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Beyond Survival Mode: Living Your Values Through Recovery's Toughest Challenges
When life gets turned upside down in recovery, what keeps you moving forward? In this powerful episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane Oline and Eric Osterlind explore how reconnecting with your values can be the anchor you need when emotional pain threatens to pull you under.
We've all been there – stuck in survival mode, consumed by shame, fear, or anger after a setback in recovery. The hardest part? Feeling disconnected from yourself, like you're just going through the motions of someone else's life. This episode dives into what value-based living really means and why it matters so much on your healing journey.
Drawing from the work of Dr. Steven Hayes (founder of ACT Therapy) and Brené Brown, Duane and Eric offer practical wisdom on how values serve as your "North Star" during life's storms. Unlike goals that can be checked off, values are ongoing qualities that give your life meaning and direction.
The hosts emphasize that valued living isn't about perfection – it's about direction, not destination. Even small steps toward what matters count as success. They also remind listeners that values can evolve over time, especially during challenging experiences that clarify what truly matters.
This episode includes a step-by-step walkthrough of a worksheet designed to help you reconnect with your values when you're struggling. From identifying challenges to taking small, intentional actions that realign you with what matters most, Duane and Eric provide a practical roadmap for living authentically even when it's hard.
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Whether you're facing a relapse, dealing with intense emotions, or simply trying to hold your life together, this conversation offers compassionate guidance on using your values as a compass to find your way forward again.
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Key Topics
What value-based living means and why it matters in recovery
How emotional pain can disconnect us from our values
The difference between values and feelings in guiding our actions
How values serve as your "North Star" during challenging times
A practical worksheet for reconnecting with your values when struggling
Small, intentional actions that can realign you with your values
How community support can help you live according to your values
Timestamps
[00:01:48] Introduction to the importance of values in recovery
[00:03:24] How emotional pain disconnects us fromrom our values
[00:05:02] Values as ongoing qualities that give life meaning
[00:07:08] The question: "What kind of person do I want to be in pain?"
[00:08:37] The difference between values and feelings
[00:11:51] Step-by-step walkthrough of the values worksheet
[00:15:32] How values become your guide when the path is unclear
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Raised with dreams of becoming a missionary, Dean Patrick's journey took an unexpected detour following a fateful encounter with cocaine in high school. This pivotal moment diverted him from a path of faith toward one of ambition and excess, eventually leading to Stanford and the cutthroat world of cryptocurrency. On this episode, Dean shares his battle with substance abuse and the profound lessons he learned through the chaos of addiction and the healing power of Zen meditation.
Dean's story is a raw exploration of the intoxicating pursuit of wealth and the harsh realities it veils. Influenced by his brother's secular views, Dean shifted from his Christian upbringing to atheism, which set the stage for his descent into stimulant use as a means to boost academic performance. The allure of fast money and status through cryptocurrency seemed promising until the 2018 crash thrust him into despair. Through candid reflections, Dean reveals how embracing pain instead of fleeing from it became his gateway to recovery, and how quieting the mind through meditation reshaped his understanding of success.
In this episode, you will hear:
Dean Patrick's transformation from a Christian upbringing to atheism and later embracing Zen meditation.
His battle with addiction starting from a high school encounter with cocaine and escalating during his time at Stanford.
The rise and fall of his cryptocurrency hedge fund, culminating in the 2018 market crash.
The importance of embracing pain for personal healing and growth.
Reflections on the value of community and connection over wealth and status.
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In this episode of The Addicted Mind, Duane and Eric Osterlind dive into the powerful concept of the inner child. They explore how past traumas influence our present reactions and behaviors. Understanding and healing your inner child can lead to profound personal growth and recovery. Learn about the history of the inner child concept, its impact on addiction and recovery. Start your practical steps to your healing journey. Join us as we provide compassionate insights and actionable advice to help you nurture your vulnerable inner child and create a healthier, more balanced life.
