Afleveringen
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As we continue to see where we are going and what we are feeling lead towards we are going back to the beginning to listen to Edwards interview.
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As we figure out some things about the Podcast we are going back to the beginning with the original interview with Jason
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Zijn er afleveringen die ontbreken?
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Edward Checks in about the new job, but also a harrowing experience of pain and infection. While transitioning jobs, Edward takes some unplanned time off which he finds he needed without realizing it. While enjoying the time off, Edward contracted an infection in his lip that eventually required a hospital stay and surgery. Edward shares with us how throughout the ordeal he has a better understanding of the chronic pain people live with. Jason shares some of his experiences with his chronic pain and what it’s like living with it long term. Edward ends up with a few experiences of the new job which he finally got to start and some of the perks he’s finding.
In a world seemingly full of spiritual teachers and gurus, there are a lot of choices, messages, and pitfalls. Today we talk about some of the pitfalls with following one guru or teacher, not only for the follower, but also for the “guru” involved. We discuss some of the experiences Mary Garden writes about in her book the “The Serpent Rising”, as well as some of our own experiences on both sides of the world of gurus. Finding spiritual teachers can be difficult and we discuss our methods for vetting information and following our own journey.
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This week Jason has reached a milestone in his relationship with his oldest Son. Jason has struggled with the transition in their relationship status. Jason finds himself being at ease and coming to terms in a quite unexpected way. In past episodes Jason has kept us up to date with the ups and downs over the last couple of years as his son reaches adulthood. Jason shares that he isn't sure exactly what happened, but that for the first time Jason feels really ok with his son's behavior and actions as he strives to create his own life.
Have you ever wondered what all the hype is around meditation? Have you tried to meditate and before long got frustrated and quit? Do you ever wonder if you are doing it wrong? This is the episode for you. Jason and Edward discuss the subject matter from two different meditative backgrounds and practices. Through their discussion we learn about several different types of meditation and how to practice them. We also learn how many of the ideas about meditation are incorrect at best. Meditation can be simple or complex, and we often make it much harder than it is. Come learn the processes, pitfalls, and benefits of the meditative practices that span the world.
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Due to some unforseen circumstances, that we will speak about in a future check in we are republishing one of our Holiday survival guides.
This week we start off with Edward relaying a particularly good week of some much-needed self-care. After spending a day off out of town with a friend, He talks about spending time with his sister, going to see a movie for the first time since the pandemic started, and a search for Indian food.
As we have now entered the Holiday season it is again time to remind ourselves that setting boundaries is necessary and saying no is acceptable. Since the pandemic started, we have found many people have realized that spending time with family can be quite toxic. Sometimes when we do things out of habit for so long, we forget, or do not realize how bad a situation is. This year we feel the increase in expectation due to long absences. Last year recorded an episode with a toolbox of coping skills and a survival guide. This year we touch on some tools that we have used and a couple new ones that we have learned. Mostly it is about permission we give ourselves to be absence from abusive and toxic gatherings.
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Edward starts off this week with exciting news. He is starting a new job. Edward has realized that over the last 4 years he was focused on several people and his job, but not himself. Specifically Edward has continued working in a job where he can’t make the money needed for survival unless he works overtime. Edward has decided to step out of that place in his life and take a job that is not only more money but offers more freedom.
Our Deep Dive this week focuses on the subject of tracking growth. Why do we track growth? Why is it important? Most importantly, how do we do it in an effective manner? Jason and Edward discuss some of their recent listening to first and second season podcasts and how they’ve seen growth in themselves. This brings up other ways to track growth and why it’s so important to do so regularly.
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This week Edward checks in about trying to understand his place in a church community. Edward was raised Catholic and experienced religious trauma at the hands of his parents. As an adult Edward is trying to reconcile his personal faith and find a community that he feels safe in. As part of that Edward finds himself overcommitting and leading a life that is not spiritual, but one based on performance. Jason and Edward discuss the space Edward find himself in and what he can do to not repeat his past.
This week’s deep dive is a review of The Celestine Prophecy by James Readfield, which both Edward and Jason read as young adults. Although it is a much older book, Edward shares with us how the 9 insights shared in the book were so influential in his life that much of his spirituality and view of the world is based heavily based on his understanding of them. Jason and Edward discuss the 9 insights and how they have incorporated them in their own lives.
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We check in with Jason this week, who is struggling again with the relationship with his son. Jason is continuing to attempt to connect with his oldest son, who still lives at home. His son, who is now 18 is trying to discover who he is and assert his independence. Jason knows that this is the time in his son’s life when this should happen, but he is frustrated with the way his son is choosing to do it. Jason relays stories of his son canceling plans at the last minute on him and Jessica, and especially a lack of interest in hunting with him which is the one activity Jason felt like they bonded over. As the conversation progresses Jason speaks about how to deal with his own emotions, and trying to become comfortable doing things on his own that he enjoyed doing with his son.
