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Struggling to connect with your anxious child? In this game-changing episode, we reveal 18 powerful questions that will transform your conversations and help your child open up about their anxiety. From understanding physical sensations to identifying triggers, these expertly crafted questions cover every aspect of childhood anxiety.
You'll discover:
⢠The surprising origin of your child's anxiety (Question #1 is eye-opening!)
⢠A creative way to visualize anxiety that kids love (Question #6 will amaze you)
⢠The one question that unveils your child's secret coping strategies (Don't miss #12!)
⢠How to uncover the hidden impact of anxiety on your child's life (Question #13 is crucial)Plus, we'll share tips on dealing with the dreaded "I don't know" responses and the silent treatment. Whether you're a parent, teacher, or caregiver, this episode is your key to fostering open communication and supporting the anxious child in your life. Don't miss this opportunity to strengthen your relationship and help your child thrive!
Tune in now and transform the way you talk about anxiety with your child!
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In the final installment of our three-part series, Dr. Davin Tan tackles the controversial question: Should parents monitor their childrenâs social media accounts? Join us as we explore the delicate balance between online safety and privacy, and discover practical strategies for navigating this complex issue.
Key Points:
Statistics on Parental Monitoring:
60% of parents check their teenâs social media profiles, while 40% do not.Concerns about online safety, cyberbullying, and exposure to harmful content versus privacy and trust.Research Insights:
Teenagers who believe their parents are monitoring their social media are more likely to engage in online risk behaviors.Open, honest communication between parents and teens reduces risky online behaviors.Practical Solutions for Parents:
Set Clear Guidelines: Establish rules for social media use, including privacy settings and acceptable behavior.Use Monitoring Tools Transparently: Inform your child about monitoring tools and explain the reasons behind their use.Foster Open Communication: Encourage discussions about online experiences and create a safe environment for your child to share concerns.Adjusting Monitoring as Children Grow:
Tailor your approach based on your childâs age and maturity.Gradually reduce monitoring as your child demonstrates responsible online behavior.Regular âTech Talksâ:
Have weekly or monthly discussions about online activities, new apps, and any concerns.Resources Mentioned:
Huddle Wisdom Courses:âSupporting and Guiding Anxious Kidsâ â Empathic parenting strategies for emotional and behavioral challenges.âConnecting with Anxious, Sensitive, and Neurodiverse Kidsâ â Enhancing communication skills, fostering empathy, and managing emotions.Conclusion:
Monitor your childâs social media with transparency, respect, and a goal of teaching them to navigate the online world safely and responsibly.Stay informed, stay connected, and adapt your approach as your child grows. -
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In this episode of we explore the contentious topic of violent video games and movies and their impact on children. We look at the potential risks and offers practical advice for parents.
Key Points:
Statistics on Violent Media Exposure:
90% of movies, 68% of video games, and 60% of TV shows contain some form of violence.Concerns about increased aggression, desensitization to violence, and emotional distress in children.Research Insights:
Mixed findings on the impact of violent media.Younger children and those with pre-existing emotional or behavioral problems may be more vulnerable.Practical Solutions for Parents:
Monitor Content: Be aware of what your child is watching or playing. Use content ratings as a guide.Set Limits: Manage screen time and restrict access to violent content. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends no more than one to two hours of screen time per day for children over the age of two.Encourage Alternative Activities: Promote non-violent games and activities that foster creativity, problem-solving, and social interaction.Prosocial Video Games:
Games that reward helping and cooperation can increase empathy and decrease aggressive thoughts.Context Matters:
Different types of violent content can have varying impacts. Help children understand and process what they see.Catharsis Theory:
The idea that violent media can serve as a safe outlet for aggression is not widely supported by research.Resources Mentioned:
Huddle Wisdom Courses:âSupporting and Guiding Anxious Kidsâ â Empathic parenting strategies for emotional and behavioral challenges.âConnecting with Anxious, Sensitive, and Neurodiverse Kidsâ â Enhancing communication skills, fostering empathy, and managing emotions.Conclusion:
Err on the side of caution with violent media, especially for younger children and those with behavioral issues.Monitor content, set limits, and provide alternatives.Every child is different; tailor your approach to your familyâs needs.Next Episode:
The impact of social media on teenage self-esteem.Outro:
Thank you for tuning in. Stay informed and engaged with your childrenâs media consumption. -
Part 1: Why Your Child Shouldnât Have a Smartphone Until 16: Shocking Truths Revealed!
