Afleveringen
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What do you do when things arenât working and it feels like thereâs nothing left to be done?
Whether your teen is isolating themselves in their room, refusing to go to school, self-harming, refusing to eat, refusing therapy, or any other negative pattern you find yourself in with your struggling teen, we sometimes reach the point where it feels like thereâs nothing else we can do.
You canât control your teen. You canât make them go to school or make them stop using substances. And that can feel incredibly discouraging. I remember it did to me⊠But it can also be the best news ever.
There is a way to get out of these patterns youâre finding yourself in with your struggling teen. It may seem like an impasse but thereâs hope. Thereâs so much hope.
Because even though you canât control your teen, you can always control yourself.
Letâs dive in!
In this episode on getting out of an impasse with your struggling teen, we discuss:
Seeing your part and how youâre responsible for your own actions and feelings;The difference between fault and responsibility;The role of your thoughts, feelings, and actions;Understanding which value(s) you want to act from;Recognizing and disrupting the unhealthy patterns youâre in with your struggling teen;And more!Need support?
đșïžNeed help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan!
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Should you support your teen in college if heâs still using? Or let your daughter go to prom when sheâs still breaking curfew?
You want to support your teen in healthy behaviors but how do you go about that when theyâre still showing maladaptive behaviors? You donât want to take away activities that have a positive, healthy impact on your teen but at the same time donât want to ârewardâ them while theyâre still breaking your home agreement, right?
In this episode, Seth and I discuss how you can reinforce a boundary that is a natural consequence of the maladaptive behavior instead of taking away something thatâs actually beneficial to your struggling teen. Letâs dive in!
In this episode on supporting your struggling teen in healthy endeavors while they still have maladaptive behaviors, we discuss:
How can you support your teen in healthy endeavors when theyâre still showing maladaptive behavior like using substances, skipping school, or breaking curfew?;Reinforcing a boundary that is a natural consequence regarding the unhealthy behavior;Following through on our boundaries without emotionally consequencing;And more!Need support?
đșïžNeed help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan!
đ€Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens.
Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much!
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Zijn er afleveringen die ontbreken?
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Going back to old patterns is part of the process.
In a perfect world, weâd change our behavior and never make the same mistake again. And so would our struggling teens. But perfection doesnât exist, and thereâs no such thing as a magic switch that makes everything work out perfectly all of a sudden.
I know how hard it is to experience a setback yourself or see your teen go through it. But one thing that Seth and I would like you to walk away with today, is that a setback doesnât mean failure.
Whether weâre talking about setbacks in communication, substance abuse, coping skills, healthy behavior, or holding healthy boundaries, when we get sidetracked, we often feel like we have to start from scratch again. We think we have completely failed and beat ourselves up. Sometimes it even leads us to give up entirely.
But youâre not starting over. You still have all the experience and work youâve done before. And you have the opportunity to learn, to reorient yourself back to the path you want to be on in order to move forward.
Letâs dive into todayâs episode on how to keep going after a setback, and learn more about:
How setbacks are part of the process;How a setback doesnât mean youâre starting from scratch;The feeling of discouragement and just wanting to give up sometimes;Supporting your teen in getting back on track after a setback;Honouring the process of change;Keeping your boundaries steady while supporting someone in experiencing a setback;And more!Need support?
đșïžNeed help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan!
đ€Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens.
Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much!
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Are you allowing your child to learn through failure?
Thereâs a thin line between offering safety and comfort. Just like safety, offering comfort to your kid is a way of protection. Itâs a way to protect your child so they donât have to experience the hardships and difficulties that you had to go through yourself. But is it really in your childâs best interest to keep them from experiencing unsuccessful events?
âBy preventing it, youâre also enabling itâ - Seth Gottlieb
Our children donât learn from an unsuccessful event if we rescue them.
Our teens donât learn from the lesson if you pick up the pieces for them.
But whereâs the line? Letâs discuss it with Seth in todayâs episode!
