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Welcome to The Relationship Maze, the podcast dedicated to helping you navigate the complexities of love and relationships. Today we dive deep into the age-old question: Is it really love?
In today's episode, we explore the distinctions between love, lust, and projection, examining how love evolves and matures over time. We discuss the importance of nurturing love as an active, ongoing process, challenging the Hollywood myth of effortless, always-intense romance. We'll share insights on how to recognize real love, the role of curiosity and commitment, and the necessity of embracing both joy and pain in a relationship.
So if you're ready to deepen your understanding of love and build fulfilling connections, stay tuned for an engaging and enlightening conversation. Don't forget to visit our website, therelationshipmaze.com, for more resources and our comprehensive online course. Let's get started!
00:00 Loving is active; being in love is static.06:11 When does desire mature into genuine love?
09:36 Love grows from curiosity about differences.
11:58 Embrace love's full emotional range, expect effort.
15:01 Perceived love stems from unresolved past issues.
19:07 Unconditional love needs trust and balance.
23:31 Is it really love? Assess mutual expressions.
26:06 Commit to love; openness overcomes relationship differences.
27:47 Podcast break; explore past episodes and resources.
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Welcome back to The Relationship Maze! In today's episode, "Differentiation," Tom and Angela dive into a crucial phase in relationship development known as differentiation.
Have you ever felt that your partner is not the same as they were during the honeymoon period? Or struggled with being yourself in the relationship? You're not alone. Differentiation, a concept originally developed by Margaret Mahler, is all about recognizing and navigating the differences between you and your partner. We'll explore why it's natural for relationships to evolve, why noticing differences can be a good thing, and how this stage can ultimately lead to a more fulfilling and deeper connection.
Tune in to learn how to navigate this challenging yet essential phase and transform your relationship into something even more rewarding. Don't forget to subscribe and visit therelationshipmaze.com for more resources to help you on your journey!
00:00 Mahler's theory: infants learn self differentiation stages.
04:59 Difficulty arises when relationship moves past symbiotic stage.
08:00 Partner's differentiation feels like an abandonment threat.
11:13 Recognize and respect partner's individuality and differences.
13:34 Arguments arise from unmet relationship expectations.
17:55 Couples therapy and resources help navigate conflicts.
19:59 Learning to communicate safely and empathetically is crucial.
24:48 Empowering stages, therapy options, podcast, course info.Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
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Welcome to The Relationship Maze, where we explore the intricate dynamics of human connections. In today's episode, Tom and Angela delve into a critical yet often misunderstood aspect of relationships: empathy.
Are you finding that your partner doesn't truly hear you, or that they're more inclined to fix your problems than genuinely listen? This episode is for you.
Join us as we unpack what real empathy entails, the difference between empathy and sympathy, and practical steps to foster deeper emotional connections. We'll also discuss the common pitfalls and challenges in being empathic, particularly when facing conflicts or emotional distress. Tune in and discover how enhancing your empathy skills can lead to more fulfilling and harmonious relationships.
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00:00 Empathy is complex, requires attuning to others.
03:34 Empathy involves leaving assumptions, being inquisitive.
08:07 Empathy doesn't mean carrying your partner's burden.
12:25 Partners struggle with empathy during difficult conversations.
15:31 Open-minded approach to empathetically respond positively.
19:36 Couples therapy available in person and online.
20:47 Support and empathy are crucial in relationships.
23:31 Visit relationshipmaze.com for relationship help and resources.Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
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In today's episode, Angela and Tom delve into the fascinating world of transitional objects—those cherished items or objects, like a childhood teddy bear or a keepsake, that provide comfort during challenging times. The notion of transitional objects was developed by pediatrician and psychotherapist Donald Winnicott; they serve as a bridge between our internal emotions and the external world. But what role do they play in our adult lives, and can our reliance on them sometimes indicate deeper, problematic issues that need addressing?
From phones as modern-day comfort objects to the role of transitional objects in relationships, we explore both the benefits and potential pitfalls of these psychological safety nets. Stick around to uncover how understanding transitional objects can help you improve your relationships and personal well-being. Don't forget to head over to therelationshipmaze.com for more resources and take our free argument style quiz to discover your conflict style in relationships. Let's get started!
00:00 Psychotherapy term stems from child-mother separation.
05:22 Comfort objects provide a sense of security.
07:09 Transitional objects provide comfort and reassurance.
09:45 Negative emotions labeled bad, need to change.
