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In this fiercely tender episode, Quinn explores sisu—a powerful Finnish word that describes the inner grit that rises when there’s nothing left to give but you keep showing up anyway. Drawing from their own ancestral roots, Quinn reclaims the kind of strength that isn’t about pushing harder, but about remembering who you are when the world goes quiet.
This is not about hustle. This is about sacred perseverance.
This is not girlboss strength. This is sisu.Through stories, reflection, and a closing guided meditation, Quinn offers practical and soulful ways to reconnect with your own unshakable strength after divorce—especially when you're tired of being the strong one.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
Why “I’m tired of being strong” is not a weakness—it’s a thresholdThe history and soul of sisu, a Finnish concept of embodied resilienceHow to make meaning from pain (Viktor Frankl-style)The power of ancestry and generational strengthMain character energy vs. passive survivalA somatic practice to locate your sisu in your bodyHow rest can be revolutionary—and part of your strengthA beautiful grounding meditation to closeQuotable Moments:
“Sisu is the decision to keep showing the fuck up—even when no one’s clapping.”
“You don’t have to earn rest. You are already enough.”
“Sisu begins where perseverance ends.”
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In this raw, reflective, and empowering episode, Quinn opens up about the emotional terrain of fear—how it creeps in post-divorce, shows up in our relationships, careers, and even in the state of the world. They share deeply personal moments of walking into the unknown: moving during COVID, raising six kids alone, and heading back to school to become a nurse.
With wisdom from Pema Chödrön, Stoic philosophers, and Gavin de Becker’s The Gift of Fear, Quinn unpacks the crucial difference between fear that saves your life and fear that steals it. You'll learn how to identify healthy vs. unhealthy fear, work with your body’s intuition, and use simple yet powerful tools like the Stoic Pause and the "So What?" drill to regain clarity and take action—even when you're afraid.
You’ll hear about:
Quinn’s journey to school, single parenting, and starting overThe two kinds of fear women are facing in 2025Fear as a signal vs. fear as a storyWhy the mind prefers the familiar—and how that sabotages your growthWhat healthy fear feels like in the bodyTools to sit with fear, question it, and move forward anywayWhy women often mistake fear for wisdomAnd the mantra that could change everything:“Fear is just information. It’s not instruction.”Quotables:
"Courage isn’t about being fearless. It’s about acting with discernment—despite the fear."“You don’t need to kill the fear. You just need to stop letting it drive.”“Is this a sacred warning—or just a dusty-ass lie?”Resources Mentioned:
The Gift of Fear by Gavin de BeckerPema Chödrön’s quote: “Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth.”Stoic philosophy on perception and responsePostDivorceGlowUp.com
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🔥 Episode Description: Welcome to the post-divorce pleasure revolution.
In this unfiltered, wide-ranging, absolutely juicy episode, Quinn and Britta Jo reunite for one of their signature off-the-cuff intimacy chats. This time? We’re talking orgasms, pleasure, post-divorce sex, religious shame, dating disasters, and reclaiming our deliciously complex female bodies.
We cover everything from “tuna can” lovers to the orgasm gap, from purity culture to sex in midlife, and we do it with our signature combo of sass, smarts, and soul.
If you’ve ever felt broken, frustrated, ashamed, or just straight-up bored in the bedroom—this one’s for you. Whether you’re single, dating, partnered, or figuring it all out, we promise this episode will make you laugh, cry, cringe, nod furiously, and maybe—just maybe—light a fire inside you that says, I deserve more.
Topics We Hit:
The Orgasm Gap and why it’s still a thing in 2025 😤What happens when you grow up thinking female pleasure is a sin 😬How religious programming messes with our bodies and brainsSexless marriages, silent suffering, and the power of finally saying “enough”First orgasms, worst partners, and what happens when you fake it for a decadeThe Tragedy of Heterosexuality (and why Jane Ward is our new bestie)Why your body isn’t broken—you just might need a different lover (or toy 😉)Dying for Sex: the Hulu show that will change the way you think about your lifeHow to rewire your relationship with your body through pleasureAnd why centering your orgasm might just be the most radical thing you ever do🔥 Listener Love Note: If you’re a woman wondering if it’s too late for epic sex, deep pleasure, or wild joy—this episode is your proof: It’s not too late. It’s just the beginning.