In this episode on safety vs. comfort, we discuss:
Whatâs the difference between offering safety and comfort?;Is something ever really a failure or is it an unsuccessful event that can lead to success through learning?;How providing comfort can be enabling;Examples of safety versus comfort in daily life;And more!Need support?
đșïžNeed help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan!
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Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much!
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When does your help start to hinder your teenâs growth?
As parents, we want to help our kids as much as possible and protect them from discomfort. It seems like our generation has taken this belief to an extreme though. Did you know that the age at which parents allow their kids to go out and explore the world by themselves autonomously (for example by letting them go to the grocery store by themselves to pick up a few items) has almost doubled in just one generation!?
But the world has changed, right? And arenât things sometimes just too difficult to handle for them? Weâre all doing it from a place of love!
What if I told you that our teens need to experience discomfort in order to grow into independent young adults? The more we keep our teens in their comfort zone, the less resilience theyâre building. And on top of that, weâre providing them with less opportunity to learn and grow.
âLearning doesnât come from achieving success or getting what you want all the time.â - Seth Gottlieb
So how can we support our kids to get ready for independence? Letâs dive into this interesting topic together with Seth today. Have a listen!
In this episode on getting our kids ready for independence, we discuss:
Whereâs the line between helping our kids and hindering their growth into independence?;Independence has changed drastically in just one generation;How independence teaches our kids what it is to be trusted and communicate healthily;How technology takes away the opportunity for our kids to feel autonomous;Holding on to perceptions of your teen of the past instead of who they are today;How can we get our kids ready for independence?;And more!Need support?
đșïžNeed help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan!
đ€Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens.
Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much!
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And remember parents, the change begins with us.
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Listening is the key that unlocks understanding and it allows us to be more helpful to our teens (and others!). So how can we become better listeners? Not only to our struggling teens, our children, but to everyone around us?
âThe more I let go of what I think my adult children should or shouldnât do, the more they have taken accountability for their actions in their lifeâ - Beth Hillman
I see it all the time (and believe me, Iâve been there too!): parents who are trying to convince their teen not to do something, and by doing so they trigger them to get defensive. This is the last thing we want, isnât it? Instead, Iâm inviting you to try listening. It might be surprising to you, but the best and most permanent way to change a mind is getting the person to talk in a non-defensive way about their beliefs.
So letâs work together on the simple, yet often difficult skill of listening without judgment, opinion, solving, or criticizing. Letâs develop a relationship with our teens where they know weâre here to listen to them. Are you ready? Letâs dive in!
How to listen without judgment, opinions, solving or criticizing; What I believe to be THE way to shift our thinking;What it takes to change a mind; Why âI feelâ statements donât always work;Developing the relationship of âIâm here to listen to you, kidâ;The role of asking questions in active listening;And more!
In this episode on the fine art of listening for parents of struggling teens, we discuss:
Need support?đșïžNeed help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan!
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Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much!
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And remember parents, the change begins with us.
Article: Tell Me More: The Fine Art of Listening by Brenda UelandBook: How Minds Change: The Surprising Science of Belief, Opinion, and Persuasion by David Mcrany Book: I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships by Michael S. Sorensen
Resources mentioned in this episode:Want to learn more about the skill of listening? Listen back to episode #47 The Power of Listening to Our Kidsâ Feedback With Less Harris!
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How can you help your teen become more independent?
This one simple question will help you boost your parenting skills for daily decision-making.
Parenting is an interesting thing⊠One day our child is completely dependent on us and weâre in charge of everything. Then they grow up and itâs hard to know what weâre still in charge of and what not. How can we best support them to become independent young adults?
I can tell you one thing: We step in way more than we need to.
âWe need to help them turn on their own inner engine, to motivate self-governing,
and to influence independenceâ - Beth Hillman
Todayâs simple question will help you do a day-to-day check-in with yourself to support independence in your teen and boost your daily teen parenting skills.
