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Hello, my beautiful Adult Chair family! Itâs Michelle Chalfant, and Iâm thrilled to be back with you after a few months away. These months have been a transformative journey for me, one filled with deep introspection and change, not just personally but also for our beloved podcast.
In this episode, Iâm joined by someone very special, Jennifer Dawn, who has been a guide, mentor, and friend to me through this incredible period of growth. Jennifer has a profound connection to energy and healing, and she generously shared her insights on self-discovery and the transformative power of embracing our true selves.
Listen to discover:
The Journey of Coming Back: I open up about my break from the podcast and what it meant for my personal growth.
Jennifer Dawnâs Impact: Jennifer talks about her lifeâs work, dedicated to awakening consciousness and guiding others to remember their true nature.
Embracing the Cycles of Life: We delve into how personal and global transformations are akin to the natural cycles of the seasonsânecessary and rejuvenating.
Navigating Personal Transformations: Jennifer and I discuss how to find peace and direction during challenging times by connecting more deeply with our true selves.
Quotes to Remember:
"Who we think we are, is not really who we are. We are so much more." â Michelle
"In the darkness of our hard moments, we find the seeds of our true becoming." â Jennifer Dawn
"Each step in our journey, no matter how small, leads us closer to the essence of who we truly are." â Michelle
This episode is a heartfelt reminder that the challenges we face are not just obstacles but opportunities for profound growth and self-discovery. Jenniferâs perspective on embracing the cycles of life offers a refreshing viewpoint on how to approach our personal evolutions. As we discuss the importance of reconnecting with ourselves, I encourage you to consider how you can tune in more deeply to your own inner wisdom.
Connect with Jennifer Dawn: To learn more about Jenniferâs work and access the resources she offers, please visit her website linked in our show notes. Her insights and tools, like the "Illuminated Love Oracle," are wonderful aids in the journey toward self-discovery. Use the code MICHELLE10 for 10% of her oracle deck.
LINKS & RESOURCES
Jennifer Dawn Website
https://www.jenniferdawn.love/Jennifer Dawn Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/jenniferdawn.loveJennifer Dawn Facebook
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Lately, thereâs been something stirring in my soul.
I donât know exactly what it is yet, but I feel like itâs going to be BIG â like something new is coming, and I need to go inward and listen for what it is.
Have you ever felt this way? When this happens, I believe itâs our soul tugging at us, trying to tell us something about our mission and purpose on the planet.
And I have made it my intention to always listen when the soul calls.
Itâs something I like to call âsoul alignmentâ â a practice of going within and listening to the soul to get clarity on who we are and our illuminated path.
In this episode, Iâm teaching you how to tune into the voice of your soul (the part of you that is seated squarely in the Adult Chair), why this is so important and how to clear the blocks that stand between us and our souls.
The five simple practices I share in todayâs podcast will help you hear your soulâs whispers and nudges, know and feel the next steps on your path and take aligned action â not from the Adolescent Chair but from the Adult Chair.
Listen to discover:
The power of âsoul alignmentâ
The importance of âdeep listeningâ
How the ego gets in the way of listening
5 steps to listen to your soul
How to unlock greater passion, purpose and peace
The ego is rooted in fear, lives in the past and future and often screams at us in a loud voice. The soul lives in the present moment and speaks to us in a whisper, which is why we have to get still to hear it.
This episode will help you get out of your mind and into your heart, go inward and listen deeply to find your true purpose and guidance from within.
âWhen we align with our soul, we are guided.â - Michelle Chalfant
"When you're aligned with your soul, even the things that feel â to the ego â bad, what we find is that these things are the most beautiful gifts that we could have ever received." - Michelle Chalfant
âWhat your soul has in store for you is unlike anyone else on the entire planet.â - Michelle Chalfant
âMeditation is simply a practice that brings you into the present moment.â - Michelle Chalfant
âYouâre going to feel nudges or feel pulled or moved to do things. Thatâs your soul. Pay attention.â - Michelle Chalfant
âYour soulâs not going to talk to you from your head. Your soulâs going to talk to you through your heart.â - Michelle Chalfant
âEgo lives in past and future only. Soul lives in present moment only.â - Michelle Chalfant
MORE ADULT CHAIR
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What if the secret to better sleep, less inflammation and reduced pain was as simple as walking barefoot in the grass?
Both the earth and our bodies have an electrical charge, and âgroundingâ (or âearthingâ) refers to the practice of connecting our bodies to the earth â keeping the bodyâs charge at an optimal balance and unlocking tremendous health benefits.
If you think this sounds like something made up by a crunchy tree hugger, think again: the father of grounding, Clint Ober, is actually a cable guy.
Clint had a strong connection with nature from growing up on a ranch out West and great knowledge about how electrical currents work from his career in the cable industry.
One day, he saw a group of tourists all wearing thick rubber-soled shoes (a non-conductive material), and it hit him:
Could our modern lifestyle be keeping us from grounding into the earth?
This has led to a new frontier of health research, with very promising findings about the impact of grounding on inflammation, stress, autoimmune disease and more. Itâs the real deal!
I had the chance to talk to the man himself, Clint Ober, about how grounding works in the body, why our society is so ungrounded, the many, many health benefits of grounding and how anyone can start grounding â for FREE and today.
Listen to discover:
What earthing and grounding is
Why our bodies need to be connected to the earth's electrical charge
How grounding works in our immune system
The positive effect grounding can have on pain and chronic disease
How you can start grounding today
Grounding is so simple â it literally just requires going outside with bare feet (or conductive shoes).
And unlike so many health hacks or miracle cures on the market, this isnât something to be added to your healthâŠinstead, itâs a return.
A return to nature, our design and the natural harmony that occurs when weâre connected to our bodies and the earth.
"The earth is basically electrical." - Clint Ober
"We can heal these illnesses we're walking around with by grounding." - Michelle Chalfant
"We've totally insulated ourselves from the earth when we're wearing shoes." - Clint Ober
"You can't have inflammation in a grounded object." - Clint Ober
"As soon as you get grounded, then you have the earth's energy all around your body, and it pushes away all of this environmental stuff." - Clint Ober
"If you want to take 10 years off your [age], just go outdoors and stick your bare feet on the grass." - Clint Ober
"The body is always striving to heal itself. Always. We are in the way." - Michelle Chalfant
LINKS & RESOURCES
Clint Ober Earthing and Grounding Products
https://www.earthing.com/
Earthing Studies
https://earthinginstitute.net/
Earthing Movie
https://www.earthingmovie.com/
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The Adult ChairÂź Website
https://theadultchair.com
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https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
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https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/
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https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
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https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
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Have you ever gotten a âgut feelingâ that something was going to happenâŠand then it did? Or sensed that someone wasnât trustworthy or that you shouldnât move forward with a decision?
This is your intuition at work!
Intuition is something we all possess, and something weâve all undeniably experienced, but how it works remains largely a mystery. Is it something spiritual? Psychological? Biological?
