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Grab a coffee and join me in this insightful conversation with Jim Salvucci regarding leadership, workplace culture and workplace gossip!
Guest Bio:
Dr. Jim Salvucci is an author, keynote speaker, coach, and consultant. He served higher education for 30 years as an English professor, dean, and vice president before founding Guidance for Greatness to guide young bosses to become the next generation of great leaders. He is a certified Tiny Habits coach as well as a certified Thrive Global coach and life coach and holds leadership certificates from Harvard University and the Council of Independent Colleges. Central to Jimâs leadership philosophy is that all great leaders are decent humans as well as great teachers, guiding their people and their organizations through values toward success.
Discussion points:
How did you get into leadership consulting?Is there anyone who played a pivotal role in your leadership journey?Whatâs your experience with workplace gossip?What systems did your work have that allowed the gossip to fester?Discussing bosses that support or listen to gossip.What advice would you give to a leader who feels that gossip is out of control, who wants to be a good leader, and who doesnât want to get roped in by gossip?Dismissals and protections for employees/TenureHaving difficult/tough conversations - what advice would you give to someone who is scared of having them?Connect with Dr Jim Salvucci
Website: https://www.guidanceforgreatness.com Newsletter/podcast: https://jimsalvucci.substack.comFree Resource: https://www.thegreatleadershiptoolkit.comHave a listener question?
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Showing appreciation to your team is an essential part of being a leader.
Everyone on this planet wants to feel valued and as if their life has meaning.
It starts with you as their line manager and boss. You can also show appreciation to your colleagues using the 5 suggestions listed in the episode.
Get a notebook and pen handy, because this episode is jam packed with ideas and strategies to show appreciation to your team at work.
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Today's episode is a follow-up from episode 73, where I discussed the 10 red flags indicating you have a toxic workplace culture.
Listen, as I unpack the following roadmap for you to implement to fix a toxic workplace culture:
RecognitionDiscussionExpectationsCommunicationAccountabilityRole ModellingPromote a positive workplace cultureRegular check-insListener questionI also take a moment to answer a listener question:
"How we do one on one meetings with team members that is holding on the past?"
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In this episode, we discuss how the use of alcohol, even just low-level use, can affect your behaviour at work and can be the cause of gossip in the workplace.
Bio: Sarah RusbatchSarah is the author of the best-selling book âBeyond Booze, how to create a life you love Alcohol Freeâ, a multi-award-winning Health and Wellbeing Coach, an accredited Grey Area Drinking Coach, a menopause coach and a Key-Note speaker sharing her journey to Sobriety and impact of alcohol on mental health to global audiences. Sarah works tirelessly to support women all over the world to create and live their best lives as they age.
In this episode we discuss:
Sarahâs expertise in grey-area drinkingSarahâs journey with grey-area drinkingIs it very common to go out drinking with your colleagues in Australia?Drinking on mine sites/FIFO (Fly In Fly Out) workersWhat advice would you give to someone who struggles with grey-area drinking? Where can they get started?Sobriety as a superpowerA study about alcohol use in women (Alcohol Use Disorder)Normalising alcohol use in societyPeer pressure and alcohol useWhat strategies/excuses do you give to people not to drink at a work function/business meeting?Does social drinking fall into the category of grey-area drinking?Connect with SarahBeyond Booze Book
sarahrusbatch.com
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Do you suspect that you might have a toxic workplace culture? Here are 10 red flags alerting you to your toxic workplace culture. Listen as I unpack each of these. Then in an upcoming episode, I will share strategies on how you can improve this and turn those red flags into green flags.
Lack of RespectPoor CommunicationUnrealistic WorkloadLack of Work-Life BalanceFavouritism and CliquesGaslightingLack of Recognition and AppreciationNegative and Pessimistic AtmosphereUnhealthy CompetitionLack of Ethical BehaviourNext steps:1. Navigate to https://www.womenoffaithinleadership.com where you can:
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Listen in as I share strategies for having successful 1:1 conversations/meetings with your team and why they are important.
Do you have to have tough conversations?
Yes, you absolutely do. As a leader, this is non-negotiable.