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Key Topics
What is the inner child and its historical background
How past traumas influence current behaviors
The connection between inner child work and addiction recovery
Practical steps to heal your inner child
The importance of community and professional support in healing
Timestamps
[00:00:00] - Introduction to the topic of the inner child
[00:01:06] - Overview of the inner child concept and its importance
[00:03:32] - Signs of a wounded inner child
[00:04:45] - Historical background: Carl Jung and John Bradshaw
[00:06:21] - The impact of a wounded inner child on adult life
[00:09:55] - How inner child work aids in addiction recovery
[00:13:15] - Practical steps and resources for inner child healing
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Ever felt like you're stuck in a downward spiral of negative thoughts and emotions? Well, you're not alone. Join us as we converse with the spectacular Alex Korb, eminent neuroscientist and author of 'The Upward Spiral: Using Neuroscience to Reverse the Course of Depression, One Small Change at a Time.' Our exchange pivots around his life-changing journey from probing the depths of neuroscience to uncovering the profound understanding of depression.
You're in for a treat as Alex reveals the intricate workings of our brains, drawing an engaging comparison between tuning our minds to adjusting the volume on a speaker. Debunking the conventional belief in a one-size-fits-all treatment, Alex emphasizes the necessity of a personalized approach to mental health. Be ready to reframe your understanding of mental health as we traverse this enlightening conversation.
Wrapping up our talk, Alex underlines the empowering nature of comprehending the human brain and the sheer potential of minor modifications leading to massive changes in our lives. This absorbing conversation is sure to offer a fresh perspective on mental health and equip you with practical ways to navigate it.
In this episode, you will hear:
Personalized approach to mental health as opposed to a one-size-fits-all treatment
The role of minor changes in transforming our lives and creating an upward spiral of positivity
His journey from being a neuroscience student to understanding depression at a deeper level
The importance of physical activity in enhancing neuroplasticity and the sensitivity of brain circuits
Understanding the brain's function to empower oneself and instigate positive change
Exploration of how small positive changes can lead to a powerful upward spiral in our lives
The complexities of depression, and the importance of recognizing it as a biological, not moral, failing
Neuroscience as a tool to better understand and manage depression
The interaction between depression and addiction, and how understanding the brain can aid in managing both.
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Imagine this: You're about to play the biggest game of your life when someone offers to just put the final score on the board—you win! No sweat, no struggle, no game. Would you take that deal?
In this eye-opening episode of The Addicted Mind Podcast, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind explore why most of us would actually turn down this seemingly perfect offer. They introduce the powerful "Scoreboard Metaphor" from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) that helps separate goals from values in addiction recovery.
Many people in recovery focus solely on hitting milestones—30 days sober, 90 days sober—only to feel empty when they reach them or completely defeated if they relapse. This episode flips that thinking on its head by showing that while goals (the score) matter, how you play the game (your values) matters far more.
The hosts break down why people often relapse after reaching milestones. When we chase outcomes without connecting to the values behind them, we create an emptiness that no achievement can fill. The scoreboard might say "win," but without the journey—the struggle, the growth, the connection—it feels hollow.
Through practical examples and personal insights, Duane and Eric show how this mindset shift transforms recovery. If you're living each day with honesty, courage, and connection, each day is a success—regardless of whether you've hit your sobriety goal yet. And if you do relapse, you haven't lost everything. The values-based actions you took still matter, and the game isn't over.
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The episode concludes with five simple steps to apply this metaphor to your own recovery journey, helping you identify your true values, clarify meaningful goals, and build resilience when facing setbacks. The hosts also invite listeners to download a free worksheet and join their supportive community where these concepts can be explored further.
Whether you've felt lost chasing empty goals or you've hit recovery milestones but still feel unfulfilled, this episode offers a refreshing perspective that could change how you view your recovery journey—and maybe even your life.
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On this episode of the Addicted Mind podcast, our guest is Tom Horvath, founder of Practical Recovery and co-founder of Smart Recovery. Smart Recovery is a non-12-step approach to addictive behavior problems that provides an alternative to programs like Alcoholics Anonymous. While both methods provide new communities and relationships to build on as well as specific examples of individuals who are models of success, AA is based on the idea that you must give yourself up to a higher power because “you are powerless” and must rely on your sponsor and meetings in order to recover.