Laura Day grew up feeling like her brain was âdifferentâ in some way. She knew she had ADD and a number of head injuries, but she didnât know she had an uncanny intuition until one day, she saw a television program about ESP research. She immediately related to it, picked up the phone, called the researchers and said, âI can do that.â For years, she participated in research studies about intuition and how it works.
Since then, Laura has built a high-profile career using her intuition for large companies and organizations and teaching others how to develop and tap into their innate intuition. A math, science and data nerd, Laura had no preconceived notions about intuition, which has given her a practical, grounded approach to learning and teaching about this ability.
In this episode, Laura shares her insights into what intuition actually is, how to tell the difference between intuition and fear, how to enhance your intuition and why intuition alone isnât enough â we must direct it towards action.
If youâve ever been curious about how those gut feelings and seemingly âsixth sensesâ work, youâre going to love this episode!
Listen to discover:
Whether or not weâre all born intuitive
How to tell the difference between intuition and fear
Why we all need to learn how to use our intuition
How to enhance and direct your intuition
The power of moving from intuition to action
Laura believes intuition is less a sixth sense and more an extension of the five senses we already have. But like a muscle, we have to exercise it and develop it.
When we learn to connect more deeply with ourselves and pay attention to whatâs going on around us using all five senses, itâs amazing what we can uncover â and how that can help us direct our lives and relationships towards greater wisdom and wellbeing.
âWe are all born intuitive.â - Laura Day
"If it's a persistent fear, it's not intuition. Intuition is accurate, immediate and actionable." - Laura Day
"It's a misnomer that intuition is a sixth sense. It's not. It's an extension of all of your senses in time and in space." - Laura Day
âSo many people stay stuck, and they donât realize that they are powerful creators and that they can get their way out of it.â - Michelle Chalfant
"The first thing you do to open your intuition or direct it effectively is you have goals." - Laura Day
"Intuition will show it to you, but it won't fix it for you." - Laura Day
LINKS & RESOURCES
Laura Day Website
https://lauraday.com/
Laura Day Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/lauradayintuit/
MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult ChairÂź Website
https://theadultchair.com
Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
Facebook
https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/
The Adult ChairÂź Facebook Group
https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
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2023 is behind us, and 2024 is here! The new year represents a clean slate and new chapter where you can begin manifesting the year â the life â you want.
I believe that, as creative beings, we are always in âcreation mode.â Like gravity, we canât turn the laws of manifestation on and off â they just are.
So, then the question becomes: What do you really want? And what is it that you are creating with every thought you have and word you speak?
In this episode, Iâm giving you everything you need to get more intentional with your creations this year, whether you have a dream youâre finally ready to manifest or thereâs something you want to change in your current reality, beginning with the words youâre telling yourself.
Weâre covering four keys for POWERFUL manifestation, how to tune your âenergetic dialâ into the âradio frequencyâ of your deepest desires and a 10-step process to help you clear the unconscious beliefs that are blocking your creationsâŠthis is the missing piece to manifestation that no one talks about but makes ALL the difference!
Listen to discover:
How manifestation works
Getting clear on what it is you truly want
Why things arenât manifesting in your life
The missing piece of manifestation that no one talks about
A 10-step process to clear blocks and barriers to manifesting
Four powerful keys to manifestation
Youâre going to want to get pen and paper out for this one, because Iâm giving you all the details, all the nuances and all the secrets to manifestation that Iâve learned over the years â with real-life examples to help you begin applying these principles today.
Whatever it is you want in 2024 (and even if youâre still figuring that out), this episode is step 1 to finding freedom from limiting beliefs, clearing unconscious blocks and changing the trajectory of your life this year.
âWe are beings that are able to create. And we create our reality with every thought we have.â - Michelle Chalfant
"Once you clear your unconscious blocks, then you can attract in your creation." - Michelle Chalfant
"We have to have what I call a 'consistent manifesting mindset.'" - Michelle Chalfant
"Everything is possible â everything and anything. You just have to line up with it." - Michelle Chalfant
"The more you focus and expect and live as if this creation is coming in and already here, the faster it will come to you." - Michelle Chalfant
"I promise you can get and create the life that you want. Your thoughts and your spoken words are powerful. So, be really mindful of what you're saying." - Michelle Chalfant
"We're always in creation mode. It does not turn itself on and off, just like gravity. So, if you don't like your reality, you do have the power to change it with your thoughts." - Michelle Chalfant
LINKS & RESOURCES
2024 The Adult ChairÂź Coaching Certification - Doors Close January 5!
https://theadultchair.com/certification
MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult ChairÂź Website
https://theadultchair.com
The Adult ChairÂź Coaching Certification
https://theadultchair.com/certification
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Kute Blackson is no stranger to miracles. Growing up the son of a spiritual leader in Ghana, Africa, Kute witnessed healings and transformation that were nothing short of awe-inspiring.
But when he realized it wasnât his calling to take over his fatherâs ministry in the way his family expected, it led him on a challenging and transformational journey of his own: one in which he discovered the magic of surrender and how it can heal our lives.
In this episode, Kute delivers so much wisdom about what surrender really is (itâs not passive like you might think), the role of the ego in our lives, why the challenges we face are an essential part of our soulâs journey and how to let go and live open to the possibilities â the miracles â life holds for us.
Listen to discover:
Kuteâs story of courageously following his calling even in the face of adversity
Why challenging experiences are essential to our soulâs growth
What surrender actually is and why itâs so powerful
How to tell when weâre in the flow
What to do when you feel stuck and are struggling to surrender
Where resistance comes from
Why surrender requires grieving what we think we know and how it opens us up to more love and joy
Each of us is here with a purpose, and even the difficult moments in our lives hold something important for our growth. When we can relinquish control and what we think our lives should look like, we discover that there are divine possibilities beyond what our mind can even think of or dream upâŠand what a truly exciting, miraculous journey that is!
âThose challenges [donât] mean youâre on the wrong path. It sometimes means youâre on the right path; you just have to go through, on a human level, the soul test.â - Kute Blackson
âForgiveness frees you.â - Michelle Chalfant
âIt doesnât mean that when something difficult is in your path, itâs not God-inspired, soul-inspired.â - Michelle Chalfant
âLife is a university for our soulâs evolutionâŠWeâre always succeeding when weâre learning the lessons, even if itâs difficult.â - Kute Blackson
âIn our culture, we have this misconception that surrender is weak.â - Kute Blackson
âIn true surrender and letting go, what if you actually got more than you could have intended and planned with the limited concept of your own mind?â - Kute Blackson
âSurrender is when we stop trying to force life to fit into our limited idea of what we think it should look like.â - Kute Blackson
âMany of our goals are often projections of unmet needs from our childhood.â - Kute Blackson
âThe mind is constantly seeking to understand whyâŠwhich is another form of control.â - Kute Blackson
âItâs the journey that brings us the happiness.â - Michelle Chalfant
âMany times people think that theyâre feeling the feeling, but theyâre actually thinking about the feeling.â - Kute Blackson
âTo truly surrender requires the willingness to move through the portal of grieving.â - Kute Blackson
LINKS & RESOURCES
Kute Blackson Website
https://kuteblackson.com/
Kute Blackson Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/kuteblackson/
âThe Magic of Surrenderâ (Kute Blackson Book)
https://www.amazon.com/Magic-Surrender-Finding-Courage-Let/dp/0593189094
2024 The Adult ChairÂź Coaching Certification - Doors Close January 5!
https://theadultchair.com/certification
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The Adult ChairÂź Website
https://theadultchair.com
The Adult ChairÂź Coaching Certification
https://theadultchair.com/certification
STAY CONNECTED
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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/
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Whether itâs eating healthier, getting exercise, starting a meditation practice or staying socially connected, figuring out what to do to be happy might be simple â but actually doing these things and living in a way that lets us experience happiness is much harder.