Why should you have them?
Accountability,Connection,Support,Performance managementAnnual Performance ReviewsWhen should you have them?
As soon as possible after an incident or something happened. Once every 3-6 months, annual reviews once a year.
Otherwise, after onboarding:
3, 6 weeks3, 6 monthsFor Performance Management related information, listen to episode 36!
How to prepare
Remember, when we're in a stressful situation, we either fight, flight or freeze. So, preparation is key!
What if things go pear-shaped?
Stop the meeting. Say I can see you are getting frustrated, I can see that we wonât agree today, before someone gets upset, letâs reconvene in 24 hours.
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Listener question: Help! My Boss Wants Me to Agree with his/her Lies in Front of Others, what should I do?
What would you do if you were constantly placed in a difficult situation by your boos/line manager where you are expected to agree with their lies in front of others?
Would you agree with it, so that you can save your job, save face or avoid bullying or even worse, being fired?
Or would you stand up against it and say something?
What would you do?
In this episode, I'm going to look at:
1. lying from a biblical perspective and how God feels about lying and yourself agreeing with people who lie.
2. practical tips and strategies that you can implement to NOT agree with the lies.
Bible verses mentioned in the episode:Proverbs 12:17 - An honest witness tells the truth, a false witness tells lies.
Exodus 20:16 - You must not testify falsely against your neighbour.
Psalm 24:4-5 - Only those whose hands and hearts are pure, who do not worship idols and never tell lies. They will receive the Lordâs blessing and have a right relationship with God, their saviour.
Proverbs 2:7 - He grants a treasure of common sense to the honest. He is a shield to those who walk with integrity. This section here is titled: âThe benefits of wisdomâ. Now, remember, Solomon was the wisest man that ever lived. God told him that he could ask for anything, and he asked for wisdom, and thatâs what God gave him.
Proverbs 6:16-19 - There are six things the LORD hatesâ no, seven things he detests: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that kill the innocent, a heart that plots evil, feet that race to do wrong, a false witness who pours out lies, a person who sows discord in a family.
Proverbs 12:22-24 - The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in those who tell the truth. The wise donât make a show of their knowledge, but fools broadcast their foolishness. Work hard and become a leader; be lazy and become a slave.
Proverbs 10:9 - People with integrity walk safely, but those who follow crooked paths will slip and fall
Psalm 25:19-21 - See how many enemies I have and how viciously they hate me! Protect me! Rescue my life from them! Do not let me be disgraced, for in you I take refuge. May integrity and honesty protect me, for I put my hope in you!
Other verses in the bible about lying and bearing false witnessLying
Proverbs 26:28 - A lying tongue hates its victims, and flattering words cause ruin.
Proverbs 17:22 - The crooked heart will not prosper; the lying tongue tumbles into trouble.
Proverbs 21:6 - Wealth created by a lying tongue is a vanishing mist and a deadly trap.
Proverbs 25:18 - Telling lies about others is as harmful as hitting them with an ax, wounding them with a sword, or shooting them with a sharp arrow.
Exodus 23:1 - You must not pass along false rumours. You must not cooperate with evil people by lying on the witness stand.
Matthew 15:19 - For from the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, all sexual immorality, theft, lying, and slander.
Bearing false witness
Proverbs 14:5 - An honest witness does not lie; a false witness breathes lies.
Proverbs 14:25 - A truthful witness saves lives, but a false witness is a traitor.
Proverbs 19:5 - A false witness will not go unpunished, nor will a liar escape.
Proverbs 21:28 - A false witness will be cut off, but a credible witness will be allowed to speak.
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In this first instalment of our new series, Conversations About Gossip, I speak with Brandon Gano. We cover many topics and questions, which are listed below.
Brandon's bio: Brandon is a visionary entrepreneur who turned frustration into a successful business, which he built, franchised, and later sold for a significant profit. Now, with his business partner and friend Sean Delaney, he's pioneering an unprecedented approach to educate and empower small business owners to achieve business growth like never before.
