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In this episode of To All The Girls Out There, we're talking about the pressure to always "know your worth," have high standards, and never get fooled, and why that mindset might be doing more harm than good.
Social media often tells us that if we're discerning enough, we'll never choose the wrong people or get hurt. But is that actually true? Or have we confused discernment with trying to control things that we can't?
This episode dives into:
✨ Why social media has changed the way we think about self-worth and standards
✨ The difference between discernment and control
✨ Why getting deceived isn't always a reflection of your wisdom
✨ How fear of looking "stupid" influences our decisions
✨ Why self-trust is more important than trying to predict every outcome
✨ How to respond with wisdom instead of fear when life doesn't go to planIf you've ever blamed yourself for trusting the wrong person for judged another person for doing so, this episode is for you.
Website👩🏽💻: toallthegirlsoutthere.com
Instagram📷: @toallthe_girlss
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In this episode of To All The Girls Out There, we’re talking about something uncomfortable but important: why we’ve become so comfortable with hating, judging, and watching other people fail.
From social media comment sections to celebrity downfall culture, we explore why someone else’s success can sometimes make us feel uncomfortable and why another person’s failure can bring a strange sense of relief.
We discuss schadenfreude, the psychology behind taking pleasure in someone else’s misfortune, and unpack what’s really going on beneath comparison, jealousy, resentment, and insecurity.
This episode dives into:
✨ Why social media has normalised hate culture
✨ The psychology of schadenfreude and comparison
✨ Why other people’s success can feel triggering
✨ How resentment and unresolved hurt can fuel negative reactions
✨ What your triggers reveal about your desires and insecurities
✨ How to shift from being a critic to becoming a supporter📚 Mentioned in this episode:
Schadenfreude (taking pleasure in the pain of another)
Website👩🏽💻: toallthegirlsoutthere.com
Instagram📷: @toallthe_girlss
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In this episode of To All The Girls Out There, we’re talking about the hidden side of personal growth, when productivity, discipline, and “becoming your best self” turn into pressure, comparison, and feeling like you’re never enough.
We explore toxic productivity, hustle culture, perfectionism, and the idea that your worth is not measured by how much you achieve. Self-development can be beautiful, but there’s a difference between growing from a place of self-love and trying to “fix” yourself because you don’t feel worthy.
This episode dives into:
✨ Why self-improvement can become unhealthy
✨ The difference between discipline and self-punishment
✨ How hustle culture affects our relationships, health, and happiness
✨ Redefining success beyond achievements
✨ Learning to balance ambition with rest, connection, and faith
✨ Trusting the process and letting go of the need to control everything📚 Mentioned in this episode
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
We referenced Maslow’s model of human motivation during the episode. You can read more about it here:
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs (overview)Website👩🏽💻: toallthegirlsoutthere.com
Instagram📷: @toallthe_girlss
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Hey Beautiful 💓In this episode of To All The Girls Out There (TATGOT) , I talk about something that genuinely shifted how I see people and myself — the core conditions from Carl Rogers.
It’s less of a “lesson” and more me sharing what I’ve been learning and how it’s been showing up in my life.I used to get really confused about how to hold my own beliefs while still being around people who think completely differently from me. I didn’t really know how to not judge people without feeling like I was losing myself in the process.
Learning about empathy, congruence, and unconditional positive regard helped me make sense of that in a really simple way.
In this episode I talk through:
What empathy actually feels like in real lifeLearning to be honest with yourself without overthinking itAccepting people without needing to agree with themPractical examples of how this may show up in friendships, work, and everyday conversationsAnd steps you can take to become more open mindedThings you may want to look at:
Further reading on Carl Rogers' Core ConditionsLevel 2 Counselling Searcher (CPCAB) ( this has a centre finder where you can find the closest centres that do it for you or you can do it online ;))Website👩🏽💻: toallthegirlsoutthere.com
Instagram📷: @toallthe_girlss
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In this episode of To All The Girls Out There, I'm joined by counsellor and educator Marisa Mansfield for an honest conversation about authenticity, self-worth, therapy, boundaries, and what it really means to be yourself.
