The more people I get to know on a deeper level, the more I'm realizing that every one of us has some level of childhood trauma.
Not to shame and blame the caregivers because heaven knows I'm no saint when it comes to parenting.
We are all doing the best we can with what we know therefore we must offer that same understanding and compassion for the people who devoted so much of their time and energy in raising us.
Healing the inner child is not about bringing up old wounds for the intent of revenge but rather to rewrite the narrative.
Today on the podcast Lenny Evans gives us some useful tools to start the work of healing from past trauma.
Lenny Evans is an author, motivational speaker, belief coach, yoga teacher, and much much more.
ER Shred Ambassador Jesse James Jamnik interviews me about my weight loss and personal growth journey thus far. "As Co-Founder of the ER Shred Protocol, along with her husband Sean, Crystal has a true passion for helping transform people's overall well-being. Especially seeing as though she herself struggled for years before finally cracking the code. Join us as Crystal and I break down the past and touch on subjects that you very well might be struggling with yourself. Sugar & Carb Cravings Baby weight Self Esteem Adult Acne Dieting and the restrictions on life And so much more!"
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First of all, how can we possibly know how people SHOULD love us? Letting go of all my shoulds has been the hardest thing for me to do. I want to believe that people should do things the way I think they should. But as Byron Katie always says, when you “turn it around rather than waiting for someone else to do it is the end of the road not traveled”.
I love the turn around technique she teaches, it helps me really put things into perspective and switch my focus off the person I’m judging and allows for my own introspection. I can then ask myself how I might be doing the very same thing I think others should NOT being doing.
For example, when I want someone to stop being so critical of me. I usually discover that I too am being critical by criticizing that others should not criticize me. Or when I yell at the kids for yelling at each other. I often get angry at them for fighting with each other but in turn I end up arguing with them about arguing with each other.
"Shoulds" are just our own biases and opinions.
“As you inquire into issues and turn judgements around, you come to see that every perceived problem appearing “out there” is really nothing more than a misperception within your own thinking.”
We all dream of the days when life ceases to be challenging. When we learn all the lessons there are to learn, we make our millions, solve our problems, achieve all our goals, and ride off into the sunset with our happily ever after.
Unfortunately, or should I say FORTUNATELY, life never stops presenting us with a healthy dose of difficulty. Itt all comes down to our attitude and whether or not we’re able to embrace life’s challenges and see them as the perfect opportunity for growth and self discovery.
Stripping myself down of all the things that feed my ego has been extremely challenging. In this episode I go into more detail about some of the things I found myself addicted to, not realizing the driving force behind it all.
Thinking outside the box, new and different ways of doing things. Stepping into the unknown, reinventing, and redefining life. That's what 2021 is all about.
Grief is an emotion I'm learning to sit with these days. Grieving the loss of certain beliefs I've clung to my whole life, and grieving the loss of a pet.
Sometimes when we feel an intense emotion like grief it almost feels like you're wearing a shocking device. It hurts so bad you become desperate to relieve the pain. But I've found that, relaxing, allowing, and breathing can be the best antidote to painful situations.
Human behavior is something I'm completely fascinated by these days. Learning how the mind works and why we cling so tightly to specific beliefs. I understand there is a level of comfort that comes from firm beliefs, but in my opinion it hinders our growth. Anytime we believe we KNOW things with certainty, it blocks us from ever expanding beyond what we currently understand.
Often times we just become robots, programmed as a child in order to fit the societal mold.
Today I'm talking about my midlife crisis that started 3 years ago, but became overwhelmingly intense the last 3 months.
Going into all the things that have contributed to my "falling apart" right before my 40th birthday.
Emotional Eating Coach, Andrea at ThingsAndreaSays.com is going to walk us through some of the reasons why we might be feeling stuck when it comes with finding the discipline and willpower to stick with our protocol.
Sharing my business journey story and all the different endeavors I pursued beginning at age 15.
Let's talk shit, bowel movements and gut health. Talking about Sean's struggles dealing with various gastrointestinal issues over many years.
Also listing several things we both tried in order to improve our gut health. Coffee enemas, fiber overload, probiotics, kombucha, fermented vegetables, etc.