✨ Featured Resources:
Dying for Sex (FX/Hulu series)The Tragedy of Heterosexuality by Jane WardVitamin O by Barbara KeeslingThe Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton & Janet HardyQuinn’s episode: Get Yourself Off, Get Your Life Back💌 Want to Join the Community? Britta Jo’s Stay or Go Community is a sacred space for women navigating divorce, desire, and rediscovering themselves. It’s part group coaching, part sisterhood, part safe haven for these juicy, real conversations.
To apply, text “stay or go community” to 33377 for an interview with Alex (who, side note, is Quinn’s badass oldest daughter 💁♀️).
🧡 Coaching with Quinn: Quinn is still taking 1:1 coaching clients for a limited time before diving deeper into nursing school. If you’re post-divorce and ready to glow all the way up, now’s the time.
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In this juicy, heartfelt episode, we’re talking about the orgasm—yes, your orgasm. Whether you’re self-partnered or dancing with a new lover, this episode is your reminder that pleasure is not a luxury—it’s your birthright.
We’ll explore:
Why orgasm is one of the most effective ways to calm your nervous systemThe difference between how men and women respond to porn and masturbationWhat science says about the health benefits of regular climactic releaseHow sexual shame, bad sex ed, and religious messaging have kept women in the darkThe truth about your body’s ability to bloom, with or without a partnerTools, resources, and rituals to reconnect with your pleasure—todayWe’re talking Dr. Emily Nagoski, Audre Lorde, Dr. Natasha Janina Valdez, personal stories, client breakthroughs, and some real talk about being fingered by a Mormon boy.
👑 Mentioned in this episode:
OMGYes.com – Science-based pleasure techniquesCome As You Are by Emily Nagoski – A must-read for anyone with a vulvaVitamin O by Dr. Natasha Janina Valdez – Bold, smart, orgasm-positiveDipsea App – Erotic audio stories for womenBreathwork, mirror work, sensual movement, playlists, and moreQuote of the Episode:
“When I dare to be powerful—to use my strength in the service of my vision—it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.”
– Audre Lorde💌 Got questions or want my fave toys list?
Email me at [email protected]Because there’s no glow-up quite like a woman lit from within by her own pleasure.
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In this powerful episode, I talk about rewriting your self-concept after divorce—not by looking back, but by imagining forward. Drawing on the work of Benjamin Hardy (Personality Isn’t Permanent), Maxwell Maltz (Psycho-Cybernetics), Dr. Joe Dispenza, and Gay Hendricks (The Big Leap), I break down how identity isn’t fixed, how to start thinking and acting like your future self, and why joy can feel so damn scary when you’ve been stuck in survival mode.I also share my personal story of going from believing I wasn’t “cut out” for school to scoring in the 99th percentile on my nursing entrance exam, and how this transformation had everything to do with my self-image—not my circumstances.
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The trap of personality testsA tool called the “creation walk”A client story about upper limits after loveHow I completely changed my parenting story post-divorceHow to start living as your future self todayAction steps inside this episode:
Write a letter from your future selfUse 3 daily reminders to ask: “Am I being her?”Practice nervous system regulation when joy shows upTry a “creation walk” to rewire your self-imagePostDivorceGlowUp.com
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Motherhood is complicated, and it gets even more complex after divorce. In this deeply honest episode, I dive into something that many moms feel but rarely talk about—grieving the life we didn’t get to live because we had children. Whether you had kids due to religious pressure, cultural expectations, or a desire that later felt different in reality, this conversation is for you.
We talk about the messy, conflicting emotions of loving our kids and grieving our lost autonomy. We also explore the guilt, resentment, and cultural expectations that tell moms they must always be grateful—while completely ignoring the exhaustion, loneliness, and sacrifices that come with the role.