When we know there are things we can do that will make us healthier and happier, why do we struggle to actually do them? Why do we get caught in a cycle of chasing happiness instead of choosing joy, even when we know better?
This is what Gretchen Rubin wanted to understand when she began studying happiness and why people form the habits they do.
It turns out that it has everything to do with how we relate to expectations.
Gretchen discovered that there are four different âtendenciesâ that tell us how different people approach habits and expectations â whether we question expectations, comply with expectations, rebel against expectations or uphold them from within.
We are born with our tendency and thereâs no right or wrong way to be, but our ability to pursue happiness and form habits is directly connected to which tendency weâre wired with.
In this episode, Gretchen describes each of the four tendencies in detail and ways to work with your type to go after the life you want. She also talks about habit formation and the different approaches to starting a new habit, so you can figure out which one works best for you!
This is so fascinating and has major implications for how we structure our lives, how we work with each other in business and relationships and so much more!
Listen to discover:
Concrete steps we can take to start boosting our happiness
The "four tendencies" personality framework
The Upholder, The Obliger, The Questioner and The Rebel â four different ways we all respond to inner and outer expectations
How your tendency impacts how you form habits
How to overcome resistance and work with your tendency to be as successful and happy as possible
Misconceptions about happiness and techniques to form better habits
Though it's true that everyone is different in terms of what makes us happy, we're also all different in how we get to the things that make us happy.
When we understand our wiring, we can overcome resistance and set ourselves up to achieve the life we want, in a way that is uniquely ours.
"Our physical experience is always going to color our emotional experience." - Gretchen Rubin
"The key to happiness is relationships." - Gretchen Rubin
"Don't suit other people. Suit yourself." - Gretchen Rubin
"I'm a big believer in the genetic roots of personality." - Gretchen Rubin
"We can work with each other to help us all achieve our aims, but sometimes we have to provide a different way from what would work for us." - Gretchen Rubin
"Your communication style would change once you know this." - Michelle Chalfant
"Happier people are more interested in the problems of the world." - Gretchen Rubin
"You have to take care of yourself. You have to put yourself first." - Michelle Chalfant
"When you're not indulging in a temptation, it goes away." - Gretchen Rubin
LINKS & RESOURCES
Gretchen Rubin Website
https://gretchenrubin.com/
Happier Podcast (Gretchen Rubin podcast)
https://gretchenrubin.com/podcasts/
Gretchen Rubin Books
https://gretchenrubin.com/books/
The Four Tendencies Quiz
https://gretchenrubin.com/fourtendencies
The Happier App
https://the-happiness-project.com/pages/happier-app
Gretchen Rubin Facebook
https://www.facebook.com/GretchenRubin
Gretchen Rubin Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/gretchenrubin/
Gretchen Rubin LinkedIn
https://www.linkedin.com/in/gretchenrubin
2024 The Adult ChairÂź Coaching Certification - Doors Close January 5!
https://theadultchair.com/certification
MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult ChairÂź Website
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The Adult ChairÂź Coaching Certification
https://theadultchair.com/certification
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https://tanasi.com/
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For too many years, mental health came with a stigma.
It was treated as something âwrongâ in the mind, with the psychological and physical looked at entirely separately.
Itâs almost as if we forgot that the brain is part of the body â a physical organ that needs care just like our heart, our gut or any other part of our body.
And when we support our brain health, it can have BIG impacts on our mental and emotional health.
Dr. Bisleen Attli is a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy-certified naturopath, which is a fancy way of saying she bridges the world of psychology and physiology to promote mental health and brain health.
She is a wealth of knowledge on how our physical health and our brains are connected, and she digs down to find the root causes of common mental health challenges like depression and anxiety.
In this episode, Dr. Attli breaks down the science behind how food, sleep and even limiting beliefs affect our brain health, why mental health symptoms are often our bodies warning us about a physical imbalance and what you can do to feel better fast.
Listen to discover:
The #1 negative mindset that can affect brain health
The common physiological roots of disease
How blood sugar is related to brain health and the symptoms of blood sugar dysregulation
Why the gut is considered âthe second brainâ
How the liver, your hormones, inflammation and even your mitochondria can affect your mental health
There are certainly times where we need more support, and medication might be the right treatment for depression, anxiety or other mental health symptoms.
But when you see your brain as more than just your mind, but also part of your body â something that you listen to, care for and support â you will be able to make informed choices to support both your physical and mental health.
Because you are more than a diagnosis. You are a whole, connected being â mind, body and spirit â and you have more power over how you feel than you might have ever realized.
"A lot of people don't realize how they feel in their bodies has a direct impact on how they feel and think." - Dr. Bisleen Attli
"Your body and your mental health can truly be changed with effort." - Michelle Chalfant
"Something that I'm really big on emphasizing is addressing the root cause of brain health challenges...My big thing is, 'What the heck is happening in your body that is causing you to feel this way?'" - Dr. Bisleen Attli
"When it comes to the mindset piece of things, the number one thing I work on helping women uncover are their limiting beliefs." - Dr. Bisleen Attli
"I cannot tell you how many people have gone to therapists and then come to one of my coaches, and they're like, âI got more out of this one session than in my therapy for 10 years'" - Michelle Chalfant
"Whether someone comes to me for anxiety, depression, whatever it is, not only is there stuff happening in the mind, but we also have to understand that there are dysfunctions happening in the body that are causing you to feel how you feel. It's not all in your head." - Dr. Bisleen Attli
"If your blood sugar is all over the place, guess what's following? Your emotions." - Dr. Bisleen Attli
"Eating in a certain way affects your mood. You will find that you are less anxious, you're less moody, less depressed, less sad when you monitor blood sugar." - Michelle Chalfant
"Your gut impacts everything." - Dr. Bisleen Attli
"Good health isn't magical. It's just doing the simple things consistently on a daily basis and making sure you are prioritizing them." - Dr. Bisleen Attli
"It's not selfish to put yourself first. It's actually self-loving...You're going to be a better person if you're healthier â mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually â first. You can help so many more people. You can connect with more people." - Michelle Chalfant
LINKS & RESOURCES
Dr. Bisleen Attli Website
https://www.wbhclinic.ca/
Dr. Bisleen Attli Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/holisticbraindoctor/
Free 3-Day Adult ChairÂź Coach Fest
https://theadultchair.com/lifecoaching
2024 The Adult ChairÂź Coaching Certification - Doors Now Open!
https://theadultchair.com/certification
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https://tanasi.com/
Code ADULT to get 25% off your first order
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http://greenchef.com/60adult
Use code 60Adult to get 60% off + 20% off next two months
MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult ChairÂź Website
https://theadultchair.com
The Adult ChairÂź Coaching Certification
https://theadultchair.com/certification
STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/
The Adult ChairÂź Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
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As you think about your life, do you ever wish your story was different?
