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Om landed in Israel on October 5th, 2023.
Two days later, the world changed.
He was there. His family was there. His friends were there. And the man who had spent years learning to regulate his nervous system â who had meditated in caves in Europe, lived in India, done the deep work â was about to find out if any of it was real.
It was.
But it took months to process. Months of shaking. Months of feeling unsafe in the deepest part of his being. And it was only because of the tools he'd spent years building that he came out the other side â regulated, grounded, and more committed to this work than ever.
This conversation goes deep.
We get into the patterns men run to avoid feeling â over-positivity, avoidance, the dreamer who's always chasing the next thing instead of being here. The difference between talking about the work and actually doing it in your body. Why you can read every book, hire every coach, and still not shift â because you cannot read your experience. You can only experience it.
And we get into what it actually means to be witnessed by a group of men. Not talked at. Not coached. Witnessed. And why that changes everything.
Om is one of the most grounded men I know. He's also my co-facilitator at The Rite â June 12-15 in Nevada City, California. Only 6 spots left. 66% off
Apply at his website đ
If this conversation moves you â that's probably why.
And if you listened, tip me $5 on Venmo.
Find Om:
Instagram
ombenavraham.com
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Frank had the balls to ask the question most men are too afraid to voice.
Am I present enough? Am I focusing on the right things? Am I building a career at the expense of the years I'll never get back?
This episode is for Frank. And it's for you. Because if you're asking the question â you already know something's off.
The world is built to distract you. To show you everyone's highlight reel. To keep you in performance mode â chasing the title, the house, the car â while the years with your kids accelerate and you wonder where the time went.
My son is five. I blinked. There are three of them now.
You can't put life back in the box.
So we get into it. The performance trap. The provider paradox. The 2026 version of the absent dad â physically there, nowhere near present. What your kids actually need from you. And the one practice that makes all of it possible.
You don't have to choose between being successful at work OR being the father your kids need. You can have both.
But you do have to put in the work.
This one's worth your time.
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Brennan Schlagbaum paid off $76,000 of non-mortgage debt in one year on a combined $92K income. Built financial freedom. Got his wife home. Moved across the country for his daughter's healthcare. And turned a spreadsheet into a national bestselling book.
But this episode isn't really about money.
It's about the emotional weight of providing. The story you inherited that money is scarce and hard and something to be afraid of. And the system that actually works when willpower runs out.
Most families have $2,000 sitting in their budget they don't know about. Not because they're irresponsible â because nobody ever showed them how to look. 88% of your financial decisions are running on autopilot right now. And 78% of men are living paycheck to paycheck not because they don't make enough â but because they never built a system.
Brennan built one. For his family first. Then for 3,000 others.
The three month look back. The 30 minute money date that actually brings you and your wife closer. The cashflow goal worksheet that turns vague dreams into hard dates and real numbers.
Your wife staying home doesn't have to be a fantasy. Financial freedom isn't reserved for people who make more than you.
It starts with a system. And it starts here.
Find Brennan: Instagram â @budgetdog
Email â [email protected]
Book â The Roadmap to Financial Freedom
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Love Languages arenât fixing your marriage.
They might be the reason it feels off.
Not because theyâre wrongâŠ
âbut because they turn love into a checklist.Acts of service. Words of affirmation. Physical touch.
Cool.
But if youâre just âdoing the repsâ without presence, without intentionâŠ
she feels it.
And thatâs where most men get stuck.
Youâre showing up.
Youâre doing what you think youâre supposed to do.But it still feels like roommates.
In this episode, I break down:
Why Love Languages fall shortHow they quietly turn your relationship into a transactionThe real question your wife is asking (itâs not about her âlanguageâ)Why stress kills connection faster than anythingAnd what actually brings your marriage back to lifeBecause at the core of itâ
Every Love Language is trying to say one thing:
âI choose you.â
And if she doesnât feel thatâŠ
nothing else lands.
If youâre tired of the distanceâŠ
If you want the edge, the connection, the polarity backâŠThis is where it starts.
đ© DM me âREADYâ or hit the link to apply.
No more drifting.
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Youâre working. Providing. Showing up.
Trying to be a good husband. A good dad.
And stillâŠ
It feels like itâs not enough.
So you do what most men do.
You push harder.
Work more.
Try to fix it.And somehow that just creates more distance.
Because underneath all of it is this belief:
đ âIâm only worth what I can contribute.â
And when thatâs running the showâŠ
Everything gets twisted.