Alright parent, letâs dive in.
In this episode on supporting independence in your teen, we discuss:
How to best support your teen to turn on their own inner engine, motivate self-governing, and influence independence?;Is your teen actually asking for your help or not?;Is you trying to help them, actually helpful for your teen?;Is âdealing with consequencesâ a value you hold in your family?;My personal story of how my sonâs showed me they wanted to learn to deal with consequences;And more!Need support?
đșïžNeed help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan!
đ€Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens.
Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much!
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How can you help your struggling teen take more accountability?
What can you do to help your teen understand choice, consequence, and accountability? Those are the questions Seth and I will be exploring in todayâs episode.
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Our brain likes going into defense mode. Itâs what it does automatically. With conscious work, we can catch ourselves there (and teach our struggling teens to do the same) and learn to recognize that we almost always have a choice in the matter. Even when we feel like we donât.
âIt takes a lot of practice to realize what is a choice and what isnât a choiceâ - Seth Gottlieb
Pushing your teen to take accountability isnât beneficial for you as a parent or your teen. Instead of trying to force accountability, weâll discuss ways to grow the conscious awareness of choice and action, leading to an understanding of accountability.
In this episode, we discuss:
We all sometimes justify our own behaviors by telling ourselves we didnât have a choice, even if we did;Probing questions to understand (and help your teen understand) their thought process regarding their choice;Helping your teen understand the relationship between choice, action, consequence, and accountability;The role of black-and-white thinking when it comes to choices, and consequences.Validating feelings;Taking accountability for facts versus story;How to bring the conversation and accountability back to facts when youâre used to being lied to by your teen;And more!Need support?
đșïžNeed help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan!
đ€Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens.Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much!
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And remember parents, the change begins with us.
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How can you prepare for your teen to come home after treatment?
Last weekâs guest mom of a teen struggling with his mental health, suicidal ideation, and self-harm is back and we dive deeper into the journey after treatment, and the lessons she learned (and is learning) in order to come to her own way of being so she can be the best parent she can be.
âLetting him figure his life out has been imperativeâ - Todayâs guest mom
What challenges did her sonâs return home after treatment bring with it? And what was the most important work this mom had to do for herself in order to make his return work? We also dive deeper into the trauma of being away from home for so long, and the impact of the whole situation on the siblings.
âItâs been really helpful to know that if heâs flopping around, doing things I donât approve of, not following my plans, thatâs okay. Itâs okay. Itâs his lifeâ - Todayâs guest mom
Iâm immensely grateful for this mom to share her story. Itâs truly inspiring to me, and I hope it will be the same for you. Letâs dive in!
In this episode on a momâs lived experience of her sonâs return home after treatment & doing her own work, we discuss:
The challenges that come with this momâs son being back home after having been away in treatment for 1 year and 9 months;How can you manage your own emotions so that youâre not projecting them out onto your relationship with your teen?;What things did this mom specifically work on that helped prepare her home for her son to come home?The trauma of separation after being in treatment and away from home;Her sonâs plans for the future;The impact this situation has had on the siblings;Keeping the family unit together when one member is away;What advice would this mom give her old self from 2 years ago?What was it like when her son came home? Whatâs something she wishes she had done but also something sheâs glad she did?And more!Need support?
đșïžNeed help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan!
đ€Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens.Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much!
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âWe were mentally panicked. We didnât want our kid to die and we didnât know what to do.â
Today's episode will hit close to home for many of you. We're diving into the raw and real journey of a mother facing her son's struggles with mental health, including suicidal ideation and self-harm.
She reflects on her son growing up as an emotionally needy child, things getting rougher when he became a teenager, and eventually escalating after an event that happened at school during his sophomore year. It was like her son fell apart overnight. He started cutting himself, carving words in his skin, and threatening to kill himself.