You wish you more of this, less of that, that an event had never happened, that you had done the thing you will always regret not doing.
But what if the story you tell yourself about your life is just as important as the story of what happened to you?
And what if you could change your entire life by consciously changing how you think about your past?
LaShonda Walker is a Certified Adult ChairÂź Coach who has created an incredible healing process called âA New Life Story,â inspired by her training in The Adult ChairÂź model.
Based on the idea that the challenges we face in our present reality are always connected to something from our past, LaShonda helps people identify the limiting beliefs they carry with them, edit the stories they tell themselves using fact and truth and, as a result, rewrite their entire futureâŠand the futures of the people around them.
Using this process, LaShonda has seen clients get unstuck and make HUGE life changes in just 20 minutes, and I canât get over how powerful it is. In fact, I asked LaShonda to coach me using her process on air, and she dropped an insight about my life so mind-blowing that it left me speechless!
In this episode, LaShonda breaks down her process step-by-step so you can try this powerful work and begin writing a new story for yourself and your family today.
Listen to discover:
TAC Coach LaShonda Walker's "A New Life Story" process
Why your past determines your present
How to replace old stories and limiting beliefs with fact and truth
How to edit and rewrite your life story based on who you are today
5 "W" questions to ask yourself when rewriting your story
Why doing your work transforms generations
A huge takeaway from what LaShonda shared is that we arenât just products of our pasts; weâre products of our entire familyâs pasts. Sometimes the limiting beliefs and challenges we struggle with arenât even oursâŠbut they are ours to heal.
When we step up and do this work, we can change the legacy of our family for generations to come.
You are the author of your own story, no matter what has happened in your life. What new story do you want to write for yourself today?
"I'm finding with my clients that when things are coming up in their present, it is connected to the past. And as we begin to look at that, we discover limiting beliefs that are there." - LaShonda Walker
"We don't realize how much we bring from our past." - LaShonda Walker
"As you're doing that work of healing the present â your emotions, your triggers, working with those Adolescent stories â as you heal, that healing then begins to transform your legacy." - LaShonda Walker
"It's all limiting beliefs from childhood. They're just sitting in there, inside of us. That's why we get so triggered." - Michelle Chalfant
"The work is worth it." - LaShonda Walker
"You are absolutely asking the right questions and cracking them open for fast transformation and relief from their pain, their emotional disturbance, their limiting beliefs, all of these things." - Michelle Chalfant
"When you are in your power, I truly believe you are in overflow. And when you are in overflow, you are able to then feed and provide and share and help build up others." - LaShonda Walker
"We don't just heal as individuals. We heal in community." - LaShonda Walker
LINKS & RESOURCES
LaShonda Walker Website
https://www.anewlifestorycoaching.com/
LaShonda Walker Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/anewlifestorycoach/
A New Life Story Podcast (LaShonda Walker Podcast)
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-new-life-story-consciously-uncovering-your/id1701481844
Free 3-Day Adult ChairÂź Coach Fest
https://theadultchair.com/lifecoaching
2024 The Adult ChairÂź Coaching Certification - Doors Open December 11
https://theadultchair.com/certification
Tanasi
https://tanasi.com/
Use code ADULT to get 25% off your first order
MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult ChairÂź Website
https://theadultchair.com
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âTis the seasonâŠfor triggers!
At the holidays, stress, drinking, spending money and spending time with others all increase. And with that, comes a decrease in patience, sleep, time for self and all the things that make us more resilient to stress.
Add in the fact that we tend to be around people we arenât normally around for longer periods of time, and itâs a landmine for triggers.
But as you know, I love triggers because they are such a powerful opportunity to look at and work on our limiting beliefs.
So, I invite you to view this yearâs triggers as a holiday giftâŠa chance to not only learn about yourself but eradicate triggers for good.
Donât worry: Iâm not sending you out there without a plan. Iâm giving you 10 steps to work with a trigger so you can be prepared for whatever comes your way this holiday season.
The first four steps will help you regulate your nervous system, calm down and come back into balance when triggered. These are a lifesaver if youâre at a gathering where you need to keep your cool until you can work on the trigger!
Then the last six steps will teach you exactly how to work with your triggers so you can heal the limiting beliefs beneath them, get unstuck and get triggered a whole lot less in the future.
Listen to discover:
Why the holidays are a prime time for triggers
What a trigger is and where they come from
Why triggers are an amazing opportunity to work with limiting beliefs
The difference between a trigger and a true emotion
10 steps to work with a trigger
Sure, maybe triggers are like finding a pair of socks wrapped up under the tree â not what you wanted, but what you needed. Theyâre still a gift!
I hope you discover so much about yourself this holiday season and transform those triggers so you can live with more peace all year long!
âThat is what a trigger is: it is a belief that I have about myself.â - Michelle Chalfant
âTriggers are a way to help us to find and identify limiting beliefs that we have about ourselves.â - Michelle Chalfant
"A trigger is something that we carry with usâŠWhen you can move on from something, it's not a trigger.â - Michelle Chalfant
âMore than likely, most of these beliefs â crazy enough â are from the age of zero to six. And Carl Jung says the average age is actually three, where these beliefs have been planted into the unconscious mind.â - Michelle Chalfant
âYour breath is your savior because it will help you to stay present. It helps to keep you slow. It helps to rebalance the nervous system.â - Michelle Chalfant
âThe way out of our pain, the way out of our triggers is to go through.â - Michelle Chalfant
âââEnergy does not stay constant, my friends. So, if you allow it to do whatever it needs to do, it will start to move through you.â - Michelle Chalfant
âYou will find [with] this tool [that] you're gonna be able to use it not just at the holidays but the rest of your life. It is empowering.â - Michelle Chalfant
LINKS & RESOURCES
Join The Adult ChairÂź Coaching Certification Waitlist - Doors Open December 1!
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https://tanasi.com/
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The holidays are a time where it feels like everything is a bit magnified: there is so much joy and brightness in the world but also space for sadness, loneliness and grief to be amplified.
Itâs a touchy time of year where whatever weâre feeling gets underscored by parties, gatherings and traditions.
But the holidays donât create these feelings. In fact, according to my guest on the podcast today, WE donât even create most of these feelings. Rather, we pick them up from our parents and the world around us, and the key to overcoming loneliness and sadness is to understand where it all began.
In this episode, Iâm bringing back one of my favorite people, Dr. Dain Heer, to talk about loneliness, how to identify what is ours and what is not, how to clear whatâs not ours, how to get out of victim and so many more important, empowering topics!
Dr. Dain also shares tools and techniques you can use immediately to start clearing negative emotions â one of the reasons I love his work so much!
