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You trained for it. You lived it. You gave everything to the jobāuntil one injury took it all away. In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore the silent and often overlooked grief that comes with career-ending injuries and medical retirement (Amazon Affiliate).
For first responders, the job isnāt just a jobāitās an identity. So when injury, illness, or medical retirement forces that chapter to close, whatās left behind is often grief no one talks about.
This episode dives into the emotional, psychological, and spiritual toll of losing the career you lovedānot by choice, but by circumstance. If you've felt lost, angry, numb, or invisible after leaving the job due to injuryā¦ youāre not alone.
š§ 5 Signs Youāre Grieving the Loss of Your Career
You Feel Like Youāve Lost Your Purpose
Example: You wake up unsure of who you are or what you're supposed to do now.
Impact: Creates a sense of emptiness or deep sadness.
You Avoid Talking About the Injury or Retirement
Example: You dodge questions or change the subject.
Impact: Suppresses healing and can deepen shame or isolation.
Youāre AngryāAt the System, the Circumstances, or Yourself
Example: You replay what you could have done differently.
Impact: Keeps you stuck in a loop of blame and what-ifs.
You Feel Forgotten or Left Behind by Your Team
Example: The texts stop. The camaraderie fades.
Impact: Adds another layer of lossācommunity and connection.
You Struggle to Find a New Identity Outside the Badge
Example: Nothing else feels as meaningful or powerful.
Impact: Can lead to depression, anxiety, or reckless behavior.
š ļø 5 Ways to Begin Healing From a Career-Ending Loss
Acknowledge That Youāre GrievingāBecause It Is a Loss
Give yourself permission to mourn the life you thought youād have.
Tell Your Story to Someone Who Can Hold Space for It
You donāt need to āget over itāāyou need to be heard and seen in it.
Redefine Purpose on Your Terms
Your mission didnāt end. Itās evolving. Find ways to serve in new capacities.
Create a Tribute to Your Time in Service
A photo wall, a memory book, a shadow boxāsomething that honors your impact and allows for closure.
Connect With Others Whoāve Been Through It
The path to healing is faster when you walk it with someone who understands.
šÆ Why This Episode Matters
You didnāt just lose a careerāyou lost a version of yourself. But that doesnāt mean youāre finished.
Youāre still here. You still matter. And your story isnāt over.
šļø Listen now to begin the process of healing what no one else can seeāand to discover that grief, when honored, can lead to purpose on the other side.š„ Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community:
š”ļø Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX ā Buy One, Get One FreešÆ Connect With Us:
ā Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families
š„ Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews
š Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and moreš¬ Listener Question:
Whatās one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram!Disclaimer:
All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education.šļø Want to be a guest on Tactical Living?
Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch ā Click here(Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchaseāat no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust.
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āYouāre a hero.ā āThank you for your service.ā For many first responders, those words donāt land the way civilians think they do. In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton unpack why praise can feel so uncomfortable (Amazon Affiliate)āand whatās really happening under the surface when you find yourself deflecting a compliment.
Praise is meant to honor your serviceābut for some, it brings on guilt, awkwardness, or even resentment. Whether it's because of survivorās guilt, imposter syndrome, or simply being conditioned to stay humble, deflecting compliments becomes a habitā¦ and one that might be robbing you of meaningful connection.
In this episode, we explore the psychology behind discomfort with praise, and how to respond in a way that honors both your service and the person expressing gratitude.
š§ 5 Signs You Struggle With Receiving Praise
You Downplay Compliments or Change the Subject
Example: Someone thanks you, and you say, āI was just doing my job.ā
Impact: Cuts off connection and diminishes your own contribution.
You Feel Undeserving of Recognition
Example: You survived when others didnāt, or you think others have done more.
Impact: Creates internal conflict and emotional detachment.
You Avoid Public Acknowledgment
Example: You dread award ceremonies or being singled out.
Impact: Reinforces a belief that being seen is unsafe or uncomfortable.
You Distrust People Who Praise You
Example: You question their motives or assume itās just flattery.
Impact: Prevents genuine relationships from forming.
You Feel Emotionally Numb or Triggered by Gratitude
Example: A thank-you brings up painful memories instead of pride.
Impact: Blocks emotional healing and connection.
š ļø 5 Ways to Respond to Praise with Grace and Authenticity
Practice a Simple āThank Youā Without Explaining It Away
Let the compliment land. You donāt need to justify or reject it.
Recognize That Receiving Is Also a Form of Service
When you receive well, you validate someone elseās attempt to honor you.
Reframe Praise as an Acknowledgment of the Role, Not Just the Person
Even if you donāt feel heroic, the role you stepped into deserves respect.
Use Praise as a Moment to Reflect on Purpose
Take a pause to remember why you serveāand let that gratitude nourish you.
Talk Through the Discomfort With a Trusted Peer or Mentor
Chances are, youāre not the only one who feels this way. Processing it helps.
šÆ Why This Episode Matters
Deflecting praise might feel humble, but it also pushes people away. Learning to accept appreciation doesnāt make you arrogantāit makes you whole.
šļø Listen now to understand why compliments feel so uncomfortable for many first responders, and how to shift from deflection to connection.š„ Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community:
š”ļø Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX ā Buy One, Get One FreešÆ Connect With Us:
ā Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families
š„ Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews
š Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and moreš¬ Listener Question:
Whatās one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram!Disclaimer:
All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education.šļø Want to be a guest on Tactical Living?
Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch ā Click here(Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchaseāat no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust.
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In uniform, you're trained to lead, suppress emotion, and never let your guard down. At home, you're expected to engage, apologize, and emotionally connect. In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton break down the silent damage caused when apologies go unsaid (Amazon Affiliate)āand how that emotional weight shows up long after the moment has passed.
š Episode Overview:
In the high-stakes world of first responders, the words āIām sorryā can feel dangerousālike they undermine authority or suggest weakness. But what happens when that silence becomes a habit, following you into your home, your marriage, and your parenting?
Over time, missed apologies create cracks in your personal foundation. The conversations that never happen leave gaps in connection. And while no one may say it, everyone feels it.
This episode explores why apologies are so hard to come by in uniform, how that affects your relationships, and what you can do to begin repairing the damageābefore it turns into something bigger.
š§ 5 Signs Missed Apologies Are Affecting Your Life
Emotional Tension That Never Gets Fully Resolved
Example: A heated exchange happens at work or home, but no one revisits it.
Impact: Lingering resentment and silent emotional withdrawal.
You Avoid Accountability Even When You Know You're Wrong
Example: You brush it off with ātheyāll get over it.ā
Impact: Breaks down trust over timeāboth professionally and personally.
Guilt That Lingers Under the Surface
Example: You snapped at your spouse or kid but never addressed it.
Impact: Eats away at your confidence and connection.
A Culture of āPush Through and Move Onā
Example: Mistakes are made, emotions run high, but everyone stays quiet.
Impact: Promotes emotional suppression instead of growth and learning.
You Struggle to Apologize Without Feeling Weak
Example: Saying āIām sorryā feels more vulnerable than staying silent.
Impact: Makes deep relationships harder to sustain.
š ļø 5 Ways to Repair the Fallout of Unspoken Apologies
Reframe Apologizing as a Strength, Not a Weakness
Owning your actions builds respectāon and off duty.
