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💬 "I've been in therapy for YEARS, spent thousands (some even up to $14,000!), and I still feel anxious in my relationship. Why am I not getting better?"
So my Anxious attached clients and I asked myself: Is THERAPY really the best tool for Healing your Anxious Attachment Style?
AND I get it, and trust me, I’ve been there.
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Therapy can be incredibly powerful…helping you unpack childhood wounds, bringing awareness to your patterns, and even offering relief.
BUT... awareness alone doesn’t always change behavior.
So, in today’s episode of
The Anxious to Secure PODCAST we're talking about…
🔸 When therapy is helpful🔸 When it might NOT be enough🔸 And what the missing piece actually is
How to stop overthinking in Your relationships : FREE mini Course
DON'T MISS OUT ON THIS...FREE Helpful Resources To Go from Anxious TO secure, step by step... STOP Chasing Your Partners Reassurance (Free Recourse) - MY 4R METHOD For ReassuranceAttachment Style QUIZ – Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached: 3 MIN QUIZAnxious ArcheTYPE QUIZ – Discover which of the 4 archetypes you are and how you manage your stress and anxiety✅ Anxious to Secure Checklist – Signs you're becoming securely attached🚩🚩🚩10 Signs YOU are the Red Flag in your RelationshipHow to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)00:027 Myth: Therapy is the best and only tool for healing your Anxious Attachment03:06 What Therapy Actually Does for Anxious Attachment04:16 The Missing Piece: Why Awareness Alone Isn’t Enough05:19 Why Therapy Can Feel Like It’s Not Working06:21 Healing Requires More Than Just Talking09:15 The REAL Process for Healing Anxious Attachment13:54 My personal CBT Therapy Experience17:45 When Therapy Might Be the Best Option18:36 Why Coaching + Emotional Mastery Might Be More Effective Than Therapy
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If you’re in a long-distance relationship (or about to be) and your brain is going wild with overthinking—especially if you have an anxious attachment style… this episode is for you.
I’m answering REAL questions from someone on Instagram (thanks again for sharing 💛), like:🔹 How do I stop overthinking and spiraling?🔹 How do I calm my nervous system when I’m triggered?🔹 How do I deal with needing reassurance ALL the time in an LDR?
Because let’s be real—long-distance + anxious attachment? It can feel like a NIGHTMARE. But it doesn’t have to be.
In this episode, I’ll walk you through:🔸 How to manage a long-distance relationship without anxiety taking over🔸 What’s really happening in your brain when you’re triggered🔸 Tools to feel more secure (without over-relying on your partner)
If you’ve ever felt like LDR is impossible for someone with anxious attachment… you need this episode.
Plus, I’m sharing my personal story—back when I felt anxious in an LDR and how my anxious attachment made it even harder.
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How to Heal Your Anxious Attachment Style (Part 1)
Are you constantly overthinking every little thing your partner says or does? 🧐Feeling anxious every time they need space or don’t respond right away? 📱And maybe, you’re always wondering if they’re going to leave you? 😥
Trust me, I’ve been there. I know what it feels like to be stuck in that cycle. But here’s the thing: You can heal. 🖤
In this episode, we dive deep into 3 key ways to heal your anxious attachment.
Plus, I’m sharing the 6 areas of transformation that will guide you on this journey toward feeling more secure, calm, and confident in your relationships.
You’ll also understand why taking action NOW is a game-changer, and how starting TODAY can lead to long-term healing and emotional freedom.
Listen in for insights, strategies, and a reminder that you can totally break free from those anxious thoughts and fears.
Enjoy the journey to secure attachment! 🎧 Yayy.
Lots of love, Jula Your Anxious To Secure Coach
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❤️🔥 Valentine’s Day Anxiety? Let’s Talk.