Today we take a look at the concept of Love Languages as presented In Gary Chapman’s 1992 book: The 5 Love Languages. In his book Gary writes about his understanding of the 5 major ways people show and want to receive love. The premise is that every person has one major language, that when they receive, they feel the most loved. Every person also has another language that they “speak” which may not be the same as they wish to “hear”. Edward speaks about his experiences with these concepts as well as some of the views from the book. Jason Joins in as he starts to understand the premise. Finally Jason and Edward discuss their own love languages as well as ones that they feel repulsion to due to trauma.
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Edward finds after 4 years of living in his apartment that he is finally starting to nest. Edward has stated before that he has struggled with connecting to his space. While he has things of his around the house, he shares with us that most of it was just put somewhere to occupy space. Pictures on the wall were put up because that’s where the nails already were. Edward found in the last few weeks that he is starting to want to make his apartment really his own. When Jason asks what changed or why it took so long, Edward discusses how he feels his life was so seasonal he was waiting for another shift. Edward feels that he is really feeling more at home.
In the world of mental health and spirituality people speak about Affirmations as if they were the most amazing tool. Some people swear by them, and others say they are useless. As it turns out both can be true. Edward brings us this segment as someone who used to use affirmations only to find that they made him feel worse. At the same time his friends would use them and see results. Affirmations are used not only to change our views of the world and ourselves, but also to change our brain. Edward started looking into why he was having issues with using them and shares the information which has led him to start again, this time with success. It is not only in the way that we use them, but how we feel about them that matters. Where they come from in our psyche, how we phrase them, and even some very specific words we use can be important. Edward and Jason also discuss how many people start at the end with out ever going through the beginning. Come along down the rabbit hole and discover some ways that affirmations can fail, how to fix that, studies that show we have been using them incorrectly or inefficiently, and the way they tie to the body allowing us to see which ones we need to move forward in our life.
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This week finds Edward sharing some of his experiences of reconnecting and living with a young man from his past. Edward and Jason discuss the challenges Edward has experienced and the emotional rollercoaster of some of the situations that have arisen. Because Edward has a history going back to this young man’s infancy, Edward has had to grow and shift his perception from that of dealing with a child to that of dealing with an adult. Edward also speaks about the young mans drug addiction and how he has lived with and supported a person in recovery.
Most of us know what an emotion is, and we think we know what a feeling is. What if we have confused the two for so long that we can’t tell the difference? Jason leads us through discovering the difference between the two. Edward fell into the category of people that did not know the difference and was told as a young man that no one could make him feel anything. As the discussion evolves, we find that the saying was correct, but not in the way we think. Join us as we delve into the world of emotions and feelings.
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Jason starts us off this week checking in with an update about his niece. Jason starts with a little bit of history to catch us up to this point. He discusses the reasons his brother was not a part of his life, why he made the exception when his niece was born, and fills us in with the recent situation. Jason then discusses some of the boundaries he has had to put into place within this situation, as well as the ones he has needed to reinforce. In light of his brother’s victim mentality Jason also shares with us how he has not felt the need to engage on that level.
Holding space for someone is one of the most beautiful, supportive acts we can engage in. The process sounds simple but tends to be more involved than most people realize. Today we discuss the process of holding space, spelling out the steps to provide a truly supportive and safe environment. We also talk about some of the challenges and personal awareness we face while supporting those we care about. By the end we have laid out the basics of holding space and the things to be mindful of.
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This week Edward starts us off speaking about medications changes he made in the beginning of the summer and how it has affected him. Edward dropped his antidepressants just before we went on break and has spent the last 4 months taking only a doubled dose of his ADHD medications. During the conversation Jason and Edward discuss the stigma around mental health medications, even for someone who works with them regularly. Edward felt his antidepressants were making it easier to disregard his frustrations Jason then asks Edward to process what that look and feels like for him so he can better understand Edwards motivation. In the end Edward discusses the potential of having treated the wrong neurotransmitter and some of his experiences over the last month to bring him and his doctor to this conclusion.
For our Deep Dive we have a serious conversation about apologies. Having had the recent experience within last week’s episode, Edward delves into the true power of apologizing. Jason and Edward discuss how to make a sincere apology, and what goes into making it effective. During the conversation they discuss misconceptions that most of us learned growing up as they break down the steps of crafting a genuine heartfelt apology. In an effort to be funny Edward brings up a situation from our cohosts shared past, which becomes an enlightening conversation that illustrates some of the principles being discussed.
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Our First Episode of Season 4 is a little different. Jason and Ed discuss a conflict that arose between them, and how they navigated it. Jason and Ed have known each other for a long time, but that doesn’t mean everything is always perfect. What do we do when someone’s trauma reaction triggers a trauma response in ourselves. Jason and Ed discuss the emotions, and insights through their conflict, and the way they were able to get back to a healthy space.
This episode is a great illustration of stumbling through our PTSD, Trauma, and how to deal with our reactions to conflict when we are in a relationship. At the end of the Episode Jason and Ed discuss not only, how they got through it, but what they found out afterwards from some research into the subject.
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This week’s check in finds Jason having learned more about his employers. He had concerns which he voiced and received back an answer that made him feel like he wasted his time. We discuss how this feels and how he is handling the emotions that this brought up. Edward talks about a serendipitous event that spurs a bout of activity through repotting plants and planting mushrooms. Lorri tells about an event that has not gone according to plan that also resulted in her feeling like she wasted time and how she is feeling about that.