Listen to discover:
What loneliness is and where it comes from
Why 98% of our thoughts and feeling arenât actually ours â and where they come from
How to get out of negative emotions
What to do if youâre experiencing loneliness in life
The true root of victimhood
The âclearing statementâ for fast transformation
Dr. Dainâs work with Access Consciousness is all about realizing the power you have within you to change. When youâre able to get rid of what is not yours, it gives you the space and energy to work on what IS yours and create your life instead of falling victim to it. I hope the tools in this episode help you find your inner power, no matter what youâre feeling this holiday season â or any time of the year!
âYour point of view creates your reality. Your reality doesnât create your point of view.â - Dr. Dain Heer
âItâs as simple as redirecting that energy out of your energy field.â - Michelle Chalfant
âIt starts to undo the foundation of limitation.â - Dr. Dain Heer
âWe donât have to be limited by the world around us.â - Dr. Dain Heer
âWhen we open the door for possibilities, it makes that available to everybody else on the planet.â - Dr. Dain Heer
âPeople who do victim have learned it.â - Dr. Dain Heer
âVictims are actually victimizing others and controlling them with their victimhood.â - Dr. Dain Heer
âIf we can just sit in someone elseâs energy field thatâs healthy, we become more like them.â - Michelle Chalfant
LINKS & RESOURCES
Dr. Dain Heer Website
https://drdainheer.com/
Dr. Dain Heer YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/user/drdainheer
Dr. Dain Heer Facebook
https://www.facebook.com/DrDainHeer
Dr. Dain Heer Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/dainheer/
Who Does This Belong To App
https://www.accessconsciousness.com/en/shop-catalog/apps/who-does-this-belong-to-app/
The Clearing Statement
https://theclearingstatement.com/
âBody Whisperingâ (Dr. Dain Heer Book)
https://www.amazon.com/Body-Whispering-Dr-Heer/dp/1634934873
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What image comes to mind when you think about self-care?
A massage or bubble bath?
A fancy dinner?
Being all zenned out in lotus pose?
Though these things can be wonderful, I also think they can give self-care a bad name by portraying it as something fun, frivolous and even a little selfish.
In reality, true self-care â or what I like to call âtherapeutic self-careâ â is absolutely essential to our well-being and our ability to show up for those around us.
Therapeutic self-care is about meeting your core needs as a human â mental, physical, emotional and spiritual. Itâs an inside job first and foremost, and it doesn't have to be time-consuming or expensive to do WONDERS for your nervous system, stress levels and overall balance in life.
As we go into the holidays where schedules are extra packed and stress is high, we need to become even more mindful of our self-care. To send you into this season with empowering self-care practices, I tapped Adult ChairÂź Master Coach and self-care guru, Theresa Steighner, to share her advice for self-care at the holidays (and year round!) with us.
Theresa shares the four pillars of true self-care, plus five fast and free things you can do daily to keep your nervous system in balanceâŠthis is self-care like youâve never heard it talked about before!
Listen to discover:
â Why self-care is so important
â What "therapeutic self-care" is
â The four pillars of true self-care
â 5 quick ways to regulate your nervous system
â How to prioritize yourself and your self-care
I promise you, if you do what Theresa recommends in this episode, youâll feel less stress, less overwhelm, more presence and more peace this holiday season. Tidings of comfort and joy, indeed.
"Our self-care is more than the bubble baths, the massages, the getting the pedicures. Self-care is really about taking care of our needs on that physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level." - Theresa Steighner
"A big part of self-care is being able to set those boundaries, but we really have to know who we are first." - Theresa Steighner
"When somebody compliments you, it's a reflection of you back to you." - Theresa Steighner
"Awareness is key. We cannot change what we are not aware of." - Theresa Steighner
"You can't grab what's happening in the moment and raise your self-awareness if you're constantly in the future or the past. Make sure you're slowing down." - Michelle Chalfant
"Women have a really hard time putting ourselves first." - Michelle Chalfant
"Nature regulates our nervous system." - Theresa Steighner
"Yoga helps us to repattern those habitual response patterns and brings awareness so that we can show up in a healthier way, in that healthy adult." - Theresa Steighner
"You've got to make sure you're asking for what you need. You're worth it." - Michelle Chalfant
LINKS & RESOURCES
Theresa Steighner Website
https://www.peacefulwellbeing.com/
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Have you ever felt stuck in life, like you dislike where you are but think you have no other options?
This is one of my least favorite places to be (and Iâve been there many times). Being unhappy feels bad enoughâŠbut what truly feels terrible is thinking thereâs no way out.
And when we believe thereâs no way out, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Thatâs because itâs not our circumstances that keep us stuck, but our thoughts and beliefs. Stuck thoughts lead to stuck energy, which paralyzes us.
To get unstuck, we have to interrupt this thought pattern and shift our energy so we can move forward!
In this episode, Iâm giving you six of my favorite ways to do that. These are the tools I turn to when Iâm feeling stuckâŠand if you know me, you know I like things that I can start applying right away. So, if youâre ready to get unstuck and start seeing transformation TODAY, this is the show for you!
Listen to discover:
6 practical tools to get unstuck
The power of acceptance
How to manifest your future reality today
Why complaining keeps us stuck
How to practice gratitude for true transformation
Why journaling is such a powerful tool for moving energy
The #1 way to change your life
Iâve realized over the years that the way we change our lives is through the small choices we make every day.
These small steps â things like gratitude, watching our thoughts, being honest with ourselves â done with consistency transform us over time.
If youâre feeling stuck and discouraged, Iâve been there, and I get it.
But I KNOW you can change your life, because Iâve changed mine using the tools in this episodeâŠand if I can do it, you can too!
Which of these tools will you choose today to start moving toward the life you want?
âââYouâve got to own whatâs in your life.â - Michelle Chalfant
âAcceptance starts to move our energy out of a stuck place.â - Michelle Chalfant
âIn order to really get unstuck and create change, youâve got to get really, really clear about what you want instead.â - Michelle Chalfant
âWe can manifest anything â anything at all. But youâve got to use your mindâŠto get out of the place that you are in.â - Michelle Chalfant
âYour thoughts are very powerful, but the spoken word is even more powerful. When you speak about your limitations, youâre anchoring into your current reality your limitations.â - Michelle Chalfant
âThink about how much energy youâre giving the thing that you donât want anymoreâŠWe want to talk about whatâs coming.â - Michelle Chalfant
"Many studies have even shown that journaling can be similar or feel similar to going to a therapist or coach. Because what happens is, when we're journaling, we're purging." - Michelle Chalfant
"Life, my friends, is a choice. What are you going to choose for yourself? Are you going to choose to go into that victim seat or are you going to choose to feel more empowered?" - Michelle Chalfant
"The way we change our lives is to be intentional with all of our choices." - Michelle Chalfant
"You're the only one that can transform your life. You just have to take time and choose to put yourself first and get unstuck and change your life. You can do this." - Michelle Chalfant
LINKS & RESOURCES
Share the Love - Review The Adult ChairÂź Podcast
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We all have a âtrue selfâ â the essence of who we were before the world told us who to be.