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If you’re a hopeless romantic, you LOVE love, or you’re a highly sensitive person (HSP) like me, Valentine’s Day can feel like A LOT. The pressure. The expectations. The overthinking. 🚨
I wasn’t even planning this episode… but then I looked at the calendar and realized—this day can be a HUGE trigger for anxiety. So, I grabbed my mic and recorded something just for you.
In this episode, we’re diving into:
✨ Why Valentine’s Day can send your anxiety into overdrive✨ The ‘should’ traps that make you spiral✨ How comparisons & love language misunderstandings create tension✨ The BIG mistake anxious souls make when looking for security✨ And most importantly—how to shift your thoughts so you actually enjoy the day (without losing your mind).
If Valentine’s Day feels heavy, this episode is your reset button. 🎙️
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The ONE Tool That Works for ALL Anxious Archetypes 🎧
I’ve been using this tool in my own life and relationship, and let me tell you, it’s a GAME CHANGER. 🎮
It’s called THE OPPOSITE SKILL 🪄, and it’s a must-know if you’re working on calming your nervous system and transforming how you react in moments of anxiety or conflict.
Here’s the deal:
When we feel anxious, our bodies go into fight-or-flight mode. Our heart races, our breath becomes shallow, and we feel the need to either run away or defend ourselves. This is your body trying to protect you, but when it comes to relationships, this can be EXHAUSTING. 😣
That’s where the Opposite Skill comes in. It’s all about doing the opposite of what your body is telling you to do—essentially, teaching your brain that you’re safe. 🧘♀️
🎙️ In this episode, we’ll talk about:
💪 How anxiety triggers our fight-or-flight response in relationships🧠 Why the Opposite Skill helps reset your nervous system🪄 How to apply the Opposite Skill for each Anxious Archetype (The Warrior, The Dreamer, The Pleaser, and The Overachiever)💖 My own personal experience and how this tool has helped me stay calm when triggered
Trust me, if you’ve been feeling like your nervous system is on overdrive, you’ll want to hear this.
🎧 Listen now
🖤✨ Jula
P.S. This is your reminder: YOU are safe, even in those tough moments. Let’s reset and find your calm together. 💖
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Disclaimer: My content is not meant for anyone in abusive relationships.
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Are You in Love… or Just Anxious? 🎧
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Let’s get real for a sec… is it love or anxiety is an important question in realtionships.
If you have an anxious attachment, this question can feel like a full-on identity crisis. Because when you meet someone, it can feel SO intense—like they’re your whole world overnight. But is that deep love, or just the fear of losing them?
This week on The Anxious to Secure Podcast, we’re breaking down:
❤️🔥 The FEAR that’s actually driving anxious attachment⛈️ Why you don’t need to panic—even if this hits hard✨ 8 journaling prompts to find out if you’re staying out of LOVE or FEAR🧠 The science behind excitement vs. anxiety (because YES, your brain is playing tricks on you!)💡 The truth about different relationship stages—so you stop mistaking chaos for connection
If you’ve ever wondered, Am I in love? Or am I just attached?—this episode is for you.
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How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) Only for 47TEXT ANXIETY Mini Course: Stop Obsessing Over “No Replies” in 21 days or less - only 27Anxious ARCHETYPE - Relationship Anxiety Tools (Part 2)
In this episode, we’re diving into PRACTICAL tools for each anxious archetype: Warrior, Dreamer, Pleaser, and Overachiever. Learn how to tackle relationship anxiety with journaling exercises, self-reflection techniques, and actionable steps designed specifically for your archetype.