Use Clear, Direct Language When You Apologize
Example: āI was wrong for how I reacted. Iām sorry I hurt you.ā
Be specific and sincere.
Create Space to Reflect After High-Emotion Situations
Build a habit of asking: āIs there anything I need to take ownership of today?ā
Model Accountability as a Leader
Whether at work or home, be the example. Others will follow when they see it's safe.
Normalize Repair Conversations in Your Life
Start small. Apologize for the little things. Over time, this builds a culture of emotional responsibility.
šÆ Why This Episode Matters
Every missed apology leaves behind a fractureāsometimes small, sometimes big. Over time, those fractures become walls. But itās never too late to say what was left unsaidā¦ and begin healing the damage.
šļø Listen now to learn how emotional accountability can transform your relationships, your leadership, and your sense of peace.š„ Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community:
š”ļø Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX ā Buy One, Get One FreešÆ Connect With Us:
ā Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families
š„ Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews
š Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and moreš¬ Listener Question:
Whatās one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram!Disclaimer:
All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education.šļø Want to be a guest on Tactical Living?
Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch ā Click here(Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchaseāat no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust.
š£ For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities:
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šļø We're honored to welcome Tim Thomas ā former Special Forces operator turned transformational speaker and wellness advocate ā to the Tactical Living Podcast! š„ During our interview, Tim guides us through a breathwork technique (Amazon Affiliate) that we can all access anytime that we want to.
Tim has spent years on the front lines ā both in combat šŖ and in the fight for veteran mental health š§ . Heās the driving force behind some of Australiaās most impactful recovery programs, transforming lives around the world š.
You can contact Tim and gain access to his Breathwork in Bed App by visiting his website: https://breathworkinbed.com.au/
In this powerful episode, Tim shares science-backed tools š§¬ and motivational insights š„ to help you:
š“ Master deep, restorative sleep
šŖ Break through fear and build lasting resilience
š Use generosity as a tool for success and fulfillment
š¬ļø Harness breath to regulate stress and reclaim energyš° With over $1 million raised for charities like the Gallipoli Medical Research Foundation and the Queensland Brain Institute, Timās impact is real, measurable, and deeply inspiring šÆ.
š” This episode bridges the elite military mindset with real-world wellness strategies you can use TODAY. Whether you're a first responder, a leader, or someone searching for purposeāthis is for YOU š
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ā Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families
š„ Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews
š Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and moreš¬ Listener Question:
Whatās one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram!Disclaimer:
All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education.šļø Want to be a guest on Tactical Living?
Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch ā Click here(Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchaseāat no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust.
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In uniform, you're tactical, calm, and in control. At home, you're expected to relax, connect, and emotionally engage. Crucial Conversations (Amazon Affiliate) around this topic are difficult but necessary. In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore the mental strain of code-switching between your on-duty and off-duty identitiesāand how to bridge the gap without losing yourself.
š Episode Overview:
For many first responders, the person they have to be at work is not the same as who they are with their families. That shift between āon dutyā and āat homeā isnāt just physicalāitās psychological, emotional, and even spiritual.
When you're constantly toggling between protector and partner, enforcer and friend, officer and parent, the identity split can leave you feeling emotionally exhausted, disconnected, or misunderstood.
This episode will help you recognize the signs of unhealthy code-switching, why it happens, and how to reconnect the different parts of yourself so you can liveāand loveāwith authenticity.
š§ 5 Signs Youāre Stuck in a Code-Switching Identity Loop
1. You Struggle to Emotionally Shift Gears After a Shift
Example: You walk into your home after a long shift but still feel like you're patrolling emotionallyāshort answers, hyper-awareness, distant tone.
Impact: Makes it hard to be present with loved ones and feel grounded.
2. Your Family Gets the āLeftoversā of You
Example: Youāre drained, quiet, or irritable at homeābut always composed and mission-focused at work.
Impact: Builds resentment and emotional distance in relationships.
3. You Feel Like a Stranger in Your Own House
Example: Youāve worn the badge for so long that you donāt know what you enjoy anymore without it.
Impact: Contributes to identity loss, especially during time off or in retirement.
4. You Use Humor or Silence to Avoid Deeper Connection
Example: You joke about stress or say āitās nothingā rather than process your feelings at home.
Impact: Suppresses emotional health and makes your loved ones feel shut out.
5. Your Identity Feels Split, Not Integrated
Example: You catch yourself saying āthey wouldnāt understandā even about your closest relationships.
Impact: Leads to isolation, internal conflict, and long-term stress.
š ļø 5 Ways to Bridge the Gap Between Tactical You and True You
1. Create a Mental āTransition Ritualā Between Work and Home
Change clothes. Say a prayer. Blast music. Even a 5-minute decompression routine can help you switch modes intentionally.
2. Talk to Your Family About What Youāre FeelingāNot Just What You Did
Help them understand your world and share what you're experiencing emotionally. They canāt support what you donāt reveal.
3. Reintroduce Yourself to Your Own Interests
Hobbies, friendships, routines that have nothing to do with work remind you of who you are beyond the badge.
4. Get Comfortable with the Messy Middle
You donāt have to be perfectly tactical or perfectly soft. You can be both. Learn to accept the overlapāitās where true strength lives.
5. Seek Support from Others Who Walk the Same Line
Sometimes, only another responder will truly āget it.ā Peer support and mentorship help bridge the gap between roles in ways loved ones may not be able to.
šÆ Why This Episode Matters
Wearing the badge doesnāt mean losing yourself. But if youāre always āon,ā thereās no room for the version of you your family fell in love with in the first place.
šļø Listen now to learn how to close the identity gap and reconnect with your full selfāat work, at home, and everywhere in between.š„ Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community:
š”ļø Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX ā Buy One, Get One FreešÆ Connect With Us:
ā Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families
š„ Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews
š Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and moreš¬ Listener Question:
Whatās one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram!Disclaimer:
All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education.šļø Want to be a guest on Tactical Living?
Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch ā Click here(Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchaseāat no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust.
š£ For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities:
š§ Email: [email protected]
š« Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340
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Contingency planning (Amazon Affiliate) is second nature for first respondersābut constantly living in "what if" mode comes at a cost. In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore the mental load of always having a backup planāand how it affects decision-making, relationships, and long-term emotional health.
š Episode Overview:
Whether itās a secondary escape route on a call, a plan B for family outings, or knowing exactly how youād respond if someone broke into your homeāfirst responders are trained to never be caught off guard.
But constantly carrying worst-case-scenario plans in your mental āback pocketā can lead to anxiety, hypervigilance, and emotional fatigueāespecially when that mindset bleeds into your personal life.
In this episode, youāll learn how to balance preparedness with peaceāand how to build flexibility into a mindset thatās always on guard.
š§ 5 Signs Youāre Carrying Too Much Mental Weight from Contingency Planning
1. You Canāt Relax in Public Spaces
Example: You always sit facing the door, scan exits, and mentally rehearse responses to threatsāeven at a family dinner.
Impact: Heightened awareness becomes a constant stressor, even in safe settings.
2. You Struggle With Spontaneity
Example: A last-minute change in plans causes agitation because you hadnāt mentally prepared for it.
Impact: Limits your ability to fully enjoy downtime or connect with loved ones in the moment.
3. You Overthink the Smallest Tasks
Example: Something as simple as going to the store feels like a tactical op.