If you've ever thought, "Would I have done this differently if I had known?" or "I love my kids, but this is really hard," you are not alone. This is a safe space for the truth.
What’s Inside This Episode:
💬 The pressure to have kids—religion, family, society, and internalized beliefs
💬 The reality of single motherhood post-divorce: exhaustion, resentment, and survival
💬 How to process feelings of regret, loss, and grief without shame
💬 The myth of the "perfect mother" and why it’s keeping us stuck
💬 Why admitting hard truths about motherhood can bring unexpected relief
💬 Practical ways to come to peace with your past choicesQuotes from the Episode:
💡 "You can love someone and still wish your life had gone another way."
💡 "Regret does not mean you don’t love. It simply means you’re human."
💡 "The myth of motherhood is that it's all-consuming joy. The truth is, it's both joy and sacrifice." — Esther PerelResources & Next Steps:
📩 Need support? Email me at [email protected]
🎙️ Listen to past episodes for more conversations on post-divorce life
💡 Work with me—If you're navigating these emotions and need guidance, reach out💜 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a fellow mom who needs to hear it. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps other women find this podcast!
See you next week, girlfriend. 💜
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🎙 Episode Summary:
In this episode, I dive into YOUR post-divorce questions in a heartfelt and honest Q&A session. From navigating guilt, loneliness, and comparison to embracing second chances and financial independence, we’re tackling it all. Whether you’re 36 or 57, wondering if it’s too late to start over, or struggling with the idea of dating again, this conversation is for you. I share my personal experiences, practical advice, and encouragement to help you create a life you love—on your terms.💌 Topics Covered:
✅ Feeling like it’s too late to start over at 57—why it’s never too late
✅ How to stop feeling guilty for moving on when your ex is struggling
✅ Dating after divorce: where to start and why you will feel like a lost teenager
✅ Comparing yourself to your ex’s new partner—why it’s normal and how to stop
✅ Navigating kids’ tough divorce questions—without badmouthing your ex
✅ Financial independence after years as a stay-at-home mom—YES, it’s possible!
✅ Feeling like your divorce was a failure—how to rewrite that story💡 Resources Mentioned:
📌 The Burned Haystack Dating Method (Jenny Young) – A mindful approach to dating apps
📌 Dress for Success – Helping women re-enter the workforce with confidence
📌 Local community colleges & trade programs – Many offer free/low-cost job training💬 Let’s Connect!
Have a question you’d like me to answer? Send me an email at [email protected]. I might just answer it in a future episode!🎧 Subscribe & Review:
If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe and leave a review—it helps more divorced women find this podcast and start living their best lives.💃 Until next time, keep glowing! ✨
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Ever feel like you’re constantly passing the buck to “future you”? Skipping workouts, putting off tough conversations, avoiding finances—only to leave tomorrow’s self cleaning up today’s mess? In this episode, I introduce a powerful concept: being your own Aide-de-Camp (ADC)—the personal assistant to your future self.
I’ll share a hilarious story about my daughter and a schoolyard showdown, drop some Stoic wisdom (Marcus Aurelius, I see you 👀), and show you how to step into this role for yourself. Learn how small, consistent actions today can completely change your life in 6 months, a year, and beyond.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✔️ The Aide-de-Camp Mindset—showing up like a military strategist for your own success
✔️ How planning, structure, and micro-habits create powerful momentum
✔️ Why setting boundaries, prioritizing rest, and cutting distractions is an act of self-love
✔️ Real-life stories of women who transformed their lives by stepping up for Future ThemTimestamps:
– That time my daughter almost had a schoolyard brawl (for a great reason!)
– Why we treat our future self like an afterthought (and how to fix it)
– What the heck is an Aide-de-Camp? And why you need one!
– Small daily habits = long-term transformation
- A mindset shift that makes discipline feel like self-care
- Listener challenge: What’s one habit to start (or stop) for Future You?Episode Challenge:
Identify one small habit you can start doing today that would make life easier for your future self.
