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"Why do good women want to leave good men?"
If you're married to someone who's loyal, faithful, and not abusiveâbut you sometimes find yourself thinking "maybe we're just not compatible" or "maybe it would be easier without him"âthis question might hit closer to home than you'd like to admit.
You're not alone in these thoughts. There's a growing trend of women in their late 30s and early 40s walking away from perfectly good marriages, and the reasons aren't what you'd expect. Not infidelity. Not abuse. Not addiction. Something else entirely. But what if these feelings aren't actually about him at all? In this video, I'm diving into the psychology behind this phenomenonâwhy capable, loving women start questioning solid relationships, and what's really driving these thoughts.
Because there's something happening that no one's talking about, and it's affecting more marriages than we realize. But there is good news! Once you understand what's really going on, everything can change. This isn't a problem without a solutionâit's a pattern that can be broken.
If you've ever felt this way about a good man, or if you're curious about what's behind this trend, this episode will give you answers you didn't know you were looking for.
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âI think my husbandâs a narcissistâŠâ
If youâve whispered those words to yourself â in the dark, after another disconnected conversation, or mid-scroll through TikTok â this video is for you.
We live in a culture quick to diagnose, quick to label, and even quicker to tell women to walk away. But what if the truth is more complex⊠and more hopeful?
In this episode, I gently unravel the difference between a truly narcissistic partner â and one who is imperfect, avoidant, or simply different from you. I share the hard-earned truths I learned in my own marriage, and the lessons that thousands of women around the world are now living by. This is not about blame. Itâs about clarity. Itâs about reclaiming intimacy, polarity, and respect â with the partner you already have.
đĄ Inside this episode, youâll discover:
âą What real narcissism is â and why most husbands donât have it
âą The subtle ways culture trains us to resent and reject our men
âą How emotional superiority can mask our own blind spots
âą The quiet power of feminine softness, desire, and accountability If you're longing for chemistry, attraction, and real partnership â without needing to fix or diagnose your husband â youâre in the right place.
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â ïž DISCLAIMER:
This message is not for women in abusive or dangerous relationships. If your partner is manipulative, emotionally unsafe, or displays signs of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), please seek professional support. You deserve peace and safety, not pressure to stay. -
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"The mental load is crushing me."
If you've ever felt this wayâtracking every appointment, remembering every snack preference, carrying the invisible weight of running your householdâyou're not the only one! The internet is full of women sharing their exhaustion, their resentment, and their anger about shouldering this "unfair burden."
But what if everything you've been told about the mental load is making your marriage worse, not better?
In this video, I'm challenging the popular narrative that's turning normal adult responsibilities into a crisis. While TikTok coaches teach you to catalog every invisible task and demand your husband "open his eyes," I'll show you why this victim mindset is destroying the very thing you're trying to protect: your partnership.
Discover why responsibility is actually a mental health protector (not a destroyer), how the "mental load crisis" dismisses the massive burdens men carry, and why reframing your perspective could transform your marriage from resentful roommates back into a loving team.
The truth is, being needed isn't a burdenâit's a privilege. And when you stop fighting against your strengths and start embracing them as gifts, everything changes.
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What happens when parenting becomes a battlefield for something much bigger?
Youâve probably felt it. Heard it. Maybe even argued about it.
In this episode I explore whatâs really going on beneath the surface â and why it matters more than ever.đ You might be surprised where the conversation leads.
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"I Don't Like Playing With My KidsâAnd That Makes Me a Better Parent"
Finally, someone's saying what you've been thinking.
You love your children fiercely, but toy cars and dollhouses just aren't your thing. Before you spiral into parent guilt... this might actually be your secret weapon for deeper connection.
The parenting world has convinced us that meaningful bonding requires endless hours of pretend play, but what if that advice is actually keeping you from the authentic relationship you're craving?
What if your resistance to forced fun is your intuition telling you there's a better way?
Here's what no one talks about: children can sense when we're going through the motions. When you're sitting on the floor feeling drained and resentful, pretending to enjoy something that bores you to tears, your child feels that energy. They know you're not really presentâyou're performing. But when you stop forcing behaviors that drain you and start connecting authentically, something magical happens. Your child gets the real you. The engaged you. The parent who shows up with genuine energy instead of forced enthusiasm.
