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As the winter season unfolds and the holidays bring their usual whirlwind of activity, it’s easy to lose sight of what truly matters. Amid the gift shopping, party planning, and packed schedules, the essence of connection and kindness often gets overshadowed. Yet, this time of year offers a unique opportunity to refocus on the deeper values that make life meaningful.
In 2017, a 5-part series titled "How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love" introduced a new take on the traditional Advent calendar, encouraging readers to practice one small act of kindness each day in December. This season, the focus returns to kindness—not just as a gift to others, but as a transformative practice for self-compassion and relationship growth.
Research shows that the key to lasting, fulfilling relationships isn’t extravagant gestures—it’s simple acts of kindness and generosity. Studies reveal that kindness, along with emotional stability, is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in relationships. What's more, giving kindness often benefits the giver even more than the receiver.
In this episode, we dive into the power of kindness and how it creates a ripple effect, spreading positivity and inspiring goodwill. We’ll explore how kindness strengthens relationships, nurtures emotional well-being, and can be cultivated like a muscle to improve our connections and our lives. Join us as we reflect on how kindness can be the greatest gift we give this holiday season—and beyond.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode06:31 Making a habit of spreading good vibes.
08:08 How kindness benefits both the giver and the receiver significantly.
14:51 Understanding emotional awareness in relationships.
19:26 The impact of gentleness and compassion in communication.
21:26 Navigating intimate dynamics with increased mindfulness.
27:21 How kindness transforms perspectives and priorities.
32:56 The science behind kindness and personal Well-being.
38:41 Kindness as a path to sustainable happiness.
41:40 Strategies for integrating kindness into daily life.
MentionedERP 125: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love
ERP 128: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love – Part Two
ERP 129: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love – Part Three
ERP 130: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love – Part Four
ERP 131: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love – Part Five
The 31-Day Kindness Challenge (free guide) (pdf)
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Emotional wounds from early relationships often cast long shadows over our adult lives, manifesting in unexpected ways. Whether it's feeling an inexplicable sense of burnout not tied to work, struggling with co-dependency, or recognizing recurring patterns of avoidance and anxiety in relationships, these issues are all too familiar but profoundly challenging. However, the road to healing and understanding these ingrained patterns doesn't have to be walked alone.
In this episode, we delve deep into how early family dynamics and childhood experiences shape our emotional and physical well-being as adults. You'll learn how unaddressed attachment issues can trigger stress responses and lead to health problems, the importance of setting boundaries, and the power of emotional attunement in fostering healthier relationships. Additionally, through real-life stories and professional insights, you'll discover strategies to overcome these deep-rooted challenges, nurture personal growth, and ultimately, build more resilient and fulfilling relationships.
Jen and Karden are seasoned mind-body practitioners who have experienced chronic pain and fatigue. Jen is an expert in the field of treating psychophysiological disorders and Karden specializes in somatic trauma therapies. Together, they co-founded the esteemed healing collective SOMIA where they have helped thousands of individuals regulate their nervous systems and heal.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode6:54 Exploring the impact of relational dynamics on healing and nervous system regulation.
18:54 Navigating attachment styles and emotional triggers in collaborative healing.
34:43 Embracing accountability: How self-awareness and validation promote relational healing.
43:02 The importance of setting healthy boundaries within oneself as a means of emotional regulation, particularly in the context of parenting.
49:53 How awareness with others impacts relationships and friendships.
52:49 How subtle childhood experiences can shape adult triggers and unmet needs in relationships.
58:15 The Secret Language of the Body.
MentionedThe Secret Language of the Body: Regulate Your Nervous System, Heal Your Body, Free Your Mind ****(*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love
Connect with Jennifer Mann and Karden RabinWebsites: somiainternational.com
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We've all been there—feeling misunderstood, hurt, or betrayed by those closest to us, which can lead to bottled-up resentment or explosive outbursts. But what if anger wasn't just a destructive force, but a powerful signal pointing us toward deeper healing and understanding? Let's dive into how embracing and channeling our anger can transform our relationships and emotional well-being.
In this episode, we explore how viewing emotional experiences as a spectrum can unlock the door to more genuine vulnerability and meaningful connections. Techniques from the attachment EFT framework will guide you in expressing your deepest feelings in constructive ways. We'll also delve into understanding anger as both a primary and secondary emotion, uncovering its roots in betrayal and rejection, and offering practical exercises to help you process and validate your emotions. By the end, you'll have tangible tools and insights to nurture healthier, more empathetic relationships, while fostering continuous personal growth.
Bronwyn Schweigerdt is a licensed psychotherapist, podcaster, and anger expert. She has a master's in counseling and another master's in nutrition.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode07:14 Understanding the spectrum of emotional experiences and their impact on relationships.
10:31 Understanding anger: Primary vs. secondary emotions.
12:49 The importance of recognizing and constructively expressing anger before it builds up to an outburst.
16:08 How to discern safe individuals from unsafe ones based on their response to feedback or emotional vulnerability.
21:48 How past betrayals and childhood experiences influence adult emotional responses.
