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What if the very thing we’ve been striving for as parents—obedience—wasn’t actually a virtue? What if, instead of making our kids good, it made them vulnerable?
In this episode, we take a hard look at the dangers of unquestioning compliance. We start at the Nuremberg Trials, where Nazi officials defended their crimes with four chilling words: I was just following orders. We revisit the infamous Milgram experiment, where 65% of ordinary people delivered what they believed to be fatal electric shocks—just because an authority figure told them to.
Then, we bring it home.
How does this obsession with obedience play out in our parenting?With the help of Alfie Kohn—renowned author and parenting expert—we examine why traditional parenting methods prioritize compliance, why that might be a problem, and what we can do instead. We break down research showing that demanding obedience undermines empathy, critical thinking, and moral integrity.
By the end of this episode, you’ll learn:
✅ Why most parents unknowingly work against their long-term parenting goals
✅ How punishment and rewards both create conditional love—and what to do instead
✅ The real-world dangers of raising kids to obey without question
✅ What research-backed strategies actually help kids become ethical, independent, and strongBecause one day, we won’t be the authority in their lives anymore. And the only voice left… will be their own.
Chapters & Key Moments:
🔹 (00:10) The Chilling History of Obedience – From Nuremberg to Milgram: How history warns us about blind compliance
🔹 (07:00) The Parent’s Dilemma – Why parents say they want independent, critical thinkers… but demand obedience
🔹 (12:45) The Cost of Compliance – What happens when we condition kids to follow orders at all costs
🔹 (18:10) Unconditional Parenting with Alfie Kohn – A deep dive into parenting beyond punishment and rewards
🔹 (26:40) The Real Goal of Parenting – How to raise kids who think for themselves, challenge injustice, and make good choices
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Why does it feel like one partner carries the weight of managing the home and kids while the other thinks everything is equal? If you've ever felt exhausted by the invisible labor of parenting—or if you've ever felt like nothing you do measures up to your partner’s expectations—this episode is for you.
In this episode of The Whole Parent Podcast, I sit down with Eve Rodsky, author of Fair Play, to unpack the division of labor in parenting. We dive into the mental load, the emotional labor, and why so many families fall into patterns where one parent (usually mom) takes on the bulk of the work—often without even realizing it.
Eve shares the Fair Play framework, a system that helps couples move from frustration and resentment to true partnership in running a household. We’ll talk about:
✔️ Why "helping" isn't the same as "ownership"
✔️ How assumptions about gender roles silently shape our parenting dynamics
✔️ The hidden labor of planning, managing, and executing daily family life
✔️ How to start creating a more equitable system
✔️ The simple mindset shift that can transform your relationshipIf you’ve ever caught yourself saying “I have to do everything around here” and “I shouldn’t have to ask for help”, OR "My partner doesn't trust me" and "I can't do anything right...." this episode will change the way you think about parenting, partnership, and fairness in your home.
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What do we do when we mess up as parents?
In this Episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, I read a long section from the Chapter on Repair from my brand new book Punishment-Free Parenting: The Brain-Based Way to Raise Kids Without Raising Your Voice.
Every parent has moments they wish they could take back. Maybe it’s the sharp tone, the overreaction, or the moment frustration boiled over. But what happens next matters even more than the mistake itself. In this key section from my book, Punishment-Free Parenting, all about reconciliation and repair—how to rebuild trust, reconnect with your child, and model emotional responsibility.
Parenting isn’t about perfection; it’s about showing up, even after we mess up.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✔️ Why mistakes are inevitable in parenting—and why that’s okay
✔️ How rupture and repair strengthen your relationship with your child
✔️ A step-by-step approach to making things right after a parenting misstep
✔️ The power of modeling apologies and accountability for your kids
✔️ Why repair isn’t just about saying sorry—it’s about rebuilding trustKey Takeaways:
Rupture is normal. Repair is what builds resilience.Apologizing to your child teaches them how to take responsibility for their own actions.Connection, not control, is what makes discipline truly effective.It’s never too late to make things right.Resources & Links:
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Traditional Parenting Fails for ADHD Kids.
Growing up with ADHD this is the episode I wish my parents had...