In this episode, I reveal 10 research-backed ways to build deeper bonds than forced play ever could. From the bonding behaviors that naturally release oxytocin, to the everyday moments that create unshakable security, these methods honor who you are while giving your child what they truly need.
The parents who've embraced this approach report something surprising: their children seem not just more connected, but actually more independent and secure. Because when connection is authentic, children stop seeking constant validation and start thriving in their own play.
Your child doesn't need another playmateâthey need you at your best. And that happens when you connect from your strengths, not your weaknesses.
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Do you ever worry that your nurturing instincts might be holding your children back from true independence?
Today I'm diving into the strange world of "son-bands" - when a mother attaches to her son in a way that's more appropriate for a partner.
In this episode, I explore how modern parenting culture has blurred the boundaries between healthy attachment and unhealthy dependence.
You'll discover:
- The shocking social media trend normalizing mother-son enmeshment
- Why the "devouring mother" phenomenon prevents children from launching
- How gentle parenting can accidentally create codependence when boundaries disappear
- Six practical strategies to foster healthy attachment without sacrificing independence -
The surprising reason your partner should come before your child in your emotional hierarchy This isn't about making you feel guiltyâit's about recognizing the subtle patterns that might be keeping both you and your children from thriving. However, with small adjustments to your approach, you can maintain deep connection while empowering your children to become truly independent. Ready to implement these strategies in your family?
Join us in The Studio (https://hifam.com/studio) for ongoing support and implementation (and so much more!).
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Ever feel like you're not measuring up as a parent? Like everyone else has it figured out while you're just trying to make it through the day?
In this episode, I reveal the 7 different parenting superpowers that make families thrive - and help you identify which one is YOUR zone of genius!
The truth is, none of us excel at everything in parenting (or in life). We each have unique strengths that are shaping our children in powerful ways - strengths that might come so naturally to you that you don't even recognize them as special.
Stop comparing yourself to other parents and start recognizing your own gifts. Because incredible families aren't built by perfect parentsâthey're built by parents who leverage their natural strengths and build meaningful family cultures one habit at a time.
Listen to discover your parenting superpower, learn to be confident in it, and see how you can use it to create the family life you dream of!
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Ever wonder what would happen if your family just unplugged completely? No phones, tablets, TV, or devices - even for just a few hours?
While this might sound challenging in today's digital world, my family takes a complete technology break for 25 hours every weekend. What started as a religious practice has become the cornerstone of our family connection, creating space for what truly matters.
In this glimpse into our screen-free time, I share:
- What actually fills those hours when Netflix isn't an option
- How kids naturally return to imaginative play without prompting
- The simple activities that create deeper family bonds
- Why meaningful conversations happen more easily without digital distractions
This isn't about suggesting everyone needs a full day unplugged or imposing strict rules. It's about sharing practical ideas you might adapt for your own family - even if it's just a screen-free dinner or Sunday morning.
The surprising truth is that when screens go away, something beautiful happens. Children play differently. Parents connect more deeply. And time somehow feels both slower and more valuable. Whether you're looking to implement a brief weekly tech break or simply curious about building stronger family bonds, these practical insights might inspire your own version of sacred family time.
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Everyoneâs talking about Adolescence on Netflix â toxic masculinity, Andrew Tate, and the crisis in teen boys. But what if weâre all looking in the wrong direction?
In this episode, I react to Adolescence and the public conversation around it â and I share a different perspective on whatâs really going on with boys today.
Youâll hear:
- Why I believe the current narrative is missing the mark
- What Adolescence got right â and what it left out
- The uncomfortable truth we donât want to face as parents
- And the one question we should be asking, but arenât
If youâre a parent, educator, or just someone worried about where things are heading â this oneâs for you.
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Our culture teaches kids to be fragile.
I'm here to show you how to do the opposite.If you want strong, confident, emotionally stable kids who don't crumble at every slight, you need to raise them differently â and it starts with you.
In this episode, I break down:
⥠How to move past endless pity parties and teach real accountability.
