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Welcome back to Carnal Knowledge! A weekly rendezvous between sex and science. This week Anna take Jer and Bryde down a deep dark rabbit hole exploring the mating psychology of incels (involuntarily celibate individuals) and challenges some common misconceptions about them. This study explores the three big M's when it comes to incels; Misfortunes, Misperceptions, and Misrepresentations. A conversation that emphasizes the importance of compassion when talking about a group who's beliefs and behaviours stems from deep rooted issues and trauma.
Link to study
Citation:
Costello, W., Rolon, V., Thomas, A. G., & Schmitt, D. P. (2023). The Mating Psychology of Incels (Involuntary Celibates): Misfortunes, Misperceptions, and Misrepresentations. The Journal of Sex Research, 1â12. https://doi.org/10.1080/00224499.2023.2248096
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Purity pledges are a thing of the past, right? Portia Brown is a sex coach and educator, and a purity culture drop out. Hailing from the Midwest, Portia knew from an early age that anything she wanted to understand about sex she was going to have to read about at the library. A religious upbringing paired with abstinence only sex ed didnât stop Portia from becoming the teenager who was thrilled to be handing out condoms at her college fresh week.
This week Jeremie and Bryde chat with Portia about purity culture and its impact on society and reproductive rights, evident in the overturning of Roe v Wade, the rise of modesty influencers, and the increase in conservative ideologies. They discuss how the Covid pandemic may have pushed society even further in this direction. Jeremie learns about Father Daughter Balls, or, Purity Balls, commonplace in some conservative a Christian groups in the US.
Portia's Links:
Instagram
Twitter
Tiktok
Website
Keywords
sex coach, purity culture, religious beliefs, oppression, women, LGBTQ+ community, challenge, dismantle, inclusive, sex-positive, purity culture, reproductive rights, societal norms, conservative ideologies, COVID-19, political divide, abstinence-only sex education, comprehensive sex education,
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Turn Me On presents: Carnal Knowledge! Our new weekly rendezvous between sex and science. In this conversation, TMO's resident sex researcher, Anna, discusses a paper titled 'Does Clitoral Knowledge Translate Into Orgasm? The Interplay Between Clitoral Knowledge, Gendered Sexual Scripts, and Orgasm Experience.'
The paper explores the inequality in orgasm rates and sexual pleasure between heterosexual women and men. Do women have more clitoral knowledge than men? Does gendered sexual scripts impact sexual pleasure? What is more important for the optimal orgasm experience; a knowledge of our genital anatomy or our ability to advocate for the pleasure that we desire? Science is sexy, folks.
Link to study
Citation:
Dienberg, M. F., Oschatz, T., Kosman, E., & Klein, V. (2023). Does Clitoral Knowledge Translate into Orgasm? The Interplay Between Clitoral Knowledge, Gendered Sexual Scripts, and Orgasm Experience. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 49(5), 484â496. https://doi.org/10.1080/0092623X.2022.2147112
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If masturbation needs anything, itâs some fresh new idioms. Welcome to Season 5 of Turn Me On, a season where hosts Bryde and Jeremie are excited to dive even deeper into their mutual love for words, science, and perspective shifting conversations in the name of bettering the sex and love lives of all. Welcome, Anna! A fabulous addition to this season, Anna is a passionate graduate student from Columbia University who is excited to share the latest in sex research every week in a brand new segment. Fans of Turn Me On, get ready for a second episode every week to help you keep that pilot light lit.
In this host episode, Bryde presents Jeremie with some unasked questions about common masturbation habits, and tests him with some hard hitting trivia including how and when masturbation shows up in humans and non-human animals, and which famous person said what on the subject of autoeroticism.
