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What if you looked completely successful on the outsideâbut were silently suffering on the inside?
Clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and TEDx speaker Dr. Margaret Rutherford joins Richard Taite to explore one of the most overlooked mental health challenges of our time: Perfectly Hidden Depression.
Together, they discuss why high-achieving people often hide emotional pain behind perfectionism, how toxic positivity keeps people from healing, and what emotional transparency really looks like. Richard also shares his own recovery journey and what it took to stop hiding behind success.
Dr. Rutherford is the author of Perfectly Hidden Depression and the companion workbook. Her TEDx talk, How to Recognize Perfectly Hidden Depression, has been viewed more than 2 million times.
Learn more about Dr. Margaret Rutherford: https://drmargaretrutherford.com
Explore more from Richard Taite and We're Out of Time: https://linktr.ee/richardtaite
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On this episode of We're Out of Time, host Richard Taite sits down with Dr. Alex Howard, internationally recognized trauma therapist, author, and founder of the Optimum Health Clinic, for a raw, deeply personal conversation about childhood trauma, emotional neglect, and the long road to healing.Dr. Howard opens up about his own teenage years living with a debilitating chronic illness, the conversation with his uncle that changed the trajectory of his life, and how that experience shaped two decades of work helping people heal from trauma and nervous system patterns.
Richard and Alex dig into the difference between the trauma that happened to us and the patterns we built to survive it, why "it's not your fault" doesn't mean "it's not your responsibility," and how even loving, well-meaning parents can leave emotional needs unmet.The conversation moves through both men's complicated relationships with their own fathers, what it means to parent differently than you were parented, and how healing as an adult means learning to give yourself what you didn't receive as a child.
Dr. Howard is the author of It's Not Your Fault: Why Childhood Trauma Shapes You and How to Break Free, and his work has reached millions through his books, online programs, and his YouTube series In Therapy with Dr. Alex Howard, where he films real therapeutic sessions.
Learn more about at alexhoward.com.If someone you know is dealing with life's hardest challenges, share this episode â the right conversation at the right time can change everything.
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Could medications originally developed for diabetes and weight loss help transform addiction treatment?
In this episode of Weâre Out of Time, host Richard Taite sits down with addiction medicine pioneer Dr. Mark Gold, widely regarded as one of the founding figures of modern addiction medicine. For more than five decades, Dr. Gold has helped shape the scientific understanding of addiction, cravings, dopamine, withdrawal, and recovery, with groundbreaking research that has influenced treatment approaches around the world.
Together, they explore the growing interest in GLP-1 medications, and why many researchers believe they could represent a major breakthrough in treating substance use disorders. Dr. Gold explains the science behind cravings, the gut-brain connection, food addiction, alcohol use disorder, cannabis use disorder, and how GLP-1s may help reduce compulsive behaviors.
Richard also shares observations from Carrara Treatment Wellness & Spa after integrating GLP-1 medications into treatment for over three years, including an early finding that approximately 80% of participating patients have not relapsed. Dr. Gold helps place those observations into scientific context while emphasizing the need for continued research.
The conversation also tackles one of the biggest questions surrounding GLP-1s: Should people stay on them long term? Dr. Gold offers a candid perspective on what researchers know, what they donât know, and where the science is headed next.If youâre interested in addiction recovery, neuroscience, GLP-1 medications, cravings, and the future of addiction treatment, this episode offers a fascinating look at one of the most promising developments in the field today.
If youâre interested in addiction recovery, neuroscience, GLP-1 medications, cravings, and the future of addiction treatment, this episode offers a fascinating look at one of the most promising developments in the field today.
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What actually helps people recover from addiction?In this powerful episode of We're Out of Time, Richard Taite sits down with NY Times bestselling author, journalist, and leading voice in addiction science Maia Szalavitz to explore recovery, trauma, harm reduction, and the role of compassion in healing.Drawing from both personal experience and decades of research, Maia challenges common assumptions about addiction and explains why shame, punishment, and stigma so often fail to create lasting change.
This episode covers:
⢠Maia's journey from addiction to recovery and becoming one of today's most important addiction author
⢠Why addiction is often rooted in pain, trauma, and disconnection
⢠The debate around harm reduction approaches
⢠Why compassion may be more effective than punishment
⢠What actually helps people get â and stay â better
⢠The future of addiction policy and care
At the heart of it all, this is a conversation about why these approaches matter and creating more paths to recovery.