Welcome to âTechnology and Media with Dr. Davin Tan,â where we delve into the profound impact of modern technology on our lives. In this episode we address a pressing question for many parents: When should children be allowed to have their own smartphones?
Join us as we explore surprising statistics about early smartphone ownership and discuss the potential risks and benefits of these powerful devices for young, developing minds. Dr. Tan shares practical advice for parents, emphasizing the importance of setting clear boundaries, utilizing parental controls, and maintaining open communication with your child.
Tune in to gain valuable insights and make informed decisions about your childâs digital life. Stay involved, provide guidance, and keep the lines of communication open to ensure your childâs well-being in the digital age.
**If your household has not yet considered the principles or there are certain pillars that are not yet built or developed in your space...then I tend to err on the side of caution and say no to smartphones. If you are unsure, I would hold, delay, don't succumb to pressure.
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Todayâs episode: âNoodles, Not Sandwichesâ â a simple concept to support your anxious child.Did you know? Nearly 1 in 3 adolescents experience an anxiety disorder (National Institute of Mental Health). Supportive parenting can reduce this risk by 46% (Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry).
The Noodle Analogy
Compliment Sandwich vs. Noodle Analogy: Toss out the old âcompliment sandwichâ and embrace the noodle analogy for flexibility and fun.Noodle Recipe for Parenting Success:Water (Warmth): Create a comforting environment for your child.Noodle (Growth): Help your child grow and become more flexible.Flavor (Empathy): Acknowledge and validate your childâs feelings.Spice (Courage): Encourage bravery and use humor to reduce anxiety.Real-Life Applications:
Tantrums: Start with warmth and empathy, use humor, and offer comforting touch.School Stress: Create a calm environment, listen, use gentle humor, and celebrate efforts.Facing Fears: Validate feelings, use humor, encourage bravery, and celebrate courage.Key Takeaway:
Just like noodles need time to become tender, kids need patience and the right support to flourish. Use warmth, empathy, humor, and encouragement to help them transform.Special Treat:
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Discuss the common challenge of whining in children and its impact on family dynamics.
Psychology Behind Whining:Reinforcement Through Response: Parental attention can reinforce whining (85% of cases).Cry for Attention: Whining as a tool for emotional needs; consistent positive attention reduces it by 60%.Emotional Regulation Challenges: Whining as a manifestation of frustration, fatigue, or hunger; emotional regulation skills reduce it by 40%.Effective Strategies to Address Whining:Make Whining Ineffective: Consistently refuse demands made through whining; 75% decrease over six months.Proactive Positive Attention: 15 minutes of undivided attention daily reduces negative behaviors by 50%.Fostering Emotional Expression: Teaching verbal expression of emotions reduces whining by 65%.Handling Meltdowns and Tantrums with Empathy:Key Strategies: Stay calm, validate feelings, offer comfort and reassurance.Impact: Empathetic responses improve emotional regulation skills by 70%.Conclusion: Emphasise the importance of understanding the causes of whining and implementing targeted strategies for a harmonious home environment.FREE tools
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Today we're diving into a topic that keeps many parents up at night - childhood fears and anxiety.
Imagine this: It's 2 AM, and you're jolted awake by a blood-curdling scream. Your heart races as you dash to your child's room, expecting to find a burglar or perhaps a particularly menacing spider. Instead, you're greeted by your six-year-old, trembling under the covers, insisting there's a scary thing in the wardrobe. Is this normal childhood fear, or should you ring the local child psychologist at this ungodly hour? Stick around, because we're about to dive into this very question.
In this episode, we'll explore:
- Common Childhood Fears: From fear of the dark to koumpounophobia (fear of buttons), we'll discuss the wide range of fears children experience.
- Age-Related Fears: Learn about typical fears at different developmental stages, such as loud noises for infants and social situations for school-age children.
- Distinguishing Normal Fears from Anxiety: Understand the red flags that might indicate your child's fears have crossed into anxiety territory.
- Statistics and Studies: We'll share insights from recent surveys and studies, including data from the UK's National Health Service and the British Journal of Developmental Psychology
- Practical Strategies: Get actionable tips for helping children manage both normal fears and anxiety, including validation techniques, gradual exposure, and mindfulness practices.
