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  • In the United States, the marriage rate is near a record low, and 40-50% of marriages end in divorce. Research has also found that rates of marital satisfaction have declined over time. In short, fewer people are getting married, those who do aren’t as happy as married couples in the past, and a heck of a lot of these relationships just won’t work out. So why is that? Why are relationships so hard?

    In this episode of the podcast, I spoke with Roger Nygard about his recent documentary and book The Truth About Marriage, which examines how we can all make our relationships happier. Nygard is an accomplished filmmaker who has directed TV series such as “The Office” and “The Bernie Mac Show,” and he has edited Emmy-nominated episodes of “Who is America?” “VEEP,” and “Curb Your Enthusiasm.” For his documentary, he interviewed a number of sex and relationship researchers and therapists to get the answers, including previous podcast guests Drs. John and Julie Gottman.

    We cover a lot of ground in this episode, including:

    Why are relationships and marriages so difficult? Why do so many of us have trouble finding lasting long-term happiness?How can we improve our relationships, according to the experts?What is the role of sex in relationships? How important is it, really?How often should couples have sex?What is the role of humor in attraction and relationships?

    In addition, we talk about the work Roger does on some of my favorite television shows!

    To learn more about Roger Nygard and his documentary, check out his website here.

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  • One of the most common relationship problems that drives couples to therapy is a sexual desire discrepancy, where one partner wants more sex than the other. In fact, about 1 in 4 people report having experienced this in the past year alone. This can be a longstanding pattern or issue in a relationship, but it can also emerge when one partner loses desire over time. So how do you deal with this situation effectively?

    In this episode of the podcast, I spoke with Dr. Lyndsey Harper, an Ob/Gyn at the Texas A&M College of Medicine and founder of the new mobile app Rosy. Dr. Harper developed Rosy as a tool to help women who are dealing with low sexual desire and desire discrepancies. Low sexual desire is the single most common sexual difficulty reported by women, with about 1 in 3 women reporting it in the last year. Low sexual desire is less common among men, but still prevalent: specifically, it’s reported by about 1 in 7 men in the past year.

    We cover a lot of ground in this episode, including:

    What are the factors that influence sexual desire, and how are they similar or different for men and women?Why are desire discrepancies so common in long-term relationships?What is the role of medication in treating low sexual desire? Can pharmaceuticals help to fix a loss of desire?How can technology (including mobile apps like Rosy and telehealth services) help people deal with desire problems?We also talk about some of the most common myths and misconceptions people believe about sex and sexual desire.

    To learn more about Dr. Harper, see here. To learn more about Rosy or to download the app, see here.

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