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On this episode of We're Out of Time, host Richard Taite and guest co-host Patricia Freebery, LMFT, Executive Clinical of Carrara Treatment Wellness & Spa, sits down with renowned psychiatrist, bestselling author, and interpersonal neurobiology pioneer Dr. Daniel Siegel for a wide-ranging conversation on human connection, consciousness, relationships, and the future of mental health. Drawing from decades of research, Dr. Siegel discusses how modern culture, social media, and emerging technologies are shaping the way people connect with themselves and one another. He explores the role of awareness, integration, and relationships in overall well-being, while sharing insights from neuroscience, psychology, and human development.The conversation also examines the rise of artificial intelligence and the growing trend of young people forming relationships with AI companions. Dr. Siegel offers his perspective on how technology may influence human connection, emotional development, and social interaction in the years ahead. In one of the episode's most memorable moments, Dr. Siegel reflects on a near-fatal accident in his youth that temporarily altered his sense of identity and ultimately influenced his lifelong exploration of consciousness, awareness, and the mind. From neuroscience and relationships to AI, identity, and the nature of human connection, this conversation offers a fascinating look at some of the most important questions shaping modern life.
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On this episode of Weâre Out of Time, US Army veteran Toni Lavery joins host Richard Taite to discuss her journey through military service, motherhood, and a life-changing health challenge. After serving for over two decades, Tony shares how she is navigating her identity transition and leading the first all-women commemorative jump into Normandy for the 82nd anniversary of D-Day.
In this episode, Tony highlights the importance of advocating for oneâs own health while managing vision loss and explains how the Fox Force Foundation is building a vital community for women veterans to find mentorship through shared resilience. The conversation also covers strategies for managing stress, prioritizing family wellness, and maintaining a strong partnership while both spouses serve.
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In this episode of Weâre Out Of Time, we sit down with Dr. Drew Ramsey â psychiatrist, mental health advocate, and leading voice in nutritional psychiatry â to unpack whatâs really happening to our brains in the modern world.
From the connection between food and mental health to the growing mental health crisis impacting millions, Dr. Ramsey explains why brain health is the foundation of emotional wellness. Together, we explore how nutrition, environment, relationships, biology, and lifestyle all shape the way we think, feel, and heal.
This conversation goes beyond traditional discussions about mental illness and recovery, offering practical insight into building âmental fitnessâ before things fall apart. Dr. Ramsey shares why the modern brain faces challenges unlike ever before â and what science says we can do to protect it.
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In this episode of Weâre Out Of Time, Richard Taite sits down with world-renowned psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Bruce Perry for a powerful conversation about childhood trauma, addiction, healing, and the lifelong impact of early experiences. Dr. Perry, co-author of âWhat Happened to You?â with Oprah Winfrey and âThe Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog,â shares how the brain develops in childhood and why our earliest relationships shape the way we think, react, connect, and cope as adults.
Together, Richard and Dr. Perry explore how trauma alters the developing brain, why addiction is often rooted in unresolved pain, and how healing begins with safety, regulation, and human connection. They discuss the growing ârelational povertyâ in todayâs world, the effects of social media and disconnection, and why routines, movement, community, and meaningful relationships are essential for emotional well-being.
Throughout the episode, Richard opens up about his own experiences working in addiction treatment and reflects on the emotional toll of helping people heal. The conversation is raw, insightful, and deeply human, offering a new perspective on trauma, recovery, parenting, mental health, and resilience.
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On this episode of Weâre Out Of Time, Richard Taite sits down with sports and performance psychologist Dr. Mark Aoyagi to explore what truly separates elite performers from everyone else. From Olympic athletes to professional sports teams, Dr. Aoyagi has spent years helping high performers build confidence, resilience, and mental strength under pressure.
Together, they break down the psychology behind flow state, choking under pressure, fear of failure, confidence vs arrogance, and the mindset shifts that help people perform at their highest level. They also dive into the surprising overlap between elite athletes and addiction, explaining why perfectionism, anxiety, and obsession can drive both peak performance and self-destruction.
This conversation goes beyond sports â itâs about identity, purpose, pressure, and what happens when your self-worth becomes tied to performance. -
On this episode of Weâre Out of Time, Sonia Kahlon â co-host of Sisters in Sobriety â shares her journey from high-achieving orthodontist to living alcohol-free.