30:42 Exploring the connections between anger, betrayal, and healing in adult relationships.
42:41 Distinguishing personal triggers from external behaviors.
45:04 Strategies for supporting a partner who is expressing anger but may not be using it as an opportunity for self-awareness or growth.
48:45 Exploring self-discovery: Insights from the podcast Angry at the Right Things.
MentionedShifting Criticism For Connected Communication
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Ever feel like there’s a gap between your potential and your reality? Perhaps you sense there’s more to your interactions than simply going through the motions, more depth to be uncovered in your personal and professional relationships. Imagine what could be possible if you harnessed the power of resilience and brilliance—attributes that allow you to not just survive but to truly thrive in every interaction. What if you could tap into your innate creativity, intelligence, and confidence while navigating challenges with grit and perseverance? The potential for growth and transformation in your life could be limitless.
In this episode, we explore how honing relational skills can radically improve your business, life, and relationships. Discover how a blend of perseverance, creativity, and confidence can unlock new levels of personal success and organizational progress. We'll dive into the science behind emotional alignment and the critical role it plays in leadership and effectiveness. Hear compelling personal stories about mending strained relationships through emotional support and consistency. Learn practical strategies for building stronger connections and fostering environments where everyone can shine. Tune in for insights that can help you unleash your true potential and transform your interactions with others.
Simon T. Bailey is a leading expert on the topic of Brilliance. His groundbreaking research, State of Working America Report – Thriving in Resilience and Brilliance, solidifies his insights in his 11th book, Resilience@Work. Bailey left an indelible mark on 2,400-plus organizations in 54 countries and has made a remarkable impact on 120,000 professionals who’ve experienced his courses in LinkedIn Learning. He was also recognized in Success magazine’s Top 25 and leadersHum Top 200 Power List.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode07:43 What defines resilience for working Americans?
10:43 How congruence and alignment enhance leadership influence and effectiveness.
15:10 How do unresolved issues affect future relationships?
18:41 How does conscious awareness serve others?
20:48 Nurturing relationships through mindful connection.
25:48 The importance of sharing personal stories in the healing process
29:50 Learning to manage mental health through meditation, exercise, diet, and sleep (MEDS); using apps for meditation and journaling.
33:29 How prayer can shift attention from personal desires to serving others.
MentionedResilience @ work: How to Coach Yourself Into a Thriving Future (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Shift Your Brilliance: Harness the Power of You, Inc. (Brilliant Living) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Resilience is a Superpower (website) (book)
Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication
Connect with Simon T. BaileyWebsites: brilliantu.co | simontbailey.com
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Navigating emotional turbulence in relationships often feels like weathering a storm without an umbrella. When emotions swell and reach a boiling point, they can cloud our judgment, leading to misunderstandings and disconnection with loved ones. But what if anger and emotional flooding could serve as gateways to deeper understanding and genuine connection rather than barriers?
In this episode, we delve into the roots and triggers of emotional flooding, offering essential tools and insights to help you manage overwhelming emotions. By exploring concepts like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Internal Family Systems (IFS), we aim to help you identify the vulnerabilities beneath anger and develop healthy ways to process your emotions. Practical strategies for emotional regulation, curiosity, and effective communication are shared to foster healthier relational dynamics and navigate the complexities of intimacy and personal triggers.
Whether you're dealing with stressors from past experiences or facing present-day challenges in your relationships, this episode provides valuable guidance on building a more resilient and emotionally attuned partnership.
Gayane Aramyan, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Los Angeles, specializes in perinatal therapy, guiding women and couples through pregnancy, postpartum, and parenthood. She has additional training in Anger Management, EFT for Couples, Grief Processing, ACT, and IFS. Featured in Women's Health, CNBC, Forbes, The Los Angeles Times, and HuffPost, she empowers clients through life transitions and the challenges of parenthood.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode06:59 How Gayene Aramayan began her journey to helping couples understand each other’s evolving selves.
09:05 What is emotional flooding and how does it manifest in relationships?
14:51 How suppressing emotions in childhood lead to struggles with managing feelings in adulthood?
20:59 Strategies to help recognize emotional triggers and core feelings beyond anger.
25:31 How can couples handle strong emotions constructively?
30:51 How is our inner child impacting marriage?
38:57 Identifying and dissecting couples' emotional interaction cycles.
44:04 How does writing transform your thought process?
47:06 Awareness and preparation for perinatal depression and anxiety.
48:29 The importance of identifying your emotional hotspots?
MentionedWhat is Internal Family Systems? (*IFS Institute website) (link)
What is EFT? (*ICEEFT website) (link)
ERP 423: How to Transcend Trauma (And the Effects Experience in Relationship) — An Interview with Dr. Frank Anderson
Identify The Cycle (free pdf document)
Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication
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Criticism, defensiveness, and emotional withdrawal can become major roadblocks, making the journey toward a fulfilling relationship seem almost unattainable. How do couples navigate these natural challenges and cultivate a deeper, more enduring connection?