15:35 Reflect on the impact of digital disconnection.
17:03 Using Niles' presence and hair for winning.
21:05 Questioning projection and expectations in relationships.
24:43 Therapy is important for personal development.Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
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Welcome to another episode of The Relationship Maze. Today, we're diving into the intriguing concept of liminality. Have you ever felt stuck in a transitional space, like when you're between jobs or navigating a significant change in your relationship? That disorienting, ambiguous phase is what we explore in this episode.
Originating from anthropology, liminality describes the period between pre-ritual status and the completion of a rite of passage. We'll discuss how these transitional spaces can be both unsettling and transformative, impacting areas like adolescence, career changes, and relationship shifts.
We'll also touch on how understanding and navigating liminality can lead to personal growth and creativity. So if you're in a period of flux and looking for ways to find balance and direction, stay tuned. And don't forget to check out our online course and free resources at therelationshipmaze.com to help you along your journey.
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00:00 Exploring the concept of liminality in life.
03:42 Transitioning through life stages can be disorienting.
09:18 Recognizing and tolerating uncertainty in liminal spaces.
11:23 Struggles in reaching goals lead to challenges.
13:28 Trusting leads to new levels of thought.
16:30 Break down overwhelming feelings, find distance, surf.
21:57 Frustrating tip-of-the-tongue experience; mind finds solutions.
23:03 Acknowledging liminal space, acknowledging time for change.Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
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Welcome to another episode of The Relationship Maze! Today, hosts Angela and Tom delve deep into the complex and often challenging emotion of anger, particularly within the context of relationships. They explore what anger is, when it can be healthy to express it, and strategies for managing it effectively. Anger is frequently a secondary emotion in response to a primary one, such as sadness or hopelessness. In this episode your hosts discuss anger from the perspective of someone who as is angry as well as the perspective of the partner who is at the receiving end of anger.
Tom and Angela look at the underlying emotions that drive anger and at ways that enable you to communicate more effectively during heated moments. Plus, they discuss the impact of past experiences on how we express and perceive anger. The way you relate to anger is very much informed by your past. Tune in as we navigate this fiery emotion and learn how to transform it for healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
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00:00 Understanding and managing anger in relationships.
03:34 Blaming and anger often stem from underlying emotions.
07:04 Seeking help to manage perceived threats.
10:42 Learned behavior from parental influence shapes responses.
13:35 Factors affecting relationship success and personal reflection.
17:20 Reflect on anger, seek therapy for understanding.
18:56 Effect of being in a relationship with anger.
23:44 Therapy can help address and understand anger.
26:11 Learn to manage anger and develop relationships.
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Welcome to another episode of The Relationship Maze!
In today's episode, "Relationship Mistakes," hosts Tom and Angela dive into some of the most common pitfalls that couples face and provide insights on how to avoid them to create happier, more fulfilling relationships. Drawing from their extensive experience with couples therapy, they explore issues like blaming your partner, the importance of honesty, and the critical role of active listening.
Whether you're looking to improve your current relationship or establish a solid foundation in a new one, this episode is packed with valuable advice. Don't forget to visit therelationshipmaze.com for more resources and subscribe to stay updated. Let's begin!
00:00 In relationships, take ownership and avoid blaming.
06:37 Past experiences influence interpretation of current events.
08:29 Blaming and protective identification in psychotherapy discussed.
11:23 Honesty in relationships is crucial for harmony.
14:50 Trust and communication build stronger relationships.
20:30 Active listening: engaging, curious, understanding partner's perspective.
22:01 Listening for intention, not just gathering information.
24:28 Active listening and empathy are crucial components.
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Welcome to today's episode of The Relationship Maze! In this episode, hosts Angela and Tom dive deep into the complex topic of self-esteem. They explore the origins of self-esteem, including how early relational experiences shape our perception of ourselves. Angela and Tom discuss the impact of low self-esteem on different areas of life, from relationships to work, and delve into the challenges of changing ingrained beliefs about ourselves. Together, they provide insights on how to challenge and shift these beliefs to cultivate a healthier sense of self-worth. Join us on this insightful journey of self-discovery and personal growth on The Relationship Maze.
00:00 Exploring the importance and building of self-esteem.
03:36 Self-esteem affects life choices and outcomes.
08:44 Possible genetic influence on differences in interpretation.
11:07 Changing self-perception can lead to happiness.
