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  • In this first episode of the Mojo Monday series, Carly explores why mental fitness is a more empowering, actionable way to approach personal wellbeing. This series will cover the pillars of mental fitness, providing tools and strategies you can implement into your life to move up the mental fitness continuum. 

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  • Today I chat with Amy Jacobson, an expert on emotional intelligence and author of two insightful books. We delve into the depths of understanding emotional intelligence and its important impact on both personal and professional landscapes. Amy shares her practical framework, insights from her latest book, and explores the pivotal role emotional intelligence plays in shaping our lives.

    What You'll Learn:

    Own It, Face It, Feel It, Ask It, Drive It: Amy outlines her five-step framework for mastering emotional intelligence, guiding us through the process of self-awareness and empathy to achieving effective communication and action. 

    Personal Impact: Understand how emotional intelligence affects personal relationships and learn how improving these skills can lead to more meaningful and harmonious interactions with loved ones. 

    Professional Dynamics: Discover the influence of emotional intelligence within the workplace, both among colleagues and in leadership roles, and how it can enhance workplace culture and performance.

    Overcoming Challenges: Amy provides strategies for navigating difficult conversations and interpersonal conflicts, emphasising the importance of empathy and understanding in resolving issues.

    Decoding Emotional Triggers: Gain insight into how childhood experiences and neural pathways affect emotional responses and learn methods to manage and adjust these responses effectively.

    Key Takeaways:

    Emotional Intelligence is a Skill: It can be developed and honed over time with practice and awareness. Understand Your Emotions: Acknowledge and process emotions rather than suppress them to avoid building stress and tension. Empathy is Key: Truly understanding and feeling the perspectives of others is fundamental in enhancing emotional intelligence. Communication is Critical: Effective communication requires understanding that it's about delivering a message that resonates with the listener, not just expressing your own thoughts.

    Take Action:

    Explore Amy Jacobson's books for more comprehensive insights:

    Emotional Intelligence: A Simple and Actionable Guide to Increasing Performance, Engagement, and Ownership

    The Emotional Intelligence Advantage: Mastering Change and Difficult Conversations

    To learn more about Amy Jacobson, her insights, and how to engage her for speaking engagements, visit her website: Amy Jacobson.

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    If you're ready to embark on a journey towards enhancing your emotional intelligence, take the steps today to "Own it, Face it, Feel it, Ask it, and Drive it." This framework is not just a guide but a pathway to personal and professional excellence.

     

    01:25 The Journey of Writing and Emotional Intelligence

    05:06 Defining Emotional Intelligence

    06:29 Emotional Intelligence and Neurodiversity

    10:59 Impact of Emotional Intelligence in Personal Life

    17:42 Emotional Intelligence in the Workplace

    21:18 Framework for Building Emotional Intelligence

    24:34 Embracing Reality and Control

    25:15 Facing Emotions Head-On

    27:49 Empathy and Understanding Others

    32:16 Effective Communication Strategies

    37:04 Implementing Emotional Intelligence

    38:32 Navigating Difficult Conversations

     

     

     

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  • In this insightful conversation, I sit down with Captain George Dom, a retired U.S. Navy officer, to explore the essence of high trust leadership and its pivotal role in building high-performance teams. Captain Dom shares his extensive experience from his distinguished military career, including leading the renowned Blue Angels and teaching at Top Gun. Together, they delve into the principles of trust and how these can be effectively applied both in the military and corporate environments.

    What You'll Learn:

    The Foundation of Trust in Leadership:

    Captain Dom offers a compelling look into his philosophy of trust, outlining five levels of trust that are vital for leadership and team cohesion. He emphasises the need for leaders to earn unconditional trust through consistent behaviour and openness.

    The Power of Effective Communication:

    Discover how clear, concise, and consistent communication helps in building and maintaining trust within teams. Dom and I highlight the importance of mutual understanding, where leaders must ensure they are understood and also convey that they understand their team members.

    The Importance of Debriefing:

    Paul Taylor and Captain Dom discuss the sacred practice of debriefing in aviation and how this routine ensures continuous improvement. This practice, they argue, is crucial not just for safety in aviation but for success in any high-stakes environment.