Topics/Questions discussed in this podcast episode:
In what ways have you seen can gossip be detrimental to an organisation, a business or to a teamIn what ways have you seen can gossip be detrimental to an organisation, a business or to a teamWhat processes are or are not in place to cause gossipWhat was the reason why you didnât take gossip sooner?The process of tackling gossipThe frustration that gossip causes leadersBattling the perceptions of gossipThe importance of leadershipConnect With BrandonPodcast: Harmonious at Lunch
On AppleOn SpotifyWebsite
Free Assessment to get Clarity into your business and Confidence in what you need to do next to grow.
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In today's podcast update, I share some upcoming episodes as well as about a new series called 'Conversations about Gossip'. This series will tackle real-world examples of how gossip can hurt people, confuse people and cause big BIG problems in businesses, organisations and working environments.
In the next couple of weeks, I will also be answering a listener question regarding what to do where your boss expects you to lie for them or do the wrong thing.
I'll also be sharing my testimony of the work that the Lord is doing in my life to focus more on this podcast and to serve YOU ALL as women of faith in leadership!
I can't wait!
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I look forward to chatting with you in the next episode. Make sure you don't miss it!
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In today's episode, I share a free diagnostic tool that you can use to improve your organisation and your leadership skills.
The organisational gap analysis focuses on identifying gaps regarding psychological safety in the workplace and workplace relationships.
As leaders, it's our responsibility to reflect, identify the gaps and make the necessary changes.
This might include an action plan with steps to follow, strategies to implement or training to attend.
But it all starts with that gap analysis!
If you are someone who shies away from reflection or analysing what is missing, then this gap analysis is perfect for you! The questions have been meticulously thought-out to stimulate your thinking and get you moving so that you don't have to shy away from reflection, but rather take action.
CLICK HERE to access the free organisational gap analysis.
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Last week, we discussed the first 3; go and listen to episode 66.
SystemsExpectationsStaff performanceLetâs jump into the next 3:
4. Workplace CultureThis truly is a huge topic, but Iâm going to break some green and red flags down for you here.
7 Green flags
People care about each otherPeople feel safePeople know where they stand, their role, their expectations, there is no uncertaintyLow to zero stress levels - there will be some form of stress for deadlines, projects ect. But it shouldnât be about the everyday, it should be healthyYour voice matters, youâre able to have a say without fear of retaliation, discriminationYou can be yourself (within professional boundaries of course ;-) )Organisation is driven by values and everybody actually sticks to these values7 Red flags
High staff turnoverPeople feel constant frustration with one another and with managementPeople feel as if management are to blame for everything and donât take personal responsibilityThere is absolutely no accountability towards anyonePerformance isnât measured or rewardedPeople are doing the absolutely bare minimum and others constantly feel that they are carrying the weight of that personNo clear expectations, policies and procedures (SOPâs) or communicationThe Free organisational gap analysis will analyse it for you and give you some tips
5. AccountabilityWhat does accountability look like in your workplace?
Is there any?
Are people held accountable for their actions, behaviour, tardiness, lack of respect, gossiping etc.
The best places to work are those that keep people accountable.
I had the wonderful opportunity to speak to so many HR managers and so many of them agree, the best places are the ones who keep people accountable. These are people who have worked across multiple different sectors, big, medium and small businesses who know.
No accountability = a huge gap and opportunity for organisational failure
6. Staff Training & DevelopmentThis does not only include professional development. Thatâs important, for sure, but think about all the other missed opportunities.
It starts with onboarding, what does that look like, are you seizing the opportunity to set that person up for success during onboarding?
Then what happens after, are they just left to the wolves? Or to fend for themselves when it comes to learning and training.
Or what does this look like in your organisation?
Personal goalsAnnual goalsAnnual trainingTraining daysProfessional development and training daysTake the organisational gap analysis, diagnostic tool and work through the questions, because the questions are meant to make you think, and already give you clues as to where you can make some improvements.
It will end with a recommendation and a Free PDF download. In the download, youâll find a special link to a free 30-minutes strategy session with me to discuss your results and your way forward.