In this episode, I’m sharing why traditional, compliance-based parenting doesn’t work for kids with ADHD and what we can do instead. I sat down with Dr. Josh Wyner and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson—two incredible experts—to break down the science behind ADHD and offer practical, brain-based strategies you can start using today.We talk about identifying ADHD in kids, what’s really happening in the ADHD brain, why traditional parenting (aka compliance and punishments) backfire. We also give an alternatives: collaboration, creativity, and especially play to completely transform your relationship with your ADHD child.
This episode is personal, practical, and, I hope, incredibly helpful for anyone raising an ADHD kid—or even just trying to parent differently.What You'll Learn in This Episode:
Why traditional parenting strategies fail kids with ADHD.How understanding emotional tagging and time blindness can change your perspective on ADHD behaviors.Three practical strategies to connect with ADHD kids: collaborative problem-solving, fostering autonomy, and using play to build essential skills.BONUS: An exclusive never before heard exerpt from my upcoming book Punishment-Free ParentingFeatured Guests:
Dr. Josh Wyner: Neuroscientist and founder of Willow Family Health, a nonprofit focused on neurodiversity-affirming mental health care.Dr. Tina Payne Bryson: Co-author of The Whole-Brain Child and The Way of Play—and one of the most compassionate voices in parenting today.My Key Takeaways:
ADHD isn’t about laziness or bad behavior—it’s about brain's placing different emotional value on things. Understanding those differences is the first step to parenting with empathy.Collaboration is everything. When we involve our kids in problem-solving, we’re building lifelong skills and deeper connections.Play isn’t just for fun; it’s one of the most effective ways to help ADHD kids build impulse control, emotional regulation, and attention skills.Call to Action:
If this episode resonates with you, I’d love for you to preorder my book, Punishment-Free Parenting. It’s packed with practical tools and real stories, just like this episode, and it’s designed to help you parent with more connection and less stress—whether your child has ADHD or not.Thanks for listening to The Whole Parent Podcast! If you found this episode helpful, share it with a friend or on social media—I’d love to keep this conversation going.
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Have you ever felt like talking to your kids is like speaking an entirely different language? You tell them to put on their shoes, and suddenly it’s like you’ve asked them to climb a mountain. Believe me, I’ve been there. In this episode, I’m breaking down why our kids don’t always seem to get what we’re saying—and spoiler alert, it’s not because they’re ignoring us.We’ll dive into the science behind how kids’ brains work, why they process the world differently from adults, and how we can adjust our approach to get through to them. I’ll share five creative hacks I use with my own kids—simple tools that help me communicate in a way they actually understand. If you’re tired of power struggles and tantrums, this episode is packed with practical tips that can make life a little easier (and a lot more fun).
What You’ll Learn
Why kids’ brains work differently
I’ll explain how their brains are still under construction and why emotional reactions often take over.How to communicate in ways that work for them
From using stories to simplifying language, you’ll learn how to meet your kids where they are.Five creative hacks for talking to your kids
I’ll walk you through how I:Use iPad bugs to make screen-time transitions smoother.Play tooth detective to turn teeth brushing into a fun, nightly ritual.Talk to my kids’ bellies to encourage healthier eating choices.Sing instructions to make them stick (hello, Daniel Tiger fans!).Use puppets to make even tough conversations more approachable.Why This Matters
I truly believe that how we communicate with our kids shapes not only their behavior but their emotional development and sense of connection. When we approach communication with playfulness and empathy, we’re not just avoiding meltdowns—we’re building trust and lifelong communication habits.
This Week’s Challenge
Try one of these hacks! Whether it’s rethinking how you handle screen time or singing through a tricky moment, I’d love to hear what worked for you.
Resources I Mentioned
The Whole Brain Child by Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Dr. Daniel SiegelThe Way of Play by Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Georgie Wisen-VincentLet’s Connect
I love hearing from you! Share your thoughts on this episode, tell me what hack you’re excited to try, or let me know about your own creative communication wins.
Email: [email protected] Media: @WholeParent on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTokWant More?
