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WARNING: This episode is defiantly one for the earphones...I know I drop a good f bomb here and there...ok, more like all the time. But guys... today were talking about S.E.X. you know, fucking? Yep....Parent Sex is now a thing we talk about and weirdly Iām so excited for this podcast. Now I want to start with something my Mum told myself and my brothers...life moto.
āAlways marry someone whose good in bed because youāre going to be screwing them for the rest of your lifeā
Now, hear that last bit, forrrr the rest of your life. Not just pre kids or just for baby making...
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
What does sex mean for you and your partner? It is so much more than just baby making and it isnt just about one feeling loved its about 2 people coming together (pardon the pun) You cannot change the other person! No matter how much you try. BE NICE TO EACH OTHER!!!!! Be nice to you...better yet love you. If youāre a long time listener you will know that self confidence is your own perception of yourself. If you think highly of yourself your confidence will soar...now, what is the excuse I hear most? āMy Sex life would be better if I had higher self confidence.ā Talk, talk about what you like, what you donāt like and make it happen...literally. And finally, let yourself enjoy it and sometimes it is just better to get in there and just ādo itā and 90% of the time I bet its good once you make the decision to make it happen.CONNECT
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Wouldn't this be nice...to just not give a shit??
To be in a room with someone or having a conversation with someone, them say something that you let rub you up the wrong way (see how I put that, you letttt them rub you up the wrong way because that is all based on your thoughts) and guess what, what if you just didnāt care...and im not talking about saying you donāt care...like actually 100% not giving a shit and then do you know what there is then space for? Caring about the amazing shit that is in your life!
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
You giving a shit, or not giving a shit is completely your choice. Itās all about how you THINK about the situation that is happening. If you change your thoughts you can change your feeling from caring, to not caring.TOOLS:
Write down your thoughts about this situation...What are they? And how do they make you feel? - more than likely like shit, because you CARE. So what thoughts could you think that make you not care? Not give a shit and focus on the things that are REALLY important to you.CONNECT
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This is something that my husband use to say to me all the time as I
would wait at the door for him and then winge about my body, the way I felt the way I looked the way I perceived myself and do you know what he used to say to me: āCobe, how can you expect others to love you if you can't even love yourselfā.
My response...āwhatever....can you just love me nowā haha! Ohhhh, how times have changed!!! Letās talk about this!
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
Loving you is so much more than standing in front of the mirror and saying āi love meā it is about KNOWING who you are. I hear ālove yourselfā all the time, but really how can you love you if you have lost who you really are? Who you are us more than WHAT you do...it is MORE than being a mum, wife, friend. It is about what sets your soul on fire What would your friends say best describes you? Is it you love crude jokes? Do you laugh like a hyena? Do you LOVE riding bikes, snowboarding or being on the edge of adventure? Tell me, what makes you YOU because the sooner you can accept and most importantly LOVE that you. That inside...the sooner your whole life will light up!!!TOOLS:
So, who are you? Write this down. Hello, my name is: Most weekends I can be found: I am known as: I love my life because: Most people donāt know:Download the worksheet below and do this every day!!! Expect this to change and evolve as days go on...this is what you want, for more to come up. Now, this is something that you can do whenever you feel lost...coming back to WHO YOU ARE.
CONNECT
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So, you want to be a happy, confident mum but feeling lost, alone and don't know where to start?
Well, youāre in the right place!
I get it, becoming a mum can be anxiety driven, overwhelming and you catch yourself saying āwell, who am I now?ā. That's why I'm here, to teach you my proven mindset techniques & give you tangible tools you can implement into your life so you can smile that REAL smile and consciously choose to truly enjoy everyday.
Oh, and did I mention we do it in a stylish yet laugh so hard you snort kind of wayā¦with champagne? And if you bring a friend its 50% off the second ticket??
Ladies, you donāt want to miss this!