What started as ânormalâ drinking in a high-pressure, hustle-driven lifestyle slowly turned into nightly dependence. Sonia opens up about the moment everything shifted â including her first day without alcohol in over a decade â and what it actually takes to stay sober.
The conversation dives into the stigma professionals face around addiction, why AA isnât the only path to recovery, and how drinking culture is deeply normalized â especially for women. Sonia also shares the shocking story of discovering her husbandâs affair and how sobriety forced her to face it without numbing out.
This episode explores the rise of âsober curiousâ culture, the hidden cost of coping through alcohol, and what it really takes to become the person you were meant to be. -
In this episode of Weâre Out Of Time, host Richard Taite sits down with creator and DJ Shahrukh Pithawalla to pull back the curtain on the modern creator economy. They dive deep into why chasing viral fame is often a trap and how building a slow, authentic community is the only way to survive online.
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On this episode of Weâre Out of Time, host Richard Taite is joined by ADHD coach and advocate Jheri South to break down how ADHD shows up far beyond attention and focus. Jheri explains how emotional dysregulation, rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD), and impulsivity shape everyday life, relationships, parenting, and even addiction risk.
The conversation begins with RSD, or rejection sensitive dysphoria, which affects an estimated 99% of people with ADHD. Jheri explains how perceived rejection can trigger intense emotional spirals that feel physically and emotionally overwhelming, often leading to conflict in romantic relationships, work environments, and family dynamics.
Richard and Jheri explore how ADHDers can misinterpret neutral situations as personal rejection, leading to impulsive reactions, shame, and difficulty regulating emotions. Jheri emphasizes that ADHD is less about attention and more about emotional regulation, identity, and belief systems.
They discuss practical tools, including identifying triggers, learning to pause before reacting, and recognizing âepisodesâ of emotional dysregulation. Jheri also shares five key drivers that engage the ADHD brain: interest, urgency, challenge/competition, novelty, and rivalry.
The conversation expands into relationships, where communication differences, especially between ADHD and autism, can lead to misunderstandings and shutdown cycles. Jheri explains how shifting from blame to understanding communication styles can transform relationships.
They also address ADHD and addiction risk, noting that individuals with ADHD are 3â4x more likely to struggle with substance use due to dopamine-seeking behavior when untreated.
In parenting, Jheri shares how separating connection time from correction, avoiding escalation during emotional episodes, and building emotional safety can dramatically improve outcomes for children with ADHD and RSD.
Ultimately, Jheri reframes ADHD not as a deficit, but as a neurodivergent wiring that, when understood and regulated, can become a powerful strength in life, relationships, and success. -
On this episode of Weâre Out Of Time, Richard Taite sits down with world-renowned happiness expert Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky to break down the biggest myths about happinessâand why so many people feel unloved, even when they are.
Dr. Lyubomirsky reveals the science behind what actually creates lasting happiness, why money can make you happy (but only to a point), and the surprising reason connectionânot successâis what truly fulfills us.
They dive deep into the psychology of love: why most people struggle to feel it, how your conversations shape your relationships, and the simple mindset shifts that can create immediate change. From radical curiosity to vulnerability, this episode is a masterclass in how to build deeper, more meaningful connections.
If youâve ever felt unseen, disconnected, or like something is missingâthis conversation will change the way you think about love, happiness, and the people in your life.
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On this episode of Weâre Out Of Time, host Richard Taite sits down with actor and decorated Marine veteran Maurice P. Kerry for a raw and deeply personal conversation about survival, identity, and transformation after war.Maurice opens up about the harsh realities of combat during Operation Iraqi Freedom and the mindset that kept him aliveââcomplacency kills.â But the battle didnât end overseas. From being cheated on while serving his country to returning home and facing homelessness, Maurice shares the unseen struggles many veterans endure when transitioning back to civilian life.He speaks candidly about PTSD, not as a weakness, but as something heâs learned to harness, and reflects on how the Marine Corps ultimately saved him from a very different path. Now, as an actor on CBSâ Beyond The Gates, Maurice is using his platform to tell stories that matter and bring respect back to those who serve.This episode also dives into his personal lifeâbeing born from an affair, feeling unwanted, and raising his child as a single father for 16 yearsâall while navigating purpose, discipline, and growth. Mauriceâs story is one of resilience, accountability, and redefining what it means to surviveâand truly live.
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On this episode of We're Out Of Time, Richard Taite sits down with psychologist and bestselling author Dr. Guy Winch to explore why emotional pain is one of the most overlooked â and dangerous â forces in human life.