Weâre born with this essence, but over time, we start reacting to the world around us and create a false self out of our wounds, our experiences and our attempts to get our needs met.
The false self isnât bad, but it isnât who we really are â and a lot of the challenges we experience in life, like anxiety and depression, come from living out of alignment with our true self.
Any sort of healing work must begin with cracking open the false self and discovering who we really are.
This all might sound very philosophical, but the good news is that accessing our true selves is shockingly practical.
By using simple tools that we all have access to, we can begin to reconnect with who we really are and live with the peace, balance, happiness and fulfillment that comes from showing up authentically in the world.
In this episode, Iâm giving you five simple ways to start living more from your true self. These are all tools that are totally free and available right now, wherever you are!
Listen to discover:
What we mean when we talk about the âtrue selfâ
Why we develop a âfalse selfâ
5 ways to connect with and live from your true self
How to feel your emotions
Practical self-care ideas
How journaling can help you tap into a deeper part of self
This is a process, but make sure youâre taking time to notice even the little wins. As you experiment with these tools, really sit with that wonderful feeling of rediscovering a tiny piece of yourself. Start paying attention and validating yourself for who you really are.
Over time, I think you're going to be really surprised (in a lovely way) when you begin to not only rediscover aspects of your true self, but also start claiming those aspects and living from that place more each day.
âSome of us have a much thicker layer of the false self, and some of us have a thinner layer of the false self. The good news is [that] anyone can learn how to penetrate that false self and rediscover and live from their true self.â - Michelle Chalfant
âGetting in touch with our emotions is such a magical thing.â - Michelle Chalfant
âWe have a lot more emotions than happy, sad, mad, ashamed and glad.â - Michelle Chalfant
âWhen we put ourselves first and practice what we need as far as taking care of ourselves, it's really, really healthy.â - Michelle Chalfant
âSelf-care is tuning in and asking, âWhat do I need right now in order to make myself feel more comfortable, safe, relaxed and de-stressed?ââ - Michelle Chalfant
âSelf-care activities will promote and help with self-love and self-worth.â - Michelle Chalfant
âBreathwork takes you deeper into yourself. It can truly crack you open and help you to get in touch with some emotions that have been trapped or stuck.â - Michelle Chalfant
âJournaling takes you on a journey to the depths of your soul.â - Michelle Chalfant
LINKS & RESOURCES
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Everyone seems to have an opinion about psychedelics these days.
Doctors and therapists see them as potential treatments for things like anxiety, depression and PTSD. Spiritual communities believe they open us up to the divine. Politicians debate whether they should be legal or illegal.
I have to admit that when I first heard people talking about them, I was scared.
Iâm not a big fan of substance use of any kind, and the idea of a âdrugâ becoming mainstream concerned me.
But when some respected psychologists and colleagues of mine started talking about the healing power of psychedelics â people who were far from the 1960s âSummer of Loveâ stereotype â I knew the topic at least deserved my honest research.
As I dug deeper into the science behind psychedelics and understood how they worked in the mind, I began to realize they werenât about escaping but about going deeper into oneself by quieting the ego and opening the door to new parts of our consciousness.
But, I wanted to make sure my opinion was backed up by accurate, science-based, factual research. And there are few people who Iâve found better informed on this topic than Matt Zemon.
Matt was once a fellow skeptic like me who also became convinced through research and experience that psychedelics can play a positive role in therapeutic and medical settings.
He is one of the most grounded, scientific voices Iâve heard on this topic â perfect for anyone who simply wants to learn more and see what you think for yourself â and I am thrilled to have him share his wealth of knowledge in this episode.
Listen to discover:
Mattâs story of opening his mind to psychedelics â and how they changed his life
Safety considerations for psychedelic use
Whether or not psychedelics are addictive (and how they can help treat addiction)
The different types of psychedelics and how they work in the mind
How and why psychedelics can help us change our thought patterns
The importance of therapeutic integration after a psychedelic experience
Resources for doing your own research and safe psychedelic use
The choice to have a psychedelic experience is very personal, and I would never tell someone they should or should not try a powerful substance like these.
But I do think we should all do our due diligence to research new breakthroughs in healing with an open mind â which I hope this episode helps you do.
Because whether you get there through a psychedelic or not, allowing yourself to see new perspectives and change your mind is how you grow as a humanâŠand thatâs always a path worth pursuing.
"In that first six- or seven-hour [psychedelic] journey, the entire way I look and interact with the world shifted." - Matt Zemon
"Physically, these substances are relatively safe." - Matt Zemon
"Not all psychedelics are the same, and you don't want to be on certain medications and taking a psychedelic." - Matt Zemon
"The psychedelic process can help us remember a way that we used to think, maybe before we had adopted those behaviors...and from that rememberance, we can then start to take the steps to change our life." - Matt Zemon
"It's not so much that [psychedelics are] a cure...they're really catalysts for change." - Matt Zemon
"It's not a magic pill. None of them are a magic pill." - Michelle Chalfant
"I felt like I was sitting with God each and every time. It was the most beautiful thing I've ever done." - Michelle Chalfant
"The most important thing was the integration. What do you do after you've had this experience and then how do you integrate that into your life?" - Michelle Chalfant
"In the psychedelic experience, a few things are going to happen. Your default mode network...is going to quiet down...Neurons fire together that haven't fired together in a long time...In this process, it's common that you will then feel connected to all things and all people. You'll feel loved. You'll feel enough. And that is, in my opinion, the reclaiming of your true self." - Matt Zemon
"When you know you're enough and you know you're loved, you're starting to take away the masks you've put on and have been put on you." - Matt Zemon
LINKS & RESOURCES
Join the 30-Day Journaling Challenge
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Matt Zemon Website
https://mattzemon.com/
"Psychedelics for Everyone" (Matt Zemon Book)
https://www.amazon.com/Psychedelics-Everyone-Beginners-Depression-Consciousness/dp/B0BCS7NM9H
Matt Zemon Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/matt.zemon/
"How to Change Your Mind" Book
https://www.amazon.com/Change-Your-Mind-Consciousness-Transcendence/dp/0735224153
Spirit Pharmacist Psychedelic Consultations/Education
https://www.spiritpharmacist.com/
"A Really Good Day" Book
https://www.amazon.com/Really-Good-Day-Microdosing-Difference-ebook/dp/B01FPH0IUO/
Safe Drug Testing
https://drugsdata.org/
https://dancesafe.org/
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Triggers are a gift.
Yes, you heard that right (and if youâve been here for a while, youâve heard me say it before) â I LOVE being triggered!
Thatâs not to say itâs fun being triggered, but working with triggers has led to some of the most transformational moments of my life.
See, triggers reveal unknown, unconscious beliefs we hold about ourselves â limiting beliefs that cause us pain and hold back in life.
When these beliefs rise to the surface in the form of a trigger, we get the beautiful opportunity to work with them and transform themâŠnot only healing the trigger but helping us get unstuck and change our lives.
One of my Adult ChairÂź Coaches, Angela, recently had an experience working with a trigger that was so transformational that even she has jumped on the âtriggers are a giftâ bandwagon.
