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Well TedHeads–here we are at the end of the “Ted Lasso” yellow brick road, and our final episode! This week Dimple and Jeff delve into Episode 12: "So Long, Farewell” and much like the TV show, come full circle and find some closure. In this episode we look at where our cast of characters end up and the various leadership and positive psychology themes from all three seasons that show up once more. We reflect on change, perfectionism, and always remembering that we’ll forever be, “works in prog-mess.”
We have bittersweet feelings about this being our final episode, but we’re both filled with immense gratitude, not only for the opportunity to make this show, but for the connections we’ve made with many of you along the way. Thank YOU for joining us on this journey. Our greatest hope is that more of us will embody the “Lasso Way” and live life with curiosity, vulnerability, forgiveness, and grace. We’ll end by echoing the sentiments of AFC Richmond and simply say–so long, farewell, thank you for everything, and please keep in touch!
In This Episode
[09:16] Growth and empowerment
[10:04] Vulnerability and the fear of losing those we hold dear
[10:46] Why our actions and words can have a profound impact on those around us
[14:03] True love and support involve selflessness and the willingness to put someone else's happiness above our own
[23:40] Choosing happiness over other people’s perceptions of success
[30:09] The interconnectedness of people's lives and the impact they have on each other
[33:09] The impact of our perceptions on our ability to change
[36:30] How our personal standards lead us to judge others
[42:44] The emptiness that can come from prioritizing material success over meaningful relationships
[48:22] The unsaid magic of connection
[55:50] How team connection creates humility
[01:01:42] The reality of how growth happens
[01:05:55] Embodying the concept of “Believe”
[01:13:02] The power of the collective
[01:23:42] Series takeaways
[01:27:01] Acknowledgment and gratitude
Resources & Links
Mentions
Brendan Hunt Responds to the Roy and Keeley Storyline - https://collider.com/ted-lasso-brendan-hunt-roy-keeley-comments/
Ted Lasso Finale Easter Eggs - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aQX8QMbnjuI
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This week we arrive at episode 11 – our penultimate episode – "Mom City," where Dimple and Jeff delve into the powerful themes of forgiveness and second chances as they unravel storylines about struggling to seek forgiveness while carrying the burden of past trauma. They discuss how tough it can be to forgive, especially when old grudges or emotional baggage weigh us down. They also explore the impact of forgiveness on our well-being and mental health, and that forgiveness doesn't change others' hearts, but it heals our own.
In This Episode
[04:02] Forgiveness and second chances.
[11:28] Healing potential through addressing unresolved issues and vulnerability.
[12:51] Finding motivation and self-reflection for personal growth.
[15:11] Emotional connections and growth through storytelling and shared experiences.
[22:26] The psychological impact of receiving prolonged hate and negativity.
[29:55] Gratitude and personal growth in the face of challenging experiences and relationships.
[34:18] Forgiveness and appreciation in competitive settings.
[34:52] Repairing strained family relationships with second chances.
[44:38] Transformative power in healing relationships.
[53:46] Navigating family dynamics with anxiety and cultural differences.
[01:00:31] Confronting the past and embracing authenticity.
[01:11:22] Episode takeaways.
Resources & Links
Mentions
5 Reasons Why Its Important to Forgive - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-flux/202009/5-reasons-why-its-important-forgive
Why Forgiveness is Important - https://positivepsychology.com/why-is-forgiveness-important/#the-relationship-between-forgiveness-and-healing
Forgiveness: Letting Go of Grudges and Bitterness - https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/forgiveness/art-20047692
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We’re down to the final 3 episodes of season 3 and of the series! This week Dimple and Jeff talk about episode 10 - International Break and dive deeper into the topics of vulnerability, imposter syndrome, finding a growth mindset during times of adversity, and what it means to connect with our inner child. They reflect on being the children of immigrants and how that impacted the people they’ve become, and why tapping back into that sense of wonder that most of us have as children has the capacity to change everything.
In This Episode
[03:13] Initial impressions and themes
[13:05] Rediscovering joy through the inner child
[17:01] Football as a source of community and passion
[25:32] Getting comfortable in your own skin
[29:30] Overcoming imposter syndrome and embracing self-confidence
[30:59] Empowering women of color to overcome underestimation and embrace their full potential
[33:55] Self-discovery and introspection through personal reflection and artistic expression
[42:44 ] The pressure and expectations that come with being a child of immigrant parents
[45:38] The healing power of play
[49:32] The consequences of relationships with unequal power dynamics
[50:06] The epiphany of tapping into the hidden potential within each of us
[53:30] The choice of mindset during times of adversity
[57:07] The challenges of walking your talk
[01:03:52] Why credentials and titles don’t validate our worth
[01:07:58] Episode takeaways
Resources & Links
Mentions
Imposter Syndrome is a Scheme - Reshma Saujani - Smith College Commencement Address - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BoHDDgeQtlc
Why Everyone Feels Like They’re Faking It - https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2023/02/13/the-dubious-rise-of-impostor-syndrome
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This week, we dive into Episode 9, "La Locker Room Aux Folles" and consider what it means to be human–the good, the bad, and the messy middle.
In this episode, Dimple and Jeff explore the themes of vulnerability, empathy, and courageous communication found in three key storylines. They reflect on how our words impact others and how often we minimize or ignore how our actions impact others until it becomes personal. They consider what it means to be whole and not have to compartmentalize ourselves, a key aspect of human-centered leadership. And, they dive deeper into the topic of seeing the humanity in others by remembering that we never know what other people are going through.
Join Dimple and Jeff for another fun and thought-provoking conversation about life, love, and leadership–Lasso style.