If you found this episode helpful, please leave a review or rate the podcast—those 5-star reviews mean the world to me and help get the message out. And don’t forget to preorder my book, Punishment-Free Parenting: The Brain-Based Way to Raise Kids Without Raising Your Voice. It’s packed with tools just like the ones we talked about today, but dives even deeper into how to parent with connection at the center.
Thanks for listening, and until next time, let’s keep learning how to speak kid—it might just change your life (and theirs)!
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DescriptionThis week on The Whole Parent Podcast, why is change is so hard? How can we finally stick to our parenting resolutions this year? Katy Milkman's book "How to Change" has answers. If you want 2025 to be the year you parent with purpose and patience, this episode is for you.
Here’s what I talked about:
Traditions
I reflected on my family’s holiday traditions—both the people we’ve lost and the new faces who’ve joined us. Traditions aren’t just fun; they ground us in who we are and what we value.Why Change is Hard
I explained how our brains are wired for routines and why we fall back on old patterns, even when we desperately want to do things differently. Spoiler: it’s not your fault. It’s science.The Fresh Start Effect
One of my favorite insights from Katie Milkman’s book How to Change is the idea of using milestone moments, like New Year’s, to kick-start a fresh start. It’s a game-changer.Identity-Based Resolutions
I shared why your resolutions should focus on who you want to be rather than just what you want to do. For me, it’s about being the kind of parent who stays calm, listens, and leads with curiosity.The Power of Community
I talked about why the people you surround yourself with can make or break your goals—and how to build a community that supports the parent you want to become.My Key Takeaways for 2025:
Start Fresh: Use moments like New Year’s to reset and feel optimistic about change.Anchor Your Goals in Identity: Instead of saying, “I’m going to stop yelling,” say, “I’m the kind of parent who stays calm under pressure.”Surround Yourself with the Right People: Community is essential to lasting change.A Few Quotes I Love:
"It’s not about trying harder; it’s about trying smarter.""Every choice becomes an opportunity to affirm the parent you long to be."Your Turn:
I’d love to hear your parenting resolutions for 2025!
Email me at [email protected]—research shows that when you share your goals with someone, you’re three times more likely to stick with them.If you’re curious, my resolution this year is simple: I am a punishment-free parent. It’s a journey, not a destination, but I’ve made so much progress by grounding my goals in the kind of parent I want to be.
A Special Thank You:
Thanks to everyone who sent in their resolutions to share on this episode. Listening to your goals inspires me, and I hope it inspires the rest of our community too.
Resources I Mentioned:
How to Change by Katie MilkmanMy upcoming book: Punishment-Free Parenting: The Brain-Based Way to Raise Kids Without Raising Your Voice (available for pre-order now!)Thanks for listening to this special New Year’s episode. I hope it helps you step into 2025 with clarity, optimism, a
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Merry Christmas... sorta.
The holidays are here, and if you’re anything like me, you’re juggling a million things at once—holiday parties, work deadlines, family traditions, and trying to make everything feel magical for your kids. It’s a lot.
But the truth is, it’s not just the holidays. Everyday life as a parent feels more overwhelming than ever, and that’s exactly what we’re talking about in this special Christmas episode of The Whole Parent Podcast.I’m sitting down with Dr. Aditi Nerurkar, one of the world’s leading experts on stress and resilience, to talk about why parenting today feels so heavy—and, more importantly, what we can actually do about it.
We dive into simple, science-backed strategies from her book The Five Resets that can help us change the way we experience stress. You’ll learn how to use tools like Stop, Breathe, Be and create digital boundaries that protect your mental health and your sleep.Dr. Nerurkar has so much wisdom to share, and I can tell you this conversation has already made a difference in my own life. If you want to go into the new year with less stress and more calm—not just during the holidays but every day—this episode is for you.
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Follow Dr. Aditi Nerurkar: @DrAditiNerurkarCheck out her book The Five ResetsSubscribe to her Substack: It's Not You It's, Your StressTake a deep breath, hit play, and let’s figure this out together.
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It’s the ultimate parenting conundrum: Do you tell your kids the truth about Santa? In this episode, I dive into the psychology, cultural traditions, and ethical questions behind the Santa myth. Why do kids believe so wholeheartedly, and how do we respond when the questions about Santa’s reality start rolling in? Plus, I explore the tricky balance between keeping the magic alive and maintaining honesty and trust with your children.