Marisa opens up about her childhood growing up between privilege and hardship, the lessons she learned from adversity, and why she believes the worst thing we can be afraid of is fear itself.
We talk about making peace with your past instead of living with regret, why therapy can be life-changing, and how to stop performing for other people and start building a life that feels true to you.
We also discuss:
🩷 Growing up with trauma and becoming resilient
🩷 Therapy, healing, and breaking generational cycles
🩷 Why regrets get you nowhere
🩷 Learning to make peace with your past
🩷 Boundaries, self-respect, and saying no
🩷 Women, equality, and knowing your worth
🩷 Why being yourself is harder than it sounds
🩷 Social media, influencers, and performative lifestyles
🩷 Finding your identity instead of following the crowd
🩷 How to stop people pleasing and live authentically
🩷 Why not everyone has to like you
🩷 Building confidence one small step at a time
One of my favourite reminders from this episode is:
"You are the only perfect version of yourself."
If you've ever struggled with confidence, people pleasing, fitting in, comparison, or feeling like you've lost yourself, I hope this episode reminds you that you don't need to become somebody else to be worthy 🤍
If you enjoyed this episode, share it with a girl who needs to hear it and leave a review — it helps the podcast reach more girls who need these conversations.
Website👩🏽💻: toallthegirlsoutthere.com
Instagram📷: @toallthe_girlss
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In this episode of To All The Girls Out There, I’m joined by a very special guest — my little sister, Khadijah — for an honest conversation about self-worth, friendships, confidence, loneliness, and staying true to yourself in a world that constantly pressures you to fit in.
We talk about the reality of feeling different from your peers, navigating school and college, and why being alone is sometimes better than forcing friendships that don’t align with your values.
Khadijah opens up about spending much of Year 10 alone, the lessons she learned from that experience, and how she eventually found genuine friendships by refusing to settle for connections that didn’t feel right.
We also discuss:
🩷 Self-worth and building confidence from within
🩷 Learning to be alone without feeling lonely
🩷 Friendship struggles and finding your people
🩷 Peer pressure and staying true to your values
🩷 Internal vs external validation
🩷 Why confidence isn't arrogance
🩷 Emotional regulation and learning not to react to everything
🩷 Why not everyone has to like you
🩷 Navigating friendships as a teenage girl
🩷 Trusting yourself and embracing who you are
📖 Resources Mentioned:
• Research on emotions and emotional regulation
• My episode on friendships and choosing the right people (on private podcast)
• The quote mentioned in the episode: "If a blind person couldn't see your appearance, how would they describe you based on your character, energy, and the way you make others feel?"
One of the biggest reminders from this episode is that two amazing people can exist at once. Someone else's beauty, success, popularity, or confidence does not take away from your own.
If you've ever felt left out, struggled with friendships, questioned your self-worth, or felt pressure to change yourself to fit in, know you're not alone 🤍
If you enjoyed this episode, share it with a girl who needs to hear it and leave a review — it helps the podcast reach more girls who need these conversations.
Website👩🏽💻: toallthegirlsoutthere.com
Instagram📷: @toallthe_girlss
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In this episode of To All The Girls Out There, I’m joined by Alex for a deep and honest conversation around yoga, healing, self worth, relationships, people pleasing, and learning to protect your peace.
Alex opens up about leaving a long-term relationship, overcoming anxious attachment, and learning that healthy love should feel safe — not constantly anxiety-inducing.
We also talk about:
Healing through relationships and self reflectionPeople pleasing and learning to put yourself firstWhy women hold onto potential in relationshipsAnxious attachment and emotional safetyLearning to communicate your needsBuilding confidence in the workplaceLetting go of control and giving yourself graceFinding balance, peace, and trusting yourselfHow yoga helped Alex reconnect with herself📖 Resources Mentioned:
Kaizen by Sarah Harvey ( on small steps to establishing habits)Dr Tara Swart's work on neuroscience and reinventing yourself
🩷 If you enjoyed this episode, share it with a girl who needs to hear it and leave a review — it helps the podcast reach more girls who need these conversations.