In This Episode
[03:48] Vulnerability, empathy, and human nature
[07:11] The connection between empathy, compassion, humanity and play
[11:54] The significance of timing and readiness in having difficult conversations
[13:49] The importance of respecting someone's chosen name or pronoun
[22:03] Messiness of empathy and communication
[28:12] Being vulnerable and communicating honestly in relationships
[30:05] Growth and the power of kindness
[37:23] The transformative power of being true to oneself and showing up authentically
[43:36] Redefining fame in the social media era.
[47:28] Challenging oneself and not giving up
[51:10] Vulnerability and storytelling
[01:00:34] The power of genuine love.
[01:01:12] Episode takeaways
Resources & Links
Mentions
Brené Brown on Empathy - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw
Mexico Fans Chant Gay Slur “puto” at USMNT, Cause CONCACAF to Suspend Match - https://www.outsports.com/2023/6/15/23763078/mexico-fans-gay-chant-team-usa-put-chant
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This week, we jump into Episode 8 of What Would Ted Lasso Do?: “We’ll Never Have Paris.”
In this week’s episode, Dimple and Jeff talk about how the themes of loneliness, accountability, and digital intimacy, impact our beloved cast of characters. They explore the power dynamic between employers and employees in romantic relationships and reflect on the complexities of modern relationships, especially with the challenges that come with navigating the digital age. They also consider how our insecurities often make us get in our own way and how being present in the moment can help us let go of ruminating on the past and future. This is yet another episode jam-packed with gems of wisdom and a lot to think about!
In This Episode
[05:05] The theme of loneliness and the desire for meaningful connection
[14:25] The power dynamic difference in dating and the potential consequences for the business.
[17:19] The concept of digital intimacy and how it can keep us stuck in past relationships.
[21:02] Accountability and agency in relationships, including the importance of being accountable and allowing partners to choose what to keep.
[28:09] How our insecurities can lead to awkwardness in our interactions with others
[32:57] How assumptions and worst-case scenarios affect our thoughts and actions.
[35:00] The importance of being present
[40:33] The negative effects of greedy curiosity
[53:13] Nate's loneliness and attempt to create a support group.
[59:35] The epidemic of loneliness in the US
[01:02:49] The level of loneliness in men, the challenges of cultivating emotional intelligence, and the importance of men's circles as a form of community.
[01:04:30] The importance of social connection
[01:08:53] Celebrating accomplishments
[01:11:33] The lack of celebration in people's lives
Resources & Links
Mentions
Surgeon General’s Advisor on Loneliness - https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/surgeon-general-social-connection-advisory.pdf
Backstory on Hey Jude - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hey_Jude
The Surprising Soccer Chant History of “Hey Jude” - https://www.salon.com/2023/05/04/ted-lasso-hey-jude-soccer-chant/
The Breakfast Club Adventures: The Beast Beyond the Fency by Marcus Rashford - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/59819558-the-breakfast-club-adventures
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Buckle up friends - we’re past the halfway mark and heading into episode 7 - The Strings that Bind Us - another episode jam packed with so much to explore! In this week’s episode of What Would Ted Lasso Do?, Dimple and Jeff dive deep into the themes of trust and choice. What does it take to create trust in the workplace and what roles do agency and choice play in fostering trust? How do we trust ourselves to make the right choices, especially when it comes to matters of the heart? How do we trust that we’re seeing people for who they are, and they’re seeing us? In addition, we explore love bombing, othering and belonging, toxic masculinity, and how small actions and embracing imperfection can lead to a more positive work culture.
In This Episode
[12:26] Racism in sports
[18:48] Sam reunites with his father and the significance of the locker room as a space for vulnerability.
[21:05] Fighting forward and how it relates to toxic masculinity and the power of choosing our responses.
[26:13] The Kintsugi moment and embracing imperfection
[30:50] The principles of Total Football, conditioning versatility, and awareness, and how they relate to mindfulness and trust among teammates
[36:10] Sacrificing self-glory for the team
[38:10] The importance of making mistakes and going through the process of failure to get to the right idea.
[44:29] Love bombing as a manipulative tactic used by narcissists to make a person feel dependent and obligated.
[55:27] Isolation and manipulation
[01:08:13] Creating great workplace cultures through trust and support
[01:09:12] Psychological Safety and human-centered Leadership
[01:10:41] Episode takeaways
Resources & Links
Mentions
Brinda Barot Shut Up and Dribble Inspiration - https://screenrant.com/ted-lasso-brinda-barot-shut-up-dribble-based-inspiration/
How Ted Lasso Inspires Us to Fight Forward Not Back - https://womenlovetech.com/how-ted-lasso-inspires-us-to-fight-forward-not-back/
Love Bombing Signs and Definition - https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a26988344/love-bombing-signs-definition/
4 Steps to Creating A Human-Centered Organization - https://www.rootsintheclouds.com/blog/004-4-steps-to-creating-a-human-centered-organization
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We’re already halfway through season 3 as we dive into episode 6 – "Sunflowers."
In this week’s episode, Dimple and Jeff discuss the themes of vulnerability, authenticity, healthy masculinity, and connection, while appreciating the depth and complexity of the characters and their storylines in the show, and drawing parallels to their own experiences. This episode is chock full of symbolism, and is a positive example of healthy masculinity and leadership, emphasizing the importance of vulnerability and connection.
In This Episode
[04:10] Seeing failures as opportunities for learning and growth
[07:22] The power of vulnerability.
[25:37] Confronting inner demons.
[26:23] The symbolism of windmills in the Netherlands and how they represent healing
[32:17] The Dutch concept of "hygge" and how it represents a state of being
[42:44] How taking off the armor and being vulnerable can lead to a deeper connection.
