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In this Episode of The Tapping Solution Podcast we join the Iyanla Vanzant, star of the TV hit show, "Iyanla: Fix My Life" on the OWN network, for an interview conducted by Jessica Ortner. In this interview Iyanla shares how to purge toxic thoughts and emotions from your life so that you can create a life full of financial abundance, emotional happiness, fulfilling relationships and more...
Years before Iyanla became the star of her hit show "Iyanla: Fix My Life" she was stuck in patterns of toxic thoughts and emotions herself.
Coping with trauma from childhood abuse, punishing herself emotionally, struggling financially with a poverty consciousness, and so much more.
But she learned how to overcome those toxic thoughts and emotions, and create a life full of abundance, joy, and love.
Some of the things Iyanla will share with you in this interview include:
- How she started using Tapping to change her life nearly 16 years ago, and why she still loves this technique for creating personal change. (And why she always uses this technique with people on her show, even though it's not always shown!)
- Why it's important to increase your emotional library to be able to express and release stuck emotions.
- The power of love - Why she believes that there is no wound deep enough that love cannot heal, and how you can make the oftentimes difficult shift to finally loving and accepting yourself.
- How to overcome lack consciousness. Iyanla struggled with finances even when she was earning over a million dollars a year! She'll share why you need to shift your energy and beliefs around money in order to be able to create abundance, regardless of how much you're earning.
- And much more!
This is a heartfelt, laugh-out-loud video that I know you'll love.
This audio, pulled from the video interview conducted with Iyanla, is part of the pre-event video series for the upcoming 16th Annual Tapping World Summit. To access the other videos in the pre-event video series and to get free access to the full 10 days of the online event for free, go here.
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In this Episode of The Tapping Solution Podcast we join the late Wayne Dyer for an interview conducted by Nick Ortner shortly before his passing. Wayne was an internationally renowned author and speaker in the fields of self-development and spiritual growth. Over the four decades of his career, he wrote more than 40 books, including 21 New York Times bestsellers.
In this interview, youâll hear some of Wayneâs story and how at the age of 34 he drove to Biloxi, Mississippi to visit the grave of his father, an alcoholic and an abusive man who had abandoned him, his mother and two brothers when he was just an infant. Although his father had died 10 years earlier, Wayne had only just found out about his death.
He drove to the grave that day with a level of anger so great, so deep from years of built up hurt, that he had two tasks in mind: To find out if it was even acknowledged on his death certificate that Wayne was his son, and to literally "pee" on the grave of the father that he held all this hatred, anger and resentment towards for 34 years. What came out of that visit, however, completely and forever changed his life. It is one of the most beautiful stories you'll ever hear. It shares a message of forgiveness, and it's power to transform, that is truly life-changing.
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All too often we feel pressure from the outside world, whether that be our family, friends, society, social media, or others about what we âshouldâ be doing with our lives. But success looks different to each of us.
When YOU think about it, what does âsuccessâ mean to you? What does âbeing productiveâ look like to you?
If youâre not clear on what those look like for you, youâll easily feel lost and susceptible to pressure from others about what you âshouldâ be doing.
So in this episode weâll be talking about how to define your productivity so that you can get more done in less time, with less stress in a way that allows you to be truly happy and fulfilled in your everyday life! And all while moving you towards a future that YOU choose!
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Do you struggle with your self esteem and confidence at times (or all the time?!). Even if you believe you have good overall self esteem and confidence, itâs likely that in the areas that you want to grow, that you do not have as much as youâd like, and itâs holding you back.
Thatâs why in this episode Iâll be sharing 6 things you can do right now to build your self esteem and confidence! Better self confidence allows you to feel more comfortable in social situations, learn more easily, perform better physically, take more risks and feel safe doing it, and much more. It essentially allows you to access the higher resources of your brain so you can be your full self and feel safe doing so.
In this episode Iâll be covering:
Why most information out there on this topic feels unrealistic, impractical and like an oversimplification of the struggles that can come with lacking self esteem. How to look at self esteem in a way that allows you to disconnect from it being who you are, so that you can change your brains wiring and build up confidenceWhy you need to tell yourself a better lie (youâll see what I meanâŠ) The story of the âAlex is Awesomeâ necklace that I gave to my sister! :) The 3 acknowledgements that will open you up to growing your belief in yourselfThe question you need to ask if you have a negative critical voiceThe common belief that people get wrong about building confidence that holds them back from taking action. How to retrain your brain to find the things youâre good atAnd of course it will all be brought together with a guided Tapping process that will raise your confidence and put you on the path to building real self esteem!Rate, Review and Follow on Apple Podcasts
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In this Episode of The Tapping Solution Podcast Alex Ortner asks the important question of âWhat Are You Doing When Nobody Is Watchingâ and explains why this question is so importantâŠ
He shares how constant comparison has led to a culture of ânot enoughness,â where we constantly feel not enough compared to others and stuck moving forward, and shares 3 things you can do right now to bring your attention away from comparison to being on your path of peace, fulfillment, joy and yes, success!