12-step programs can be helpful to some, but they can be ineffective for others, so the demand for alternative programs is continuing to increase. Smart Recovery integrates any methods that have been supported by scientific evidence, are self-empowering and are applicable in a mutual help group, including CBT, DBT, and ACT. They recognize that there are multiple pathways to recovery and that great results occur in a community.
Smart Recovery takes a self-empowering approach to recovery, relying on the individual to set their own limits and establishing a 4-point program for people to work through:
Maintaining motivation
Coping with craving
Identifying and resolving other problems
Achieving a greater lifestyle balance
Smart Recovery emphasizes “ideal” recovery, rather than “real” recovery as is expected in 12-step programs. Ideal recovery may not be complete abstinence, but rather staying within the limits that each person sets (and potentially changes along the way) for themselves, which is the point of the accountability of attending meetings.
Tom encourages those struggling with addictive behaviors or searching for a recovery group to be persistent in finding what works for you. Most people are able to resolve their problems with treatment, so just don’t give up.
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Have you ever felt anxiety, grief, or shame bubbling up and immediately reached for your phone, a drink, or a distraction? That instinct to push away painful feelings is completely normal – but what if that very avoidance is keeping you trapped in unhealthy patterns?
In this illuminating episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric dive into the world of emotional avoidance and reveal why our natural tendency to escape discomfort might be sabotaging our mental health and recovery.
When we avoid emotions, we get temporary relief. But those pushed-down feelings don't disappear – they intensify and return stronger than before. This creates a dangerous cycle where we need more and more avoidance behaviors, which can easily develop into addiction.
Our brains learn that emotions are dangerous rather than what they truly are: valuable information to help us navigate life. By facing our emotions instead of running from them, we can access our "Wise Mind" – the balanced place where intellect and emotions work together to make better decisions.
WORKSHEET: Avoiding Emotions Worksheet
The hosts share six practical steps to break free from emotional avoidance patterns:
Recognize your avoidance patterns (Do you binge-watch TV when lonely? Overwork to avoid feelings of inadequacy?)
Name your emotions (Simply labeling feelings as "sadness" or "anxiety" can reduce their intensity)
Practice mindfulness (Learn to sit with discomfort instead of running)
Shift to acceptance-based coping (Experience emotions without judgment)
Try opposite action (Do the opposite of what avoidance urges)
Seek support (Connect with professionals, friends, or community)
The good news? With awareness and practice, emotions become less overwhelming over time. You don't have to be controlled by your feelings or constantly run from them. Instead, you can learn to navigate them with courage, make aligned life choices, and experience the richness that comes from emotional wellbeing.
Whether you're in recovery, struggling with compulsive behaviors, or simply want to improve your emotional health, this episode offers transformative insights and practical tools to help you face life's challenges with greater resilience.
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Join us on an enlightening journey with award-winning author and journalist Julia Hotz, who shares her insights into the world of social prescribing. Julia's groundbreaking book, "The Connection Cure," reveals the transformative power of community activities like art classes and fishing clubs, which foster meaningful connections crucial for tackling addiction and mental health challenges. Inspired by the UK's Minister of Loneliness, Julia highlights the immense health risks of isolation, comparing it to smoking 15 cigarettes a day, and explores how structured opportunities for connection can be a lifeline for those often lost in superficial interactions.
We explore the profound difference between meaningful and superficial connections. Julia shares real-life stories demonstrating how shared activities can nurture rich, rewarding relationships that promote personal growth much like a nourishing meal, in contrast to the empty calories of superficial online interactions. Vulnerability and shared experiences, she notes, are keys to deepening these bonds, offering listeners a fresh perspective on the value of engaging with others in meaningful ways.
In this episode, you will hear:
Exploration of social prescribing and its impact on health and healing with insights from Julia Hotz's book, "The Connection Cure"
Discussion on the health risks of loneliness, likened to smoking 15 cigarettes a day, and the role of the UK's Minister of Loneliness
Distinction between meaningful connections and superficial "junk food" connections, referencing Dr. John Cacioppo's theory of self-expansion
The five core ingredients of effective social prescriptions: movement, nature, art, service, and belonging
Influence of environment on addiction recovery, inspired by Bruce Alexander's Rat Park Study and Dave Lyons' "Tackling Minds" fishing club
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Have you ever experienced something so painful that you just wanted to erase it from your memory forever? Those "never again" moments that feel too heavy to carry? We all have them – whether it's a relapse, a toxic relationship, or a betrayal that left us wounded.