[47:55] The importance of sharing scars, rather than wounds
[54:07] The concept of neuroplasticity and the research on psilocybin and neural pathways in the brain.
[01:00:54] Van Gogh and how finding beauty in the mundane can lead to inspiration.
[01:17:56] Being playfully present and owning the moment
[01:19:15] The idea of things happening for us and not to us
[01:20:00] The idea of not focusing on the result and how it can see all other available opportunities.
Resources & Links
Mentions
Dare to Lead - Brene Brown - https://brenebrown.com/book/dare-to-lead/
‘Ted Lasso’ Picked the Perfect Place for Its Heartwarming Collin & Trent Scene - https://www.themarysue.com/ted-lasso-picked-the-perfect-location-for-its-heartwarming-colin-trent-scene/
Three Little Birds and the Connection Between Bob Marley and Ajax - https://www.thefootballden.com/post/three-little-birds-and-the-connection-between-bob-marley-and-ajax
Landmark study shows one dose of psilocybin induces new neural connections - https://newatlas.com/science/psilocybin-growth-neural-connections-psychedelic-yale/
Neurogenesis, psilocybin, and the power to change your mind - https://www.flowstate.nz/blogs/news/neurogenesis-psilocybin-and-the-power-to-change-your-mind
For Pete’s Sake - Latest Ted Lasso Episode Had Two Kansas City Easter Eggs - https://www.kansascity.com/sports/spt-columns-blogs/for-petes-sake/article274570456.html
Martin Garrix - https://simple.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Martin_Garrix
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What does it take to believe? That question is what Dimple and Jeff explore as we dive into Season 3, Episode 5 – Signs.
This week pulls together all the major themes of positive psychology–topics like self-limiting beliefs, the inner critic, the question of do I matter, intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation, and validation, and most importantly, growth mindset. As Dimple and Jeff dive deeper into these areas they look at what it means to operate from above and below the line and about not being tied to outcomes and the power of “yet.” On the leadership front they talk about what it takes to provide meaningful feedback and why the compliment sandwich is the worst mistake a leader can make.
In This Episode
[06:48] Operating above and below the lines
[07:50] Healthy masculine and feminine and why it’s important not to attach yourself to the wins
[09:58] The power of yet versus the tyranny of now
[13:05] Using positive emotions for a growth mindset
[17:31] “Believe” as two ends of a continuum
[22:50] The role of mindset for clearing out the internal noise
[37:00] Respect and psychological safety as a leader
[39:23] The importance of on-going feedback
[49:18] External validation
[101:20] Self-soothing through anxiety and panic attacks
[107:26] How self-limiting beliefs get in the way of “believe”
[01:08:52] Brené Brown and being worthy of love and belonging
[01:11:20] Biggest takeaways from the episode
Resources & Links
Mentioned
Why “Above the Line” Thinking is Central to Creativity and Connection (And How to Cultivate It) - https://medium.com/@dimpledhabalia/why-above-the-line-thinking-is-central-to-creativity-and-connection-and-how-to-cultivate-it-1cb319504a06
Above or Below the Line - https://conscious.is/video/locating-yourself-a-key-to-conscious-leadership
Neuroplasticity - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/neuroplasticity
Carol Dweck - The Power of Believing That You Can Improve - https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=_X0mgOOSpLU&feature=youtu.be
Mihaly Czikszentmihalyi - Flow, the secret to happiness - https://www.ted.com/talks/mihaly_csikszentmihalyi_flow_the_secret_to_happiness
The Sandwich Approach Undermines Your Feedback - https://hbr.org/2013/04/the-sandwich-approach-undermin
The Message - https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Message_(Grandmaster_Flash_and_the_Furious_Five_song)#:~:text=The%20song's%20lyrics%20describe%20the,commits%20suicide%20in%20his%20cell.
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This week we jump into episode 4 - Big Week - and boy, was it ever!
As the Greyhounds head to West Ham to take on Nate’s new team, everyone’s a bit off their game, and it shows. Rebecca’s still fixated on winning and trying to find the right words to inspire Ted. Ted is distracted. The coaches are second guessing their approaches. And the team is disheartened and hurt to see one of their own destroy a symbol they all hold dear.
As we dive into this episode, Dimple and Jeff explore the duality of being human and the importance of integrating our shadow sides in order to be whole. They talk about what it means to be works in “prog-mess” and why releasing our pain and trauma is so important to our health and well-being.
In This Episode
[02:36] Overview of episode themes.
[07:29] Revisiting We over Me.
[13:27] Toxic masculinity and external validation
[15:10] The impact of gaslighting
[28:30] Gwen Gordon playground,. proving ground and battleground
[29:15] The relationship between stress and chronic health conditions
[29:30] The Body Keeps the Score and embedded trauma
[31:40] Project Aristotle and psychological safety
[39:31] Tribute to Grant Wahl and his role on Ted Lasso
[47:26] The worst thing you could say to a kid
[49:54] Revenge as a strategy
[52:07] The pain of betrayal by one of your own
[55:10] Beating ourselves up for mistakes
[57:01] How we show up vs. winning
[59:50] Exhibiting healthy masculine
[1:08:40] Sitting with our pain and being ourselves during difficult times
[01:14:04] The role of our shadow side
Resources & Links
Mentioned
Restoring the Playground by Gwen Gordon - https://www.huffpost.com/entry/play_b_4436044
How Do Stress and Inflammation Contribute to Chronic Disease? - https://www.ifm.org/news-insights/inflam-stress-inflammation-contribute-chronic-disease/
The Body Keeps the Score by Bassel Van Der Kolk - https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-score
The Relationship Between Stress and Chronic Illness - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/becoming-resilient/202112/the-relationship-between-stress-and-chronic-illnesses
Ted Lasso Pays Tribute to Grant Wahl - https://awfulannouncing.com/soccer/ted-lasso-pays-tribute-to-grant-wahl.html
The Beckham Experiment by Grant Wahl - https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/184700/the-beckham-experiment-by-grant-wahl/
Shadow Self: How knowing your dark side can help you in life - https://mindowl.org/shadow-self/
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This week as we dive into episode 3, “4-5-1” we consider how we can learn to embrace the flaws and create something more beautiful in a given situation. How we can find the nugget of good or inspiration when things feel hard?