Your wifeâs emotions feel like pressure instead of connectionConflict turns into defense instead of understandingYou start tying your identity to work⊠or her approvalWhen sheâs off, youâre offYou try to fix the marriage without becoming a different manYouâre not broken.
But you might be building your life on something that will never hold.
Thereâs another way to live this.
But it starts with getting honest about where your worth actually comes from.
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You think youâre just a tired dad.
Long day. Work. Kids. Life.
So you sit down for a minute⊠grab your phone⊠scrollâŠ
âŠand somehow you feel worse.
More tired.
More irritated.
More disconnected from your wife and your kids.Hereâs the truth:
Youâre not tired.
Youâre addicted.
In this episode, I break down whatâs actually happening in your brainâand why so many dads feel drained, distracted, and checked out even when theyâre doing âeverything right.â
We talk about:
The dopamine loop thatâs keeping you stuckWhy cheap hits (scrolling, porn, junk food, caffeine) are killing your energyHow overstimulation makes real life feel dullWhy you feel exhausted⊠but still canât put your phone downThe exact steps to break the cycle and get your edge backThis isnât about discipline.
Itâs about awarenessâand taking control.
Because this doesnât just cost you energy.
It costs you your presence.
Your marriage.
Your kids.____________
Youâre Not Tired â Youâre Addicted to Dopamine
You think youâre tired.
But youâre not.
You can still scroll.
Still drink another coffee.
Still stay up later than you should.So what is it?
Youâve trained your brain to chase dopamine.
Quick hits. Easy wins. Constant stimulation.
And now real life doesnât hit the same.
Playing with your kids feels like effort.
Connecting with your wife feels like effort.
Even getting started feels heavy.Thatâs not low energy.
Thatâs addiction.
Hereâs whatâs actually happening:
Youâre stuck in a cycle of dopamine spikes and crashesYour brain is lowering sensitivity just to keep upReal life starts to feel dull and grayYou need more stimulation just to feel normalWhat feels like âtiredâ is actually low driveYouâre not exhausted.
Youâre overstimulated â and itâs costing you your presence.
Get the full mini-training here.
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Most parents think theyâre doing the right thing.
Good school. Good grades. Follow the path.
But step back and look at it honestlyâŠ
Are you raising a child?
Or feeding a system?
In this conversation with Matt Boudreaux, we break down whatâs actually happening inside modern educationâand why more families are walking away from it.
We talk about:
Why the system rewards compliance, not thinkingWhat âsocializationâ actually does to kidsWhy most kids lose curiosity, confidence, and driveThe real role of parents in raising capable humansHow homeschooling, community, and environment change everythingThe truth about phones, tech, and AI in your childâs developmentThis isnât about public vs homeschool.
Itâs about whether your kid becomes:
đ independent
đ capable
đ groundedOr just another product of the system.
If youâve ever felt like something was offâŠ
This will put words to it.
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Most couples donât fall apart because they donât love each other. They fall apart because theyâre overwhelmed.
Stress hijacks your nervous system.
You stop thinking clearly.
You stop connecting.
And without realizing itâyou turn on each other.This isnât a communication problem.
Itâs not love languages.
Itâs not compatibility.Itâs regulation.
In this episode, I break down:
Why stress turns you reactive and disconnectedWhy so many couples drift into the âroommate phaseâ after kidsWhat the couples who stay deeply connected do differentlyHow to regulate yourself so you stop snapping, shutting down, or withdrawingSimple ways to rebuild connection starting tonightIf your marriage feels distant, tense, or offâŠ
This will show you whatâs actually going wrongâand how to fix it.
The full mini-training
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Most men are overstimulated, reactive, and distracted.
Not because they do not care.
Because they have built a life where they never actually slow down enough to be present.
In this conversation with Pat Barber of The Fathers Guild, we get into what it means to reclaim your time, your attention, and your nervous system as a father.
We talk about:
why journaling matters and why writing is different than just thinkinghow Pat went from lifelong night owl to owning his morningsthe power of a digital sunsetwhy men need challenge, structure, and accountabilityPatâs Heroâs Journey frameworkhow simple practices like hugging your wife and kids for 10 seconds can radically change the energy in your homewhy presence, not productivity, is what your family is actually starving forThis is a conversation about becoming less reactive, less distracted, and more intentional.
Not through hype.
Not through biohacks.
Through ritual, structure, and the work
to show up the way you've intended to.
It's more than willpower alone.
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Most men donât fail at fatherhood because they lack discipline.
They fail because theyâre carrying too much pressure with no real way to process it.
So they do what men have always done:
they suck it up,
push through,
bury it,
and keep moving.But that pressure doesnât disappear.