⥠Why endless empathy backfires â and what your child actually needs.
⥠The 2 questions every child must ask when insulted (game changer).
⥠How to teach your kids to laugh, let go, and stay cool under fire.Fragile kids grow into fragile adults. Let's not let that happen.
Letâs raise humans who are unshakable, unvictimized, and unstoppable.đ„ Want to go deeper? Doors to the Studio are open until May 1st, you still have time to join and raise strong, capable, resilient kids together! https://hifam.com/studio
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"I just feel like my kids don't take me seriously anymore."
If you've found yourself whispering this to a friend, you're not alone. The gap between gentle parenting ideals and your daily reality might be wider than you think.
In this episode, I'm breaking the silence on what happens when well-intentioned approaches slide into permissiveness - and why your children might be the ones paying the price.
Discover the five hidden traps catching even the most conscious parents, undermining your authority without you realizing it. These subtle shifts aren't just frustrating for you; they're creating patterns that could follow your children into adulthood.
But! The path back to confident leadership doesn't mean abandoning warmth or connection. Parents who've implemented these changes report something surprising: their children seem not just better behaved, but actually happier and more secure. -
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Is your child shocked when they don't get exactly what they want?
The entitlement epidemic is spreading, and it's not about what you can affordâit's about the mindset you're cultivating.
I'll share 8 practical strategies to raise grateful children in a world designed to make them want more, including:
- The unexpected reason saying "no" actually helps your child
- Why too many choices overwhelms their developing brain
- The dangerous "hedonic treadmill" that's breaking their happiness meterWhether your child melts down over the wrong flavor ice cream or expects instant gratification for every desire, this video provides the confidence to parent against the cultural current. The good news is that you can raise a child who appreciates what they have without depriving them of life's joys.
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"Who are you to judge?" - the phrase paralyzing parents everywhere. I used to tiptoe around my own values, terrified of being labeled "judgmental."
But here's the uncomfortable truth: if YOU don't guide your child's moral compass, TikTok and their peers will. This isn't about control. It's about inheritance.
In this episode, I expose the dangerous myth of "neutral parenting" and give you 5 powerful ways to confidently guide your children without becoming the dictator you fear.
Your child doesn't need a chauffeur who stays silent on life's biggest questions. They need a coach who's cracked the code on building a meaningful life.
The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion by Jonathan Haidt - https://amzn.to/4cELyYc -
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Is teenage rebellion really inevitable?
What if everything we've been told about modern parenting is actually CAUSING the problem?
Controversial truth: children aren't rebelling against boundariesâthey're rebelling against the LACK of them.
As a mother of five, I've discovered why today's "hands-off" parenting approach is backfiring spectacularly. Yet⊠What's the alternative?
Why do some teenagers naturally resist peer pressure while others fall for every trend? In this video I share a powerful 3-step approach that transforms how your children view your guidance.
The secret isn't controlling your kidsâit's building something they genuinely want to be part of. Curious how to become the trusted guide your family needs? Listen now to discover what modern parenting experts won't tell you. -
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Is it even possible to avoid materialism in today's world? Or are we trapped in a cycle that's turning our children into entitled consumers?
"Why can't I have it? You never buy me anything!" "This is boring already." "Is that all I'm getting?"
Sound familiar?
These phrases haunt parents everywhere, leaving us wondering: Where did we go wrong? Why does nothing ever seem enough?
I analyzed dozens of viral "what I got my child" TikTok hauls and saw why even loving, well-intentioned parents are creating a generation that struggles with gratitude. "Maybe if I get them this ONE more thing, they'll finally be happy..."
"Am I a bad parent if I don't buy what their friends have?"
"Why does Christmas joy fade so quickly now?"
These thoughts aren't your failure - they're symptoms of a larger problem affecting families across all income levels. Whether you're drowning in toy clutter, exhausted by constant "I wants," or just trying to raise kids with healthy values in a materialistic world, this episode offers practical wisdom without judgment. -
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Ever notice how some of today's most popular parenting advice leaves you feeling more uncertain and your kids more entitled?
What if there's a more effective way to raise resilient children who actually listen?