Takeaways
Masturbation is a common and healthy behavior in humans and animals.Masturbation can have mental health benefits, such as stress relief and increased confidence.Sex toys can enhance the experience of masturbation, but personal preferences vary.Different animals engage in self-pleasure using various techniques and objects.Famous individuals have shared their thoughts and experiences related to masturbation.Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Whatâs a bigger turn off than feeling like sex might shred your vagina? Deb Porteus found new love right along the same time she started perimenopause, and the kicker is that "new relationship energy" sex combined with vaginal dryness for folks who are going through âthe changeâ, it fucking hurts. They tried the standards and explored at length, but firecracker Deb and her lover Brian were determined to make something better than what they could find, and The Pleasure Pods were born. Longtime friends from teaching yoga together, Deb, Bryde and Jeremie chat about what The Pleasure Pods are made of, what they look, feel, smell, and taste like, and the many ways they can be used to enhance your pleasure. No, this is not an ad! Deb has a spirit that will light you up and inspire you, and you will enjoy her story of how she went about getting into lube development and becoming a âfrigginâ awesome squirterâ.
Pleasure Pods Links:
Instagram
Facebook
Youtube
www.thepleasurepods.com
Takeaways
Pleasure Pods are small, solid lubricant pods made of natural ingredients like mango butter, cocoa butter, and coconut butter.The pods melt upon contact with the skin, providing a smooth and long-lasting lubrication.Pleasure Pods can be used for sexual activities, massages, and as a skincare product for soothing irritated skin.Deborah's personal experience with perimenopause and vaginal dryness inspired her to create Pleasure Pods to address the lack of effective and safe lubricants on the market.Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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What is the most common question an online sex educator finds in her DMs? Danielle Bezalel, aka DB, is an executive producer and creator of Sex Ed with DB. She has a Master of Public Health with a focus on sexuality and reproductive health. In this conversation, she talks to Bryde and Jeremie about public health and its role with sex education, highlighting the need for age-appropriate and medically accurate sex education that covers topics such as boundaries, consent, puberty, menstruation, STIs, and contraception, and statistics relating to abstinence only sex ed.
DB breaks down the benefits of masturbation, including effects on stress levels, mood, and confidence, and details on her own masturbation science project and the findings. Jeremie offers a brief history lesson on the Magic Wand. Other topics of conversation include the challenges of being a sexual health influencer on social media plus a workshop to help folks who are establishing their sex health brands online. DB also addresses questions about talking to children about masturbation and the most common questions she receives as a sexual health educator.
Follow DB:
X
Instagram
Facebook
Tiktok
Website
Workshop
Youtube
Other episode mentions:
Guttmacher Institute
Keywords: sex education, public health, abstinence-only, comprehensive, age-appropriate, medically accurate, boundaries, consent, puberty, menstruation, STIs, contraception, pleasure, orgasm gap, sex education, masturbation, sexual health, Magic Wand, confidence, parenting, sex toys, social media
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What's it like to make a decision in favour of your sexual and mental well-being that costs you everything you know and sometimes everyone you love? Julia and Jeremiah Postema are certified sex therapists who grew up in different religious communities, and from their experiences they speak to singles and couples who are on their own healing path from shame, disillusionment, and allegiance to the church. Jeremie and Bryde chat with today's guests about the restrictive gendered messages around relationships and sexuality that exist within evangelical, Mormon, and Pentecostal communities. They also talk about the challenges of existing in both religious and philosophical spaces and the grief that can come with leaving a religious community. They highlight the importance of expanding options for healthy relationships and sexuality, at a pace that is appropriate for those in treatment.
Find Sexvangelicals here:
Instagram
Facebook
Website
Substack
Keywords
sex, religion, sexuality, religious communities, sex therapy, gender norms, trad wife, evangelical, Mormon, Pentecostal, philosophy, spirituality, grief, leaving a religious community, healthy relationships, religion, sexuality, relationships, abstinence-only education, gender differences, shame, therapy, couples, communication
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Have you ever wondered why your mother/daughter is such a bitch? Dr. Debra Mandel, nationally renowned psychologist and author of 4 books including the bestselling "Dump That Chump," joins Bryde and Jeremie for a conversation about Dr. Debraâs latest release, âSassy & Rude, Her New Attitude: A Tough Love Guide for Moms on How to Bring Back The Sugar and Spice in Their Not-so-Nice Adult Daughtersâ. This conversation centers on the relationship between adult mothers and adult daughters, and this information is for you if you are either of those or anyone who knows and loves a mother daughter duo. The three talk through personal anecdotes and professional insights on themes of shame, power dynamics, shifts in relationship, independence, boundaries, expectations, body image, and more. Dr. Debra provides insights and advice on fostering healthy communication, addressing conflicts, and supporting each other's growth.