âWe had nothing ⊠in our repertoire of parenting tools about what to do when your kid is having feelings like that. And we really panicked.â - Guest
What followed was a rocky road of homeschooling, therapy, mental hospitals, wilderness, and a residential treatment center (RTC).
âThereâs no way to sugarcoat how hard it is. Itâs unbearable but you have to walk through itâ - Guest
If you've ever felt lost or overwhelmed as a parent, if you're struggling to support a child with mental health challenges, or if you simply want to hear a story of resilience and hope, then this episode is for you.
Tune in and listen to this mom's incredible journey of how she lived through her sonâs mental health crisis, suicidal ideation, self-harm, and program journey. You won't regret it.
In this episode, we discuss:
A momâs lived experience with her teen who struggled with mental health, self-harm, and suicidal ideation;The rabbit hole of thinking back to the past, the âwhat ifâsâ and blaming yourself for decisions youâve made in your parenting;How this mom used to respond to her sonâs behavior; The choices this mom made in times of crisis;Her sonâs resistance when he was sent to wilderness;The hardest thing this mom had to do in her life;This momâs lived experience of bringing her son home after wilderness to see if he had done enough work to keep the work going at home;This momâs realization that the language she was using was invalidating her sonâs feelings;What does it mean to do your own work as a parent?;And more!Need support?
đșïžNeed help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan!
đ€Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens.Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much!
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And remember parents, the change begins with us.
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80. What to Do When Your Teen Is Stuck in Unhealthy Behavior?
Have you ever found yourself in that heart-wrenching place where you're watching your child or young adult spiral into unhealthy behaviors? Seth and I know that pain all too well, both from our professional experiences and personal journeys.
Today, we delve deep into the complexities of this tough subject. We donât just offer practical advice, but also share our own struggles:
Listen to Seth recounting his own experiences when he was stuck in unhealthy behavior and witness the raw emotions involved. And Bethâs story of how she worked through a situation as a parent in which she had to figure out whether her support had turned into enabling.Navigating unhealthy patterns is tough terrain. It requires patience, empathy, and sometimes the courage to set healthy boundaries. While there's no one-size-fits-all solution, there is hope in the journey of self-discovery and growth.
In this episode on what to do when your teen is stuck in unhealthy behavior, we discuss:
The challenging issue of dealing with unhealthy behaviors in teenagers and young adults;The importance of validation for parents experiencing these challenges;Sethâs personal journey of resistance to change despite recognizing the need for it, highlighting the complexities involved in seeking help and making changes;What did Seth experience as helpful from his loved ones when he was stuck in unhealthy behavior?How can you recognize when support turns into enabling?;The role of changing environments in addressing unhealthy behaviors;The importance of addressing underlying issues rather than simply changing environments or behaviors;Beth shares a personal example of making decisions from an emotional state versus a rational, objective mindset;The importance of processing emotions and thoughts before making decisions;The two feelings Beth looks for as a green flag to know sheâs ready to make a big decision;Looking for the rainbow of options in between black-and-white thinking.The importance of open communication, setting boundaries, and considering what individuals are comfortable with regarding support and enabling behaviors;Communicating with your teen from a non-emotional, objective state;Approaching the situation with love and curiosity rather than judgment or control.Other episodes mentioned:
#71 How to Live with a Teen Whoâs Using#75 Fear-Based Parenting (on supporting vs. enabling)
Need support?đșïžNeed help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan!
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Ever noticed your brain filling with worst-case scenarios when you have limited information on whatâs happening? Weâve all been there. Itâs what our brains do. But why? And how can we make sure weâre not parenting out of fear?
In this episode, Seth and I explore the concept of fear-based parenting and the tendency to jump to negative conclusions when faced with unknown situations. Both in times of crisis and in everyday parenting, we often have access to limited information, left to fill in the blanks by ourselves. If we want to ditch the negative thought patterns and stop parenting out of fear, we need to learn how to separate stories from facts. Letâs discuss how in todayâs episode!