In this lifechanging workshop you will:
- connect with likeminded Mums who truly get you
- hear REAL, relatable stories that will show you that you are NOT alone
- be guided through to find that fun, happy YOU again...
- Learn the non B.S version of self love, its important and how this will change your life forever - thats right, actually loving you!
- understand what you want our of life becuase of WHO you are and that you can create anything you want
- go home with REAL tangible tools you can continue to impliment into your life so you can continue to be that happy, confident mama I know you are on the inside.
- walk out with your head higher, your mind clearer AND with a smile on your face.
And most importantly, have a FUN unapoligetifcally YOU night out with a group of amazing likeminded women with drinks AND an amazing grazing table of food provided.
AND we get it, becuase everything is better with a friend, buy one ticket, get the second 50% OFF by using the code 'FRIENDS' at checkout.
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This is life changing you dont want to miss out...https://www.eventbrite.com.au/e/did-becoming-a-mum-suck-the-you-out-of-you-tickets-50066880387?aff=ebdssbdestsearch
Can't wait to meet you!
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You might have said it to yourself, or you might have said it about someone else. Guys, what I'm talking about is if you're a good mum or a bad mum and what defines this? Seriously, what does define this?
So, tell me and be honest. Have you ever thought āI'm not a good enough mumā or, X person isnt a great mum or not being a good mum in that moment? Maybe you also have thought that youāre killing it at mumlife? Or, maybe you see someone else and say they are a good mum...well. Today weāre going to talk about what defines if you or anyone else is a good mum or a bad mum...
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
There is no checklist ā if there is come show it to me because you only thing that determines if YOU are a good mum or a bad mum is your own perception of you. You have a choice if youāre a good mum or a bad mum and can redefine that and choose that now. Anything that you have thought in the past does not define your future ā and by furure I mean 10 minutes from now (not years!!!) How you think about others ā that is ONLY your opinion. Yes, you are entitled to your opinion but I want you to think, could your opinion be argued in court? Most of the time, no. Do the things that make YOU happy because we are ALL different and thrive from different things.TOOLS:
Write down how you think about you as a parent. Then I want you to look at it and identify If you REALLY believe that. Is there evidence to support that? Not thoughts, arguable evidence? If not, you have a CHOICE to change how you think about you. - change your mind, change your life and parenting FOREVER!CONNECT
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Steph and I met a long time ago but only really connected recently and you will see how we start this conversation stating weāre spirit animals ā monkeys or chipmunks in trees it really sets the scene for our conversationā¦an open, heartfelt conversation!
We dive into so much about self identity, training/working out for your mind and fat loss being the bi-product and that seeking more help where needed is not being weak, but being so strong ā trust your gut!
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
Having an unhealthy past, existing not livingā¦ Underactive Thyroid and how Steph overcame this when her doctor said she will have it forever!! Seek more help where you need it, trust your gut!!! Fat loss can be a bi-product of training/working out, you need to find something that makes your mind tick, something that you love! Picking up a barbell for Steph is a metaphor for her lifeā¦ If you hate running, hate riding, hate the gymā¦donāt do it!!! But, find something that you do love, something that makes you feel good when you move and do it! Hormones ā what we put into our bodies effects how our body functions!TOOLS:
Listen to your gutā¦always. When you are given advise and your gut doesnāt agreeā¦seek further adviseā¦always Stop and look around, what is most important? You might be there, but not 100% present, what do you need to change to make this the way you want it?CONNECT
If you havenāt already, go connect with the gorgeous Steph!!
Facebook: @studiotwofemalestrength
Instagram: @studio_twofs
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This is something that it doesnāt take a rocket scientist to figure outā¦parenting, yeah it can be fucking hard!!! And no one tells you HOW hard it can be and to be totally honest, I donāt think as a mum or dad you can really explain how hard it is going to be to someone else.