Join us as we navigate the complexities of childhood fears and anxiety, offering insights and practical advice to help you support your child's emotional well-being.
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In this episode, we explore the trials and triumphs of parenting, drawing from a familiar scene of childlike mischief and adult frustration.
Let's think about the motives behind children's behavior, the importance of fostering a sense of belonging, and the lessons learned from natural consequences rather than employing a power-over authoritarian approach that doesn't work for you in the long run.
Whether you're feeling overwhelmed by the chaos or cherishing a sweet moment of redemption, remember, we're all in this together.
Tune in for a fresh perspective on parenting and remember, there may not always be chocolate at the end of the day, but there are always opportunities for growth and connection.
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In this enlightening episode, I sit down with my friend and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu coach, Professor Felipe Santos. A champion in many respects, Felipe is a kind, passionate family man and an all-round good sort. Iâve learned a lot from him over the years.
Our conversation evolves naturally, flowing with the go, as Master Rickson Gracie would say. We cover a lot of ground, discussing topics such as:
Resilience, perseverance, and gritDealing with complexity, uncertainty, fear, and anxietyThe importance of family and traditional valuesThe power of communityThe significance of structure and disciplineRespect for others, self, and higher powersThis episode was suggested by Prashant Kumar, the mat enforcer at our gym. His wonderful idea led to a conversation that I believe will be the first of many more to come. Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, we find, is a metaphor for life. Any difficult-to-master skill can be a rich resource of lessons that teach us so much about life and how to live meaningfully.
I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I did! To find Professor Santos and the gang at Mount Maunganui Jiu-Jitsu, check out the details in the show notes. They offer a one-week free trial, which I highly recommend. Not only does BJJ give you a competitive edge in BBQ rumbles, but it also provides an advantage in many areas of life, including business, family, love, friendships, finances, and conflict resolution.
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Welcome to this episode of "The Power of Self-Reflection: A Guide for Parents of Anxious Children". In this episode, we delve into the challenges parents face when their children experience anxiety and explore the transformative power of self-reflection as a tool to navigate these challenges.
We discuss the difference between reactive and self-reflective practices, highlighting how easy it is to revert to old habits in stressful situations. We explore the concept of self-reflection, a practice that involves acknowledging our roles in conflicts and dissecting our actions. This enlightening journey can enhance our ability to think before we act, fostering personal growth and better understanding of our reactions.
We guide you through a journey of self-reflection with reflective questions designed to help you understand your reactions and their impact on your anxious children. These questions serve as a starting point for introspection, helping you to explore the principles that guide your actions, understand the notions carried over from your own childhood, and identify the ideas that influenced your response or reaction at that moment.
Remember, this is a personal journey with no right or wrong answers. It's about understanding ourselves better to support our children more effectively. We encourage you to take some time to reflect on these questions and share your reflections and discoveries on your social media platforms, fostering a supportive community for parents facing similar challenges. Join us in this episode as we embark on this enlightening journey of self-reflection to better support our children and navigate the challenges of parenting.
The QUESTIONS
What principles guide my actions?
What notions have I carried over from my own childhood?
What ideas influenced my response or reaction at that moment?
How confident am I in identifying problems?
Am I considering all the relevant factors?
Do I feel like Iâve lost control over a situation?
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Parents are the answer to the mental health crisis. How? Tune in. For resources on how you can be the linchpin in your kid's lives. www.huddlewisdom.com/connections
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Introduction: Welcome to another episode of Parenting with Huddle Wisdom.
Today weâre diving into a common yet challenging scenario: anxious mornings with our little ones. As parents, weâve all been thereârushing to get everyone ready for the day while managing our own stress. But how can we co-regulate with our anxious child, validate their feelings, and provide comfort when weâre feeling overwhelmed ourselves? Letâs explore some strategies and personal experiences.
Scenario: The Anxious Morning Rush: Picture this: Itâs 7:30 a.m., and the house is buzzing with activity. Your partner is grabbing their laptop, your older child is searching for their missing shoe, and the dog is barking at the mailman. Amidst the chaos, your youngestâa sensitive and anxious soulâis clinging to your leg, tears streaming down their face. Theyâre worried about school, friendships, and whether theyâll remember their lunchbox. How do you handle this delicate moment?