Dr. Debra brings over 30 years working clinically with individuals, couples, and families with a range of specialties from relationship and daily life issues to depression, anxiety, eating disorders and addiction, and she speaks on her subject with humour and compassion at the forefront.
Links
Twitter: @DrDebraMandel
Instagram: @dr.debramandel
Facebook: Dr. Debra Mandel, The LOVE Warrior
Youtube: @debramandel7083
Website: DrDebraOnline.com
Keywords
parent-adult child relationships, healing, communication, power dynamics, open dialogue, understanding, mothers, adult daughters, boundaries, expectations, roles, responsibilities, self-care, body image, communication, conflicts, growth, empathy, understanding
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Itâs time for a revolution in the sheets and the streets, as we sit down with Cindy Gallop, the genius at the forefront of the Social Sex Revolution. Cindy, the visionary behind MakeLoveNotPorn, shares the serendipitous inception of her platform and how it's challenging and reshaping societal norms around sex. But that's just the first layer. Delving deeper, Cindy unravels the complex web of gender bias in AI, advocating for a seismic shift towards inclusivity and safety in tech through the lens of female innovation. Imagine a world where AI not only serves us but enhances our creativity and nurtures ethical, consensual relationships in the digital ageâCindy believes it's not just possible; it's imperative. From the gritty challenges of entrepreneurship to the soaring potential of AI in the arts and sex tech, this conversation is a masterclass in disruption, diversity, and daring to dream.
Relevant Links:
MakeLoveNotPorn
TheArts.AI
MakeLoveNotPorn WeFunder
Socials:
Substack
Instagram
X
Linkedin
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This week weâre passing the vibe check with VibeSlut, AKA Abby Jensen! Abby is the comedic force behind the Rat Girls podcast who joins us to blow the lid off women's health and sexuality. With a blend of humour and hard truths, she takes us on a wild ride through the often hushed world of orgasms, face-sitting tutorials, and the art of taking the perfect nude. It's a beginner's guide to the taboo. From the debate of beard versus stubble in intimate moments to navigating the murky waters of social media censorship, Abbyl doesn't shy away from anything. She even dishes out advice on keeping the flame alive in long-term relationships with a mix of flirting and open conversation about sex. This episode is a candid exploration of the challenges and triumphs in talking openly about sexuality.
Links:
Check out Abby's IG
Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life
Rat Girls Podcast
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Enter a realm where play parties become immersive experiences. In this episode, Michael Hollice, founder of The Play, walks the hosts through the creation of something special on the play party scene.
Inspired by what he found lacking in his initial forays into the play parties and backed with organizational experience in elevating artistic events, Michael was impassioned to shift the culture. Jeremie and Bryde hear about what to expect between the hours of 8 pm - 4 am at The Play, including special guidelines for socializing, expressive art as foreplay, and the four pillars behind this growing community that guide every event.
Links:
The Play - Website
The Play - Instagram
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Ever thought of hiring a travel agent for your love life? Let Ally Iseman, the creator of Passport 2 Pleasure be your guide to alternative relationships. Ally shares her story with the hosts, emphasizing the importance of personal growth, understanding boundaries, and the transformative power of compersion in relationships. Ally challenges monogamous norms, spotlighting divorce rates and advocating for diverse relationship frameworks. Tune in for a conversation that offers insights applicable to all relationship types. Visit Ally's hub passport2pleasure.com for resources, featuring courses, retreats, and a couple of great prompts for self-discovery.