Dr. Winch breaks down the science of emotional first aid, explaining why we treat physical injuries with urgency but leave emotional wounds to fester until they quietly destroy our confidence, our relationships, and our health. He reveals why burnout is now killing hundreds of thousands of people a year, why loneliness is far more psychologically damaging than most people realize, and why the brain responds to heartbreak in ways that are strikingly similar to heroin withdrawal.
Richard gets personal in this one â sharing his own experience with rejection and love addiction â and Dr. Winch walks him through exactly what's happening psychologically and what to do about it. The two also dig into why so many people unknowingly turn to addictive behaviors to cope with emotional pain they've never properly addressed, and why failure â if left unexamined â can quietly redirect the entire course of someone's life.
This episode is packed with practical, immediately usable tools anyone can apply today â from a daily gratitude practice that actually works to understanding the difference between waiting out heartbreak and actively healing from it. Dr. Winch doesn't just explain what's wrong. He tells you what to do about it. -
On this episode of Weâre Out Of Time, Richard Taite sits down with legendary comedian, actor, and activist Margaret Cho for a raw and unfiltered conversation about addiction, relapse, and survival.
Margaret opens up about her decades-long journey with substance abuse, including relapsing after seven years of sobriety and the dangerous mindset that can come with addiction. She speaks candidly about the realities of drug use, the dark humor that often surrounds it, and why so many comedians struggle with substance abuse behind the scenes.
The two also explore the connection between comedy and neurodivergence, the loneliness of life on the road, and how the industry can unintentionally fuel addictive behaviors. Margaret shares her perspective on modern culture, navigating outrage in comedy, and how she continues to push boundaries while staying authentic to herself.
They also dive into emerging conversations around GLP-1 medications and their potential role in impulse control, as well as Margaretâs personal experience using them to manage binge eating disorder.
In the end, Margaret reflects on what sheâs most proud of todayâand itâs not the fame or success. Itâs the fact that sheâs still here. Margaret Choâs story is a powerful reminder that survival itself can be the greatest accomplishment.
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On this episode of Weâre Out Of Time, host Richard Taite sits down with COVID survivor Gregg Garfield to share one of the most extraordinary survival stories from the early days of the COVID-19 pandemic.
Gregg recounts the moment everything changed while on a ski trip in the Italian Alpsâwhen a warning call from his girlfriend first mentioned a mysterious virus spreading through Europe. Within days, flu-like symptoms spread through the group, and soon after returning to Los Angeles, Gregg tested positive. At the time, hospitals were unprepared for the virus, and he became the first COVID patient admitted to Providence St. Joseph Hospital in Burbank.
Doctors told Gregg he had only a 1% chance of survival. After being placed into a medically induced coma and spending 31 days on a ventilator, he endured a cascade of life-threatening complications including sepsis, collapsed lungs, blood clots, and organ failure. Gregg flatlined multiple times and says doctors still cannot explain why he survived.
When he finally woke up, the battle was far from over. Gregg had lost most of his fingers and several toes due to the life-saving treatments that kept blood flowing to his vital organs. He had to relearn how to walk, eat, and rebuild muscle after losing over 50 pounds during his hospitalization.
Through the darkest moments, Gregg credits the strength of his âvillageââfriends, family, and his partner AJâfor giving him the motivation to fight through recovery. With the support of hundreds of loved ones rallying around him, Gregg set small, achievable goals that eventually led to an incredible milestone: getting back on skis the very same year he nearly died.
Today, Gregg channels his second chance at life into purpose-driven work through Greggâs Village and ChipIn, initiatives dedicated to supporting nonprofits and building community through giving.
This powerful conversation explores resilience, mindset, gratitude, and the life-changing realization that the people around you can make all the difference when the unthinkable happens. -
On this episode of Weâre Out Of Time, clinical neuropsychologist Dr. Daniel Hai joins host Richard Taite for a powerful, unfiltered conversation on trauma, addiction, neuroplasticity, and what real healing actually requires.
Dr. Hai, founder of the Neuro Assessment Center, breaks down neurocognitive therapy in practical termsâhow he blends neuroscience, attachment theory, mindfulness, and real-world exposure therapy to create measurable cognitive and behavioral change. From meeting clients in classrooms and nightclubs to helping autistic adults integrate socially, he explains what exposure and response prevention (ERP) truly looks like outside the therapy office.