Now, I get some people have dream boats, some have non sleepers, some have screamers, some do it on their own and in some cases some have sick babies. Now, I want to profess that not one parent has it easier than the otherā¦no matter what anyone else says. It is fucking hard. Iām going to talk about some ways you can youāre your parenting slightly easier and you know whatā¦FUN!
KEY TAKEAWAYS & TOOLS:
Noone has it harder than someone else because to be frank, you never know how someone is coping. Someone from the outside might seem as though they have a dreamboat but are finding parenting REALLY hard where as someone with non sleepers might be coping ok. Remember that, look after every mama out there.. As much as you want to rip their head off (and sometimes their manly partsā¦) be nice to your partner. I know when the kids stir up and donāt sleep we tend to take it out on each other but try dropping the stubbornness Let each other have āown timeā ohhhh this is so important!!!! We all know when youre at home all dayā¦by yourself and you wait at the door like a puppy for your partner then they come inside get changed and say theyāre going to the gym, run or rideā¦and we resent them. Well, its time for you to have you time and LET them and encourage THEM to have THEM time. If you donāt have a partner, schedule time for you time and work out some sort of care be it family, babysitter, neighbor or an hour longer at daycareā¦make it happen!!! Have a date night ā again, so so important and make it happen Do fun things as a family ā now, It doesnāt matter how big or little your family is. Stop looking at the clock every now and then. Live in the moment with your family because you will never get the time back again let loose have a dance party in the lounge room, all go for a walk together, kick a ball in the backyard and have dinner 10 minutes later. Taking a break and having some fun WILL make things easier and put some things into perspective.CONNECT
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Letās first identify what a label is. In this context what were talking about is when someone says āI have depressionā or āI have post natal depressionā or, I have an addictionā āI am an alcoholicā now, I want to profess that I am not an expert, but I sure as hell know the emotional intelligence and mindset behind this.
I hear all the time (in movies!) that you first need to label the situation before you can move forward. Now, again Iām not a Phycologist, but I donāt believe in this, because the minute you label something, you identify as this as I can only see you slipping into a bigger hole of āthis is who I amā not who can I become because of this and how can I move forwardā¦letās talk about this more.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
When labeling yourself as something, it can sometimes be aā¦āI have an additionā where I see this as a train stopping..this is you. You are identifying as this. This is you. Now, you can change this to āI have an addiction, but I am moving forward and will be XXXā This is different, this is saying that this is part of your life BUT you are moving from it. You have a choice and can move forward Donāt let this label become you ā it is only a slither of your life.TOOLS:
What is the ālabel?ā now, write this down and write BUT at the end, what do you want this to mean for you and your future?CONNECT
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This episode Is really an extension from my conversation with the gorgeous Kate Seselja last week. So, your past does not need to define your future.
And I know there will be a lot of people listening thinking āwell, you have no idea what I have gone throughā and you know what, youāre right. I donāt. But it doesnāt matter because In the end there isnāt āone thing worse than the otherā because that will differ depending on who is looking at the situationā¦because we all have our own thoughts if things are bad or notā¦and opinions. So, lets dive in.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
Something is only bad if you identify it as bad. It is neutral until that time. Your past is in your past, but it is part of your life and pretending something didnāt happen isnāt dealing with it. You have to be ok with all the chapters in your life. You can always refer back to chapters to learn from, but they do not need to define your future. What you identify as ābadā someone else might identify as āokāā¦it all depends on how you define it. How can you leave your past in the past and not let it identify your futureā¦and better yet, let it drive you into your future?TOOLS:
First, choose how you want to identify your past. What are your thoughts about this situation ādo you want to change these so you can live your best future?CONNECT
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Today is something a little bit specialā¦today I am sitting down face to face with the gorgeous Kate Seselja who is not only a gorgeous friend of mine ā we both live in the same small town, but she is the gorgeous, strong woman behind The Hope Project.