Through this process, which includes a powerful guided Tapping session, youâll learn the importance of paying attention to what youâre doing when nobody is watching, and why this is one of the unseen secrets of many of the worldâs happiest, healthiest and wealthiest.
After you listen, if youâd like to go deeper with Tapping, download The Tapping Solution App for FREE on iOS and Android.
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In this Episode of The Tapping Solution Podcast Alex Ortner shares why goals suck, and how to make them not suck!
He shares the science and research around what is going on in our brain that makes setting and achieving goals so difficult (and unsafe!) and shares a powerful 6 step process to finally get past the brain mechanisms holding you back so you can achieve.
He also shares the 3 critical mindset shifts that need to happen around goals (so that they donât suck!) and takes you through a Tapping process to begin creating these shifts.
Donât let another year go by feeling frustrated that youâre still not creating the change you want. Listen to this episode, follow the actions, and see the change!
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In this Episode of The Tapping Solution Podcast Alex Ortner will detail why it is that rejection and feeling left out can feel so painful and what you can do to stop worrying about what other people think.
Youâll learn about the research that shows the link between physical pain and rejection in the brain and how the fear of rejection is deeply rooted in our survival mechanisms.
Youâll also be guided through a soothing Tapping process to begin to release the worry of what others think so that you can begin to take your power, freedom and future back!
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In this Episode of The Tapping Solution Podcast Alex Ortner will take you through 7 areas where the science and research is proving EFT Tapping to be a game changer.
Youâll not only be just as wowed by the results as many of the researchers were (in one case so much so that they reran the test because the results were so good!) but youâll also learn how these results are applicable to improving the quality of your life.
And as the research is proving, using EFT Tapping for our physical, mental, and emotional health is a necessity if we want to live and long and full life.
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In this Episode of The Tapping Solution Podcast with Alex Ortner you'll learn all about how your habitual emotional vocabulary is impacting your life.
Youâll discover how it is dictating your everyday experience and how you can find and change your own habitual emotional vocabulary to transform your daily experience of life.
Youâll also be taken through a transformational EFT Tapping process that you can use whenever you need it, to make it easier to change the emotions you experience every day.
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In this Episode 97 of The Tapping Solution Podcast, Alex Ortner interviews our friend Dean Graziosi, who is running the upcoming Time to Thrive Challenge with Tony Robbins, on the important topic of How to Live Up to Your Potential & Not Let It Die Inside of You.
They talk about how to thrive during tough times, and what really makes the difference between stepping into your fullest potential vs. staying stagnant in your life.
Learn how you can prepare yourself for the future by tapping into the true power inside you, despite whatâs happening with the economy or whatever circumstances you might be experiencing.
Remember to also join the Time to Thrive Challenge for FREE by clicking here!
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In this Episode 96 of The Tapping Solution Podcast, Alex Ortner will show you step-by-step what is going on when youâre feeling stuck with fear, but more importantly what you can do to finally take action despite the fear!
Heâll talk about the Action Gauge and how you can use it to tell if youâll actually take action on something and then share 8 strategies you can use to help you to take more consistent action.
And then heâll of course end the podcast with some life-transforming EFT Tapping to help shift into taking action, despite any fear you may be feeling.
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In this Episode 95 of The Tapping Solution Podcast, Alex Ortner shows us how to use a simple 2 step process to get calm and focused for the day. This powerful process, which utilizes EFT Tapping, will help you to eliminate the outside distractions that typically eat up our attention and energy so that you can get more done in 4 hours in a day than you normally would in 8.
All of this is based on science and research and understanding how the brain works, and how negative emotions, beliefs, traumas and more can keep us from accessing our higher faculties. Youâll go through 2 powerful EFT Tapping processes at 16 minutes and 30 minutes.
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Do you ever say yes when you want to say no? Do you feel overly invested in the decisions and feelings of others? When we donât have healthy boundaries we begin to lose ourselves and experience resentment. Learn the keys to healthy boundaries so you can feel free to live your best life.
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In this episode Jessica speaks with international bestselling author Shawn Stevenson about the profound impact that food has on every aspect of our lives. They discuss his book, Eat Smarter, and the fascinating new science about how food controls our metabolism, memory, sleep, and so much more.
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Never has there been a more important time, in my lifetime, than 2020 to cultivate hope. A pandemic, racial anxiety, quarantining⊠it can all be a little overwhelming, to say the least!
So how do we go about pushing forward and envisioning a better future for ourselves in the midst of all this challenge? How do we go about seeing it better, so that we can make it better?
It all starts⊠with hope.
Todayâs conversation is all about cultivating hope to drive our lives forward.Weâll dive deep into understanding how without hope, we feel powerless to create change in our lives. Without hope, we lack motivation to move forward, to be resilient, to push through adversity to reach our goals.
When we lack hope, we stay stuck in fear, constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop, expecting the worst to happen.
Hope allows us to tolerate failures and disappointments to keep moving forward in creating the life, and the world, that we want.
When we learn to cultivate hope, which is a learned behavior, not simply an emotion, we stay motivated in taking action towards what we want in life.
Weâll not only talk about hope, but also do Tapping to cultivate hope!
