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Following on from last week's video I thought that I would share some of the practices and exercises that bring me joy.
A subscriber commented on my last podcast: https://youtu.be/NGa-UoRhHWg
They mentioned that for some people thinking about what makes them joyful is stressful.
So today I share some of the practices that I have learned that have helped me to cultivate joy and happiness.
Warm regards, Piers---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
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For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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Today I talk about the importance of joy.
When we begin on the journey of childhood trauma healing it can become all consuming.
Life can become really hard - lots of tears, feeling pain.
It can feel overwhelming.
But part of the healing is to remember the joy.
So today I talk about the importance of remembering happiness, gratitude and joy.
Warm regards, Piers---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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Today I talk about workaholism and childhood trauma.
Why can't you stop working?
Especially if you had experiences of childhood trauma?
I also talk about the link to boarding school.
Why is that many who have been to boarding school are workaholics?
I talk about some of the techniques that we can use to start stopping.
Now.
Take care,
Piers---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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What is the power of grief?
What if you can't stop crying? Is this normal?
How important is grief on the path to healing?
Today I talk about tears and the importance of crying as we start to heal on the recovery journey.
I share from the work of Pete Walker and Complex PTSD and from Dr Judith Herman and her book, Trauma and Recovery.
Is it important to grieve?
Take care, Piers---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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Is it common for people who have been to boarding school to have suicidal ideation?
And how many people have actually attempted suicide or taken their own life while at boarding school?
Today I share stories from Richard Branson's autobiography Losing My Virginity, Sir Ranulph Fiennes' Mad, Bad and Dangerous to Know and Roald Dahl' biography.
I also share some quotes from Alex Renton and his book, Stiff Upper Lip and Pete Walker's book, Complex PTSD.
If you are feeling suicidal then please do contact Samaritans in the UK: https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/
Or in the US: https://afsp.org/im-having-thoughts-of-suicide/
And for my interview with Charles Spencer: https://youtu.be/NJBGrRdgKm8?si=tXZP5K7rhat1THu3
And for episode #91 with a paediatrician who I went to boarding school with: https://youtu.be/Aa8eicN-G0A?si=x4qbGcVmvcJI-wp6
Take care,
Piers---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
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For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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PLEASE NOTE: We talk about sexual abuse in this episode which some viewers may find triggering.
Today's episode is with author Charles Spencer.
As I was preparing for the interview a line in his book really jumped out: "many of us left Maidwell with demons sewn into the seams of our souls."
What a heart-breaking and powerful turn of phrase.
One that I can really resonate with.
Today he talks about his childhood sexual abuse at boarding school, bullying, his sister, Diana, going off to boarding school and the impact of boarding school on children.And what about the path of healing - what are the therapies and exercises that he has used to start healing? A very touching and powerful testimony to the legacy of boarding schools.
What does he think of under 13 boarding schools?
---Charles Spencer is an author, a broadcaster, a podcaster, a British peer and the younger brother of the late Diana, Princess of Wales. He has recently published a memoir about his time at boarding school called, A Very Private School.
Questions for Charles:
1. I would love for you to share what drew you to write your memoir? Why now?
2. When did you first start to realise the impact that your boarding school experiences had had on you?
3. When you think of Maidwell, what's the one word that comes to mind?
4. In your interview with Laura Kuenssberg you mentioned how your sister, Diana, said to your father when she was left at boarding school, “If you loved me, you wouldn't leave me here” How did your sister leaving for boarding school impact you?
5. “What we suffered was not just a separation from all that we knew and loved, but an
amputation. ...it lacked the most important quality of a home: it was without love.”(P.9)
How did it impact you, to be without love?
6. The physical violence. What went on at Maidwell regarding physical violence and
discipline? (P.68) (P.87)
7. “To keep his abusive system intact, Jack relied on concealment, collusion and cunning.” (P101) Could you please explain?
8. Bullying. Could you please talk us through some of the bullying you experienced and
witnessed? (P.189-199)
9. Sexual abuse. If you feel comfortable to share, what happened when you were 11? (P.206-216)
10. The political ramifications. How might the decision making of leaders who have been to these schools be affected?
11. “Fascinating aberration” (P.6) What do you feel about boarding now? Do we need to open a debate into this practice? Do we need to abolish early boarding? What are your thoughts?