In this episode, listeners will discover practical tools and mindful practices intended to transform criticism into connected communication. By exploring specific appreciation techniques, scheduled sharing practices, and innovative exercises like "caring and sharing" sessions, couples can nurture a safer emotional environment. With insights into balancing playfulness with constructive dialogue and creating conflict-free zones, this episode aims to equip partners with the skills needed to cultivate lasting intimacy and emotional security in their relationships.
Warren Farrell, PhD, has coached couples and psychologists worldwide in couples’ communication for the past 30 years. His popular course is "Role Mate to Soul Mate: The Art and Discipline of Love."
Dr. Farrell has been chosen by the Financial Times of London as one of the world’s top 100 thought leaders. His books are published in 19 languages, and include The New York Times bestseller Why Men Are the Way They Are, international bestseller The Myth of Male Power, and 2018's The Boy Crisis. His previous book on couples’ communication, Women Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say, was a selection of the Book of the Month Club.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode06:20 From gender awareness to relationship transformation: A journey of advocacy and education.
10:50 Overcoming defensive listening with caring practices.
17:45 The importance of creating a safe environment for couples to handle criticism by regulating their nervous systems.
22:41 Cultivating deep connections through specific appreciation and conflict management.
32:48 How partners can effectively respond to critical comments while prioritizing thoughtful communication.
39:23 Enhancing relationship dynamics through awareness and accountability.
45:58 The importance of play and teasing in strengthening couple dynamics.
MentionedRole Mate to Soul Mate: The Seven Secrets to Lifelong Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say: Destroying Myths, Creating Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Why Men Are the Way They Are: The Male-Female Dynamic (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
The Myth of Male Power (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Why Men Earn More (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication
Connect with Dr. Warren FarellWebsites: warrenfarrell.com
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Infidelity—it's a word that can send shockwaves through even the most stable relationships. In our tech-driven world, the boundaries and expectations surrounding loyalty and commitment seem more convoluted than ever. Without clear communication and defined agreements, even the most well-meaning partners can find themselves entangled in misunderstandings and unanticipated crises.
In this episode, we dive deep into the complexity of infidelity within contemporary relationships. We explore the importance of having candid conversations about monogamy and other expectations with your partner, guided by insights from experienced relationship experts. By examining real-life scenarios and discussing therapeutic concepts such as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we aim to equip you with practical tools for handling betrayal. Additionally, we delve into the nuanced process of forgiveness, self-compassion, and the potential for growth and transformation that can arise from relationship challenges.
Dr. Bruce Chalmer is a psychologist in Vermont who has been working with couples for over thirty years. Through his teaching, consulting, and books, his ideas have helped thousands of couples and their therapists. Together with his wife Judy Alexander, Dr. Chalmer hosts the podcast “Couples Therapy in Seven Words.” His most recent book is "Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again.”
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode06:41 Dr. Bruce Chalmer’s profound exploration of forgiveness and betrayal in relationships.
10:31 How infidelity's evolving definitions complicate relationship expectations.
13:52 What forgiveness truly means: Accepting reality without condoning actions.
23:29 Three steps to forgiveness.
34:01 Struggles with emotional connection due to trauma.
40:53 How attachment system impacts security and emotional responses.
47:15 Communication issues often indicate deeper underlying conflicts.
49:16 Why only one partner can be upset simultaneously.
55:16 Why assigning good or bad is often misleading.
MentionedBetrayal and Forgiveness (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
My Stroke of Insight (*TED Talks link) (video)
Crucible Institute by Dr. David Schnarch (website)
Intimacy & Desire by Dr. David Schnarch (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Resurrecting Sex by Dr. David Schnarch (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Passionate Marriage by Dr. David Schnarch (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
ERP 110: How to Manage Two Majorly Conflicting Needs in Relationship
ERP 015: Do You Have a “Unity” or “Journey” Mindset in Relationship?
ERP 423: How to Transcend Trauma (And the Effects Experience in Relationship) — An Interview with Dr. Frank Anderson
The Gottman Institute (website)
Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication
Connect with Dr. Bruce ChalmerWebsites: brucechalmer.com | couplestherapyinsevenwords.com
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Anxiety can seep into our lives like an uninvited guest, disrupting our relationships, altering our moods, and even impacting our physical health. The struggle to recognize and address the roots of this pervasive issue often leaves us feeling overwhelmed and helpless. What if we could reframe our understanding of anxiety, seeing it not as a problem to be suppressed, but as a messenger of deeper, underlying issues? Could this shift in perspective transform not only our personal well-being but also our interpersonal connections?
In this episode, we dive deep into the nuances of anxiety, exploring its complex relationship with our bodies, minds, and interactions with others. We discuss practical strategies for setting personal limits to prevent burnout, share insights from groundbreaking research on anxiety and trauma, and introduce step-by-step algorithms that empower you to uncover and heal root causes. You'll discover how integrating biological and psychological knowledge can lead to a more holistic approach to mental health, paving the way for healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Tune in to learn how you can turn your symptoms into powerful access points for healing and personal growth.