Now, Kate will dive into all things The Hope Project today, but I wanted to read you an extract from the website which really resonated with me āEveryone knows someone who is struggling with something. The Hope Project is aimed at crisis prevention by skilling and equipping people better everyday, to not just exist or survive but to thrive in life.ā
Kate is also an Ambassador of World Kindness Australia and a certified United Nations Advocate for the Sustainable Development Goals targets SDG #3 Good Health and Well Being for all,
HOPE stands for Help Other People Everyday with a focus that no one gets left behind.
I wanted to quickly tell you though how Kate and I met. We both went to the same Gym in, but she went in the mornings and I went in the evenings so we only met at the Christmas party which was literally in a tranquil backyard! It was nearly like a Romanic comedy between us where we saw each other from across the garden and needed to talk. We both SWORE we knew each other from some where but could not figure out where ā and we still canāt to this date. It is safe to say we have has a uncanny connection since and are both so in line with each others passions and drives in life ā so, now that you know all about mine and Kateās romantic story. Let me introduce you to Kate.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
You cannot be truly happy until you are happy with yourselfā¦ You have to be ok with all the chapters in your life Pretending something didnāt happen isnāt dealing with it Be comfortable with the discomfort of being humanTOOLS:
Kateās Awake Program:
AWAKE is a framework of skills and knowledge to help put into perspective the pain and struggles we face as human beings. Being AWAKE helps you let go of the faƧade of perfection, unlocks the freedom of being ok with being human and creates a path to see clearer how we might uniquely contribute to humanity. Your pain tells a story and it is not to be viewed as a negative or used as a barrier to true connection to self and others.
A ā Aware
W ā What you need
A ā Authenticity
K ā Keeping your eyes forward
E ā Everyday mindfulness
CONNECT
If you havenāt already, go connect with Kate!
Web: https://thehopeprojectnow.com
Facebook: @thehopeproject
Instagram: @thehopeproject
Resources
Ka-ching Documentary
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This episode is something a bit differentā¦because I get it, life can be busy and ever busier with kids. So, I thought about where I spend a lot of my time and that isā¦ in the car. So this episode is brought to youā¦from my car. The quality might not be as you are use to, but I promise all the usual juicy content is there ā PLUS someā¦
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
Your kidsā¦they donāt make you angryā¦ Your thoughts about that situation made you feel angry. Stop and think about your thoughts when you feel this way. Letās also look at your partner/husbandā¦when they send a message stating they are going to the āpub after workāā¦did they make you angry? Or did your thoughts and interpretation make you angry? Give love. Over and over. ā promise!!!TOOLS:
Write it down!!! What are your thoughts and feelingsā¦and do you want to change these the ultimately change the actions and results in your lifeā¦CONNECT
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āI miss my old lifeā this is something I have heard 3 times in the last week, so I think its time we talked about it.
Now, in the context that I have heard this being said, it has been directed to be about āI miss the days when I didnāt have to adult, I didnāt have to be running around like a headless chook after kids, I wish I was able to get some sleep, I wish I could spontaneously go out for a mealāā¦ok, not start nodding if you have ever thought these things??
I get it, being a parent can be really hardā¦but there is a reason why we can have those thoughtsā¦and Iām going to tell you all about it.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
We grow up future focusedā¦āwhen I grow upāā¦ So why when we are grown up do we focus on the pastā¦wishing ourselves back to that time? Parenting can be challengingā¦this is why our brain will want to take us back to something we knowā¦something that is safeā¦something that we have done before. With parenting, it is a new obstacle day after day and for our brains, sometimes all we want to do is run to safety. How much time do you have left to make your life amazing? Where are you going to be in 5 years? What would you say to yourself 5 years down the road? If you donāt start picturing that person, you will stay the person you are now and forever. I love the analogy from Brooke Castillo that if you move the rutter on a boat only slightly, the destination will end up being completely different from the original intended destination. This shows us that by making slight, simple change towards to future will enable you to have a completely different growth path.TOOLS:
Map out your life. Where are you now? How much time do you have left? You have a choice how amazing you want that time to beā¦how amazing you want that to be.CONNECT
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We all know about Mum Guiltā¦you drop your little one at school and theyāre the only one not dressed upā¦ohhh yep here comes that drop of guilt. āMy poor childā.