Follow Alex:
Instagram: @alignwithalex.yogaWebsite👩🏽💻: toallthegirlsoutthere.com
Instagram📷: @toallthe_girlss
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In this episode of To All The Girls Out There, I’m joined by Gloria, and this conversation is such a soft but honest one that I think a lot of girls will see themselves in.
We talk about the lessons learnt over the years since being in secondary school and sixth form to the current independent era of uni.
Gloria opens up about being more to herself, navigating friendships, and what it’s been like learning to stay grounded in who she is, even when she’s felt different or out of place at times.
We also talk about:
Being selective with friendships and outgrowing peopleNavigating the jump from Sixth form to Uni Struggling to open up and express your emotions The pressure to be “strong” all the time Staying true to yourself without shrinking🩷 If you enjoyed this episode, share it with a girl who needs it and leave a review — it helps the podcast reach more girls who need these conversations.
Website👩🏽💻: toallthegirlsoutthere.com
Instagram📷: @toallthe_girlss
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In this episode, we’re having a real conversation for the girls who feel like they’re doing everything right… but nothing is changing.
If you’ve ever felt stuck, behind in life, or like you’re trying so hard with no results — this episode is for you.
I talk about the frustration of putting in effort and not seeing progress, the thoughts that come with it, and those moments where you feel like giving up. This is something I’m personally going through right now, so this isn’t advice from someone who has it all figured out — it’s just honest, in-the-moment reflection.
We also touch on trusting the process, letting go of control, and having faith that things will come at the right time.
If you’re on a self-growth journey and feeling discouraged, I hope this reminds you that you’re not alone 🤍
Website👩🏽💻: toallthegirlsoutthere.com
Instagram📷: @toallthe_girlss
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This episode is a love letter to the women who shape us.
For International Women's Day, I wanted to take a moment to reflect on the women who have influenced the person I am today — from the women in my family, to teachers who guided me, to creators online who inspired me to grow.
Every woman carries a kind of superpower.
Sometimes it’s resilience. Sometimes it’s confidence. Sometimes it’s the ability to remind you of who you are when you’ve forgotten.In this episode I talk about the women who impacted my life and the lessons they taught me about:
• self-worth
• courage
• feminine energy
• chasing your dreams
• healing and inner work
• and embracing the power of being a womanBut this episode isn’t just about the women in my life.
It’s also about you.
Because the truth is:
You might be someone else’s superhero too.
Women Mentioned in This Episode
Tam Kaur
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@tamkaur
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tamkaurAwwlexis
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@awwlexis
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/awwlexisBahja Abdi
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BahjaAbdi
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/baahjaaa/Afnan Khalifa
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Theafnankhalifaa
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theanfnankhalifa/?hl=enLena Lifts
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lenalifts
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lenaliftsEpisodes Mentioned
- Episode With Miss Probett: Women Are Not Your Competition: Comparison & Anxiety
- Episode With Miss Dennis: Be Confident in Yourself and Stop Taking Things Personally
- Previous Episode: How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Other Women — We Can Both Be That Girl
Website👩🏽💻: toallthegirlsoutthere.com
Instagram📷: @toallthe_girlss
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Four episodes into this season of To All The Girls Out There, I felt called to pause and reflect.
In this solo reflective episode, I’m unpacking the comparison trap in the social media era and asking some real questions about where our confidence actually comes from.
We talk about:
Comparing your everyday life to someone else’s highlight reelInternal vs external validationConfidence built on complimentsWhy another woman’s beauty or success doesn’t cancel yoursHow we can coexist instead of competeYou are not behind. You are not lacking. And you don’t need to dim your light because someone else is shining.
We can both be that girl.
Ramadan Mubarak to my Muslim girls listening 🤍
Referenced Episodes:
If this conversation resonated with you, you may also love:
• My episode with Laiba on accepting yourself
• My conversation with Miss Probett on women coexisting instead of competing
You can find both episodes linked on the blog post for this episode.
