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If you want to be truly adored and cherished in your most intimate relationship (as though you are the Queen of his world!) this episode is for you…
Often we say that we want to be treated like a queen… but when it doesn’t happen, we get angry and place blame (or give up the dream).
In this episode, I’ll give you 3 important things to consider if you desire Queendom within your marriage - because it’s possible with a few vital adjustments! I’ll share the first question you need to ask yourself, how you can keep your expectations high (no, really!) - PLUS the 1 thing you need to stop doing to your husband.
Tune in for a quick, deep dive episode for the Queens among us!
What You’ll Learn In This Episode:
1:47 - People will meet you at your level of expectation, BUT…
4:49 - If you want to be treated like a Queen, consider starting here
7:42 - Because THIS is the real problem… and a solution!Mentioned In This Episode
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“What is not Love is always Fear.” -from A Course In Miracles, scribed by Helen Schucman
In other words, the opposite of love is not hate… it’s fear. And we unconsciously live within fear-based decisions when we misunderstand our options!
We have only two: LOVE or FEAR.
So how do we know if we’re making choices based in fear… or with love?
This choice shows up most prominently in our marriage relationships, and in this episode I’ll explain why - plus the question to ask if you’re unsure where your own decisions stem from (and how to do things differently).
What You’ll Learn In This Episode:
1:09 - Fear is sneaky, because it’s often unconscious
3:16 - Here’s why it shows up most obviously in our marriages
4:20 - You think it’s love… but is it based in fear?
5:34 - This is everyone’s deepest fear…
6:06 - Why the motivation behind your action is important
7:57 - Here’s what I ask myself when I’m unsure about a decision
Mentioned In This EpisodeTruth & Clarity Session with Sharon
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Many of my clients come to me saying, “I no longer feel desire for my partner… even though I want to! Intimacy used to feel so different. What’s wrong?”
And well, it’s probably not what you think.
In this episode, I invite you to discover how the thrill of novelty and the excitement of the unknown are essential to your long-term marriage, plus how you can realistically bring these elements back to life, starting today.
Because maybe it’s less about what’s “wrong” with your relationship… and more about what you can do differently.
What You’ll Learn In This Episode:
0:59 - You might think THIS is the problem (it’s not!)
2:49 - Here’s the real problem - and it happens to all of us
6:01 - Imagine what it looks like to re-incorporate spontaneity into your marriage
9:25 - But here’s the worst time of day to begin…
11:16 - Here’s what I do to keep desire alive with my husband
12:29 - Why non-sexual touch is vital to revamping desire
Mentioned In This EpisodeTruth & Clarity Session with Sharon
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How do we move forward together after the discovery of an affair? How do I know he won’t cheat again? What if there’s more sexual indiscretion I just don’t know about (yet)?
In this episode, I’ll share a story from one of my clients: She’s 59 and just discovered her husband’s long-term sexual indiscretion. Now she’s trying to understand what went wrong and how to move forward.
I’ll talk about how we can get introspective (without taking responsibility for something that’s NOT our fault), the importance of being “chosen” by our partners (not merely tied together by convenience or fear), plus the Loving Truth about what’s possible on the other side.
Please note: This is a tender, sensitive topic for those of us who’ve experienced sexual indiscretion within an intimate relationship. When deciding whether to listen to this episode (or select another), I encourage you to keep this in mind and take good care of yourself.
What You’ll Learn In This Episode:
1:16 - She’s 59 and just discovered her husband’s sexual indiscretion
4:22 - When you’ve been cheated on, you need these 2 important things
6:39 - Here’s where he needs to start
13:07 - What does it mean to get “introspective”?
16:18 - Are you brave enough to consider this, too?
20:18 - This is what can happen on the other side!
23:17 - And here’s the loving truth…
Mentioned In This EpisodeTruth & Clarity Session with Sharon
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Heather has been married to her husband for eight years, but they’re rarely intimate. Following a hidden ED diagnosis and an affair, her husband is finally initiating sex… but she’s no longer interested.
Now Heather wants to know, “Is there a way back to each other… after I’ve lost desire?”
In this episode, we’ll get into some sensitive topics, including - what to do when sex feels like an obligation, how to face the reality of your relationship’s problems, and what it means that you BOTH have a say in the future of your marriage (plus the fact that there’s no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ decisions here).