It leaks.
Into your marriage.
Into your kids.
Into your home.
Into your body.In this episode, I break down why modern fathers are physically, mentally, and emotionally overloaded⊠why the old model of âjust grind harderâ is failing men⊠and what it actually means to become the safe harbor your family needs.
We talk about:
the Provider Paradoxwhy your nervous system sets the emotional tone of the homehow stress gets âonâ your wife and kids even when you say nothingwhy self-regulation comes before communicationthe science of coherence, resonance, and co-regulationand a simple daily practice to help you become hard to kill and easy to loveThis is not about becoming softer.
Itâs about becoming stronger in the way your wife, your kids, and your mission actually need.
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You donât raise kids with advice. You raise them with inputs.
Will Whitman (founder of Homegrown Lifting, husband, father of three) breaks down what it actually takes to be a present provider when the business never stops: hard stops, delegation, trust, and the rituals that let you walk through the door without bringing work home on your nervous system.
We talk about:
The â3:30 ruleâ and why it matters more than motivationHow to leave work at work (shower, change clothes, shut down the phone)Why your kids and wife can feel your stress the second you walk inRoughhousing, play, and how dads build boundaries and empathy in kidsBuilding a home gym that saves time, money, and excusesâso your kids grow up thinking movement is normalI'll let you know right off the bat that we had a tech-problem on this episode. Will disappears near the end, but I salvaged everything I could.
If youâre a father trying to win at work without losing your family, this oneâs for you.
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Most men are under more pressure than ever.
Bills.
Marriage.
Kids.
Work.
The constant noise of the modern world.And when that pressure builds, most of us do what men have always done:
We suppress it.
We push harder.
White-knuckle it.
Escape into work, alcohol, porn, the phone, the gym.But pressure doesnât disappear.
It leaks.
Into our marriage.
Into our kids.
Into the home thatâs supposed to be our sanctuary.In this episode I share the hardest year of my adult life as a husband, father, and business owner â and what it forced me to learn about pressure, devotion, and what real masculine self-mastery actually looks like.
This isnât about discipline.
Itâs about devotion.
Devotion to becoming the man your wife, your kids, and your purpose require.
Hard to kill.
Easy to love.
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Divorce doesnât just end a marriage. It can break a manâs identity, his finances, his access to his kids, and his will to liveâespecially when he tries to âhandle it alone.â
Ryan Michler (Order of Man) joins me for a real conversation about what men donât talk about: how divorce actually happens, why so many guys feel blindsided, and what to do when your wife is signaling problems in a language youâre not hearing.
We cover:
The â300% ruleâ: how to interpret what sheâs really saying (good and bad)Why âpuppy dog modeâ backfires when a woman has already checked outHow to lead yourself without manipulation, neediness, or panicThe practical reality: documentation, legal prudence, finances, and protecting your fatherhoodHow to rebuild after: make yourself the project + build a band of brothers (gym / church / chamber)This is not anti-woman. Itâs pro-truthâand pro-men staying alive, present, and grounded through the hardest season of their lives.
Divorce Not Death is open now.
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You were built to survive the Ice Age.
To protect your family from a 1,500-pound apex predator.
But there is no bear anymore.
Thereâs email.
Bills.
Deadlines.
Notifications.
Pressure.And your nervous system reacts like youâre fighting for your life.
Every. Single. Day.
The result?
Chronic stress.
Anxiety.
Low libido.
Short fuse.
Emotional distance.
A marriage that feels like roommates.
Kids who feel your tension before they feel your love.Youâre grinding for your family.
But slowly losing access to them.
In this episode, I break down why modern provider life traps men in survival mode â and what it actually takes to shift gears.
This is a call to a higher level of masculinity.
Not louder.
Not harder.
Not more macho.Steadier.
More dangerous.
More loving.The men of old â the Samurai, the Spartans â trained for lethality.
But they also trained for presence.
They knew how to draw the sword.
And how to sheath it.
Most modern men never learned how.
If you want to become the man who is hard to kill in the worldâŠ
and easy to love at homeâŠ
this episode is for you.
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Most dads donât blow it at home because theyâre âbad dads.â
They blow it because they walk through the door still in work modeâamped up, wired, carrying the whole day in their jaw, shoulders, chestâŠ
They bring that charge straight into their marriage and to their kids.In this episode, Iâm joined by Mike Salemi (menâs coach + host of The King Within) to break down the sleeper problem thatâs quietly killing intimacy, patience, and presence:
The transition.