This episode includes insights from child development experts, My personal parenting reflections, and an adorable interview with my own kids about their own feelings on Santa Claus.
Whether you’re Team Santa or Team No Santa, this episode will help you navigate the holidays with intention and a deeper understanding of how magical traditions impact your kids’ development and emotional well-being.
What We Covered in This Episode:
The Big Question:When your child asks, “Is Santa real?” how do you respond in a way that honors both their wonder and your values?The Psychology of Belief:Why kids naturally embrace magical thinking until around age seven.How the Santa myth fosters imagination, perspective-taking, and moral reasoning.The Controversy:Should parents perpetuate the Santa myth?The downside of using Santa (and Elf on the Shelf) for behavior modification.Why the “naughty and nice list” might be doing more harm than good.Navigating Tricky Conversations:How to approach the Santa topic with sensitive or skeptical kids.Why honesty at the right age builds trust and helps children process big truths.Resources Mentioned:
Alfie Kohn’s book, Punished by Rewards, for understanding the impact of extrinsic motivation on kids.The 1973 episode of Mister Rogers' Neighborhood where Fred Rogers talks about Santa Claus.Jon’s upcoming book, Punishment-Free Parenting: The Brain-Based Way to Raise Kids Without Raising Your Voice.How to support Whole Parent:
Subscribe, Rate, and Review: Your feedback keeps the podcast going and helps other parents find it!Share with Friends: Know someone grappling with the Santa conversation? Share this episode with three friends who have kids between ages 3 and 10.Pre-order Jon’s Book: Available in hardcover, eBook, and audiobook formats. Pre-order now to support the release and start 2025 with fresh parenting strategies!Thank you for tuning in! Wishing you and your family a joyful and meaningful holiday season, whether you’re celebrating with Santa or creating your own traditions. See you next week! 🎄
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In this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon welcomes Dr. Marc Brackett, the founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and author of Permission to Feel. Together, they dive into why emotions matter, how to raise emotionally intelligent children, and the essential skills parents need to model emotional regulation effectively.
Jon and Marc discuss the misconceptions around emotions—especially the temptation to suppress unpleasant feelings—and how these unresolved emotions often resurface in unhealthy ways. Marc shares his guiding principle of giving ourselves “permission to feel” and explains the difference between being an emotion scientist and an emotion judge. Whether you’re navigating tough parenting moments or learning to process your own feelings, this episode will equip you with practical tools for building emotional intelligence at home.
Key Takeaways:
Why Emotions Matter:Emotions are critical for attention, decision-making, relationships, mental health, and overall performance.Suppressed emotions don’t go away—they often intensify over time.The Role of Emotional Intelligence:Developing emotional awareness and regulation starts with parents.Kids learn emotional intelligence when parents model vulnerability, self-reflection, and healthy coping strategies.Becoming an Emotion Scientist vs. Emotion Judge:Emotion Scientists: Curious, open, and exploratory when processing feelings.Emotion Judges: Critical, dismissive, and reactive to emotions.Marc introduces his How We Feel app to help individuals and families develop emotional awareness and vocabulary.Practical Regulation Strategies:Proactive emotional regulation (e.g., pausing at the “doorknob moment” to prepare for emotional triggers).Modeling emotional honesty with kids, even during challenging moments.Other Amazing Resources from Marc:
Book: Permission to Feel by Dr. Marc BrackettApp: How We Feel – Free emotional intelligence app Web Series: Dealing with FeelingsConnect with Dr. Marc Brackett:
Website: marcbrackett.comInstagram: @markbrackettConnect with Jon and the Whole Parent Podcast:
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Have you ever lashed out at your child and wondered "Where did that come from? Why am I so triggered?"
Spoiler for this episode, it's your childhood... and the reason we do this is because most of us are totally unaware of this unwanted inheritance.Jon is joined by Dr. Shefali, the pioneer of conscious parenting, who shares her insights on how our childhood experiences shape our parenting styles. Together, they delve into the concept of the subconscious contract between parent and child, exploring how implicit memories and unresolved issues from our past often resurface in moments of stress.