12. Other topics to talk about:
1. Showing emotions or “blubbing” (P.62)
2. Abandonment (P.64)
3. “I had been sent away because I had somehow fallen short as a son.” (P.107)
4. Making yourself sick in order to get an adult to show me warmth and sympathy (P.108---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
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For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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Today I wanted to offer a review of Charles Spencer's new book, A Very Private School.
I spoke to Charles on Monday on my podcast which will be going live here on Friday: https://youtu.be/NJBGrRdgKm8
It was a really great conversation where Charles was very open about his boarding school experiences talking about sexual abuse, bullying, corporal punishment, his sister, Diana Princess of Wales and the ending of early boarding school.
Here I talk about some of the quotes and segments of the book that really stood out for me.
For last week's podcast with a paediatrician who I went to boarding school with please find it here: https://youtu.be/Aa8eicN-G0A
#charlesspencer #boardingschool #boardingschoolsyndrome #averyprivateschool
Take care, Piers---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
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For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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PLEASE NOTE: We talk about suicide and sexual abuse in this episode which some viewers may find triggering.
What was it like at Piers' boarding school? Today we talk to a man who lived in the same boarding house as Piers, the host of this podcast, for 7 years.
Today Dr William Verling, who is a consultant paediatrician, talks about what boarding school was like for him.
He also looks at it from his medical background – was there pastoral care, and safeguarding at this school?
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Dr William Verling is a consultant paediatrician who has worked as a doctor for over 20 years. He is the creator of a new app to improve patient experience, the founder of ParentMed, a training resource for new parents and the lead for Chill, Dorset, a not-for-profit organisation that uses cold water therapy to help people with anxiety and depression.
Some questions for Will:
I would love for you to share a little about what got you into the work you now do?You work as the safeguarding lead for your hospital. With the information you now know what is your honest opinion about our boarding school?If you were to sum up your boarding school experience in one word what would it be?Could you please talk about your experiences of boarding school. What was the food, and environment like?Could you please talk about the imposter syndrome. How does that relate to boarding school?How has boarding school impacted you as an adult?Others areas to talk about:Voldemort and the horcruxesSackler and the empire of painCH – death and griefCH – how emotions were receivedCH – bullyingDuplicityCH – Rick's death. What happened?Physical and emotional neglectCH – paedophilesLeadershipSelf-hatred#safeguarding #boardingschoolsyndrome #abuse #pastoralcare #boardingschool
To find out more about Will's work:
Parentmed: https://parentmed.co.uk/
Chill: https://chilluk.org/
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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
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For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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Next week I am interviewing Charles Spencer on my podcast which I am really excited about.
Today I talk about the interview and his excellent new book, A Very Private School.
To purchase a copy please visit: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Audible-A-Very-Private-School/dp/B0CKWD9Z6M/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3V69A41C2I6FX&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.KaA-g5hp1wccFRcaTahrVm0PzjF8WjkORiLbDQLS7x_oEEqNtDhvQuMStb40qY6Km9SVXOSqLffeVOZbiknegzqzff4LnhjqqT54LsOyrmWdzYzvHXngOxwm3YJS5EuvoeIY9h1W6r5B3RSWEvIUVQ.7oesmfoNitXYIPxItTHs28QMgT0zTRdT6bLorSTjziA&dib_tag=se&keywords=charles+spencer+a+very+private+school&qid=1710925901&sprefix=char%2Caps%2C2312&sr=8-1
Warm regards,
Piers---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
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For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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Charles Spencer's new book about his boarding school experiences has now been released.