What you’ll get:
A quick recap of anxious archetypesTools for breaking anxious patternsSpecific strategies to create emotional balance and calm★ Takeaways ✨
★ Understanding your anxious archetype can enhance relationship dynamics.★ The warrior archetype often feels the need to control situations.★ Pausing before reacting can help in managing anxiety.★ Overthinking can be counterproductive and lead to emotional distress.★ Journaling can help clarify thoughts and reduce anxiety.★ The pleaser archetype often neglects their own needs for others.★ Setting boundaries is crucial for self-care and mental health.★ Rest is essential for self-worth and emotional well-being.★ One specific Mindfulness techniques can be beneficial for all archetypes
Chapters:🕒 00:20 Recap of Anxious Archetypes🕒 02:03 Warrior Archetype Tools🕒 09:51 Dreamer Archetype Tools🕒 11:25 Journaling for Dreamers🕒 16:14 Pleaser Archetype Tools🕒 25:35 Overachiever Archetype Tools🕒 31:38 A tool for every archetype
Go from relationship anxiety and low-key survival mode to feeling emotionally safe, regulated, present, and thriving again. ✨
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Are you waiting for this moment to KNOW if your partner is “the one”? 😳✨
Ever find yourself wondering, “Is this THE relationship?” Waiting for that magical moment of certainty to just hit? 💭
Do you feel triggered when you hear the phrase "When you know, you know" … but YOU never knew? You’ve always felt uncertain. You’ve never had this big, WOW moment where your partner is just obviously "THE ONE."
Are you supposed to know?
Maybe you’ve never been sure about your partner or your relationship.
It’s called relationship anxiety… and I’ve got you. 🖤
Because honestly? That phrase used to trigger me hard when I felt uncertain in my own relationship.
Today on The Anxious to Secure Podcast 🎙️
We’re unpacking the myth of "When you know, you know"—and why it might be setting you up to doubt yourself and your relationship. 💔
But don’t worry, I’ll also share some empowering questions you can ask yourself instead.
In this episode, we’ll dive into…
⚡ How the "When you know, you know" myth creates unrealistic expectations.⚡ My personal story of doubt vs. certainty in my current relationship (spoiler: I had MORE doubts than ever after the honeymoon phase!).⚡ What real love actually looks like—and why it’s not black-and-white.⚡ How anxious attachment gets triggered when you feel uncertain.⚡ Coaching questions to help you stop overthinking and start building true security.
The truth?You don’t need a HUGE sign to feel safe in your relationship.
It’s not about waiting for certainty. It’s about doing the work, calming your anxious thoughts, and deciding to go ALL IN. ✨
Episode Breakdown
00:00 The Myth of "When You Know, You Know"01:23 Doubt vs. Certainty: My Personal Story02:43 The Truth About Real Love: It’s a decision, not magic.03:52 Why "When You Know" Feels Misleading05:05 Calm vs. Chaos in Love06:57 Rewiring Your Brain for Stability08:04 How to Know if They’re The One (Without Overthinking It)09:06 The Reality Behind “When You Know”13:46 You Don’t Need a SIGN to Feel Safe in Your Relationship20:02 How This ONE Thing Melted My Doubts20:39 “If It’s Not Easy, Then Something Must Be Wrong.”24:06 The Dangers of Comparison in Love and How It Fuels Doubt31:40 “When You Know, You Know” as a Perfectionism TRAP34:09 Coaching Questions About Doubts and Anxiety in Relationships36:10 The Real Question Isn’t “Is My Partner The One?”—It’s…
Key Takeaways
✨ The phrase 'When you know, you know' sets unrealistic expectations in relationships.✨ Certainty in love doesn’t magically appear—it’s built through action and commitment.✨ Attachment styles play a HUGE role in how we experience relationships.✨ Conflict is NORMAL in relationships and can lead to growth when handled well.✨ Comparing your relationship to others only creates unnecessary anxiety.✨ Real love is a decision you make daily—it’s not about perfection or ease.✨ Trust comes from consistent actions and open communication.✨ Focusing on the present moment reduces relationship anxiety.✨ Doubts are an opportunity to grow and deepen your connection.✨ Choosing each other daily is the foundation of a healthy, lasting relationship.