AND… what’s one thing you can stop doing that would improve things for her?🎙 Loved this episode? Let’s talk! Reach out to me for coaching, or DM me on Instagram.
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I received news from a friend about her divorce being finalized. It begged the question, what skills does a newly divorced women need? The episode is my answer.
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My daughter’s panic attack and what it taught me about emotional flashbacks and healing.
Main Topic: Getting to Neutral
The Problem: Why jumping to “you’re fine” or forcing positivity doesn’t help in moments of distress.Emotional Flashbacks: What they are, how they show up unexpectedly, and how past trauma lives in the body.How I Handled It Differently:Allowing emotions to run their course rather than pushing them away.Encouraging her to feel rather than fight her fear.Why neutrality is often a better goal than positivity.Neutral Thinking Over Positive Thinking:Instead of “just think positive,” focus on what is true and actionable.Example: Rather than saying “You’re fine,” acknowledge, “This feels really scary, and you’re allowed to feel it.”Emotions Are Temporary:Like a toddler throwing a tantrum, emotions burn out if you let them run.We don’t have to fear feelings—we just need to feel them.No Drama, Just Data:Negative thinking adds unnecessary weight.Neutrality means stating facts: “This is happening. What do I want to do next?”Don’t Let the Past Predict the Future:Divorce trauma doesn’t define you.Just because you felt unsafe then doesn’t mean you have to live in fear now.For Divorced Women: How to Apply Neutral Thinking
When an emotional flashback hits, focus on the present reality: Where am I? Am I safe?If supporting a friend or child, hold space instead of forcing solutions.Instead of spiraling into “Why is this happening to me?” ask, “What is my next best step?”Closing Thoughts:
Neutral thinking doesn’t erase pain, but it keeps us from getting stuck in it.You don’t have to force a silver lining—just take the next step forward.Let’s normalize feeling ALL the things without fear.PostDivorceGlowUp.com
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Valentine’s Day is around the corner, and if you’re staring at your phone, debating whether to text your ex, take a deep breath and listen to this episode first. This time of year stirs up nostalgia, loneliness, and a whole lot of selective memory, making it dangerously easy to romanticize the past. But before you hit send on that "Hope you're doing well..." text, let’s unpack what’s really going on.
In this episode, we’ll cover:
💌 Why the urge to text your ex is totally normal—but not a good idea
💭 How your brain lies to you by playing a highlight reel of your past relationship
⚡ The difference between missing your ex vs. missing the idea of connection
🚦 The attachment triggers that make you feel extra vulnerable on Valentine’s Day
🔥 What to do instead of sending that text (because you deserve better!)This is your official reminder that just because you feel something doesn’t mean you have to act on it. Love, relationships, and breakups affect your brain like a drug, and Valentine's Day is just another trigger. You’re not crazy, you’re human. And you have the power to redirect that energy toward something that actually serves you.
💡 Ready to reclaim your power?
Listen in, take notes, and share this episode with a friend who might need it, too.🔗 Let’s connect!
✨ Book a free chat with me HERE.👉 And remember: Your ex is your ex for a reason. Keep that text unsent.
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Hey girlfriend, let’s have a real talk. Today, I’m sharing a personal story about loneliness—the kind that sneaks up on you even when you're surrounded by people.
My sister, a widow, recently told me she feels completely alone. I get it. I know that feeling well. I see it in my clients all the time. But today, I want to challenge that thought. Because sometimes, "I'm all alone" isn't a fact—it's a story we're telling ourselves.
In this episode, we’ll cover:
✨ The difference between circumstance and story—what’s really happening vs. what we tell ourselves
✨ How loneliness isn't just a divorce thing (spoiler: you can feel lonelier in marriage than out of it)
✨ How the "symptoms" of loneliness can create more isolation.
✨ Practical ways to shift your mindset and see the support you already have💬 Let’s keep this conversation going! Have you ever told yourself you were all alone, only to realize later that wasn’t the full picture? DM me on Instagram [@quinn.otrera] and share your story!