In this episode on how our brain responds to uncertainty, we discuss:
How our brains respond to uncertainty;The impact of fear on decision-making;Differentiating between facts and stories;Recognizing negative thought patterns;How to proactively gather information when faced with uncertainty;The importance of self-awareness in combatting fear-based parenting;And more!Other episodes on fear-based parenting:
#75 Fear-Based Parenting
Need support?
đșïžNeed help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan!
đ€Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens.Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much!
And if you havenât already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you donât miss any of my future episodes!
And remember parents, the change begins with us.
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Collaborating with your child on technology habits, can you imagine?
Or your child making the decision to put down their game console and go for a run instead, not because âmomâs been nagging about itâ but because itâs what they want themselves?
In this second part of my interview with Emily, weâre diving deeper into how you can collaborate with your teen about their own technology habits.
[Havenât listened to part 1 of this interview yet? Have a listen to episode #77 first!]
Listen as Emily shares the âStory of my lifeâ approach she used with the kids inside Family Tech University. Through thoughtful reflection and guided questions, this approach helps teens and kids explore their dreams, aspirations, and the impact of their technology habits on their future selves.
In this episode on collaborating with your teen on their technology habits, we discuss:
Helping our kids make conscious choices about their technology habits by helping them reflect on the life they want for themselves;How to empower your teen to make wise decisions about technology use;Gradually introducing our kids to technology;Modeling healthy technology habits to our teens and kids;And more!đ€Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program.
đșïžCreate your own Parent Home Plan with the help of my free guide.
Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much!
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And remember parents, the change begins with us.
About todayâs guest:
Emily Madsen Jones is co-founder with husband Dave of Family Tech University; an organization with a paradigm-shifting perspective on powerful tech parenting. She is a writer, author, speaker, and teacher... but her best wisdom on the technology parenting was gleaned from motherhood, via 5 non-perfect, fiercely adored children.
You can connect with Emily on Instagram or Facebook.I'd love to hear from you! Click here to easily send me a quick message and make my day!
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Are you feeling overwhelmed by the constant battle to manage your children's screen time? Maybe you worry that itâs too late?
Todayâs guest, Emily Jones, is the brain behind Family Tech University and shares her insights with us today on how to approach this modern parenting dilemma.
She emphasized that while it's crucial for parents to set effective boundaries around technology use and provide guidance, it's equally essential to empower our kids to develop their own internal filter when it comes to technology. We want to raise independent young adults, also when it comes to screen time
In this episode on navigating screen time challenges, we discuss:
How to start putting boundaries even when you feel itâs too late;The importance of fostering an internal filter in our children;The difference between demonizing technology and putting healthy boundaries;Modeling healthy behavior around technology and screen usage;And more!đ€Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program.
đșïžCreate your own Parent Home Plan with the help of my free guide.
Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much!
And if you havenât already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you donât miss any of my future episodes!
And remember parents, the change begins with us.
About todayâs guest:Emily Madsen Jones is co-founder with husband Dave of Family Tech University; an organization with a paradigm-shifting perspective on powerful tech parenting. She is a writer, author, speaker, and teacher... but her best wisdom on the technology parenting was gleaned from motherhood, via 5 non-perfect, fiercely adored children.
You can connect with Emily on Instagram or Facebook.
I'd love to hear from you! Click here to easily send me a quick message and make my day!
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How can you shift your parenting focus from your children's behaviors to understanding the emotions and needs driving those behaviors?
We know how easy it can be to fall into the trap of focusing solely on your childâs behavior. Itâs what you see, whatâs on the forefront, and itâs so easy to notice: whether they wake up in time, their grades, etc.
Combine this with the fear and uncertainty that being a parent can bring sometimes and itâs easy to feel overwhelmed. So in those moments, letâs try to tap into the power of understanding and connection.