14:55 Situations can impact self-esteem; not always bad parenting.
18:03 Reevaluate beliefs, fears, and feelings for self-esteem.
21:14 Exploring beliefs and limitations to improve life.
22:46 Self-care and self-respect improve relationships and happiness.
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Do you sometimes find yourself feeling lonely or know someone who regularly experiences that deep, isolating feeling? Loneliness is a complex and challenging emotion that touches many of us at different points in life.
Welcome back to The Relationship Maze, where we're here to untangle the intricate emotions in your relationships and guide you towards connection and understanding. In today's episode, we're diving deep into the profound impact of loneliness. We'll explore why some people feel this disconnection more intensely than others and discuss the intricate dance of human connection that begins from infancy.
Together, we'll uncover the underlying factors contributing to loneliness and share practical strategies to overcome it, including the importance of therapy and building meaningful relationships. If you're looking to improve your connection with yourself and others, this episode is for you.
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00:00 Feeling lonely despite being with groups.
06:02 Close mother-baby bond crucial for child development.
07:47 Building secure bond between child and parents.
11:31 Beliefs about being unlovable affect relationships deeply.
14:02 Beliefs impact connection and behavior in relationships.
19:42 Relearning connections, building self-acceptance, seeking new experiences.
21:57 Connecting with people, coping with loneliness, therapy.
23:55 Encouragement to listen, subscribe, and visit website.
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Welcome to another engaging episode of "The Relationship Maze" podcast. In today’s discussion, Angela and Tom dive into the intriguing world of Transactional Analysis, particularly focusing on the Parent-Adult-Child model introduced by Eric Berne.
This model helps us understand the dynamics of our communications and interactions in relationships—be they personal, professional, or casual. By examining how we often revert to childlike or parental behaviours during conversations, our hosts explore how these roles impact our relationships and how becoming more aware of these dynamics can lead to healthier and more satisfying interactions.
Get ready to uncover which ego state you might be operating from and learn strategies to foster more adult-to-adult dialogues. Join us as we navigate the complexities of communication in relationships, aiming for more fulfilling connections.
00:00 Improving communication with transactional analysis and resources.
06:27 Rebelling against being told what to do.
07:47 Adult ego state reacts logically to situations.
12:24 Partner reactions triggered by past experiences quickly.
15:33 Partners need to communicate like adults.
18:29 Reflect on reactions and behaviors in conflicts.
22:00 Balancing playful and responsible parenting dynamics.
23:02 Temporary usefulness of rebellious child state.
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Welcome to The Relationship Maze podcast. In this episode, we delve into the complexities of experiential avoidance, a common psychological phenomenon where individuals steer clear of situations that evoke negative emotions.
Hosts Tom and Angela explore the underlying fears that drive this behaviour, such as the worry that addressing certain topics might negatively impact their relationships. They discuss how these fears are often rooted in past experiences and societal conditioning which teach us to suppress so-called negative emotions.
Join us as we uncover the significance of facing these uncomfortable situations to foster deeper intimacy and stronger connections in relationships. We'll also provide practical guidance on how to recognize and manage the physical sensations and thoughts associated with these challenging emotions, ultimately helping you lead a more fulfilling life. Stay tuned to learn how to navigate the emotional landscapes of your relationships more effectively.
00:00 Overcome avoidance for better, fulfilling relationships.
04:39 Avoiding conflict in relationships due to fear.
07:16 Shortsighted way of interacting, withholding truth from partner.
12:18 Clients' childhood emotional experiences impact current behavior.
16:11 Avoidance driven by unknown uncomfortable feelings, disconnection.
17:10 Identify feelings, tune into the body.
21:13 Open communication fosters intimacy and connection.
24:30 Encouraging openness and curiosity in a relationship.
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In today's episode of The Relationship Maze, we explore the concept of projection and its impact on relationships. Join Tom and Angela as they delve into the fascinating topic of projection, shedding light on how our past experiences shape our perceptions of others.
They discuss how projection can influence our attraction to certain people and how it impacts our behavior in relationships. Through insightful examples and discussions, they highlight the importance of self-awareness and how understanding our projections can lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections.
Stay tuned as they offer practical tips and tools for navigating the intricate web of projection in relationships. Don't forget to visit the relationshipmaze.com for additional resources and information. This thought-provoking episode will deepen your understanding of projection and its role in relationships.
00:00 Early experiences shape our understanding of the world
05:32 Raising voice can signal fear or danger.