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The definition of hope is a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen. It is about allowing yourself to dream.Hope is about having the ability to influence and direct your future in the direction you want. The opposite of feeling powerlessness.In order to be hopeful and move toward a future we want, we have to be flexible and be able to tolerate failure and disappointment, recognizing that this does not define us as who we are.Hope is a learned behavior and we need to recognize that this learned experience is one we can work through, addressing safety first to cultivate hope and create an empowering future.Real hope carries with it confidence and desire and faith and anticipation and aspirationâŠimportant emotions that allow us to drive ourselves forward.Tapping will help lower the intensity of past events and traumas that support a belief that we canât be hopeful, and it also opens us up to create new experiences and cultivate new beliefs to overpower the negative beliefs and move you forward in a positive direction.start_timestampsEpisode Start: 00:01:17About the Tapping Solution App: 00:01:54Definition of Hope: 00:05:08Why we want to cultivate hope: 00:08:22Hope is a learned behavior: 00:13:28Hope is also about an emotion under the words: 00:16:00Can you feel hopeful and visualize an empowering future?: 00:17:30How our amygdala helps us feel safe and how tapping helps: 00:18:18Tapping Session on Hope: 00:24:55Intro Intensity Rating: 00:25:01End of Tapping Intensity Rating: 00:33:56Closing: 00:13:48
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Alex Ortner:
Hey guys, Alex here with the Tapping Solution Podcast and the Tapping Solution App. I am so excited to be here with you today because for the very first time Iâm not only recording this via audio, Iâm actually recording the video as well, which Iâm personally excited about. Iâm an expressive person, I like to be able to show my emotions, I am an emotional person. And so, Iâm excited to actually record it via video so we can share this on YouTube and Facebook and all the other social media platforms. So, if youâre watching me here via video, thank you, you can see my mic. And, if youâre listening to your audio like normally, thank you so much for listening in and tuning in to our tapping solution podcast. Hopefully all of you, whether youâre listening via audio or video, that youâve gone and downloaded our tapping solution app because our tapping solution app is absolutely life-changing. Weâve had over two million listens to the tapping meditations. You can go download it for free in the App Store or Google Play. Make sure you go do that. I might actually share a little special surprise about the app at the end of this podcast so stay tuned for that. Iâm excited for that.
So, todayâs conversation is gonna be all about hope. Itâs about, how do we cultivate hope to drive our lives forward. And, hope is a really important emotion, itâs a really important practice for us to have on an ongoing basis. I actually just finished recording a master class for our tapping insiders, thatâs why I decided to record this particular podcast today, because I wanted to share some of the messages that I shared with our tapping insiders club. And so, you know, I want to start off just by defining what exactly hope is and we will do tapping today, donât worry, we always do tapping on these podcasts as well. Weâll talk about how we use tapping to actually cultivate that hope in to drive our emotions to change any underlying challenges that we have. And, Iâll talk about specifically what those things are that keep us from allowing ourselves to feel hopeful.
And, I know that right now weâre in the middle of a, literally a global pandemic with Covid 19. And, I know that thereâs a lot of stress around race and how our society, how our police treat different people of color whether it be black or hispanic. And so, Iâm, you know, let me first off say that Iâm a huge supporter of the Black Lives Matter movement. I believe that itâs an important movement. Iâm so glad, Iâm hopeful, right. Iâm hopeful that it is going to cultivate real change in our society and itâs definitely been an eye-opener for me in terms of some of the things that I took for granted in my life.
I did grow up with some very small amount of, you know, issues when it came to race because I was born in Argentina, I was hispanic, I, you know, that was, I was reminded of that numerous times growing up in middle school and high school that I was Spanish. But, I was still predominantly, you know, in a very white community here in Brookfield, Connecticut. I live in Newtown, Connecticut now but, just that small amount of experience where my race was brought up always hurt and I cannot even imagine what people of color experience on an ongoing, regular basis.
So, I wanted to say that I really support this movement in a big way. And so, with all this stuff going on with Covid 19, with racial anxiety in our country, itâs more important than ever to actually be hopeful and to actually cultivate hope in our lives. Because, I know that a lot of people have thought like, where in the world is the world turning right now, right. Whatâs going on with our economy, with our health, with our world, with everything. And so, for me, I am extremely hopeful that all of this is for the good. And so, hopefully you are cultivating hope. But, If not, weâre going to talk about exactly how we go about doing that today on the podcast.
And so, you know, let me just start off by defining what hope actually is. So, hope is a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen, right. Let me say that again, hope is a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen. Hope is really about dreaming, right. Hope is about allowing yourself to dream, to see a future that is more empowering than the future or then your current life right now when you see a future where there is positive change, where your life is better, where those people around youâs lives are better. Where you believe thatâs actually a possibility.
Now, hope is not always easy and sometimes we cannot cultivate hope, we cannot feel hopeful, and Iâll talk about exactly what the reasons are for that today. And, weâll talk about how we can release those things, you know, rewire our brain and our beliefs around some of those things and actually lower some of the emotional intensity we have around our inability to oftentimes feel hopeful. And, a lot of that has to do with safety, right. So, hope is about feeling safe, to expect good things in the future.