Ok, so as always letās talk about the meaning of Guilt.
Guilt in Phycology terms is defined as: Guilt is a cognitive or an emotional experience that occurs when a person believes or realizesāaccurately or notāthat he or she has compromised his or her own standards of conduct or has violated a universal moral standard and bears significant responsibility for that violation.
So, letās talk about this. Letās talk about what Mum Guilt is, why you get it and ways you can identify it and choose to remove it from your life, as most of the timeā¦it feels like shit!!!
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
Mum Guilt is a feeling, an emotion experience that we have when we believe that we have compromised our moral standardsā¦ Mum Guilt is an emotion ā this is GREAT news because it means we have a choice to change this! We get mum guilt because we set moral standards in our mind about what we will, or wont do as a parent. We have guilt in our usual day to day, but during pregnancy or early parenting we look at others and set standards. Have you ever caught yourself saying āOh, Iād never do thatā. That is, you setting a moral standard. Have you noticed that you might be with 5 mums having drinks and maybe 3 will have mum guilt and the others wont? Thatās because it is your thoughts creating this emotion.FEAR TOOLS:
First, you need to understand your morals ā what are your standards as a parent? Then, when you get āmum guiltā you need to identify WHAT you are thinking when this happens ā this is your thoughts. (Use the āLetās change that thoughtā worksheet attached. Do you believe that thought? Is that part of your moral setting? Because YOU have a chance to change that my friend.CONNECT
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Itās all something we have felt am I right? And it seems to be this vicious thing that takes over our lives!
When youāre overwhelmed do you catch yourself saying things like
Iāll never get this doneā¦ I canāt handle thisā¦ This is just too muchā¦ I canāt do this myselfā¦Guys, my hand is flying in the air! I bet you see it like a cloud hanging over you and pushing down on your shouldersā¦ So, what is overwhelm?
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
So, what is an emotion? It is a feeling caused by our thoughts. You know the saying āaghhh, I feel like the weight of the world has been lifted off my shouldersā yep, thatās the other side of overwhelm ā so letās find out how to get there. This first showed to me that even through I have a lot of control and understanding around my mind, that my body was beginning to take all the stress and I really need to take some time for my body. what can you do to identify and reduce your overwhelm.FEAR TOOLS:
Stop procrastinating and write down everything you are thinkingā¦what is making you so overwhelmed? What is the effort out of 10 to complete each thing? What is the impact out of 10 for each thing? What is the result ā write it down!! Start by doing the tasks that are the least amount of effort and the biggest impact!!! If you have a large task ā break it down!!!CONNECT
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Have you or are you going through an infertility journey? Or, do you know someone who has or is going through their own fertility journey? Because today, I am talking to the gorgeous Liz Walton who is not only a gorgeous fertility coach who went through her 10 year (yes you read that right, 10 year!) unexplained infertility journey and now she is using all her experience and amazing qualifications to help others!!!
Seriously, this is just ahhhh-mazing!
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
10 years of trying to have a baby!! Liz felt so unwell at the ago of 45 that she thought she was going through menopauseā¦turned out not to be! Always listen to your heart, mind and soul! Always be present ā stop telling yourself those stories At the age of 46 Liz has her beautiful baby! We DONāT need to live life by the ābookā because where is the book? Itās about coming home and finding who we areā¦ When we can let go of our pain and anguish we can meet our true selvesā¦.(ummm isnāt this just the best!!!)TOOLS:
Be present ā stop making up those stories and say to yourself āwhat is 100% true in this momentā Help produce some serotonin (happy mind) by moving, having a massage ā something that makes you happy something little that doesnāt need to cost a thing!! Once we feel good we can look for those answers!! Learn new patterns ā where do you want to go? What do you want to achieve and who is going to help you do that? Coach? Counselor? Friend? Phycologist? Acupuncture? Chinese Medicine? Doctor? Look forward and have your eyes on where you want to go and take action Be consistent!!!!Liz Must Reads/Listen:
Wayne Dyer Marianne Williamson Robert Holden Dr Joe Dispenza Byron KatieCONNECT
If you havenāt already, go connect with Liz!