Impact: Everyday stress builds up and contributes to decision fatigue.
4. Youāre Always Playing Out āWhat Ifā Scenarios
Example: You mentally rehearse worst-case eventsāon duty and offāover and over.
Impact: Creates a low-grade, constant anxiety thatās hard to turn off.
5. Your Family Notices Youāre āDistantā or Overprotective
Example: You struggle to let your kids do things independently or come across as emotionally unavailable.
Impact: Overplanning creates emotional distance and makes others feel youāre never fully present.
š ļø 5 Ways to Lighten the Load Without Sacrificing Readiness
1. Limit Tactical Thinking to Tactical Settings
When off-duty, consciously shift into āhome mode.ā Itās okay to be awareābut you donāt have to be hyper-alert.
2. Build Trust in Others
You donāt have to control everything. Let your spouse plan the trip. Let your partner take the lead on a call. Share the load.
3. Schedule Mindless Time on Purpose
Give your brain a break. Watch a show, read fiction, or take a walk without planning your next five moves.
4. Talk About the Load You Carry
Let your spouse or a peer support officer in on how mentally exhausting it can be. You donāt have to carry it alone.
5. Practice Flexible Thinking
Start with low-stakes situations: Try letting plans shift without mentally rehearsing every outcome. Over time, it rewires your need for constant contingency.
šÆ Why This Episode Matters
Planning ahead saves livesābut living in constant survival mode steals your peace. The more you recognize the mental load youāre carrying, the more power you have to put some of it down.
šļø Listen now to learn how to stay preparedāwithout staying overwhelmed.š„ Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community:
š”ļø Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX ā Buy One, Get One FreešÆ Connect With Us:
ā Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families
š„ Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews
š Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and moreš¬ Listener Question:
Whatās one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram!Disclaimer:
All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education.šļø Want to be a guest on Tactical Living?
Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch ā Click here(Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchaseāat no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust.
š£ For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities:
š§ Email: [email protected]
š« Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340
š Ashlieās Facebook: facebook.com/police.fire.lawenforcement -
Rank is earnedābut ego can ruin everything (Amazon Affiliate). In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton take a direct look at badge envyāthe silent tension caused by rank, recognition, and competition within law enforcement and first responder departments. If youāve ever felt overlooked, disrespected, or quietly judged, this conversation is for you.
š Episode Overview:
Promotions, titles, special assignmentsātheyāre meant to reward leadership and skill. But in departments where trust is thin and transparency is lacking, envy starts to breed beneath the surface.
In this episode, youāll gain clarity on how competition and ego impact morale, how to handle resentment (your own or othersā), and how to protect your mental health when the focus shifts from mission to measuring up.
āļø 5 Signs Badge Envy Is Affecting Your Team Culture
1. Promotions Create Division, Not Motivation
Example: A new sergeant is promoted, and instead of being congratulated, they're met with whispers and distance.
Impact: Undermines team cohesion and leaves leaders isolated or resented.
2. Officers Undermine Each Other for Recognition
Example: A coworker throws someone under the bus to look good in front of command.
Impact: Builds mistrust and discourages collaboration in high-stakes situations.
3. Rank Becomes the Only Measure of Value
Example: Patrol officers are made to feel āless thanā simply because they didnāt promote.
Impact: Fuels burnout and damages long-term job satisfaction.
4. Titles are Used as Weapons, Not Tools
Example: Someone constantly flexes their rank, even in situations that require humility and teamwork.
Impact: Weakens leadership credibility and respect among peers.
5. High Performers Burn Out Trying to āKeep Upā
Example: An officer takes every training, overtime shift, or special detailānot because they want to, but because they feel they have to stay visible.
Impact: Drains mental health and creates internal resentment when it goes unnoticed.
š ļø 5 Ways to Stay Grounded and Avoid the Ego Trap
1. Redefine What Success Means to YOU
Promotions arenāt the only measure of purpose. Focus on impact, not title. The street still needs good copsānot just brass.
2. Celebrate Peers Authentically (Even When Itās Hard)
It takes discipline to applaud someone else's win when you're still waiting for your turn. But it builds trustāand it builds you.
3. Check Your Own Ego Regularly
Ask yourself: Am I seeking growth or status? Ego leads to burnout. Service leads to longevity.
4. Build Vertical AND Horizontal Respect
Donāt just look up the chain. Build bonds across ranks and rolesāyouāll gain allies in every direction.
5. If You Lead, Lead Differently
Set the example. Uplift others. Kill rank-based division by creating a culture where contribution matters more than insignia.
šÆ Why This Episode Matters
Envy is naturalābut how itās handled will define your career. In a profession where trust is life-or-death, you can't afford to let ego lead the way.
šļø Listen now to learn how to rise through the ranksāor stay exactly where you areāwithout losing your integrity, your team, or your peace of mind.š„ Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community:
š”ļø Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX ā Buy One, Get One FreešÆ Connect With Us:
ā Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families
š„ Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews
š Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and moreš¬ Listener Question:
Whatās one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram!Disclaimer:
All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education.šļø Want to be a guest on Tactical Living?
Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch ā Click here(Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchaseāat no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust.
š£ For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities:
š§ Email: [email protected]
š« Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340
š Ashlieās Facebook: facebook.com/police.fire.lawenforcement -
When youāre the one who always has it handled, the reward is oftenā¦more responsibility. In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton unpack the concept of weaponized competence (Amazon Affiliate)āhow being highly capable as a first responder (and at home) can quietly lead to burnout, resentment, and imbalance in your relationships.
š Episode Overview:
It starts out as prideāyouāre the reliable one. The problem-solver. The one who just gets it done. But over time, that competence gets used against you, especially when no one else is expected to step up.
This episode explores how being too good at everythingāon the job and in your personal lifeācan result in emotional overload, frustration, and the feeling that youāre carrying everyone elseās weight without recognition.
šØ 5 Signs Youāre Dealing with Weaponized Competence
1. Youāre the Default Go-To for Everything
Example: At work, you get asked to handle reports, run point on incidents, or train the new guyāevery time.
Impact: You become the fallback plan, which leads to exhaustion and lack of boundaries.
2. Others Stop Offering to Help
Example: Your spouse or coworkers assume youāll just ātake care of itā because you always do.
Impact: It reinforces the cycle and trains others not to step up.
3. Youāre Expected to Be Emotionally SteadyāEven When Youāre Not
Example: People come to you in crisis, but donāt ask how youāre doing.
Impact: Creates emotional isolation and makes it harder to be vulnerable.
4. Delegating Feels Risky
Example: You donāt ask for help because others donāt do it āright,ā or itās more work to explain it.
Impact: Reinforces perfectionism and stops you from building real teamwork.
5. Resentment Creeps InāSilently
Example: You begin to feel bitter about doing everything, but struggle to express it without sounding ungrateful.
Impact: Internal resentment builds and eventually leads to burnout or blowups.
š ļø How to Break the Cycle and Reclaim Balance
1. Acknowledge the Pattern Without Shame
Recognizing that youāve trained others to expect this from you isnāt a weaknessāitās awareness. Itās the first step to change.
2. Practice Saying āNot This Timeā
You donāt have to go from yes to no overnight. Start with āI canāt take that on right nowā and let others rise to the occasion.
3. Reassign Responsibility at Home
Create small systems that allow others (including your kids) to own tasks. Shared calendars, chore charts, or prep days can ease the burden.