And, if youâre not able to feel safe, to actually feel hopeful. A lot of times that can be because of past traumas, past experiences. I know I was doing my master class a little bit ago and somebody said, oh, I feel like Iâm always waiting for the other shoe to drop, right. Itâs an expression Iâve heard a lot when coaching people on this issue is that, Iâm waiting for the other shoe to drop. Meaning, that I donât like to be hopeful because Iâm worried or Iâm just expecting that something bad is going to happen. Again, that has to do with our experiences, our past experiences. And so, I donât want to feel hopeful because we donât want to be hurt when things donât go our way, when thereâs disappointment, when there is failure, when all those things happen. So, it doesnât feels safe to be hopeful.
So, weâll talk about how we can actually move past that challenge of safety to be able to visualize a better future because we want to be able to visualize and see a better future for ourselves. Because, otherwise, how are we gonna create that future, right. If you canât see it in your mindâs eye first, how are you going to create it in the world. I always love the example of Walt Disney when it comes to visualization. How Walt Disney saw Disney World in his mind before anybody else did. He was rejected hundreds of times, I donât know what the actual number is, but a lot of times by different banks who did not believe in his vision. But, he stayed true to that. So, weâll talk a little bit about that.
So, hope is about feeling that you have the power to influence and direct your future, right. I want to say it again. Itâs about having the ability or the feeling that you have the power to influence and direct your future in the direction you want. And, just as importantly, itâs important to note that it is the opposite of feeling powerlessness where you do not have the power and influence to direct your future. If you feel powerless, you will not fell hopeful, you will not be able to cultivate hope because youâll go, well, I donât have the power to direct myself or direct my life or direct our society or culture in the direction that you want. So, when powerlessness takes over it becomes really difficult to cultivate hope. And, again, weâll talk about why do we want to cultivate hope, because it is really important to be able to do that.
Actually, why donât we just jump to that first to say that. So, an interesting thing that I hear a lot about online, hope is not a strategy, right. Hope is not a strategy. And, they kind of, for me, they kind of poo poo on hope a little bit. And, I get it. Hope is definitely not a strategy. But, hereâs the thing, hope is not a strategy, but it is a requirement for creating a better future. Youâre not going to just hope a better future into existence.
But, in order for you to be able to develop the strategy that you have, and more importantly to stick to the strategy that you have, you have to have hope. You have to come from a place of hope where you have faith in that future. We have belief in that future, where you believe you can get there. So, hope is not a strategy, but it is a requirement for creating a better future. So, you know, thatâs why we want to make sure that we are cultivating hope and that we are feeling hopeful as much as possible.
Could I say hope any more times in, you know, in a small period of time. I think Iâve said it about a hundred times already. Hope is also about being flexible and resilient as you move forward. You have to be resilient and flexible as you move forward. And, you have to recognize that you will have to adjust on this path. It takes persistence and hard work to achieve any desired future. And, think about it like this, if you were to want to walk on a path, you know, if youâre walking through the woods and you want to get to a particular destination, if you look at that path as a straight line, you would start to walk and youâd hit a tree or youâd hit a rock or youâd hit a stump or youâd hit a low branch, youâd hit something right. And, you wouldnât be able to move forward through the woods. We have to be able to go around a tree, under a branch, over a stump, around a rock. Sometimes you might have to go through crazy shrubbery, thatâs really difficult. But you have to keep finding your way forward. You have to be resilient. You have to be flexible in finding yourway forward.
Sometimes people stop themselves from moving forward because they hit obstacles in their life and they go, well, look, I failed, I picked the wrong path, I shouldnât have done this, Iâm so disappointed, Iâm just gonna stand here and wallow in my disappointment and be stuck where I am. Rather than going, great, now Iâve got to pivot, Iâve got to adjust, right. In 2020, if this is not a lesson in pivoting and adjusting, I donât know what is. Because, it is absolutely a huge impediment that we all have faced as a society, individually, with business owners, individually with people, with their finances, with their health, pivoting their health and saying, hey, you know what, I want to take care of my health, I got to do a better job because I want to be healthy in case I have to face a virus like this. So, itâs, when we face these obstacles we have to be able to be flexible and resilient to move forward.
And, that goes for when you create that empowering future for yourself. When you want to be hopeful about your future you have to understand that you will face failure and disappointment, right. So, hope is about being able to tolerate failure and disappointment and being able to keep your eye on the future that you want. If youâre walking through that path in the woods or as I should say, path because youâre not walking on a path, youâre just saying, hey, Iâm gonna go to that in that direction to that place where I want to go. Youâre gonna have to tolerate that thereâs gonna be obstacles in your way. Youâre gonna have to tolerate that you might go in one direction and then face some huge bush of prickers and you got to go around and go in a different direction, right. Youâd never think, oh, Iâm gonna quit here, Iâve reached the tree or poison ivy, or whatever it might be. Youâd go around, youâd go a different way. So, in order to be hopeful, in order to be able to move towards a future that we want, we have to be flexible and we have to tolerate failure and disappointment.