We talk about what it feels like when your wife hits you with, âWhere are you right now?â We unpack why so many men have a dialed morning routine â but treat the most important part of the day like an afterthought:
switching from provider mode to patriarch, father, and husband mode.Mike shares his simple 4-step framework that any man can run in under 5 minutes. We get practical:
the 4 most common âafter work statesâwhy your family often gets the scraps and ashes instead of your heartthe fastest regulation tools to downshift on command (including Mikeâs go-to: shaking)how to reenter the home as a steady presence your wife can melt into and your kids can feelIf youâre a sole provider, an entrepreneur, or a man whoâs carrying too much in silence â this episode is your reset.
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Youâre not lazy. Youâre not broken. Youâre just buried.
Most men pushing through life are high-functioning, but hollow.
Grinding. Providing. Burning out.They tape over the warning signs.
Call it grit. Discipline. Sacrifice.But deep downâŠ
They feel it:
â The distance in their marriage
â The dullness of playing with their kids
â The impulse to escape instead of be hereThis episode is about what happens when you ignore the signs for too longâŠ
When your stress becomes your identity, and your life starts to burn down around you.But itâs also about whatâs possibleâ
If youâre willing to step into the fire on purpose.
To build your nest. Burn the old. And rise.We cover:
The real cost of suppressing your stressThe difference between your Lower Self and the man you could beWhy your kids chose youâand how to show up like itWhat it means to embrace TAPAS: the sacred fire of growthWhy your time, energy, money, and thoughts reveal your real prioritiesI'm not trying to motivate. Ever.
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Most men donât implode.
They endure.
They perform.
They succeedâon paper.
And inside? Theyâre quietly breaking down.This episode exposes the hidden pain of the high-functioning man:
The guy who pays the bills, holds it together, and keeps showing upâŠbut feels dead inside. Disconnected from his wife.
Distant from his kids.
Running on caffeine, screen dopamine, and silent stress.
Heâs not failing miserablyâbut heâs not thriving either.
Heâs surviving.If thatâs you, or someone you know, listen up.
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You Canât Lead Alone â And You Were Never Meant To
You fight to be a good dad.
You try to pursue your wife again.
You work hard to get your life together.But it still feels like somethingâs off.
Like youâre surrounded by the people you loveâ
âŠbut still feel alone.This episode with Steph Allen is a raw wake-up call for every man living life on autopilotâchecking the boxes, numbing out, coasting in his marriage, and hiding his struggles.
We break down:
Why isolation is the enemy of leadership, marriage, and fatherhoodWhat most men do when they feel unfulfilled (and why it only makes things worse)How Steph went from checking boxes to surrendering completely to Godâs planThe chains we inherit from our fathersâand how to break them before passing them onWhy you must fight distraction like your legacy depends on it (because it does)If your life feels lukewarmâŠ
If your marriage feels more like logistics than loveâŠ
If youâre tired of doing it all aloneâŠThis episode is for you.
You don't have to pretend you're fine.
Get in tribe -- as we're meant to be,get w/ God, take responsibility, and lead.
Uncommon (The Dadwork Podcast)
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Most men think theyâre doing âokay.â
But the truth? Weâre living in Pottingerâs experimentâand our kids are the fourth generation. Physical, emotional, and spiritual degeneration is happening all around us.
And no oneâs sounding the alarm loud enough.In this episode, I unpack:
Where the real breakdown startedâand itâs deeper than feminismHow passivity, processed food, and distraction are destroying masculinityWhy testosterone, fertility, desire, and even our bone structure are collapsingWhat our kids inherit from our stress, our habits, and our avoidanceAnd how you stop being Pottingerâs catItâs not about fixing your marriage with flowers or downloading another parenting app.
Itâs about waking up.
Looking at your life with ruthless honesty.
And refusing to normalize the slow rot.
If you want your kids to live different â
you have to be different.
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Most high-performing men are chasing a version of success theyâve never actually defined. And itâs costing them their presence, their peace, and their family.
In this episode, I sat down with Mitchell Osmondâfounder of DadNationCoâto talk about what happens when you measure your life by the wrong standards, and how to get back to what actually matters.
We talk about:
The trap of comparison and the illusion of âmoreâWhy your wife doesnât need a planâshe needs you to look at herThe mindset shift that saved Mitchellâs marriage from the brinkHow to be a father your kids actually want to followThe Preparation Pauseâa 60-second habit that changes how you walk into your homeThis isnât a pep talk. Itâs a reminder.
You donât need a new life.
You need to lead the one you already have. - Laat meer zien