4. Be Honest About Your Capacity
Tell your coworkers, admin, or spouse how much youāre juggling. You might be surprised how willing people are to step ināonce you step back.
5. Celebrate Imperfection
Letting go of the āI do it bestā mindset creates room for others to learn, fail, and grow. Thatās leadership.
šÆ Why This Episode Matters
In a world that praises being the dependable one, itās easy to let your own needs fall to the bottom of the list. But competence shouldnāt come at the cost of your peace, your health, or your relationships.
šļø Listen now to learn how to keep being excellentāwithout being exploited.š„ Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community:
š”ļø Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX ā Buy One, Get One FreešÆ Connect With Us:
ā Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families
š„ Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews
š Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and moreš¬ Listener Question:
Whatās one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram!Disclaimer:
All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education.šļø Want to be a guest on Tactical Living?
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The moment you put on the uniform, everything shifts. In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton break down the psychology of how a badge and uniform change the way others perceiveāand treatāyou (Amazon Affiliate). From public interactions to family dynamics, youāll learn how to spot the hidden impact of your role and how to navigate it without losing yourself in the process.
š Episode Overview:
First responders wear more than just gearāthey wear a symbol. A signal to the world that youāre in control, in authority, and, sometimes, in the line of fire.
But what happens when that symbol also creates distance? Or assumptions? Or judgment?
In this episode, youāll discover how uniform psychology shapes everyday relationshipsāand what you can do to stay connected, authentic, and respected on both sides of the badge.
š®āāļø 5 Ways the Uniform Changes How Youāre Treated (And Why It Matters)
1. You Become a Symbol, Not a Person
Example: Strangers speak to the badge, not the human behind itāespecially during conflict or crisis.
Impact: Can make you feel invisible or like youāre constantly performing a role instead of living as yourself.
2. Family and Friends See You as āAlways Onā
Example: Loved ones come to you for every tough conversation or emergency, assuming you can always handle it.
Impact: Creates emotional fatigue and prevents you from being vulnerable or supported.
3. Other Officers Judge You by Your Look First
Example: Appearance-based bias from colleaguesāgear setup, grooming, or how squared away you look.
Impact: Promotes a āprove-yourselfā culture that discourages authenticity.
4. Civilians React Based on Past Experiences or Media
Example: People either overly respect or automatically mistrust you without knowing you personally.
Impact: Causes stress, hesitation, or even fear during off-duty or public interactions.
5. You're Treated Differently in Public Even When Off Duty
Example: Wearing department apparel to the store and noticing stares, questions, or even avoidance.
Impact: Makes it hard to mentally disconnect from the jobāeven when youāre not on shift.
š ļø How to Stay Grounded When the Uniform Creates Distance
1. Take the Badge Off at HomeāMentally and Physically
Change clothes. Change pace. Let your family interact with the real you, not the role.
2. Teach Your Family What the Uniform Means (and What It Doesnāt)
Set boundaries around when and how you talk about the job, so your identity isnāt reduced to your title.
3. Be the First to Humanize Yourself
Small actsāsmiling, introducing yourself by name, showing humilityāgo a long way in breaking barriers.
4. Reflect Often on Who You Are Without It
Journaling, prayer, or hobbies that donāt involve the job remind you that your value isnāt tied to a patch.
5. Talk Openly with Trusted Peers
Chances are, others feel the same way you do. Build deeper connections by sharing what the uniform does to your mindset and your relationships.
šÆ Why This Episode Matters
The uniform commands respectābut it can also build walls. Understanding the psychology behind how it affects your relationships is the first step in reclaiming your identity, protecting your mental health, and showing up fullyāin and out of uniform.
šļø Listen now to gain powerful insight into the hidden weight of the uniformāand how to wear it without letting it wear you down.š„ Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community:
š”ļø Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX ā Buy One, Get One FreešÆ Connect With Us:
ā Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families
š„ Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews
š Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and moreš¬ Listener Question:
Whatās one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram!Disclaimer:
All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education.šļø Want to be a guest on Tactical Living?
Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch ā Click here(Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchaseāat no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust.
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A career in public safety is more than just a timelineāitās a collection of defining moments. In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore the critical events, wins, and regrets that shape who you become behind the badge (Amazon Affiliate). Whether youāre just starting out or nearing retirement, this episode will challenge you to reflect on your own journeyāand how each experience contributes to your personal legacy.
š Episode Overview:
From the first day in the academy to the last call before retirement, every first responderās career is marked by moments that leave a permanent imprint. Some build pride. Some bring pain. Others shift your perspective forever.
In this episode, youāll explore the milestones that matter most in law enforcement and fire serviceāand how these moments silently shape your values, leadership style, relationships, and resilience over time.
š§ 5 Defining Moments That Shape a First Responderās Career
1. Your First Critical Incident
Example: Your first fatal crash, structure fire, or foot pursuit with high stakes.
Why It Sticks: Itās the moment where training meets real lifeāand the emotional impact becomes real.
2. The First Time You Made a Mistake That Cost Something
Example: Missing a detail in a report, making a call under pressure, or misjudging a situation.
Why It Sticks: Mistakes often bring shame, but also teach lessons that no training ever could.
3. Mentorship That Changed Your Trajectory
Example: A field training officer who believed in youāor called you out when you needed it most.
Why It Sticks: The right person at the right time can shape your leadership style for life.
4. The Call You Still Think About
Example: A child death, a suicide call, or a situation where you felt helpless.
Why It Sticks: Some trauma leaves a mark, even if you think youāve moved on.
5. The Day You Realized It Wasnāt Just a Job Anymore
Example: Showing up on a day off, mentoring someone, or saving a life.
Why It Sticks: Itās the moment when the job became your missionāand your identity.
š ļø How to Reflect on and Grow from Career-Defining Moments
1. Take Time to Revisit, Not Avoid
Make space to look backāwhether itās journaling, talking it through, or revisiting memories with peers.
2. Learn From What Went WrongāNot Just What Went Right
Growth often comes from your lowest moments. Give yourself grace while extracting the lesson.
3. Talk About the Hard Stuff With People Who Get It
You donāt have to process alone. Trusted peers or a licensed counselor can help you find closure.
4. Pass It On to the Next Generation
Your stories hold power. Share them with new recruits or your kids to build resilience in others.
5. Donāt Let the Job Be the Only Thing That Defines You
You are more than your careerāyour character, faith, family, and choices are just as defining.
šÆ Why This Episode Matters
The badge may retire, but the person it shaped will always remain. This episode invites you to honor your journey, embrace the moments that changed you, and use them as fuel for continued purposeāon and off duty.
šļø Listen now to reflect, reconnect, and reignite the mission that brought you to this career in the first place.š„ Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community:
š”ļø Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX ā Buy One, Get One FreešÆ Connect With Us:
ā Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families
š„ Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews
š Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and moreš¬ Listener Question:
Whatās one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram!Disclaimer:
All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education.šļø Want to be a guest on Tactical Living?
Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch ā Click here(Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchaseāat no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust.
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Silence can be deadly. In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton address the real cost of staying quiet about mental health in law enforcement (Amazon Affiliate) and first responder culture. Learn how to break the stigma, create safe spaces for conversation, and lead by exampleāeven if you're not in charge.
