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Before testifying in a high-stakes case, a theorist and his coach swap horror stories about their nerves hijacking them and the lessons they learned.
Celebrate Incremental ImprovementWrite Happy EndingsIgnore Your Nerves
Tomâs Top Three Ideas for Mastering Nerves:Here is the clip of Emma Stone battling her anxiety.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VkN0sPQ76E0
Email Tom and tell him heâs crazy here.
For Coaches! 2 Resources!
1. Coaching Stories Podcast
2. Executive Coaching Special Interest Group sponsored by ICF-LA. CCEâs given!Tomâs conversations with Neha Singh on âBridge to Leadershipâ podcast are here and here.
Please help yourself to the free resources in our Essential Tools bin.
This episode lives in the podcast archive in these three categories:Managing Yourself
Nervousness
Self-Talk
Five episodes to help conquer your people pleasing tendencies:
Act âAs Ifâ
Choosing Persistence
Conquering Fear
The Executive Impostor
The Many Parts of You
Grab a free transcript of the episode here.
Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks!
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Angry at himself for continually putting othersâ needs before his own, a leader turns to his coach for tools. He learns a new way to think and a behavior to try.
Be in touch with Tom here.
Listen to Tomâs conversations with Neha on âBridge to Leadershipâ podcast here and here.
Our Essential Tools bin has free resources to help you build your look and sound of leadership.
G.W. Baileyâs imdb page is here.This episode lives in the podcast archive in these three categories:
For Women
Managing Yourself
Self-Talk
Five episodes to help conquer your people pleasing tendencies:188 Boundaries
165 The Conflict Conversation
220 Holding Boundaries
219 How to Set Boundaries
116 Speaking Your Truth
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Zijn er afleveringen die ontbreken?
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A vice president, struggling to control his team of artists, learns a technique for managing bad behavior from his coach. He likes it so much, he uses it with his high performers, too.
The tool described in this episode is simple to understand but may take a bit of courage to implement.
Courage can be taught. Brené Brown created her Dare to Lead course for exactly that purpose. Ready to build your courage? Reach out to us here.
Find more resources to build your skills in the podcast archive. Search these categories:
AssertivenessFeedback
Management Skills
Five episodes you might listen to are:
#47 Discussing Difficult Behaviors
#18 Holding People Accountable
#138 Managing Disruptive Executives
#127 Managing Performance: Up or Out
#65 Sorting & Labeling
A free infographic for Sorting & Labeling is in our Essential Tools bin. Help yourself to that and all the others.
Thinking about developing someone in your organization, or yourself? Reach out to Tom here.
Grab a free transcript of the show here.
Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks!
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A leader is so furious with his self-absorbed boss, he considers quitting the company. He asks his coach to help him manage himself and defuse his triggers.
In addition to the five strategies Tom talks about in this episode, there are lots more strategies in his conversation with Dave Stachowiak on Coaching For Leaders âHow to Deal with a Boss Whoâs a Jerk.â
Tomâs wide-ranging conversation with Josh Dittmer can be found here.
Free tools to support your professional development are in our Essential Tools bin. Please help yourself.
Ready to explore coaching? Reach out to Tom here.Other episodes to help you manage yourself in difficult workplace relationshipsare:
The Disruptive Executive â Part OneThe Disruptive Executive â Part TwoDonât Take It PersonallyHandling Defensive BehaviorsThe High-Maintenance ExecutiveLooking for a transcript of the show? Download it here.
Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.
Thanks to all of you, from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership.Happy, healthy, safe new year!
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Tired of losing to more savvy players, a leader seeks to decode the secrets of playing politics, focusing particularly on company culture.
Download our free Political Style Chart here.
âThe Secret Handshakeâ is a great tool for mastering workplace politics.
Looking for a transcript of the show? Read it here.
More tools are in our podcast library. This episode is in three categories:
For Women
Perception â how you perceive others
Relationship Building
Here are five episodes to help develop your political savvy:
188 - Boundaries
210 - How to grow your self-management
67 - âI hate politicsâ
142 - The Mindful Executive
121 - Your Goodwill Bank Account
Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.
Let us know how we can support you.
Happy, healthy, safe new year. I look forward to being with you all in 2024.
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A leader feels stuck. She sees others winning resources she felt should have been hers, but she hates playing politics. What to do?
Download our free Political Style Chart here.
âThe Secret Handshakeâ is a great tool for mastering workplace politics.
Many more tools are in our podcast library. This episode is in three categories:Self-Talk
Leadership
For Women
Here are five episodes to help develop your political savvy:
187 - Agreeable Disagreement215 - How to Stay Calm Under Fire
192 - Pursuing a Promotion
207 - Tough Conversations
67 - âI Hate Politicsâ
Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.