1. Co-Regulation: Co-regulation is the key. When our child is anxious, they look to us for cues on how to manage their emotions. Take a deep breath, ground yourself, and offer a calm presence. Sit down with your child, make eye contact, and say, âI see youâre feeling worried. Itâs okayâweâll get through this together.â
2. Validate Their Feelings: Acknowledge their anxiety without judgment. Say, âItâs normal to feel nervous sometimes. Even grown-ups get anxious. Letâs talk about whatâs bothering you.â Encourage them to express their fears, whether itâs forgetting their homework or being teased at school.
3. Empathize: Share your own experiences. Maybe you recall feeling anxious before a big presentation or meeting. Let them know theyâre not alone. Say, âI remember feeling nervous too. But guess what? We survived, and you will too.â
4. Comfort Amidst Stress: Now, hereâs the tricky part: Youâre stressed too. Your mind is racing through your to-do list, and patience wears thin. But remember, your child needs you. Take a mental pause. Remind yourself that their anxiety isnât a personal attackâitâs their struggle. Hug them, stroke their hair, and say, âWeâll figure this out. Weâre a team.â
5. Navigating the Chaos: As you juggle breakfast, backpacks, and car keys, keep your child close. Reassure them: âWeâve got time. Letâs find your lunchbox together.â Involve them in problem-solving. Maybe they can choose a comforting item to take to schoolâa small plush toy or a family photo.
6. Free Resources for Parents: In todayâs show notes, youâll find a link to HuddleWisdomâs Anxiety Toolkit for Kids. Itâs a collection of free resourcesâprintables, breathing exercises, and calming techniquesâthat you can use with your child. Visit www.huddlewisdom.com/connections to access these valuable tools.
Conclusion: Remember, parenting isnât about perfection; itâs about connection. Our anxious mornings are opportunities to strengthen that bond. So, take a deep breath, hold your childâs hand, and step into the day together. Until next time, this is [Your Name] signing off. Be kind to yourself, and be there for your little ones. đ
Disclaimer: The advice provided in this podcast is based on personal experiences and general parenting principles. Always consult a professional if you have specific concerns about your childâs anxiety or mental health.
Note to listeners: If you found this episode helpful, please share it with other parents who might benefit. And donât forget to subscribe!
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Welcome to our podcast, where we delve into the personal journey of a forensic psychiatrist and father who faced his own demons.
This is a story of a man who, despite his professional expertise in human behavior, found himself in a situation that shook him to his core and led him to introspect deeply about his life and priorities. In this podcast, we explore a haunting incident - a day when he left his young, anxious daughter alone in a bustling school car park.
Overwhelmed by professional commitments and personal responsibilities, he made a choice that he would regret deeply. The guilt and shame of this incident led him to a depressive episode, forcing him to confront his shortcomings as a parent.
This transformative experience led him to prioritize his family over everything else and develop a framework to safeguard his children from his own flaws. This framework, initially intended for personal use, turned out to be a powerful tool that had a positive impact on his family.
In this podcast, we discuss the importance of equipping oneself with certain frameworks of thinking to overcome personal flaws and limitations. It's not about the specific framework - you can develop your own or use other systems.
The key is to have a system in place. Join us as we navigate through this deeply personal story and explore the systems he developed for the wellbeing of his family:
1. [Connecting with Anxious Kids](https://www.huddlewisdom.com/foundationsofconnection )
2. [Empathic Guidance for Anxious Kids](https://www.huddlewisdom.com/practice)
Remember, no matter how daunting parenting may seem, you've got this. All you need is a system. Tune in to our podcast and embark on this enlightening journey with us. Thank you for listening.
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In this podcast episode, we delve into the rising rates of anxiety in children and explore strategies to counteract these challenges. We discuss the impact of technology, academic pressure, parenting styles, and social comparisons. Our focus is on fostering empathy, active listening, and emotional intelligence. We share practical tips for creating a safe space, promoting social connections, and teaching coping mechanisms. Join us as we empower parents, educators, and caregivers to support childrenâs mental well-being in todayâs dynamic world. đď¸đ
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Distress, waitlists and unmet needs: parentsâ reports of child psychological difficulties in Aotearoa New Zealand. Amy Kercher, Seona Beattie, Liesje Donkin, Daniel Shepherd. Australian and New Zealand Journal of Public Health. Volume 48, Issue 1, February 2024 https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1326020023052974 -
Parenting is a journey filled with unique challenges, one of which is dealing with the silent treatment from our children. This can be a frustrating situation, but itâs important to remember that itâs not about us, even if it feels personal. Itâs about their emotionsâthey might be overwhelmed, frustrated, or misunderstood, possibly lacking the words to articulate their feelings.