A tiff with her husband led to a HUGE moment of self-discovery and deeper connection in their relationship, thanks to the trigger tools Angela learned through The Adult ChairÂź.
I was so proud of the work she did that I invited her to come on the show and share exactly how she took ownership of the trigger (instead of blaming her husband) and then worked with the trigger to discover and heal the surprising belief underneath it â one she would have never recognized without the trigger
Listen to discover:
How Angela used The Adult Chair (TAC) to work through a trigger and repair a relationship
The surprising root of Angela's trigger that she was able to uncover
How TAC has completely changed the way Angela responds when triggered
Why triggers are the gateway to freedom
How triggers work through the lens of the Child, Adolescent and Adult Chairs
Steps for working through a trigger
Why doing our work and healing can make us less vulnerable to triggers
When we work on our triggers, it is true freedom.
We not only heal the limiting beliefs that hold us back but also find that we get triggered less with time.
This is one of my favorite conversations because it shows this work in action and breaks it down for you in a powerful way. You will discover exactly how triggers work through the lens of The Adult Chair, how to stay regulated and grounded next time youâre triggered and steps to work through and heal your triggers for good.
âWhen we work with ourselves and work on our own healing of our old woundsâŠit affects so many people around us.â - Michelle Chalfant
"Like you said, triggers are a gift. You say it. I don't want it to be true. But I'm learning that it is." - Angela Johnson
"[Triggers] are a gift...You will learn something about a part of you that's been buried for a very long time. And it is an opportunity to look at that and actually transform and bring that part into the light, and then it doesn't trigger you anymore." - Michelle Chalfant
"What we don't understand about this work sometimes, because it feels scary, is that on the other side of it is freedom." - Angela Johnson
"I've lived in that space of letting [triggers] disrupt my life and relationships for long enough that I just don't want to live that way anymore." - Angela Johnson
"When we're in our Adult Chair...we remember that life is a choice, and everything in life is a choice. And we get to choose, "Do I want to stay in victim seat?" or, "Do I want to reach over and be in my empowerment seat?'" - Michelle Chalfant
"Our perspective when we're triggered shrinks way down...what we want to do is broaden your perspective, and then you have all these different choices and options." - Michelle Chalfant
"In the Adult, we live in the moment. We don't drag things from the past into the moment." - Michelle Chalfant
"Freedom is not a quick little pill. It does take a little bit of work. But it's long lasting. This is not a band-aid approach." - Michelle Chalfant
"You don't get activated the same way after you do that work. That's the miracle." - Angela Johnson
LINKS & RESOURCES
Angela Johnson Website
https://openhandscoaching.com/
Use code TRIGGER for $25 off a session
Find an Adult ChairÂź Coach
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Join the 30-Day Journaling Challenge
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Do you ever wonder why you do what you doâŠand if itâs just you who does it?
Your gifts, your lifeâs mission, how much energy you have, what you need in relationships, how you view money â these are all unique to you.
And according to Human Design, you are the way you are for a special reason.
Unlike personality typing systems based on mental or behavioral patterns, Human Design is a system based on energy and what was going on in the universe when you were born. Though there are five main âtypesâ within Human Design, itâs a very dynamic system that will help you understand what makes you you and what you need to thrive.
Iâve been hearing tons of buzz about Human Design recently, and in this episode, I talk with Human Design coach (and overall delightful human), Emma Dunwoody, about what Human Design is and how it can help us better embrace our true selves.
Not only does Emma answer all my questions about Human Design, but she also helped me decode my chart, and let me tell you â I felt so seen, validated and free to be myself once I understood Iâm exactly who Iâm meant to be (and you are too!).
Listen to discover:
What Human Design is
The difference between Human Design and other personality systems
How Human Design can change your life
How to decode your own Human Design chart
The five Human Design types
What "functional burnout" is
How Human Design can help us in dating and relationships
What Human Design teaches us about money
As you know from The Adult ChairÂź, we are all a kaleidoscope of parts, talents and experiences.
Human Design is a fun, insightful tool to help us understand a little bit more about who we are â not to put us in a box but to give us permission to embrace and be our true selves.
Because all those things that only you do? They make you uniquely lovable YOU, and the world wouldnât be the same without you.
"With Human Design, we don't go via the mind. We actually go via the energyâŠIt gives us this energetic blueprint. I love to think of it as a treasure map to our authenticity." - Emma Dunwoody
"You don't go into future with this at all. It really is just about who I am today." - Michelle Chalfant
"So many people spend all this time trying to change themselves...With Human Design, it ultimately gives you a permission slip to be you." - Emma Dunwoody
"We think we need to become who other people tell us that we should become...but with Human Design, you really help people to touch their true self." - Michelle Chalfant
"Human Design teaches us that there are actually two different types of burnout...but what we don't talk about is this 'functional burnout.'" - Emma Dunwoody
"There's so many ways that Human Design can really amplify and improve relationships." - Emma Dunwoody
"Actually, what money is all about is being in alignment to your authenticityâŠWhen we are free to be ourselves, then we can't help but make money." - Emma Dunwoody
"Our profile really helps us understand how we do life, what people want from us, how we learn." - Emma Dunwoody
"Human Design is basically the science of being unique." - Emma Dunwoody
LINKS & RESOURCES
Emma Dunwoody Website (Get a Free Human Design Chart)
https://www.emmadunwoody.com/
"The Human Design Podcast" (Emma Dunwoody Podcast)
https://www.emmadunwoody.com/the-human-design-podcast
Emma Dunwoody Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/the_human_design_coach/
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https://tanasi.com/
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When we think of trust in a relationship, most of us think of broken trust and big betrayals â things like infidelity, addiction and secrets.
But true trust is about the small actions that we take every day. Trust isnât something we have by default unless itâs broken; it's something we have to build.
With every interaction, weâre either building or whittling away trust â and sometimes the things that break trust are so subtle, we donât even know weâre doing them!
In this episode, Iâm giving you six ways to build trust so you can grow your relationship with your partner. These are small, simple actions, but they require awareness, intention and being in your Adult Chair to do consistently.
If you want a long-lasting, deeper connection with your partner, this episode is a must listen!
Listen to discover:
What trust in a relationship is and why it's so important
How trust deepens the bond in a committed relationship
6 steps to build trust today
The importance of being true to your word
How to own and apologize for mistakes and move forward
How to show up with presence and prioritize your relationship
Without trust, we canât have healthy, connected relationships. Trust is an energetic bond that creates safety and allows us to open up, be vulnerable and grow together.
The good news is that itâs not about perfection. All of us â including myself â donât get these right all the time.
Whatâs important is what we do when we mess up.
Honesty, presence and the ability to own our mistakes are the ways we as imperfect humans create deep bonds with other imperfect humans and the key to getting the love you want â not the perfect fairy tale, but a beautiful journey of learning and growing together.