Web: www.lizwalton.org
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/lizwaltonfertilitycoach
Email: [email protected]
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Todays episode is proudly brought to you by one of my dearest friends who asked me āhow so I overcome fearā so, I asked another questions. What are fearful of? And she answered āfearful of having another baby that doesnāt sleepā BEST QUESTION EVER!!!! Who else has been these? Been scared of not sleeping again after you may have just started sleeping again??
Ok, so lets talk about this! Are you ready?
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
Fear is: : an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger. Best part? As fear is an emotion, it means you have a choice to think differently to change your emotion (fear!) So why are some people scared of heights and some not? Fear is a chain reaction in the brain that starts with a stressful stimulus and ends with the release of chemicals that cause a racing heart, fast breathing and energized muscles, among other things, also known as the fight-or-flight response. what can you do to reduce the fear Label that fear ā hang on, what does that mean?FEAR TOOLS:
I want you to label it and sit into it. Embrace it. Donāt procrastinate on your phone, computer, house work etc. just sit in it relax. Breathe and accept it. Notice how you feel. What are the thoughts you have about this fear? What is running through your head? āIām never going to sleepā āIām going to cry all the timeā Iām not going to copeā etc ā write it down!! You really need to identify all those thoughts you are having around that fear and explore them. Be with them and choose if you really believe those thoughts. Or, do you want to change them. Guysā¦.gamechanger!!!! And I want to leave you withā¦.fear is an emotion. What is the worst that would happen relaxing into it, accepting it and stepping forwardā¦and what is the worst that could happen?? Worst? You feel something else. Feeling.CONNECT
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Kasey Rainbow is one of those people you speak to and you know they are coming from the heart. Every word she spoke I could feel was purely from a place of genuine loveā¦and that my friends is what authenticity (that horrid word thatās thrown around like play dough) is all about! Kasey is also a 2 x author (and illustrator)!!! And I just cannot wait for you to hear not only her story, but where she is taking her storyā¦
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
Having a baby doesnāt always need to be this āmagicalā fairy tale feeling ā this does NOT mean you donāt love your babies!!! Mum guilt is real and can start from the moment you give birth Motherhood changes people a lotā¦in so many ways Did you know there is an amazing mental health plan you can go on? Sometimes, YOU have to get all those things out of your head!!! We talk about Kaseyās AMAZING books!! You can do SO much more than what you think in life!! You have so much capability!WHATS IN KASEYāS TOOLBOX?
Mental health care plan!! This includes regular check ups with your doctor and you can be eligible to 10 x phycology appointments at either a reduced rate, or if they have no gap then you could not pay anything! If you donāt find someone that doesnāt work with youā¦keep looking for that right person!!CONNECT
If you havenāt already, go connect with Kasey!
Web: https://linktr.ee/kasey.rainbow
Instagram: @Kasey.rainbow
When I grow up book ā https://whenigrowupthebook.bigcartel.com
Big love book - https://biglovelittlebook.bigcartel.com
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If I had a dollar for every time I have heard someone say āIf only I had high self-confidence, everything else would be betterā, āif only I had high self-esteem, I would be a much better mum/wife/friendā I would be in the Bahamas on a private island being served espresso martinis agh, yum!! Can we take a moment to appreciate how amazing that would be!