Nicole Cain, ND, MA, is a pioneer in integrative approaches for mental and emotional wellness. With a degree in clinical psychology, training in EMDR, and being licensed as a naturopathic physician in the state of Arizona, her approach to mental health is multidisciplinary: medical, psychological, and holistic.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode08:03 Can anxiety be healed or just managed?
12:34 How medications like SSRIs and Benzodiazepines can impact relationships.
21:45 How trauma triggers persistent protective responses.
25:06 High-functioning individuals often mask internal struggles.
32:17 How understanding anxiety as data can transform healing and relationships.
36:48 How emotional adaptations from trauma protect us but can also cause issues. 40:08 Identifying root causes rather than just treating symptoms.
46:20 Expert guidance for calming the nervous system and optimizing health recovery.
55:49 Reflecting growth in relationships: Navigating subjective feedback and personal reactions.
MentionedPanic Proof: The New Holistic Solution to End Your Anxiety Forever (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love
ERP 423: How to Transcend Trauma (And the Effects Experience in Relationship) — An Interview with Dr. Frank Anderson
Connect with Dr. Nicole CainWebsites: drnicolecain.com
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Have you ever felt that your sensitivities in a relationship are misunderstood or undervalued? Are you struggling with maintaining sexual desire in a long-term relationship, particularly amidst the chaos and demands of daily life?
Often, highly sensitive individuals find it challenging to balance their emotional and physical needs, leading to a decline in intimacy and connection over time. Understanding and addressing these unique sensitivities are essential for nurturing a fulfilling and passionate relationship.
In this episode, we delve into the intricacies of how highly sensitive people interact with intimacy and sexuality. We explore various models of sexual desire, emphasize the importance of context and emotional connection, and offer practical solutions for managing overstimulation. With insights on daily practices, de-armoring needs, and creating intentional connection time, this episode provides a holistic approach to reviving sexual desire and intimacy in long-term relationships, ultimately fostering deeper emotional bonds and mutual understanding.
Irene Fehr is a Sex & Intimacy Coach and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner who helps couples make love & sex work in a long-term relationship and bring sex and passion into sexless ones. Weaving together somatic coaching, mindfulness, emotional communication work, and experience with the dynamics of highly sensitive women's sexual desire in a long-term relationship, Irene has developed and successfully applied her holistic "Connection Sex" framework to turn her client’s relationships around toward more passion, connection, and love.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode7:24 Irene Fehr’s personal journey and insights on highly sensitive people.
09:25 Understanding overstimulation and emotional disconnect in relationships.
13:19 Exploring the differences in sexual desire: Spontaneous vs. Responsive models and the role of high sensitivity.
23:21 How high sensitivity impacts male sexual desire and performance in relationships.
28:31 The importance of creating space for highly sensitive individuals in relationships, especially in sexual dynamics.
38:49 The importance of emotional and physical de-armoring for intimacy in Long-term relationships.
45:21 Balancing sexual desire in relationships: Overcoming expectations and building daily connection.
MentionedCome As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
The Highly Sensitive Person Test
ERP 211: How to Get Rid of Shame to Increase Pleasure in the Bedroom – An Interview with Ian Ferguson
ERP 257: A New Paradigm for Understanding True Sexual Connection and Intimacy – An Interview with Diana Richardson
ERP 287: How to Engage in the Art of Giving and Receiving: Using the Wheel of Consent – An Interview with Dr. Betty Martin
ERP 314: How to Work Through the Complexities of Sexual Desire in Relationship — An Interview Martha Kauppi
Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication
Connect with Irene FehrWebsites: irenefehr.com
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Are you feeling the strain in your long-term relationships, whether it’s with a partner or a friend? As time passes, staying engaged and committed can become a challenge, especially amid the demands of daily life, aging, or the shadow of global disruptions like the COVID-19 pandemic. Maintaining vibrant, nurturing connections can sometimes feel like an uphill battle, leaving many wondering how to inject new life and meaning into these cherished bonds. As we grow older, the importance of these relationships only intensifies, impacting our health, happiness, and overall lifespan. So, how do we keep the flame alive and foster relational longevity amid life's inevitable changes?
In this episode, we explore innovative and meaningful practices designed to rekindle and sustain the depth of our relationships. From the ritual of vow renewal to annual relationship debriefs you'll discover inspiring ways to continually recommit to your loved ones. Insights from experts discuss the social and health benefits of these rituals, and how they can fortify not just marriages, but friendships and broader social networks. Whether you're looking to enhance your romantic life or invigorate your friendships, this conversation offers practical tools and evidence-based strategies to help you create an enduring and life-affirming connection. Dive in to learn how celebrating milestones, maintaining personal interests, and fostering intentional social ties can significantly elevate the quality of your relationships and your life.
Maddy Dychtwald is an internationally acclaimed author, public speaker, and thought leader on longevity, aging, the new retirement, and the ascent of women. She co-founded Age Wave, the world's leader in understanding and addressing the far-reaching impacts of our aging population, and has led numerous acclaimed studies on women and money. Her recently published book, “Ageless Aging: A Woman’s Guide to Increasing Healthspan, Brainspan, and Lifespan” was a USA Today bestseller and a Publishers Weekly bestseller.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode6:05 Maddy Dychtwald’s four decades of passion in aging, longevity, and retirement.
