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In this episode, we delve into the complex emotion of guilt, which can often lead to the debilitating feeling of shame. Guilt is rooted in the belief that we've compromised our moral standards or failed in our duties. This makes us to evaluate ourselves harshly, thinking, "I am not a good mom" or "I have let others down."
We explore the common thoughts contributing to guilt: being late, saying no, making mistakes, or even taking time for ourselves. These thoughts can accumulate, fueling a narrative of self-loathing and shame. The British Psychological Society highlights that guilt stems not from external events, but from our own behavior and the moral standards we believe we should uphold.
Many women experience what we call "mom guilt," where the pressure to meet perfectionist standards results in feelings of inadequacy. We discuss how this guilt can hinder our growth and prevent us from making meaningful changes in our lives.
To overcome guilt, we must bring our unconscious thoughts to light, questioning their validity. We can shift our perspectives by examining the narratives we create around events—like missing a workout or not attending every school activity—we can shift our perspectives. You are encouraged to write down their feelings, explore the self-judgments tied to them, and reframe those thoughts into more empowering beliefs.
Join us as we identify the thoughts driving our feelings of guilt and shame, and learn practical strategies to cultivate self-compassion, acceptance, and, ultimately, a healthier relationship with ourselves. It's time to liberate ourselves from guilt and embrace our journey of personal growth without the weight of perfectionism!
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Join me in this eye-opening episode as we dive back into the often misunderstood feedback world. As I prepared for an upcoming workshop, I realized that the traditional approach to feedback approach is flawed and may also hinder our true potential for growth and success potential.
Get ready to challenge the status quo as I explore three common myths surrounding feedback that can hold you back from meaningful progression:
Myth #1: We Need to Ask Others for Feedback to Grow - Discover why relying solely on external opinions may limit your personal development and the alternative approaches that foster true self-awareness.
Myth #2: We Need to Take Everything People Say as True - Learn how to discern valuable insights from noise, empowering you to filter feedback effectively and focus on what truly matters for your growth.
Myth #3: We Must Apply All Feedback Given - Unpack the belief that failure to act on feedback signifies something is wrong. Instead, embrace a more nuanced understanding of feedback that prioritizes your agency and discernment.
This episode is all about equipping you with the tools to transform how you perceive and utilize feedback on your journey to growth and impact. Let’s shift the narrative and redefine feedback as a catalyst for personal evolution!
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In this thought-provoking episode, we dive deep into the swirling emotions surrounding Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) initiatives. Join us as we explore the frustration and anger many feel towards recent changes in DEI discussions. Discover how judgment and misunderstanding can breed negativity and resentment, turning you into exactly what you are criticizing others for. You will be challenged to consider the perspectives of those who oppose DEI, encouraging curiosity over criticism. Let's unravel the complexities of DEI together, fostering a space for love, connection, and understanding amidst the noise. You can tune in to transform your perspective and cultivate a more inclusive dialogue.
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Let's not be buried alive in our comfort zones, but use them to rest in. This week we dig into some of my favorite words from Steve Chandler (author and coach) in his book, 100 Ways to Motivate Yourself (#23).
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To be resilient, know that life is not supposed to be all sunshine and rainbows, it is not supposed to go as you plan, guaranteed. It will include setbacks, failures, disappointments, struggle. Welcome to being a human. Nothing ahs gone wrong. The universe is trying to teach you something. Rise above it. Take 100% responsibility for your results and create the results you want but not living in blame or shame land, but in intentionally knowing you do hard things.
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What if the secret to thriving during layoffs lies not in fearing the change, but in redefining who you want to be through it?
In today’s episode, we tackle the overwhelming emotions triggered by layoffs—both announced and rumored. We often find ourselves gripped by fear of the unknown and the "what ifs" that swirl in our minds, believing we can control how others should behave or how situations should unfold.
Join us as we explore how to reframe our thoughts around layoffs, focusing on self-compassion instead of fear. We’ll discuss the importance of recognizing our feelings, accepting the reality of corporate uncertainty, and taking proactive steps to align our values with our career choices.
By asking yourself, "Who do I want to be during this time?" you can transform anxiety into purposeful action. Tune in for insightful strategies to support yourself and others in navigating challenging transitions, empowering you to emerge as a strong leader and compassionate colleague—no matter the outcome!
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Listen to hear the common experience of restlessness in meetings and offer strategies to cultivate stillness and focus. Noticing how many people exhibit restless behaviors, like fidgeting or shifting positions, highlights a lack of emotional control. To counter this pattern, it's essential to embrace the mindset of being a "thermostat," setting the emotional temperature rather than reacting to it.