Dr. Shefali emphasizes the importance of mindfulness and healing in parenting, offering practical advice on how parents can break free from harmful patterns and create a healthier environment for their children.
The conversation touches on spirituality, neuroscience, and the essential role of self-awareness in raising emotionally healthy kids.Timestamps:
0:00 - A Saturday morning meltdown: Jon’s story of losing his cool2:43 - Introduction to Dr. Shefali and the concept of conscious parenting7:57 - The power of implicit memories: How the past shapes our reactions13:53 - The subconscious contract: Understanding toxic parenting dynamics22:19 - Practical steps for conscious parenting and breaking the cycleResources Mentioned:
The Conscious Parent The Parenting Map Dr. Shefali's Podcast
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Episode Title: How To Get Your Toddler to LISTEN!Episode Number: #29
Host: Jon @wholeparent
Timestamps:
0:00 - Introduction and Setting the Scene0:38 - The Frustration of Kids who WON'T LISTEN!2:40 - Why Toddlers Have Selective Hearing7:17 - Understanding Toddler Development and Autonomy16:18 - Effective Communication with Toddlers22:24 - Tips for Improving Toddler Listening Skills33:50 - Closing Thoughts and Call to ActionKey Takeaways:
Toddlers often exhibit selective hearing due to their developmental stage of seeking autonomy.Consistent routines are crucial in helping toddlers feel secure and understand expectations.Effective communication with toddlers involves giving clear, positive instructions and allowing time for them to process.Saying "yes" as often as possible can foster a more cooperative relationship with your child.Resources Mentioned:
PDF on Autonomy-Seeking Activities for ToddlersHow to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will TalkWhat episode should you listen to next?
Episode #22: Raising Emotionally Intelligent KidsEpisode #1: How to Stop Yelling at Your KidsCall to Action:
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Struggling with bedtime battles? Discover an incredible bedtime hack that transforms chaos into connection, making bedtime one of the best parts of your day.
Episode Number: #28Description: In this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon delves into the challenges of bedtime routines and reveals a transformative hack to turn bedtime battles into moments of deep connection with your child. He discusses the reasons behind kids' resistance to bedtime and shares a practical, brain-based technique that not only helps kids fall asleep faster but also strengthens the parent-child bond.
Timestamps:
00:00 - Introduction And Importance Of Bedtime
02:04 - Personal Anecdotes About Bedtime Chaos And Routines
04:56 - Common Bedtime Resistance Issues And Practical Solutions
06:31 - The Bedtime Story Hack Explained
18:21 - Practical Steps For Implementing The Bedtime Story Hack
26:12 - The Importance Of Sleep For Children's Development
35:28 - Closing Remarks And Call To ActionKey Takeaways:
The Bedtime Story Hack:Tell your child the story of their day in a calm, soothing voice to help them transition to sleep.Engage their memory and language centers to regulate their emotional state.Consistently use this technique to turn bedtime into a positive, connecting experience.Why Kids Resist Bedtime:Novelty and learning: Kids resist sleep because they are constantly learning and don't want to stop.Routine and regulation: Maintaining a consistent bedtime routine helps prevent resistance.Hormonal factors: Avoiding overtiredness and managing cortisol levels is key.Benefits of Sleep:Essential for physical, mental, and emotional development.Improves memory, emotional regulation, and overall health.Creates opportunities for deep attachment and bonding with your child.Links to Resources Mentioned:
The Highly Sensitive Child by Elaine AronKinetic SandWhat episode should you listen to next?
Effective Discipline Without PunishmentUnderstanding Your Child's BrainHow to Connect:
Never Miss a New Episode: CLICK HERESubscribe: If you haven't subscribed to the podcast yet, please do so on your preferred platform.Rate and Review: Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Share: Share this episode with friends and family, especially those who struggle with bedtime routines.Episode Transcript: The full transcript of this episode is available here.
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Episode Number: #27
Description: In this guest episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon welcomes KJ from Big Life Journal. They discuss the transformative power of reparenting, the difference between gentle and conscious parenting, and the resources available to support parents on their journey. KJ shares her personal experiences transitioning from authoritarian parenting to gentle parenting, offers her top reparenting tip, and explores how journaling can help parents and children develop resilience and growth mindsets.