In this powerful episode of The Addicted Mind Podcast, hosts Duane and Eric explore the practice of "benefit finding" – a transformative approach to mining our painful experiences for growth and wisdom. Instead of pushing away difficult memories, they suggest we might find our greatest lessons within them.
This isn't about toxic positivity or pretending everything happens for a reason. It's about recognizing our remarkable human capacity to make meaning from suffering. As Viktor Frankl discovered in the concentration camps, "suffering ceases to be suffering the moment it finds a meaning."
Modern psychology calls this "post-traumatic growth" – the ability to find positive changes in five key areas: appreciation of life, relationships, new possibilities, personal strength, and spiritual change. When we intentionally reframe negative experiences, we're actually rewiring our brain through neuroplasticity.
The hosts provide a practical four-step process to transform your pain into wisdom:
Identify the negative experience you never want to repeat
Understand why you want to avoid it
Extract the valuable lessons within it
Create a document of your "new learnings"
Through this process, your darkest moments can become sources of inspiration and light – not just for yourself, but for others around you. As Brené Brown reminds us, "Our wholeness actually depends on the integration of all of our experiences, including the falls."
Whether you're in recovery or simply navigating life's challenges, this episode offers a compassionate roadmap for turning pain into purpose. Download the accompanying worksheet to begin your journey of transformation today.
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Key Topics
The natural tendency to want to forget painful experiences vs. the value of mining them for wisdom
Post-traumatic growth and the five areas where people can grow through difficult experiences
How neuroplasticity allows us to rewire our brains when we reframe negative experiences
The difference between benefit finding and toxic positivity • Viktor Frankl's insights on finding meaning in suffering
A practical four-step process for transforming pain into wisdom
How to create a living document of "new learnings" from painful experiences
Timestamp
[00:00:54] Introduction to the topic of painful experiences we wish we could erase
[00:04:00] Explanation of benefit finding and transforming pain into growth
[00:07:40] Discussion of Viktor Frankl and making meaning from suffering
[00:08:29] The five areas of post-traumatic growth
[00:09:12] How reframing negative experiences rewires our brains
[00:13:00] Step 1 & 2: Identifying and understanding your painful experience
[00:15:22] Steps 3 & 4: Extracting lessons and creating new learnings
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Our guest on this episode of the Addicted Mind podcast is Jack Bloomfield, a specialist in the ARISE model of interventions. This model is an alternative to the “traditional” form of confrontational interventions created in the 1960s by Dr. Johnson. In this confrontational model, the focus is very much on the addict, usually involving an ambush-type situation where several family members trick the addict into coming to a certain location where they are presented with some type of “go to rehab tomorrow or else…” ultimatum.
Due to the heartfelt emotions in this situation, addicts are likely to agree to go to rehab, but 70% of them will leave rehab within 2 weeks because they didn’t make the decision to enter on their own terms.
They usually feel anger and resentment towards their family which proves to be counterproductive to the family’s original desires and plan.
The ARISE model of intervention is different and successful in 3 areas:
It is an invitation model.
The addict is invited to a “family meeting” where they likely know what will be discussed.
The dialogue changes from “you have a problem” to “we, as a family, have a problem.”
80% of addicts will come when they are invited.
50% of those happen because they recognize that they have a problem
50% will go because they don’t think they have a problem and want to defend themselves
The focus is on the family.
The family indicates that they recognize that they all have things they need to work on in themselves, and they have reached out to someone who can help them all as a family.
The addict does not feel singled out.
The interventionist works with the family for 6 months.
By committing to continuing care, the family creates a safe place for all of them to work on and discuss their issues and their progress during weekly accountability phone calls.
This timeframe empowers the addict to make their own choices and not feel forced or pressured into action.