š Episode Overview:
Many first responders are trained to āsuck it up,ā but the unspoken pressure to appear unfazed can lead to devastating outcomes. Whether itās burnout, substance abuse, or even suicide, the cost of silence is far too high.
In this episode, youāll learn why mental health stigma still exists in first responder culture, how to spot it, and most importantlyāhow to shift the culture to one that values courage over concealment.
šØ 5 Signs Mental Health Stigma Still Runs Deep
1. Fear of Career Consequences
Example: Officers avoid counseling out of fear itāll show up in a promotion review or fitness eval.
Impact: Keeps people suffering in silence, preventing early intervention.
2. Jokes and Dismissive Language Around Mental Health
Example: āHeās just being softā or āShe needs to toughen up.ā
Impact: These comments shame those who might otherwise reach out for help.
3. Lack of Leadership Example
Example: No one in admin talks about mental health unless it's reactionary after a crisis.
Impact: Without visible support from the top, rank-and-file donāt feel safe speaking up.
4. Peer Isolation After Seeking Help
Example: Someone who saw a therapist is suddenly left out of group chats or assignments.
Impact: Teaches others to stay quiet to avoid social backlash.
5. Officers Only Open Up in Crisis
Example: Someone finally shares what theyāre going through only after hitting rock bottom.
Impact: Waiting too long means missing the chance to intervene early.
š ļø 5 Ways to Create a Mentally Healthy Culture in Your Department
1. Normalize the Conversation
Start talking about therapy, stress, and emotional health in briefings, locker rooms, and casual moments. Every conversation chips away at stigma.
2. Encourage Early Support
Remind your team that getting help early is just as tactical as early medical treatmentāit prevents escalation.
3. Make Mental Health Resources Visible and Accessible
Ensure officers know where to go, who to call, and that seeking support won't hurt their career.
4. Lead by Example
If you're using peer support, therapy, or stress management toolsātalk about it. It gives others permission to do the same.
5. Celebrate Strength, Not Suffering
Highlight examples where vulnerability led to growth, connection, or improved performance.
šÆ Why This Episode Matters
The bravest thing some first responders will ever do isnāt run into a burning building or chase down a suspectāitās admitting they need help.
šļø Listen now to learn how to shift from silence to strength and help create a culture that truly has each otherās backsāon the job and beyond.š„ Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community:
š”ļø Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX ā Buy One, Get One FreešÆ Connect With Us:
ā Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families
š„ Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews
š Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and moreš¬ Listener Question:
Whatās one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram!Disclaimer:
All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education.šļø Want to be a guest on Tactical Living?
Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch ā Click here(Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchaseāat no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust.
š£ For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities:
š§ Email: [email protected]
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What happens when the people above you stop showing up for you (Amazon Affiliate)? In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton discuss how to recognize when leadership is failingāand what you can do to advocate for yourself without losing your professionalism, your purpose, or your sanity.
š Episode Overview:
Itās one of the most frustrating realities of the job: being held to a high standard by leadership that doesnāt always lead by example. Whether itās inconsistent policies, lack of support during incidents, or simply feeling like a number instead of a person, the emotional toll of poor leadership runs deep in first responder culture.
This episode helps you identify the warning signs of disconnected leadership and gives you tactical ways to protect your peace while still performing at your highest level.
šØ 5 Signs Your Leadership Isnāt Supporting You (and What to Do About It)
1. Lack of Transparency in Decision-Making
Example: Promotions or disciplinary actions happen behind closed doors without clear standards.
What to Do: Document your wins, keep receipts, and donāt be afraid to ask for clarificationāin writing.
2. Favoritism and Politics Over Merit
Example: The ābuddy systemā determines who gets promoted, not performance or dedication.
What to Do: Focus on your integrity and stay consistentāyour professionalism speaks louder than bias.
3. Ignoring Officer Wellness or Morale
Example: Admin adds more responsibilities without acknowledging burnout or mental health needs.
What to Do: Be your own advocateāutilize your departmentās EAP or seek external peer support when necessary.
4. No Follow-Through on Promises or Initiatives
Example: Leadership talks a good game about change or wellness but never delivers.
What to Do: Align yourself with leaders who do take action, even if theyāre lateral peersāand lead by example yourself.
5. Disregard for Field Realities
Example: Desk-based leadership makes policy changes that donāt reflect whatās actually happening on the street.
What to Do: Use respectful channels to provide feedback. Schedule meetings, submit ideas formally, and offer constructive solutionsānot just complaints.
š ļø Tactical Strategies to Navigate Poor Leadership
1. Lead Yourself First
Your attitude, effort, and ethics are always within your control. The standard starts with you.
2. Find Micro-Leaders at Your Level
Not all leadership comes from the top. There are sergeants, corporals, and senior patrol officers who lead with integrityāconnect with them.
3. Document Everything
Keep notes on communications, changes, or any situations where you feel unsupported. This protects you and builds a paper trail for accountability.
4. Build a Network Outside Your Chain of Command
Join associations, peer groups, or online communities where you can vent, learn, and grow with others who get it.
5. Donāt Let Poor Leadership Steal Your Pride
You took the oath for a reason. Leadership may failābut your purpose doesnāt have to.
šÆ Why This Episode Matters
When leadership doesnāt have your back, itās easy to become jaded, disconnected, or burned out. But you donāt have to let poor admin culture define your careerāor your mindset.
šļø Listen now to learn how to stay mission-focused and mentally strong, even when leadership falls short.š„ Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community:
š”ļø Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX ā Buy One, Get One FreešÆ Connect With Us:
ā Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families
š„ Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews
š Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and moreš¬ Listener Question:
Whatās one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram!Disclaimer:
All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education.šļø Want to be a guest on Tactical Living?
Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch ā Click here(Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchaseāat no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust.
š£ For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities:
š§ Email: [email protected]
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āWhat if today is the day something goes wrong?ā For first responders, this mindset is part of the jobābut it can quietly chip away at your peace (Amazon Affiliate). In this episode, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton break down how to balance tactical readiness with mental clarity so you can stay sharp without becoming consumed by worst-case thinking.
š Episode Overview:
First responders are wired for threats. You're trained to scan every room, watch every hand, and anticipate what could go wrong. Itās what keeps you aliveābut off the clock, that mindset can rob you of rest, joy, and trust.
In this episode, youāll learn how to recognize when preparedness becomes paranoia, and how to shift into a more grounded, balanced approach to life both on and off duty.
šØ 5 Ways the āWhat Ifā Mindset Can Become Mentally Draining
1. You Struggle to RelaxāEven at Home
Example: Sitting with your back to the wall at restaurants, constantly checking your surroundingsāeven at family events.
Impact: Makes it difficult to ever feel safe or fully present with loved ones.
2. You Expect the Worst from Everyone
Example: Assuming that every stranger is a threat or that no one outside the profession can be trusted.
Impact: Builds unnecessary emotional walls and deepens isolation.
3. You Overanalyze Every Scenario
Example: Mentally running through tactical plans just to walk into a store or pump gas.
Impact: Creates a constant low-level anxiety that never allows your brain to shut off.
4. You React Strongly to Minor Stressors
Example: A slight change in plans or tone of voice sets you off because your nervous system is always on edge.
Impact: Can strain relationships and worsen mental fatigue.