Website👩🏽💻: toallthegirlsoutthere.com
Instagram📷: @toallthe_girlss
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In this episode of To All The Girls Out There, I’m joined by returning guest Laiba Waseem, and honestly… this conversation is one every girl needs to hear.
Laiba opens up about what it really means to change your life, why healing isn’t about fixing yourself, and how learning to accept who you are can be more powerful than constantly trying to improve.
We also talk about:
Healing your inner child and moving forward after traumaPeople pleasing, self-worth, and fear of disappointing otherslearning the power of saying noSetting boundaries (even with family)Leaving home and starting over in a new cityWhy it’s never too late to start healingOutgrowing friendships and toxic dynamic🩷 If you enjoyed this episode, share it with a girl who needs it and leave a review — it helps the podcast reach more girls who need these conversations.
Laiba's Linked In Page : Here
Website👩🏽💻: toallthegirlsoutthere.com
Instagram📷: @toallthe_girlss
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In this episode of To All The Girls Out There (S1:E3), I sit down with one of my secondary school teachers, Sharon Talbot, a woman who played a huge role in shaping who I am today. We have an honest, heartfelt conversation about growing up as a girl in a world full of pressure — from school, friendships, and identity, to social media, comparison, and the feeling of always having to be “on.”
We explore how constant phone use, instant gratification, and online culture can disconnect girls from themselves, and how to reclaim a sense of freedom and confidence while staying true to who you are. Sharon shares her wisdom on learning when to speak up, when to let things go, and how not to take on other people’s stress or stories.
Beyond self-worth and boundaries, we talk about community, roots, Black identity, and how understanding where you come from can ground you in a world full of noise.
This episode is especially for the girls who feel misunderstood, overwhelmed, or like they’re constantly being pulled to become someone they’re not.
Website👩🏽💻: toallthegirlsoutthere.com
Instagram📷: @toallthe_girlss
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What does it really mean to grow up as a girl today?
In this episode of To All The Girls Out There, I sit down with my secondary school form tutor for an honest and grounding conversation— about anxiety, comparison, friendships, womanhood, and learning to trust yourself.
We talk about why so many girls feel pressure to grow up too fast, how anxiety can turn into being “addicted to stress,” and why perfectionism can stop you from actually living your life. From struggling to make decisions, fearing getting things wrong, and feeling like you always need to explain yourself — to learning how to give yourself grace and breathe again.
My secondary school form tutor shares her perspective as a teacher and a woman, opening up about anxiety, therapy, confidence, and why healing doesn’t erase who you are — it helps you become more yourself. We also talk about why women are taught to compete with each other, how patriarchy shows up in subtle everyday ways, and why women are not your competition.
We get into:
Anxiety, stress, and feeling scared to make decisionsGrowing up too fast and the pressure to be perfectFriendship struggles, comparison, and girlhood at schoolAsking for what you want and being more directWomanhood, confidence, and choosing your own pathWhy healing doesn’t mean losing your personalityFinding your people after leaving schoolLearning to appreciate the small moments in life🤍 Connect with Sally
I’m so grateful to Sally for this conversation and for the impact she’s had on so many young people — in and beyond the classroom.
You can find her here:
LinkedIn: Sally ProbettHer business: Her Sunday Society— a brilliant platform she co-founded with her friend, doing meaningful work to support Women🌱Website👩🏽💻: toallthegirlsoutthere.com
Instagram📷: @toallthe_girlss
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Hey lovely, welcome to the first episode of the new season of To All The Girls Out There! 🌸
This season is all about inner work—understanding yourself, raising your standards, and becoming the best version of you. In today’s solo episode, I’m sharing my personal inner work journey: how I went from insecure and overwhelmed to confident, grounded, and intentional in my friendships, relationships, and life.
You’ll hear how small, conscious actions can shift your mindset, confidence, and even the people and opportunities you attract.