This week Dimple and Jeff continue to dive into the theme of embracing our fears as they explore Colin’s truth and Rebecca’s deepest desires, and why we over me is an effective strategy. They talk about the pedestals we put people when we’re unsure of ourselves, and how in the midst of our fear and insecurity we’ll often go in search of the familiar to feel safe.This is yet another episode jam packed with so much!
“Sometimes there is this sense that if I give people an opportunity to speak their minds I have to do what they’re saying. I’m working with a new coaching client and she said ‘I have a really hard time with collaboration and actually being a leader because if I ask my staff for input then I have to do what they say. How does that make me a leader?’ and I love that [question] because it’s a very real line we have to walk sometimes.” Dimple - (25:18)
In This Episode
[03:07] Foreboding joy
[08:04 ] Decoupling self-worth from our work
[09:25] The stigma of being LGBTQ+ in professional sports
[15:17] Zava’s introduction to Richmond
[22:10] We over me
[24:22] Psychological safety
[40:34] The Padawan
[40:59] The ethics of Ted’s wife’s new love interest
[44:02] The fine line between research and stalking
[47:34] Ted’s panic attack during Zava’s first goal
[50:51] Ted Lasso’s use of the woo - psychics, ghosts, astrology and how it relates to intuition
[57:35] Things get better with time
[1:00:24] Keeley hires her friend to work for her.
[01:03:21] Episode takeaways
Resources & Links
Mentioned
Zlatan Ibrahimovic destroys goalkeeper with an unreal spinning back heel flick - https://youtu.be/5o2nV_3L_XU
Zlatan Ibrahimovic scores first-ever MLS goal for LA Galaxy - https://youtu.be/J15vfXqnwWw
Deep Roots Italian Song Sounds Like American Medieval Comedy Nonsense - https://www.atlasobscura.com/articles/deep-roots-italian-song-sounds-like-english-american-medieval-comedy-nonsense
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What do second chances plus curiosity equal? Pure magic! And pure magic is exactly what we get as we dive into episode 2 - I (Don’t Want to Go to) Chelsea where Dimple and Jeff continue our exploration of this season’s overarching theme of facing our fears. In addition, we talk about origin stories, the impact of regrets, and our favorite theme of all - just being human.
Episode 2 is rich with examples of brave leadership and accountability as we watch several of our main characters step up and engage in tough conversations rather than putting them off. This episode also highlights how our mindset can make us or break us as we contrast the limiting, albeit protective power of the inner critic with two little words that can provide us with an opportunity to change our trajectory in life and make new choices.
“I think the term ‘not yet’ is so powerful because with anything if you add the word “yet” at the end of it - there are so many things in our life that I may not be good at this - yet - but I have the capacity to practice or do whatever to shift that. It’s this way of shifting our mindset a little bit.” (Dimple 45:20)
In This Episode
[03:20] Keeley’s dynamic with the CFO.
[10:00] Ted bringing Trent into the team.
[11:00] Zava’s real-life counterpart Swedish star Zlatan.
[13:10) The two overarching themes that in the episode.
[17:35] Jamie’s growth arc in the show.
[19:10] On the expression of empathy.
[28:11] Keeley’s confidence and standing in her leadership with curiosity.
[33:08] Trent and Roy’s history and origin stories.
[35:50] Recalling Chelsea's locker room scene and Trent walking in.
[40:35] Dimple elaborates on the idea of the inner critic.
[45:20] The power of “not yet” and how it relates to having a growth mindset.
[50:01] Rebecca’s origin story and being groomed by a narcissist..
[56:45] Letting go of results.
[58:10] On Zava deciding to play for Richmond.
[59:49] Final takeaways.
Resources & Links
Mentions
Vague Visages - https://vaguevisages.com/2023/03/19/ted-lasso-soundtrack-apple-tv-plus-songs/
Ted’s Breakup Mix on Apple Music - https://music.apple.com/us/playlist/teds-breakup-mix/pl.2f7ecf4fa9dd4332aa3490d8161f0588
‘Ted Lasso’: How Versace and ‘Star Wars’ Influenced the Production Design of Rupert’s Office - https://variety.com/2023/artisans/news/ted-lasso-versace-star-wars-production-influence-design-ruperts-office-1235553956/
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We’re back!! Today we launch a brand-new season of What Would Ted Lasso Do? and like the team, which goes deep underground to learn some lessons, so too did we dive deep into the first episode of Season 3, Smells Like Mean Spirit.
In this week’s episode, Dimple and Jeff explore the crisis each character is experiencing as we move into the next phase of the show. Everything from Rebecca’s personal crisis and Roy’s crisis of confidence to Keeley’s leadership crisis, Nate’s identity crisis, and Ted’s existential crisis - the driving force behind his actions this season. We also explore the challenges the team is facing with the negative rhetoric and the fine line between self-deprecating humor and self-judgment, and so much more! The episode is packed with so many storylines and themes and sets us up beautifully for the season ahead!