Next steps:1. Navigate to https://www.womenoffaithinleadership.com where you can:
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Letâs discuss a healthy workplace environment. Letâs flip the coin and look at the positive today.
These 6 characteristics were developed through lived experience and my conversations with others.
If even one of these areas is out of whack, youâll notice something isnât quite right.
1. SystemsWhat systems do you have in place to ensure a healthy work environment?
Having a healthy work environment is not all about how people feel. Itâs about the structures you put in place to support them to do their jobs properly.
Think about your:
InterviewsOnboardingJob descriptionsProbation periodsPolicies and Procedures (SOPâs)Performance managementResignation process and period (how are people treated during these periods)Communication methodsClient managementStaff management (HR)Are these updated regularly or are they old and outdated, so no one uses them?
Systems form the foundation of any business, no matter how big or how small. Without effective and efficient systems, you are setting yourself and your employees up for failure.
Activity: Audit your systems, decide what needs updating! The free diagnostic tool will also give you suggestions on what you can do to make improvements.
2. ExpectationsWhat are the expectations of employees, leadership team, heads of departments, the CEO, etc? Are there any?
How is this communicated? When is it communicated? How often is it communicated?
Are staff expected to stay up to date with expectations with no communication from anyone?
How are staff expected to give their best, if they donât know what is expected of them?
Again, you are setting your employees up for failure if you fail to communicate.
Suggestions:
Verbal and in writing, why because of various learning styles. Some people learn or understand better with verbal, some with writing, some need both.If youâve had a conversation with someone, follow it up with an email, always! Get them to reply back to say they acknowledge it.Activity: Audit the expectations in your workplace. Take the free organisational gap analysis (diagnostic tool) and find out how you score.
3. Staff PerformanceHow are staff performance measured? Is it measured at all?
Are there annual performance reviews and what is this measured against?
Are staff given the opportunity to work towards an annual goal that they have chosen, something that will be motivating to them to want to achieve.
Are they rewarded for exceptional performance?
Here weâre looking at the positive and the constructive or even the negative.
What happens to a staff member if they stay performing poorly, or even have a behavioural problem?
What the processes (they systems!) that you have in place to manage this.
Or, will you also fall into the category where there is no process and the employee, gets away with their behaviour and makes it into a toxic workplace for everyone else
If staff performance isnât managed, then the performance, will essentially manage the business.
You are only as strong as your weakest link! So, what are you doing about that weakest link?
Activity: Audit your current performance evaluation practices. Score yourself using the organisational gap analysis.
Free Diagnostic Tool
Take our free Organisational Gap Analysis today and identify the gaps in your organisation and leadership when it comes to healthy work environments.
Next steps:
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Today, Iâll tackle a tricky topic: gossip in the church.
The one thing that I love about going to church is the fellowship. Talking freely with other Christians while enjoying a coffee or tea while the kids play. Itâs nice.
And then, if youâre lucky, you get to attend a weekly small group meeting where 5-10 people usually come together to either unpack the sermon of the week or to learn about and unpack a new topic.
However, itâs in this fellowship that gossip can become an issue.
Satan will try and find a way to interject himself into Godly conversations and one way he does this is through gossip.
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One way that gossip masks itself is through concern.
Letâs use Sue as an example (fictional of course)
Sue might know someone who is going through a tough time and then share her concern with others, causing people to talk about that person.
Or Sue might know a piece of confidential information that someone might have shared with her and then share that with others by asking them to pray for that person.
Inadvertently, Sue is creating a gossip culture, where no one in the church can feel safe anymore because they canât share any concerns with people they trust, for fear that it would be shared with others âout of concernâ or because that person asked others to pray for them.
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Another way that gossip can mask itself is through the judgement and/or so called âempathyâ towards others.
Iâve always found it super interesting that Christians, in general, are so super judgemental of others when Jesus himself came and broke all thought patterns about judging others.
And Iâm 1000% including myself in this discussion, because I have found myself very guilty of this.
When someone does something that we know is sinful or specifically mentioned in the bible as a no-go-zone, then we are quick to judge them, and it becomes a topic of discussion with others.
