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âWe always think with the world. So when you go inside your head youâre arranging all those things you have already picked up into some kind of order which makes sense for you. That allows you to see structure in the world you have experienced.ââDavid Amerland
This is the first interview that Iâve hosted but, in fact, it played out similarly to all dialogs Iâve had. It reinforced my view that the best interviews are between people who are interested in the same things.
I chose to interview David because he and I have much in common: our athletic background, our isolation growing up, and our role as counselor (me) and consultant (David).
We hardly talked about what we do. Instead, we talked about how we feel about what weâre doing, and how we developed into who weâve become. We talked about ourselves, our goals, and what makes us tick. And thatâs good because we know about these things!
Find David and his social links at https://davidamerland.com/
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Fractals: The fractal nature of your personality consists of all the things you think are true, and all the habits you repeat...
Resonance: Your personality is a resonance between past associations, actions in the present, and plans for the future...
âMy life seemed to be a series of events and accidents. Yet when I look back, I see a pattern.ââ BenoĂźt Mandelbrot, mathematician
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Moods are more subtle than emotions. You will not commit violence or marriage just because of your mood. In spite of their differences moods and emotions are connected: if you move one, youâll move the other.
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Join psychotherapist Lincoln Stoller as he delves into the intricacies of performance and personal satisfaction in life. Whether youâre a high achiever constantly chasing the next milestone or someone feeling overwhelmed by societal pressures, Lincoln offers profound insights into how we can navigate these challenges.
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Once you become adept at remembering dreams, you start to have dreams in which you go to places youâve never been, meet conversants youâve never before encountered, and receive messages that are unexpected. As a person trained in the hard sciences, I have no trouble accepting things that are completely strange and make no sense.
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Let me guide you through my protocol for a Past Life Regression session. Youâll find many steps familiar and the whole project to be free of contrivance and showmanship. I hope itâs something you could explore without embarrassment...
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"I'd rather be dead than sing 'Satisfaction' when I'm 45."â Mick Jagger. Still singing satisfaction at age 81.
I am stubborn and patient. The curse of stubborn and patient people is to die unsatisfied. I donât want to... I look to role models to help guide my life, but most stubborn and patient role models are defeated in this regard...
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âThere is an old-fashioned word for the body of skills that emotional intelligence represents: character.ââ Daniel Goleman
Daniel Goleman defines the four dimensions of emotional intelligence as, self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management.
To be a self, social, or relationship adept you need emotional intelligence, but to be a physicist, engineer, or mathematician you do not. None of these play a large role in oneâs analytic ability divorced, as it is, from the realm of human relations.
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âYour subconscious mind is trying to help you all the time.ââ Jim Harrison, poet and novelist
Discussions about the unconscious have grown from Freud and Jungâs work of 100 years ago. Itâs been reinterpreted by therapists but itâs disregarded in social conversation. We rarely talk about it and it hasnât moved our thinking forward.
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I talk with Natasha Williams on her podcast Spiritual Warrior Journey.
I explore the way our brains work in a combination of scientific and metaphysical discussion, sharing insights on plant medicine, native tribes, dreams, and insanity.
Natasha says, âA truly interesting take on life, that deviates from the norm.â
Lincoln is a clinical counselor, hypnotherapist, with experience in physics, software, consulting, neurology, brain training, sleep, dreams, and altered states.
Natasha Williams is an author, spiritual coach and entrepreneur. She has helped thousands of women find confidence and belief in themselves. As a lightworker, she is deeply moved towards personal growth and helping raise the vibration on the planet.
Find Natasha Williams at:
https://www.spiritualwarriorjourney.com
INSTAGRAM @spiritualwarriorjourney
FACEBOOK: @spiritualwarriorjourney
TIKTOK: @spiritualwarriorjourney
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Looking for hidden messages, especially those to be revealed by experts, makes dreamwork less rewarding and casts it as a kind of work. This is why few people do it and, perhaps, why few people remember their dreams. Freud, the father of dream interpretation, famously disrespected your point of view, and the interpretive approach to dreams retains something of this flavor.
When dreamwork is welcomed as a form of conceptual play it becomes recreational. You donât have to share dreams, endure dreams, or reveal them. See your dreams as explorations of all the relevant things that donât make sense. Take that attitude and youâll feel relieved and rewarded.
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âIf a little dreaming is dangerous, the cure for it is not to dream less, but to dream more, to dream all the time.ââ Marcel Proust
Thinking DifferentlyDreams involve a different way of thinking. We donât get far by applying conscious thinking, which is linear, causal, and rational, to the holistic presentation that dreams employ.
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We all have personal vulnerabilities, and this is normal. We all experience trauma and deal with depression. We complain about the bad things but not the good things. Are these good things real, or are they excursions into unsustainable positive emotion?
While there is nothing wrong with needing to breath, there is something wrong when youâre desperate for breath. What you need should be a regular part of your life, not an ecstatic or occasional experience. What makes you happy?