Ever find yourself wondering, “Is this THE relationship?” Waiting for that magical moment of certainty to just hit? 💭
Do you feel triggered when you hear the phrase "When you know, you know" …
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Which Anxious ARCHETYPE Are You? Find out HERE
Your Relationship Survival Response...✨
Ever wonder why your anxiety shows up the way it does in your relationships? Today, I’m breaking it down with a fun and powerful framework: The 4 Anxious Archetypes—the Dreamer, the Pleaser, the Warrior, and the Overachiever.
These archetypes are all about HOW your anxious attachment plays out in different situations. From conflict to connection, each one reveals the unique way you respond to challenges in your relationship.
In this episode, we’ll explore:⚡ What anxious survival responses are and why they exist⚡ The 4 archetypes and how they protect you⚡ How to identify YOUR primary archetype⚡ Why recognizing this is the first step toward becoming secure
Your anxious behaviors don’t define you—they’re just one piece of the puzzle. Ready to uncover which archetype fits you best and start creating a more secure, confident version of yourself? 🎧✨
🖤 P.S. Don’t miss next week’s episode, where we’ll dive into actionable tools to work with your archetype!
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⚖️ When Relationships with Your Avoidant Partner Feels One-Sided
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Does this sound like you?
You feel like you’re pulling all the weight.You’re trying to fix the relationship, but your partner withdraws even more.The relationship feels so one-sided.The more you try, the more they seem to slip away.You know giving them space is key, but NOTHING changes.If you’re nodding along, this episode is for YOU. ✨
I’m breaking down:
Should relationships really be 50/50?Signs you might be focusing on the WRONG things.How to shift the anxious-avoidant dynamic (and STOP the cycle).PLUS, I’ll touch on when it’s time to break it off—especially if you’re only accepting breadcrumbs. 🖤 While many of you are in healthy relationships with avoidant partners, this part will help you decide if you’re not.
It’s a JUICY one, so hit play now! 🎧✨ Love, Jula
Resources:
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Anxious To Secure BLUEPRINT: Become secure 95% FASTER
🤍 COACHING:
1:1 VIP SOS Session
🤍 FREE WORKSHEETS + DOWNLOADS:
Stop Being Needy Guide: 3 StepsWORRY-FREE Flow Chart: Free Download🤍 COURSES:
How to Stop OVERTHINKING 🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)TEXT ANXIETY: Stop Obsessing Over “No Replies” in 21 days or less🤍 REQUEST PODCAST TOPICS:
Instagram: @the.anxious.to.secure.coach
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🚩When your partner's mood is "off"
…and how EACH attachment style would react differently.
Did you ever wonder how a secure partner would react?
This episode continues the Attachment Style Guide— I’m talking through how EVERY attachment style reacts to triggers differently... super revealing:
You’ll learn:🖤 Why anxious attachment triggers might feel overwhelming🌻 How avoidant partners often shut down instead✨ What secure attachment reactions actually look like (and how to get there)📓 The role of childhood in shaping these reactions
This isn’t just about anxious attachment anymore—it’s about understanding how ALL styles respond to triggers.
🎧 Listen Now
Love, Bye byeeJula
P.S. When you get where your triggers come from,
you’ll feel more in control and secure in your relationship 💡
✅ The Anxious To Secure CHECKLIST ✅
❗ 6 Signs you have Abandonment Fears ❗
🤍 Anxious Attachment Inventory Exercise 🤍
🤍 COURSES:
How to Stop OVERTHINKING 🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)TEXT ANXIETY: Stop Obsessing Over “No Replies” in 21 days or less🤍 REQUEST PODCAST TOPICS:
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Anxious To Secure BLUEPRINT: Become secure 95% FASTER
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☎️ 30min Ice-Breaker Chat (to see if coaching is right for you)
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Today, I’m breaking down why your anxious attachment isn’t always about your parents. 🧠✨
🚨Spoiler Alert: You can have a good, peaceful childhood and STILL end up with an anxious attachment style.
If you’ve ever wondered, "Why the heck am I like this when my parents were great?" — this episode is for you.