Listen in as I answer Heather’s question, and see what you might apply to your own situation.
What You’ll Learn In This Episode:
0:31 - She’s been married for 8 years, but intimacy has always been limited
4:16 - Can you start by giving yourself grace?
5:06 - The question of having a child… or getting divorced
7:35 - You need to tell yourself the truth
10:04 - He gets to choose for his life… and you get to choose for yours
13:17 - Is there a way back to each other… after all this?
16:57 - Is he on ‘good behavior’ right now?
19:10 - There’s no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ decision here. But the decision is yoursMentioned In This Episode
COURSE: Disconnection to DesireIf you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.
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If you understand this, your marriage will automatically become so much easier…
The differences between males and females in relationship starts with the brain - and it starts before we’re even born.
In this episode, we’re digging into the science behind our natural differences, plus how our different brain development impacts our male/female relationships as adults - based on Dr. Louann Brizendine’s research, laid out in her book: The Female Brain.
You’ll discover the neurological reasons behind our distinct ways of communication and emotional processing, plus how this shapes our marriage relationships and male/female interactions.
What You’ll Learn In This Episode:
3:37 - Our differences begin before we’re even born
7:58 - Baby girls are born knowing how to “read the room”
10:55 - The physiological differences in male/female communication
13:23 - Why women are the 1st to notice disharmony in relationships
18:40 - Why your marriage *feels* different to you… than to your husband
Mentioned In This EpisodeTruth & Clarity Session with Sharon
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How do we get more comfortable talking about sex? Is it “okay” to add sex to our schedules… or should it only be spontaneous? What if one of us is never in the mood?
In this episode, I’m detailing FIVE things that passionate couples do differently - taken from the teachings of Esther Perel. I’ll explain the concept of “responsive desire” (and how to be intimate when you’re not in the mood), what to do if it feels like your partner is only ever “taking” from you, and the importance of consistency with physical intimacy - for both partners!
Listen in if you’re ready and wanting to ignite deeper passion inside your most intimate relationship.
What You’ll Learn In This Episode:
2:36 - I rarely want to work out… but I never regret it
5:50 - When it feels like all he wants to do is take from you
9:07 - You cannot punish your partner for this!
10:41 - Your relationship needs physical intimacy (consistently)
13:40 - Maintenance sex v. Spontaneous sex
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Could your marriage be the cornerstone to success in every other part of your life? In this episode, I invite you to consider the potentially transformative concept of placing your relationship above even your children and career…
I explain why many of us naturally prioritize other aspects of life (kids, work, etc.) and the subtle-yet-profound impact this could be having in our marriages. This is a divisive topic, so I invite you to tune in and consider what this means for you!
What You’ll Learn In This Episode:
2:49 - Can your marriage be the foundation… for everything else in your life?
4:18 - Most of us love our kids unconditionally. What about our life partners?
6:22 - What else can thrive… when your marriage thrives?
8:04 - But prioritizing your marriage shouldn’t feel like a chore
11:20 - What’s ONE thing you can do to prioritize your marriage?
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If you feel stuck in indecision about whether you should stay in your relationship or leave it… you likely don’t have enough information to make your decision (yet).
That’s the problem my client was facing: Her marriage had been struggling for years, and now she found herself deep inside an affair - no longer in love with her husband but undecided about what to do next.
In this episode, I walk you through the 90-day strategy we used to help her come to clarity, plus the difference between thoughtful decision-making and “convenient” decisions. If you feel stuck in indecision about your marriage, this episode is for you!
What You’ll Learn In This Episode:
2:09 - What do you want? (What don’t you want?)
5:18 - What are your reasons WHY?
7:21 - The 90-day ground rules for success
9:20 - But the goal is NOT “wedded bliss in 90 days!”
12:23 - Ask this question if you’re feeling stuck
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Who am I, and why should you listen to me?
The work of relationship coaching is personal, and today I want to share more about who I am, personally and professionally - so you can see behind-the-scenes of my life and work.
In this episode, I share my personal story of a first marriage that ended in divorce, how I’ve been on all sides of affairs, and why my second marriage is thriving. You’ll also hear about what led me to relationship coaching, the work I did previously, and how I finally discovered peace and happiness - using my own life coaching tools!
What You’ll Learn In This Episode:
1:58 - The simple reason I married my first husband
6:51 - I thought the answer was to find the right person…
8:20 - Why my second marriage is thriving 10 years later!