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I met Stefan Deutsch online and sent him my Operating Manual for Enlightenment. He sent me his Love Decoded: Getting the Love You Deserve. Here are his âNine Laws for Fulfilling Relationships,â taken from the introduction, along with my comments.
1. Love that has to be earned isnât love...
2. Become aware of your own and othersâ unloving, conditional behaviors as well as loving, unconditional behaviors...
3. Never reject othersâ loving energy. It hurts them...
4. Never allow others to behave unlovingly without consequence. It hurts you...
5. Do not assume that there is any intentionality behind any act that hurts, disappoints, or angers you...
6. Assume all people, like you, are always doing the best they can...
7. Loving energy is real, nourishing, and visceral. Everyone needs to give and receive it in all our relationships, not just a few...
8. Loving energy is not to be confused with automatic, physical, and sexual energy...
9. The act of giving love must involve a conscious decision to be unconditionally loving even when you are upset with another person...
What I Consider Important...
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In a wide ranging discussion, Daniel and I talk about the intersections of life and growth, health and sanity, parenting and education, creativity and architecture.
Daniel Thomas, a British transplant living in Germany by way of Australia, is a versatile storyteller, writer, actor, and filmmaker. He has been featured in commercials, TV & Film & has written & directed his own shorts. He also hosts & produces podcasts that showcase his creative range & passion for meaningful & collaborative storytelling.
Lincoln Stoller, an American transplant living in Canada, is a physicist and psychotherapist, with a focus on learning, healing, and growth, exploring connections between culture, heritage, and the mind. Lincolnâs work challenges institutional knowledge, emphasizing emotion, intuition, and insight. Through his books and speaking, he aims to expand perspectives by integrating learning, healing, and invention.
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Gratitude is a combination of things, primarily two: a thought and an emotion.
Selfish gratitude is needy. You are grateful for what youâre getting. Itâs contingent and dependent.
Gratitude offered with appreciation asks for no reward. And while gratitude so offered feels nourishing it can also feel empty.
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Lincoln Stoller is a former mountaineer who now specializes in psycho-, hypno-, and neurofeedback therapy, in tandem with numerous other counseling and coaching services.
Lincoln lives well outside of the bounds of normalcy. He says we should âjust keep doing out-of-the-box stuff. And if people arenât calling you a little crazy or a little nutty, then you probably arenât exploring enough of the boundaries.â
Todayâs conversation revolves around the high-risk potential of hard-charging performers and achievers, whether they exist in sports, business, or other areas of life.
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Iâm in the minds business; Iâm also in the programming business. I sometimes think of therapy as a programming problem. Thatâs not a bad idea, but you canât take it literally.
Taken literally, âto programâ creates a series of steps that always choose between right and wrong. Programming requires such steps to exist, that you can discern them, choose between them, and follow them to the end of the path. None of these requirements are met in the minds of real people, but we can still talk about those rare situations when they are. The right steps are often called âgood ideas.â
As a therapist, my job is not to come up with good ideas so much as help people learn how to find them. I avoid the word âteachâ because the process of finding good ideas is not taught. I can show a person how theyâre sabotaging themselves, how to relax, and experiment, but there is no formula for finding good ideas...
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âLife is the balance between holding on and letting go.ââ Rumi
I felt it important to respond to a journalist who asked what people might expect at their first therapy session. Many come to me who are ambivalent about beginning therapy, and Iâve been to a few therapists myself.
Iâve not felt good about these first sessions with other therapists. A good therapist is wise but ignorant, and makes no attempt to hide it. No therapist is an expert because no two clients are the same.
An honest therapist knows as little about what to expect as you do. When I make my ignorance clear, everything goes beautifully because itâs you who guides me. Iâve never met a therapist as comfortable with their ignorance as I.
The journalistâs seven questions concern protocol, method, and service, but this is not what therapy is about. If youâre inviting someone to âtherapiseâ you, youâve lost your way at the start. No one is going to figure or straighten you out. You do this yourself, or else it doesnât happen.
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âThe measure of intelligence is the ability to change.ââ Albert Einstein
Is Intelligence a Real Thing?The history of intelligence is odd. Itâs variously defined and plays different roles. Even within one culture, different standards are applied to different genders, ages, and people of different inclinations.
Historically, intelligence was assumed as something you did or did not have. In the past, people did not have much education. More accurately, the lucky ones did and the unlucky ones didnât. It was assumed that intelligence preceded your ability to learn and it could be measured by what you knew.
Despite now having tests to measure intelligence, itâs still rated based on what you have learned. Our IQ tests are supposed to measure a personâs fundamental aptitude, but this is a fiction. Itâs convenient because it ends up justifying the original premise that your intelligence is what you can learn. What you can learn is measured by what a particular group, inevitably the group in power, thinks is valuable.
Weâre told these IQ tests are justified because people donât change their scores over time. This is a âlow IQâ argument which is a good reflection of how notions of IQ justify themselves. People donât change their scores on IQ tests over time not because they canât, but because they choose not to learn how to...
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