5. You Feel Guilty When Youāre Not āOnā
Example: Feeling selfish or unprepared when taking a true day off or enjoying something non-tactical.
Impact: Prevents true recovery and contributes to long-term burnout.
š ļø 5 Strategies to Stay PreparedāWithout Letting āWhat Ifā Take Over
1. Schedule Downtime Like You Schedule Duty
Build in time where you deliberately power downāno phone, no calls, no scanning. Even 10ā15 minutes per day helps reset your brain.
2. Use Tactical Breathing to Recenter
Your body doesnāt know the difference between imagined threats and real ones. Breathwork can help calm your nervous system in moments of hyper-vigilance.
3. Set Boundaries with Your Thoughts
Catch yourself in the spiral and say, āThatās not happening right now.ā Stay present and redirect your attention.
4. Ground Yourself in Your Environment
Use your five senses to bring your awareness to the current momentāthis pulls you out of hypothetical fear and back into whatās real.
5. Trust Your Trainingāand Let That Be Enough
Youāve trained for the worst. You donāt need to rehearse every disaster in your head to be ready. Trust that your skills will show up when theyāre needed.
šÆ Why This Episode Matters
Preparedness is powerābut paranoia is a prison. Knowing the difference will not only make you a better officerāit will make you a healthier human.
šļø Listen now to learn how to carry your training into every environmentāwithout letting it carry you into burnout.š„ Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community:
š”ļø Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX ā Buy One, Get One FreešÆ Connect With Us:
ā Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families
š„ Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews
š Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and moreš¬ Listener Question:
Whatās one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram!Disclaimer:
All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education.šļø Want to be a guest on Tactical Living?
Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch ā Click here(Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchaseāat no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust.
š£ For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities:
š§ Email: [email protected]
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Not all addictions look like rock bottom (Amazon Affiliate). In this episode, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore the subtle ways first responders can spiralāwithout even realizing itāthrough overworking, excessive fitness, gambling, or emotional numbing. Learn how to recognize the red flags of unhealthy coping and take back control before it becomes self-destruction.
š Episode Overview:
Addiction doesnāt always come in a bottle or a pill. For first responders, it often hides behind āacceptableā behaviorsālike picking up extra shifts, constantly working out, or buying more tactical gear than your budget allows.
These behaviors might start as coping mechanismsābut when they become compulsive, isolating, or destructive, they cross the line.
This episode sheds light on the thin line between managing stress and masking pain, and how first responders can find healthier ways to cope without losing themselves.
šØ 5 Subtle Forms of Addiction in First Responders
1. Overworking
Example: Taking every overtime shift not for moneyābut to avoid going home or being alone with your thoughts.
Why Itās Harmful: Leads to burnout, resentment, and disconnection from family or self.
2. Compulsive Spending
Example: Constantly buying gear, guns, or gadgets as a dopamine hitāonly to feel regret after.
Why Itās Harmful: Financial stress adds up, and the spending rarely addresses the real emotional void.
3. Over-Exercising or Obsession with Fitness
Example: Training to exhaustion every day, not out of healthābut to suppress anxiety or emotion.
Why Itās Harmful: Turns physical health into punishment, and can cause injury or emotional isolation.
4. Gambling or Risk-Seeking Behavior
Example: Casino runs, online bets, or risky investments that feel exciting in the momentābut reckless in hindsight.
Why Itās Harmful: Provides short-term escape but long-term consequences.
5. Numbing with Food, Porn, or Screens
Example: Binge-eating, compulsive scrolling, or pornography used as emotional escape valves.
Why Itās Harmful: These behaviors numb emotions rather than processing them, leading to detachment and guilt.
š ļø 5 Ways to Break the Cycle and Reclaim Control
1. Ask: āIs This a Choice or a Compulsion?ā
Pause and ask yourself if youāre doing this activity to feel betterāor to avoid feeling at all.
2. Track Patterns and Triggers
Keep a simple journal or note app to recognize when and why certain behaviors show up (e.g., after shifts, during conflict, etc.).
3. Replace the Behavior, Not Just Remove It
Find a healthier outlet to fill the spaceālike real rest, hobbies, or meaningful connection.
4. Get Honest with Someone You Trust
Say it out loud. Confession creates clarity. Whether itās a spouse, peer, or mentorāconnection breaks isolation.
5. Seek Professional Help If Needed
Thereās no shame in counseling or support groups. Itās a tactical moveānot a sign of weakness.
šÆ Why This Episode Matters
You took this job to save livesādonāt lose yours in the process. Coping is necessary, but not all coping is healthy.
šļø Listen now to learn how to spot the warning signs and choose strategies that serve you instead of silently destroying you.š„ Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community:
š”ļø Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX ā Buy One, Get One FreešÆ Connect With Us:
ā Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families
š„ Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews
š Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and moreš¬ Listener Question:
Whatās one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram!Disclaimer:
All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education.šļø Want to be a guest on Tactical Living?
Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch ā Click here(Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchaseāat no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust.
š£ For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities:
š§ Email: [email protected]
š« Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340
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Ever catch yourself hoping for action? Youāre not alone. In this episode, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton unpack the hidden psychology behind why some first responders crave high-adrenaline callsāand how to balance that urge without compromising your mental or emotional health (Amazon Affiliate).
š Episode Overview:
Some calls give you stories. Some give you scars. And for some first responders, the thrill of a high-stakes situation is part of what makes the job so addicting.
But what happens when that mindset starts creeping into your off-duty lifeā¦ or becomes the only thing that makes you feel alive?
This episode explores the adrenaline-driven mentality in first responder cultureāwhy it develops, what risks it carries, and how to channel it in healthier ways.
šØ 5 Signs Youāre Subconsciously Craving a āBig Callā
1. You Feel Bored or Antsy on Routine Days
Example: You find yourself annoyed with quiet shifts or āboringā calls.
Why It Matters: Constant craving for chaos can numb your ability to find value in routine service.
2. You Use Humor or Bravado to Mask the Craving
Example: Joking about āneeding a good fight tonightā or āhoping for a foot pursuit.ā
Why It Matters: These seemingly harmless comments may reflect a deeper need to feel alive or purposeful.
3. You Chase the High Off Duty
Example: Reckless driving, risky hobbies, or thrill-seeking behavior during downtime.
Why It Matters: Unchecked adrenaline addiction can bleed into personal life and relationships.
4. Youāre Only āOnā During Chaos
Example: Feeling disengaged until something dangerous happensāthen suddenly hyper-alert.
Why It Matters: Emotional regulation gets hijacked, leaving you emotionally flat outside of emergencies.
5. You Struggle After Retirement or Injury
Example: Depression or frustration when the action stops and life slows down.
Why It Matters: A full identity built around chaos leaves a void when itās gone.
š ļø 5 Ways to Balance the Thrill with Emotional Well-Being
1. Recognize the Rush for What It Is
Acknowledge that part of the job feels excitingābut donāt let it define your worth or purpose.
2. Seek Healthy Sources of Challenge
Pursue hobbies or physical challenges (like jiu-jitsu, hiking, CrossFit) that give you the same adrenaline hit without the danger.
3. Talk About the Mindset with Trusted Peers
Open up about the rush and what it means to you. Youāre not the only oneāand talking about it normalizes processing it.
4. Practice Emotional Regulation Techniques
Mindfulness, journaling, or breathwork can help retrain your nervous system to feel presentāeven without chaos.