You can find it here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Audible-A-Very-Private-School/dp/B0CKWD9Z6M/ref=sr_1_1?crid=320MHELEHEKLN&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.81PdazFBg3A7AleHD-lYQrr8QZXqwIxFOeUQIONnMvaAHp1OOHjwnFPEdjHXdQsGwITpT_DRzoK2CZeOTQBf6pju9k8AlNsIdXDgeRRo2A2zAGIM2OTF9_Yos8wdiXjjj3tSuHppUsQHf2crCpWYHg.w7cW417aM6Ih1AMJTOvr17CVXDJUf89cXELsYnBtbPw&dib_tag=se&keywords=charles+spencer+a+very+private+school&qid=1710330302&sprefix=charles+sp%2Caps%2C262&sr=8-1
On Monday of this week I came across this article from the Telegraph about a fellow pupil and how "it did him the world of good": https://www.telegraph.co.uk/columnists/2024/02/17/boarding-school-princess-diana-earl-spencer-maidwell-hall/
I also received an email from the wife of an ex-boarder last week. In it she talks about how her husband claims to have "loved boarding school".
But has real difficulties with emotions and relations
So today I wanted to speak to those who loved boarding.
I see there are 3 camps.
1. The truth, they loved it and it was good for them.
2. Denial, those that have suppressed or dissociated from what happened
3. Betrayal trauma and the work of Jennifer Freyd. Many of us were betrayed at boarding school and it creates amnesia according to Dr Freyd's work.
Warm regards, Piers---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
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For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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Dive into the intricacies of the Mother Wound with guidance from author, Dr Mark Stibbe.
This video unpacks the keys about the Mother Wound. What is it?
And what are its symptoms in adults?
How does boarding school and the Mother Wound overlap?
Dr Mark Stibbe has been writing books since he was 16 and has clocked up over 50 titles. His PhD on storytelling was completed in 1982 and is published by Cambridge University Press. Lately, Mark has been writing novels in the magical realism genre. His novel A Book in Time was picked as the overall winner out of hundreds of entries in the Page Turner Awards. His latest novel is called House of Dreams - a Tudor ghost story once again in the magical realism genre.
Questions for Mark:
What does a mother’s love look like? And what happens when a child misses out on it?What does the mother wound look like in relation to boarding school trauma?Why do you think mothers permit their children to be sent away to boarding school and separated from them?What can we learn from James Bond about boarding school survival and the mother wound?What are some of the main symptoms of the mother wound in the lives of male and female boarders?What kinds of insecure attachment have you personally witnessed in relation to mothers?What resources are there from a faith perspective that might offer therapeutic help to a person with mother wounds?What have you yourself experienced from this kind of healing from your own mother wounds?What does your experience teach us about the part played by the human brain in the healing of mother wounds?What place does forgiveness have when it comes to healing mother wounds, and how can a wounded person do that?#motherwound #boardingschooltrauma #healingfromtrauma #boardingschool #jamesbond #skyfall
To buy Mark's books please visit: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Home-Last-Freedom-Boarding-School/dp/1910786411/ref=sr_1_2?crid=AZTEG7BGA20I&keywords=mark+stibbe&qid=1706004821&sprefix=mark+stibb%2Caps%2C103&sr=8-2
A Book In Time: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Book-Time-Winner-Turner-awards/dp/1399943359/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.fjcLo9ZiQYbYRoMfinYpKlkiBc2hP-CVV_iMxtu2XnE.HVDPTdOEi7BDfivXU7G51cEX2d8vXCmZS7HCHeIrZxo&qid=1709568876&sr=8-1
Mark's website: https://www.markstibbe.com/
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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
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For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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How does complex PTSD show up in people's lives?
What are the symptoms if people have been through trauma as children or adults and are wondering if they have complex PTSD?
Today I share some thoughts from Pete Walker's book Complex PTSD and I share some of the symptoms.
I also talk about some of the examples from my own life and that of clients.
I link boarding school syndrome to complex PTSD.
Warm regards, Piers
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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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In today's video I talk about what is complex PTSD, complex post traumatic stress disorder or CPTSD.
I draw upon the work of Dr Judith Herman, Pete Walker and Dr Gabor Mate.
What is it?
And what are the seven diagnostic criteria for Complex PTSD?
I have been reading Pete Walker's book in more depth recently and have been struck by how similar boarding school syndrome is to complex PTSD.
Reading the seven diagnostic criteria from the psychiatrist, Dr Herman, really helped me to make that connection.
If you would like to me to talk more about complex PTSD please do let me know.