They challenge controversial topics head-on: Is functional medicine overhyped? Are therapists neglecting their own unresolved trauma? What is âpremorbid intelligence,â and can clinicians accurately measure someoneâs capacity before addiction or trauma altered their trajectory? The discussion dives into executive functioning, obsessive thought loops, and the neurological patterns that keep people stuck.
The episode turns personal when Richard shares his belief in transcendenceâdescribing a moment in Italy where he had a glass of wine without reigniting addictive behavior, arguing that some individuals can move beyond constant internal struggle. Dr. Hai offers a clinical counterpoint, emphasizing maintenance, routine, and the reality that for many, recovery is an active, ongoing process. Together, they explore the gray space between ârecoveredâ and âin recovery,â questioning whether the traditional disease model tells the full story.
They also unpack neurodiversity, over-diagnosing, and whether societyâs fixation on labels may hinder functional growth. Dr. Hai shares the powerful story of an 11-year-old nonverbal child who defied every clinical expectationâan experience that shaped his lifelong commitment to seeing beyond diagnoses and treating the whole person.
The conversation expands into spirituality versus science, intuition, higher power, AI in mental health, ketamine and psychedelics, and why therapeutic allianceânot trendy modalitiesâremains the strongest predictor of long-term transformation. -
On this episode of Weâre Out Of Time, host Richard Taite sits down with Marci Hopkins, host of Wake Up With Marci and author of Chaos to Clarity. With 10 years of sobriety, Marci shares the defining moments that shaped her recovery journeyâfrom childhood sexual abuse and generational alcoholism to the DUI that became her wake-up call on October 3, 2015.
Marci opens up about coping with trauma through alcohol, confronting her stepfather years later, and mourning the mother she wished she had. She reflects on losing her mother to addiction, the complicated grief that followed, and the realization that recovery meant rebuilding her life from the ground up. âOnce everything fell to the ground, I had to start rebuilding.â
The conversation explores surrender in 12-step recovery, rewiring the brain through daily habits, and why recovery is not about willpowerâbut transformation. Marci explains how forgiveness, self-love, and spiritual connection became the foundation for lasting sobriety, and how motherhood ultimately fueled her decision to change. From âpopping the tapeâ to avoid relapse to learning how to laugh sober, she shares practical tools for thriving after addiction.
Richard and Marci also discuss breaking the stigma around substance use disorder, the dangers of fentanyl-laced street drugs, and the urgent need for parents to act when a child is using. They highlight resources like Shatterproof, founded by Gary Mendell after losing his son, and the importance of education, in-network treatment options, and family involvement in recovery.
Marci shares insight from her new book, Wake Up, Youâre Not Broken: What to Expect in the First 30 Days of Sobriety, offering guidance on cravings, triggers, shame, and the science behind early recovery. This episode is a powerful conversation about trauma, faith, forgiveness, parenting through addiction, and transcending chaos to build a beautiful, purpose-driven life. -
On this episode of Weâre Out Of Time, host Richard Taite sits down with rabbi, entrepreneur, and recovery coach Asher Gottesman for a raw, deeply human conversation about addiction, faith, accountability, and connection.
Asher opens up about experiencing profound separation anxiety and loneliness at just five years old, growing up as the rabbiâs son, and feeling different from his peers. He shares how resentment toward faith and fear-based religion shaped his early relationship with God, eventually contributing to eating disorders, substance use, and a lifelong sense of unworthiness. Asher candidly recounts waiting two years to end his life so a life insurance policy would pay out, followed by the collapse of his multi-million-dollar business and filing for bankruptcy.
From there, the episode explores his first real experience of unconditional love, sobriety, and community through recovery, including the moment he felt truly seen and accepted for the first time. Asher explains how keeping suicide âin his back pocketâ paradoxically gave him the courage to rebuild, and how accountability, faith, and human connection became central to his healing.
He reflects on Judaism as a framework for responsibility rather than fear, challenging performative spirituality and emphasizing kindness, humility, and lived amends. Asher also discusses the tension of being a âwounded healer,â balancing vulnerability with leadership, and offers compassionate advice for people in their 20s: you donât need to do anything to be worthy of love.
The conversation closes with insights on relapse, mentoring others, why social media is not real connection, and how true healing happens in community. Asher also shares how his work through Transcend Recovery and his podcast Showing Up With Asher G centers on helping people feel seen, heard, and unconditionally valued. - Laat meer zien
