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It happened again! Ari got friend-zoned, and he's bringing his dating dilemma to the Nice Guy Show for a raw, real, and incredibly helpful discussion for all men. In this episode, we dive deep into the painful experience of being friend-zoned and, more importantly, how to avoid it and ignite genuine attraction.
What you'll learn in this episode:
💔 The Friend Zone Revealed: Understand why the friend zone happens, and why it's a common experience for many men.
📝 Post-Date Assessment: Faisal shares his exclusive post-date checklist to analyze what went wrong and how to improve for next time.
🚫 The "Average Man Response" Trap: Discover how common dating behaviors can unintentionally land you in the friend zone. Learn how to avoid predictable responses and create genuine intrigue.
🔥 The Power of Masculine Restraint: Learn why holding back sexually and creating tension can be incredibly attractive to women.
🗣️ The Importance of "Telling" (Masculine Language): Understand how decisive communication and leadership on a date can evoke erotic emotions subconsciously in a woman.
💪 Why Experience Matters: Faisal emphasizes the crucial role of consistent interaction and dating experience to build confidence and reduce sensitivity to rejection.
🔄 Breaking the "One-itis" Cycle: Chuck explains how fixating on one woman can lead to disappointment and why having multiple dating prospects is a healthier approach.
🚑 Resuscitating the Friend Zone: Explore strategies for turning a friend-zone situation around, including specific text message approaches.🤔 Is Asking for Feedback a Good Idea?: We discuss the pros and cons of asking women for feedback after a rejection.
This episode is packed with actionable advice for men seeking to improve their dating skills, build attraction, and avoid the dreaded friend zone. Whether you're single or married, the principles of creating tension, showing leadership, and continually working on your "dating muscles" are essential for a fulfilling romantic life.
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📺 Check out our episode on "When Women Flake" for a companion to this topic.Connect with us:
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https://chuckchapman.com/
https://instagram.com/chuckchapman.ma/Connect with Dr. Ari Graff:
https://drarigraff.com/
https://draribgraff.com/register [divorce recovery program]
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In this episode of The Nice Guy Show, hosts Chuck Chapman, Faisal Khokhar, and Ari Graff dive deep into what it means to be a confident husband and how to achieve an integrated marriage. Chuck Chapman, the focus of this episode, shares insights into his "Confident Husband Solution" program, designed to help men navigate the complexities of marriage and overcome the Nice Guy Syndrome.
Chuck discusses the evolution of his program, explaining how he identified a need to specifically support married men struggling with their relationships, often due to their "nice guy" tendencies. He introduces his unique concept of the "stages of marriage" and how understanding these stages can help prevent common pitfalls, including divorce.
Learn about:
🔷 The Stages of Marriage: Chuck outlines five critical stages of a marriage: the romantic stage (years 0-2), the differentiation stage (years 3-7), the partnership stage (years 7-20), the reinvention stage (years 20-30), and the legacy stage (year 30 onwards). Understanding these stages can help couples navigate challenges and grow together.
🔷 The Purpose of Marriage: Chuck emphasizes that the singular purpose of marriage, much like a business's purpose to make money, is to create connection.
🔷 Prioritizing the Marital Relationship: Discover why making the husband-wife relationship the priority, even over parenting, is crucial for the overall well-being of the family and how a lack of connection can lead to marital issues.
🔷 The PPPs of a Confident Husband: Chuck introduces the three core components of his training: Polarity, Presence, and Purpose. These elements are vital for building and sustaining a strong, connected marriage.
🔷 The Role of Leadership: Chuck stresses the importance of men leading in their marriages, initiating connection, and fostering trust with their wives.
🔷 Group Coaching vs. Individual Therapy: Understand why Chuck believes group coaching is particularly effective for men dealing with marital challenges, offering a supportive community and a space for growth and accountability.
🔷 Addressing the "Dead Bedroom": Chuck addresses the common issue of a "dead bedroom" and explains how restoring emotional connection and trust is key to reigniting sexual intimacy in a marriage.Join Chuck, Faisal, and Ari as they uncover the secrets to a confident and fulfilling marriage.
Subscribe to the Nice Guy Show newsletter to get tips and insights on how to lead a high-value life
https://niceguyshow.com/Connect with Faisal Khokhar:
https://masculine.co/
https://instagram.com/coachfaisalk
https://youtube.com/@coachfaisalkConnect with Chuck Chapman:
https://chuckchapman.com/
https://instagram.com/chuckchapman.ma/Connect with Dr. Ari Graff:
https://drarigraff.com/
https://draribgraff.com/register [divorce recovery program]
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Summary
In this episode of the Nice Guy Show, hosts Chuck Chapman, Faisal Coker, and Ari Graf reflect on their recent experiences at a men's conference in Cancun, Mexico. They discuss the importance of in-person connections, the courage displayed by participants, and the nuances of leadership. The conversation highlights the journey of personal growth, the significance of experiential learning, and the transformations that occur when men engage authentically with one another. They also touch on the importance of presentation and connection in relationships, and the value of being immersed in a supportive environment for growth. -
We celebrate our 100th Episode!
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Is love toxic? For Nice Guys, understanding love can be a struggle.
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You’ve done the work—you’ve read the books, gone to therapy, embraced your own growth, and finally stepped out of that old Nice Guy pattern. You’re more confident, more assertive, and you’ve started living with purpose and integrity. But here’s the thing: even though you’ve changed, she hasn’t. The relationship still feels like it’s stuck in the same cycle, the same dead end.