So, letās talk about it. What does it mean to have high self-confidence and how can you ACTIVILY create this in your lifeā¦ohhhhh, youāre right. I said create it. Because you canā¦
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
Self-confidence is āYour OWN perception of yourselfā Itās no secret that high self-esteem is something that everyone wants, but is it something that everyone actively creates in their lives? If you donāt like yourself, how can you expect other to like you? Whatās the difference between confidence and self-confidence?? Confidence ā is where you know how do a task well, and know if an issue arises that you know how to overcome it because you have the skills to do so. Self-confidence is the emotional aspect of being confident. Self-confidence doesnāt need to come across as arrogantā¦ Now, an arrogant person would say āIām better than everyone else, they are terrible, Iām much better than them.āWHATS IN THAT BEAUTIFUL TOOLBOX?
Like yourselfā¦or better, love yourself! You can instruct people how to think about you. Thatās right, instruct people how to think about youā¦ Teach people how to treat you by showing them how you treat yourself Turning up, talking about yourself in a kind way, treating yourself with respect and in turn this shows others how you like to be treated.CONNECT
If you havenāt already, come hang with me!!!
Web: www.therealmumlife.com.au
Facebook: @therealmumlifeaus
Instagram: @therealmumlifeaus
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On Todays show sitting on the virtual couch with the one and only Mrs Maddi Wright!
You may remember Maddi and her spunky now husband from the 2014 season of House Rules, but since then Maddi has become a house hold name in her own right with over 100K loyal followers over insagram and Facebook with this list continuing to grow as more mums connect with her REAL, RAW and honest voice about parenting and life
Maddi speaks from the heart about general shit days, her traumatic birth, how she wished she didnāt breastfeed her second son Marlow and having her husband loyd working shift. It defiantly seems from the outside there is very little Maddi is scared to talk about - and we love it, and obviously so many others do as well.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
Parenting can be shit and hard and its ok to feel like this! Survival though horrid morning sickness and kids that donāt sleep (and these mixed together!!) Traumatic birthsā¦.we talk about it all Breast isnāt always best for allā¦fed is bestā¦ Maddi talks about the two biggest struggles she found with parentingā¦Guilt and Self identityMADDIāS TOOLS:
Do something for you ā even if its going and doing the food shopping alone or going to the gym for 10-20 minutes Affirmations ā āthis too shall passā Ask for help ā mum, mother in law, friendā¦reach out especially for those things like washing, folding, cleaning ā say yes to it all!CONNECT
If you havenāt already, go connect with Maddi!
Web: www.mrsmaddiwright.com
Facebook: @mrsmaddiwright
Instagram: @mrsmaddiwright
YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCRaCKlJBFi_G_JRD0WMqJYg
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Mamaās, weāre practically already best friends, but Iād love you even more if you would subscribe to The Real Mum Life Podcast on iTunes and give us a review!
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On Todays show youāre back on the couch with me!
So today, I was just not feeling great. Feeling anxious. Feeling sad and not really knowing whyā¦and Iām here to talk all about it, while in the momentā¦
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
Itās ok not to feel great but it is about how you then deal with itā¦please donāt bottle it awayā¦ You are allowed to cry Try not to take it out on your partner, friend etc. I encourage you to explain that you are not feeling 100% and really need to work through your feelingsā¦the nicer you are, the nicer they will beTOOLS:
Stop. Move to a quiet area. Take 3 big belly breathes.. Write down all your thoughtsā¦everything!!! How do those thoughts make you feel, and NOW is the chance where you get to decide if you want to feel like thatā¦so, do you? You have a choice to start changing your thoughts, BUT you need to believe themā¦ Always ask for help ā mum, mother in law, friendā¦reach out especially for those things like washing, folding, cleaning ā say yes to it all!CONNECT
If you havenāt already, go connect with me!
Facebook: @therealmumlifeaus
Instagram: @therealmumlifeaus
Email: [email protected]
DO YOU LOVE THE REAL MUM LIFE PODCAST?
Mamaās, weāre practically already best friends, but Iād love you even more if you would subscribe to The Real Mum Life Podcast on iTunes and give us a review!
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