Timestamps:
00:00 - Introduction to KJ and Audio Disclaimer 02:34 - Conversation with KJ begins03:12 - KJ's background and journey in reparenting04:21 - Difference between gentle parenting and permissive parenting06:15 - Importance of questioning authority and fostering safe challenges09:09 - Explaining the difference between gentle and conscious parenting14:48 - The necessity of effective and conscious parenting today16:21 - The role of journaling in reparenting and parenting19:26 - Discussion on the downloadables and free resources from Big Life Journal23:33 - KJ's number one reparenting tip: Recognizing what’s happening in your body30:22 - Conclusion and final thoughts on reparenting and gentle parentingKey Takeaways:
Reparenting: A crucial step in becoming a better parent by understanding and addressing one’s own triggers and reactions.Gentle vs. Conscious Parenting: Gentle parenting is what children experience, while conscious parenting involves the internal work parents do to improve their interactions with their children.Journaling: An effective tool for parents and children to develop resilience, growth mindsets, and critical thinking skills.Big Life Journal Resources: Offers journals and free printables to help children and parents on their growth journey.Resources Mentioned:
Big Life Journal: WebsiteKJ’s Instagrams: @gentlehealingmom and @biglifejournalFree Printables and Sign up for the Big Life Journal NewsletterWhat to listen to next?
How to Stop Yelling at your Kids #001Calls to Action:
Subscribe: Subscribe to the Whole Parent Podcast on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.Rate and Review: Leave a rating and review to help other parents find the podcast and benefit from the content.Share: Share this episode with fellow parents who might benefit from learning about reparenting and gentle parenting.Email List: Join the email list to receive updates on new episodes and resources.Contact Information:
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Episode Number: #26
Take the quiz to find our if your kid is Highly SensitiveDescription: In this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon delves into the concept of collaborative consequences, explaining why this method is a powerful tool for effective parenting, especially for highly sensitive children. As a strong advocate for the abolition of punishment in parenting, discusses how to differentiate between punishment and consequences and introduces the idea of working with children to set boundaries collaboratively. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, Jon illustrates how this approach fosters a child's growth, understanding, and self-discipline.
Timestamps:
00:00 - Introduction to the Whole Parent Podcast and the highly sensitive kid quiz02:24 - Definition and importance of collaborative consequences03:53 - Difference between punishment and consequences05:27 - Why punishment is ineffective06:48 - Explanation of consequences and their role in teaching07:29 - Steps to implement collaborative consequences11:58 - The importance of seeking a child's input13:44 - The significance of a child's buy-in in the discipline process16:10 - Long-term goals of using collaborative consequences17:37 - Personal example: Collaborative consequences for cleaning up messes26:18 - Personal example: Collaborative consequences for managing screen time32:52 - Conclusion and final thoughts on collaborative consequences33:09 - Call to action: Subscribe, rate, review, and join the email listKey Takeaways:
Collaborative Consequences: Involve your child in setting boundaries and consequences to ensure they understand and agree with them, which increases their effectiveness.Difference from Punishment: Unlike punishment, which is retributive and ineffective in the long-term, collaborative consequences focus on teaching and guiding children to make better decisions.Child's Buy-In: When children have a say in their own discipline process, they are more likely to adhere to the agreed-upon boundaries and learn self-discipline.Practical Examples: Jon shares real-life examples of implementing collaborative consequences in his household, providing a clear model for listeners to follow.Resources Mentioned:
Take the Highly Sensitive Kid QuizHow to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will TalkRecommendations for the Next Episode:
Episode #11: Discipline Part 1Calls to Action:
Subscribe: Subscribe to the Whole Parent Podcast on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.Rate and Review: Leave a rating and review to help other parents find the podcast.Share: Share this episode with fellow parents who might benefit from learning about collaborative consequences.Email List: Join the email list to receive updates on new episodes and resources.Contact Information:
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Parenting a Highly Sensitive ChildEpisode Number: #25
Description: In this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon delves into the world of highly sensitive children. He explains what high sensitivity is, how it manifests in kids, and shares practical strategies for parents to help their highly sensitive children thrive. Jon also highlights the groundbreaking work of Dr. Elaine Aron, who introduced the concept of high sensitivity, and provides insights into the emotional, physical, and social needs of highly sensitive kids.