And, also recognize that that failure and disappointment does not define us, right. Really important to understand, failure and disappointment does not define us as who we are. Failure and disappointment are necessities to move forward in the direction that we want to create the life that we want. And so, when you can actually have those failures and have those disappointments and understand that they are not a reflection of you or your character, but a natural part of life, of moving towards a journey, when you can tolerate those things and redirect and move your energy forward in the direction you want as quickly as possible, that is when you will actually reach your goal, right. Again, walking through the woods, the longer you take standing in front of that tree being disappointed that you ran into a tree the longer itâs gonna take you to pivot and go around that tree and keep going in the direction that you want.
Same goes in life with any of the challenges that we face, we have to be able to pivot and move quickly and not get stuck in those failures and disappointments and recognize that if you walk into the woods and hit a tree itâs not because youâre a bad walker, itâs not that youâre not capable. Same goes for when you are trying to reach a destination in life. If you fail, if you are disappointed, it is not a reflection of your character, but a natural and normal part of moving forward in a journey at any point. So, the more you can tolerate that failure and disappointment, the stronger that you will be able to create the life that you want.
And so, hope is, itâs a learned behavior. Itâs interesting, when I was researching before I went to do my master class for tapping insiders club that, you know, hope is not a feeling, itâs a learned behavior. And, itâs a thought process, itâs a way to think through your life, itâs a way you think about different obstacles that come in your way where you feel hopeful in moving forwards towards those things. And, again, you can, depending on your life and what has happened, you might have different reactions to different things that happen in your life. And so, for example, for me when I look at all of the racial tension and challenges that weâve had with, you know, I mean heartbreaking watching the George Floyd video, I donât know anybody whoâs not heartbroken watching that video. And just, watching some of the other videos that have been online.
But, I look at those things and for me, the meaning I give for them is one of hope. To go, now we have hope for creating real systemic change in our society. I look at the same thing with Covid 19 right now. Maybe this will motivate people to take better care of their health. Maybe this will motivate people to look at our food system and what weâre doing to our food. Maybe this will motivate people to think about how we can act differently in society. So, for me, I look at all these things and I give them meaning of hope, right, not despair, not of things going badly, but hope. And, we always have the choice of how we want to look at something, at what meaning we want to give it. And so, super important that we cultivate this learned though process of actually cultivating hope and recognize that if you are not able to cultivate hope as easily as youâd like. Not because youâre necessarily doing anything wrong, but it is a learned experience.
And, you might have learned from childhood that it was not safe to be hopeful because maybe you were hopeful about something and you were crushed by a father or a mother or somebody else or a teacher. Well you had a great idea and somebody just squashed your dream, right. Or maybe it happened as an adult. Maybe you were hurt in a relationship. I donât want to be hopeful about finding the man or woman of my dreams because I donât want to be hurt again, right. So, we need to address safety first and foremost when we want to look at cultivating hope. So, we can create and empower in the future that we want, that actually allows us to drive our life forward, right. If you want to create that life that you want, you need to be able to keep your eye on what your dream is and not allow failures and disciplines to stop you. You need to have hope, in being able to move forward.
And so, also, really important to recognize that hope is about the emotion under the words as well as the words. Itâs not just the words because I could say, you know, I hope I get this job. But, I actually donât believe Iâm good enough under the surface, right. You might say I hope I get this job but the emotion underneath is one of disbelief or anxiety or sadness. So, the words arenât enough. So, when hope has an underlying belief of disbelief or underlying emotion of disbelief, anxiety or sadness, itâs not really hope. Real hope carries with it confidence and desire and faith and anticipation and aspiration, important emotions that allow us to drive ourselves forward.
Confidence plays a big role in hope. If we do not believe that we are capable of creating the future that we want, weâre not goin to be hopeful about it, weâre not going to allow ourselves to dream. Weâre not gonna allow ourselves to go there mentally and emotionally because weâll be afraid of the failure and the disappointment and what that means about us. Weâll go, hey, I knew it, I hit a failure, I knew it, I knew I wasnât good enough. Why did I even bother, right. And, remember failure and disappointment is not a reflection of your character, it is simply a normal part of life as we move forward. Itâs about being able to build that resiliency and have the flexibility to adjust and pivot, to move in different directions.
So, I want to ask you here, weâre gonna jump into doing some tapping in just a minute. I want to ask you, can you visualize an empowering future for yourself? Can you feel hopeful about your future? Do you feel hopeful about your future? What area of your life do you feel hopeful about? Maybe thereâs areas of your life that you donât feel hopeful about. Maybe youâre good at the practice in certain ways where you believe. Maybe youâre hopeful about your financial future, but youâre not hopeful about your relationships. You donât believe you can find the person, man or woman, of your dreams, but you believe you can be financially successful. So, just recognize in what area of your life do you feel hopeful and what areas of your life do you not feel hopeful, where you feel disappointment, where you have a lot of hurt around it. And so, you donât feel safe to move forward and to be hopeful because you simply donât want to be disappointed.