“So, this is again why I keep defending Nate’s humanity because we talked about all the microaggressions he experienced last season, the subtle acts of exclusions. But he also had a lot of over-bullying over the entire course of his time there, even before Ted got there. So, all that stuff has played into who he has become. Again, hurt people hurt people and so we can see why he reacts this way. (Dimple 43:06)
In This Episode
[02:09] Jeff and Dimple giving their initial remarks on Season 3, Episode 1.
[09:01] Reflecting on Ted’s thinking and how winning can corrupt.
[11:50] Rebecca’s personal crisis and ambition to beat Rupert and Ted’s swearing.
[18:37] On Rupert being a master manipulator and Nate’s identity crisis.
[22:10] Dimple’s take on Nate’s transformation being based on Jose Morino.
[25:50] Jeff not liking WimHof's breathing and Dimple’s pushback.
[33:10] Discussing Rupert’s power moves on Nate.
[38:40] Dimple thinks the team is still in crisis.
[46:00] Discussing Nate’s sewer remark.
[50:30] On Ted making a joke at his own expense to counter Nate.
[54:42] Dimple talks about Roy’s crisis of confidence and breakup with Keeley.
[58:21] Jeff talks about the crisis with Rupert and King Midas curse.
[1:00:52] That phone call about Jake!
[1:02:50] Dimple on Keeley’s leadership crisis.
Resources & Links
Mentions
Vague Visages - https://vaguevisages.com/2023/03/19/ted-lasso-soundtrack-apple-tv-plus-songs/
‘Ted Lasso’ Actor Reveals Nate’s Physical Transformation Was Inspired by a Famous Coach – https://ftw.usatoday.com/2021/10/ted-lasso-nate-finale-jose-mourinho
WimHof Method – https://www.healthline.com/health/wim-hof-method
I’m Forever Blowing Bubbles – Th Story Behind the Famous West Ham Chant – https://www.goal.com/en-us/news/im-forever-blowing-bubbles---the-story-behind-famous-west-ham-chant/v2c0pje1uewx170vlhczghgxx
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It’s hard to believe we’re at the end of another season! This week we dive into Episode 12, Inverting the Pyramid of Success, which is packed with twists, turns, many things coming full circle, and a surprise ending. There was a lot to talk about and Jeff and Dimple wasted no time diving right into it.
This week we explore the theme of choices. Ted’s choice to keep his panic attack from the team and the aftermath of sharing it with the Diamond Dogs. Keeley’s choice to move onward and upward in her career. Sam’s choice to stay at Richmond and do what’s best for his personal journey. The team’s choice to believe. And Nate’s choice to direct his anger at Ted and then walking away from Richmond after tearing up the team’s beloved BELIEVE sign.
Tune in to hear Jeff and Dimple as they take a deep dive into the season 2 finale in this extra-long episode of What Would Ted Lasso Do?
“Again, I love his reaction, like don’t you dare. You look so powerful. And he doesn’t say beautiful. I think he says powerful. And I love that. Because you know, so often that’s the stuff women get compliments on. But it is, she is powerful.” Dimple (42:52)
In This Episode
[02:49] Jeff and Dimple recap the episode and its powerful ending.
[03:01] Jeff’s reaction to the media learning about his panic attacks.
(16:53) The breaking of trust between Ted and Nate.
[18:34] Discussing the number 10 jersey Sam received.
[21:17] The kid in the park with the Obesan Jersey
[29:31] Ted’s conversation with the team as an example of accountability.
(35:45) Dimple and Jeff talk about Roy and Keeley
[37:40] Roy forgives Jamie and Nate for having affections for Keeley.
[38:28] Jeff talks about Tartt’s growth on the pitch.
[44:27] Roy’s fear of Keeley moving on and his one feeling.
[52:00] Talking about Nate and his fear-based decisions.
[52:47] On Nate not starting out as Nate.
[1:00:00] Dimple on whether Nate knows that Beard knows.
[1:02:00] Jeff explains the false 9.
[1:05:55] Ted Lasso’s proudest locker room moment.
[1:12:00] Dimple’s take on Ted’s abandonment issues and how he abandons Nate.
Resources & Links
Mentioned
Nick Mohammed Explains Nate’s Arc on Twitter
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This week we dive into Season 2 Episode 11 - Midnight Train to Royston. Jam packed with so many unfinished storylines, this episode gave Jeff and Dimple a lot to talk about!
The arrival of a Ghanaian billionaire looking to dismantle colonialism one football player at a time. Nate’s misreading of so many situations. Roy and Keeley trying to grow into their own even as they do the work to stay together. Ted and Dr. Sharon’s final moments together. Trent Crimm’s decision to buck ethics in favor of protecting someone he’s grown to respect. It’s ego, passion, love, and betrayal, all packed into a heavy hitting episode that left Jeff and Dimple with a lot of unresolved questions.
Check out the episode to hear Jeff and Dimple as they reflect on the episode’s development. Dimple talks about the five ways our nervous system reacts when it is activated and compares those reactions with the events and dialogues unfolding throughout the episode and much more!
“When I think about ego, ego is one of those things, like in my work I talk about the five ways that we react when our nervous system is activated. Fight or flight. Fight, flight, freeze which we are all familiar with. Fix and then something called Fake. And fake is the one where we double down, and we pretend. We do everything we can to show people that we have power. That we are perfectionists or we’re perfect in what we are doing and we don’t need help. All these things. So to me, this is very much like this ego is really like Nate’s fight or flight response to me.” Dimple – (55:28)
In This Episode
[03:35] Dimple’s take on watching Edwin Akufo.