JAPAN!Email me with your suggestions for what we should not miss in Japan this December! [email protected]
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Be kind to yourself. Things are rough out there! From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be well! And thanks! -
A leader, surrounded by people she knows and trusts, canât seem to get traction with them. In conversation with her coach, she discovers an unexpected cause.
Tools for teams abound in this episode.The four tools Tom suggests as first steps for helping your team openly discuss ideas are:
Say âthank youâ when people offer an idea;Be curious; donât dismiss ideas or people;Donât take differences personally; itâs not about you;Develop your comfort with disagreement.The Gradients of Agreement tool supports the ideas in this episode. Download it for free from our Essential Tools bin along with other communication tools like Sorting & Labeling.
Additional tools for team growth mentioned in this episode are the classic Crucial Conversations and Tomâs conversation on The cATalyzing Podcast.
This episode is in our podcast library in three categories:
Communication Skills
Leading Teams
Management Skills
Specific episodes that will help you develop your team are:
Facilitating Open Dialogue
How Teams Fight
Leadership Behavior in Meetings
Power Tools for Teams: Plus/Delta
Questions as Leadership
Taming Meetings
Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. You can sign up here.
To those of you who post reviews, thank you so much for supporting the show.
Let us know how we can support you.
Until next month, from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be well! And thanks!
#podcast #TeamDecisionMaking #Teamwork #Leadership #ConsensusBuilding #EffectiveTeams #TeamCommunication #TeamLeadership -
A co-founder, at odds with his partner (also his best friend!), reaches out to his coach for help saving the business and the friendship.
The episode introduces The Conflict Resolution Wheel. Download it for free from our Essential Tools bin along with other communication tools like the Feeling Words Grid.
The Wheel is based on a tool in the Couple Communication course, a program to help you understand and connect with your partner better.
The courseâs workbook, Talking and Listening Together, is meant for self-study. Itâs available for purchase online.
Another book Tom references in this episode is the classic Crucial Conversations.
This episode is in our podcast library in three categories:
Communication Skills
Managing Yourself
Relationship Building
Five episodes that will help you continue to develop your conflict resolution skills are:Conflict
The Conflict Conversation
Creating Safety for Hard Talks
A Difficult Conversation
Resolving Conflict
Every month our Essential News email provides links to even more resources. You can sign up here.Thank you thank you thank you to those of you who post reviews. You make such a difference to us. Thanks for supporting the show!
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Until next month, from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be well! And thanks!
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A senior leader, having risen through the ranks, ends her coaching engagement by comparing notes with her coach about the skills that have helped her most.
This episode identified seven essential leadership skills:
Conquer catastrophic thinking;Use fewer words;Value relationships as highly as results;Donât take anything personally;Commitment to Development;Reflection;Speak for Yourself.Resources to develop those last three:
Commitment to Development
The Executive Executive â an episode with a different list of essential skillsFour Factors Executives Need to be Successful â another list of essential skills [email protected] â my email address if you want help thinking about your own developmentThe Ability to Reflect
Mindfulness ResourcesBuilding Self-AwarenessSpeak for Yourself
The Four Agreements â Agreement #1: âBe Impeccable with Your Wordâ
Showing TeethThe Voice of AuthorityAssertion v Aggression
Episodes to build assertion:This monthâs episode lives in our podcast library in these three categories:
Executive Presence
Leadership
Self-Talk
Five episodes to help you with different skills are:Building Empathy
âDonât Take Anything Personallyâ
The Executive Executive
Personal Connections
Short Sounds Confident
Our monthly email has links to more resources. You can sign up here.All our infographics are available to you for free in the Essential Tools bin.
Let us know how we can support you.
Until next month, be well!From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks!
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At the end of her rope, a leader asks her coach for help managing a direct report who, she says, is the most defensive person sheâs ever met.
This episode was packed with tools. Weâve put them into an easy-to-understand infographic. Download it for free here.
Kim Scott, the best-selling author of the electric book Radical Candor, wrote a short, friendly guide with tools for handling defensive employees. Find it here.
Harvard Business Reviewâs Amy Gallo talked with Dave Stachowiak on this episode of the Coaching for Leaders podcast. As with every episode of Daveâs, this is indispensable.
To work on âdeservingâ dive into The Four Agreements.
To dig deeper into tools for taming defensiveness, search our podcast library in these three categories:
Communication SkillsManagement Skills Relationship BuildingFive specific episodes on this topic you could listen to are:
7 Steps to Stop Emotional HijacksBe Impeccable with Your Word Handling Defensive BehaviorsManaging Bad BehaviorManaging Disruptive ExecutivesSign up to get our monthly email with links to resources that support each episode.