They may decide that rehab, intensive outpatient treatment, or just consistent AA meetings are their best option.
During and after the addict addresses their issue, the family is all on the same page and speaking the same language because they have all been on a healing journey together.
The incredible statistic is that while 70% of addicts who enter rehab as a result of a confrontational intervention will leave within 2 weeks, only 2% of addicts who enter rehab as a result of an ARISE intervention will disappear within 30 days.
This gives so much hope to the families waiting for a breakthrough in the life of their loved one who struggles with addiction.
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In this episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, Duane and Eric dive deep into the unspoken roles that families often fall into, especially when dealing with addiction. They explore how these roles—like the hero, caretaker, scapegoat, mascot, and lost child—can perpetuate dysfunction and hinder recovery.
By understanding and identifying these roles, you can begin to break free from the cycles that keep you stuck. Tune in to learn practical steps for recognizing these dynamics, fostering open communication, and setting boundaries that support your journey toward recovery and authentic living.
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Key Topics
Understanding common family roles in addiction
The impact of these roles on personal well-being
Historical context and development of family therapy
Practical steps for changing dysfunctional family dynamics
Importance of self-care and therapeutic support
Timestamp
[00:01:00] - Introduction to the episode and topic
[00:02:16] - Explanation of family roles and their impact
[00:05:23] - Historical background of family therapy and roles
[00:11:00] - Detailed discussion of each family role
[00:20:11] - Practical steps for identifying and changing roles
[00:23:00] - Importance of self-care and boundary setting
[00:24:03] - Information about additional resources and deep dives
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Discover the profound insights of Dr. Frederic Luskin, renowned psychologist and director of the Stanford Forgiveness Project, as he unpacks the powerful role forgiveness plays in our lives. Alongside him, former Episcopal priest, Lyndon Harris shares his compelling journey of healing after the 9/11 tragedy, illustrating the transformative power of forgiveness. Together, they share personal narratives and professional insights that highlight forgiveness as a vital skill for mental and emotional well-being.
Our conversation dives deep into the complex dynamics between forgiveness and survival. We explore how anger can initially serve as a source of empowerment but often becomes a restrictive force that holds us back. By recognizing forgiveness as a skill that can be taught and honed over time, supported by extensive research, we reveal how it can shift individuals from a victim mindset to a more empowered life story. This episode sheds light on how forgiveness, though not a moral directive, is an essential component of self-care that can be developed to improve our capacity for compassion and authentic living.
In this episode, you will hear:
Exploration of forgiveness as a vital skill for mental and emotional well-being
Discussion on the complex relationship between anger, empowerment, and forgiveness
Emphasis on forgiveness as a teachable skill, supported by academic research
The role of gratitude and self-forgiveness in the healing process
Practical tools and advice for overcoming resentment and embracing compassion
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Have you ever thought, "I've tried recovery before and failed—why try again?" or "This is just who I am"? These beliefs might be the biggest barrier to lasting recovery.
In this solo episode, licensed therapist Duane Osterlind shares how a growth mindset can transform your recovery journey. Drawing from Dr. Carol Dweck's research, Duane explains how viewing your abilities and capacity for recovery as things that can grow and change (rather than fixed traits) makes all the difference.
Recovery is rarely a straight path. For many, it's a series of hopeful starts followed by setbacks. Each relapse can make doubt grow louder: "Maybe I'm not strong enough," or "Maybe I'll always be this way." These thoughts aren't just discouraging—they actively harm recovery.
When we believe change isn’t possible, we avoid challenges, give up easily, and see effort as pointless. This mindset isn’t just psychological—it impacts physical health, increases stress, and perpetuates addiction.
But there is another way. A growth mindset recognizes that your brain is neuroplastic—able to form new pathways throughout life. The same neuroplasticity that allowed addiction to take hold can help you build healthier habits. Through this lens, relapse becomes valuable data, not failure, offering insights about triggers and strategies for meaningful change.
Duane shares practical steps to build this mindset, like becoming aware of your self-talk, reframing challenges, embracing "the power of yet," and celebrating effort over outcomes. Recovery becomes about resilience and growth, not perfection.