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Have you ever thought, "I am doing it all wrong"? Maybe you have a family member who makes you think this. Or you have someone at work that makes you think, "they definitely think I am doing it all wrong".
Let's talk about what it means to drop that awful thought and take on the true belief that we are doing it just right.
We need to lean into our own opinion of ourselves. We need to not hustle and act all weird to be the person someone else thinks we should be.
Contact me if you want to know more. www.lizjolley.com
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Think about how many leaders you worked for that were actually great leaders. Most of us can only count one or two . Shocking low number!
We need to get clear on our own definition great leadership to become the leader people want to work for.
Learn about why great leadership is few and far between and how to become the great leader you want to be.
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People talk a lot about being vulnerable at work or being their authentic selves. But very few people know what this looks like action wise.
What this looks like to me is being your whole self, especially when you cannot control the outcome. It is being self aware enough to reflect on how you are feeling through tough times like big changes. To feel your emotions so you don’t work them out on others or stuff them down and resist them.
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What does good leadership look like through change?
Setting a clear vision helps teams focus on what matters through difficult times.
Learn how to use my Power Question Framework to not only align your team on a clear vision, but to have clear actions to help deliver the vision.
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Change is tough. Especially the change that feels like it is happening to us. Listen to understand how your mindset about change impacts how you lead through change.
Ask yourself, "why could be good about this change?"
You get to decide how you will show up through change. Will you resist the change or will you be the leader everyone wants to follow through the change?
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Society tells us from an early age that life should be fair. And yet, it never is fair. Our brain forgets, so we need to remind it.
Our crazy expectation that life should be fair causes so much suffering.
When the fairness fairy shows up, the way out, acceptance and curiosity. You must accept that life is not fair. This is the story your brain made up from it's perspective. You must be curious and ask yourself what is the result you want? How else can you get that result?
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We are the writers of our story. Looking in the past creates conflict, looking forward creates the future. Blame is holding you back from creating your future. A future of connection, love, trust, and solving tough challenges.
No matter what life is 5050. "Fairytale-izing" the version of your life that should have been and then blaming others or blaming yourself in regret does not drive you into the future, it holds you back.
Drop the fairy tale. Drop the ridiculous notion that life is supposed to be happy all the time and if it isn't that we should blame someone or blame ourselves.
Start today. Who do you want to be? What do you want to create? Go after it. Imagine that your past happen for you.
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Are you brave enough to admit you lose it sometimes with people you love? Want to avoid it in the future? The key to avoiding it in the future is to learn from when you do lose it.
If we can look back on these moments with curiosity and love, we can reveal what our thought was that caused this moment and catch it in the future.
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Anyone wonder why you are the one in charge of buying all the gifts for the gifts, the mothers, the brothers, sisters, neighbors, co-workers, house cleaner, nieces, nephews?
And you stress yourself out trying to find the perfect thing that you know they will love.
And then are you frustrated if you get no feedback on how they felt about the gift? Is it radio silence?
Let's breakdown this whole gift process and find our way to enjoy gift giving and do it from a place of love.
Understand your reasons for buying a gift. Find your way to love. Don't give a gift from a place of guilt or to impress.
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Stressed out about family over the holidays? This holiday season so many of us will gather with our family, you may love it and you may dread it.
I am going to teach you how to be with family all holiday long without getting annoyed or losing it.
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Having people over for the holidays? Does it stress you out just thinking about it?
Listen in on how to avoid stress when it comes to planning a holiday gathering.
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Ever think, "if only I knew back then what I know today"? Well that thought is not helpful. Regret goes back and beats yourself up for past decisions that you cannot change. You need to make decisions from today for your future.
Learn about the unhelpful thoughts driving regret and how to drop them to create the life you want in the future.
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All companies tout the importance of collaboration but why don’t people collaborate? Well, we often feel threatened and afraid with collaboration. How we respond to the fear is what prevents us from working together.
Our brain is always looking for what could potentially be dangerous to us or what is bad.
True collaboration requires others to help modeling ideas, question them, and challenge them.
In Beyond Measure, Margaret Heffernan says,
“The same is true for ideas, doubts, concerns: they all start off roughly hewn, imprecise, and out of place. The first glimmer of an idea or an observation is like gold dust—highly cherished but hard to spot and not immediately valuable. We come together in groups and teams to refine, reshape, and polish them. The ensuing arguments are the signs that we care. It’s through that conflict that the real luster starts to emerge.”
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