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00:01 - Introduction to highly sensitive kids01:24 - Acknowledging Dr. Elaine Aron's work on high sensitivity02:48 - Improved show notes and additional resources03:17 - Understanding what high sensitivity is05:14 - Symptoms and characteristics of highly sensitive kids07:40 - Evolutionary perspective on high sensitivity10:03 - Sensory amplification in highly sensitive kids12:31 - Behavioral signs of high sensitivity22:47 - Emotional, physical, and social needs of highly sensitive kids31:52 - Practical tips for parenting highly sensitive kids41:58 - Benefits of being highly sensitive (IT'S A SUPER POWER!)43:26 - ConclusionKey Takeaways: Jon's Three Practical Tips for Parenting Highly Sensitive Kids:
Establish Routines: Create a predictable home environment to provide a sense of security for highly sensitive kids.Take Breaks: Allow for regular downtime to help highly sensitive kids process and cope with sensory input.Focus on Emotional Intelligence: Teach kids to recognize, label, and express their emotions to manage their heightened sensitivity.Links to Resources Mentioned:
Is Your Kid Highly Sensitive Quiz!The Highly Sensitive Child by Dr. Elaine AronThe Highly Sensitive Parent by Dr. Elaine AronWhat episode should you listen to next?
Raising Emotionally Intelligent KidsHow to Connect:
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Do you want to know how you can successfully navigate sibling conflict? This is the episode for you.
Episode Number: #24Description: In this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon delves into the challenging topic of sibling conflict. He shares practical strategies for parents to navigate and resolve conflicts between siblings effectively. Jon also talks about the importance of fostering a team-centric environment and being a safe person for your children to express their frustrations.
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00:00 - Introduction and Jon's return to podcasting01:30 - Review of Raising Siblings Part One03:53 - Principle 1: Foster a team-centric environment09:49 - Principle 2: Be the safe person17:13 - Quick call to action: Subscribe and review20:24 - Principle 3: Be a mediator, not an arbitratorKey Takeaways: Jon's Three Principles for Handling Sibling Conflict:
Foster a Team-Centric Environment: Emphasize that the family works as a team and avoid creating winners and losers among siblings.Be the Safe Person: Ensure that children can express their feelings without fear of punishment or judgment.Act as a Mediator, Not an Arbitrator: Facilitate communication between siblings to help them resolve conflicts themselves.What episode should you listen to next?
Raising Siblings Part 1Adding a New BabyHow to Connect:
Never Miss a New Episode: CLICK HERESubscribe: If you haven't subscribed to the podcast yet, please do so on your preferred platform.Rate and Review: Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Share: Share this episode with friends and family, especially those who would benefit from learning about handling sibling conflicts.Links to Resources Mentioned:
Mr. Rogers' Song About FeelingsSiblings Without Rivalry BookConnect with Whole Parent:
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Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids
Episode Number: #23
Description: In this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon discusses the importance of raising emotionally intelligent kids. Jon shares personal insights and practical steps on how parents can foster emotional intelligence in their children. Jon also opens up about his recent break from podcasting, the challenges he faced, and how taking time for self-care has impacted his parenting.
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00:00 - Introduction and Jon's return to podcasting00:34 - Focus on topical episodes and the importance of emotional intelligence01:32 - Understanding and processing emotions03:31 - Personal updates (Why I ghosted)08:43 - Step 1: Recognizing and understanding emotions17:56 - Step 2: Naming and labeling emotions30:03 - Step 3: Expressing emotions in a healthy way36:00 - Encouraging kids to express their emotionsKey Takeaways:
Recognize Emotions: Check in with your body to identify physical signs of emotions.Name Emotions: Labeling emotions helps in processing and understanding them better.Express Emotions: Find healthy ways to express emotions, avoiding explosive outbursts.
Jon's Three Step Process for kidsLinks to Resources Mentioned:
Dr. Mark Brackett's work on emotional intelligenceWhole Brain Child by Dan Siegel and Tina Payne BrysonAtlas of the Heart by Brené BrownWhat episode should you listen to next?