Recognize that our brains are always trying to protect us. That amygdala in our brain, that untouched part of our brain is trying to protect us. Itâs there to keep us safe so that we donât get hurt again, but all too often that part of our brain keeps us back from being able to create the life that we want. So, we have to consciously take mental and emotional control with our conscious brain in terms of what we are going to allow to feel safe or not safe, is why the tapping is so powerful, obviously. Because, when we tap on these specific points of our body while saying these certain phrases while weâre focusing on the emotion, the belief, whateverâs going on in our life, we are actually sending that calming signal to the amygdala of the brain letting it know that we are safe and allows us to not only calm the emotion in that moment, but also rewire our beliefs around something. And our beliefs around something are super important when if comes to feeling hopeful.
So, weâre going to tap in just a second around safety, right. So, that belief, that safety of not wanting to get your hopes up around the hurt that you might have, that feeling unsafe to get your hopes up and be hopeful. Weâre also gonna tap on beliefs in our self. Because, we need to believe in ourselves, we need to feel confidence and desire in order to feel hopeful in creating the future that we want. Remember in order to be hopeful we have to feel powerful, we have to feel like w are empowered and that we have control over our future. Hope, again, is not a strategy but it is a requirement in being able to move forward in whatever strategy you create and to stay on that path in creating the life that you want to create. So, weâre gonna do some tapping on that. And, we also need to tap on past events and traumas that we have going on. A lot of the beliefs that we have about ourselves, about our future, about what we are capable of, have to do with our past events.
Itâs the traumas, itâs those little events. If you grew up, little or big events, if you grew up in a home environment where you were constantly being put down or youâre constantly being made to feel like youâre not enough, then you are not going to feel safe to move forward because you donât want to be hurt again. Which, again, totally natural, understandable. But, what we want to do with the tapping is you want to not only lower the intensity on those events that have happened, but we also want to cultivate and bring to life either events that have happened in the past that actually support a belief that we can be hopeful because sometimes youâre there but the negative ones are so much bigger because they have so much more intensity and began because our brain has a negativity bias and is always looking to see whatâs wrong and trying to keep us safe. We want to find this etchings, bring those up more and we also want to create new experiences, right.
If you want to cultivate hope in your life, you want to cultivate a new belief that you are courageous, that you are strong, that you are resilient, you need to find the small experiences that can move you forward in that direction to form those little beliefs. When we think bout a belief, you know, just picture a table and that table is your belief. And the legs of that table are the events that support that belief. So, if you have a belief of, Iâm not smart enough or Iâm dumb, you can probably go back to specific events like, well this is what my parents told me or this is what my teacher told me. And, all of those little events support that belief. But, when you can knock down those beliefs, knock out the intensity of the beliefs and at the same times support the beliefs of stronger, support the legs or build legs or build experiences or stronger beliefs you can overpower those negative beliefs and have stronger, positive beliefs that allow you to move forward in the direction that you want.
So, hopefully that was good. You know, I spent about 20 minutes there kind of giving you some, a bit of framework around how hope plays a role in our life and our ability to see that empowering future and to move towards that empowering future and what are the components that allow us to feel hopeful or not hopeful. And, hopefully this will help you today not only with that pre- framing or that framing that we did around hope and what it means but also with the actual tapping that weâll do as well. Of course the magic for us here at the tapping solution, what we know is so powerful is not just our ability to logically understand what things we need to change or recognize in ourselves, but what things, how we can use the tapping to actually change those things, right.
To lower the intensity of the emotions that we have that are limiting us and to lower the intensity of believes and traumas we have, traumas from our past. And to build new empowering emotions and to build new empowering believe systems about ourselves and new experiences to allow us to live our life to the fullest. We want to not only create a future that we hope for and strive for and are excited about, but we always want to feel good in the moment, you know. Iâm not somebody who wants to believe in just living in the future, we really want to enjoy our present moment. Iâm currently loving, you know, as challenging as things have been over the last few months, Iâve been loving these few months at home with my family, with my kids. Itâs been just amazing to spend time with them. So, we need to recognize all these different events. Weâre gonna use the tapping right now. Weâre gonna jump into it now, get into tapping to actually change and cultivate hope in our life.
So, letâs go ahead and start off by taking a deep breath in and breathe out. And, first off, Iâll say that if you are new to tapping and youâve never done it before, you can either go to thetappingsolution.com and learn all about it or you can download our app, thetappingsolutionapp.com or look up the tapping solution in Google Play or the Apple App Store and download it and youâll get some tutorials there. If youâre watching via video youâll see me tap. If youâre just listening with the audio, just listen along. Tap where I tap and repeat what I say as we do the tapping.
So, again, letâs take another deep breath in and breathe out and just connect with what hope is for you. And, I want you to think about something specifically that you donât feel hopeful about. What is it? What is it that you donât feel hopeful about? We donât need to focus on, you know, maybe you donât feel hopeful overall, maybe you donât feel hopeful about getting a job or your financial future or you donât feel hopeful about your relationship with the spouse or you donât feel hopeful about your health. Just letâs focus on something that you donât feel hopeful bout so we can lower some of the intensity around that and actually cultivate some hope and some new emotions that we want there, some new resilience and flexibility in the ways that we want to cultivate that.