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Key Topics:
The difference between fixed mindset and growth mindset in recovery
How neuroplasticity makes lasting change possible in addiction
Viewing relapses as learning opportunities rather than failures
Practical techniques to develop a growth mindset in recovery
The importance of celebrating effort over perfect outcomes
How seeking feedback strengthens your recovery journey
Finding inspiration in others who have successfully changed
Episode Timestamps:
[00:00:54] Introduction to growth mindset in addiction recovery
[00:04:21] The research behind mindset theory and Dr. Carol Dweck's work
[00:07:00] Understanding brain neuroplasticity in addiction and recovery
[00:09:39] Actionable steps to develop a growth mindset in recovery
[00:12:31] The power of adding "yet" to negative self-statements
[00:14:05] The importance of seeking constructive feedback
[00:16:00] Closing thoughts: "Becoming is better than being"
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High-functioning codependency takes center stage as we welcome licensed psychotherapist and boundary expert Terri Cole to the Addicted Mind podcast. With a unique journey from a talent agent to a psychotherapist, Terri shares her personal experiences and insights from her book, "Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency." We dive into the world of individuals who seem to manage life with ease yet secretly bear the weight of excessive responsibilities. Terri provides valuable strategies to help listeners recognize and break free from these patterns, offering a path towards healthier relationships and personal well-being.
The episode also shines a light on the connection between highly sensitive people and high-functioning codependency. Terri and I explore the challenges of managing the instinct to control others' emotions and the importance of setting healthy boundaries. Personal anecdotes bring these discussions to life, including the struggle to support a loved one while respecting their autonomy. By acknowledging the discomfort of letting go, listeners can learn to empower others to be the heroes of their own stories, fostering genuine connection and intimacy.
In this episode, you will hear:
High-functioning codependency and its hidden struggles explored with Terri Cole
Transition from talent agent to psychotherapist; insights from Terri's book "Too Much"
Connection between highly sensitive people and high-functioning codependency
Strategies for setting boundaries and fostering healthier relationships
Embracing vulnerability and authenticity as part of recovery
Importance of self-discovery and courage to disappoint for personal growth
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Instagram: Terri Cole (@terricole)
Book: Too Much https://www.terricole.com/
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Imagine this: You're in the middle of a stressful moment. Your heart races, shame creeps in, and that familiar voice in your head starts up again: "I'm a failure. I'll never change." What if you could stop this spiral with just a few powerful words?
In this episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric explore how creating a personal positive mantra can transform your recovery journey. These simple phrases aren't just feel-good statements—they're powerful tools backed by science that can literally rewire your brain.
Our hosts break down how negative automatic thoughts become hardwired through repetition, creating harmful cycles that feel impossible to escape. But there's hope! Using the concept of neuroplasticity—the brain's ability to form new connections—they explain how intentionally shifting these thoughts with personal mantras can change how you feel and respond to stress, shame, and cravings.
The episode offers a practical three-step process to create your own personal mantra: identify your automatic negative thoughts, challenge them with more realistic perspectives, and craft a simple, memorable mantra you can use in tough moments. Examples like "This feeling will pass" and "I am stronger than this moment" show how these short phrases can become powerful anchors when you need them most.
Duane and Eric emphasize that recovery isn't something we do alone—it's a journey we take together. They share how these mantras, when practiced regularly, become stronger with each use—like doing one rep at the gym.
Whether you're new to recovery or looking to strengthen your journey, this episode provides a simple yet powerful tool to help you navigate stress, regulate emotions, and stay grounded when you need it most.