We’ll talk:✨ The 2 BIG factors that shape attachment styles (beyond just parenting)🌻 10 Micro examples to help you connect the dots in YOUR life🖤 How understanding this helps you stop taking your partner’s words and actions so personally
P.S. If you're a parent, I’ll also share how you can avoid passing these attachment patterns on to your kids. 💡
Enjoy!
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Ready to learn more about relationships? Start with the 3min Attachment Style QUIZ, to find out if you're secure or insecurely attached.
Ever wondered..
👩🏻❤️👨🏻 🧪 What is the Strange Experiment? What has this to do with baby's attachment styles?Ever found yourself asking WHY you react the way you do in relationships? Or why your partner seems to get defensive over EVERYTHING you say?It all comes down to attachment theory...
In today’s episode, I’ll break it all down for you:
What is attachment theory and why it mattersThe difference between anxious, avoidant, secure, and disorganized attachment stylesHow babies’ reactions reveal their attachment style (it’s SO powerful!)How these styles show up in conflict and emotionsHow your upbringing shapes the way you attach to othersReady to uncover how YOUR attachment style shows up in your relationships?
Here is a quick overview in depth:
00:00 Why Attachment Theory Matters06:40 What is Attachment Theory?07:37 The Strange Situation Experiment08:22 How to identify Babies attachment style 13:40 The Square Analogy (Explaining Attachment in 4 Quadrants)13:53 The Secure Attachment Style: Secure Sarah14:57 The Anxious Attachment Style: Anxious Annie16:32 The Avoidant Attachment Style: Avoidant Andi18:14 The Disorganised Attachment Style: Disorganised Danni19:43 Roots of Attachment Styles25:40 The Impact of Childhood on Relationships
Resources:
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Anxious To Secure BLUEPRINT: Become secure 95% FASTER
🤍 COACHING:
1:1 VIP SOS Session
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WORRY-FREE Flow Chart: Free DownloadAttachment Style QUIZ – Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're🙋🏼♀️21 WAYS to STOP Abandoning yourself: Free DownloadAnxious Attachment Inventory Exercise: Goal Setting🤍 COURSES:
How to Stop OVERTHINKING 🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)TEXT ANXIETY: Stop Obsessing Over “No Replies” in 21 days or less🤍 REQUEST PODCAST TOPICS:
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Feeling like your partner is the reason for your anxiety?
Here’s the truth: it’s not what he does, says, or should say or do—it’s the story you tell yourself about what it means. It’s ALWAYS our thoughts that create our emotions.
🚩 Examples:
"He didn’t text back—what if he’s pulling away?""He’s dressing up for work. Jenny’s there. Am I not enough?""He asked for space. Does that mean he doesn’t love me?"These fears don’t come from your partner—they come from anxious attachment and abandonment wounds.
🔍 The Real Work:
Ask yourself: What am I making this mean?Rewrite the story: “He needs space, and that’s okay. It doesn’t mean he’s leaving.”Choose thoughts that feel true and safe.Start challenging your thoughts today—because peace starts inside YOU. 🧠✨
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✨ How to Become 1% More Secure Every Day ✨
START HERE: 3min QUIZ: Find Your TOP 2 UNMET NEEDS: To stop sabotaging Yourself
Ever feel like “becoming secure” is just too big to figure out? You’re not alone. In this episode, I’m breaking it down with:
10 micro-goal examples like pausing before texting for reassurance or naming the story in your head.How to stop overthinking and take small steps to feel calmer every day.Simple ways to rewire anxious thoughts using neuroscience.These tiny changes helped me heal my anxious attachment—now they can help you too! 💛
For example..
Pause for 10 minutes before texting your partner for reassurance and remind yourself, "I'm safe."Name the story in your head, like “He’s pulling away because I’m not enough,” and ask, “Is this a fact or just a fear?”Challenge fear-based thoughts by asking, “What’s the worst-case scenario? Is it true?” and replace them with neutral thoughts.Find out how to feel a little more secure starting today...