I’ll also give you a simple exercise to start bridging the gap between your current self and your ideal self, helping you take your first step toward clarity, confidence, and empowerment. 🩷
Listen, learn, and get inspired—because it’s possible for you too x
✨ Links mentioned in this episode:
Private Podcast – my personal inner work journey, guiding you through self-worth, confidence, and standing on business.
Listen here →Standing on Business: Wake-Up Call (Free Guide) – see where you’ve been settling, recognise your patterns, and take your first steps to change.
Download here →Standing on Business Guide (Full Guide) – for girls ready to take action, raise their standards, and embody a woman who doesn’t compromise on self-worth.
Get the guide →Blog: The “Men Are Trash” Mindset – understand how this belief might be keeping you stuck, and why it’s holding back your relationships and growth.
Read here →Website👩🏽💻: toallthegirlsoutthere.com
Instagram📷: @toallthe_girlss
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Sis, I know too many of us have been hurt by guys, and sometimes it just feels easier to say, “men are trash” and keep it moving. But is that belief really protecting you… or is it keeping you stuck?
In this episode, I talk about how this mindset forms, what it’s really doing to you, and how you can start to shift it — not for them, but for you.
📝 Share your story anonymously:
google forms link📥 Download the free Standing On Business: Wake-Up Call guide (plus access private bonus podcast episodes):
Standing On Business The Wake Up Call GuideYou deserve better. You deserve to stand on business.💗
Website👩🏽💻: toallthegirlsoutthere.com
Instagram📷: @toallthe_girlss
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Welcome, Lovelies! 💕In today’s episode of To All The Girls Out There (TATGOT), I’m sharing an exciting update on the direction of the podcast. Don’t worry, the heart of the message stays the same. I’m still here to help you heal, know your worth, and grow into the best version of yourself. But now, we’re doing it in an even deeper and more exciting way!!!!
✨ Want to be a guest? If you have a story, insight, or experience that could empower another girl’s journey, don’t hold back! Just fill out the form, and if it’s a match, I’ll be in touch. You never know whose life could change because of your story. So if you're thinking about it go for it girll 💗 Sign up here.
If you want deeper, raw advice, get access to my private podcast, where I share exclusive insights, real-life experiences, and practical tips for the girls who are truly ready to do the inner work and transform their lives. Join here.
I can’t wait to step into this next chapter with you. Stay shining, Queen! 👑🩷
Website👩🏽💻: toallthegirlsoutthere.com
Instagram📷: @toallthe_girlss
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In today’s episode of To All The Girls Out There (TATGOT), we’re diving into something so important—why investing in yourself and your looks matters. As a Muslim woman wearing hijab, I know the struggle of balancing modesty with the desire to honour my beauty, and I’m here to remind you that looking after yourself is a form of self-respect.
Whether you’re a hijabi or not, this episode is for every woman who needs a reminder that your body deserves love, care, and honour.
1:1 Coaching
Ramdan Guide
Website👩🏽💻: toallthegirlsoutthere.com
Instagram📷: @toallthe_girlss
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In this episode, we’re getting real about something many of us struggle with: vulnerability. Growing up, I believed that making mistakes was a sign of weakness, and I worked hard to avoid them. But over time, I’ve learned that vulnerability is actually a strength. In this deep chat, I discuss why it's okay to make mistakes, why we shouldn't be too hard on ourselves, and how embracing the unknown helps us grow. If you've ever felt like you had to have all the answers or been afraid of looking foolish, this episode is for you.
Ramadan guide
Coaching page
Website👩🏽💻: toallthegirlsoutthere.com
Instagram📷: @toallthe_girlss
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In this episode of To All The Girls Out There (TATGOT), I chat with Laiba Waseem about her journey growing up in a toxic household, doing the inner work, and becoming a mental health advocate. We talk about healing, breaking old patterns, and finding your worth. If you’ve ever felt stuck or struggled with your mental health, this one’s for you.
✨ Connect with Laiba on LinkedIn: Laiba Waseem
✨ Want to start your own healing journey? Check out my 1:1 coaching at To All The Girls Out There.Website👩🏽💻: toallthegirlsoutthere.com
Instagram📷: @toallthe_girlss
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