"Oh, have you heard that Sueâs teenage daughter is pregnant? Isnât it just such a shame? Sue must be so embarrassed."
Or "/have you heard the sad news that Sue and Jo are getting a divorce? Itâs such a shame, isnât it? I feel so sorry for Sue, because rumour has it that Jo cheated on her."
So, weâre talking about others, seemingly feeling sorry for them, but in actual fact weâre gossiping.
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Church communities can be small communities and the thing we know about communities is that there will always be people who love to know what is going on in the community with other people.
So what can we as leaders in the church do about this? Is it even your duty to do something about this?
Or should it just be the main leader, the pastor who as a duty of care?
No, I donât believe it should be.
I believe that God gave all of us the ability to speak up, to say no to gossip and to not stand for it.
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What does the bible say about gossip?
Go and listen to episode 4 where I discuss in full what the bible says about gossip.
Proverbs 18:21 reads: âThe tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequencesâ
The Bible, both the Old and the New Testament, warns strongly against gossip and the effect that your words and your tongue can have.
God, however, doesnât leave us in the lurch and say, âFigure it out by yourselfâ.
No, in true God-style, He gives us the tools, âthe antidoteâ if you will, for dealing with gossip and for dealing with the gossipers.
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Ephesians 4:32 âInstead, be kind to each other, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, as God through Christ has forgiven you.
This verse requests that we be kind to each other, and tender-hearted (which according to Webster dictionary means compassionate)
Forgive the person, just like Christ has forgiven you.
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Proverbs 17:9 says, âHe who covers over an offence promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.â
Basically, stop the gossip with you, donât spread it any further. You can make the choice to not gossip anymore if this is an issue for you.
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Proverbs 20:19 tells us, âA gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid a man who talks too much
As a leader, it is crucial that we do not betray someoneâs trust. Whatever is said to you should remain confidential, unless itâs life-threatening and you are compelled to speak up to another leader, but do not utter a word to anyone else. Do not fall in that trap.
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Lastly 1 Timothy 18:15-18 reads: âIf another believer sins against, you, go privately and point out the offence. If the other person listens and confesses it, you have won that person back. But if you are unsuccessful, take one or two others with you and go back again, so that everything you may say be confirmed by two or three witnesses.
In a church environment, this would translate to going directly to that person and asking them to stop spreading rumours and gossiping
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The main things that I would like you to take away from todayâs podcast is:
Take gossip seriously, it can have long-term effects on you and the churchSpeak up against gossip, address it directly with the person/personâs involvedIf you are struggling with gossip yourself, pray that the Lord will guide you and help you to stop, so that you can show integrity at church and not only talk the talk, but walk the walk.Join the Facebook GroupClick here to join like-minded faith-driven leaders in our Women of Faith in Leadership Community.
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Join the community of like-minded female Christian leaders. This is where I will be hanging out if I'm not on the podcast chatting to you all. Come share and support each other here. Subscribe to my newsletter so you can stay up to date with all upcoming episodes and any other exclusive or special offers.2. If you need any support, you can get in contact with me for a 1:1 coaching session. Just email me at [email protected]
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This is the final episode of the 4-part series, letâs have a chat about the importance of community.
Surrounding yourself with âyourâ people, people who get you, accept you, love you, just the way you are, is very important for a healthy self-image and building your self-confidence.
When youâre in your comfort zone, doing what you love, with the people you love, you tend to loosen up and just be yourself. No judgement!
It means that you can gain in your self-confidence because you donât even have to try! You just do.
But thatâs not the only community that can support you. Depending on your working environment and the workplace culture, youâll hopefully be surrounding by people who are cheering for you to do well.
Unfortunately, it is a reality that not all workplaces are like this.
Yesterday, I saw a shocking post on LinkedIn encouraging people to not share anything about their personal lives with their colleagues because theyâll only hold it against them. I immediately responded and said that I disagreed, itâs not about your colleagues, itâs about your workplace culture. Thatâs what needs fixing.
So, if youâre stuck in a place where you canât be yourself, share about yourself at your workplace out of fear of the consequences, or youâre in a workplace where theyâre not cheering you on, it is vital that you seek community elsewhere.