So, letâs go ahead and again, take another deep breath in and breathe out. And, we always want to measure on a level of zero to ten, how strong that intensity is. And, you know, how hopeless you feel. If you feel hopeless at a level ten, that means youâre extremely hopeless. If you feel really hopeful, youâd really be at a level zero because youâre not hopeless, youâre actually hopeful. Weâre gonna measure how hopeless we feel with whatever weâre focusing on. Again, it could be general future, our future, relationship, our finances our weight or just overall hopelessness in terms of life, society, whatever it might be for you, just find what that is and measure from zero to ten. And then also notice what do you feel in your body? Do you feel tension in your chest and your stomach and your throat? Where do you feel tension? Where are you holding tension? You need to release today in this moment.
And, letâs go ahead and start tapping on the karate chop point and repeat after me.
Side of Hand:Even though I feel so hopeless about this thing that Iâm focusing on I acknowledge and accept what Iâm feeling right now.Even though I feel so hopeless because I just donât see things going the way I want I choose to breathe in this moment anywayEven though I feel so hopeless and Iâm just not able to see a future I can believe inAnd, I feel so powerless to change things I choose to relax and breathe in my body right now
Alex: Weâre gonna move to the eyebrow point.
Eyebrow: I feel so hopeless
Side of Eye: I feel so hopeless
Under Eye: I just canât see an empowering future
Under Nose: I feel so hopeless right now
Chin Point: I just donât see things changing
Collarbone: At least not for the better
Under Arm: I feel so powerless
Top of Head: I feel so overwhelmed by these emotions
EB: But I want to find a way forward
SE: I want to find a way to cultivate hope
UE: I recognize I need hope to move forward
UN: Hope may not be a strategy
CP: But it is a requirement to move forward
CB: What if I could feel safe being hopeful
UA: It hasnât felt safe to be hopeful before
TH: Iâve been let down so many times
EB: I donât want to get hurt again
SE: It doesnât feel safe to feel hopeful
UE: But, what if it could feel safe
UN: What would that be like?
CP: Iâm open to the possibility of feeling hopeful
CB: Iâm open to feeling empowered about my future
UA: I choose to feel safe in my body right now
TH: And, take a deep breathe in this moment
EB: All will be well
SE: All is well
UE: Iâm finding my way forward
UN: Weâre all finding our way forward
CP: What if I could allow a glimmer of hope in
CB: What if I could feel safe in this moment
UA: I choose to allow safety into my body
TH: My brain is trying to protect me
EB: My body is trying to protect me
SE: But, I choose to be in charge
UE: Knowing that I can be hopeful
UN: Knowing I can be resilient
CP: I can move forward in the direction I want
CB: I am in charge of my future
UA: My past failures do not define me
TH: My future failures will not define me
EB: I get to be whatever I want to be
SE: And, I am enough in this moment
UE: I am enough
UN: I choose who I am
CP: Itâs safe to be hopeful about my future
CB: I can see my future in a new way
UA: I donât have to be worried about disappointment
TH: Because failure will not stop me
EB: All is well
SE: I am safe
UE: I am loved
Alex: Weâll stop there and just take a deep breath in and breathe out. And, just feel into your body for a moment.
Notice what youâre feeling. Feel, you know, just move your body a little bit. Do you feel different? Do you feel different as you move your body? Do you feel you have any deep ability to breathe deeper or to move differently? Just notice what you feel in your body and just recognize what you might be feeling. What changed for you while we were doing that tapping? Letâs go ahead and measure on that level of zero to ten. We always measure in the beginning, weâre gonna measure again here at the end.
How hopeful do you feel right now? Or, how unhopeful do you feel right now. So, ten being that you completely lack hope, that youâre feeling completely unhopeful and not safe to feel hopeful as a ten. And zero is that nope, you feel great, you feel hopeful about your future, you feel excited about it and you feel like you have power and control to influence it in the way that you want, as well. Just go ahead and measure from zero to ten and just notice, has that shifted? Has that dropped? Did the intensity drop a well as did some of the thought patterns and beliefs that you were saying to yourself also change as well? Do you believe that you are capable of being resilient and flexible now? Do you believe that maybe it is safe to actually feel hopeful and to allow yourself to go to that place?
Sometimes we do not allow ourselves to go there because we are trying to protect ourselves. So, are you able to allow yourself to go to a better place where you can feel hopeful knowing that even if you have failuresâ even if there are disappointments, they will not define you and you will continue to move forward towards the goals that you want to achieve? Rome was not built in a day, we move forward with our dreams on a daily basis, on a consistent daily basis. Our dreams are achieved not only by taking massive action at times, but more so by the little actions that we take every day by the consistency in our actions, in our decisions that we take every day.
So, the more resilient and flexible you can be the more resilient you can be to move around that tree, to jump over that stump, to duck under that tree limp, to continue to push forward in the direction that you want. The more resilient you can be to criticism, to failure, to disappointment, the quicker you will redirect and pivot and allow yourself to move in the direction that you want. Remember, hope is what will allow you to stay focused and energized and moving towards what you want to get to in the direction you want to get to. We use the tapping to lower the intensity of those beliefs so when we donât feel safe to move forward, when we donât feel safe to dream big, we use the tapping to release that.
