmations:
I honor and embrace my truth. I forgive myself for the times I've stayed small or played small. I am worthy of showing up as my full authentic self. I release any fear of judgment.What Does It Take To Call In Your Dream Life?
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Episode Summary:Welcome to another transformative episode of the "Stop Bending Over Podcast" with your host, Rita Marie Mendez. In this inspiring conversation, we dive deep into the journey of Shelton Wilder, a top-tier real estate agent and entrepreneur. Shelton shares her compelling story of overcoming personal challenges, including addiction, to become one of the most successful real estate professionals in the country.
Throughout the episode, Shelton and Rita discuss the importance of accountability, radical responsibility, and how these principles have shaped Shelton's thriving real estate career. They explore the significance of consistency, mindset, and the benefits of owning property to leverage wealth creation. Shelton also candidly addresses the eye-opening realization of her own limiting behaviors and the steps she's taking to enhance her business practices using innovative tools.
Notable Quotes:
"I am really clear. I only want to work with people that want to work with me." - Shelton Wilder"Everything's happening for me, not to me. All of the things are just blessings." - Shelton Wilder"How you deal with the issue is the issue. It's never what we think it is." - Rita Marie MendezIn This Episode:
Shelton Wilder's Instagram: @sheltonwilderestatesShelton Wilder's Website: sheltonwilder.comMonday.com: Project management toolThe Work by Byron Katie: thework.comBooks Mentioned:
8:49 | Sobriety, Marriage, and Career Transitions
13:54| Radical Responsibility and Personal Growth
|20:56| Healing Shame Through Honest Communication
|27:40| Identifying Ideal Clients and Avoiding Codependency in Business
|33:29| Navigating Buyer Broker Agreements and Overcoming Fear in Real Estate
|38:33| Overcoming Victim Mentality and Embracing Personal Responsibility
|46:00| The Importance of Homeownership and Wealth Consciousness
|49:48| Raising Your Frequency to Achieve Success
|53:07| Lessons in Wealth Consciousness and Financial Missteps
|59:36| Understanding and Overcoming Learned Helplessness
|1:02:31| Top Advice for Real Estate Agents and Entrepreneurs
|1:15:10| Healing Old Patterns Through Awareness and Self-Love
Resources:Your Word is Your Wand by Florence Scovel Shinn
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
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"Overthinking comes from a lack of self-trust.""You don't have to be a 20 something or a teen to do what you want to do.""Awareness is kryptonite to looping patterns.""Step number one is get clear on what you want."
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Episode Summary:
In this episode, Rita discusses the importance of accountability in achieving goals and manifesting desires. The emphasis is on the need to trust oneself and make conscious choices. Unconscious manifesting leads to scarcity thinking and self-limiting beliefs. She provides steps for manifesting consciously, including getting clear on what you want, taking daily action steps, and staying committed. Rita encourages listeners to embrace their power and create the life they desire.
Quotes:
Getting Clear on What You WantCreating a Mental PictureSetting Up a PlanMeditation, Hypnosis, and Identity WorkAccountability
In This Episode:
|03:45| The Power of Accountability in Achieving Goals
|08:01| Trusting Yourself and Making Conscious Choices
|12:20| Breaking Free from Unconscious Manifesting
|19:28| Steps for Manifesting Consciously
|21:22| Embracing Your Power to Create
|23:44| Getting Clear on What You Want
|25:38| Visualization and Embodiment
|27:25| Setting Up a Plan
|30:45| Taking Small Steps
|37:18| The Power of Accountability
Resources:
Steps to Effective Manifestation:Accountability Study by Association for Talent Development
Next week's guest: Shelton Wilder - Check out her podcast!
Wilder Possibilities PodcastPlease be sure to tag me @RitaMarieMendez on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this episode! I'd love to hear about your experience!
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Identify Limiting Beliefs: Discover how unconscious childhood beliefs can impact your adult life and business success.Competing Intentions: Learn what competing intentions are and how they sabotage your goals.Awareness and Action: Utilize a three-step process—awareness, acceptance without judgment, and aligned action—to overcome internal blocks.Reframe for Success: Understand the power of reframing negative statements into positive, actionable affirmations.Self-Love as a Foundation: Embrace the importance of self-love and how it enhances business performance and personal well-being.
"How To Have A Million Dollar Year" Masterclass with Million Dollar Real Estate Agent Carla Clark!
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Episode Summary:
In this episode, Rita dives into the concept of "competing intentions," uncovering how unconscious limits formed in childhood impact adult behavior and prevent success. She provides practical steps to identify these blocks, reframe limiting beliefs, and create effective, conscious intentions. This episode is a valuable resource for women seeking to break free from self-sabotage, embrace their true potential, and achieve radical business success.
Key Takeaways:
In This Episode:
| 0:00 - 9:00| Overcoming Self-Limiting Beliefs and Perfectionism for Success
|10:46 - 16:39| Harnessing Childhood Coping Mechanisms as Adult Superpowers
|17:48 - 22:20| Identifying and Overcoming Competing Intentions in Business
|23:27 - 33:03| Overcoming Self-Imposed Limits to Achieve Personal Success
|34:23 - 42:01| Transforming Self-Abandonment into Self-Love and Conscious Intentions
| 42:27 | Wealth and Wisdom Program for Scaling Your Business
Resources:
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3-Day Challenge: How To Create Consistent Revenue in 3 Easy Steps
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Episode Summary:In this episode, Rita dives into the three-step process for creating consistent revenue, a method she reveals also aids in personal healing and growth. Achieving financial success and embracing wealth is every woman's birthright. She emphasizes the importance of self-discipline, emotional mastery, and strategic action, helping listeners to break free from limiting beliefs and self-sabotaging patterns.