3min QUIZ: Find Your TOP 2 UNMET NEEDS: To stop sabotaging Yourself
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In Episode 10 of the Anxious to Secure Podcast, we dive into a powerful relationship myth:
the fear that giving your partner space might make them fall out of love with you. 🤯
(I used to believe this and it created a big disconnection between us...)
If you're feeling unfulfilled or anxious when you're not around your partner, or if you plan your time around their schedule, you're not alone.
Lets chat about why (for anxious overthinkers) it can feel so difficult to let go of that constant need to be near them and how it can trigger deep fears of abandonment
(and your partners wounds too of feeling trapped). ✨
But here's the truth:
More space doesn’t mean less love.
It can actually strengthen your bond and give you the freedom to thrive individually. 🌻
In this episode, I’ll share how these fears showed up in my own relationship and how breaking free from them led to a more secure, fulfilling connection.
Ready to break free from the anxiety loop? Let’s explore how you can give both yourself and your partner the space you need to grow. 🧠
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Have you ever set a New Year’s resolution to “finally feel secure in your relationship” or overcome your anxiety, only to feel stuck by week two? You’re not alone.
In this episode of The Anxious to Secure Podcast
Why 90% Fail at Relationship Goals & How to Be the Top 10%
✨ Why BIG goals like “becoming securely attached” might actually sabotage you.✨ How to uncover your WHY for lasting change and overcome relationship anxiety.✨ Tools to work WITH your subconscious mind to create emotional security and confidence.✨ Practical strategies to break free from overthinking, people-pleasing, and emotional triggers.
💬 I’ve been in that anxious cycle too, and I’ll share personal stories and tools that helped me break free.
Love, Jula
Your Anxious To Secure Coach
🤍 TRANSFORM YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLE:
Anxious To Secure BLUEPRINT: Become secure 95% FASTER
🤍 COACHING:
1:1 VIP SOS Session
🤍 FREE WORKSHEETS + DOWNLOADS:
WORRY-FREE Flow Chart: Free DownloadAttachment Style QUIZ – Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're😱📱 Grab Your Free Guide: 5 Steps to Handle It When Your Partner Doesn’t Text Back.🔍💭Challenge your thoughts - CHEAT SHEET (a must if you want to break through your old stories)🤍 COURSES:
How to Stop OVERTHINKING 🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)TEXT ANXIETY: Stop Obsessing Over “No Replies” in 21 days or less🤍 REQUEST PODCAST TOPICS:
Instagram: @the.anxious.to.secure.coach
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🤍 TRANSFORM YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLE:
Anxious To Secure BLUEPRINT: Become secure 95% FASTER
Let's bust another Relationship MYTH: "Your partner should take care of your needs like a parent. 👪⛔️"
TRUTH: Your partner isn’t responsible for fixing all your problems—or being your emotional caretaker.
Does this sound like you?❓ Do you vent, hoping they’ll fix everything?❓ Send long, emotional texts, needing them to “get it”?❓ Expect them to meet your emotional needs 24/7?
I get it—I used to do this too. 🖤But here’s what I learned: It’s my job to manage my emotions, not his. Once I embraced this, everything changed. Now I use my 4R Method to create balance—and it’s PURE FREEDOM. 🧘🏽♀️✨
Ready to stop feeling let down and start feeling secure from within? Tune in! 🎙
Grab your 📔 10 Journal Prompts That Transformed My Abandonment Fear (I swear by them)
Love, Jula xx
🤍 COURSES:
How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)TEXT ANXIETY: Stop Obsessing Over “No Replies” in 21 days or less🤍 REQUEST PODCAST TOPICS:
Instagram: @the.anxious.to.secure.coach
MORE FREE RESOURCES:
Challenge Your Thoughts CHEAT SHEET: To stop running on Auto-PilotLearn to REASSURE Yourself + STOP Chasing External Reassurance -
Your Holiday RELATIONSHIP Anxiety Survival Kit (with a twist 🎄✨..hohoho)
Grab your free Boundary Toolkit HERE (for anxious and hypersensitive girlies and guys)
⋆✴︎˚｡⋆The holidays are supposed to feel magical, right?⋆✴︎˚｡⋆
But if you’re ANXIOUSLY attached like I was, they can be a minefield of spiraling emotions and unmet expectations.