Key Takeaways:
Personal growth and self-reflection are essential in navigating healthy non-monogamy.Understanding and communicating boundaries is crucial for personal growth and relationship success.Compersion, the feeling of joy and excitement when a partner experiences pleasure with someone else, can enhance relationships.Relationship agreements, outlining boundaries and expectations, are valuable tools for all types of relationships.The skills and tools learned in non-monogamy are applicable to all types of relationships, including monogamous ones. Knowing oneself is crucial for building healthy relationships.Monogamy is not the only relationship framework, and it may not work for everyone.Divorce rates for monogamous marriages are high, indicating that it may not be successful for everyone.There are multiple ways to relate and love others and oneself.Links:
ï»żAlly's Relationship Ratio
Ally's Big Why
Instagram
Tiktok
Facebook
YouTube
Chapters:
00:00
Introduction
00:45
Ally's Journey to Non-Monogamy
02:00
Choosing a Career in Non-Monogamy Education
03:19
Exploring Non-Monogamy in a Relationship
05:14
Personal Growth and Emotional Casualties
06:11
Formal Education and Launching Passport 2 Pleasure
07:51
Understanding Boundaries and Personal Growth
09:46
Unrealistic Boundaries and Hindrances
11:14
Differentiating Discomfort and Lack of Safety
13:47
The Concept of Compersion
15:14
Discovering Compersion and Dealing with Jealousy
18:20
Explaining Compersion to Others
21:46
The Unique Feeling of Compersion
23:16
The Desire for a Partner to Be Everything
25:22
The Importance of Relationship Agreements
27:15
Creating Relationship Agreements
29:04
Applying Relationship Agreement Concepts to Friendships
35:02
Introduction to Passport 2 Pleasure
36:34
Planning Eco-Luxury Retreats
38:04
Applying Non-Monogamy Skills to Monogamous Relationships
40:19
Exploring Relationship Frameworks
41:14
Monogamy and Divorce Rates
41:53
Finding Ally Iseman
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Quick, honey. Grab the lube! This week the hosts explore the transformative world of sexual wellness with another conversation with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent. Jeff takes us through his inspiring journey toward revolutionizing the sexual wellness industry, emphasizing the critical role of medical certification and science-backed products. His narrative delves into the challenges of bringing Promescent to the forefront, highlighting the broader need for comprehensive sexual education and the obstacles encountered in advertising sexual wellness products. Throughout the conversation, Jeff addresses the societal stigmas and restrictions that often hinder the marketing efforts within the sexual wellness space, advocating for the recognition of sex as an essential activity of daily living. Jeff also shares insights into the expansion of Promescentâs product line, focusing on inclusivity and the importance of addressing common sexual health issues, such as premature ejaculation and the pleasure gap.
Interested in Promescent?
Check out our first conversation with Jeff!
Make Love Not Porn
Key takeaways:
Medical certification and evidence-based products are paramount in the sexual wellness industry.Comprehensive sexual education is essential for overcoming common sexual health issues.The advertising and marketing of sexual wellness products face unique challenges due to societal stigma.Recognizing sex as an integral part of daily living is crucial for holistic health.Expansion and inclusivity in product lines are key to addressing diverse needs in sexual health.Chapters:
00:00
Introduction to Jeff Abraham and Promescent
03:05
The Importance of Medical Certification and Science-Based Products
05:27
Jeff's Journey to Promescent
07:20
Addressing Premature Ejaculation and the Pleasure Gap
12:31
Jeff's Understanding of Sexuality and Pleasure
16:41
The Need for Comprehensive Sexual Education
21:30
The Frustrations of Advertising Sexual Wellness Products
25:17
Sex as an Activity of Daily Living
32:47
Expanding the Product Line of Promescent
49:15
Continuity and Customer Experience
50:08
Expanding into Retail and Women's Products
52:17
Discreet Packaging and Retail Expansion
53:40
Financial Motives and Sexual Wellness
54:34
Family Planning and Women's Rights
56:01
Considering Other Locations
57:22
Educating Customers and Product Satisfaction
59:11
Authenticity and Trust in Marketing
01:02:38
Closing Remarks and Support
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The Turn Me On family is growing, and Jeremie and Bryde are excited to be introducing a new team member, Anna, who has come on board to bring her incredible support and help us delve deeper into the fascinating world of sexuality research. Anna's arrival marks a new chapter for the podcast, infusing the show with fresh energy and enthusiasm. After some Anna love bombs, the hosts dive into the sex lives of bugs. Digging into insect mating rituals, covering everything from seductive mating calls to the exchange of spermatophores (yum). Bryde and Jeremie explore the peculiar practices of feeding during mating, and even the ultimate sacrifice some insects make for reproduction.