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Key Topics
The science behind automatic negative thoughts and how they become hardwired in our brains
How neuroplasticity allows us to create new thought patterns through intentional practice
Three-step process to create your personal coping mantra
Why writing down negative thoughts is crucial to identifying them
The importance of personalizing mantras to make them more effective
How to practice and implement your mantra in daily life
Why community support enhances recovery alongside personal coping skills
Timestamp
[00:01:08] Introduction to personal coping mantras and their power in stressful moments
[00:03:54] The importance of community in recovery journeys
[00:05:00] Understanding how automatic negative thoughts shape our emotions and behaviors
[00:06:14] The science and history behind mantras in psychological practice
[00:09:00] Step 1: Identifying your automatic negative thoughts
[00:11:58] Step 2 & 3: Challenging negative thoughts and creating positive mantras
[00:16:09] Resources available for listeners to implement these practices
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Unlock the secret to healing from betrayal as Eddie Caparucci, a seasoned counselor, guides us through the transformative power of inner child work. Gain insights from Eddie as he unravels the intricate tapestry of trauma, betrayal, and recovery. Eddie’s latest book offers a lifeline to those grappling with the pain of infidelity, drawing connections between unresolved childhood wounds and present-day struggles. Together with his wife, Teri, they illuminate a path towards reclaiming one's sense of self and emotional resilience.
Join us as we explore the profound impact of childhood experiences on our responses to betrayal. Eddie shares his expertise on identifying core emotional triggers and how these can magnify the hurt of infidelity. By acknowledging the inner child, betrayed partners can begin the journey of healing and learn to separate raw emotions from rational thoughts. With compassion and understanding, this episode shines a light on the complex journey of recovery, empowering listeners to manage emotional distress more effectively.
In this episode, you will hear:
Eddie Capparucci discusses healing from betrayal using inner child work, linking unresolved childhood trauma to current emotional issues.
Exploration of betrayal and trauma intersection, offering insights on separating emotions from thoughts for recovery.
Strategies for finding inner strength and resilience after betrayal, focusing on self-empowerment and understanding pain.
The importance of community support and therapy for managing distress and rebuilding trust.
Discussion on identifying emotional triggers and addressing past wounds for recovery and better relationship decisions.
Insights on maintaining healthy relationships by understanding childhood impact on adult emotions and behavior.
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What drives you forward when recovery gets tough? In this powerful follow-up to their episode on values, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind dive into the concept of "meaning making" – the essential fuel that powers your journey toward your most important goals.
Have you ever achieved something you thought would make you happy, only to feel empty afterward? Or felt stuck in life despite doing everything "right"? This episode explores why so many people – even successful ones – struggle with feeling unfulfilled and disconnected from what truly matters to them.
Using the framework developed by Thomas Mara, the hosts break down how meaning isn't something external that happens to you – it's something you actively create. If values are your North Star showing you direction, meaning is the engine that moves your boat forward.
Duane and Eric explain how distorted meaning-making contributes to anxiety disorders, depression, addiction, and eating disorders – and how reconnecting with authentic meaning can transform recovery. They introduce the concept of "supreme concerns" – the things that matter most to you – and provide practical strategies for identifying them and building your daily life around them.
Whether you're struggling with addiction, mental health challenges, or simply feeling disconnected from purpose, this episode offers a roadmap for creating a more authentic, fulfilling life aligned with what truly matters to you. The hosts remind us that meaning-making isn't just a nice addition to recovery – it's essential for building resilience against life's challenges and creating genuine happiness.
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Key Topics
• The relationship between values and meaning in recovery
• Understanding meaning as a perspective rather than inherent in objects
• How distorted meaning contributes to mental health disorders
• The concept of "supreme concerns" as guideposts for meaningful living
• Practical strategies for embedding meaning into everyday life
• Overcoming obstacles to meaning making like fear and powerlessness
• How alignment with meaning creates resilience and authentic relationships
Timestamp
[00:01:30] Eric's analogy: Values as North Star, meaning as the motor
[00:03:00] Defining meaning and why it's personal to each individual
[00:05:49] How anxiety and depression distort meaning
[00:07:52] The challenge of misalignment even in successful people
[00:09:13] Exploring the concept of "supreme concerns"
[00:11:43] Overcoming obstacles to meaning making
[00:14:00] How meaning making enhances recovery and relationships
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Growing up amidst the chaos of a turbulent family life in Detroit, Dwayne Barnes discovered a lifeline in the form of creative expression. His journey from a tumultuous childhood to the bright lights of Hollywood is nothing short of remarkable. During our conversation, Dwayne opens up about how acting became his sanctuary, a place where he could channel the dysfunction of his upbringing into something beautiful and transformative. His debut book, "Their Eyes Were Never on Me," is a raw exploration of self-addiction and limiting beliefs, offering a beacon of hope for those eager to break free from their own chains.