10:08 The power of mindset and social connections for a healthier, longer life.
26:55 How couples keep their relationship vibrant through regular communication and annual vow renewals.
38:51 Navigating aging in relationships: Balancing different attitudes towards health and longevity.
MentionedAgeless Aging: A Woman’s Guide to Increasing Healthspan, Brainspan, and Lifespan (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
ERP 110: How to Manage Two Majorly Conflicting Needs in Relationship
Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love
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Is your relationship running on autopilot, devoid of the meaningful conversations that foster growth and intimacy? Relationships often suffer when we avoid crucial conversations that could foster deeper connections and understanding. The problem is not the lack of desire but rather the missing know-how to navigate these uncharted waters effectively. Imagine a world where curiosity, vulnerability, and intentionality are the cornerstones of your relationship, transforming mundane interactions into meaningful, intimate moments.
In this episode, we dive deep into the often-overlooked conversations that can create positive change in relationships. Learn about practical exercises designed to enhance intimacy, tools to build curiosity and engagement, and the importance of creating rituals within daily routines. From mindfulness exercises to reframing thoughts and leveraging curiosity, this discussion illuminates the pathway to a more connected and fulfilling relationship. The goal is to provide you with actionable insights and strategies that can immediately impact how you relate to your partner, helping to turn those awkward silences into moments of genuine connection.
Zach Brittle is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Certified Gottman Therapist, and Certified Relational Life Therapist. He is also the author of The Relationship Alphabet and the Marriage Therapy Journal.
Laura Heck is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Gottman Therapist, and Sex Therapist in private practice working exclusively with couples to manage conflict and deepen intimacy and pleasure.
Zach and Laura are the co-hosts of the podcast Marriage Therapy Radio where they bring wit and wisdom while tackling the most common complaints every relationship experiences.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode6:15 How this dynamic duo brings humor and expertise to relationship advice.
12:04 How actively engaging in the process leads to real relationship growth.
21:02 How curiosity can transform relationships and deepen connection.
26:47 Exercises for cultivating vulnerability and emotional intimacy in relationships.
32:38 Building lasting connection through rituals and intentional practices in relationships.
45:37 Aligning values with intentional practices for a more fulfilling relationship.
MentionedReconnect: A Marriage Counseling Workbook (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Atomic Habits (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Smart Couples Finish Rich (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
ERP 420: The Importance of “Turning Towards” in Relationship — An Interview with Laura Heck
ERP 396: How to Recognize Unhelpful & Misguided Relationship Advice — An Interview with Zach Brittle
ERP 216: What to Know about Loneliness and Relationship
ERP 110: How To Manage Two Majorly Conflicting Needs In Relationship
Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication
Connect with Zach Brittle & Laura HeckWebsites: marriagetherapyradio.com
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Have you ever wondered why certain patterns seem to repeat in your relationships, leaving you feeling unfulfilled or misunderstood? Many of us carry the hidden scars of unmet childhood needs into our adult partnerships, often without realizing it. These unresolved emotional wounds can create barriers to giving and receiving love, often manifesting as conflicts and struggles in intimacy. Understanding and healing these deep-seated issues is crucial for building healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
In this episode, we delve into the profound impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior and relationships. We'll explore how understanding and internalizing these early life influences can help recognize and address the missing emotional elements from one's upbringing. The discussion sheds light on the importance of processing past traumas, engaging in healing conversations, and employing therapeutic techniques like role-playing and letter-writing to reconcile unresolved feelings. By emphasizing the intertwined nature of individual and relational growth, this episode offers practical strategies to help listeners navigate the complexities of maintaining a strong sense of self while fostering fulfilling, intimate relationships.
Talia Bombola, The Confidence & Assertiveness Specialist™, is a Certified Psychodynamic, Licensed Psychotherapist, and Relationship Mentor for Women. Her work centers around helping anxious women feel secure by increasing self-worth, confidence, and assertiveness & rewiring beliefs about themselves, men, and relationships. She helps you heal the "not enoughness" that is blocking you from living a life overflowing with satisfaction and self-worth.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode7:06 Talia’s journey from personal development to professional practice.
11:20 The dangers of tying self-worth to external achievements and goals.
14:45 Understanding the importance of developmental stages in shaping a person's sense of identity and self-worth.
18:56 The role of psychodynamic therapy and reparenting in healing childhood wounds.
29:03 Exploring the benefits of reconnecting with parents to address unresolved childhood experiences.
41:38 The importance of maintaining one's individuality and sense of self within relationships, particularly when faced with disapproval or differing opinions from loved ones.
46:57 Balancing closeness and autonomy: Navigating conflict and personal growth in relationships.