Punishment-Free Parenting with Tina Payne BrysonHow to Connect:
Never Miss a New Episode: CLICK HERESubscribe: If you haven't subscribed to the podcast yet, please do so on your preferred platform. Rate and Review: Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Share: Share this episode with friends and family, especially those who would benefit from learning about emotional intelligence.Episode Transcript: The full transcript of this episode is available here.
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Do we need to punish our kids to be effective parents?
That's exactly what Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and I navigate through in this enriching discussion on punishment-free parenting. By distinguishing between discipline as a means to teach, rehearse, and impart skills and punishment as an alternatively counterproductive reaction, we illuminate a path where parents can regulate their emotions and approach each day with a fresh, constructive mindset.
Embark on a journey with us into the essence of 'whole parenting,' where the well-being of both parent and child is in the spotlight. This episode strips away the veneer of parenting perfection, as we share candid stories and acknowledge the slip-ups that accompany the challenge of raising our young.
We lay out the blueprint for fostering secure attachments and resilience in our kids, underlining the power of being present, consistent, and approachable, while recognizing the unique dynamics of parenting through various stages, especially the teenage years.
Wrapping up, Tina and I probe the delicate dance of discipline, where the art of being both firm and flexible fosters an environment ripe for our children to learn and make good decisions.
The insights shared here are about more than mere techniques; they celebrate the precious relationship between parent and child and offer a fresh perspective on parenting with purpose and joy.
Dr. Bryson's wisdom coupled with personal reflections make this episode a guiding light for parents aspiring to create a nurturing and supportive space for growth.Send us a text
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Ever felt like it's all on you and your kids ONLY wants you?
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Ever felt like, no matter what you do, you're always just second best in your child's eyes?
You're not alone. In this episode, we examine the emotional rollercoaster of the attachment hierarchy in families. Sharing my own experiences as a non-preferred parent, I peel back the layers of this complex dynamic.
As we traverse the spectrum of parenting challenges, from feeling like the backup to handling jealousy, you'll uncover strategies and reassurance that will redefine your approach to these sensitive situations.
Parenting is not a competition, yet it can certainly feel that way.
This episode sheds light on the evolutionary underpinnings of why children may gravitate towards one caregiver and how this is not an indictment of your parenting prowess. We'll navigate the tricky emotions that come with parental comparisons, offering insights into fostering secure attachments and empowering both preferred and non-preferred parents.
Then I address preferred parents and non-preferred parents directly and ask "What can you do, based on your role, to support your child and your partner?"
This was one of the most vulnerable episodes for me to record; I hope that you are encouraged and helped through listening!Send us a text
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Have you ever felt like you're in a mealtime showdown with your toddler, armed with nothing but a spoon and the "wrong" color cup? Me too. Every day.
Today I'm joined by Jennifer Anderson of Kids Eat in Color to arm you with the strategies you need to turn mealtime battles into family building fun. We dissect the mystery behind toddler diets, discussing ways to make eating fun and how parents can lead by example to encourage adventurous food choices. This isn't just about getting peas onto their plate; it's about setting the foundation for a lifetime of healthy eating.
Let's be real—feeding a picky eater can feel like trying to solve a Rubik's cube blindfolded (where the colors change every meal). Jennifer and I get personal, sharing our own experiences with the challenges of nurturing diverse palates. We tackle the rainbow of eating behaviors from choosy to chowhound and offer a fresh perspective on introducing new foods. This chat goes beyond the plate, delving into how to build a positive body relationship with your kids, ensuring they grow up with confidence in their food choices and themselves.
Forget what you've heard about sugar and hyperactivity, or the myths that red dye is the root of all meltdowns. We're here to debunk these and other common misconceptions about kids' diets. Plus, we're dishing out practical tips like using micro portions and engaging kids in meal prep to encourage a more varied diet. By the end of our conversation, you'll have a toolkit filled with strategies to support your child in developing a healthy, resilient relationship with food—one joyful bite at a time. Join us on this culinary adventure and watch your little ones flourish into wholehearted, healthy eaters.Send us a text
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