5. Redefine Your Purpose in the Job
Shift your focus from high-octane moments to long-term impactālike mentorship, service, or leadership.
šÆ Why This Episode Matters
Loving the action doesnāt make you a bad cop or firefighterābut depending on it for fulfillment can be dangerous.
šļø Listen now to learn how to stay sharp, stay grounded, and build a career that lastsāthrill or no thrill.š„ Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community:
š”ļø Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX ā Buy One, Get One FreešÆ Connect With Us:
ā Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families
š„ Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews
š Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and moreš¬ Listener Question:
Whatās one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram!Disclaimer:
All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education.šļø Want to be a guest on Tactical Living?
Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch ā Click here(Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchaseāat no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust.
š£ For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities:
š§ Email: [email protected]
š« Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340
š Ashlieās Facebook: facebook.com/police.fire.lawenforcement -
Not all trauma shows up right away (Amazon Affiliate). In this episode, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore how past calls can quietly resurface and impact a first responderās daily life. Youāll learn how to recognize the subtle signs of unresolved traumaāand how to finally process it in a way that promotes healing and long-term mental health.
š Episode Overview:
Some calls never leave you. The sounds, the smells, the facesāthey replay without warning. You might push them aside to survive the moment, but trauma always finds a way to resurface.
This episode uncovers the hidden ways old trauma affects first responders, and offers clear, actionable tools for moving forward without suppressing the pain.
šØ 5 Ways Trauma from Old Calls Shows Up in Daily Life
1. Flashbacks or Intrusive Thoughts
Example: A smell or sound brings you right back to a traumatic call you thought youād forgotten.
Impact: Triggers anxiety, panic, or emotional shutdownāoften without warning.
2. Emotional Numbness in Normal Life
Example: You feel disconnected from joy, relationships, or family milestones.
Impact: Long-term emotional detachment can lead to depression and relationship strain.
3. Chronic Irritability or Outbursts
Example: Snapping at your spouse or kids over small thingsābecause something deeper is unprocessed.
Impact: Unresolved trauma often surfaces as anger or hypersensitivity.
4. Sleep Disturbances
Example: Vivid dreams or insomnia tied to past incidentsāeven if itās been months or years.
Impact: Poor sleep contributes to cognitive fatigue, decision-making issues, and worsened mood.
5. Avoidance Behavior
Example: You avoid locations, calls, or even conversations that remind you of "that one" incident.
Impact: Avoidance reinforces the trauma loop and limits emotional processing.
š ļø 5 Tactical Tools to Process and Release Old Trauma
1. Acknowledge It Without Shame
Youāre not weak because you still feel somethingāit means youāre human. Start by naming the experience.
2. Talk to a Peer or Counselor
Trusted conversations with someone who understands the jobāor trauma-focused therapyācan help you release the weight.
3. Journal the Details and Emotions
Writing down the memory in detail can help close the loop your brain keeps trying to process on its own.
4. Use Somatic Tools Like Breathwork or Movement
Your body holds trauma. Physical activities like deep breathing, hiking, or workouts help release it from your nervous system.
5. Practice Closure Rituals
Create your own way to symbolically close the chapterālight a candle, pray, visit a place of peace, or talk out loud to the version of yourself that responded to the call.
šÆ Why This Episode Matters
You might not be able to forget the callābut you donāt have to relive it every day. Recognizing the ghost of trauma is the first step toward reclaiming your peace, your relationships, and your ability to feel fully alive again.
šļø Listen now to learn how to turn haunting memories into healed wisdomāand finally let the weight go.š„ Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community:
š”ļø Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX ā Buy One, Get One FreešÆ Connect With Us:
ā Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families
š„ Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews
š Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and moreš¬ Listener Question:
Whatās one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram!Disclaimer:
All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education.šļø Want to be a guest on Tactical Living?
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Brotherhood is supposed to protect youābut what happens when it starts to silence you instead? In this episode, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore the fine line between healthy camaraderie and toxic loyalty (Amazon Affiliate) in first responder cultureāand how to know when itās time to walk away.
š Episode Overview:
The bond between first responders is forged in fireāthrough shared trauma, long shifts, and life-or-death decisions. But sometimes that bond becomes a chain. When silence is expected, vulnerability is mocked, or unethical behavior is tole
This episode sheds light on how to spot the red flags of unhealthy loyalty, and how to preserve your integrity without abandoning your support system.
šØ 5 Signs the Brotherhood Is Turning Toxic
1. Youāre Pressured to Stay Silent
Example: You witness something unethical but are told, āDonāt be that guy.ā
Impact: Creates moral conflict and long-term guilt or resentment.
2. Personal Struggles Are Mocked or Ignored
Example: You open up about mental health or marriage strugglesāand get shut down with jokes or sarcasm.
Impact: Reinforces emotional isolation and increases the risk of burnout or breakdown.
3. Loyalty Is Used as a Weapon
Example: Youāre guilted into working overtime, covering for bad behavior, or avoiding someone because the āgroupā says so.
Impact: Undermines your personal boundaries and values.
4. Disrespect Is Framed as Brotherhood
Example: āThatās just how we joke around hereāāeven when it crosses emotional or professional lines.
Impact: Fosters toxic environments that push out good officers and breed resentment.
5. Youāre Punished for Speaking Up
Example: Reporting an issue leads to being iced out, passed over, or labeled a problem.
Impact: Discourages accountability and creates a hostile work culture.
š ļø 5 Ways to Stay True to Yourself Without Abandoning the Team
1. Define Your Own Boundaries and Values
Know what lines you wonāt crossāregardless of whoās asking you to cross them.
2. Build Connections with Like-Minded Officers
Find peers who share your values and support your growth, not just your silence.
3. Practice Speaking Up Early
The longer you stay quiet, the harder it gets. Start smallābe honest in safe, private conversations before going public.
4. Use the Chain of Command or Peer Support Wisely
When necessary, go outside the group for help. Your integrity is worth more than popularity.
5. Remember: Brotherhood Should Build You, Not Break You
The strongest teams support accountability, vulnerability, and growth. If it doesnāt feel safeāitās not brotherhood.
šÆ Why This Episode Matters
Loyalty should never come at the cost of your well-being, values, or future. It takes courage to stay in the fightābut even more courage to walk away when the team you trust no longer has your back.
šļø Listen now to learn how to protect your integrity, lead with strength, and build the kind of brotherhood thatās worth staying in.š„ Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community:
š”ļø Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX ā Buy One, Get One FreešÆ Connect With Us:
ā Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families
š„ Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews
š Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and moreš¬ Listener Question:
Whatās one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram!Disclaimer:
All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education.šļø Want to be a guest on Tactical Living?
Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch ā Click here(Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchaseāat no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust.
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Law enforcement is no longer just about what happens on the streetsāitās also about what happens on screens. In this episode, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton break down how social media is shifting public perception of police (Amazon Affiliate), and what that means for morale, recruitment, and the future of the badge.
š Episode Overview:
From viral videos to bodycam footage, police officers today are being watched, judged, and criticized in real time. The rise of social media has turned public service into public spectacleāand it's impacting how officers are viewed, how departments are staffed, and how trust is built (or broken).
In this episode, we explore how digital culture is reshaping law enforcementāand how first responders can navigate this new reality without losing their identity or mission.