Letâs be clear: behaviors matter. But they're just the tip of the iceberg. When you learn how to dig deeper, you uncover the real feelings and struggles your child might be facing. It's about creating a safe space for expression and connection, where your kid feels seen, heard, and valued.
When you parent from a place of empathy and understanding, you can truly transform your relationship with your teen and foster a deeper connection with them.
Listen to the entire episode for practical tips and honest discussions on nurturing empathy and connection in your parenting journey.
In this episode on shifting your parenting focus from behavior to connection, we discuss:
Why parents tend to primarily focus on behaviors;What is your child trying to express through their behavior?;Creating a safe space for expression;Building a connection and relationship with your child;Tapping into your inner child to understand your kid better;And more!If youâd like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if youâre interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here.
And remember parents, the change begins with us.
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Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much!
And if you havenât already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you donât miss any of my future episodes!I'd love to hear from you! Click here to easily send me a quick message and make my day!
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How can I not rescue, and not enable, and at the same time not leave my kid completely in the dark when theyâre struggling?
This is the question weâre going to dive into in todayâs episode.
As a parent, itâs SO hard to see your kid struggling and not knowing how to help. Iâve been there, and I know itâs beyond a nightmare.
Youâre fearful of doing the wrong thing. Fearful of doing nothing. Youâre trying your absolute best but itâs hard to understand the tipping point between what is kind and helpful and what is actually enabling and rescuing.
When we start parenting based on our fears, we fall into reactive parenting, instead of being thoughtful.
Letâs have a look at what this looks like and some actionable examples of situations weâve found ourselves in and how we handled (or wish weâd handled) them in todayâs episode.
In this episode on fear-based parenting, we discuss:
Two common ways fear-based parenting can manifest: overprotecting & authoritative; Youâre not your childâs friend and shouldnât behave like one;Power struggles in your family;Owning your own fear and anxiety;Examples from our own experiences;And more.If youâd like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if youâre interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here.
And remember parents, the change begins with us.
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Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much!
And if you havenât already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you donât miss any of my future episodes!I'd love to hear from you! Click here to easily send me a quick message and make my day!
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How can you support your teen with their college applications without writing every single essay for them?
If you have a graduating senior in the house, this question has probably crossed your mind.
Are they actually writing their essays?
Are they putting in enough effort?
How much should you bug them about it?
Todayâs guest, Maggie Kang, MD, found that the more she bugged her son about it, the more counterproductive it became. It can lead to more fights between you and your kid, damaging your relationship and they still wonât put more work into it.
Often itâs just us parents putting our own fears and anxieties on our kids. Yes, college essay anxiety is a real thing among parents.
So what then? Should you just let them figure it out by themselves? Yes, and no.
I absolutely love the solution Maggie Kang came up with. By reframing the questions she asked her son, she was able to spark conversations with him that inspired ideas for college essays without it forming a wedge in their relationship.
Have a listen to todayâs episode to learn more about this mindblowing yet simple technique!
Feeling college essay anxiety as a parent;How much should you get involved in your kidâs college application?;How to spark conversations that inspire ideas for college essays;How not to trigger our teen when asking about their progress;And more!
In this episode on how to support your graduating senior with their college applications, we discuss:If youâd like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if youâre interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here.
And remember parents, the change begins with us.
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More about Maggie Kang, MD
Dr. Maggie Kang is a board-certified radiologist trained at Yale, mom of two kids. She was the radiologist who was the first to see her nine-year-old daughterâs horrifying brain MRI in the ER. Her daughter was diagnosed with a rare disease, neuromyelitis optical.
The ordeal motivated Maggie to shift her focus from radiology to mental well-being. Now a certified Life Coach, Maggie dedicates her time to supporting parents of kids in the rare and chronic disease communities. She also works with physician moms of kids with chronic needs one-on-one in her private coaching practice, MaggieKangMD LLC.
Maggie told her story on the TEDx stage, sharing her powerful message that you can choose to accept pain or create suffering.