We also use the tapping to install new empowering beliefs to fire new neural pathways in our brain so we can allow ourselves to actually feel empowered and hopeful about our future. Remember, even in the darkest of times you can still feel hopeful. There are people who have spend half a lifetime in jail and still felt hopeful about their future. You can feel hopeful about your future. You have the ability to be resilient, to be courageous, to be flexible, to act and react in a way that drives you forward and creating the life that you want.
So, I hope this tapping was beneficial to you. If you want to do more tapping on this, go download the Tapping Solution app if you havenât already. I know there are some great tapping meditations in the app all right around that. Iâm trying to think of what the topics are but I know thereâs one specifically on cultivating hope which is about 20 minutes long. Super powerful.
So, go download the app and check that out and hopefully youâll give it a try with the free trail. We got a free trial there in the app now for two weeks. So, you can actually try it out for two weeks and see the results for yourself and feel that empowered, hopeful, future that you can have. Remember, itâs about consistency with all these things that we do. Itâs about our consistent actions on a daily basis. Itâs about consistent thought that we have, our consistent beliefs that we have about ourselves. So, stay persistent, stay hopeful, keep doing the tapping.
I hope you enjoyed this podcast. Iâm excited be with you here today not only via voice but also via video for all of you that are watching. And, until next time, keep tapping.
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How can you create an inner peace, growing each day towards a lasting, wholesome and positive state of being? In this episode, Jessica is speaking with Rick Hanson, Ph.D., a psychologist and best-selling author who has created an easy to follow road map, to help us cultivate our real human potential and truly grow from our everyday experiences.
We routinely work hard to have useful experiences, which will have no lasting impact on the brain and our growth, unless we can receive the powerful experience into ourselves and really take it in. This requires humility and a vulnerable understanding that can become hardwired into our nervous system, and as Rick says, âturning states into traitsâ. Tune in as Rick teaches us strategies on how to work with our thoughts and feelings, truly growing from them rather than just being with them.
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Managing family, health, work and now adding a global pandemic to the mix can really have an effect on our emotions. Some call it a âroller coasterâ of emotions, in which some days we may feel great and others we feel too overwhelmed to do anything at all. Today weâre going to talk about why itâs so important to feel and process these emotions particularly during this time, and how we can create balance when weâre all dealing with so much uncertainty.
Weâll talk about strategies on how to effectively process your emotions, step up as a leader without burning out, and reduce the trauma response. Weâll even do some tapping. If you want to go straight to the tapping, skip ahead to 17:49. Join me today and letâs focus on you and your self-care habits!
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Have you ever had a desire to âfixâ yourself and then this backfires on you? Although the intentions are good, sometimes wanting to change or âfixâ how we are, might be thwarting our natural being and who we truly are at our core. Today, weâre speaking with Ph.D., psychologist, author, teacher and my friend Tara Brach to help loosen the grip of difficult emotions and limiting beliefs that separate us from our naturalness.
Tara explains, as we develop, the layers of protection that we are constantly adding solidify, creating whom we think weâre supposed to be. Eventually, we are identified by who weâve created with our protective layers, forgetting who is looking through behind the mask. But we can come back to our true goodness and with real conscious intentionâŠwe can wake up from the âtrance of unworthinessâ. You will truly be amazed with Taraâs simple, but life-changing meditation practice using the acronym RAIN, to bring presence and compassion to any moment of change or struggle and transform our pain and anger into love.
About Tara:Tara Brachâs teachings blend Western psychology and Eastern spiritual practices, mindful attention to our inner life, and a full, compassionate engagement with our world. The result is a distinctive voice in Western Buddhism, one that offers a wise and caring approach to freeing ourselves and society from suffering.
In addition to numerous articles, videos, and hundreds of recorded talks, Tara is the author of the book Radical Acceptance (2003) and True Refuge: Finding Peace & Freedom in Your Own Awakened Heart (Bantam, 2013). She has a son, Narayan, and lives in Great Falls, VA, with her husband, Jonathan Foust; their 2 dogs; and her mother, Nancy Brach.
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As the Coronavirus spreads, so does uncertainty and anxiety.
Itâs important to stay informed as to all the ways we can take preventative measures. The challenge is that we can become so stressed as we read the news, and studies have shown that increased anxiety can weaken the immune system.
The intention of this tapping meditation is to help you release that anxiety so that you can support your immune system, feel more at peace, and feel empowered to take any steps necessary to protect yourself.
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Beyond the family, presents, parties and food, the holiday season is probably best known as the season of stress and overwhelm! After all, most people are typically as busy as can be all year round, but then when we put all the added activity and financial pressure of the holiday season on top of it, it can often be too much to handleâŠ
But what if this holiday season was different? What if you could make this holiday season the calmest, most joyous and loving time for you?
In episode 87, I cover 10 meaningful tips that you can use right now to make this the best holiday season youâve ever had!
Donât delay in listening to it because it could make the difference for you between a stressful holiday season, and one that you love and enjoy with your family and friends!
Weâll even do some tapping on this podcast to help us release stress and to put ourselves in the right frame of mind!
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