Key Takeaways:
The addition of Anna to the podcast team has brought new energy and support to the show.The hosts plan to focus more on the research side of sexuality in future episodes.Bug sex is a fascinating topic, with insects using various strategies for mating and reproduction.Valentine's Day controversies, such as naming exes in cat litter boxes, can be seen as toxic and unnecessary.Chapters:
00:00
Introduction and Announcement
03:08
The Role of Anna in the Podcast
06:56
Exploring Bug Sex
08:40
Mating Calls and Musical Seduction
09:31
Spermatophore and Feeding During Mating
10:19
Fatal Attractions and Self-Sacrifice
16:52
The Pleasure Principle
21:26
Acknowledging the Listeners and Future Plans
22:23
Discussion on Valentine's Day Controversies
25:59
Conclusion and Call to Support the Podcast
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Who knew a plateful of nutrition could be your ally in the bedroom and beyond? Dive into the vital connection between nutrition and fertility with Lisa Hendrickson-Jack in this episode of Turn Me On. Celebrating her new book, Real Food for Fertility, Lisa emphasizes the power of diet in preparing for pregnancy and boosting fertility. She explores the importance of tracking the menstrual cycle for natural birth control, conception, and gauging overall health, highlighting the critical role of micronutrients in hormone production and building a healthy foundation for your baby. The conversation also covers navigating the transition off of birth control, the impact on fertility, and delves into sperm and egg quality. Learn about the significance of striving for optimal fertility markers, influenced by factors like age, diet, and lifestyle, and discover practical strategies to enhance fertility. Whether you're planning for pregnancy or are keen on reproductive health, this episode offers invaluable insights and actionable advice for anyone looking to optimize their fertility through real food and lifestyle adjustments.
Key Takeaways:
- Understanding the menstrual cycle and tracking it can support natural birth control, conception, and overall health.
- Nutrition plays a crucial role in fertility, and women should prioritize their macronutrient and micronutrient intake.
- Coming off birth control should be planned ahead to allow time for hormone normalization and nutrient replenishment.
- Egg quality and quantity decline over time, and it is important to prioritize overall health and nutrition to support fertility.
- Sperm quality is a significant factor in fertility, and men should also focus on their nutrition and overall health. The World Health - - Organization guidelines for sperm quality represent a low bar for fertility and do not reflect optimal parameters for conception.
- There has been a significant decline in sperm quality over time, with the average man today having lower sperm concentration compared to men in the 1940s.
- Factors such as aging, diet, and lifestyle can affect both sperm and egg quality.
- Practical strategies to improve sperm and egg quality include incorporating nutrient-rich foods, avoiding heat exposure to the testicles, and addressing lifestyle factors like smoking and excessive exercise.
Relevant Links:
Real Food For Fertility Book
Lisaâs Podcast: Fertility Friday Radio
TMO Ep. 200 - The Fifth Vital Sign
Episode Chapters:
00:00 - Introduction and Background
02:15 - The Collaboration and Book
06:05 - The Role of Nutrition in Fertility
17:37 - Preparing for Pregnancy
26:47 - Coming Off Birth Control
36:08 - Egg Quality and Fertility
42:03 - Sperm Quality and Fertility
43:55 - Understanding Sperm Parameters and Guidelines
46:20 - Optimal Sperm Parameters
51:04 - Misconceptions about Sperm Parameters
52:33 - The Importance of Sperm in Fertility
59:46 - Factors Affecting Sperm and Egg Quality
01:03:14 - Heat and Lifestyle Factors Affecting Sperm Quality
01:05:21 - Improving Sperm and Egg Quality
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Casey Donatello knows a thing or two about Hotwifing â She guides Jeremie and Bryde through her daring dance of consensual non-monogamy that's all about trust, respect, and, yes, a whole lot of love. From untangling the intricate differences between hotwifing, cuckolding, and stag and vixen play, to navigating the complexities of desires and boundaries, Casey lays it all bare. She doesn't just share the theory; she takes the hosts on her personal journey through the highs and lows, the challenges, and the triumphant moments of embracing her true desires. But it's not just about the thrills; it's a lesson in communication, flexibility, and breaking down the barriers of stigma and judgment. Whether you're curious, skeptical, or somewhere in between, this conversation is a deep dive into the emotional, intimate, and sometimes misunderstood world of non-monogamy.