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There is one major red flag many of us ignore at the initial stages because it's the norm. Everyone does it, but those who do it all the time and do it with intensity are dangerous and you MUST in all circusmtances not take them. Never! Because if you do, they will eventually make your life a living hell and even ruin your professional world.
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If you've been around the Manosphere, there's no doubt you've heard of the term pickup artist. These are gurus who will tell you how to pick up women like you're picking up samples at Costco. But there's a few problems with this. And today I want to talk about the pickup artist industry and why nice guys tend to follow their advice and maybe a little bit of like, what's wrong with this?
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Never ever, ever start a sentence with this word. It’s all too commonly used by nice guys and it makes you look weak, you lose respect and it’s very uncharismatic.
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We are given so many conflicting ideas about how to do sex or have sex. You’ve got to be dominant and lead. You’ve got to make sure you talk about and get consent for everything you do. You gotta make sure you please your partner. You gotta focus on pleasing yourself. You’ve gotta schedule sex. You’ve gotta be spontaneous. You should tap into your fantasies. You shouldn’t be so lost in fantasy. You should be focused solely on your partner and not think about other people. You should have sex a lot if you’re healthy. You shouldn’t be so focused on having sex all the time. You should only have sex in the context of a loving monogamous relationship. You should be free to have more than one partner. It goes on and on. How can we ever feel like we’re doing sex right?
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In this episode of the Nice Guys Show, host Ari Graff opens up about his personal struggles as a life coach. He emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and seeking support, highlighting that even coaches face difficulties and uncertainties. The conversation delves into the emotional toll of change, the burden of expectations, and the need for connection and understanding among men.
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In this episode of the Nice Guys Show, host Faisal Khokhar opens up about his personal struggles as a life coach, particularly focusing on the challenges of parenting and navigating a business transition. He emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and seeking support, highlighting that even coaches face difficulties and uncertainties. The conversation delves into the emotional toll of change, the burden of expectations, and the need for connection and understanding among men.
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In this episode of the Nice Guys Show, host Chuck Chapman opens up about his personal struggles as a life coach, particularly focusing on the challenges of parenting and navigating a business transition. He emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and seeking support, highlighting that even coaches face difficulties and uncertainties. The conversation delves into the emotional toll of change, the burden of expectations, and the need for connection and understanding among men.
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Nice Guys aren’t being nice—they're being manipulative, using approval-seeking and people-pleasing as a way to control how women see them, all because they’re too afraid to be rejected for who they really are.
When it comes to women and men, I’ve come to the realization that it’s insecurity that drives us to seek approval from women. It’s subtle, often invisible, but it’s there—this craving for validation, for someone to tell us we’re enough. But here’s the thing: no matter how much approval we chase, it’s never going to fill the gap. It’s a hollow pursuit.
Real maturity, real grounding, happens when we let go of that need, when we realize that our worth isn’t something that can be handed to us by someone else. It’s already inside, waiting to be claimed.
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Got a guy with a situation involving his mother and wife.
He’s newly married, and they all live together—him, his wife, and his mother.
It all started well. Everyone got along, and they were one happy family.
But after a few months, fractures start to appear.
The mother starts interfering, picking faults with his wife, and that’s when the tension starts building.
Now, this guy’s caught in the middle.
He’s trying to please his mum and his wife, but no matter what he does, things just keep getting worse.
Now they can’t stand each other anymore and they’ve both turned on him to man up.
Both of them are using guilt and shame to manipulate him.
His mum says, ‘Your wife’s taking you for a ride,’ while his wife says, ‘You never stand up to your mum.’ So no matter what, he can’t win.
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What is the first thing you do when you wake up? Do you hit the snooze bar? Do you hate the world, hate your life, hate your job? Do you feel like the day is another day to get through? Do you scroll through instagram? Do you rush to get ready? Do you struggle with what to prioritize that day? Well good news, today we are going to explain what you must have in your morning routine to change your life.
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If you’ve been into relationship development, you would have heard about Masculine & Feminine Energies and how important they are to relationships.
Men are grounded, stable, like a lighthouse. The feminine is ever-changing emotions and she is the storm.
Men need to weather the storm.
Really?
Now, I don’t know about you, but this statement or something like this keeps men in harmful relationships
In this episode, let’s look
The Dark Side Of Masculine & Feminine Energy That Enables Toxic Relationship Patterns
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Have you ever wanted to get your partner to be nicer? To help out more around the house? To get in shape and lose weight? To like sex or even like sex with you? To like your parents? To earn some money? How much can you get your partner to change?
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If you want to create polarity, attraction, and connection in a relationship, it’s up to you to lead. I know, it’s not fair!
A lot of the men I work with ask, "What about her? When is it her turn to lead?" And women often say, "I want to lead too."
Why is this?
Nice Guys tend to avoid leading in their relationships because they fear rejection or upsetting their partners. So they hand over the reins.
But here’s the thing. When a man won’t lead, the woman feels she can’t trust him. She starts to resent him. At first, she might appreciate his attentiveness, but soon enough, she sees him as having no backbone, making no decisions, always leaving the pressure to her.
It’s not about control. It’s about presence. Strength. The courage to lead with love. And when you do, you’ll find that the connection, the attraction, the polarity you crave, it all falls into place. - Laat meer zien