This week’s Deep Dive delves into the world of depression and the changing of the seasons. We discuss how these changes effect those with Seasonal Affective Disorder, generalized depression, and neuro typical people. Sometimes called the winter blues we explain what is really happening in our bodies and minds as well as some tips to combat it in our lives. As someone who suffers from SAD, Edward shares some of his survival tips as well as his experiences with the group.
This week marks the return of the Off The Rails Segment. As we start looking towards the Holiday Season, we find ourselves revisiting some of our favorite holiday movies. We start with Thanksgiving and move our way haphazardly through the calendar to end with Halloween and the scary movies we either love or love to hate.
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In this week’s episode Jason and Edward find themselves in a good space. The weather being warm, and spring turning to summer has brightened both Jason’s and Edward’s mental space. Edward starts out talking about his realization that his outside life is starting to be ok, but that he is feeling that a good spring cleaning of his house is needed. Edward and Jason talk about a new project Edward just completed and the relationship dynamic with a long-time friend. We check in with Edward about ADHD and relay some stories about our experiences. Lastly, we talk about changes in perceptions and growing up.
In our Deep Dive this week, we look at the working theories around co-regulation and self-regulation. We discuss the science and psychology of these two related states of being, as well as how they relate to trauma, maturity, and our own personal lives. Within the discussion there are some tips on identifying deep routed issues and challenges, as well as some resources on how to overcome deficiencies in these areas.
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In this Episode we start out talking about enjoying the sunny weather. Jason talks about a Family adventure and a hidden gem of a destination. Lorri has exciting news about her shop and purging the old to make way for the new things in her life. Edward talks about the emotional purge that he has been going through and what that looks like.
In our Deep Dive Segment, we continue speaking about Edward’s emotional purge and dig deeper to subjects like growing up trying to get love from two different parents with vastly different views of what a man should be and opposing expectations.
We finish off our Episode with an Off the Rails Segment about the seemingly crazy world of Urine Therapy. What is it, how does it work, and what are the proposed benefits?
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In this short episode Jason and Edward give some overview of their summer activities. Edward discusses some changes in his life and some growing experiences, plus some fun things he did. Jason speaks with us about an extreme life changing event that will put the podcast on Hold for another couple of months.
We will be back on October 12th, with all new episodes and special guests.
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This week finds Jason still working with his garden, but also dealing with escalation at work. Edward speaks about his continuing experience being on medication for the first time in long time. We discuss how to live with the absence of background anxiety that has been present for so long. Edward also brings up his current work with setting boundaries with friends and family. Lorri adds to the conversation from her life experiences as we also discuss self-worth.
This week’s Deep Dive was inspired by our check in. We take a deeper look into setting boundaries. We discuss how to do it in a healthy manner, how to stay true to them, and how it feels to do so. Setting boundaries is rarely easy, but for our own mental health it is necessary. We discuss the importance of setting boundaries at work, in personal relationships, and with family. We also discuss the behavior of people we set boundaries with, and what work we need to do before we set the boundaries we want in our lives.
Our Off the Rails this week comes courtesy of JP Spears as we look at and react to “How Spiritual People Fight”. https://youtu.be/bQgRBnqpoQw Setting boundaries can be a very spiritual experience as can being self-aware, but sometimes we take it a bit too far. This is one of the ways we learn to laugh at ourselves.
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This week’s episode finds Jason dealing with a situation that leads to a full-on panic attack. Jason has been preparing himself for an inevitable situation that has caused him stress due to his past traumas. Now he is confronting the real-life situation with his wife and learning how to cope as well as being gentle with himself. We talk about strategies and our learning experiences as Edward draws a few correlations to his life. We finish off talk about dealing with multiple situations at once, and the importance of having a good support network, especially a good therapist.
Jason starts this week’s Deep Dive with a question about the possible mental health benefits of BDSM and kink to a trauma survivor. We explore this topic from a theoretical point of view. The discussion covers some basics about the Kink community and our discoveries from looking into the lifestyle. We talk about our personal views on the subject as well as a few studies and anecdotal evidence for pros and cons, as well as precautions for looking into this form of relationship.
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This week we check in with Edward about life after COVID. Edward tells us that he did not lose his taste or smell but has lingering fatigue. To make it worse Edward is now experiencing true insomnia. Edward updates us on his decision not to go to work when asked, and we find out the reason why testing for COVID is not considered necessary by many organizations. Edward also shares with us the chaos to which he returned in the house and how that has led him to set up a different set of boundaries where he is no longer doing everything alone.
In our Deep Dive segment, we are visiting the world of sleep. Jason has a long history of insomnia tied to trauma and other issues which we have spoken about on this podcast. Edward has experience with Revenge Sleep Procrastination and is currently going through a period of true insomnia. What better time to talk about sleep habits to get us to sleep and to keep us in a restful place through the night. Jason and Edward discuss tips and tricks that they have had work for them in the past, as well as some newer tips that they each have found, while investigating the subject.
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