Learn more about Maggie Kang on her website or connect with her on Instagram or Facebook.
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Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much!
And if you havenât already done so, make sure toI'd love to hear from you! Click here to easily send me a quick message and make my day!
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Are you choosing to suffer?
Pain is part of life â we canât avoid it. Todayâs guest, Maggie Kang, experienced this first-hand when her 9-year-old daughter got diagnosed with a rare disease. The pain this brought was inevitable. But thereâs a difference between pain and suffering. Suffering happens when we resist the pain.
By resisting to accept what was going on and that this was their new reality, and feeling the need to blame someone (mostly herself), Maggie caused herself to suffer. Until she started to realize things needed to change.
When painful events happen, itâs important to take the time to work through them. Itâs dark, and it isnât pretty. But it doesn't last nearly as long as you think.
Have a listen to Maggieâs inspiring story and invaluable advice in todayâs episode!
In this episode on accepting pain or choosing to suffer, we discuss:
The importance of community;Feeling alone when your kid gets a diagnosis;The judgment around our childrenâs diagnoses;The story of Maggieâs childâs diagnosis;The difference between suffering and pain;Where does suffering come from?;And more!If youâd like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if youâre interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here.
And remember parents, the change begins with us.
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More about Maggie Kang, MD
Dr. Maggie Kang is a board-certified radiologist trained at Yale, mom of two kids. She was the radiologist who was the first to see her nine-year-old daughterâs horrifying brain MRI in the ER. Her daughter was diagnosed with a rare disease, neuromyelitis optica.
The ordeal motivated Maggie to shift her focus from radiology to mental well-being. Now a certified Life Coach, Maggie dedicates her time to supporting parents of kids in the rare and chronic disease communities. She also works with physician moms of kids with chronic needs one-on-one in her private coaching practice, MaggieKangMD LLC.
Maggie told her story on the TEDx stage, sharing her powerful message that you can choose to accept pain or create suffering.
Learn more about Maggie Kang on her website or connect with her on Instagram or Facebook.
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Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much!
And if you havenât already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you donât miss any of my future episodes!
I'd love to hear from you! Click here to easily send me a quick message and make my day!
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How do you respond when your kid is feeling sad? Will you try to fix things for them? Help them out? It might feel like the right thing to do but youâre sending out a different message than you likely intended.
Seeing your kid struggle with their emotions is hard for many reasons. You want to make them feel better. Sometimes, you might even be running out of empathy because you feel like they âshould be over it by nowâ. And it gets especially hard when the behavior looks similar to pre-wilderness behavior, like staying in their room and isolating themselves.
In this episode, weâre going to dive deep into the topic of giving ourselves and others the time to feel hard feelings, and how we can model to our kids that feeling those big feelings is completely fine and normal.
In this episode on how to feel and let your kids feel, we discuss:
How we often put a time limit on grief or other hard feelings;How parents tend to try to control the narrative when they get fearful;How do you know if your teen is processing their feelings or not?;The importance of context;Why we try to control people;And much more.If youâd like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if youâre interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here.
And remember parents, the change begins with us.
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Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much!
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How do you live with your teen whoâs using? And how do you know whether your behavior as a parent is supportive or enabling? Thereâs a fine line between the twoâŠ
As if that isnât hard enough to figure out already, additionally, many parents are afraid of losing the relationship they have with their teen by having hard conversations or sticking to their boundaries.
Itâs a difficult subject, and an even more difficult situation to be in, so what better place to talk about it than here on the podcast? Letâs dive in.
In this episode on living with your teen whoâs using, we discuss:
Looking at the patterns you see in your teenâs behavior;Seeing the bigger picture;Understanding what is your part and what isnât;Getting out of black-or-white thinking;Upholding boundaries without judgment;Remaining in your parent role;The key to understanding whatâs enabling or supportive in your family.If youâd like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if youâre interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here.
And remember parents, the change begins with us.
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Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much!
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