In Episode 07 of The Anxious Relationship Guide, I’m giving you the tools to THRIVE—not just survive—this holiday season. 🌟
What we chat about:
★ Why your HIGH holiday expectations might sabotage your relationship (and what to do instead).★ Boundaries 101: How to actually set them and why they’re key for anxious attachers.★ A fun BINGO game (yes, BINGO!) that’ll completely flip how you handle triggers at holiday gatherings.
Plus:I’ll share my own holiday struggles and how I turned them into lessons that keep my relationship anxiety in check—even during family drama!
No matter when you listen—Christmas, Easter, or just a random Tuesday—this episode is packed with practical steps to help you feel CALMER and MORE SECURE during family-events and holidays. 🧘♀️✨ Enjoy, xx Jula
Don't Miss the Chance to go deeper here.
🤍 TRANSFORM YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLE:
Anxious To Secure BLUEPRINT: Become secure 95% FASTER
🤍 COACHING:
1:1 VIP SOS Session
🤍 FREE WORKSHEETS + DOWNLOADS:
😱📱 Grab Your Free Guide: 5 Steps to Handle It When Your Partner Doesn’t Text Back.Find Your TOP 2 UNMET NEEDS: To stop sabotaging YourselfChallenge Your Thoughts CHEAT SHEET: To stop running on Auto-PilotLearn to REASSURE Yourself + STOP Chasing External ReassuranceFind YOUR ANXIOUS Archetype: To not SURVIVE but THRIVE in your Relationships🤍 COURSES:
How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)TEXT ANXIETY: Stop Obsessing Over “No Replies” in 21 days or less🤍 REQUEST PODCAST TOPICS:
Instagram: @the.anxious.to.secure.coach
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🎙️ MYTH: "If My Partner Reassured Me More, I’d Be Fine"
I want to bust another myth because it's MYTH BUSTER Tuesday…
Ready to tackle another relationship myth that’s keeping you stuck, creating more anxiety and not helping you to become the best version you can be? 💪🏽✨
In Episode 06 of Anxious to Secure, we’re diving into a BIG one:
🚨 MYTH: "If my partner just reassured me more, I’d feel okay."
Ever thought, "If they texted back faster… said the right thing… or just paid more attention, I’d feel less anxious"?
Here’s the truth:
No amount of reassurance will ever feel like enough—unless you feel secure from WITHIN.
I’ve been there, too. I used to believe that my partner could "fix" my anxiety. But what I learned (the hard way) is that security doesn’t come from texts or compliments—it’s an inside job.
✨ In this episode, I’ll show you:
Why chasing reassurance keeps you stuck in anxiety.
How to flip the script and start creating security from the inside out.
The exact steps I took to stop feeling so dependent on my partner’s validation.
Love, Yours Jula
🤍 TRANSFORM YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLE:
Anxious To Secure BLUEPRINT: Become secure 95% FASTER
🤍 COACHING:
1:1 VIP SOS Session
🤍 FREE WORKSHEETS + DOWNLOADS:
Find Your TOP 2 UNMET NEEDS: To stop sabotaging YourselfLearn to REASSURE Yourself + STOP Chasing External ReassuranceFind YOUR ANXIOUS Archetype: To not SURVIVE but THRIVE in your Relationships🤍 COURSES:
How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)TEXT ANXIETY: Stop Obsessing Over “No Replies” in 21 days or less🤍 REQUEST PODCAST TOPICS:
Instagram: @the.anxious.to.secure.coach
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