👉 If you loved this episode, please leave a review! It helps other women find the show and reminds them they’re not alone either.
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It’s my fourth divorceversary, and I wouldn’t change a thing. Divorce was just the beginning of my transformation, and in this episode, I’m sharing four lessons I’ve learned along the way.
💡 Key Takeaways:
1️⃣ Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. Keep what serves you. Let go of what doesn’t.
2️⃣ Find your allies. Some relationships won’t survive your divorce, but new ones will.
3️⃣ Take exquisite care of yourself. Take up space, make your own rules, and own your life.
4️⃣ Just because it's hard doesn't mean you made a mistake. No partner, job, or external approval will do the work for you.👯♀️ Who This Is For:
Anyone navigating life after divorceWomen ready to own their next chapterThose needing a reminder that happiness is theirs to create🎧 Listen in, laugh with me, and let’s celebrate the beauty of choosing yourself.
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Let’s talk about what it means to go after your big, scary dreams. In this episode, I’m getting personal about my journey back to school at 50 to pursue my goal of becoming a midwife. Spoiler alert: it’s hard, and my brain hurts! But here’s the truth—living with unfulfilled dreams is even harder.
This week, I share a conversation with a client chasing her own dream of becoming a composer. She’s feeling the weight of self-doubt, and I had to remind her—and now I’m reminding you—that hard doesn’t mean wrong. Hard means growth.
Together, we explore:
Why living your worst-case scenario is often the wake-up call you need.How humans are wired to thrive on the process of pursuing goals, not just achieving them.The lies we tell ourselves to stay comfortable (but miserable) and how to call BS on them.What to do when you don’t trust yourself to follow through.Whether your goal is to get back to school, start a new career, or simply live into the life you’ve always dreamed of, this episode will remind you that the hard path is the meaningful one.
Timestamps:
[0:00] Personal check-in: Going back to school at 50[3:45] Why pursuing your dreams feels scary (but worth it)[8:15] A client’s journey: Living her worst-case scenario[12:30] The dopamine secret: Why striving is where the magic happens[16:00] What if you fail? (Spoiler: You’ll survive!)[20:10] Divorce as comedy and tragedy—and the beauty in both[24:00] Rebuilding self-trust: Why your past doesn’t define your futurePostDivorceGlowUp.com
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In this heartfelt episode, I share my journey navigating custody decisions after divorce and the lessons learned along the way. From letting go of control to fostering an environment of peace and self-trust, I discuss:
The emotional challenges of custody decisions.My personal story of letting my son choose where to live.How creating a thriving environment for yourself can benefit your children.Insights from my clients who are navigating similar decisions.The importance of reframing stories of "abandonment" to empower yourself and your children.Whether you're dealing with custody questions or simply seeking inspiration for your post-divorce journey, this episode will remind you that it’s possible to show up bravely for yourself and your family.
Tune in for real talk, practical advice, and encouragement for your next steps. You’ve got this, brave woman. 🌟
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Hello, my friend! As we dive into the new year, I’m reflecting on an unusual but powerful resolution: the importance of being willing to disappoint others to stay true to yourself.
In this episode, I share:
A heartfelt conversation with my daughter about her fear of disappointing a close friend as she embarks on a semester abroad.Why so many of us, especially women, feel a deep need to avoid disappointing others, and how this stems from societal and cultural conditioning.Personal stories, including how leaving my marriage and religion required me to face others' disappointment so I could thrive authentically.Practical strategies for navigating those difficult conversations where you choose yourself over others’ expectations.We explore why sparing others’ disappointment is not only impossible but often harmful to your own growth. I challenge you to ask yourself:
Why is their disappointment a problem?Am I willing to have difficult conversations to avoid difficult relationships?Plus, my daughter’s surprising insights from watching Millionaire Matchmaker (yes, that binge was totally worth it!) and how it inspired her vision of the confident, self-assured woman she wants to be.