    Transitioning from Military to Civilian Life:

    Learn about the challenges and opportunities involved in transitioning from a structured military environment to the civilian world, and how the principles of trust and leadership remain relevant across these domains.

    Building High-Performance Teams:

    Through examples from his military career, Captain Dom illustrates how trust is not just a nice-to-have but a strategic imperative for any high-performing team. Whether flying jets or managing corporate teams, the principles remain the same.

    Key Takeaways:

    Trust is Earned: It's a continuous commitment and starts with leaders demonstrating integrity and reliability. Character and Commitment: These are at the core of trust. Leaders must show they are committed to their teams, especially when challenges arise. Communication is Key: Effective leaders ensure that they communicate clearly with their teams, and also actively seek feedback and understanding. Shared Sacrifice Bonds Teams: Experiencing challenges together can strengthen team bonds and trust. High Trust Leads to High Performance: Trust allows teams to operate more efficiently and effectively, leading to better outcomes.

    Resources:

    For those looking to delve deeper into the concept of high trust leadership or to apply these strategies in their own teams, consider exploring Captain George Dom’s book "High Trust Leadership: Building High-Performance Teams."

     

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    Website: georgedom.com

    Book: High Trust Leadership - Building High-Performance Teams -

    Whether you're a current leader, an aspiring one, or simply interested in enhancing your team dynamics, this discussion offers invaluable insights into fostering trust and achieving high-performance in any field.

     

    01:00 Early Inspirations and Naval ROTC

    02:54 Naval Aviation Career Highlights

    05:50 Top Gun Experience and Training

    13:44 The Importance of Debriefing

    24:39 Transition to Civilian Life

    27:42 High Trust Leadership

    35:45 The Gift of Trust

    36:04 Five Key Elements of Trust

    37:04 Character: Walking the Talk

    37:45 Commitment: Showing Up in Storms

    38:59 Competence: Being Good at What You Do

    40:54 Connection: Understanding Your Team

    42:46 Communication: Clarity and Consistency

    50:54 Rebuilding Trust in Leadership

    56:47 High Trust Leadership and Personal Relationships

    58:18 Respect for Military Personnel

     

     

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  • This was a fascinating, wide-ranging, amusing and highly useful conversation if you're a human being!

    Dr Sophie Mort, known as Dr Soph is a UK Sunday Times best selling author of the book "A Manual For Being Human'  and in today's podcast we discuss the topic of her new book 'Unstuck', which is just brilliant.

    It's a wide-ranging conversation about habit formation, automations in our life, cognitive biases, drama triangles and much more. I guarantee there's be an enjoyable mix of nods of acknowledgement, laughter and aha moments as you listen to it. 

    Dr Soph is a clinical psychologist with a Degree in Psychology, Masters Degree in Neuroscience and PhD in Psychology. She's also witty, engaging, insightful and a great communicator.

    What You'll Learn:

    The Art of Habit Formation: Dive into why over 40% of our daily behaviours are habits, running on autopilot without our conscious decision-making.

    Cue-Craving-Reward: Explore the science behind habits, including the crucial role cues play in triggering automatic behaviours.

    Willpower & Habit Change: Discover why willpower alone isn't enough and learn to leverage the power of time-of-day biology to change habits effectively.

    Understanding Heuristics: Get to know about mental shortcuts that heavily influence our decision-making processes.

    Combatting Hyperbolic Discounting: Learn why we often choose immediate rewards over future benefits and how it impacts our decision-making.

    Overcoming Self-Sabotage: Delve into the reasons behind self-sabotage and how we can overcome the hurdles that keep us from reaching our full potential.

    The Drama Triangle: Understand repeated roles we play in conflict situations and how to break free from them.

    Key Takeaways:

    Autopilot Awareness: Recognising that a significant portion of our day is driven by habit is the first step to change. Biology’s Role: Understanding the importance of timing and how our neurochemistry can be leveraged is crucial for effective habit change. Heuristics and Decision Making: These mental shortcuts explain many of our choices and behaviours, helping us understand and improve them. Be Your Own Motivation: Creating instigation habits and setting realistic goals can boost motivation and habit formation. Overcoming Cognitive Traps: Recognising and acknowledging mental traps like confirmation bias helps in making better decisions. Self-Worth and Community: Self-esteem is deeply tied to belonging and confidence – building these can improve overall well-being.