[05:54] The idea of the African billionaire.
[10:48] On Dimple not liking the ending of the episode.
[12:50] Listen to your gut and check-in with your heart.
[13:20] Jeff on the second doorknob drop and understanding what your voice is saying.
[16:15] The ability to hear our own opinion amid the noise.
[17:40] Focusing on what’s clear, not what’s foggy.
[23:05] A world where women need men less than they ever have.
[24:24] Dimple talks about the two songs of this episode.
[33:10] Talking about the infamous letter and Ted’s reactions.
[37:25] The Good Will Hunting reference.
[41:00] Final storyline and all about Nate.
[42:40] On Nate kissing Keeley.
[55:30] Dimple’s take on ego and the 5 ways we react.
[1:00:25] Discussing the tree analogy by Beard.
[1:03:09] Nate’s betrayal of Ted.
[1:03:25] Jeff puts himself in Ted’s shoes and talks about abandonment.
[1:04:19] Jeff and Dimple talk about major takeaways from the episode.
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Mentioned
The History of Soccer in Africa
Subtle Acts of Exclusion by Michael Baran and Tiffany Jana
Subtle Acts of Exclusion - The New Microaggressions
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This week, we dive into episode 10 - No Weddings and a Funeral and explore the concept of death and grief; the ritual of celebrating those who have passed on; how we as humans react to loss of life; how an occasion of sadness can also bring moments of joy and more pertinently, how the characters in the episode portrayed these emotions both as givers and receivers. Listen as Jeff and Dimple draw from their own experiences as they reflect on the episode. Jeff talks about losing his father and meeting some family members for the very first time. Moreover, Dimple talks about her complex relationship with her dad and how she realized that in order to forgive and find compassion, she had to remember the good things and let go of hanging on to the bad.âIn this country, I feel like we have no real ritual around death. You think about a lot of cultures. I know in my culture, the Hindu culture. You look at Mexico with the day of the dead and like so many other places I know that really celebrate the lives that people led and honor the ancestors. And even especially here like Native American communities, Indigenous communities, you see a lot of rituals around death. Itâs just awkward here for most people. People donât want to talk about it. They donât know how to talk about it, especially in the workplace. â Dimple (02:30)In This Episode[01:30] Jeff and Dimple recap the episode âNo Weddings and a Funeralâ.[02:30] Dimpleâs take on the concept of death.[10:10] On moments of levity in the episode in comparison to the heaviness of the topic.[18:20] On having fun at funerals and how a time of loss can become an occasion of joy.[20:37] Are there rules or a script on how to behave at a funeral?[23:00] Talking about Rebecca and Tedâs complex relationship and feelings for their dad.[24:10] Conversation shifts to Ted and Sharon.[25:02] Dimple talks about 4-7-8 breathing and box breathing.[34:32] Dimple talks about her complex relationship with her dad.[39:51] Discussing Rebecca and her motherâs stance on her father cheating.[40:45] Dimple talks about how our parents shape our perception.[43:52] Talking about the Eulogy and the singing scene.[50:20] Jeff on appreciating the imperfections of people to build real relationships.[52:10] On how grief can be isolating yet everyone at the funeral supports Rebecca by singing.Resources & Links#WWTLD https://www.wwtldpodcast.com/https://twitter.com/wwtldpodcast/https://www.facebook.com/wwtldpodcast/https://www.instagram.com/wwtldpodcast/Learn More About Dimple Dhabalia https://www.rootsintheclouds.com/https://twitter.com/dimpstoryhttps://www.instagram.com/dimpstory/https://www.facebook.com/dimpledhabaliahttps://www.linkedin.com/in/dimpledhabalia/Why Radically Human Leadership Is More Important Than Ever https://www.rootsintheclouds.com/blog/why-radically-human-leadership-is-more-important-than-ever4 Steps to Creating A Human-Centered Organizationhttps://www.rootsintheclouds.com/blog/004-4-steps-to-creating-a-human-centered-organizationLearn More About Jeff Harry https://www.rediscoveryourplay.com/https://twitter.com/jeffharryplayshttps://www.instagram.com/jeffharryplays/https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffharryplays/https://www.youtube.com/jeffharryplayshttps://www.tiktok.com/@jeffharryplaysBuilding Psychological Safety At Workhttps://www.rediscoveryourplay.com/building-psychological-safetySolve Your Problem With Playhttps://www.rediscoveryourplay.com/coachingJeffâs Positive Psychology Playlisthttps://www.rediscoveryourplay.com/playlist
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Have you ever noticed that we often make assumptions about people based on the briefest of interactions with them. We jump to conclusions about who they are and why they behave a certain way without having the full story.
The reality is that most people are walking around wearing a mask and just trying to survive, and we have no idea what’s actually happening in their life.
Think of tWitch, Robin Williams, Anthony Bourdain, and Chester Bennington to name a few. All of these people were known for something specific - and when they passed, we learned there was much about them kept in the shadows because they felt pressured to be what the world perceived them to be. This week’s episode is jam-packed with symbolism, reminding us that things aren’t always what they seem.
Here, we’re breaking down several powerful themes, including the impact of the inner critic and how it shows up in our lives, feeling lost and the masks we wear to protect ourselves, and how toxic relationships can make their way into our lives.
We also discuss the value of being able to “unmask” oneself, the complexities of human interaction that lead people to suffer in silence, the idea of having access to people, and the desire to belong.