Shelly DeWitt Johnson was born and raised in a very strict and patriarchal religion. She got married young and had 7 children. At age 40 she left the religion and culture that had been the biggest part of her life. After starting to deal with that trauma, she realized that she was gay, which added a whole new set of issues. Not long after, she got divorced. As a single Mom with no college education she had to start her life again at age 43.
Shelly met her girlfriend Mary and they started a podcast called Latter-Day Lesbian. The podcast became an instant hit with listeners recovering from religion, and listeners in the LGBTQ community. The podcast is raw and vulnerable, yet healing and downright hilarious.
Along with her ongoing recovery from emotional and spiritual trauma, Shelly has now added a focus on physical health as she continues on her journey of overall wellness.
I've been a fan of John Gray, Author of Men Are From Mars Women are From Venus, since I was 19 years old. Can you believe that?
I had the amazing opportunity to interview him on my podcast. He shared some incredible advice on marriage and relationships.
John helps men and women better understand and respect their differences in both personal and professional relationships.
He has appeared repeatedly on Oprah, as well as on The Dr. Oz Show, TODAY, CBS This Morning, Good Morning America, and others. He has been profiled in Time, Forbes, USA Today, and People. He was also the subject of a three-hour special hosted by Barbara Walters.
I can confidently say that Sean and I are EXPERTS at arguing. We have a lot of experience when it comes to having disagreements in marriage. Allow us to teach you exactly what NOT to do.
This is a raw uncut episode. As we started recording the episode Sean got ultra vulnerable and shared some never before told stories.
I left the room while he recorded but when I listened to it back I was pleasantly surprised with what he chose to share.
For many years I’ve been paralyzed with the fear that I don’t have anything unique to offer this world. It’s caused me to unintentionally block the flow of inspiration and creativity.
I’ve been really diving deeper and trying to identify what makes me unique. And I wanted to share some of my insights as I’ve been making a conscious effort in this area.
I think it all comes down to the belief I had that there is nothing left to invent or create. It was more of a subconscious belief that I uncovered by asking myself a lot of questions.
When I read books I noticed some common themes. They all have similar messages, just different ways of saying it. But I still LOVE reading them and always feel I’m able to gain something new. My understanding of a concept deepens as I read all the different ways people express it.
I was having this conversation with Sean the other day and I was comparing it to chocolate chip cookies. Have you ever googled “chocolate chip cookie recipes”?
I used to wonder as a little girl, why do people always claim they have the BEST recipe for chocolate chip cookies? Chocolate chip cookies are chocolate chip cookies, right?
A little butter, flour, salt, eggs, vanilla, sugar, and chocolate chips. What I didn’t realize is that one slight adjustment to a recipe can completely change the composition, taste or texture of a cookie. It’s quite miraculous and even inspiring. Kinda makes you see the endless possibilities we have available to us.
We have universal truths. Things that most of us can agree on, like...
Love is the answer...
Doing good can make you happy...
Taking care of your body is an important component to having a good quality of life...
And that there is a part of us that wants to grow and evolve…
When we take universal truths/ ingredients, we can create our own unique recipe by simply adding in a few secret ingredients. These are ingredients that nobody else has access to.
We add a cup of our personality, with a pinch of our own life experiences, combine it all together and bake for (enter your age) years until the outer edge is slightly golden brown.
THIS is what makes everything we do and say totally unique. We can build upon the things that we learn from other people by simply adding in our own special sauce.
In this episode Sean shares his crisis during the crisis.
"The humbling moment in life when everything you've endured for so long suddenly feels worth it.
When you are finally able to make sense of all of the confusion and frustration.
When everything you have experienced was obviously meant to forge your path moving forward."
I used to believe that the AMOUNT of things I got done was equal to my value as a women/ mother.
Procrastination, perfectionism, and productivity was all intermingled with my misinterpretation around the goal to "become like Christ".
I didn't realize I was striving for an unattainable goal of perfection. I desperately wanted to BE what others told me I should be, constantly hustling for my worthiness.
Laura Hernandez vulnerably shares her struggles with her health and weight after years of research and working at perfecting her diet.
In a facebook post she recently shared her experience after 11 days on what we're calling the ER Shred.
"I wish I could just say I had “let myself go” in that first pic, & that I made a decision to get “healthy” in that 2nd pic, bc that would have been easier. But, NOTHING could be further from the truth, as my close friends & family can attest to how hard I exercise everyday & how clean I eat 90% of the time!"