It could be at home, yes, but at
Sports clubArt clubMusic lessonsKarate lessonsWhatever you like to do but participating in a sport or in anything in your community, is another vital part of building your own self-confidence and believing in yourself and that you are an amazing human being.
My final reminder is this: Remember that the Almighty God in Heaven made you!
Luke 12:7: And the very hairs on your head are all numbered. So donât be afraid; you are more valuable to God than a whole flock of Sparrows.
Psalm 139For the choir director: A psalm of David.1 O Lord, you have examined my heart and know everything about me.2 You know when I sit down or stand up. You know my thoughts even when Iâm far away.3 You see me when I travel and when I rest at home. You know everything I do.4 You know what I am going to say even before I say it, Lord.5 You go before me and follow me. You place your hand of blessing on my head.6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too great for me to understand!
7 I can never escape from your Spirit! I can never get away from your presence!8 If I go up to heaven, you are there; if I go down to the grave,[a] you are there.9 If I ride the wings of the morning, if I dwell by the farthest oceans,10 even there your hand will guide me, and your strength will support me.11 I could ask the darkness to hide me and the light around me to become nightâ12 but even in darkness I cannot hide from you.To you the night shines as bright as day. Darkness and light are the same to you.
13 You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my motherâs womb.14 Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelousâhow well I know it.15 You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb.16 You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book.Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.
17 How precious are your thoughts about me,[b] O God. They cannot be numbered!18 I canât even count them; they outnumber the grains of sand!And when I wake up, you are still with me!
19 O God, if only you would destroy the wicked! Get out of my life, you murderers!20 They blaspheme you; your enemies misuse your name.21 O Lord, shouldnât I hate those who hate you? Shouldnât I despise those who oppose you?22 Yes, I hate them with total hatred, for your enemies are my enemies.
23 Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts.24 Point out anything in me that offends you, and lead me along the path of everlasting life.
139:8 Hebrew to Sheol.139:17 Or How precious to me are your thoughts.Next steps:1. Navigate to https://www.womenoffaithinleadership.com where you can:
Join the community of like-minded female Christian leaders. This is where I will be hanging out if I'm not on the podcast chatting to you all. Come share and support each other here. Subscribe to my newsletter so you can stay up to date with all upcoming episodes and any other exclusive or special offers.2. If you need any support, you can get in contact with me for a 1:1 coaching session. Just email me at [email protected]
3. Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rikawhelan
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Weâre in the middle of a series, gaining confidence in your own abilities. In the previous 2 episodes, we discussed spiritual growth and personal development and how this can help you gain confidence.
This episode will discuss how professional development can help you gain confidence.
Itâs no secret that when you want to learn a new skill, youâre highly likely to Google the âhow toâ or if itâs a skill you need for work, youâll attend a course or training program to learn that new skill. YouTube is a common one for us as well.
But does it really have merit?
Can you really gain confidence by attending professional training or development?
I think this one is debatable and depends how you want to look at it.
If you donât have confidence in your own abilities because you lack a certain skill set, then yes, you can absolutely go and gain the book knowledge for it. Hence the reason why some companies/careers also require certain qualifications. They hold merit for sure.
However, if you lack confidence, because of a lack of experience, then I say embrace it! Find ways to gain experience, seek them out. Donât wait for them to just miraculously happen. Seek them out. Ask your line manager to keep you in mind for the next project or volunteer somewhere during your time off. The only way to gain experience, is to do the thing that you want to gain experience in.
An example of this for me was project management.
I was leading a department and I had to run multiple projects. I knew absolutely nothing about successful project management.
I had 2 options:
Go and study about it - get the book knowledge (which would have helped a lot! Now that Iâve done project management my MBA, I see the real value in in)Learn from others and gain the experience.I chose the latter. I asked my line manager to include me in any future projects, or at least to keep me abreast so that I can learn from the best.
Professional development doesnât always have to be a course or a training or something that you can prove on paper you did. This is how we have been made to believe it is.
Professional development can happen by learning from your peers, your line managers, other departments.
The most important thing is that you continue developing, professionally.