Warm regards, Piers---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
http://piers-cross.com/ -
Tom Greaves is an actor and comedian. He made an award winning show called, Goodbye Uncle Fudgey which was performed during the Edinburgh Fringe in 2023. It will be touring soon showing in London in April. This comedy tells the story of the fall out from boarding school. Tom trained at the world famous Ecole Philippe Gaulier clown school.
Questions for Tom:
How did you get into the work you now do?Could you please talk a little about your boarding school experiences? How was boarding for you?What was the impetus for you doing your show, Goodbye Uncle Fudgey?How did people respond to your show?What about your family? Your family play a large role in the show. How did they respond to your performance?What is the importance of humour as healing?How cathartic was it, writing about your boarding school experiences?Could you please talk about shame and emotions?Kairos and Chronos. What is the difference between the two? How have we lost touch with Kairos?How do people find out more about your work and upcoming shows?#humour #laughterasmedicine #comedy #trauma #boardingschool #tomgreaves
To find out more about Tom's shows please visit: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tom-greaves-a55baa23/?originalSubdomain=uk
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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
http://piers-cross.com/ -
Today I wanted to offer some reflections about the mother wound and boarding school.
I share some insights I had from last weekend's boarding school retreat which we were filming for our documentary Boarding on Insanity.
I talk today about how boarding school creates a mother wound.
Our mothers are no longer there for us.
I share some teachings from Joy Schaverien and other experts in the field of the Mother Wound.
Take care, Piers
#motherwound #trauma #boardingschoolsyndrome---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
http://piers-cross.com/ -
What does an educational psychologist who has spent 30 years in this profession feel about boarding schools?
And what were her own experiences of boarding school like?
Today my guest shares her personal and professional experiences of boarding especially co-educational boarding.
What does attachment theory think of residential institutions?
And have boarding schools changed? Are children getting good educations in these institutions?
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Morag Edwards has spent over 30 years as an educational psychologist and uses her knowledge of child development to shape fictional characters in both historical and contemporary fiction. She is the best-selling author of several books including her recent autobiography about her boarding school upbringing called, Almost Boys which is published under her pen name, Isobel Ross.
Questions for Morag:
I would love for you to share a little of your journey. How did you get into the work you now do?What drew you to writing your experiences of boarding school down? How has it been for you once the book was released?Some areas I would love to explore (we will not be able to get round to all the topics...):How parents of boarding school children might “be uncomfortable living with a child's emotions.” (P.17)Neglect – “no one had responsibility for us apart from each other.”the lack (P.28)Boarding school and broken attachments (P32-36) (P.129)“No matter how securely attached to their parents, all children will feel homesick when they arrive at BS and must grieve according to their pre-existing attachment style.” (P.38)We are told that more securely attached children fair better at boarding school. Do you feel this is the case? (P.38)The separation between home and school and how that was for you. (P.43) (P.72?Crushing our feelings/ dissociation (P.46)(P.69) (P.75)Being told: “The only reason you're here is because your parents don't love you.” (P.48)Petty rules (P.50)The missing element of child development: “I propose that the missing element is a parent's capacity to know the child's mind.” (P.54-55) Please expand.Neglect: “Neglect of indifference in our earliest years can mean a child remains stuck with a developmentally young way of expressing emotions.” (P.57)“Our 'home' could never be a place of safety or relaxation.” (P.74)Bullying (P.82) (P.116)How the system has not changed (P.96) (P.107) (P.241)Sexual bullying and Fisherman (P.115-130)#boardingschool #coedboarding #boardingschoolsyndrome #attachmenttheory #trauma
To purchase Morag's book please visit: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Almost-Boys-Psychology-Co-ed-Boarding-ebook/dp/B0CRLF8M6L/ref=sr_1_fkmr3_1?crid=29V35KQ0GWY2Z&keywords=isabel+ross+almost+boys&qid=1706967306&sprefix=isabel+ross+almost+boys%2Caps%2C85&sr=8-1-fkmr3
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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
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For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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Today I offer an update to the documentary Boarding on Insanity #boardingoninsanity.
I share some reflections about the four days of filming we are about to undertake in Somerset.
As part of the film we will be filming 10 ex-boarders at a workshop.
What is the impact of boarding on both men and women?
What was the experience like for them?