Episode Takeaways:
Hotwifing is a form of consensual non-monogamy where a wife is allowed to have sex with other partners with the knowledge and approval of her husband.Different dynamics exist within hotwifing, including cuckolding, stag and vixen relationships, and hot wife couples.Communication, trust, and respect are essential in hotwifing relationships to ensure the emotional well-being of all parties involved.Hotwifing challenges societal norms and requires individuals to be open-minded and accepting of non-traditional relationship dynamics.Before and after the date rituals, as well as aftercare, play a crucial role in maintaining emotional connection and intimacy in hotwifing relationships. Open communication is crucial in non-monogamous relationships.Labels in the lifestyle can be flexible and may not always accurately represent individuals' roles or dynamics.Flexibility and adaptability are important qualities in maintaining healthy relationships.You can find Casey here - https://caseydonatello.com/
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Kristal DeSantis is a Texas Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Clinically Certified Trauma Professional, a Certified Sex Therapy Informed Professional, and a State of Texas approved Premarital Education Provider. She is the creator of The STRONG model of Relational Therapy. Jeremie and Bryde chat with Kristal about the work of modern masculinity that she breaks down in her book "Strong: A Relationship Field Guide for the Modern Man". Bryde and Jeremie chat with Krista about her experience growing up in Japan and learning to date in college in the US, the 3 Ps of masculinity that are inhabited by men across cultures and generations, and building strength in the relational gym. You can find more on Krista's work at strong love.com, and follow Krista on socials @atxtherapist
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Sophie Rhyder is a 20-year-old Romanian cam model who caters to mainly British and American members of the live-streaming service LiveJasmin. Sophie talks to Bryde and Jeremie about working independently versus working for a studio, the start-up costs of launching a modeling career, the 24-hour reality of working on an international schedule, and playing multiple roles - sometimes with detailed, scripted scenes. You can find Sophie at https://m.livejasmin.com/en/SophieRhyder , or on instagram @sophierhyder.
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Catherine Hiller is an award-winning author whose work has been challenging social norms for decades. Her new book, "Cybil Unbound" (2023) is a novel about the sexual adventures of a freethinking and risk-taking older woman. Social history and autobiographical fiction are woven together in a novel that spans decades in the life of a woman who was a child of the 1950s. Jeremie and Bryde chat with Catherine about the cultural shifts in sexual perception over the past 70 decades, and why untraditional romantic needs of middle-aged/ older women are ignored in novels and her sons.
Find more about Catherine at catherinehiller.net and sign up for her Substack, "The Pleasure Principle: Savoring Life After Fifty" at catherinehiller.substack.com. Her Wikipedia page is en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Catherine_Hiller
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Madam Bella Cummins has reigned in the small city of Wells, Nevada, USA for 37 years - the longest-standing Madam in rural Nevada's legal brothels, and is a mentor to women seeking to evolve naturally in the courtesan industry, as well as an advocate for licensed establishments and workers in the industry. Bella's Hacienda Ranch sits in a town of just over 1,200 people that sees thousands of travelers every day at the intersection of Route 93 and Interstate 80 in Nevada. The hosts chat with Bella about how language and labels affect how we perceive professionalism and quality service, the importance of the destination as part of the draw, and how Nevada's legal brothel blueprints could help other small communities prosper from the destigmatization of sex work. Find the ranch at https://bellas.us/
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