MentionedRewire Your Relationships (online program)
Triangular Theory of Love
True self and false self (*Wikipedia link) (article)
Eriksons Stages of Psychosocial Development (*National Library of Medicine link) (book)
Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love
Connect with Talia BombolaWebsites: taliabombola.com
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Does the way society has dictated gender roles affect the dynamics in your relationship? Many of us are conditioned from a young age to adhere to certain gender roles, often seeking validation and traits from our partners that we feel we lack within ourselves. This deep-rooted socialization can result in an unhealthy dynamic, impacting the harmony and health of our relationships. How can we reclaim and integrate these vital energies within ourselves to create stronger, more authentic connections?
In this episode, we explore how traditional gender conditioning influences our expectations and behaviors in relationships. Through a deeply insightful discussion, this episode offers practical strategies for recognizing and integrating both masculine and feminine energies in everyday life. Reflecting on personal experiences, societal dynamics, and spiritual perspectives, this episode provides tools to foster emotional maturity, authenticity, and harmony in your relationships. Join us to understand the importance of inner balance and discover how to step into a more empowered version of yourself.
Dené Logan, AMFT, is a marriage and family therapist, spiritual teacher, and author of Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within. She is cohost of the weekly podcast Cheaper Than Therapy, which gives listeners a behind-the-scenes look at coaching sessions with actual clients, interviews with thought leaders in the field of mental health and wellness, and a bird’s-eye view into two therapists hashing out their current life struggles and perspectives on various hot topics. She lives in Los Angeles.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode6:35 Deńe Logan’s journey: From being a spiritual seeker and yoga teacher to becoming a therapist who specializes in couples work.
13:05 Redefining relational success and embracing the spiritual journey in relationships.
23:26 Balancing masculine and feminine energies in modern society.
46:51 Healing relationships through inner child connection and energy awareness.
MentionedSovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles" (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication
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Relationships are complex and often fraught with misunderstandings, conflicts, and a sense of disconnection. The journey to nurturing deep, meaningful connections can feel overwhelming, especially when traditional advice falls short. How can we cultivate intimacy and trust in our relationships? What if the answer lies not just in psychology but also in the intriguing world of quantum physics? Imagine approaching your relationships with the same awe, curiosity, and flexibility physicists use to understand the universe.
In this episode, we dive into the fascinating interplay between quantum physics and relational skills, offering fresh perspectives that challenge conventional thinking. The discussion explores the delicate art of deep listening, the transformative power of acceptance, and the importance of vulnerability. Learn about the stages of cultivating intimacy and the skills needed at each phase. We also touch on the importance of humility, adaptability, and approaching conflicts with a soft startup rather than with a harsh startup. By integrating these principles, you'll discover new ways to strengthen your connections and pave the path to more fulfilling and resilient relationships.
Dr. McMillan is a clinical community psychologist who has 40+ years of experience providing people with tools and insights they can use in their personal relationships, communities, and society at large to heal divisions and find ways to work together. He developed and authored the Sense of Community Theory, the most influential research on the psychological sense of community. Dr. McMillan is also the author of several highly-rated books, including Create Your Own Love Story.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode6:41 Defining the social glue: Understanding sense of community theory.
9:22 The four elements of a sense of community and their parallel in relationships.
16:35 How principles from quantum physics can inform relationship dynamics.
26:47 How observation influences reality in relationships.
35:52 The transformative power of emotions: From fear and anger to healing and growth.
MentionedCreate Your Own Love Story: The Art of Lasting Relationships (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love
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Navigating the complex terrain of romantic relationships can often feel like walking through a maze with no clear exit in sight. Fear, disguised as stress or anger, can become an invisible barrier that hampers our ability to foster intimate connections and develop relational skills. But what if we understood our deepest fears, attachment styles, and the ways we can reclaim our emotional maturity and personal empowerment within our relationships? Imagine transforming stress and conflict into opportunities for deeper connection and understanding.
In this episode, we delve deeply into the complexities of attachment styles and their impact on relationships. Discover how different attachment styles manifest fear and the importance of recognizing these patterns in both yourself and your partner. We discuss practical strategies for managing negative thoughts, the role of nonverbal communication, and the power of physical touch in creating a secure bond. Furthermore, understand how emotional regulation, personal empowerment, and vulnerability can transform relationship dynamics.
Charisse Cooke, an attachment-based psychotherapist and author, brings over twenty years of experience in relationship dynamics. With 7000+ clinical hours, including roles in three clinical facilities and private practice in London, she specializes in understanding relationship patterns. Rooted in adult attachment theory, her compassionate approach aims to transform relational dynamics. Through online courses and social media, Charisse educates on fostering secure, authentic connections, empowering individuals to mend relationships, and building emotional resilience.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode6:00 From fascination to practice: Charisse Cooke’s journey in understanding relationships.
8:55 The power of embracing acceptance and curiosity in relationships rather than immediately viewing unexpected situations as problems.
11:55 Balancing active participation and surrender in relationships.
16:08 Navigating fear and control in committed relationships.
22:03 Strategies for avoidant attachments and building secure bonds.
35:48 Cultivating emotional resilience: Balancing immediate and long-term regulation strategies.
Mentioned10 New Behaviours That Will Transform Your Relationship in Under 10 Weeks (course link)
ERP 410: What Are the Signs of Emotional Immaturity in Relationship?
Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication
Connect with Charisse CookeWebsites: charissecooke.com
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Do you find it difficult to negotiate differing perspectives without sacrificing your own identity or creating deeper rifts? How do we balance our own needs with those of our partner? How do we stay connected even when conflict arises? Relationships can be a delicate balancing act, where the yearning for closeness and the need for autonomy often collide, leaving couples in a state of disconnection and frustration.
In this episode, we delve into this very dilemma, exploring the concept of becoming "relationship visionaries," emphasizing the importance of prioritizing the relationship's higher intention over individual desires. Through compelling stories, visual models, and actionable advice, you'll learn how to take turns, communicate effectively, and make decisions that foster intimacy and connection. By embodying these principles, you can navigate conflicts with greater understanding and kindness, ensuring a resilient and deeply satisfying partnership.
Join us as we uncover the essence of successful relationships and offer tools to elevate your love life to new heights.
Jessica Myers-Adams is a licensed clinical social worker and certified relationship coach and is an author and speaker whose words resonate with authenticity. Her widely acclaimed book, "What To Do When You Do Give a F*ck," has been hailed for its unabashed counsel on breathing life back into waning relationships. Through her coaching initiative, Couples Speak, Jessica has facilitated countless couples in healing fractured ties and revamping the love connection.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode8:29 The common struggle of balancing the desire for intimacy with the need for personal boundaries.
12:17 Mastering effective listening and embracing relationship vision.
24:21 Steps to negotiation, validation, and intimacy in relationships.
37:10 Cultivating curiosity and flexibility in relationship decision-making.
44:33 Explore resources and programs to enhance your relationship skills.
MentionedWhat to Do When You Do Give a F*CK (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication
Connect with Jessica Myers-AdamsWebsites: couplesspeak.com
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Do you find yourself repeatedly falling into patterns of insecurity, sabotaging your relationships and sense of self-worth? Many of us are haunted by memories from the past that influence our current thoughts, emotions, and sensations—creating a cycle of negativity that feels impossible to break. But there is a way out. Through compassionate self-awareness and targeted self-compassion, you can learn to transform these self-defeating cycles into empowering pathways for growth.
In this episode, we delve into practical strategies to help you transform your relationship with yourself and others. We'll explore the powerful STEAM model—sensations, thoughts, emotions, actions, and mentalizing—as a guide to building self-awareness and self-compassion. By reflecting on past patterns and practicing compassionate self-awareness, you'll learn how to separate recurring thoughts and feelings, fostering growth and self-acceptance.
Additionally, we'll uncover insights into attachment styles and how they shape your perceptions and interactions, providing you with the tools to improve your sense of worthiness and lovability. Tune in to discover methods for cultivating emotional resilience, empathy, and connection, paving the way for healthier relationships and a more grounded sense of self.
Dr. Leslie Becker-Phelps is dedicated to helping people understand themselves and what they need to do to become emotionally and psychologically healthy. She is in private practice, hosts a YouTube channel, and is a prolific writer. She has authored The Insecure in Love Workbook, Insecure in Love, and Bouncing Back from Rejection. She also writes the Authentically You blog and the Making Change blog on Psychology Today.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode6:29 Leslie’s passion for helping people and how her career has evolved.
9:37 Understanding attachment theory and its impact on well-being.
13:54 How early experiences influence adult relationships and attachment styles.
22:00 The importance of understanding one's attachment styles and the concept of self-awareness in fostering healthier relationships.
30:55 Differentiating between thoughts and emotions to gain greater self-awareness and break the cycle of insecurity.
34:24 Using steam to break the cycle of insecurity and self-sabotage.
46:49 A comprehensive resource for relationship growth.
MentionedThe Insecure in Love Workbook (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Insecure in Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Bouncing Back from Rejection (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Insecure in Love [large print edition] (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
The Insecure in Love Workbook (*New Harbinger Publications Affiliate link) (book)
ERP 423: How to Transcend Trauma (And the Effects Experience in Relationship) — An Interview with Dr. Frank Anderson
ERP 261: How to Strengthen Your Relationship from a Polyvagal Perspective – An Interview with Dr. Stephen Porges
Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love
Connect with Dr. Leslie Becker-PhelpsWebsites: drbecker-phelps.com
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Are you feeling stuck or unfulfilled in your life or relationship? Do you find yourself trapped in a cycle of boredom and longing for something more? It's a common struggle that many of us face, but the good news is that change and growth are possible. The key lies in embracing the unknown, staying curious, and seeking new experiences to reignite the spark both within yourself and with your partner.
In this episode, we delve into the transformative power of curiosity and exploration, especially during life's unexpected challenges. From taking up new hobbies like tennis and dance to reframing our perspective on life's curveballs, our conversation offers practical insights to help you shift your state of being and rediscover a sense of joy and fulfillment. By reassessing happiness and goals, adopting a growth mindset, and nurturing intimacy and communication, we explore how to navigate the complexities of life and love, ultimately fostering a deeper connection within and with those around us.