âTrust is one of the essential components to a healthy, committed relationship.â - Michelle Chalfant
âIf weâre going to speak something and promise something to our partner, we want to make sure that we are able to line up behind what weâre saying.â - Michelle Chalfant
âIf you are going to speak something into existence, you have to speak it with your full energy and with you behind itâŠYour actions need to match your words.â - Michelle Chalfant
âOwning it does not mean that youâre a bad person. Youâre a human person, and mistakes are gonna happen.â - Michelle Chalfant
âIf you want to build trust and youâre in a committed relationship, apologizing is powerful. It helps to build a connection.â - Michelle Chalfant
"When we have important people in our lives, we need to put the phone down, not look at the television, not get distracted by the dog or the cat or the animal in your house. We want to make sure that we're prioritizing our person and giving them our full attention." - Michelle Chalfant
âWe need to give our person eye contact when weâre listening. Because then theyâre going to feel seen and theyâre gonna feel heard, they feel important.â - Michelle Chalfant
"You can't put the relationship on the back burner and your person on the back burner and expect [the relationship] to grow and flourish." - Michelle Chalfant
"If you've got friends that are...acting in a way that's disrespectful to your partner, it's your job to defend your partner." - Michelle Chalfant
"Even if the truth hurts, it's better than lying." - Michelle Chalfant
"It feels so good to know that your person has you and you've got them. That's that bond of trust. Trust is like this energetic bond that we form with our partner." - Michelle Chalfant
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For millennia, cultures around the globe have known that thereâs more to us than meets the eye and that our family trees really are a map to ourselves â an energetic portrait of our lives.
Today, epigenetics has proven that what our ancestors experienced can imprint on our genes and impact our lives today in unexpected ways.
That depression, anxiety, stress or limiting belief? It might be from long ago.
And the field of psychology is finally catching up with this.
A new methodology I just discovered (and got the chance to try as a client) is called Family Constellation work.
In this method, we find unconscious experiences and beliefs that weâre carrying from our ancestors â including those who we never knew â and work to transform them through awareness and compassion.
On the podcast this week, I talked with my Family Constellation practitioner, Emily Blefeld, about what Family Constellation work is, how our family history affects our lives today and how we can clear blocks and dismantle generational cycles by being bold and brave enough to look at what happened before we were even here.
Itâs not that different from what we do with parts work in The Adult ChairÂź, except instead of working with parts of ourselves weâre working with parts of our family tree! Itâs SO freaking cool!
Listen to discover:
How our family history impacts our present reality
The way our ancestors' patterns create patterns for us today
What Family Constellation work is and how it works
How to heal trauma and clear blocks through Family Constellation work
Using Family Constellation work for business, non-biological relatives and more
The cool thing about epigenetics is that it describes a tendency, not a fate. These experiences donât change our DNA; they change the way our genes express themselves.
That means we get a choice in how these generational traumas will manifest in our lives.
We donât have to agree with the beliefs and experiences of our ancestors. We can look them in the face and decide they stop with us.
And thereâs no transformation more powerful than that â for ourselves and generations to come.
âWe are victim to our lineage.â - Michelle Chalfant
âWhatâs unconscious will continue to permeate our lives until itâs made conscious.â - Emily Blefeld
âWe actually carry the victims and the perpetrators in our inherited lineage.â - Emily Blefeld
â[Family Constellation work] is predominantly a therapy that looks at the system that we walk around with.â - Emily Blefeld
âConstellation work is less interested in what is causing the symptom, and theyâre more interested in who is the symptom.â - Emily Blefeld
"I like to think of it as a family soul on some level." - Emily Blefeld
"There's so much more to us than meets the eye." - Michelle Chalfant
"There are so many different ways to clear our blocks. There's so many different ways to relieve anxiety, depression, feeling not good enough, our inner fraud, all of those things." - Michelle Chalfant
"You'll feel the generations behind heal and the generations following." - Emily Blefeld
"What an awesome thing to hear as a parent, your child thanking you for doing your work. Because it can stop with you." - Emily Blefeld
LINKS & RESOURCES
Emily Blefeld Website
https://seeingwithyourheart.com/
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What if everything you do in your life is actually driven by one question â a question that is unconscious to you but acts as the command center for how you show up in the world?
That question is what Mike Foster calls your âprimal question,â and let me tell you, when I discovered mine, it was like my whole life made sense.
Mike developed The Seven Primal Questions system based on his research and work as a coach.
The idea is that we all have a question â like, âAm I safe?â or, âAm I loved?â â that we didnât get answered in childhood and that we continue to ask as adults.
When the answer to this question is âyes,â we feel good and become our best selves.
When itâs âno,â we start scrambling. Our emotional reactions, compulsions, unhelpful behaviors and survival strategies (things like perfectionism and people pleasing) are all attempts to get this question answered in the way we want.
The cool thing? When we understand our primal question and the question of our loved ones, we can change everything about our relationships by healing our wounds, connecting to our gifts and intentionally answering each othersâ question with a âyes!â
I LOVE this system, and Iâm thrilled to have Mike on this show giving us a crash course in it as he breaks down the seven questions, their corresponding âprimal truthsâ and âprimal giftsâ and how these questions can show up in our lives in different ways.
Listen to discover:
The Seven Primal Questions and what they mean for your life
How to replace your primal question with a primal truth
Why the flipside of your primal question is your superpower
How you can stop letting your child self run your life and live from your healthy adult self
How to apply your primal question in business and relationships
I have a feeling youâll have some lightbulb moments during this show. I also have a link below to help you find your primal question if youâre having trouble figuring it out.
This tool is a GAME CHANGER for more consciously relating to ourselves and others, and Iâm thrilled to share it with you! It gets down to the core of what makes us tick and shows us how to love ourselves and the people in our life betterâŠand who doesnât want that?
âIn our early childhood, we get imprinted with a primal questionâŠThe primal question just represents our highest...emotional need.â - Mike Foster
ââAm I safe?â is really about survivalâŠwhere security is really about, âAm I resourced appropriately to be able to protect myself and sustain myself?ââ - Mike Foster
â[Thatâs] what children do, we perceive the world weâre in and then we make conclusions about it.â - Mike Foster
âThe other side of the question is what I call your primal gift, and itâs this superpower that every question has.â - Mike Foster
"[During the first six years of life] we don't have discernment...we take it on as, 'It's my fault. I did something wrong.'" - Michelle Chalfant
"When we start attuning to our team members' primal question, we can really become a very effective leader with them." - Mike Foster
"What we need the most is what we want to give away to others." - Mike Foster
"Under every behavior is an emotional or feeling driving that behavior. But under every emotion and feeling is an unmet need driving that emotion or feeling." - Mike Foster
"A question being imprinted by trauma is just gonna carry a lot more weight to it than a question just imprinted through confusion." - Mike Foster
"I just see this as such an empowering tool that can help any relationship." - Michelle Chalfant
"I need to be really aware of how my question is showing up in my life." - Michelle Chalfant
LINKS & RESOURCES
Mike Foster Website
https://www.mikefoster.tv/
Seven Primal Questions Assessment
https://mikefostercoaching.outgrow.us/mikefostercoaching-2
"The Seven Primal Questions" (Mike Foster Book)
https://shop.mikefoster.tv/products/seven-primal-questions-book
Mike Foster Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/mikefoster2000/
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