    Resources:

    Read "Unstuck": Dive into Dr. Moore's comprehensive guide on breaking free from habits. A Manual for Being Human: Explore more insights from Dr. Moore in her first acclaimed book. Connect with Dr. Sophie: Website: drsoph.com Instagram: @drsoph

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    Share this episode with someone who might be battling with personal habits or looking to improve their mental well-being – this conversation could be the breakthrough they need.

    Thank you for exploring the paths to becoming unstuck and reshaping your habits with us!

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  • Heart racing? Shortness of breath? Worried thoughts? Is this anxiety? Maybe it's not. Maybe sometimes we get the label wrong. The reality is, we feel such a wide range of emotions that it's possible we do get it wrong and maybe that can be harmful. Listen in as Carly chats through a different approach, a different attitude so stop getting caught up in labels and we can get on with life.

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  • In this enlightening conversation, I was joined by Dan Chapelle, a clinical psychologist and bonafide philosopher with a deep interest in religion and meditation. Our discussion ranged widely, from the nuances of Eastern and Western philosophies to practical approaches for a more contented life. Dan shared insights from both his personal journey and his books, providing a rich tapestry of ideas centred around the necessity of unhappiness and the power of meditative self-care.

    What You'll Learn:

    The Intersection of Philosophy and Psychology:

    Discover how psychology and philosophy intertwine through the works of Freud, Jung, Nietzsche, and Eastern philosophies such as Buddhism and Daoism.

    Learn how these disciplines explore the complexities of the human mind and our quest for understanding and contentment.

    Importance of Unhappiness:

    Uncover why Dan views unhappiness as a crucial aspect of life rather than a condition to be overly medicated or avoided.

    Engage with the ideas from figures like Buddha and Job, emphasising the necessity of accepting life's inherent challenges.

    Meditative Self-Care:

    Learn about the practice of meditation as a tool for attention training, self-awareness, and the acceptance of reality.

    Discover practical insights into how meditation can help balance emotions and redirect attention from negative thought patterns.

    Attention and Intention in Everyday Life:

    Explore the concept that attention is the most critical tool we possess, shaping our experiences and responses.

    Understand how directing our attention and refining our intentions can alter our perception and experience of the world.

     

    Key Takeaways:

    Life's Challenges: Embrace the understanding that life is inherently difficult, and by accepting this, we can find deeper contentment. Meditation: Use meditation as a practical method for managing your attention and fostering acceptance. Philosophical Insights: Philosophical and psychological teachings from the East and West offer valuable perspectives on human experience and the nature of reality. Unhappiness as a Teacher: Viewing unhappiness as a part of life encourages personal growth and fosters a more profound fulfillment. Attention Control: Directing attention wisely influences emotional health and can lead to a more balanced life.

    Resources:

    Books by Dan Chappelle:

    "A Minimalist Ethic for Everyday Life"

    "Meditative Self-Care"

    Explore Dan's insights further and access more resources on MeditativeSelfCare.com.

    By embracing these philosophies and practices, you can cultivate a more profound sense of contentment and understanding in everyday life. Each step you take towards accepting life's difficulties can open the door to new perspectives and inner peace. If you're interested in diving deeper into these themes, I highly recommend checking out Dan Chapelle's works—let them guide you towards a more mindful and fulfilled existence.

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    00:27 Journey into Psychology and Philosophy

    01:28 Exploring Phenomenological Psychology

    02:21 Connections Between Eastern and Western Philosophies

    05:37 Minimalist Ethic and Everyday Life

    06:41 Ian McGilchrist and the Left Brain-Right Brain Debate

    20:33 The Necessity of Unhappiness

    23:30 Job's Story and Contentment

    28:44 Catcher in the Rye and Adolescent Struggles

    31:41 Radical Acceptance and Amor Fati

    33:35 The Role of Meditation in Accepting Reality

    34:18 Understanding Buddhist Meditation

    35:27 Nietzsche's Philosophy and Amor Fati

    39:04 Practical Approaches to Meditation

    42:06 The Importance of Attention in Mental Health

    49:36 Karma and Intention

    01:02:30 Reflections on Life and Contentment

     

     

     

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  • My old mate Professor Grant Schofield and I delve into the fascinating concept of hormesis and its impact on human health. We discuss the newly launched Hormesis Lab and explore how controlled exposure to stressors can enhance resilience and promote longevity. From the hormonal effects of light exposure to the physiological benefits of exercise, this conversation uncovers the science behind becoming robust through strategic stress.