Calling all COACHES! Come join our Executive Coaching special interest group (SIG) sponsored by the Los Angeles Chapter of ICF. Check out our SIG and all the others here.
Or shoot me an email with your questions. Iâm at [email protected].
All our free infographics are in the Essential Tools bin.
Your reviews supporting the show help us continue as an ad-free podcast.
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Until next month, be well!
Thanks from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership.
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During her first C-suite years, a leader burned a lot of bridges. Her boss, whoâd traveled a similar path, gets her a coach and sets only one goal: repair relations through emotional intelligence.
Lots and lots of tools and resources this month:Free downloads:
The Feeling Words Grid
EQ Model
Books and papers to sharpen your skills
âExecutive Presence: The Missing Link between Merit and Successâ
âThe EQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and Your Successâ
âThanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Wellâ
âExecutive Presenceâ from Center for Talent Innovation
This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:
Executive Presence
Managing Yourself
Personal Growth & Self-Development
Five episodes to help you command a room:
109 Building Emotional Intelligence
146 Building Empathy
155 The Human Element
69 Leadership & Self-Deception
17 Speaking for Yourself
Please help yourself to any (or all!) of our free infographics in the Essential Tools bin.Our deepest gratitude to those who post reviews. Thank you!!!
Let us know how we can support you.
Until next month, be well!
Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.
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A highly effective leader finds herself in the middle of a terrible mess, not of her own making. When her coach marvels at her ability to stay calm amidst the chaos, she shares a lesson she learned from her dad.
In addition to the tools discussed during this episode, Tom also talks about:
âCrucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High.â
Conversations with Coaches â Episode #184
Executive Coaching Special Interest Group
The Feeling Word Grid
This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:
Managing Yourself
Perception â How You Perceive Yourself
Self-Talk
Five episodes to help you manage during difficult times:
109 - Building Emotional Intelligence
52 - Coaching versus Therapy
152 - Combating Emotional Hijacks
75 - âDonât Take Anything Personallyâ
171 - Taming the Wild Child
All our free infographics are in the Essential Tools bin.
Your reviews supporting the show help us continue as an ad-free podcast.
Let us know how we can support you.
Until next month, be well!
Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.
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Wanting to command rooms with her voice, a team leader turned to her coach for exercises. She learned the secrets of âRVP.â
In this episode, five practices to help you develop a voice that will command a room are discussed:
Vocal varietyExpect resistanceRhythmVolumePitch
This episode has multiple tips and tools for each of those five development areas.The Zootopia clip that gets so much attention is here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HHKwnUa3txo
This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:
Communication Skills
Executive Presence
Presentation Skills
Five episodes to help you command a room:
186 Video Feedback & Executive Presence
120 Captivate Your Audience
77 The Power of Rehearsal
64 I Talk Too Fast!
34 Keeping Repeated Material Fresh
All our free infographics are in the Essential Tools bin.
Thanks for supporting us with your reviews. Let us know how we can support you.
Until next month, be well!
Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.
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In conversation with her coach, an executive explores whether leaders and managers use language differently in order to be effective in their roles.
There are lots of ideas in this episode. To help you sort the tools and put them into practice, weâve created an infographic for you to download. Itâs in the Essential Tools bin along with all the others. Help yourself!
LeadershipManagement SkillsPerception â How Youâre Perceived
This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:Five related episodes you might listen to are:
139Engagement & Performance
138Managing Disruptive Executives
140 Showing Teeth
148Taming Meetings
156The Voice of Authority
Much gratitude to the folks who post reviews. We appreciate your support and all your kind words.
Let us know how we can support your growth and development. Be in touch with us here.
Until next month, be well!Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.
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An executive, in conversation with her coach, wonders if leaders and managers are different. And whether it matters.
This episode has lots of ideas flying around. To help you sort the tools and put them into practice, weâve created an infographic for you to download. Itâs in the Essential Tools bin along with all the others. Help yourself!
LeadershipManagement SkillsRelationship Building
This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:Five related episodes you might listen to are:
139Dynamic One-on-Ones
138How Teams Fight
179 Managing Former Peers
148Taming Meetings
156The Voice of Authority
We are so grateful to those of you post reviews. It only takes you a minute or two, but it makes a world of difference for us.
Our purpose is to support your growth and development. Let us know how we can help. Be in touch with us here.
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A leader, stuck in an unhealthy cycle, searches for a way out. In conversation with his coach, he learns a four-square tool that just might work.
A new free Essential Tool illustrating the four-square model is available for download in the Essential Tools bin. No login required. Help yourself.
The model in this monthâs episode is a variation on The ACT Matrix. Hereâs our favorite YouTube video about The Matrix.
The creators of The ACT Matrix wrote a book to help practitioners use the tool.