10:06 Exploring the shadow side and projection onto others.
13:23 Understanding personal emotions and projections in relationships.
15:50 Couples therapy theories: Familiarity in partner attraction.
17:50 Understanding projection gives control over subconscious behaviors.
22:07 Reflect on experiences, emotions through daily journaling.
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Welcome to a new episode of "The Relationship Maze" where we dive into the complexities of your critical, inner voice and the impact it has on our relationships. In this episode, Tom and Angela explore the role of the inner critic, discussing why it might have developed, its effects on your life and ways to manage it for a more positive experience in your relationships. They delve into the impact of early experiences, schooling, and social media on developing and reinforcing the inner critic, offering insights and practical techniques to challenge and detach from negative self-talk. Join us as we navigate through the maze of our inner thoughts and learn to cultivate a more compassionate relationship with ourselves.
00:00 Negative emotions can impact performance and relationships.
04:57 Developing soothing inner voice is important.
07:17 Insecure childhood attachments affect self-worth and relationships.
11:48 Agreement leads to public scrutiny and feedback.
15:46 Create character names to represent inner critic.
18:33 Negative self-talk hinders performance and meaning.
19:54 Adapting to criticism requires time and practice.
23:21 Writing down self-talk helps identify patterns.
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Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
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In this episode of "The Relationship Maze," Tom and Angela dive into the different developmental stages of relationships, exploring the model developed by Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson from the Couples Institute.
Drawing parallels with early childhood development, they discuss the stages of adult relationships: symbiosis, differentiation, practicing, rapprochement, and mutual interdependence. Each of these stages serves a specific function in the development of the relationship and each of these stages requires particular developmental tasks of each individual as well as the couple as a team.
Tom and Angela unpack the challenges and dynamics couples face at each stage, from the initial euphoria of the honeymoon phase to the struggles of couples who don't move beyond this initial stage. These often present in couples therapy and face the challenges of enmeshment or hostile dependency. Tom and Angela also touch on the complexities of partners being at different stages in relationships and provide insights into navigating these relationship stages towards a healthier and fulfilling connection.
If you're looking to understand and improve your relationships, join Tom and Angela as they guide you through this enlightening exploration.
00:00 Couples Institute's relationship model based on developmental stages.
05:52 Stages of couple relationships: symbiosis and differentiation.
06:59 Seeing people in a different light is natural.
11:49 Practicing stage focuses on individual autonomy and self-esteem.
15:26 Stage of relationship development towards mutual interdependence.
18:16 Mutual interdependence creates a secure, mature relationship.
19:59 Rare to have partners at different stages.
25:12 Couple therapy: partners' different developmental phases challenge.
26:57 Visit relationshipmaze.com for improving your relationships.
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Welcome to another insightful episode of The Relationship Maze. In today's episode Tom and Angela dive into the challenges of online dating, particularly the phenomenon of ghosting.
They discuss the impact of being ghosted, potential reasons for ghosting, and offer valuable insights into maintaining a positive attitude and healthy mindset when navigating the complexities of modern dating. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of how to approach early stages of dating and learn strategies for building fulfilling relationships in the digital age.
00:00 Challenges of online dating addressed in podcast.
03:54 Traditional dating relied on personal connections, trust.
09:42 Overwhelmed with choice due to restaurant abundance.
11:10 Early dating involves projecting rather than knowing.
13:36 Early red flags signal potential relationship issues.
18:45 Building connections takes time for genuine attraction.
22:17 Online dating takes time and patience.
24:27 Take time, attraction can develop, respect yourself.
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In today's episode of The Relationship Maze, Tom and Angela delve into the world of warning signs in relationships, focusing on both early and later indicators of potential problems.
They discuss the yellow flags that may indicate areas of concern in a relationship, such as inconsistent attention, dismissive behaviour, lack of communication, issues with ex-partners, differing life stages, mental health challenges, and deceptive dating profiles. Join them as they navigate through the complexities of relationship warning signs and offer valuable insights on how to identify and address potential red flags.
Tune in to gain valuable insights that may help you navigate the maze of relationships with confidence and clarity.
00:00 Recognizing red and yellow relationship warning signs.
03:17 Yellow flag: partner's ambiguity about relationship.
08:52 Cultural influences on emotional expression in men.
11:44 Watch for warning signs of negative behavior.
15:14 Friend disapproval could be a red flag.
18:41 Past experiences can affect relationships, self-esteem.