    What You'll Learn:

    Understanding Hormesis:

    Hormesis is the process of exposing your body to mild stressors to increase its resilience against future stress.

    Light and the Body:

    Discover how different types of light, including visible and non-visible wavelengths, penetrate the body and impact health.

    Learn about the role of vitamin D in glucose homeostasis and immune function, and why it’s essential for overall well-being.

    Exercise as a Hermetic Stressor:

    Explore how exercise functions as a stressor and boosts longevity, with a focus on VO2 max and muscle strength.

    Understand the physiological mechanisms activated during exercise, like myokines and their widespread health benefits.

    Effective Training Techniques:

    Zone 2 and VO2 max training methods are explained for optimising cardiovascular health and enhancing endurance.

    Strength and resistance training guidelines are provided to improve muscle mass and overall functionality.

    Nutritional Importance:

    The importance of protein intake is highlighted, particularly in maintaining muscle mass and facilitating recovery and growth.

    Key Takeaways:

    Hormetic Stress: Leveraging mild stress can build resilience and improve health outcomes. Light Exposure: Adequate light, particularly in the infrared spectrum, can support mitochondrial health and potentially aid in neurodegenerative conditions. Exercise Strategy: A balanced exercise routine, incorporating both aerobic and strength training, is crucial for long-term health. Protein Needs: As you age, higher protein intake is necessary to compensate for the natural decline in muscle mass and synthesis. Role of Hormesis in Longevity: Understanding and applying hormesis can be a transformative approach to improving health and longevity.

    Resources:

    For more in-depth information and resources, including links to studies and equipment recommendations discussed in the podcast, be sure to check out the notes provided. Stay informed about innovative approaches to enhancing health and unlocking your potential through hormesis.

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    01:08 Understanding Hormesis

    03:13 Stoic Quotes and Hormesis

    03:58 The Importance of Stress Resistance

    06:31 Light and Its Effects on Health

    07:12 Vitamin D and Sun Exposure

    11:49 Infrared Light and Mitochondrial Health

    15:19 Melanin and Brain Health

    22:56 Exercise and Longevity

    28:27 Understanding VO2 and Training History

    29:30 The Role of Muscle Strength in Longevity

    29:56 Hormetic Mechanisms and Myokines

    33:16 Practical Training Guidelines

    33:54 Zone 2 and High-Intensity Training

    40:27 Strength Training for Longevity

    45:54 The Importance of Protein Intake

     

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  • Are your goals secretly setting you up to fail? In this Mojo Monday, Carly explores the idea of “dead person goals”—those focused on eliminating feelings or stopping behaviours entirely—and why they rarely work. Borrowing from the work of Russ Harris, she offers a powerful reframe: goals grounded in action and values that actually move you forward. If you’ve ever said, “I just want to stop doing that,” this episode will help you find a better way.

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  • If you're a bloke, or have a bloke (young or old) in your life - this is a conversation not to be missed.

    Once you've listened to it, share it far and wide, as Dr. Zac Seidler, a clinical psychologist and Director of Research at Movember, has the most comprehensive view I've ever come across on what positive masculinity and good men's mental health looks like.

    The conversation focuses on not just the psychological aspects of men's mental health, but the societal framework that shapes masculinity. The discussion traverses through topics of men's mental health awareness, therapeutic approaches, toxic and positive masculinity, and how we can foster healthier male communities.

    What You'll Learn:

    Deciphering Masculinity: We delve into how the traditional concepts of masculinity can be both harmful and beneficial and discuss the need to redefine masculinity in more positive, flexible terms.

    Therapeutic Approaches: Explore why traditional therapy might not resonate with men and how 'gender-sensitive' therapy can be a more effective approach.

    Social Connection: The vital role of social networks in men's mental health and how a lack of these connections can lead to severe psychological issues, including suicide.

    Preventative Measures: Understand the importance of getting ahead of mental health issues through early interventions and community-based programs.