11:46 - This is what I did for work, prior to relationship coaching
16:09 - The first time I felt my heart leap out of my chest
21:08 - Who are my people? What matters to me? Where am I from? What do I believe in?
29:27 - How I finally discovered peace
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Oh, the age-old dilemma in nearly every marriage… One partner needs emotional connection before physical intimacy; the other requires sex to feel connected.
Both partners require both types of connection. But which comes first?
In this episode, I take a stand on which type of connection *must* come first, plus why we need different things to feel connected, what to do if you feel like your partner is only ever ‘taking’ from you, and how you might be exacerbating the disconnection in your marriage.
What You’ll Learn In This Episode:
1:07 - We need BOTH emotional & physical connection… which comes first?
4:05 - The dilemma: I’m not meeting your needs, because you’re not meeting mine
5:47 - But this is what HAS to come first - no matter what
8:00 - Your partner is not trying to take something from you…Mentioned In This Episode:
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When one of my clients discovered her husband’s betrayal, she consciously chose to stay in the marriage… but she also struggled to know how to move forward from there.
Would his past behavior determine their success or failure? Could new patterns of behavior “save” their marriage?
In this episode, I’m talking about the problems with ONLY looking to the past for predictions of the future, plus how we can start trusting ourselves and move forward after a marriage upset.
What You’ll Learn In This Episode:
2:10 - The best predictor of the future is the past, unless…
7:05 - How new patterns of behavior *change* your relationship
10:07 - You can’t have one foot in the past & one foot in the future…
13:08 - Here’s how you can start trusting YOURSELF
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If you can get better at this one thing… every single relationship in your life will get better!
Most relationship issues can be traced back to problems with communication, right? There might be a lack of communication, a handful of miscommunications, a lack of understanding… the list goes on.
But here’s what I want you and your partner BOTH to consider: Are you as interested in what your partner has to say… as you are in being seen & heard?
In this episode, we’ll dig into this question, and I’ll share 5 practical tools to help you get better at both listening and being heard.
What You’ll Learn In This Episode:
01:10 - You know what it’s like to feel unseen & unheard (so does your partner…)
04:53 - It gets harder when your identity is wrapped up in the conversation
07:35 - When it’s time to “close your mouth & open your ears”
08:31 - Most people do not have practice being fully present…
13:15 - Are you listening to him, too?
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How can I fix our marriage if he doesn’t think anything is wrong? What can I do if my needs aren’t being met by my partner? What information should I share with my kids about our divorce?
In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll hear from three callers who are stuck at an impasse and struggling to move forward. Together we’ll get clear about what’s necessary to make a change and how to take the first step.What You’ll Learn In This Episode:
00:55 - She wants to work on the marriage, but he says it’s “fine”
04:46 - Your husband is NOT a jerk…
07:55 - He wants physical connection, but she needs emotional connection first
11:20 - Who should make the first move?
16:52 - They’re getting divorced: What information should they share with their kids?
20:36 - What your children feel TODAY is not how they’ll feel FOREVER
26:16 - The better you do *this* one thing, the smoother your relationships will be
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When one or both partners in a marriage is neurodivergent, you face quite unique challenges… In this episode, I’m joined by Dayna Abraham to explore neurodivergent marriage and more!
Now, you don’t need a diagnosis of ADHD, OCD, autism, etc. to enjoy this episode… rather, Dayna explains how learning to communicate better with your partner is actually about understanding them (and yourself!) better - neurodivergent or otherwise.
You’ll also learn about neurodivergent labels & diagnoses, the wide variety of neurodivergent experience, how neurodivergence can impact marital intimacy & affection, and how you might build better systems & processes within a neurodivergent marriage. Plus, Dayna shares her own framework for thriving inside a marriage with one or both neurodivergent partners. (This framework applies to parenting, business, and more!)
What You’ll Learn In This Episode:
01:40 - The difference between a label & a diagnosis
06:59 - Neurodivergent people receive 10X more negative feedback…
11:45 - The female experience of being neurodivergent
15:28 - What to do if you think your partner is neurodivergent
23:20 - How to NOT take your partner’s neurodivergence personally
27:54 - Neurodivergence, intimacy & affection
31:08 - How to build systems & processes in a neurodivergent marriage
40:40 - Dayna’s frameworks for neurodivergent parenting, marriage & more
48:38 - Okay, radical acceptance… but what about unacceptable behavior?