Our discussion with Dwayne shines a light on the intricate balance between family challenges and career aspirations. He shares candid reflections on the sacrifices made by loved ones, including a grandmother's unwavering support amidst addiction struggles. Navigating the pressure of Hollywood, Dwayne faced the daunting task of starring in roles that eerily mirrored his own life’s trials. Despite being surrounded by the glamor and allure of fame, he unveils the real-life personal battles and healing processes that unfolded behind the scenes, including the realization of personal issues, obstacles in therapy, and the unyielding quest for resilience.
In this episode, you will hear:
Dwayne Barnes' transformative journey from a turbulent childhood in Detroit to success in Hollywood
Acting as a sanctuary; channeling his chaotic upbringing into creative expression
Insights from his book "Their Eyes Were Never on Me," exploring self-addiction and breaking limiting beliefs
The role of family dynamics and sacrifices, including the support of his grandmother, in his journey
Navigating the pressures of fame while facing personal challenges and healing processes
Embracing creativity and spirituality as tools for authentic growth and empowerment
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Are you feeling stuck, unfulfilled, or like you're living someone else's life? In this powerful episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind dive deep into how unclear values might be sabotaging your recovery and overall well-being. Like a rudder on a boat, your values guide you through life's challenges and decisions. Yet many people in recovery struggle because they haven't identified what truly matters to them.
The hosts explore how living without clear values can lead to anxiety, depression, and that nagging feeling that something's missing. They share practical insights on how to discover your authentic values across different life areas - from relationships to career choices. Whether you're in recovery or simply seeking a more meaningful life, this episode offers concrete strategies for aligning your actions with what truly matters to you. Plus, listeners get access to a special worksheet to help them define their personal values and start making better decisions today.
Download the worksheet: Building a Life & Recovery Guided by Your Values Worksheet
Key Topics:
The connection between undefined values and recovery struggles
How misaligned values lead to anxiety, depression, and unfulfillment
The importance of differentiating between personal values and "shoulds" from others
How values change throughout different life stages and circumstances
Using values as a decision-making tool in relationships and career choices
The role of emotion regulation in living according to your values
Practical strategies for defining values in different life domains
Timestamps:
[00:01:14] Values as a rudder: The importance of guidance in life
[00:02:37] Why values need regular review and refinement
[00:04:31] How undefined values impact mental health and recovery
[00:06:00] Using values to make better decisions [00:09:35] Breaking down values into specific life categories
[00:11:18] Practical examples of applying values to relationships
[00:13:21] Access to free values worksheet and resources
Episode Credits
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When Caitlin Morrison found herself facing the bittersweet task of continuing her brother Matthew Perry's legacy, she embraced it with a deep sense of purpose and resilience. On this episode of the Addicted Mind Podcast, Caitlin joins us to share her poignant journey of supporting a loved one through addiction and how it shaped her work at the Matthew Perry Foundation of Canada. Through her story, we unravel the layers of hope, frustration, and the powerful drive to reduce the stigma surrounding addiction.
We explore the intricate world of addiction treatment, emphasizing the necessity for extended care and the brain's lengthy healing process. We challenge the misconceptions around addiction by advocating for a perspective that treats it as a chronic disease, akin to diabetes or heart disease. With insights from Caitlin's experiences and Matthew's courageous openness about his struggles, we highlight the importance of long-term support and the role of compassion in recovery.
In this episode, you will hear:
Caitlin Morrison's journey continuing her brother Matthew Perry's legacy in addiction support.
The role of the Matthew Perry Foundation of Canada in advocating for long-term recovery.
Addressing addiction as a chronic disease, similar to diabetes or heart disease.
Importance of reducing stigma and embracing compassion in addiction recovery.
The transformative impact of community-centric facilities like the Matthew Perry House in Ottawa.
Matthew Perry's courageous openness about his struggles inspiring others to seek help.
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Instagram: @mpfcanada
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