21:05 Excessive reassurance can become coercive control.
24:55 Deception and mistrust in relationships over concealment.
27:26 Age prejudice complicates the need for honesty.Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
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Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.
Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up. -
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Welcome to today's episode of "The Relationship Maze." In this episode hosts Tom and Angela delve into the early warning indicators of potentially problematic relationships. They discuss warning signs such as physical and emotional abuse, gaslighting, love bombing, excessive jealousy, boundary violations, and substance abuse.
With insights into each warning sign, they provide valuable advice on what to look out for in relationships and how to navigate these challenges. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of these warning signs and learn how to address them effectively.
So, join us on this enlightening exploration of the intricate dynamics of relationships.
00:00 Early warning signs in a new relationship.
05:28 Abusive relationships and coercive control explained briefly.
07:25 Gaslighting overlaps with abusive relationships, affecting mental health.
10:11 Expressions of strong emotions in relationships are critical.
15:15 Podcast discusses narcissism and love bombing tactics.
17:40 Evaluating partner behavior, signs of unhealthy relationship.
21:17 Supportive help needed for partner with addiction.
23:51 Recognize and address relationship boundary violations.
Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
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Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.
Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
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Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.
Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up. -
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In this episode of "The Relationship Maze," hosts Tom and Angela dive into the complex question of how to know if you truly love someone.
They explore the different stages and dynamics of love in relationships, including the early passionate phase, the role of attraction, the challenges of unconditional love, and the importance of differentiation in couple relationships . They emphasize the need for continuous reflection and communication in relationships to prevent crises and maintain a healthy, loving connection.
With practical insights and thought-provoking discussions, this episode provides a comprehensive exploration of the multifaceted nature of love in relationships.
Join Tom and Angela as they unravel the intricacies of love and offer valuable guidance for nurturing and sustaining meaningful connections.
00:00 Distinguishing between falling in love and loving.
03:23 Instant chemistry in relationships is often problematic.
08:28 Unconditional love requires meeting agreed needs.
11:53 Transition from idealization to realistic perception in relationships.
16:40 Evaluate relationship, prioritize well-being over love.
19:19 Review love, clarify desires in relationship, understand.
24:08 Prioritize communication and understanding in relationships.
Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
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Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.
Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
Tom's website
Angela's website
Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.
Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up. -
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In this episode of "The Relationship Maze" podcast, Tom and Angela delve into the complex topic of arguments and conflict in relationships. They discuss the inevitability of disagreements between partners and emphasize the importance of understanding and effectively managing arguments. The hosts provide valuable insights into the different types of arguments and the underlying issues that may lead to conflicts in relationships. They address the significance of recognizing one's conflict style and offer practical tips for handling arguments in a constructive manner. Additionally, they highlight the potential for deeper connection and personal growth that can arise from navigating conflicts with openness and understanding. Tune in to gain valuable insights into how to navigate arguments and conflicts in relationships and discover strategies for fostering healthier and more fulfilling connections with your partner.
00:00 Conflicts in relationships are inevitable due to differences.
05:11 Peeling away layers to reveal deeper issues.
08:09 Relationship issues stem from childhood learned behaviors.
11:31 Recognizing stonewalling to improve relationship patterns.
15:31 Identify patterns and intentions in partner behavior.
18:34 Consider tone to avoid sounding blaming. Create understanding.
20:53 Conflict can deepen connection in relationships.
23:39 Openness in discussing change is crucial.
Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
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Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.
Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
Tom's website
Angela's website
Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.
Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up. -
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Welcome to The Relationship Maze podcast! Today, we're diving into the 10 most annoying habits that partners have, and exploring what it means for your relationship. Tom and Angela discuss common grievances that can become major frustrations and provide insights on how to address these annoyances and create a more harmonious relationship.
Stay tuned to learn how to navigate through these common relationship pitfalls and improve your connection with your partner.
00:00 Dealing with annoying partner habits for better relationship.03:36 Engage in active listening for effective communication.
08:22 Overcoming challenges in perception, noise, and therapy.
12:15 Celebrate small tasks to associate good feelings.
13:46 Household task imbalance causes relationship dynamic shift.
16:50 Limit phone use in important situations.
22:23 Controversial BBC show teaches dog training for husbands.
24:30 Visit relationshipmaze.com for relationship improvement tips.
Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
Tom's website
Angela's website
Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.
Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
Tom's website
Angela's website
Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.
Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up. - Laat meer zien