As a mom of five, I've been thereâtrying all the "right" techniques but still struggling.
This episode is for every parent who's tired of walking on eggshells in their own home. This will challenge everything you thought you knew about modern parenting.
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"I don't restrict screen time so my kids aren't obsessed with it."
"I don't like limiting my kids from anything."
"It helps them self-regulate."
These popular claims are spreading rapidly across social media. But does removing limits actually create more balanced children, or is it simply a convenient way to avoid difficult boundaries?
In this episode, I examine the flawed logic behind the "no limits" approach and what screen use actually does to developing brains. I explore:
- Why the "forbidden fruit" theory about restrictions doesn't hold up to scrutiny
- The false equivalence between screen time and food restrictions
- The uncomfortable truth about why many parents avoid setting boundaries
- What research actually tells us about screen time's impact on development
- The alternative solution most parents aren't aware of (that doesn't involve screens OR constant parent attention)
Beyond trends and convenient solutions lies the truth about what children truly need to thrive. I offer practical alternatives that benefit both overwhelmed parents AND developing children - no guilt, just better options.
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Many parents are walking away from gentle parentingâand for good reason. Our children lose the boundaries they need to thrive when it morphs into permissiveness.
But in our rush to correct course, we risk losing what made this approach valuable in the first place.
In this episode, I share 10 treasures from gentle parenting that transformed my relationship with my five childrenâprinciples worth preserving even as we move toward a more balanced approach. These elements create children who feel both loved and capable of meeting life's challenges.
This isn't about parenting dogma. It's about discernmentâtaking what works and leaving what doesn't. Join me for this honest conversation about creating a family culture that prepares children for a meaningful life.
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In a world of hookup culture, casual sex, and dating apps, what relationship advice will actually serve our children well?
While many parents avoid these uncomfortable conversations altogether, I believe our children deserve real guidance about dating, relationships, and marriage. They need more than just 'follow your heart' or 'do whatever feels right.'
In this honest discussion, I share the dating advice I'll give my own children as they enter their teen years. Drawing from both traditional values and practical wisdom, I cover:
- The fundamental purpose of dating (and why 'just for fun' might be setting them up for heartbreak)
- The surprising benefits of marrying younger rather than waiting for perfect 'readiness' - Why involving family and friends in relationship decisions is actually wise, not old-fashioned
- The hidden costs of casual relationships that most dating advice ignores
- How to maintain personal independence while building a strong partnership
This isn't about imposing restrictive rules or outdated thinking. It's about equipping our children with the tools to build meaningful, lasting relationships in a culture that often treats commitment as optional and marriage as outdated.
Whether you agree with my approach or have a completely different perspective, this conversation matters. Our children need more guidance, not less, when navigating today's confusing relationship landscape.
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Books mentioned:
The Case Against the Sexual Revolution by Louise Perry (https://amzn.to/4izEAWH)
A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century: The Young Adult Adaptation of 'The Case Against the Sexual Revolution' by Louise Perry (https://amzn.to/4kS7rHd) -
Are you stuck in the 'I'm not ready yet' cycle? Watching your child hesitate before every new challenge? Waiting for that perfect feeling of readiness that never quite arrives?
This persistent trap keeps parents delaying important transitions and Gen Z postponing adulthood altogether. With 52% of young adults still living with parents into their 20s and 30s, something has clearly shifted in how we approach life's milestones.
In this episode, I share:
- The surprising truth about readiness (and why it's often just an excuse)
- How some parenting approaches could have created a generation afraid to act without perfect preparation
- The critical difference between real developmental barriers and self-imposed limitations
- Practical steps to break free from the perfectionism that keeps us and our children small
From potty training a 5-week-old to challenging conventional wisdom about when children are 'ready' to read, sleep independently, or take on responsibility - discover how taking bold action creates the growth that waiting never will.
If you're ready to stop waiting for ready and create the family culture you've always wanted, join me in the Studio at https://hifam.com/studio. And discover how play naturally encourages children to challenge themselves and grow with my Reclaim Play course at https://reclaimplay.com.
Stop waiting for the perfect moment - true progress happens in the doing, not in the preparing. - Laat meer zien