57:44 - The most beautiful part of Dayna’s neurodivergent marriage
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Feeling a loss of attraction and desire for your partner is very common… even when you’re recovering your marriage to a healthy place.
Many of us think that a “spicy” marriage (or an intimate connection) is what’s lost to our youthful naivety or the “magic” of something new. But it’s actually about biology.
In this episode, I’m going to get a little nerdy and talk about healthy hormones, PLUS 4 practical ways you can invite desire into your marriage and your life.
What You’ll Learn In This Episode:
4:53 - We can’t talk about desire without talking about your hormones
8:16 - Your body needs these 3 things to feel desire
12:36 - Does your relationship still feel… fun?
15:57 - The fastest way to connect with your partner
18:31 - Desire isn’t something you “make” happen
21:15 - Rekindling desire is about action & effort
Mentioned In This Episode:If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.
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When’s the last time you felt truly heard by your partner? When’s the last time you enjoyed a serious conversation together… or agreed on a solution after an argument?
Errors in communication are the most common problem I see with unhappy couples - because men and women communicate differently! And we often communicate for very different reasons.
In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, we’ll explore the art of communicating within a heterosexual partnership, and I’ll provide 4 tips for more effective communication between men and women.
0:54 - Women communicate to build connection (men do not)4:49 - Men & women solve problems in different ways6:22 - It’s not about who does it “right” & who does it “wrong” 10:28 - Can you be braver (and bolder) with your communication boundaries? 14:10 - Listen better by asking THIS question16:05 - The #1 reason happy couples are actually happy
What You’ll Learn In This Episode:Mentioned In It’s Time for a Different Conversation in Your Marriage
Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage? Book a Truth & Clarity Session.If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.
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How do I know if my spouse is genuinely changing or not? Can I trust his new good behavior will last? What can we do if my husband wants to open our marriage and I’m not sure? How do I move forward after my husband’s emotional affair with a coworker?
In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll hear from three callers who want to understand how to encourage positive changes to make a marriage last, what to do when a partner comes out as bisexual, and how to move forward after an emotional affair.
3:13 - How to appreciate the good things he does to encourage lasting change
8:24 - Her husband wants to open their marriage - does she?
10:03 - When you both want to feel seen and accepted (but neither of you does)
14:04 - The reality of emotional affairs (i.e. The Danger Zone)
18:13 - It’s not about the other woman
20:51 - What’s really going on when things go “bad”Mentioned In Q&A: New "Good" Behavior, Emotional Affairs and an Open Marriage
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If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.
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Men and women communicate very differently and for very different reasons. And if you don’t understand how and why, it’ll cause problems that strain your relationship. So what do you need to know and do differently to communicate better in your marriage
In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about why men and women communicate differently, why it can cause issues, and the brain chemistry involved. I’ll also teach you four things you can do to improve the communication between you and your partner.
00:54 - Ways in which men and women communicate differently and the reasons behind it7:15 - How to be more direct in your communication with your husband (without coming across like a bitch)
10:20 - Two ways to be braver in your marriage and how they help your partner show up better inside the relationship
12:33 - An example of how understanding one another makes communication easier in marriage
14:10 - How to listen better when your partner is ready to share something with you
Mentioned In Four Ways to Improve Communication Between You and Your Spouse
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You know how each person can see something different when looking at the same piece of art? Perspective is the same way.
Your perspective is uniquely yours, and it’s built through belief which is shaped in the first few years of your life by multiple things like your environment and the people in it. In that way, your beliefs are also like art, bringing together multiple elements to create the big picture that is you. But, if you’re not careful, some beliefs you hold can play a part in destroying any relationship you have.
In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll hear about the one belief you might have that can ruin almost any relationship. You’ll learn a simple thing you can do to become a little more conscious in all of your relationships and discover how this subtle shift can improve your marriage00:25 - The lost art that’s affecting your relationships
2:49 - A couple of reasons why you argue with others over perspective
4:30 - The problem with the concept of right versus wrong
6:37 - The benefits of looking at things in your relationships through the lens of perspective
8:57 - What happens when you’re simply curious about your partner’s perspective
Mentioned In The One Belief That Will Ruin Any Relationship
Stay or Go? By Sharon Pope
If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.
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