š² 5 Ways Social Media Is Changing Law Enforcement
1. 24/7 Public Scrutiny
Example: A routine stop gets posted online and edited for biasābefore the department even sees it.
Impact: Officers are often judged in soundbites, not facts. This leads to hesitation and fear of backlash, even when doing the right thing.
2. The Rise of āKeyboard Policingā
Example: Civilians on social media āarmchair quarterbackā police behavior without training or full context.
Impact: Creates misinformation, destroys public trust, and feeds negative narratives that can harm officer morale.
3. Recruitment Challenges
Example: Young recruits are hesitant to apply because they fear being ācanceledā for a split-second mistake caught on video.
Impact: Departments are struggling to fill positions as the profession becomes more scrutinized and less appealing.
4. Bodycams and Transparency
Example: Footage clears an officerās nameābut itās too late, the public already made up their mind from a viral clip.
Impact: While bodycams promote transparency, they also open the door for selective editing and narrative manipulation.
5. Officers as Content Creators
Example: Cops gaining huge followings on TikTok or Instagramāsome helpful, some controversial.
Impact: Blurs the line between professionalism and personal brand. Raises questions about policy, ethics, and boundaries.
š ļø How Officers Can Navigate the Digital Spotlight
1. Stay Grounded in Your Values
You canāt control how people perceive youābut you can control how you show up. Integrity matters more than likes.
2. Be Cautious with What You Post
Even off-duty posts can be used against you. Donāt post anything you wouldnāt be proud to defend.
3. Advocate for Digital Training
Departments should offer social media training and policy updates to help officers protect themselves and their reputations.
4. Focus on Community Engagement Offline
Real-world trust is built in person. Donāt let online hate overshadow the power of genuine connection.
5. Support One Another
Create internal peer networks to vent, process, and discuss the emotional impact of working under the constant lens of the algorithm.
šÆ Why This Episode Matters
The job of a first responder has always been hardābut now it comes with the added weight of a digital audience. Understanding how to operate within the algorithmāwithout losing your purposeāis a new form of tactical intelligence.
šļø Listen now to learn how to protect your peace, preserve your integrity, and stay mission-focused in a media-driven world.š„ Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community:
š”ļø Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX ā Buy One, Get One FreešÆ Connect With Us:
ā Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families
š„ Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews
š Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and moreš¬ Listener Question:
Whatās one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram!Disclaimer:
All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education.šļø Want to be a guest on Tactical Living?
Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch ā Click here(Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchaseāat no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust.
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There are fears many first responders carryābut rarely talk about. In this episode, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton reveal five common fears officers silently struggle with, and offer strategies to face them head-on with confidence, clarity, and support.
š Episode Overview:
First responders are trained to face dangerābut there are internal fears that donāt always show up on a call. From financial anxiety (Amazon Affiliate) to fear of making a mistake, these unspoken worries can quietly build until they impact performance, relationships, and mental health.
In this episode, youāll learn how to identify these hidden stressors and gain tools to work through themāwithout shame or silence.
š§ 5 Fears First Responders Rarely Talk About (And How to Overcome Them)
1. Fear of Financial Instability
Example: Worrying about how to support your family if you get injured or forced into early retirement.
Remedy: Build an emergency fund, explore insurance options, and start planning for life beyond the badge early.
2. Fear of Job Loss or Departmental Politics
Example: Staying silent about toxic leadership or misconduct because you fear retaliation or losing your job.
Remedy: Document concerns, lean on your union or HR structure, and seek support through peer networks or external legal resources when necessary.
3. Fear of Making a Career-Ending Mistake
Example: Constant anxiety over whether your last report, decision, or use-of-force incident will be used against you.
Remedy: Stay current on training, use your departmentās legal resources, and seek mental health support to process this fear before it creates burnout.
4. Fear of Losing Control at Home
Example: Feeling like your stress, anger, or emotional distance is driving a wedge in your marriage or relationship with your kids.
Remedy: Establish post-shift routines to decompress, and prioritize honest communication with your family and partner.
5. Fear of the Future and Who Youāll Be After the Job
Example: Wondering what your life will look like when the badge comes off, and if youāll have purpose beyond the job.
Remedy: Start exploring passions and skills nowāoutside of work. Seek mentorship and resources for long-term planning and retirement.
šÆ Why This Episode Matters
Carrying these fears in silence doesnāt make you strongerāit just weighs you down. Acknowledging what scares you is the first step toward reclaiming control and peace of mind.
šļø Listen now to face your unspoken fears with tactical tools and a renewed sense of confidence in your future.š„ Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community:
š”ļø Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX ā Buy One, Get One FreešÆ Connect With Us:
ā Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families
š„ Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews
š Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and moreš¬ Listener Question:
Whatās one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram!Disclaimer:
All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education.šļø Want to be a guest on Tactical Living?
Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch ā Click here(Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchaseāat no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust.
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When your job becomes your identity, everything else fades into the background. In this episode, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton guide first responders through the journey of rediscovering who they are beyond the uniform (Amazon Affiliateāso they can build a more balanced, fulfilling life.
š Episode Overview:
Law enforcement and first responder work can easily consume your identity. Over time, hobbies, friendships, and even your personality can get lost in the badge.
This episode is a reminder that youāre more than your job. Youāll learn how to reconnect with your passions, strengthen relationships outside of work, and create a lifestyle that reflects your full selfānot just your role.
šØ 5 Signs Youāve Lost Yourself in the Job
1. You Struggle to Answer āWhat Do You Do for Fun?ā
If your mind goes blank when asked this, itās time to reconnect with your interests.
2. Your Entire Social Circle Is Work-Related
Only surrounding yourself with coworkers can limit your perspective and growth.
3. You Donāt Prioritize Hobbies or Downtime
If work always comes first, personal passions get pushed to the back burner.
4. Your Partner Says āYouāre Always in Cop Modeā
Itās hard to fully relax when your identity is always on-dutyāeven at home.
5. You Feel Lost During Time Off or After Retirement
Without the structure of the job, you may not know who you are or what to do next.
š ļø 5 Ways to Reclaim Your Identity Beyond the Badge
1. Revisit Old Hobbies or Passions
What did you love doing before the job? Pick one and intentionally reintroduce it into your life.
2. Spend Time with Non-Work Friends or Family
Building relationships outside of the job creates a healthier, more balanced social circle.
3. Schedule āYou Timeā That Has Nothing to Do with Work
Whether itās music, art, faith, hiking, or learning something newācarve out space just for you.
4. Reflect on Your Pre-Job Identity
Journal about who you were before you became a first responderāand what parts of that person you want to bring back.
5. Start Saying āI Amā Without the Badge
Practice defining yourself outside of your title: I am a father. I am an artist. I am someone who brings calm to chaos.
šÆ Why This Episode Matters
You were someone before the jobāand youāll still be someone after. Reconnecting with your identity outside of your profession isnāt a luxuryāitās a lifeline.
šļø Listen now to rediscover the parts of yourself that make you whole, strong, and humanānot just a first responder.š„ Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community:
š”ļø Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX ā Buy One, Get One FreešÆ Connect With Us:
ā Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families
š„ Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews
š Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and moreš¬ Listener Question:
Whatās one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram!Disclaimer:
All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education.šļø Want to be a guest on Tactical Living?
Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch ā Click here(Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchaseāat no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust.
š£ For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities:
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