As soon as you become stagnant and think âIâve made itâ. Then be worried, be very worried.
So, continue your learning, continue your professional development and continue gaining confidence in your own abilities.
You are amazing because our one true God made you, formed you in your motherâs womb, he knows you by name, he knows how many hairs there are on your head.
He loves you.
I hope you are blessed by this.
I will chat with you all again next week.
Next steps:
1. Navigate to https://www.womenoffaithinleadership.com where you can:
Join the community of like-minded female Christian leaders. This is where I will be hanging out if I'm not on the podcast chatting to you all. Come share and support each other here. Subscribe to my newsletter so you can stay up to date with all upcoming episodes and any other exclusive or special offers.2. If you need any support, you can get in contact with me for a 1:1 coaching session. Just email me at [email protected]
3. Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rikawhelan
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This is part 2 of our series: Gaining confidence in your own abilities.
Today, we are discussing personal development.
Personal development will look different for each and every one of us out there. Because we're all unique and different.
In this episode, I discuss with you the steps you need to follow to gain confidence in your own abilities through personal development.
1. Reflection - reflect on why you have a lack of confidence in a certain area. If it's related to an historic event for example where someone said something about you, then ask yourself, is it true? If it's true, then do you need to do something about it to change that, like further study, speak to someone or practice those skills. If it's not true, then you need to let it go!
2. Learning - What learning do you have to do or engage in to learn more so that you can gain confidence is the thing that's holding you back?
3. Practice - Practice your new skill. You won't gain confidence by only participating in learning or listening to this podcast for example, you need to go and do the thing.
4. Feedback - Gain feedback from others so that you can improve where you still need to.
5. Get out of your comfort zone!
Next steps:1. Navigate to https://www.womenoffaithinleadership.com where you can:
Join the community of like-minded female Christian leaders. This is where I will be hanging out if I'm not on the podcast chatting to you all. Come share and support each other here. Subscribe to my newsletter so you can stay up to date with all upcoming episodes and any other exclusive or special offers.2. If you need any support, you can get in contact with me for a 1:1 coaching session. Just email me at [email protected]
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The world can make us feel like failures⊠people can make us feel like failures, but we are capable of anything in Christ!
In this 4-part series, Iâll discuss with you how you can gain confidence in your abilities and stop feeling like a failure, stop feeling like youâre not good enough and start believing that through Christ, you can do anything you set your mind to.
We all have a story of how we came to God, whether it was a long time ago or recent. But just like any relationship, you canât grow in that relationship if:
Itâs only one-sidedYou donât spend time togetherYou donât listen to one anotherYou fight all the timeSo too, in our relationship with God, we canât grow, if we donât treat the relationship, like a relationship.
6 Ways to grow spiritually and in your relationship with God:Spend time in the word with God. If you donât know where to start, choose a bible reading plan on the YouVersion Bible App. Or Get a study bible that will take you through the passages and explain them to you.Spend time talking to God - praying, talking to Him and listening to sermons are some ways in which you can spend time with HimFellowship - growing with others by your side is a really amazing way to grow spiritually and you experience and feel different things in your relationship with God, when you are with others.Standing up for your faith - a tough one, but the more you stand up for your faith, the more confident you grow as well. Sharing/living your faith - with your children, with others around you and sharing when people ask, invite people to church with you, give people biblesPraise and worship - there is something about praise and worship that just connects my soul directly with the Lord. Taking the time to praise him and worship him and thanking him for what he has done, for who He is and for what is to come, grows you spiritually with the Lord.Stay tuned, in the next couple of episodes, Iâll be chatting with you about:
Episode 62: Personal growthEpisode 63: Professional development Episode 64: Community Supportand how you can use these to gain confidence in your own abilities.
Next steps:1. Navigate to https://www.womenoffaithinleadership.com where you can:
Join the community of like-minded female Christian leaders. This is where I will be hanging out if I'm not on the podcast chatting to you all. Come share and support each other here. Subscribe to my newsletter so you can stay up to date with all upcoming episodes and any other exclusive or special offers.2. If you need any support, you can get in contact with me for a 1:1 coaching session. Just email me at [email protected]
3. Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rikawhelan
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When I stepped into one of the biggest leadership roles Iâd ever held, I wanted to be assertive.