“You can’t be another way because I only know you this way, and I expect only this from you. I expect Ted Lasso - happiness, joy, and none of this weird stuff- and it’s just like, you gotta let people be more than just one aspect of themselves, you know? And I think we need to embrace that more because that’s just a healthier…you know, coming from a positive psychology way of allowing all the feelings to show up.” – Jeff (09:48)
In This Episode
[2:49] Recap of “Beard After Hours” and the themes that came up
[15:21] All about Beard: highlighting the “inner critic”
[18:02] The symbolism of the keys
[22:33] The idea of access explored
[30:44] The ideas of “Othering” and “Belonging”
[35:26] The perks and drawbacks of being in a relationship and being single
[41:47] Another theme addressed: consistently asking for help
[44:02] The struggle of dealing with your inner critic’s insults
[48:43] Exploring Beard and Jane: the dynamics of toxic relationships
[55:35] Exploring the idea that there is no deeper level to some people
[1:00:05] The relationship you have vs. the relationship you want with someone
[1:02:44] Is Jane good for Beard?
[1:07:35] Takeaways from the episode for you
Resources & Links
Mentioned
Hafiz, the 14th-century poet: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hafez
After Hours
Fight Club
Songs from the episode
Thierry Henry
Gary Lineker
Elvis Costello
Eyes Wide Shut
A Clockwork Orange
Inception
Why Coach Beard Walks Alone in that Stray ‘Ted Lasso’ Episode
Hafiz Poem
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4 Steps to Creating A Human-Centered Organization
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Learn More About Jeff Harry
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Building Psychological Safety At Work
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Vulnerability can be scary; it's hard to be vulnerable, even if you know you have a âsafe spaceâ in which to be vulnerable. This episode of Ted Lasso emphasizes this idea in a relatable way. This weekâs episode, âMan City,â is jam-packed with storylines and interesting dynamics with our favorite characters.In this episode, weâre breaking down several powerful themes, such as relationships between fathers and sons, understanding our influence on others, and the importance of vulnerability for creating connections. We also go on to discuss the intersections of leadership and relationships on and off the soccer pitch, the power of healthy male relationships, the detrimental effects of toxic masculinity, and how loneliness manifests in unexpected places and in unexpected ways.âYou never know what is happening for other people. You can have people who come across as, like, really strong and happy and whateverâŠit goes to that space of not making assumptions.â â Dimple (27:54)In This Episode[3:40] Recap of âMan Cityâ and what came up for Dimple and Jeff[6:43] Pondering on the momentum of positivity[11:20] Recognizing the value of relationships despite deep-seated trauma[14:50] Breaking Down Jamie: Setting firm boundaries with family [16:48] Healthy male relationships: âthe hug felt around the world.â[19:45] Separate yourself from your story[22:03] Dr. Sharon and Ted: the plight of finding psychological safety to be vulnerable[26:35] You never know what others are going through[29:45] Loneliness is an epidemic - humans need connection[36:00] Friendship love is just as meaningful as relationship love [39:38] Vulnerability is all about connecting on an emotional level[43:03] We influence people without realizing it all the time[49:58] Sam and Rebecca: the intersectionality of age and power differentials in relationshipsResources & LinksMentioned James Hollis: The Middle Passage: From Misery To Meaning in MidlifeDhiman: You MatterVivek Murthy: TogetherRobert D. Putnam: Bowling Alone: The Collapse and Revival of American CommunityAnne Lamott: Bird By BirdStephen âtWitchâ BossâMan Cityâ Episode: All Songs Mentioned Broaden and Build Theory Poetry of Dhiman: You Matter Together by Dr. Vivek Murthy: Why Social Connection Holds the Key to Better Health, Higher Performance, and Greater Happiness #WWTLD https://www.wwtldpodcast.com/https://twitter.com/wwtldpodcast/https://www.facebook.com/wwtldpodcast/https://www.instagram.com/wwtldpodcast/ï»żLearn More About Dimple Dhabalia https://www.rootsintheclouds.com/https://twitter.com/dimpstoryhttps://www.instagram.com/dimpstory/https://www.facebook.com/dimpledhabaliahttps://www.linkedin.com/in/dimpledhabalia/Why Radically Human Leadership Is More Important Than Ever https://www.rootsintheclouds.com/blog/why-radically-human-leadership-is-more-important-than-ever4 Steps to Creating A Human-Centered Organizationhttps://www.rootsintheclouds.com/blog/004-4-steps-to-creating-a-human-centered-organizationLearn More About Jeff Harry https://www.rediscoveryourplay.com/https://twitter.com/jeffharryplayshttps://www.instagram.com/jeffharryplays/https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffharryplays/https://www.youtube.com/jeffharryplayshttps://www.tiktok.com/@jeffharryplaysBuilding Psychological Safety At Workhttps://www.rediscoveryourplay.com/building-psychological-safetySolve Your Problem With Playhttps://www.rediscoveryourplay.com/coachingJeffâs Positive Psychology Playlisthttps://www.rediscoveryourplay.com/playlist
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This week, we jump into Season 2, Episode 7 of Ted Lasso, “Headspace.” In this episode, we look at where several of our characters are in their own headspace and how they got there.
Some of the main areas of discussion include breaking down and exploring themes of trauma in various forms, setting boundaries in life and relationships, what self-care really looks like, and the role of assertiveness in leadership.
We also explore the need for external validation, how striving for perfection is in vain, how our inherent negativity bias impacts our confidence, how toxic behavior can be contagious, and how leaders can help people co-regulate their nervous systems and get out of a reactive state.