In This Episode:
Clarity is Crucial: Knowing exactly what you want is the first step to achieving consistent revenue and personal success.Overcoming Obstacles: Addressing and transforming limiting beliefs and emotional blocks are essential for growth and empowerment.Aligned Actions: Strategic, aligned actions tailored to individual goals are key to moving the needle in business and life.Embrace Self-Discipline: Consistency and self-discipline in actions and thoughts create momentum and sustainable success.Self-Love and Reverence: Cultivating a deep sense of self-love and respect for one’s journey fosters authenticity and fulfillment.
| 0:00 - 10:00| Three Steps to Creating Consistent Revenue and Overcoming Obstacles
|10:38 - 14:00| Healing Childhood Trauma and Reclaiming Authenticity
|14:57 - 20:00| Empowering Women to Overcome Scarcity and Embrace Wealth
|20:27 - 26:00| Emotional Mastery, Self Leadership, and Strategic Aligned Action
Key Takeaways:Notable Quotes:
"Most people are not claiming what they want because there's a part of them that doesn't think it's possible.""The obstacle is not in the way. The obstacle is the way."
Resources:
* 3-Day Challenge: How To Create Consistent Revenue in 3 Easy Steps
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Take Rita's New Quiz: Money Magic: Find Your Financial Frequency!
Episode Summary:Welcome to another insightful episode. This episode dives into the transformational journey of embracing your identity and the powerful impact of language in shaping your reality. I unpack the concept of embodying the woman you aspire to be and discuss how showing up authentically and confidently can significantly change your life.
In This Episode:
The Power of Language: Your internal dialogue shapes your reality and identity. Aligning positive, empowering statements with your goals is crucial.Embodying Your Vision: Step into the identity of the woman you aspire to be by aligning your actions, thoughts, and behaviors with that vision.Overcoming Scarcity Mindset: Reframe limiting beliefs about time, money, and possibilities to create a mindset of abundance.Creating a Judgment Journal: Document and transform negative self-talk.Importance of Community: Building a supportive network or joining communities can significantly aid in personal and professional growth.
| 6:01 | Overcoming Scarcity Mindset by Closing Open Loops
|12:59| Three Steps to Overcome Decision-Making Anxiety
|15:13| Embracing Mistakes and Maintaining a Positive Mindset
|25:54| Embracing Authenticity and Courage for Personal Growth
|36:22| Embracing Authenticity and Finding Your True Identity
|40:47| Creating a Judgment Journal for Self-Reflection
|49:41| Creating Community and Support for Women Entrepreneurs
|50:53| Transforming Limiting Beliefs to Achieve Wealth and Wisdom
Key Takeaways:Notable Quotes:
"All those things that you want in your vision are happening already right now, waiting for you to embody who that woman is.""Leave behind what you don’t want, leave it behind. That might be people, circumstances, the way of doing business, the how you talk to yourself, all of it.""Being inauthentic is exhausting. When you step into it, when you're authentic and fully expressed, you give other people permission to be the same."Resources:
WEALTH & WISDOM - REGISTRATION OPENS 7/03/2024!
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Click here: https://www.ritamarieconsulting.com/wealth-and-wisdom-2024Take Rita's New Quiz: Money Magic: Find Your Financial Frequency!
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Take Rita's New Quiz: Money Magic: Find Your Financial Frequency!Episode Summary:
Rita Marie Mendez welcomes special guest Heidi Stevens on the podcast. Together, they delve into overcoming codependency, balancing masculine and feminine energies in business, and navigating personal growth. Heidi shares her journey from commercial real estate to holistic living and her methods for managing stress and burnout. They also discuss the impact of authentic communication and self-leadership. Tune in for insights on creating space for success, the importance of heart-centered listening, and how to identify upper limits in personal and professional life.
About the Guest:Heidi Stevens, is a former commercial real estate agent turned spiritual coach and entrepreneur. She specializes in guiding female entrepreneurs towards embracing their divine feminine energy to achieve success in their businesses and lives. Heidi holds a master's degree in Spiritual Psychology from the University of Santa Monica (USM). Currently, she is focused on her podcast "Feet on the Grass" and plays an essential role in supporting her family-run ranch in Rancho Santa Fe.
Resources Mentioned:
Heidi Stevens Info:
IG: @heidistevens
Podcast: Feet On The Grass
Spiritual Psychology Study Program: University of Santa Monica
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Take Rita's New Quiz: Money Magic: Find Your Financial Frequency!Summary:
In this episode, host Rita Marie Mendez challenges listeners to delve deep into the art of receiving and confront the hurdles that hinder their progress.
Rita boldly addresses the internal struggles many women entrepreneurs face, such as inconsistent results, burnout, and the fear of truly being seen. She emphasizes the transformational change that can occur when women step into their authentic selves and align with their divine feminine power.
In This Episode:
You control your life story and have the power to rewrite it for success and fulfillment.Operating from a wealth mindset is pivotal for women entrepreneurs to level up their achievements.
|00:00 - 14:00|Overcoming Shame and Self-Criticism
|15:08 - 22:00|Embracing Change Despite Fear and Vulnerability
|22:29 - 30:00|Harnessing Vulnerability to Co-Create and Prosper
|30:03 - 39:35|Embracing Wealth and Shifting Identity Paradigms
Key Takeaways:Resources:
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Take Rita's New Quiz: Money Magic: Find Your Financial Frequency!
Poem: There's a Hole in My Sidewalk by Portia Nelson
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