This episode is a rallying cry for everyone who’s ready to stop bending over backward to keep the peace and instead honor their own needs, dreams, and happiness.
Resources Mentioned:
Millionaire Matchmaker on Netflix (for inspiration and some laughs!)Call to Action:
Let’s start this year strong by choosing authenticity over people-pleasing. If this episode resonated with you, hit that Follow button and share this podcast with a friend who needs to hear it!
And if you’d like to get in touch, email me at [email protected]. (Yes, the website is under construction, thanks to my Netflix binge!)
Stay true to yourself, and I’ll see you next week! 💖
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Happy New Year, and welcome to 2025! In this episode, Quinn dives into the magic of new beginnings and the importance of slowing down, being present, and exploring the unconscious to create a life you truly love.
What’s Inside This Episode:
2025 Goals: Why being present unlocks deeper emotions and clarity.Understanding the Unconscious: Inspired by Carl Jung’s insight: “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”Tools to Explore Your Unconscious:Dream work and journaling.Active imagination through writing or art.Body-centered practices like yoga, dance, or drumming.Symbol systems like tarot and archetypal storytelling (Women Who Run With the Wolves).Parts Work (Internal Family Systems) to heal and integrate inner conflicts.Why It Matters: Gain clarity, overcome self-sabotage, and reconnect with your intuition to become unapologetically “full of yourself.”Closing Thought: The unconscious holds your deepest wisdom—it’s time to trust yourself and let your light shine.
Connect with Quinn: Email [email protected] for coaching and support on your journey to becoming your fullest self. 🌟
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In this special Christmas Day episode, Quinn reflects on how her approach to the holidays has evolved over the four years since her divorce. She discusses the importance of managing expectations and focusing on connection and relaxation. The episode further delves into strategies for personal growth post-divorce by providing examples from her coaching practice. The common theme among her clients is identifying and focusing on one impactful goal that can create significant positive changes in their lives. She emphasizes that concentrating on one thing, whether it be health, career, relationships, or self-discovery, can lead to exponential personal growth and fulfillment.
00:00 Welcome and Holiday Reflections
02:26 Balancing Life and New Beginnings
03:36 Client Journeys and Common Themes
08:49 The Power of Focusing on One Thing
11:40 Personal Transformation Stories
17:33 Setting Goals and Taking Action
24:33 Coaching and Accountability
27:21 Final Thoughts and Contact InformationPostDivorceGlowUp.com
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In this heartfelt episode, Quinn reflects on the importance of living a sensual, embodied life post-divorce. She discusses the concept of sensuality as fully engaging with all five senses and the journey of reclaiming this aspect of life without shame. Drawing from personal experiences and insights from thinkers like Brene Brown and Glennon Doyle, she addresses overcoming societal and religious stigmas around women's bodies and desires. Quinn encourages you to honor your senses, create sensory joy lists, and give yourself permission to savor life fully. The episode underscores the necessity of filling oneself up with sensory pleasures to lead a more fulfilling, connected, and joyful life.
00:00 Introduction
01:50 Embracing Sensuality Post-Divorce
02:56 Living Sensually: Engaging All Senses
07:19 Overcoming Shame and Guilt
11:26 Practical Steps to Sensual Living
22:58 Permission to Savor Life
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Quinn discusses her personal journey of redefining traditions after a divorce. She shares how she balances religious and secular celebrations, focuses on creating meaningful and joyful traditions with her family, and emphasizes the importance of traditions for emotional resilience, identity, and community. Through practical tips, she encourages starting small, involving children, harvesting the good from past holidays, and being consistent but flexible. The episode highlights the significance of traditions in cultivating a new, fulfilling life post-divorce.
00:00 Introduction and Holiday Context
01:26 Navigating Traditions Post-Divorce
02:50 The Psychological Benefits of Traditions
03:56 Creating New Traditions
06:49 Why Traditions Matter
13:48 Tips for Establishing New Traditions
22:51 Involving Community in Traditions
24:22 Conclusion and Holiday WishesPostDivorceGlowUp.com
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