Today I share some of my thoughts about the retreat. #healingretreat #trauma #boardingschool Warm regards, Piers---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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Today I am speaking with the founder of First Men, Sam Adams about practices for mental and emotional health.
We talk about rewilding ourselves.
What does that mean? And what does it look like?
We also talk about reconnecting with nature and how important being outside is for our mental well-being.
A really fascinating conversation.
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Sam Adams is the founder of First Men and Red Phoenix Rewilding which are companies that offer workshops and gatherings to create a more connected world, through rewilding ourselves and the planet. He has two decades of experience in the fields of land care, permaculture, and mental health. He belief is that our wounds can become our greatest gifts.
Some questions for Sam:
I would love for you to share about how you got into the work you now do?Life is a journey. We need a map to find our way.Problem = men are lost ('broken/traumatised/identity-lost/cultural orphans')Solution = mapNature provides that map. Reference points in each direction. The elements. Exploring fire/water/earth/air as metaphors for our personal psyche. Identity. Mental health. The compass points. E/S/W/N, above and below. We are in the middle. Knowing our relationship to all of nature, helps us on a healthy journey of life. What are some of the practices we can do in nature for our mental health?Some of your stories and life experiences around natureWhat are you seeing with men? Where are they stuck?Some of the stories about the power of men and women in circle - Menfest and the Mankind Project.The importance of emotions and dissociation#rewildyourself #mentalhealth #natureawareness #mensmentalhealth #emotionalhealth
To find out more about Sam's work please visit: https://www.firstmen.co.uk or https://www.redphoenixrewilding.com
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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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Today I talk about control. If we have been through some form of childhood trauma the chances are we were controlled by others.
If we went to boarding school then many of us had petty rules we had to contend with and lived in a very controlled environment.
And as adults we can become controlling of others.
This can be unpleasant in relationships.
So what can we do if we are controlling?
I talk about Buddhism's Four Noble Truth, meditation and a little exercise.
Take care, Piers
#childdevelopment #childhoodtrauma #control #trauma #boardingschool---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
http://piers-cross.com/ -
Dr Mark Stibbe has been writing books since he was 16 and has clocked up over 50 titles. His PhD on storytelling was completed in 1982 and published by Cambridge University Press. Lately, Mark has been writing novels in the magical realism genre. His novel A Book in Time was picked as the overall winner out of hundreds of entries in the Page Turner Awards. His latest novel is called House of Dreams - a Tudor ghost story once again in the magical realism genre.
Mark’s hobbies include Lego - he is the official Lego reviewer for Sorted Men’s Magazine. He also runs a new YouTube Channel called ‘The Christian Storyteller’.
He lives in Kent with his wife Cherith and their two Labradors – Bella and Phoebe.
Questions for Mark:
I would love for you to share some of your journey. How did you get into the work you now do?Could you talk us through what drew you to write your book, Home at Last: Freedom from Boarding School Pain?In the beginning of your book you talk about the link between Dickens' The Christmas Carol and boarding school. What was your insight?You mention in your book that you feel that boarding schools are “orphanages for the privileged.” Could you expand on this please?Could you please talk about abandonment, especially soul abandonment? In what ways did boarding school feel like abandonment to you?Could you please talk about the physical violence you met at boarding school? How did that impact you and how did you learn to cope with this?Could you please talk about the idea of the 'boarded heart'? What do you mean by this? How did you start to reconnect with your heart again?How did this early experience impact you as an adult?What helped you on the path of healing and coming home?Other topics we could talk about:The cycle of pain: desertion, deprivation, disengagement and dependencyStages of recovery: revelation, restoration, reconnection and recovery.Attachment theoryThe importance of telling our storiesYour most recent books: A House of Dreams, A Book in Time#boardingschoolpain #healingfromtrauma #trauma #boardingschool
To buy Mark's books please visit: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Home-Last-Freedom-Boarding-School/dp/1910786411/ref=sr_1_2?crid=AZTEG7BGA20I&keywords=mark+stibbe&qid=1706004821&sprefix=mark+stibb%2Caps%2C103&sr=8-2
And to visit Mark's website: https://www.markstibbe.com/
For the David Cameron humming video: https://youtu.be/aETjM7dTWSM?si=VA7WEVL5QeMbGS5F
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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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