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Have you been ghosted? Ghosting is one of the most painful and confusing ways to be left behind, but do ghosters actually feel anything?
In this episode, Carly Ann dive into a fascinating study by Freedman et al (2022) to uncover what’s really going on in the minds of ghosters. Do they feel guilty? Do they regret it? Or do they just move on without a second thought? Spoiler: It’s not as simple as you might think.
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Do you ever feel crazy? like your thoughts are spinning out of control over someone? That intense, obsessive longing where every little thing they do feels like a sign?
You might be experiencing limerence. It’s more than just a crush - it’s an all-consuming obsession that can feel like an addiction to this person. It feels crazy - but I assure you you're not
In this episode Carly Ann give 3 major signs of limerence, how it differs from real love, and how people are healing. If you've ever felt stuck in a cycle of longing and obsession, this one’s for you
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If you’re going through a breakup right now, you already know how painful it is. But have you ever wondered why some breakups feel so much worse than others? Why, for some people, the pain feels overwhelming, like it's impossible to move on?
Well, research suggests there’s a reason for that. And in today’s episode, we’re breaking down exactly what makes a breakup feel so unbearable for some people, and what you can do to start feeling better.
Stick with me, because by the end of this episode, you’ll have a whole new perspective on your breakup and the tools to move forward.
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In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, we’re joined once again by breakup coach Holly from Break Ups and Love to dive even deeper into the challenges of heartbreak and healing. If you missed her first episode on May 26, 2024, scroll back to listen - it’s packed with insights on navigating breakups.
This time, we’re covering some really helpful and interesting topics to support your healing:
The urge to get your ex back Feeling like you can’t cope The non-negotiables for healing Managing overwhelming emotions Tarot for breakups Dealing with triggers and remindersOther useful links:
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Healing your attachment wounds and childhood trauma starts with reconnecting with a very important part of you - your inner child. In this powerful episode, we dive into why inner child work is the key to true healing.
Our brilliant guest expert shares three essential keys for practicing inner child work in a way that creates real change and healing. Whether you sare recovering from attachment wounds and/or trauma, this conversation will help you nurture the parts of you that need love, safety, and connection.
Stay tuned! Carly Ann shares an exclusive clip from a recent mini-workshop inside the Attachment Recovery Gym, giving you practical tools to start your journey today.
Get ready to reconnect with your inner child!
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Do you have an anxious or disorganised attachment style? If you've ever felt that gut-wrenching fear that your partner might leave, that sinking feeling when someone else gets too close, or the endless overthinking that keeps you up at night... I'm sure you know exactly how all consuming jealousy can be!
In this episode, Carly Ann is diving deep into the jealousy through the lens of attachment theory, inner child healing, and reparenting. We’re unpacking why it feels so all-consuming, how it ties to your past, and most importantly - how you can start to break free from its grip.
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If you feel like life is against you, like nothing ever goes right and you’re stuck in a cycle of frustration...this 7-minute episode is exactly what you need.
When big/small, daily challenges pile up, it’s easy to slip into a victim mindset, but staying there only keeps you stuck and creates so much pain and negative energy.
This episode will help you shift your perspective, break free from resistance, and start seeing setbacks as stepping stones.
What if life isn’t out to get you? But instead it’s guiding you?
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Struggling to let go? Whether you're anxiously attached to a person, an outcome, or the way you thought life should be by now - this episode is for you.
When you're constantly waiting for reassurance, obsessing over what might happen, or clinging to control, it only fuels more anxiety. Feeling secure and peaceful comes from learning to detach.. as you will hear in this episode... that doesn't mean caring less from caring less in fact it's something else entirely.
In this episode, Carly Ann explore's:
✨ The Law of Detachment
✨ Radical Acceptance
✨ Retraining Your Attention (a practice to break free from obsessive thinking)This isn’t even just about relationships today, it’s about how you show up in every part of life. Let’s talk about how to stop gripping so hard and start trusting that what’s meant for you will find you.
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This podcast is for anyone stuck in a cycle of being attracted to unavailable partners and ready to make a change. If you want to start attracting secure, available types then you need to hear this!
Join Carly Ann for practical steps, mindset shifts, and real-talk on how to start choosing secure, healthy love. No overanalyzing - just how you can change your type for good.
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Do you have an anxious attachment style? Are you doing the work to heal attachment wounds but keep repeating patterns?
In this episode, Carly Ann dives into key psychological techniques that can help break free from the anxious attachment drama cycle and create real, lasting change.
If you’ve ever felt stuck in overthinking, emotional highs and lows, or unhealthy relationship patterns, this episode is for you. Carly Ann shares how these tools can help you regain control, build secure attachment, and experience love in a way that feels safe.
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Is your inner critic running your mood? Be honest, has it been running the show for too long? Usually the inner critic is loud, especially if you have an anxious attachment style.
In this episode, Carly Ann explores how this harsh inner voice keeps you stuck, settling for less than you deserve, and holding back from true happiness.
She shares a simple but powerful two-step process to start shifting the way you speak to yourself this week, so you can begin reparenting yourself and building a healthier, more loving relationship with you.
It really is the time to break free from self-criticism and discover your most compassionate self. You’ve always deserved this and it is important if your serious about becoming secure.