This current episode is tagged in the library in three categories:Developing New Behaviors
Managing Yourself
Self-Talk
Here are five episodes to help you get unstuck:
7 Steps to Stop Emotional Hijacks*
Blind Spots
How to Build Self-Awareness*
How to Grow your Self-Management*
How to Show Up
* Indicates thereâs a PDF in the Essential Tools bin to support the ideas in that episode.
We are so excited to dive into the new year with you all!
All the best,
Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.
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A team leader had a habit of jumping to conclusions. His most recent leap landed him in hot water. In conversation with his coach, he learns a tool for making better choices.
We created a new free Essential Tool illustrating The Ladder of Inference. Itâs in the Essential Tools bin along with all the others. Please help yourself.
The âDonât Judge Too Quicklyâ ads are on YouTube here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UP8NRgWtPaE&t=18s
This current episode is tagged in the library in three categories:
Managing Yourself
Perception â How You Perceive Yourself
Personal Growth & Self-Development
In addition to the various episodes listed above, five that will help you think about your thinking are:
102 â Getting Unstuck
210 â How to Grow Your Self-Management
63 â Positive Opposites
154 â Self-Limiting Beliefs
190 â Thinking Errors
Safe and sane holidays, everyone. See you in the New Year!With gratitude,
Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.
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A senior executive worries that his lieutenants are not being taken seriously by the senior leadership team. He discusses with a coach how to help his rising leaders accelerate their growth. This is that conversation.
We created a new free Essential Tool for you called âExecutive Thinking.â It illustrates the âaltitudeâ analogy Tom told during the episode. It also supports one of the four exercises you can do with your team.
Additional Essential Tools that support other exercises are âBefore You Write Your Presentationâ and âSorting & Labeling.â
Liberating Structures is the free resource Tom was raving about. The specific exercise he mentioned was TRIZ.
Tom has talked about Liberating Structures in the episodes âHow to Re-engage a Teamâ and âLeading Offsites.â
If youâre approaching year-end performance reviews, there are tools to support you â no matter which side of the review youâre on! â in Performance Reviews.
Tom referenced two shows that can help you learn Sorting & Labeling.
Coaching For Leaders with Dave Stachowiak: The Way to Make Sense to Others.
The Everyday Innovator with Chad McCallister: How Product Managers Look & Sound like Leaders.
This current episode is tagged in the library in three categories:
Executive Presence
Leadership
Perception â How Youâre Perceived
In addition to the various episodes listed above, five that relate specifically to executive thinking are:
180 Becoming Expert
193 Branding Yourself
202 The Executive Executive
178 Executive Presence â Three Pillars
11 Sounding Executive
As we hurtle in our year-end traditions, stay mindful!Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.
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A leader causing upset among her people is given a coach. In conversation, they examine what might be triggering people to be upset with her. The exploration leads to a simple, yet difficult, idea.
Transcripts of every episode are available for download in our library.
Tom mentioned two episodes with mindfulness tools. They are:
The Mindful Executive
The Focused Executive.
This episode is filed in three categories in the library:
Managing Yourself
Personal Growth & Self-Development
Self-Talk
In addition to the mindfulness episodes, five other related episodes are:
204 Blind Spots
119 Creating Devoted Followers
171 Taming the Wild Child
190 Thinking Errors
96 The Many Parts of You
Listen to Tomâs conversation with Kim OâHara on âYou Should Write a Book About That.â
Listen to Tomâs conversation with Marcel van de Hoef on âThe Happy Investor.â
Gratitude to those who POST REVIEWS. You are life-sustaining! Thank you!
Got a question you think a coach could help with? Weâre happy to talk! Get in touch with us here.
Until next month, stay healthy and be well.
Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.
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A team leader is tired of kerfuffles. In conversation with her coach, she learns to use a simple chart that generates almost miraculous results.
The chart is available to you here. Please, help yourself.
Other tools for leading your team that Tom mentioned in this episode include The Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni.
You can download a sample of the team development tool based on the book that Tom mentioned. The Five Behaviors of a Cohesive Team assessment is available to you here.
If youâre looking to pick Tomâs brain a little more, all his interviews are available to you in Conversations.
His conversation on Keys to the Shop is available here. His conversation on Next Gen Leadership is available here.
This monthâs episode is tagged in the Podcast Library under
Leadership
Leading Teams
Management Skills
Related episodes you might listen to are:
91 Facilitating Open Dialogue
149 How Teams Fight
181 Inviting Dialogue
175 Leading Offsites
148 Taming Meetings
195 The Intentional Leader
As ever, we cannot give enough thanks to those of you who post reviews. Thank you for your support and kind words.
Got a question about your career and how coaching might help? Get in touch with us here.
Until next month, stay healthy and be well.
Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.
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