“I think there are a lot of leaders out there that are strong leaders that don’t… you know, like how Rebecca was saying in, I think, two episodes ago about how you don’t have to yell. You just have to be assertive. And so I think there’s a lot of leaders who areassertive and they’re good at what they do, and they’re strong without having to be mean.” – Dimple (4:31)
In This Episode
[1:14] Dimple and Jeff’s thoughts on the episode
[4:27] What does it mean to be a strong leader - an analysis of Nate
[9:15] Chasing approval, consistent external validation, and the pursuit of happiness
[13:16] Toxic workplaces and the contagiousness of toxic behavior
[20:49] Ted in therapy: the many shapes trauma can take
[30:05] Self-care can be scary - it’s not all bubble baths and spa days
[39:12] Stop auditioning your complaints!
[41:17] People tend to give advice to others that they should take for themselves
[42:10] How trauma can inform romantic relationships
[50:12] Most relationships are not like fairytales
[54:04] It can be scary to put yourself out there
[58:58] Dimple’s and Jeff’s takeaways for the week and for life
Resources & Links
Mentioned
Roy Is Sorry For Not Understanding Keeley Playlist
Patrice O’Neal
“The Da Vinci Code”
Doomscrolling
Negativity Bias
Social Contagion
Clear is Kind - Brené Brown
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Why Radically Human Leadership Is More Important Than Ever
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4 Steps to Creating A Human-Centered Organization
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Building Psychological Safety At Work
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Jeff’s Positive Psychology Playlist
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Relationships can be beautiful but messy. Ted Lasso is a show that highlights this idea in a relatable way. This week’s episode, “The Signal,” is jam-packed with storylines and interesting dynamics with our favorite characters.
In this episode, we’re breaking down several powerful themes within the storylines and character interactions, such as coming into your own as a leader, finding a balance between external success and internal satisfaction, and the Roy Kent effect.
We also go on to discuss the process of helping people overcome their limiting beliefs so they can show up as the best version of themselves, the different methods people have for dealing with emotions, the dynamics of modern male friendships, and the influence your family dynamics have on your relationships later in life.
“ It takes two people to create a pattern, but only one to change it. Oh, mercy!” – Jeff (40:07)
In This Episode
[3:02] Is there more interest in the FA Cup, or is it just Ted Lasso?
[5:07] Recap of the episode “The Signal” and the storylines/themes within the episode
[11:23] You don’t know what people are actually going through
[13:45] Roy vs. Nate coaching styles: are you ruling with an iron fist or just being a dick?
[18:06] Leaders who have done the job vs. leaders who are more theoretically-informed
[29:15] The double-edged sword of finding self-worth through external validation alone
[31:17] Friendship patterns: how male vs. female friendships typically work
[41:11] The Esther Perel tie-in: how family dynamics influence your relationship patterns
[49:45] Sports, soap operas, and reality TV: people getting joy from Soccer
[53:47] A powerful contrast to end the episode
[56:10] Dr. Sharon and the “Black Lady Therapist” trope
[60:16] Dimple’s and Jeff’s takeaways for the week ahead and for life
Resources & Links
Mentioned
All things Esther Perel: https://www.estherperel.com/
Football Against The Enemy - Simon Kuper
The Big Brunch - Dan Levy
Aisha Harris
Welcome to Wrexham
Overcoming self-limiting beliefs
Football Against the Enemy
The New Pop Culture Trend Alert: Black Lady Therapist
The Greatest Bake-off Inuendos
The Big Brunch
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Why Radically Human Leadership Is More Important Than Ever
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4 Steps to Creating A Human-Centered Organization
https://www.rootsintheclouds.com/blog/004-4-steps-to-creating-a-human-centered-organization
Learn More About Jeff Harry
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Building Psychological Safety At Work
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Solve Your Problem With Play
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Jeff’s Positive Psychology Playlist
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We’re inching toward the heart of the season with this episode, “Rainbow,” and it’s following in the last episode's footsteps with more profound social and leadership themes.
In this episode, we’re breaking down microaggressions in the workplace, the transition to a leadership role, how to balance assertiveness and humility, and the importance of being aware of other leaders in your organization. We also explore “doing” vs. “being” and how to approach dark seasons without avoiding unresolved or negative feelings.
We also go on to discuss the challenge of owning your authority around others, stepping into your sense of self, how the leaders we trust can aid us in this process, how to develop confidence through compassion, and why we have to embrace the spirit of play in a world of work.
“It’s all about play, and it’s all about remembering the joy in the thing you’re doing. And I think most all of us forget that…” – Dimple (38:57)
In This Episode
[2:35] Unpacking subtle acts of exclusion and new leadership roles
[12:51] Doing vs. Being and toxic positivity
[17:59] Refining your personal brand
[21:24] Representation in media
[22:18] Developing your sense of self and stepping into your own “big-ness”
[28:32] Straying away from toxic masculinity and insecurity
[32:14] Why we need to support ourselves and others with compassion
[37:44] Embodying the spirit and joy of play
[50:37] Father (figures) and sons
[51:13] Delegating responsibility and making room for change
[55:55] Pop culture references
[57:59] Takeaways for the week
Resources & Links
Mentioned
Subtle Acts of Exclusion by Michael Baran and Tiffany Jana
“Subtle Acts of Exclusion - The New ‘Microaggressions’”
“Spiritual Bypassing and How to Avoid It”
“‘Ted Lasso’ Stars Admit Ted’s Sunny Philosophy Doesn’t Always Work”
“The Amazing Tool That Women in the White House Used to Fight Gender Bias”
“Why Self-Compassion is Healthier Than Self-Esteem”
“Why Self-Compassion Works Better Than Self-Esteem”
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Why Radically Human Leadership Is More Important Than Ever
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4 Steps to Creating A Human-Centered Organization
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Building Psychological Safety At Work
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Solve Your Problem With Play
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