I wanted to walk into a room, be confident (not timid because thatâs how I felt) and have everybody listen to me.
Thatâs not what being assertive means at all⊠but honestly, I didnât quite know what it meant to be assertive.
Assertiveness can often be confused with aggressiveness.
People who are assertive are often labelled as being too aggressive with their approach.
So, hence the question⊠should female Christian leaders be assertive?
Letâs get that question answered!
Letâs have a look first at what it actually means to be assertiveâŠ
AssertivenessAccording to Risely.me, assertiveness refers to the ability to express oneâs thoughts, feelings, and needs in a clear, direct, and respectful manner while also considering the rights and opinions of others.
It is a communication and behavioural style that promotes open and honest expression, confidence, and self-assuredness without infringing upon the rights and boundaries of others.
Now, assertiveness is often confused with aggressiveness as I mentioned before.
AggressivenessAnd aggressiveness refers to the behaviour or communication style that is characterised by forcefulness, hostility, and the disregard for the rights and feelings of others.
Aggressiveness involves a proactive approach to achieving oneâs own goals or asserting oneâs dominance, often at the expense of others. It can manifest in the form of verbal, physical or passive-aggressive actions.
So, should female Christian leaders be assertive?Consider the definition of assertiveness, where you express your thoughts, feelings, and needs in a clear, direct, and respectful manner while also considering the rights and opinions of others.
So in my humble opinion, yes, female Christian leaders can and should be assertive.
You might wonder how can I learn to express my thoughts, feelings, and needs in a clear, direct, and respectful manner while also considering the rights and opinions of others.
Here are a couple of tips for you:Role-playing - seems silly, but by practising with someone else, you make it fun and less intimidatingWorkshops and training - there are some workshops and that you can attend on this very topic, there is also usually a fair bit of role-playing involved to practice what you learnPutting your skills into practice! Practice makes perfect. Very few people just learn something and then get it right the first time, so practice practice, practice.In an upcoming episode, Iâll be talking to you about how you can gain self-confidence in your abilities. I believe this to be a good follow on, because self-confidence is extremely important. If you donât believe in yourself, other people might also not. Stay tuned for the next episode.
Next steps:1. Navigate to https://www.womenoffaithinleadership.com where you can:
Join the community of like-minded female Christian leaders. This is where I will be hanging out if I'm not on the podcast chatting to you all. Come share and support each other here. Subscribe to my newsletter so you can stay up to date with all upcoming episodes and any other exclusive or special offers.2. If you need any support, you can get in contact with me for a 1:1 coaching session. Just email me at [email protected]
3. Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rikawhelan
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Now it would only be befitting to end this series with one of the bravest women in the bible, and thatâs Esther. I love the story of Ester.
There are 7 leadership lessons that we can learn from Esther.
Courageous Initiative - Leadership often requires confronting uncomfortable situations to effect positive change.Strategic Timing - Effective leaders discern opportune moments and act decisively. Timing matters.Selflessness and Sacrifice - Leadership involves sacrifice. Putting othersâ needs first is a mark of true leadership.Prayer and Fasting - Leaders should cultivate a strong spiritual foundation. Prayer and seeking Godâs wisdom are essential.Using Influence for Good - Leadership is about using our influence to make a positive impact on others and advance noble causes.Silent Strength - Leaders donât always need to be vocal, silent strength and discernment matter.Faith in Providence - Leaders trust that God works behind the scenes, even when His name isnât explicitly invoked.Next steps:
1. Navigate to https://www.womenoffaithinleadership.com where you can:
Join the community of like-minded female Christian leaders. This is where I will be hanging out if I'm not on the podcast chatting to you all. Come share and support each other here. Subscribe to my newsletter so you can stay up to date with all upcoming episodes and any other exclusive or special offers.2. If you need any support, you can get in contact with me for a 1:1 coaching session. Just email me at [email protected]
3. Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rikawhelan
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