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Do you have an anxious or disorganised attachment style?
So, you know that moment when your stomach drops because they took too long to text back? Or when you convince yourself they’re losing interest, even if nothing has actually happened? And then, before you know it, you’re overthinking, checking their socials, or panicking about being left?
That’s the anxious attachment drama cycle...and it’s exhausting.
In this episode, Carly Ann walks you through 7 key steps of this attachment cycleso you can see exactly where you recognise yourself and where real change can happen. Because if you want to heal anxious attachment and become securely attached, you have to recognise this pattern first.
It’s not about blaming yourself (ever) it’s about finally understanding your attachment triggers, breaking free from relationship anxiety, and learning how to feel safe in love.
🎧 Listen now & take another step towards secure attachment
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In this episode, I’m joined by Frankie Olivia (@Frankiestherapy), a trauma-responsive creative psychotherapist and EMDR psychotherapist, to discuss living with and healing anxious attachment.
We explore:
✨ Understanding needs & unmet needs
✨ Separation anxiety and why it feels so intense
✨ The first thing to do when you notice you’re triggered
✨ Techniques to regulate your nervous system
✨ How progress and healing can feel slow
✨ Navigating guilt in the healing processDiscussed in this episode:
- 54321 Technique
- Podcast epsiode on Polyvagal Theory is dated 20th March 2022
If you’re on a journey to becoming more secure, this episode is packed with insights and tools to support you
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If you always lose yourself in love, put everyone else first, and feel like your happiness depends on someone else...this one is definitely for you today.
Carly Ann gives you a key principle from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) that will help you stop abandoning yourself in relationships, dating, and even situationships with unavailable partners.
This goes beyond just love...because when you keep sacrificing yourself to make others stay, it affects your confidence, mental health, and ability to feel secure in your own skin. It’s time to break free from the cycle of overthinking, people-pleasing, and making someone else your entire world.
No matter your relationship status, this is about you. Your self-worth doesn’t come from how much someone loves you or whether they choose you, it comes from within. Carly Ann is here to help you reconnect with who you really are, so you can build relationships without losing yourself. You deserve to feel whole, confident, and free - whether you’re single, dating, or deep in love.DOWNLOAD FREE PDF (13) HERE
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Have an anxious attachment?
If you’re stuck in patterns of overthinking, self-doubt, and craving reassurance in love, relationships & dating... your inner critic might be running the show. That harsh voice keeping you small, making you question your worth, and pushing you into relationships where you give more than you get...it’s exhausting and you've probably had enough!
In this episode, Carly Ann is bringing you a favourite idea that helped her on her own journey to becoming secure. Hopefully this will also help you recognise how your inner critic is holding you back and, more importantly, how to take a simple step towards self-compassion and secure attachment. She’ll walk you through the three stages of self-love so you can start to break free from toxic patterns and finally believe you are enough.
If you’re tired of being mean to yourself and ready to change the way you see yourself, this episode is for you. Tune in now
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Do you feel trapped in endless “what if” thoughts, especially in relationships? For anxious attachers, uncertainty can feel unbearable, fueling overthinking and constant worry.In this episode, Carly Ann will explore why uncertainty triggers anxiety and share practical tips to help you break the cycle. Learn how to sit with the unknown, challenge anxious thoughts, and regain control in relationships. If you’re ready to stop overthinking and start feeling more secure, this episode is for you.
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Going no contact? Are you feeling torn, uncertain, or even panicky about breaking no contact? As an anxious attacher, it’s easy to feel consumed by the urge to reach out, even when part of you isn’t sure it’s the right thing to do. In this episode, I’m sharing three powerful questions that will help you connect with what you’re really feeling and give you the clarity and guidance you need in this challenging moment. Whether you’re stuck in overthinking or overwhelmed by emotions, this episode is here to support you.
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Anxious attachment can keep you stuck in obssessing, overthinking and self-doubt.
In this episode Carly Ann shares how to shift your perspective on your thoughts so you can approach relationships with confidence, calm, and reduced reactivity.
Discover how to zoom out and step back from overwhelming thoughts to create space to respond - helping you build stronger, more secure connections.Other useful links:
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In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, I’m sharing a sneak peek from the Attachment Recovery Gym with guest expert Holly, also known as Breakups and Love. Holly, an accredited EFT International practitioner combining EFT tapping & journaling to help with stress and life's challenges.
You’ll hear why these tools are so powerful and how they can support your healing journey. Plus, I share an inspiring moment about savouring positivity to transform attachment patterns...and you’ll be encouraged to focus on your word of the year or month!
Don't forget to join the Attachment Recovery Gym for access to workshops like this and more tools to move toward secure attachment!
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Do you have an anxious attachment style? Do you feel panicked when it seems like someone you care about is pulling away? Maybe you start overthinking their messages, checking your phone non-stop, or reacting in ways you wish you hadn’t. You’re not alone, and there’s a way through it.In this episode, Carly Ann dives into the 3 things anxious attachers often do that actually make things worse—and how you can calm yourself instead. She breaks down why these habits feel so hard to stop and shares simple steps to soothe your emotions in the moment.
Whether you’re dating, in a relationship, or just working on yourself, this episode will help you feel more secure and in control when anxiety strikes.
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