A Simple Framework
Before we delve into the silent treatment specifically, letâs talk about a simple framework that can guide us in reacting to confounding behaviors in a helpful way. This framework is based on giving our children the benefit of the doubt and asking two questions:
Whatâs going on in the environment?What skills does my child need to deal with the environment?This framework wonât guarantee perfect solutions, but it will keep you in reasonably good stead when confronted with confusing behavior.
Understanding the Silent Treatment
When children give us the silent treatment, itâs crucial to recognize that thereâs something going on. They arenât just being difficult on purpose. Our instinct might be to confront or demand communication. However, a different approach, inspired by Dr. Gabor MatĂŠâs book âHold On To Your Kids,â could be to âwooâ our children back into conversation. âWooingâ isnât about bribing or cajoling; itâs about showing genuine interest in their lives, being patient, giving them space, and staying engaged. Itâs about being curious about their world, thoughts, and feelings.
Tips for Dealing with the Silent Treatment
Here are some more tips to help you navigate this challenging situation:
Stay calm and composed.Avoid reinforcing the behavior by giving in when your children are silent.Write to them.Show curiosity and express interest in them.Create a positive environment that encourages your children to talk.Donât pressure them to talk, as it might cause them to retreat further into silence.If you notice theyâre not responding, express your desire to understand why calmly.If the silent treatment is harmful, itâs important to set boundaries, especially when a response is required.Let your child know how their silence affects you using âIâ statements to avoid sounding accusatory.Sometimes, children need time to process their feelings. Let them know itâs okay to take a break from the conversation.If the silent treatment becomes a persistent issue, consider seeking professional help.Reflect on your availability and the time you spend on things that ultimately matter.Engage in games like âTwo Truths and a Lieâ or âWould You Ratherâ to foster communication in a fun way.Remember, these are just guidelines. For a deeper understanding of this topic, tune into episode 091 of the Parenting with Huddle Wisdom Podcast.
Thank you for joining us, and remember, parenting is a journey. Weâre all learning as we go. Until next time, keep being the amazing parent that you are.
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Parenting is a beautiful journey, but letâs face itâsometimes it feels like an uphill battle. Whether youâre dealing with tantrums, sleepless nights, or teenage rebellion, there are moments when you wonder if youâre equipped to handle it all. Fear not! Our episode today sheds light on essential principles and practical pillars that can be your guiding stars when the going gets tough.
Here is the link to the free video training about navigating emotional storms using the same frameworks.
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As a parent, you want your kids to grow up to be confident, resilient, and successful. You want to challenge them to learn new skills, overcome obstacles, and pursue their goals. But you also want to protect them from unnecessary pressure, anxiety, and burnout. How do you find the right balance between pushing and pausing? How do you know when to encourage your kids to step out of their comfort zone and when to let them take a break?
That's what this podcast is all about. Whether you have a toddler, a teenager, or anything in between, you'll find this practical and insightful and hopefully inspires you to challenge your kids in the best possible way.
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In this insightful podcast episode, we delve into the topic of parenting ruts. We discuss the âshacklesâ that hold parents back and the âslippery slopesâ or thinking errors that can lead us astray. We explore the barriers that parents often face and the phenomenon of the âtall poppy syndromeâ that can hinder progress. The episode emphasizes the importance of having a clear vision of where you want to go as a parent and setting small, realistic goals to get there. Tune in to discover strategies for breaking free from parenting ruts and fostering a more fulfilling parenting journey.
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Connecting or reconnecting with your children while they are in the middle of an emotional storm or meltdown is challenging, especially when your cup is near empty.
So is it possible to connect with them? Of course it is...but it's not easy.
The concepts we discuss will help, but like with most things in life worth doing, it's important to incorporate these practices into daily routine and structure. The benefits compounds over time.
Tune in.
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