    Breaking Down Stigmas: Discuss the societal changes needed to address mental health proactively instead of reactively, and the importance of redefining spaces for men to safely express themselves.

    Key Takeaways:

    Masculinity Redefined: Emphasising the value of attributes like stoicism, altruism, and service when appropriately contextualised. Supportive Networks: Highlighting the significance of building and maintaining strong social connections throughout life. Therapy Reimagined: Utilising flexible therapeutic practices that consider men's socialisation and comfort levels. Community and Connection: Promoting the idea that safe, non-judgmental spaces are crucial for men's mental health. Early Intervention: The critical role of incorporating mental health teachings and practices from a young age to build resilience.

    Resources:

    Engage with Movember's initiatives focusing on men's mental health. Explore gender-sensitive therapy training programs like "Men in Mind" to better understand how to engage men in therapeutic settings. Connect with organisations like "The Man Cave" and "Top Blokes" that offer programs to support young men.

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    Listening to this podcast could inspire not just awareness but also actionable steps towards building better support systems for the men in our lives. This conversation sheds light on the core issues impacting men's mental health and explores innovative solutions designed to uplift and support men in maintaining mental health wellness.

    To continue this important dialogue on men's mental health, visit Movember's website and explore their extensive resources aimed at creating change and advocating for better health. If this episode resonated with you or you believe it could help someone else, please share this talk to broaden the conversation about men's health and masculinity in today's society.

     

    00:17 What is Movember?

    00:58 The Origins of Movember

    02:29 Movember's Global Impact

    04:08 Personal Journey into Men's Health

    06:50 Challenges in Men's Mental Health

    09:10 Addressing Toxic Masculinity

    16:38 Rites of Passage and Positive Masculinity

    21:03 Gender-Sensitive Therapy

    29:05 The Social Vacuum Post-Divorce

    29:30 The Lifesaving Importance of Social Connections

    32:05 Veteran Suicide and the Loss of Purpose

    33:57 The Role of Therapy in Men's Mental Health

    35:43 Innovative Approaches to Therapy

    38:37 The Crisis of Male Suicide and Prevention Strategies

    51:47 The Importance of Addressing Adverse Childhood Experiences

     

     

     

     

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  • Ever found your mood shift instantly because of something small—like someone cutting you off in traffic, your partner’s mess, or the physical discomfort of anxiety?

    In this episode, Carly explores a powerful concept from Japanese Psychology called shiso-no-mujun—the internal tension between how things are and how we wish they were.

    Using a very real (and very relatable) moment from her morning, she talks about how recognising this tension can help us respond to life’s little irritations with more clarity and less reactivity.

    This one’s for anyone who’s had their mood hijacked by the everyday—and wants take control of how they respond to those everyday challenges.

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  • Master Shi Heng Yi has become no short of a sensation since I interviewed him back in 2021.  This interview has had the highest listens on the podcast to date. If you missed it, it's a cracker! Here's the blurb:

    It’s not every day you get to interview a 35th generation Shaolin Master, and certainly not one with 2 University degrees, including an MBA!

    Master Shi Heng Yi has been studying Martial Arts since he was 4 years old and has been running the Shaolin Temple in Europe since 2010. 

    He is a contemporary monk who carries a smartphone and is focused on the sustainable development and spreading of the Shaolin culture and philosophy and today's podcast has plenty of insights and guiding principles for us all, so please share this podcast with anyone who you think may benefit.

    You can find out more about Master Shi Heng Yi and Shaolin Philosophy in his Ted-X talk on the 5 hindrances to self-mastery   

    Here is a link to the Shaolin Temple Europe, where Master Shi Heng Yi resides.

    Here is what we discuss and when:

    Start:   The Shaolin Monk lineage system 3:50 - The process of becoming a Shaolin Monk 7:52 -  The concepts of Chi and Qigong 14:35 - The importance of Qigong in physical development, focus and prowess 18:22 - The mental states that hold us back 26:02 - Master Shi Heng Yi's advice for achieving self-mastery 30:34 - The art of cultivating discipline 36:00 - The important combination of combined physical and mental training in Shaolin philosophy 42:20  - Philosophising vs doing 49:10 - Master Shi Heng Yi's view on happiness

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