Monica Berg is the author of Rethink Love, Fear is Not an Option, and The Gift of Being Different children’s book, as well as the co-host of the popular Spiritually Hungry podcast. She’s been called “The Marie Kondo of the Soul,” showing us how tidying up our inner mess can help us find the joy we’ve been seeking.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode00:04 Exploring the topic of boredom in relationships, especially in long-term ones where routines and habits often develop.
02:51 Overcoming boredom in relationships: Embracing creativity and growth.
09:14 The need for curiosity and engagement in exploring new interests to overcome feelings of boredom and routine.
24:10 Transforming fear and rigidity into opportunity and joy.
27:26 The importance of acknowledging and processing negative emotions rather than bypassing them.
MentionedThe Gift of Being Different (On Being) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Fear Is Not An Option (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Rethink Love: 3 Steps to Being the One, Attracting the One, and Becoming One (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Maybe You Should Talk To Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence (*Amazon affiliate link) (book)
ERP 305: The Surprising & Powerful Benefits of Learning to Tolerate Discomfort — An Interview with Dr. Anna Lembke
Connect with Monica BergWebsites: rethinklife.today | spirituallyhungrypodcast.com
Facebook: facebook.com/monicaberg74 | facebook.com/SpirituallyHungryPodcast
YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCe3q8OFWS2o9zy_PZsBDUtw
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Deception in relationships is a common issue that can strain trust and intimacy, leaving partners feeling confused and disconnected. Whether it's through subtle nonverbal cues or drastic changes in communication style, lies—both big and small—can significantly impact the fabric of any relationship. Identifying lies and understanding their underlying causes are crucial steps to fostering a more honest and open partnership. How do you address this deeply ingrained issue? It all starts with awareness and communication.
In this episode, we delve into the nuances of recognizing deception, from interpreting nonverbal cues such as tone of voice and fidgeting to understanding the reasons behind why people lie. We'll explore strategies for responding to dishonesty in a non-accusatory way and the importance of self-reflection and open dialogue. By examining case studies, behavioral tips, and psychological insights, listeners will better navigate the complexities of honesty in relationships, paving the way for deeper intimacy and trust.
Andrea Beach is a highly acclaimed life and business coach and a leading authority on human behavior. She combines the best techniques from NLP and relational psychology with her “self-made success” strategies as a business leader and entrepreneur to deliver incredible results for both companies and individuals alike. Beach has created dozens of successful programs for relationship transformation.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode6:58 Andrea’s journey: From serial entrepreneurship to balanced life harmony.
12:05 Unveiling the complexity of lies: From business tactics to intimate relationships.
19:34 Navigating expectations and honesty in relationships.
35:01 Recognizing deception: Signs and strategies for authentic communication.
42:56 Strategies for constructive communication.
MentionedERP 433: The Power Of Radical Honest On Connection — An Interview with Dr. Brad Blanton
Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love
Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication
Connect with Andrea BeachWebsites: andreabeach.me
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Establishing genuine human connections poses a significant challenge in the face of societal expectations and personal inhibitions. The pressure to conform and maintain a carefully constructed image often prevents individuals from expressing their true thoughts and emotions. Consequently, this fear of judgement or rejection fosters relational interactions that lack depth and authenticity. As a result, many find their connections to be superficial, leaving a pervasive sense of disconnection and isolation.
In this episode, you'll discover how radical honesty can transform such patterns and lead to deeper, more intimate connections. By examining the intersection of honesty, forgiveness, and vulnerability, this episode offers practical insights and exercises designed to foster genuine contact and warmth in your interactions. Learn about the power of reporting your immediate experience versus relying on preconceived notions, ultimately guiding you toward a more fulfilled and open way of relating.
Brad Blanton, psychotherapist, author, and founder of Radical Honesty Enterprises, is known for his unwavering honesty and engaging Southern charm. His bestselling book, "Radical Honesty: How To Transform Your Life By Telling The Truth," has been translated into sixteen languages. Blanton's work explores personal and social transformation, evident in titles like "Practicing Radical Honesty" and "Honest to God." He retired in 2020 after writing extensively, with his final book, "Lying or Living," set for publication in 2024 by Sparrowhawk Publishing.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode6:22 The philosophy of radical honesty.
8:49 The distinction between genuine perception and ideation.
14:40 Embracing uncertainty and its role in deepening personal connections.
16:55 The power of radical honesty in personal growth and forgiveness.
25:02 The importance of honesty and vulnerability in personal and relational growth.
37:32 Expressing true feelings and thoughts without censoring or editing.
45:36 The balance therapists and clients must achieve between allowing and making things happen.
MentionedRadical Honesty: How to Transform Your Life by Telling the Truth (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Practicing Radical Honesty (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
The Truthtellers (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Honest to God: A Change of Heart That Can Change the World (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
The Power of Radical Honesty - Dr. Anna Lembke (*YouTube link) (video)
Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence (*Amazon affiliate link) (book)
ERP 305: The Surprising & Powerful Benefits of Learning to Tolerate Discomfort — An Interview with Dr. Anna Lembke
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